Sunday, April 29, 2007

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Apr 29


Our final brunch in April examined homemade spanking implements. Here are your thoughts and experiences:

Mike: Yes, we have a few homemade implements. I'm a novice woodworker (bookcases, toy boxes, a bench, etc) and pretty handy around the house. So while working on some projects, my mind naturally wandered to the spanking realm.

My favorite is a small, hairbrush shaped paddle with a longer than normal handle. It’s basically a medium-sized hairbrush that looks as though the handle was stretched. The interesting part is that one side is flat, while the other side is rounded like the back of a spoon. I came up with it after we played with a spoon, and I really liked the results.

I also created a couple of paddles. One is a long ruler paddle made of white oak. It's got some weight, so it delivers a good thump.

PK: Nick actually started making spanking toys very soon after I came out to him. He made a beautiful paddle, complete with varnish. It's pretty big and a little scary, but I love it because he made it. He also braided some leather shoe laces and attached then to a dowel rod for a version of a flogger. It’s very stingy, but quiet. He also made a larger one with some strips of leather he had. He made me a crop early on. He used the frame of a metal flyswatter wrapped in leather and a leather flap at the end. He hasn't made anything lately, but I hope he will. Homemade spanking toys are truly the gift that keeps on giving!

Anon VII: I made us a broadsword that rivals Bonnie's MOAP. It's over half an inch thick, more than 24" long, and made of oak. It is over 4" wide at its business end and tapers to a little over 2" just above the grip, which I reinforced with metal straps to keep it from breaking. In the edge of the business end, I drilled two holes each about 2" deep and dropped long fishing weights into each hole, then capped the holes with dowel plugs epoxied into place.

The distribution of the paddle's mass (towards the outer end) produces tremendous momentum. The fishing weights float loosely in their holes. The forward swing drives them toward the back (non-swatting) surface of the paddle, but then on impact the weights snap forward, working with the momentum generated by the massive business end to give a tremendous wallop from only modest effort. The speed of the blow, with the width of the blade, produces a huge explosion on impact.

We use this one only occasionally for tension relief, and only through her jeans, Capri pants, or shorts. A mere one swat produces a vicious burn. Only two or three swats can draw tears, leave her tension thoroughly relieved, and leave her sporting two bright red cheeks with white impact points in their centres. Three swats, even when administered with a measure of restraint, have on occasion glued her panties to the skin. This one is no toy!

Anon #1: I've made a number of paddles. My favorite one was heart shaped. It had my wife's name engraved and would leave letters mark in the skin. I have also made a number with drilled holes that really hurt. I am always trying different woods and made a heavy one out of IPE from the Amazon that gets your attention.

Southern Angel: JD and I own so many toys, but none are home-made. But now I am motivated to make a toy. :) I'm not a woodworker so we will have to see what I think up.

Tigger: Yes, we do! My hubby made a heart-shaped paddle out of wood for me, and I love it! And yes, it's very effective!

Xandra: I didn't want to spend $150 for a suede flogger I saw online. I thought I could make one a lot cheaper and made 2 floggers years ago. One is 15 inches long one with a 4 1/2 inch braided handle and 10 inch strands. The other is 22 inches long with a 5 inch wrapped leather handle and 16 1/2 inch strands.

I used 1/8 inch thick suede so one side is soft leather. I folded the strands in half and braided them forming the handle and finished it with a strand of suede wrapped for an inch. They can be used gently all over the body producing a very relaxing and erotic sensation. Yummy! Or you could use then hard - we don't - like a whip.

Hugh used the long one on me last night (as part of a warm-up massage before spanking and sex) and this morning after S&S as a soothing treat.

Greenwoman: Yes! Years ago, I made a flogger out of a deer hoof (handle), leather shoe laces (falls, copper wire (holds laces to the hoof) and moose hide (covers the copper wire and finishes the end of the hoof). It's rather lovely. I've put up a picture of it on Honestly Speaking today. It's really enjoyable to read what others have made. Great question!

Anon #2: Given a jig saw and some half-inch plywood, I can make all sorts of fun paddles. If you cut the blade into a six inch circle with a two inch hole in the middle and then aim for the centre of each cheek, you end up with a glowing ring on each side. If you cut the blade into a large X, you get just that on her bottom. If you draw round your own hand, and then cut it out, you get a wooden spanking hand that is most effective and saves the wear on the real thing. There are plenty more possibilities!

Funny Brat Girl: Being an avid spankee in the scene for the last 5+ years, I've had many play partners who had homemade spanking implements. But then one day, one of my play partners was saying how he could never find a quality wood paddle. So, being ever so helpful and knowing that my dad loves working with wood, I asked him to craft one for me. Yeah, I kinda had to give a full blown explanation and all, but in the *end* he crafted a very nice paddle out of oak. The next thing I knew he was making ALL kinds of paddles. LOL! He made all different sizes, and colors from blonde to deep dark cherry. YIKES! I think I created a monster of a paddlemaker! LOL!!

At any rate, we started Whack Me Paddles, and so far, we've done pretty well.

Betina: We have a few homemade implements, and funny enough, I'm the crafty one, so I made them.

We have one thin (about 6 mm or 1/4" thick) oval paddle and the same model at 12 mm (about 1/2") thick. They are made from hardwood plywood that is cut out and then varnished to a smooth finish. We do not use them that often but they can be quite effective or erotic depending on use.

The latest implement I made was a leather strap. I found an old wide leather belt in a recycle store (about 2 inches wide). I cut it to a length where it's about 16 inches (doubled) and then made a thinner piece that was doubled from the handle end with a D-ring for hanging. The handle end was glued and fastened with two chicago screws. All edges were rounded and smoothed. It looks much like the Corporal Punishment Ruler Paddle from the London Tanners, except it's a doubled strap. The length is good for OTK as well as other positions.

It's a very special feeling to make a spanking implement that you know is sooner or later going to warm your bottom. With all the implements I had to work up the guts to give them to my husband. But I'm glad I did.

Edward: When Lisa first asked me about spanking, I made a paddle for her out of pine. It's 12" x 3" x 1/2 inch thick. Depending upon how much force is used, it can be intense fun or I can get her to cry within a few swats. Since then, we have bought all of the other toys we have.

Texas Spanko Girl: We don't have any homemade implements, but D has talked about making some. As we both live in apartments right now, he doesn't have a place to do any woodworking. I suspect that when we eventually move into a house together he'll make some nice things!

Carye: We don't have any homemade implements. However, some household items have been used because they were handy. I would love it if Papa Shrek made some spanking toys! That would be really, really cool!

Bonnie: We have several wooden paddles that were crafted by Randy. He enjoys selecting different woods, shapes, and dimensions and then gauging the effectiveness by paddling me. I refer to this part of his implement collection as “the lumberyard.”

As much as he enjoys his woodworking experiments, Randy is fonder still of finding new uses for previously vanilla objects. Many are ineffective, but every once in a while, he finds something surprisingly ouchie. Last week, it was the lid to a storage container. Who knew?

Jigsaw Analogy: Well, I'm crafty, but not so much with wood.

Back in the day, I learned how to make various floggers as part of a fund raiser for the Lesbian Avengers. My personal favorite was the plaid flannel one, although the lace one actually had a nice sting to it.

