I'd like to wish everyone a Happy Easter, Happy Passover, Happy Equinox, and/or Happy Spankings, as the case my be. In any case, I'm glad you took the time to join our Sunday Spanko Brunch. The way the brunch works is that I ask a question related to our favorite topic and participants add their perspectives.
This week's topic is corner time. A few weeks ago, a regular reader informed me that we have never talked about this subject at brunch. Scanning my memory, I quickly realized that she was correct. So, to redress this long-standing oversight, here is today's question:
Do you and your partner employ corner time as a part of your spanking activities? If so, how does it fit in with spankings, and with your overall relationship? If not, why not? Would you consider trying corner time?
I invite you to participate in this discussion by entering a comment below that includes your response to today's question. Alternately, you can send me an e-mail or post a message on your own blog. Regardless of the medium, I look forward to reading your thoughts. When everyone has made their contribution, I will post a summary of the results.
14 comments :
We don't do corner time. I wouldn't mind trying it, but right now it just isn't a part of what we're doing. We're just exploring again the D/D type interests but this is kind of out of our realm.
Carye
Bonnie,
I would like to tell you no way I would never have put up with having to stand in the corner. But I suppose if Tom had told me I had to I would have. No we have never used corner time but he has often sent me to the bedroom to wait for him on the bed. And it is pretty well understood I need to stay on the bed until he comes in. I guess this is as close as we come.
Love,
Cassie
Bonnie,
I have used cornertime with Dom on a number of occasions when I needed to take a break and get set up for the next phase of whatever it was that we were doing. It provides a break in the scene without breaking concentration, and a pleasing visual. I also used it with a previous partner as a means of enforcing a point.
pher
I'm continually mystified at why someone would find spanking acceptable for a grown woman, but yet believe that corner time is too childish or humiliating. Hopefully someday someone will explain this to me (hint, hint).
For us, corner time is a mandatory part of every session, following and sometimes preceding a spanking.
It's my favorite part, actually, as I find that it not only deepens my post-spanking connection with my partner, but also gives me a much-valued opportunity to settle my emotions, and for meditation, personal reflection and growth. Corner time is where the real transformative work of DD is done in our relationship.
I could write a whole article on how much corner time has helped our relationship and my self-image, but that'd take up too much space here, so I hope you'll check out "The Spirituality of Corner Time" on my blog.
-Viv
The Disciplined Feminist
Bonnie, except for school girl scenes, corner-time was only used as part of a punishment.
We found it useful to help Mel find her place during a punishment, It didn't happen often. When Mel was due a punishment, maybe Hand, Tawse, and Cane, I'd say, Mel, wait in the office, in the corner, think why you need this! 15 minutes later, I'd call Mel over, so why do you need this punishment, because, depending on what had occurred, do you agree that you need this, yes Paul. That part would take place, back to the corner, never more than three times, Mel knew why she was being punished, knew she was forgiven and knew she was well and truly loved. Corner-time helped Mel understand and accept that she could never lose my love or her place in my heart. Good question.
Thanks Bonnie.
Warm hugs,
Paul.
Hi bonnie ! I love your blog! We are quitenew to the scene but having a very good time!!
We have not used corner time nor talked about it. Your question today may stimululate the discussion!!
Like another blogger, I am sent to the bedroom to wait face down in my underwear on the bed for the inevitable spanking.Sometimes the torturous wait can last a long time!!! ...so long I have fallen asleep only to be awakened by the crack of the strap on my poor unsuspecting derriere!!
While we don't practice DD, we do incorporate corner time into our spanking play, but just for fun!!! And it IS fun!!! Especially when my hubby joins me there and rubs my freshly-spanked bottom!!! Which, of course, leads to other, yummy things!!!
*hugs*
Tigger
We do enjoy corner time in a playful setting. Suzy's not much on waiting for things, so a few minutes in the corner... complete with some verbal and physical teasing... can create a nice build up to some erotic spanking play.
Corner time for DD type spankings doesn't really work for us though. She gets way too emotional, most especially if she's left alone there. For some spankees, corner time can focus their mind on what is to come and the reasons it's coming. Suzy isn't wired that way though.
Corner time is an interesting element when playing with others too. Having two young ladies waiting in the corner for their spanking... and either listening (not seeing) as their partner in crime gets hers... or knowing they're being heard as they get spanked... is a fun little extra kink.
:)
~Todd & Suzy
I love hate the corner. We use it definately in punishment and role play spankings - it really gets me in the right head space. I hate having to stand there, bottom on display - being scolded to stand straight, hands at your sides - ooooh how I want to stomp and pout at being told not only to stand in the corner - but how to stand. Yet, being there calms me and centers me. I can get myself all wound up at times and as much as I want, crave, need, desire, deserve the spanking that is coming - I fight it - the corner helps to disapate the interferning tension. What I hate is when I am ordered off his lap to go stand in the corner. Even with a blistering spanking happening, his lap is comforting and safe and I like it there - to be ordered to go stand in the corner - to have to get up from that comforting connected spot to have to stand in the corner is hard and I will fight it - often to the point of getting a bit more blistering swats until I see the error of my ways. When I get sent to the corner after or in the midst of a canning - it is a different story - I want to go then - to get away, grateful for the time out. The "naughty" feeling that ensues when standing with a red bottom on display always does something to me and makes me tingle. If we are playing then his comments will include touching and noticing that I am wet and aroused - as not only his spanking - but my being compelled to obey will get me turned on.
This is something that I would enjoy partaking in. I think it serves to strip away dignity and some of the power that I enjoy maintaining in real life, but in erotic life -- love having stripped away.
It's always interesting to see how people respond to certain treatments within a kink. Good question Bonnie and associates ;-).
We have used corner time in both a kink and disciplinary context.
Within kink, it's very arousing. I am waiting for something, I know not what. I can't see what she is doing behind me. I am focused on what is to come. We don't do it often in this sense, but it can be quite fun.
Within discipline, it's not always even followed by a spanking (and, thus far, never preceeded by one). It gives me (or my younger parts) a way to calm down, focus, and think about my (their) behavior. Even when I (they) don't think it's working, W. can see a difference, as can they when it's over.
Corner time, I think, is difficult for W. She is not patient, and she has a hard time not talking (in a disciplinary situation). However, it can help us to shift from wrangling and arguing with each other to me (or my younger parts) being able to calm down and accept what she says.
W. enjoys corner time more in a kink situation, because it gives her a chance to enjoy looking at me, and it gives her the ability to meet my needs for domination without necessarily trying to verbally be a top.
Hi Bonnie,
Alex and I do use corner time occasionally, I really do hate corner time but I know and so does Alex that I need it too, actually I spent a few minutes there this morning! He has only sent me to the corner a few times after a spanking and never that I can remember before.. Great topic to discuss, I love reading what others think. Keep up the good work.
Hugs,
Allie
While we have never tried "corner time" per say, we did try something similar. During the time when I was training good girl, there were times when she had to stand in the middle of the room and face forward. It was always fun to spank her like this.
As with Tigger and her husband, Randy and I don’t do discipline in any conventional sense. But I am submissive and he enjoys testing me. Our corner time, when it happens, is often meant to intensify and draw out my submissiveness. Other times, it’s pure role playing fun. In either case, it’s usually a turn-on for me.
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