Five Million Hits

Wahoo! Five million hits! How cool is that?

OK, so how does one celebrate five million of anything? If twenty five is silver and fifty is gold, I suppose five million must be satire. If that's not right, I'll take my spanking later. But for the purpose of this commemorative post, satire it shall be.

I've provided MBS stories, tutorials, and brunches in the form of convenient drop down boxes on the right side of the page. If you haven't looked around, I invite you to tour these highlights. The goofy stuff, however, is randomly sprinkled through two and half years of posts. Until now, that is.

A lot of my satirical material is based upon a fun, albeit frivolous, assumption that recreational spanking is as mainstream as golf or quilting. What would such a world be like?

Well, there would be restaurants, resorts, festivals, fairs, museums, comedy routines, and competitions. There might also be seats of higher learning, and spanking research facilities.

For media, we would have news, classic game shows, television networks, and even radio. Magazines might include horoscopes, etiquette columns, know your (spanko) partner tips, vocabulary builders, and suggestions for naming paddles.

Naturally, we would need home decorating suggestions and consumer products as well.

No spanko's calendar would be complete without National Erotic Spanking Month and Romantic Spanking Month. If that were enough inspiration, this poster would surely make one's imagine drift toward visions of sweetly reddened flesh.

This imaginary world would be a very different place, but I'm quite confident that we'd all fit in quite comfortably. OK, perhaps not all that comfortably, but it would be fun!

Thanks to you, my dear readers. Your continuing support makes this venture worthwhile.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Jan 20

This week, we debated what percentage of the population is spanking enthusiasts. As you can see, there was a lively discussion and wide distribution of opinions.

Lee: I would say so. I doubt that the majority of them live a lifestyle comparable to you and Randy, but the result seems highly probable. Here’s as an example. I worked with a girl this summer who seemed quiet during orientation. She seemed like someone most people would more likely peg as "virgin" than "kinky." She later told me in casual conversation, "Oh yeah, 'Dan' and I do weird stuff all the time. The other night, he definitely broke a paddle over my ass."

Lori: Well, no one has surveyed me or any spanko I know. So there must be a much higher percentage than 13%. Spanking is something about which most people keep quiet. Even if asked, a spanko may choose to answer “no” and thus throw off the result of the survey.

Jessica: I am sure that the statistic is true, if not a low estimate. I don't know that 30 million give hard spankings on a regular basis, but I'll bet more than that dabble.

Paul: I have no idea how reliable that figure is, but if it is good for the US, then we probably have about a 20% figure in the UK. This could be very encouraging.

Mthc: I think the number is probably low, although most people only spank as foreplay, and probably wouldn't admit to it!

JMRPT: Only 13%? I strongly suspect it's higher. Spanking for fun probably would not register as actual spanking for many folk.

David: I believe the number is low. To me, it is something special shared between two people totally committed to each other. Most people are not going to admit to this and share their true feelings with the rest of the world.

Lele: I believe the number is low too, but that could be wishful thinking!

Jeana: I think 13% seems about right. There sure seem to be plenty of people blogging or commenting on blogs about it. Like Bonnie, I have my theories about a few people that I know. Apart from myself and my husband, I have only heard two people bring it up in real life. One was a high school boyfriend who very playfully spanked me with a ping-pong paddle. We talked about taking it further, but it never happened and we broke up. The second was my best friend's husband who dropped by to pick something up one day. I was home by myself and he basically vented to me. Long story short, he had tried it, and she freaked out which led to him feeling like she didn't trust him.

This has nothing to do with the question, but when I try to post things on here it often says it has posted it and then when I look back it isn't there. Any theories?

Jeana, I’m sorry you’re experiencing that problem with Blogger. I’ve seen it before. What works for me is have a Google account and log in before I enter a comment. When I do this, my comments seem to be accepted every time.

Web-Ed: Another survey suggested that among young couples, 25% had at least experimented with spanking, which I find plausible. Unfortunately, as far as I know, there are no reliable figures as to what percentage of the general population we hard-core spankos represent. Based on the great difficulty many of us have in finding spanking partners, as well as other factors, I would estimate the true number is less than 10%, and probably 1% would be closer.

Hi Web-Ed! I’m delighted to have you join us.

Hermione: I agree that it is probably higher, maybe around 20%. More people would tend to deny actual spankings than claim fictional ones.

I would be interested in finding out the percentages by age group and by location within the US. I wonder if more older adults have been spanked, simply because they were exposed to it as children. And, in some areas of the US, corporal punishment at school is still permitted, I believe.