I've also made the evil loopy toy (stereo cord, split into separate strands, bound with duct tape). I keep meaning to play around with making a duct tape tawse, as well.

I think there are other things I've made, but those are the ones that pop into my head.

Teresa: Yes, we use the rod that opens and shuts the mini-blinds. It is a painful and effective tool that I have experienced. It is only used for punishments and it stings like crazy. It leaves welts, stripes and knots. I think it is more painful than a switch. I guess it is like a lexon cane.

Thank you all for participating! I hope to see you here again next week for another enjoyable spanko discussion.

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MBS Spanko Brunch #67


Welcome back to our Sunday spanko brunch. It's DIY week here at MBS. Our topic today is homemade spanking implements.

Do you or your partner employ any homemade spanking implements? If so, please describe their construction, how they are used, and their effectiveness. If you don't have homemade toys, would you ever consider building some?

If you would like to contribute to our brunch, I invite you to leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Regardless of the medium, I would like to hear what you have to say.

Thursday, April 26, 2007

More Paddle Slogans


Do you remember those novelty paddles they used to sell at tourist havens? Each paddle had a clever saying such as "Heat for the Seat" or "Frontier Tail Blazer." Even as I kid, I recall being fascinated by how these good folks had managed to make spankings fun.

About a year ago, I published a list of updated paddle slogans. Everyone had a good time selecting their favorites.

Recently, a friend wondered if perhaps there might be more of these paddlisms. As it turns out, there are indeed.

  1. Sanity Restoration Device

  2. Spruce for the Caboose

  3. Royal Rump Roaster

  4. Stress? What Stress?

  5. Abandon Sitting, All Ye Who Bend Here

  6. Firestarter

  7. My Memory Enhancer

  8. End of the Discussion

  9. Spanko Aphrodesiac

  10. Apply Reddening Agent as Necessary

  11. Just Be Glad It's Not the Cane

  12. What's a Few Swats Between Friends?

  13. Cheaper Than Therapy

  14. Love Hurts

  15. The Best Answer

  16. Why Not a Spanking?

  17. Open Your Mind, Lower Your Panties

  18. It's Supposed to Hurt!

  19. Spank Early and Often

  20. Old School Lessons Taught Here

As I said last year, I claim no royalties on any of these sayings. Should any implement entrepreneur desire to burn them into paddles, they may do so with my blessing.

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Tuesday, April 24, 2007

Poll: Spanking as a Motivator?

Which statement below best summarizes your feelings about the use of spankings for motivation?

Spankings make a delightful reward for good performance.
Spankings work well as a deterrent against misdeeds.
Spankings can provide either positive or negative reinforcement, depending upon how they are administered.
We don't choose to use spankings for motivational purposes. It's just too confusing.
Motivation? We spank for fun.

Monday, April 23, 2007

In With The New: Spring is Sprung Edition


Every so often, I believe that it's necessary to recognize and appreciate the larger community. Accordingly, it is my profound pleasure to introduce a great new group of spanko blogs.

Here is a baker's dozen of young blogs that I hope you will explore and enjoy. When you visit, I encourage you to not only read, but also to offer some encouragement in the form of comments. It's difficult to start a new blog. In the beginning, it feels as though you're writing for no one. A few positive words at the right moment can make the difference between a successful blog and an abandoned effort.

Check these out!

Angel's Musings
Anne's Spanking Blog
Bratty's World
Cherry Red Report
From My Other Side: Where Anything Goes
Incessantly Spanked
Leaving a Welt
My Journey
Spanked Men
Ted's Excellent Adventures
The Adams Collection
The Domestics of Life
Tiny Miranda

     (If I've forgotten anyone, please tell me)

To these new bloggers, I bid you welcome. I look forward to watching your blogs grow and thrive.

Here are some suggestions I assembled as a guide to enhancing your blog. While it's certainly not the final word, I think you will find a number of useful tips.

My Blogging Smarts

More Blogging Smarts

My Blogging Smarts Again

My Blogging Smarts: Balance

I hope you find the spanko blogging experience as rewarding as I have!

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Sunday, April 22, 2007

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Apr 22


Hello again, everyone. Please excuse the dampness, but it simply can't be helped. Our brunch topic today was wet spankings. Here are your thoughts.

Galros: The ex and I used to go for the wet spanking thing. For some reason, the sight of me getting out of the bath covered in bubbles seemed to engage the spanko gear in his brain! The thing was that he never accounted for the fact that it HURT a lot more! LOL

But in saying that, it was always enjoyable for both of us. It nearly always led to the need for another bath or shower! Plus, I don't think I ever shared a shower with him either without getting a red bum either! It was great fun, even with the added pain!

Fer: Wet spankings are very special. I have a young spankee friend who very much enjoys a fantasy involving the beach, a wet bikini, and being whipped with a flexible branch from a plant that grows in the dunes.

Tigger: Yes, my hubby and I have tried wet spankings, and I loved it! He's spanked me while we were in the shower, and then also rubbed my bottom down with water. It definitely intensifies the sting!

Padme: We have tried wet spanking and we enjoy it a lot. Master Anakin has also wet his belt down for the "wet belt technique," as he calls it. It brings up better bruising and makes for a harder spanking. I've been spanked in the bathtub before and also leaning over the hot tub with a wet bottom.

Paul: What can I say? Mel often came out of the bath or shower with a red butt.

A good girl spanking stung just that bit more and turned her on just that bit more when her arse was wet. It was very satisfying.

As it's criminal to wet a good Scottish tawse, so we never did wet our leather implements.

Susan: Yes – OW! D decided I needed a spanking while we were swimming in the sea. He towed me out of the water, sat on a rock, put me over his knee, and gave the seat of my thin, wet bathing suit (we had been surfing, so no bikini) a long and sound spanking. It was murder, as in "My Bottom Smarts” times three. What made it worse were the unmistakable thunderclaps, which I am sure could be heard further down the beach. When the spanking was over, he put me back in the sea, where my rear just sizzled in the cold water. Later, I told him how much it had stung, and he admitted that his palm got pretty sore too which was some consolation.

A while later, I was BBU, OTK, and awaiting my fate. Instead of his spanking hand, a cold damp sponge landed on my bottom. It was well wetted and chilled. Then he took the hairbrush to me, not wanting to hurt his poor little hand. If the sea spanking was MBS times three, this was times five at least!

He once fished me out of the bath for a spanking, hot and wet, with water flying everywhere. But that was far less lethal.

Reesa: I've been spanked in the shower for fun many times. But once when I was taking a bath, he made me get out for a spanking. I can't even remember what I'd screwed up that time, but it sure did hurt like blazes! Water most definitely adds to the sting.

Mary: It seems we bottoms all agree that the wet adds to the sting. However, spanking after a hot tub is fun and after a swim…

My absolute favorite was a "staged" scene where I was pulled out of the shower when he walked in on me masturbating. I was pulled out soaking wet. The hotel bathroom had a large soft fluffy rug to prevent slipping. That was a very important feature since I was dripping wet. He scolded me and had me bend over the bathroom counter. There was a large mirror so I was able to see the whip in his hand. It is a soft, multi-stranded whip that makes a LOT of noise and sounds scary. It has a bit of weight so I feel the force of impact, but the sting on dry skin is not so bad. On wet skin, there was more sting, but the brush of air over my wet skin and the sound and the jolt from it hitting my body was sublime for a spanko like me.

The implement has been tested enough to know that it is not likely to cause injury, so he used it over every inch of my body including my thighs, buttocks, back, breasts, and pussy. He scolded me and continued until my skin was dried from all the "fanning" the whip had created. It was a delicious interlude - just enough sting and impact to make me moan, but not enough to cause any harm. My skin tingled all over when he was done.

Southern Angel: JD has given me several wet-bottom spankings. He has spanked me in the shower, in a pool, and has even wet my bottom with a sponge before spanking me. I am not much into these type of spankings because they sting so much! Being spanked in the shower doesn't seem as bad, I think because the shower spray cushions the swats. But don't tell JD. I've told him it hurts just as much!

Bonnie: Randy figured out early in our relationship that wetting my bottom before a spanking intensifies the experience. Since then, he has leveraged this knowledge countless times and in many ways. He loves the sound of the impact and the way I react. Now the very act of wearing a towel or a bathing suit is often enough to earn me a spanking.

Sometimes, he joins me in the shower for washing, spanking, and more. We have a stout wooden brush hanging in there and it’s not reserved for hygiene. These are always festive events, though I inevitably emerge with a very red bottom.

So, for all my grousing, do I enjoy wet spankings? Of course I do!

Pixiepie: I had a wet spanking once right after a cold shower (I was in big trouble that day...I don't remember why, Oh wait, Yes I do...). Anyway, it wasn't pleasant.

Thanks, everyone for adding your impressions and experiences with wet spankings. I think we can all agree that a bit of moisture translates into a lot of extra sting!

I look forward to seeing you all here next week for another spanko brunch.


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MBS Spanko Brunch #66


Here we are again. It's Sunday and time for our spanko brunch. Our topic this week deals with the effect of water on spanking activities.

Have you and your partner engaged in wet spankings, such as during or after bathing or swimming? Have you or your partner ever dampened a bottom using a spray bottle or cloth in preparation for a spanking? If so, do you enjoy such activities? If you have not tried wet spankings, would you consider it?

If you would like to contribute your thoughts to today's brunch, I invite you leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Once everyone has provided their responses, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Saturday, April 21, 2007

OK, Uh, Never Mind...


I was at work yesterday, sitting in my cubicle and minding my own business. I had a project to complete by the end of the day. I was finding it rather difficult to concentrate because it was Friday afternoon at the end of a long week and the weather outside was beautiful.

My co-worker picked that moment to drop by for a chat. Gwen has been there maybe two months. She's in her mid-thirties, never married, and has no kids. She's a friendly person who always seems to have a lot to share.

We got to talking about weekend plans. Gwen said that she and her boyfriend were hosting another couple on Saturday night. I was politely smiling and nodding until she blurted out that they were all going to play the Cornhole Game.

At the sound of these words, my mind was immediately racing. I envisioned two-on-two nasty pillow-chomping anal sex! My next thought was that you sure can't judge people by first impressions. I then wondered if they managed to work spankings into this little game. It seemed a natural extension to me.

"Oh, don't you know about Cornhole?" Gwen inquired, no doubt picking up my puzzled expression.

"Er, I guess I don't." I mumbled. A second later, I decided that it might be best to save this conversation for a less public venue. But it was too late.

"I'm from Cincinnati. Everybody plays it there. It's great."

By now, I was completely dumbfounded. I listened in amazement.

"The Cornhole board is a sheet of plywood with a small hole cut in one end. The object of the game is to score points by tossing beanbags through the hole."

"Beanbags?"

"Right. They were originally filled with corn, but any kind of beanbag works. It's so much fun!"

"Yeah, it sounds like it." I don't know if I was blushing, but I easily could have been. I felt so stupid.

"Maybe you and Randy could come over sometime for Cornhole. It's really easy." She seemed enthusiastic about that prospect.

"Yes, maybe we could."

"So what are you two planning for the weekend?"

By this time, I was determined to not out myself any further. "Oh, nothing special," I replied in a deadpan tone.

"Well, I hope you have a good time doing it." Gwen was still bubbling with Cornhole-inspired eagerness.

"I'm sure we will..."

Thursday, April 19, 2007

Five Senses Worth


This is an open letter to Randy.

Open yourself, please, my love, to this raw corporeal experience we call lovemaking. I want to share it with you, and you with me. Let's indulge all five senses.

Sight
  • See how I dress for you
  • Watch my hips rock as you draw me close
  • Observe the lust in my eyes
Sound
  • Hear your palm smack against my flesh
  • Drink in the sound of my eager panting
  • Listen as I moan only for you
Touch
  • Feel my soft curves beneath your fingertips
  • Make me shiver with your caress
  • Enjoy the warmth of my bottom
Smell
  • Draw pleasure from our scented candles
  • Share your manly aroma
  • Breathe in my arousal
Taste
  • Kiss me sweetly
  • Savor the nectar of love
  • Let me be your favorite confection

Take me now. Keep me forever. Please?

Wednesday, April 18, 2007

Equestrian Memories


While sorting through old boxes last weekend, I found a diskette containing some archived spanking stories. Here's a tale of spankings past...

It must have been around 1984 because I recall our daughter being a real toddler terror. My mother volunteered to take her off our hands for half a day. Randy, sweet then as now, planned a fun afternoon for us. As a girl, I always adored horses. I took riding lessons for several years. On this day, Randy had a planned a riding getaway.

No sooner had Randy returned from dropping off our little tyke than he began some amorous overtures. Never one to let an opportunity go to waste, I joined right in. Next thing I knew, I was over his lap getting reintroduced to my wooden hairbrush. He really warmed my tail. It had been quite a long time since I had gotten such a thorough tanning. Spankings were, by necessity, less frequent in those days.

After some torrid afternoon lovemaking, Randy suddenly jumped from the bed. He realized that we were in danger of being late for our ride. Quickly, we donned our clothes and headed out. Thanks to light traffic and his lack of attention to speed limits, we made it.

Upon our arrival, we talked briefly with the proprietor, met the horses, and got saddled up. As soon as my tender bottom touched that saddle, I knew I was in for a long afternoon. With every step, it was as though I was being spanked all over again. Ouch!

We followed a beautiful trail that wound along the banks of a scenic river. We had been there once before, but it was during a different season. On this day, it was glorious springtime. The birds were back and wildflowers were exploding everywhere. The river was brown and swollen from spring rains. But the sun was out and the trail was dry. The horses were gentle and predictable (this was good, because Randy never did quite get the hang of riding). Saddle sore or not, this was a fine day!

We rode for two whole hours. By the time we returned, I felt as though my poor posterior might fall off. I can remember being very sore for days afterward. Did I regret a minute? Not really. Getting spanked was and is part of my life, and a good part at that. That telltale twinge when I sit reminds me of the love we share. On this particular occasion, his love was never in doubt.

We haven't been riding in years. Maybe it's time...