I assume the numbers for Canada would be similar. Since we have assimilated so much of American culture, why not spanking too? And it's a great way to keep warm!

Prefectdt: I would love to be able to believe this figure, but I am always wary of figures that are quoted by a popular source (e.g. a game show) until I find out the source of their information.

If this is an accurate figure, and 13% of people have received a spanking as an adult, that must mean that there is another 13% out there that gave those spankings. That would mean that as a group, we make up over one quarter of the population. That would be nice, wouldn't it :-)

Elle: I don't know much about the US, but where I live, I imagine the figure is MUCH higher. All of my close friends know about my so-called "unusual" sex life and the majority of them have confessed to a variety of related kinks. Not all do, but a lot of them. I've always been fairly open about these things, and I can talk about them. Maybe it's because I'm young, but I really don't see sex, spanking, or anything else I've tried *wink* as shameful or something that we should hide. It's something we should enjoy and not be afraid to say so.

That said, last week I had a semi-public "adventure" with the boyfriend that got me in a lot of trouble with some railway staff... So maybe I'll tone it down a bit.

Bonnie: I really have no idea. My first thought after reading this statistic was the one Prefectdt mentioned. If thirteen percent of adults were spanked, could that mean that a different thirteen percent did the spanking? But that’s probably wishful thinking.

Perhaps the real number depends upon our definition of spanking enthusiast. It’s one thing to take a few quick pops during sex or laugh over birthday swats at a college party and quite another to maintain a catalog of your extensive implement collection (or create 800 blog posts on the subject of spanking). I could easily imagine a quarter of the adult population fitting into the first group. The second group is obviously smaller. The most interesting question for me is How often and under what circumstances do members of the first group join the second? Again, I don’t have the answer, but it’s certainly worth pondering.

Anon: I have read other blogs and I think 13% is about right.

Kiwi: I would say it has to be higher. Most people won’t admit to it for whatever reason.

Thank you, everyone, for sharing your insight!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Jan 6

Our brunch topic for the week was resources for the spanking enthusiast. Here are your thoughts.

PBF: I am sure many potential spankos would search the web. For many people, the web is the first port of call for information.

We do have a few books of a fictional nature on spanking, but mostly we look at the blogsphere for our information.

If I were offering advice to a newbie, I think I would tell them to ask Bonnie!

Terpsichore: When I first decided that I wanted to share my life-long fantasy with my husband several months ago, I was so afraid what he would think. I felt as though there was something wrong with me. So I looked on the internet to research and found Bonnie's site. I have found this website and Bonnie to be so encouraging and helpful to me. MBS also linked me to some other great sites. I now know I am not alone, and instead of being fearful and judging of myself for my desires, I am embracing them. I continue to return to this community for support, advice, and to read everyone's comments and stories. I am forever grateful.

Jean Marie: I think that this topic breaks down along the demographic of age. I have gotten a lot of information about spanking from the Internet and blogs such as yours. But being a female in her thirties, my first source as a lustful girl was paperback books, the smuttier the better. These books subliminally told me that somewhere out there were others who held a prurient interest in seeing a poor girl bared and soundly disciplined. That set me on the path of looking for Mr. Right, who would do it to me, and not settling for anyone who didn't share this fetish.

I must admit that the question initially made me smile, however. I mean, spanking is not rocket science. Or maybe it's similar, because experimentation yields wonderful results... You simply apply hand to tush. I will admit that the first time I expressed an interest in having my bottom caned, I proceeded with a little more caution. The guy in question (who owned his own cane, so I knew that there was something there to be pursued) was asked to demonstrate his technique for me on a pillow first. He did, but went one better by producing Polaroid pictures of lots of ladies’ naked and marked bums that he'd striped. I was impressed, and envious enough to want to join his sorority. I took a much harder thrashing than I first expected, just to have something to show off in front of his camera afterward.

Wilhelmina: I used to come here under another name, so though the name is new, I have been a regular reader and sometime poster here for a while.

The web was the first place I looked too. Given that erotic spanking is our thing, the discipline side scared me when I first started reading. Reading many different blogs helped with this and though we still don't include discipline, I can see how it would work for others.

The tutorials on this site helped a great deal more for my lover than me, as it was me who asked him to spank me.

These days, sites are used more as a way of getting ideas. *wink*

Welcome back, Wilhelmina, and best wishes with your new blog.

Carye: Where would I direct them? To your site, of course! You have some great information and fantastic stories, and so many commenters and readers, your site and several others would be where I would start them!

Ramius: You have an interesting blog.

Welcome, Ramius, and thank you!

Abby: I'll jump on the bandwagon and say this is an excellent place to begin exploring the spanking blogosphere. It's one of the first spanking blogs I discovered, and the rest is history. :-)

A few non-blog recommendations, though:

When I was 18 and a freshman in college with private access to the Internet for the first time, I dove right into searching for spanking sites. I literally lived on Laura's Spanking Corner. It's a collection of stories that span everything from real life childhood recollections to schoolgirl stories to more sexy and/or mature scenarios. It's still there, and still very much recommended.

If one is looking for more visual exploration (of the non-blog variety), I'd recommend Northern Spanking. Yes, it's a pay site, but everyone involved is clearly having so much fun, even when the spankings are more severe, and it's the only place I've ever seen a caning that resulted in giggles. There's some stronger stuff, too, but never squicky. Many of the girls (such as Niki, Adele, and Amy, to name a few) have their own fantastic blogs as well.

Indiana: My take is that for general information, self-acceptance, learning from a wide spectrum of the spanking community and introducing spanking if you have a partner, MBS is the place to go.

For those of us who do not have partners, I also recommend the Shadow Lane web site, especially the classic Stand Corrected, Jr. issues and Eve Howard's columns. These contain advice about dating and party etiquette and safety. The reader surveys also contain interesting information. For example, I was a little surprised (relieved) to learn that most women are not comfortable being marked, as much of what one reads (or especially watches) on the internet might give a different impression. Similarly, they report that half the male readership switch, while most of the female readership prefer a partner who doesn't. Of course, it's not possible to say how representative these surveys are. But most of the information available on the internet is by nature anecdotal, so it's nice to have a broader perspective.

Lori: If someone asked me, I would send them to the same place I started. Right here! Your real life stories, tutorials and brunches were every bit of information that I needed. If someone was looking for more of a DD site, I think I would send them to Cassie's blog to read real life accounts. I'm sure there are plenty of others. That's just one that I frequent.

Mary: I started by searching the internet with words like spanked, discipline, strap, etc. Eventually, I got lucky and found Creative Spanko Wench (Patty's site had a different name originally). I loved her stories. I eventually found Bonnie, and I would definitely point people here now. I also like Journey to the Darkside (Padme is fun). Now, when I have the time to explore further, I link from MBS mostly. I find great links from your blog and it saves time weeding through the endless Google lists.

David: If someone I knew wanted to really find out about a spanking lifestyle, I would send them here or to New Beginnings.

Mthc: There are several I would recommend Here, of course, New Beginnings, Cassie's, and Discipline and Desire.

Paul: Bonnie, I agree with most of your commenters. I actually started with CSW and from there to here.

If I'd been fifty years younger, MBS would have been my first port of call. When I first met Mel, well, we worked it out.

Hermione: Besides the unlimited information on the internet, and on this blog specifically, here are some resources I have used and/or would consider recommending to someone who is curious and wants to learn more about what we do.

Books - There is a wealth of fiction available. Some is good, some not so good. A great little resource is The Compleat Spanker. It's short but comprehensive and covers all spanking-related topics. Consensual Spanking is another. Many books about sex contain some mention of spanking, but not always in a tolerant or informed way.

Television - There is a Canadian show called Kink that follows several individuals over 13 weeks as they pursue their non-vanilla lifestyle preferences. It’s not only spanking, of course, but it's usually included. There are also shows about sex that often have one episode about BDSM.

Workshops - I know of one adult store that holds evening workshops on just about every sex-related topic, including pain and pleasure. I'm sure there are others that do the same. Workshops are also held in major centres by well-known BDSM practitioners. These aren't exactly advertised in the local paper, but you can learn of them through online groups or notices in adult shops.

Videos - There is a video called Nina Hartley's Guide to Spanking that gives a good basic introduction to spanking for couples. However, it also contains a great deal of very graphic, explicit F/F and M/F sex.

Magazines - I can't comment on them because there's a restriction in Canada on articles about subjects considered 'offensive'. Canadians get different versions of quite a few American publications. I remember reading a story in which 'spanking' was obviously changed to 'kissing' and 'hairbrush' became 'lip balm!'

Adult shops - These establishments are a great source of books, videos, toys and information. The staff are usually knowledgeable and will answer questions in an honest and matter-of-fact manner, if you are brave enough to ask.

Happy Twelfth Night!

Raheretic: I would, of course, suggest here as well as Spanking Blog, and Aunty Agony as points of initial information about adult consensual spanking. In terms of a book for beginners, I would suggest The Compleat Spanker.