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Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Keyword Chaos Has Returned


You knew it was bound to happen. It's time again to examine some of the unusual words and phrases that people type into search engines immediately prior to landing here.
  • bend over Bonnie - Just what I need, another nickname

  • spanking clubs - Let's hope this is a group of spankos and not some diabolical implement

  • ass quiz - Question #1: Are you bigger than a breadbox?

  • how to spank your wife - Talk first, then spank

  • how to spank your girlfriend - Same as above

  • do you spank your wife? - No, I don't have a wife

  • spanking hard to sit down - Spanking hard leads to not sitting down

  • my boyfriend wanted my ass - So I gift wrapped it and let him have it for his birthday

  • duct tape bra - It's easier to put on than it is to remove

  • Chinese panty pulling - Now there's a traditional ritual worth learning!

  • spanked with love - Love would be a good name for a paddle

  • I deserve a good spanking - Why does no one ever deserve a bad spanking?

  • 15 inch buttplug insertions - I hear there's a cute new doctor working in the ER

  • mesa spanking - Honey, why are we climbing all the way up here?

  • spanked woman's women's bottom - I find that most women conveniently come equipped with a woman's bottom

  • do girls get pleasure from a spanking - It's not quite that simple, but it can be very enjoyable

  • granny panties gusset - OK, I'll confess. I'm a granny and I wear panties with a gusset. Happy?

  • spanking justice - The first circuit spanko tribunal will please come to order. The defendant stands accused of attempting to hide a hairbrush...

  • spanking science - As the soft tissues of the buttocks compress upon the strike of a rapidly moving implement, the momentum of the paddle is converted into heat and a reddish discoloration quickly appears

  • take a break MBS - I think about it sometimes

  • buttman swat - Holey paddles, Buttman!

  • what bottoms are good for - There's a spanking 101 topic I hadn't considered

  • spankings hurt - There's just no getting around it

  • she was a much older woman and wore these granny cotton granny panties which she made me rub - Are you searching or starting a blog?

  • wife spanking in UK - I think the bottom goes on the left side...

  • Carmella Soprano swallows - Happy birthday, Tony!

  • ladies enjoy giving and receiving enemas - This might be an overgeneralization

  • spanking games to do with my girlfriend - Let's see... There's Spankopoly, Corporal Pursuits, Swat Poker, Guess the Implement...

  • spanko awakening - Find your inner spanko!

  • coping with a silky slip fetish - Three choices: (1) Buy some lingerie, (2) find a woman who wears them, or (3) find a new fetish

  • pepper spankings - Believe it or not, I've actually been spanked with a pepper mill!

  • tight girdle - That seems redundant

  • vanilla spankings - Such a waste

  • why is my bottom so sore? - That always happens when someone hits it many times with a leather strap

  • real paddled bottoms - I hate phony bottoms

  • a girls buttocks can become quite red when spanked hard with one of the larger paddles - This sounds like a quote from a spanko field guide

  • pirate spankings - Arrr! Who wouldn't love being lashed to the yardarm and flogged?

  • finding spanking - Did someone lose one?

  • joy of spanking - This might be the title of my next book

  • corporate spankings - Watch out for the board of directors

  • extra layer of padding for spanking - Yeah, like that ever works!

  • Kathy Ireland spanked - Who could ever forget those immortal words, "I want a home, a family, an occasional spanking..."

  • I am woman spanking - Here me sore!

  • romantic spanking diapers - What? No plastic pants?

  • spanking panties blog wedgie - OK, I'll tell you what. If one of the members of the panty patrol would like to start a wedgie blog, I'll link to it. Deal?

Sunday, April 15, 2007

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for April 15


Our brunch for this week covered preparation for spankings and methods for getting one's partner in the mood. Here are your responses:

Reesa Roberts: Most of my spankings are completely spontaneous, with no preparations ahead of time. Sometimes, though, for erotic spankings, he first massages me with heated oil, which makes the spanking that much more fun and hotter.

Once, before a spanking, I put bikini aftershave gel on my buttocks. It contains a local anesthetic called lidocaine. It really worked, but I never did it again, as what's the point? LOL

Southern Angel: JD and I work different schedules, so we sometimes send each other sexy test messages or voice mail messages.

We often talk in the morning about a spanking that will happen later in the day. I then get to think about it while I am at work.

When we are home together, I often dress in a sexy outfit to get us in the mood to roleplay.

A massage does sound like a nice way to get ready for a spanking. :)

Anon: My preparation ritual happened by accident. I was in the early stages of a relationship with a guy I met through his personal ad. The ad said that he was, "strict but loving." On our first date, at a restaurant, we confirmed that we were both into discipline, but the first spankings he gave me weren't that great. I was falling in love with him and wanted things to be perfect. I sat him down (at another restaurant dinner-date) and we talked. We discussed fantasies and likes/dislikes. I made a date with him for the following night at my apartment where I'd cook him dinner and then we'd get romantic. He ended the restaurant date by giving me a key to his place, and I happily reciprocated by giving him the key to my apartment.

The following afternoon I prepared my mom's lasagne recipe, put it in the oven to bake, drew myself a bubble bath, and poured a glass of wine. One of the things that had inhibited me previously was having him pry my bottom cheeks apart and touch me there while I laid across his lap for spanking. I wanted to make sure I was hygienic. The wine helped relax my anticipation. It felt so good as I washed these erogenous zones that I started to masturbate, a finger in each orifice. I fantasized about the promise that the evening held, and orgasmed more readily than I ever had before. I continued to play, and continued to climax. Right in the middle of one, John walked in with a bouquet of flowers in hand, wanting to help fix dinner and share time together, even though he was an hour early. My little studio apartment offered no hope for hiding what I was up to, as he came thru the front door, he saw clear into the bathroom. John fell right into the role of dominant, just as we'd discussed the night before and the way I'd always dreamed. He ordered me to stand up in the tub and he spanked me soundly, "for being so sexy." It stung so incredibly on my wet bottom. The tiled small room made the spanks echo loudly. My libido was already primed, I came. John made me kneel in the bathwater, then stand and bend over and ask for set after set of spanks. It was the hottest scenario I could've imagined. Finally, he pulled me out of the tub, bent me over the sink, and made love to me from behind. I looked at his reflection in the steamed-up mirror and told him that I loved him.

I get a punishment spanking every so often. These are unplanned, abrupt, sudden, and severe. But when I want a romantic tryst, I'll often let John catch me in the bubble bath with both my hands busy.

To answer the question, I like a hot soak in a bubble bath of glycerin lotion that's scented like rose petals.

Luna: To get in the mood for spanking, I like to take a hot bath with candle light around the room, sometimes incense, and sometimes music too. I carefully towel dry and scent my body so that it's appealing. I dress in something sexy and put on makeup.

My partner likes to subtly suggest spanking early in the week for a weekend time. He'll suggest that my butt it looking a bit pale or that his hand is itching for fun. This helps get my primed and I'm sure it helps him stay in that mindset for the weekend.

Tigger: My hubby and I are always in the mood! No extra preparation is necessary! *grin*

Erin: Most of the time, I just make bratty comments, put on a sexy outfit, or wiggle my butt. These three methods will get me a nice red bottom every time. :)

Griz: There really isn't much that we do to get in the mood for spanking. I would have to say that a good majority of my swats on my girl's ass are opportunistic. They happen as she walks by.

Then again, when she really gets spanked it’s usually because we have been playing...

Paul: I suppose ninety percent of our spankings were erotic, as we made love nightly at a minimum. The only time sex didn't happen at least once a day was if one of us was ill or away. Our sex was always preceded by a spanking. Mel insisted. *G* Punishment had a ritual as well, but it wasn't fun for either of us.

AnonVII: I seem to have the most fun when she initiates proceedings. I'm the top, mostly by virtue of always being the one who gives. But in her unchanging role of bottom, she tends to be somewhat more aggressive in terms of getting the ball rolling.

We never do disciplinary or punishment. Our spankings are mostly playful rough-and-tumble, fairly often erotic (frequently emerging from the playful), and occasionally tension-relief. There are no grins or laughs in connection with the last kind, but there are always whispered thanks and lots of hugs followed by well, you know.

Sometimes, when she wants a quick, playful one, she appears before me with a naughty, foxy smile, clad in a pair of snug Capri pants, tight jeans, "teddy," biking shorts, or those famous leopard skin panties with matching bra. She then deliberately drops something onto the floor, looks into the fridge, pretends to look for a book on a low shelf, or does something else that requires bending way over, knowing that I'll quickly step up and administer one or two firm swats with my hand to each cheek.

When she wants to prolong the tease (and have a longer session afterward), she snuggles up to me on the couch. Then, in the middle of cuddling, she flops over my lap, grabs the phone, rings up a gal-pal, and visits, sometimes for several minutes if she really wants to torture me and build her own anticipation. All the while, I stroke, knead, and pat her. If she doesn't get off the phone soon enough (about five minutes is my max), I let my long middle fingers stray to that most touchy of areas as my hands move from cheek to cheek. Alternately, I sometimes bunch my fingers and thumb together, touch their tips lightly to one of her sit-spots, slowly open my hand, and then repeat the procedure on the other side. Either (or both) of those tricks gets her off the phone fast. As soon as she hangs up, I deliver a hard but controlled smack with a firmly cupped hand to produce a sharp pop and a healthy sting, she emits a delighted squeal and laugh, and we're off!

Lisa: It’s funny that you should ask this question. Just the other night, I quizzed Ed to find out just how he knows when I want to be spanked. I sometime leave him a note and a red tie on the door so that he can mentally prepare himself. But most of the time, it is actions rather than words that cue him that a spanking is in order. Since most of our spankings are purely erotic, they are usually spontaneous. Ed told me that he knows I need to be paddled when I get sassy with him and stick my butt practically in his face. And it is true I will hang my bottom in arms reach just after saying something really snotty and he will give me a whack. That usually portends a pleasantly fun spanking later in the evening.

Todd and Suzy: That is a simple question, but one we'd never really thought about. We don't know that we specifically do anything. The mood comes often enough on its own! It certainly comes more often than we're able to act on.

It would be fun to go to a spanking party, and be around so many things spanking related, including people actually spanking. It seems like that would REALLY create a mood.

Bonnie: If Randy wants to get me in the mood, it’s usually fairly easy. All it takes is a little hugging, smooching, touching, rubbing, whispering, nibbling, squeezing… You get the picture.

As for Randy, like many men, he is very visual. So I give him a show. It can be as simple as walking away slowly while wearing a pair of tight-fitting jeans. Other times, I add a little choreography. If I don a pair of lycra capri pants and a big shirt, and then bend forward over the couch (as if stretching prior to calisthenics), an immediate spanking is virtually guaranteed.

Kelly: I am always in the mood, but I have a hard time telling him when I REALLY want one. So, bratting is the best. Since I don't get to see him that often (once a monthish, twice if I’m lucky ;)), a spanking is ALWAYS going to happen at least once during the weekend. I normally initiate it myself by bratting, or having something prepared (like a note if we are role playing). However, I think the hottest is when he initiates. One weekend, he decided it would be best to just spank me before bed without me initiating (I was trying to be good hehehe). I thought that was just so...hot!

Thank you all for your great suggestions. See you next week!

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MBS Spanko Brunch #65


Our brunch question this week is simple, short, and sweet.

What do you and/or your partner do to get into the mood for spanking? Is there any type of preparation you might like to try?

If you have thoughts you would like to contribute to our discussion, I invite you to leave a comment below, send me an e-mail message, or post a response on your own blog. Once everyone has provided their input, I will publish a summary.

Friday, April 13, 2007

Bonnie's Mailbag


It's been about a month since we last opened the mailbag. Looking inside, I find a good collection of mail messages. Here's what you have to say.

Question: Should a woman in need of chastisement be dealt with in public, if the behavior shocks the conscience?

Response: Only if the spanker seeks to be incarcerated. Take my word. The police don't know the difference between domestic discipline and domestic violence.

Question: helo do you and or your girl friends like a good spanking sounds like your in to geting spanked id love to spank some girls back sides with a wooden paddle if your or any of your girl friends would like to be spanked and paddled please let me knoe

Response: gurls get hott wen u lurn too spel

Question: I was wondering if you have ever wet your pants during a spanking. Maybe even tried adult diapers and then got a spanking for peeing your diaper.

Response: Uh uh.

Statement: I love spanking     (this was the entire message)

Response: What a coincidence!

Question: Do you wear your thongs pulled all the way up your crack?

Response: Is there another method?

Question: Do you ever feel like a traitor to your gender? After all, you encourage women to demean themselves and men to degrade, humiliate, and abuse them.

Response: Whoa! Wait a minute. I've never said anything of the sort. I believe in safe, sane, and consensual play. I would never encourage anyone to undertake activities that are unsafe or unwelcome. At our house, spankings are given for the purpose of mutual enjoyment. There's no abuse. Nor are there any of the other negative feelings you list. Randy loves me, and even during a spanking, he treats me with compassion and respect.

I don't see a contradiction between being a spanko and being pro-woman. As strong and independent people, we are empowered to pursue this lifestyle if we so choose. There is nothing humilating about couples celebrating their love together.

Question: Did I miss June Cleaver?

Response: No, you didn't. She'll be appearing here soon.

Question: Does you bottom ever get itchy after a hard spanking?

Response: Yes, sometimes it does.

Question: Any tattoos?

Response: Nope.

Question: Do you have any suggestions about deciding on a safe word?

Response: The key to selecting a safe word is simplicity. It has to be a word that you will remember at times when you are completely distracted.

It's almost cliche, but Randy and I use the stop light system. Green means keep going (never used). Yellow means please slow down or give me a short break. Red means stop immediately! If I call out "Red!" Randy jumps in to save me. I've only needed it a few times, but I was mighty glad to have it.

That's it until next time. Have a wonderful weekend!

Thursday, April 12, 2007

Talk with Tigger


Our pal Tiggs just posted an interview she did with Randy and me. Yes, you read that correctly. The silent man speaks!

Anyhow, it was a fun exercise and I hope you will enjoy it.

Thanks, Tiggs!

Wednesday, April 11, 2007

Poll: How Recent?

Please forgive me if I've been negligent in my rounds the past couple of days. Randy was generous enough to share his head cold with me. We hope to both be better in time for the weekend. In the meantime, here's a new poll.

When was your most recent spanking experience?

During the past 24 hours
During the past week
During the past month
During the past six months
During the past year
A really long time ago
Still dreaming...

Monday, April 09, 2007

Fifty Reasons to Spank Your Wife or Girlfriend


The post is aimed at the gentlemen out there. In particular, I’d like to direct my comments to the reluctant spankers. You know who you are. Your partner expressed an interest in being spanked, but she’s having a difficult time convincing you to do it. Your concerns – chivalry, lack of comprehension, potential impact on your relationship, or a desire to protect her – are quite understandable. Her request was unexpected and you probably weren’t prepared to answer the question at the moment she posed it.

Let’s take a big step back and look again at the subject from a slightly different vantage point. I can offer you fifty reasons why you might want to take her across your lap and indulge her dreams.

  1. The lovemaking afterward is often sensational

  2. Romantic spanking opens lines of communications

  3. There’s a community of spankos to provide support and advice

  4. Adult spanking is the most common of all kinks

  5. It can strengthen your relationship

  6. Just picture those beautiful globes over your lap...

  7. She's eager for this, really!

  8. Compared to childbirth, the pain of a spanking is trivial

  9. This is not punishment, think instead about spanking as foreplay

  10. Spanking builds trust between partners

  11. It's really OK to hit a woman, but only if she enjoys it

  12. This isn't weird or unusual, it's just another kind of sex

  13. You can be the strong, decisive man of her fantasies

  14. What's not to like?

  15. Do the initials B. J. hold any significance?

  16. Many couples include erotic spanking in their lovemaking

  17. Her dream can be your pleasure

  18. It's something fun you can do together

  19. You could make it a game

  20. Spankings can relax her

  21. If you don’t believe me, ask any other dedicated spanko

  22. Role play spankings are great fun

  23. If something doesn’t work, you don’t have to repeat it

  24. It isn’t about the pain, it’s about a shared experience

  25. This opens an exciting new chapter in your relationship

  26. Spankings promote greater physical and emotional intimacy

  27. Your willingness to try demonstrates your love for her

  28. It's wonderful to feel completely in love again

  29. With a safeword, she can tell you before things go truly wrong

  30. She's your lover - It's OK if your fingers wander southward

  31. The process of experimentation allows a couple to grow together

  32. It’s with you she wants to share this secret

  33. Spankings don’t have to be serious – You can laugh and joke

  34. Most women’s bottoms are well padded - real damage is unlikely

  35. Consensual spanking is not abuse

  36. Spanking is a huge turn-on for her – That can only be good for you!

  37. She won’t think that you’re mean if you’re doing as she asked

  38. You could get her to dress up for her spanking

  39. With a few simple rules, adult spankings are safe and fun

  40. Women are tougher than you think

  41. You can be her hero!

  42. You'll love how her skin grows warm and pink

  43. Hugs and kisses

  44. It’s wonderful to spoon after a spanking

  45. Make her smile – tease her about future spankings

  46. You can start small and simple

  47. She'll adore you all the more for listening to her needs

  48. Haven't you always wanted to threaten to "tan her hide?"

  49. It’s fun to collect and test various spanking implements

  50. If she didn't agree, she wouldn't have shown you this list!

Do you see what I mean? Adult spanking is hot stuff!

If you're ready to learn more, you might want to read a couple of brief tutorials such as Your First Spanking or Ten Newbie Spanko Suggestions. If you communicate with one another and follow a few simple rules, spanking your wife or girlfriend can be safe, fun, and fulfilling.

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Sunday, April 08, 2007

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Apr 8


I'd like to offer a special thanks to those participants who interrupted their holiday celebration to help out with brunch. Our topic today was corner time and here are your learned insights:

Carye: We don't do corner time. I wouldn't mind trying it, but right now it just isn't a part of what we're doing. We're just exploring again the DD-type interests, but this is kind of out of our realm.

Cassie: I would like to tell you there’s no way I would ever put up with having to stand in the corner. But I suppose if Tom had told me I had to, I would have. We have never used corner time, but he has often sent me to the bedroom to wait for him on the bed. It is pretty well understood I need to stay on the bed until he comes in. I guess this is as close as we come.

Pher: I have used corner time with Dom on a number of occasions when I needed to take a break and get set up for the next phase of whatever it was that we were doing. It provides a break in the scene without breaking concentration, and a pleasing visual. I also used it with a previous partner as a means of enforcing a point.

Vivian: I'm continually mystified at why someone would find spanking acceptable for a grown woman, but yet believe that corner time is too childish or humiliating. Hopefully, someday someone will explain this to me (hint, hint).

For us, corner time is a mandatory part of every session, following and sometimes preceding a spanking.

It's my favorite part, actually, as I find that it not only deepens my post-spanking connection with my partner, but also gives me a much-valued opportunity to settle my emotions, and for meditation, personal reflection and growth. Corner time is where the real transformative work of DD is done in our relationship.

I could write a whole article on how much corner time has helped our relationship and my self-image, but that'd take up too much space here, so I hope you'll check out "The Spirituality of Corner Time" on my blog.

Paul: Except for school girl scenes, we used corner-time only as part of a punishment.

We found it useful to help Mel find her place during a punishment, but it didn't happen often. When Mel was due for a punishment, maybe hand, tawse, and cane, I'd say, “Mel, wait in the office, in the corner, and think why you need this!” Fifteen minutes later, I'd call Mel over, and inquire, “So why do you need this punishment.” Depending upon what had occurred, I might ask, “Do you agree that you need this?” She would respond, “Yes, Paul.”

Having completed that part, I sent Mel back to the corner, never more than three times. Mel knew why she was being punished, knew she was forgiven, and knew she was well and truly loved. Corner time helped Mel understand and accept that she could never lose my love or her place in my heart.

Anon: We are quite new to the scene but having a very good time! We have not used corner time, nor have we talked about it. Your question today may stimulate the discussion!

As Cassie said, I am sent to the bedroom to wait face down in my underwear on the bed for the inevitable spanking. Sometimes the torturous wait can last a long time! Sometimes, it’s so long that I have fallen asleep, only to be awakened by the crack of the strap on my poor unsuspecting derriere!

Tigger: While we don't practice DD, we do incorporate corner time into our spanking play, but just for fun! And it IS fun! It’s especially so when my hubby joins me there and rubs my freshly-spanked bottom! This, of course, leads to other yummy things!

Todd and Suzy: We do enjoy corner time in a playful setting. Suzy's not much on waiting for things, so a few minutes in the corner, complete with some verbal and physical teasing, can create a nice build up to some erotic spanking play.

Corner time for DD type spankings doesn't really work for us though. She gets way too emotional, most especially if she's left alone there. For some spankees, corner time can focus their mind on what is to come and the reasons it's coming. Suzy isn't wired that way though.

Corner time is an interesting element when playing with others too. I like having two young ladies waiting in the corner for their spanking and either listening (not seeing) as their partner in crime gets hers or knowing they're being heard as they get spanked. That’s a fun little extra kink.

Mary: I love/hate the corner. We use it definitely in punishment and role play spankings. It really gets me into the right head space. I hate having to stand there, bottom on display, being scolded to stand straight, hands at my sides. Oooh! How I want to stomp and pout at being told not only to stand in the corner, but how to stand.

Yet, being there also calms me and centers me. I can get myself all wound up at times and as much as I want, crave, need, desire, deserve the spanking that is coming, I fight it. The corner helps to dissipate the interfering tension. What I hate is when I am ordered off of his lap to go stand in the corner. Even with a blistering spanking happening, his lap is comforting and safe and I like it there. To be ordered to go stand in the corner, to have to get up from that comforting, connected spot is hard and I will fight it, often to the point of getting more blistering swats until I see the error of my ways. When I get sent to the corner after or in the midst of a caning, it is a different story. I want to go then, to get away, grateful for the time out.

The "naughty" feeling that ensues while standing with a red bottom on display always does something to me and makes me tingle. If we are playing, then his comments will include touching and noticing that I am wet and aroused. This comes from not only his spanking, but from my being compelled to obey will get me turned on.

Susan: This is something that I would enjoy partaking in. I think it serves to strip away dignity and some of the power that I enjoy maintaining in real life, but love having stripped away in erotic life.

It's always interesting to see how people respond to certain treatments within a kink.

Jigsaw Analogy: We have used corner time in both a kink and disciplinary context.

Within kink, it's very arousing. I am waiting for something, I know not what. I can't see what she is doing behind me. I am focused on what is to come. We don't do it often in this sense, but it can be quite fun.

Within discipline, it's not always even followed by a spanking (and, thus far, never preceded by one). It gives me (or my younger parts) a way to calm down, focus, and think about my (their) behavior. Even when I (they) don't think it's working, W. can see a difference, as can they when it's over.

Corner time, I think, is difficult for W. She is not patient, and she has a hard time not talking (in a disciplinary situation). However, it can help us to shift from wrangling and arguing with each other to me (or my younger parts) being able to calm down and accept what she says.

W. enjoys corner time more in a kink situation, because it gives her a chance to enjoy looking at me, and it gives her the ability to meet my needs for domination without necessarily trying to verbally be a top.

Allie: Alex and I do use corner time occasionally. I really do hate corner time, but I know, and so does Alex, that I need it too. Actually, I spent a few minutes there this morning! He has only sent me to the corner a few times after a spanking and never that I can remember before. Great topic to discuss, I love reading what others think.

Grizzly Bear: While we have never tried "corner time" per se, we did try something similar. During the time when I was training good girl, there were times when she had to stand in the middle of the room and face forward. It was always fun to spank her like this.

Bonnie: As with Tigger and her husband, Randy and I don’t do discipline in any conventional sense. But I am submissive and he enjoys testing me. Our corner time, when it happens, is often meant to intensify and draw out my submissiveness. Other times, it’s pure role playing fun. In either case, it’s a turn-on for me.

I hope you enjoyed our brunch. Of course, you're invited to join us again next week at the same time and channel. Until then, may you find all the love you desire and all the spankings you deserve!

For those readers hoping to learn of the fate of June Cleaver, I promise that report is coming soon. Unfortunately, Randy was afflicted with a bad cold this weekend. The event has been postponed for a week.


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MBS Spanko Brunch #64


I'd like to wish everyone a Happy Easter, Happy Passover, Happy Equinox, and/or Happy Spankings, as the case my be. In any case, I'm glad you took the time to join our Sunday Spanko Brunch. The way the brunch works is that I ask a question related to our favorite topic and participants add their perspectives.

This week's topic is corner time. A few weeks ago, a regular reader informed me that we have never talked about this subject at brunch. Scanning my memory, I quickly realized that she was correct. So, to redress this long-standing oversight, here is today's question:

Do you and your partner employ corner time as a part of your spanking activities? If so, how does it fit in with spankings, and with your overall relationship? If not, why not? Would you consider trying corner time?

I invite you to participate in this discussion by entering a comment below that includes your response to today's question. Alternately, you can send me an e-mail or post a message on your own blog. Regardless of the medium, I look forward to reading your thoughts. When everyone has made their contribution, I will post a summary of the results.

Friday, April 06, 2007

Jekyll and Hyde


Randy and I spent some time last evening with Doctor Jekyll and Mister Hyde. As with their fictional namesakes, they are one in the same. In this instance, however, Jekyll and Hyde is the nickname we gave to a rather unusual spanking implement. It’s a black rubber paddle. Depending upon how it’s applied, it can resemble the good doctor or the fiendish freak. Last night I became better acquainted with both.

About the time I was expecting Randy to arrive home from work, the telephone rang. When I saw his cell phone number pop up, I figured he was about to tell me not to prepare any dinner because he was going to be delayed at work. Well, he didn’t mention dinner. He told me instead to go to our bedroom and wait for him on the bed. He was on his way home and would arrive shortly.

“Oh goody,” I thought. “It’s playtime!” I had a spring in my step as I bounded up the stairs. Any residual fatigue from a busy day at work was forgotten. Randy and I haven’t shared nearly enough together time over the past couple of months. While it might not be possible to erase this deficit in one evening, I was willing to try.

After a few frantic moments of straightening up (once a mom, always a mom), I settled down on the bed. I left my clothing on because I didn’t know exactly what he had in mind. In any case, I rationalized, it could be shed quickly should the situation demand it.

When I heard the garage door open, I turned over and pushed my face into the pillow. This is how I wanted my lover to find me – ready for whatever merriment he desired.

A few minutes later, my dear husband appeared in the doorway. He paused for a moment before speaking. “Very good. Very good indeed,” he observed, as if to himself. He gently kissed the back of my neck. I felt the palm of his hand rub and then lightly swat the back of my skirt. But only once did he make contact before heading toward our toy collection. He rummaged through a drawer as though on a mission. He was clearly searching for a specific implement. As you’ve no doubt deduced, it was Jekyll and Hyde.

“This should do quite nicely,” he chortled as he directed my gaze toward the paddle. He smacked his hand as if to remind me of its potential. “It’s specially designed for spanking a woman’s ass and making it hurt. Do you know that’s exactly what’s about to happen to you?”

“Yes,” I acknowledged.

“So, tell me what you want…”

“I want…” I paused, but only briefly. “I want you to spank me.” My voice was hushed yet deliberate.

The paddle slammed against my bottom. I recoiled from the impact, but it was not unpleasant. Again, the flexible toy struck the back of my skirt. Protected as I was by a couple of layers of fabric, this spanking was quite tolerable. It hurt, but in a deliciously warm, stinging sort of way.

The rubber paddle is quite unique as a spanking implement. It has more play than wood, but less than leather. At the same time, it’s heavier than leather, but somewhat less so than wood. The result is plenty of sting, accompanied by a more than adequate dose of ache.

Randy continued to spank as he knelt beside me on the bed. His pace was slow, but the swats were substantial. Within about five minutes, he had lit an impressive flame.

I was already quite enamored by his percussive attention when the game suddenly changed. Randy lifted my skirt and pulled down my pantyhose and underwear. I was fully exposed. Never one to miss an obvious opportunity, my dear husband launched a rapid fire attack against my bare posterior. It was at this moment that Mister Hyde appeared. One of the characteristics of rubber, when used in a spanking implement, is that it is very tough on the skin of one's bottom. It tends to catch and tug in a manner that is very painful for the recipient.

My screaming did little to inhibit Randy’s continued whacking. He didn’t stop until he was convinced that I was completely and utterly spanked. By that time, I was nearly overcome by the blazing discomfort he was inflicting.

After he dropped the paddle on the bed, Randy lay down beside me. He wrapped his arms around me and hugged me tightly. I welcomed his comforting touch. He had hurt me, but in such a good way. I was a little disoriented by the sheer intensity of the experience. But in time, I settled into a warm, peaceful place. I nestled my face into his strong chest as his hands soothed and caressed my body.

After a while, Randy removed first my clothes and then his own. We crawled under the covered and made love. This simple, sensual act completed our celebration in a most wonderful fashion. For at least those few minutes, the world’s problems and burdens were gone.

Now all I have to worry about is whether I can sit without betraying my bottom’s very tender condition. Thank you, Randy. I needed that!

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Thursday, April 05, 2007

The Thinking Blogger Awards


My friend, Debbie from Fresh Air Lover, recently awarded me a Thinking Blogger award. Needless to say, I'm delighted because (a) it's a cool concept, and (b) Debbie is one of my favorite bloggers. Had she not already been tagged, she would definitely be on my list.

I am empowered to name five more bloggers who I believe are deserving of this distinction. These are blogs that make me think. I could easily name twenty, but the rules say that five is the limit. Here's my list, in no particular order:

  1. Figleaf from Real Adult Sex - OK, I'll acknowledge that it seems like sucking up to select such a prominent blogger. But if we're talking about people who make me think, he simply has to be here.

  2. Abel and Haron from The Spanking Writers - Clever, insightful, brilliant... Better yet, go see for yourself!

  3. The eight smart, expressive, unique voices who contribute to the Punishment Book - These women, different in so many ways, are united by a common interest in spankings and corporal punishment. Collaborative blogs seldom work well, but this one is superb.

  4. CeeCi from Giardino del Piacere - Her gift as an author is the ability to discuss everything and nothing and somehow make it all interesting and appealing. Her blog is a place of beauty and a source of inspiration.

  5. Vivian from The Disciplined Feminist - As the title suggests, Vivian explores the paradoxes and contradictions inherent in this lifestyle. Always intelligent and often surprising, her perspectives regularly shed new light on old topics.

Congratulations to all these wonderful bloggers (yes, Haron, you get two). Should you wish to continue the chain, here are the rules:

  1. If, and only if, you get tagged, write a post with links to five blogs that make you think,

  2. Link to this post so that people can easily find the exact origin of the meme,

  3. Optional: Proudly display the 'Thinking Blogger Award' with a link to the post that you wrote (here is an alternative silver version if gold doesn't fit your blog).

I hope you'll visit these blogs and discover, as I have, the power of their words.

Wednesday, April 04, 2007

Thank You!


We interrupt your regular blogging for the following announcement.

MBS passed a milestone today. We just recorded our two millionth hit!

On this occasion, I want to express my humble gratitude to all of my faithful readers. For those who comment and send e-mails, you are the lifeblood of this blog. Without you, I would have abandoned the effort long ago.

As for my lurkers, I know you're out there, and in greater numbers than ever. I still love you and I'm still delighted you show up here every day.

I invite you to stay tuned because there's more spanking yet to come...

Poll: Which Attributes Do You Value Most?

For Spankers Only
Which of the following attributes is most important in a spankee?

Submissiveness
Humor
Sexual appetite
Physical attractiveness
Overall compatibility
Brattiness
Adaptability
Communicativeness
For Spankees Only
Which of the following attributes is most important in a spanker?

Dominance
Humor
Sexual appetite
Physical attractiveness
Overall compatibility
Respect of limits
Adaptability
Communicativeness

Tuesday, April 03, 2007

Spanking Threat Levels


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Sunday, April 01, 2007

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Apr 1


In honor of April Fool's Day, our brunch dealt with practical jokes, silliness, and the lighter side of spanking. Here are your thoughts.

Spankoe: I'm currently getting reacquainted with a former flame from a few years ago. For my April Fools joke on him, I confessed over Yahoo IM that I had found Jesus, and was no longer into spankings, tie downs, and all that heinous stuff. I had Jesus and didn't need it anymore.

Wow! There was no response for a minute. An incredulous, "You gave up your Celtic-Pagan beliefs?" came next. I was laughing so hard that I couldn't make him go through that any more. "April Fools," I typed. I could feel his relief from 500 miles away!

I think I may end up paying for my little joke soon though! I can hardly wait!

Anon VII: One April 1st, my dear little play partner approached me, dressed in her high platform shoes. With a contrived embarrassed expression, she looked up at me out of the tops of her big eyes, told me she'd been naughty (which, of course, was only role-playing), then pulled a wicked-looking paddle from behind her back, handed it to me, and promptly bent over with feet at shoulder width, hands on knees, back arched properly downward, and bum poked properly upward. As I lifted her skirt, she looked back at me with more than the usual gleam in her eye, so I knew something in addition to her little rump was up.

I positioned the weapon, patted it on her sit spots two or three times, then gave her a test pop like I always do with a new implement.

"Come on, get with it!" She exclaimed. "I'm so randy I can't stand it!"

I then drew back and let fly with a fast three-quarter swing from the shoulder and a quick wrist-snap. The crack of the paddle was followed instantly by the sound of splintering wood and the sound of a board hitting the hardwood floor. My right fist, which was clutching the grip of the paddle, continued sweeping across my body and became airborne off to my left, almost sweeping up and hitting the left side of my head. I suddenly realized that I was holding the grip and nothing more in my hand.

A giggle from her morphed into a peal of laughter. She had been to our local toy store and gotten me a gag gift in the form of a paddle with the back of the grip sawed almost all the way through with a paper-thin blade and the cut painted over. Guess who felt like a true April fool?

NaughtyLele: I was over my hubby's lap once while he was giving me an extended warm-up (the kind where it starts out not hard at all and slowly builds), when I got a little mischievous! So, of course, I decided to tie his shoelaces together. It seemed amusing at the time, except that he noticed before I could even finish. Then he got on with the "real" spanking. OW! And yes, I fully intend to try that again soon...hopefully with success this time!

I can't possibly be the only bottom to have tried this, right?

Allie: I think it would be fun to draw a silly face on my bottom, so when Alex pulled down my panties to spank, he couldn’t help but laugh at it!

Bonnie: Randy plays a lot of head games with me, like this one. Every so often, though, I try to reciprocate. Occasionally, these stunts work. For example, I once coated the smooth handle of a wooden hairbrush with a thin layer of KY jelly. When he lifted it into the air in preparation for a brisk spanking, it slipped from his grasp, sailed across the bedroom, and bounced against the wall with a resounding thud. I still got my spanking, and with interest, but I think I laughed the entire time.

Other times, my plans backfire (and my back end feels the fire!).

I hope your April Fool's Day was a goofy one! See you next week.

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