Jessica: I have never found any real resources outside of the web. Prior to the internet, there was the occasional stray story with spanking in erotic story magazines. MBS is the best resource site I have found so far. There are also some interesting explanations on Wikipedia for BDSM. Who'd of thunk it?

Soma: I just recently started finding information on spanking last fall and this site was the first one I happened across. I went through a lot of the past posts, especially the tutorials, to learn more. I also found the forum/storyboard on Spanking Classics to be very helpful in finding more information about spanking. I got a lot of information from there that helped me learn about spanking and well, lessen my nerves a bit, since this was all new to me. Both this site and that one helped quite a bit in preparing me and making me feel more comfortable for my first spanking that I recently had.

So I would definitely recommend MBS and the other I mentioned for finding more information, especially for a newbie

Hi, Soma! I'm delighted to have you join us.

Paige Tyler: I've actually recommended your blog to several people, Bonnie! You have such fantastic information for newbies!

I also recommend my own website, especially if they're looking for spanking stories to show their significant other. I know it's a bit of shameless promotion, but what can I say?! LOL!

Prefectdt: I started playing long before there was internet. In those days, it was books for info and you had to have the courage to go and look in bookshops. To get information about what was going on in your country, then it was magazines. There was a specialised magazine that published an article on codes used in personal ads in vanilla publications. This helped me to find my first playmates. God, life was hard then.

Now, with websites and blogs, if you’re prepared to look hard and long enough, there is a lot of information out there. One advantage is that you can read about the same subject from many different viewpoints.

For someone who is new to the lifestyle, I would first try to get in contact with an established group for advice and try to speak to somebody who is like you, but more experienced. For example, a male top should try to get advice from an experienced male top, and so forth.

This may be unpopular, but I really would recommend that a newcomer goes to see an experienced and understanding professional for their first "hands on experience." It is expensive, but you will have, at your first play a lot of experience and confidentiality available to you. This way, you can avoid the problems that two inexperienced players may encounter. It also avoids the issues associated with playing with somebody who is less experienced than they say they are (this does happen, and it has happened to me). Even if you can't find a playgroup with lots of members, see if you can see a professional for a little instruction.

Curtis: The person who made me most comfortable with my spanking interest and echoed how I felt was (and probably still is) Eve Howard especially in her various early analytic but very sensual writings.

Elle: I've always been very aware of spanking in a way. I would play games that involved it as a child. I would joke about it as a teenager. It's always sort of been there in my life. But it was only in the past year or so that I started to really seriously consider my position on spanking and S'n'M in a wider sense.

A friend sent me a link to the Wikipedia entry on adult spanking one night, teasing me that, "It sounds right up your street". I had never thought about searching for spanking online, and thankfully when I did, this lovely, warm, friendly blog appeared. If I'd wandered onto a hardcore site first, I think I would have given up the internet up and gone back to fantasizing in my head. It's really nice to be able to read about spanking as part of a relationship, not just as an abstract concept or random picture. From reading this blog and exploring others off it, I've gained a fuller sense of what exactly my interests are (and aren't). I've been able to articulate this, both to my boyfriend and to my curious friends. If any of them ever asked I would send them here, because not only is it one of the best blogs online, but it also has the most comprehensive list of links to others which makes exploring easier and probably safer.

Bonnie: OK, folks. I was totally not fishing for praise or plugs. But thank you anyway.

This blog, quite naturally, covers those aspects of spanking with which I am most familiar. Specifically, we tend to focus on erotic spanking in the context of a committed M/F relationship. I acknowledge that this is but one of many permutations. That is a major reason why my blogroll is as inclusive as it is. I think every blog and web site listed has a message that will be valuable for some readers.

For example, I don’t have much to say about F/M relationships, but Mike does. Similarly, there isn’t much I can add to a discussion about playing at spanking parties, but Doc Tsai, Emmy or Cigi surely can. I have no first hand experience with GLBT or poly relationships, but other members of our community do. Randy and I don’t practice domestic discipline. Nor do we employ heavy bondage. But our spanko blogging friends have intimate knowledge of all these topics.

The point is that no one can be knowledgeable about all things. The next best thing is knowing smart, generous people who willingly share their knowledge and insights. From this perspective, community is the greatest resource of all.

Thank you to everyone who participated in this week's brunch. There were many excellent resources cited and I hope they prove to be helpful for you.

Have a great week and please join us again next Sunday!

Keywords: spanking, spanking resources, spanko, My Bottom Smarts, spanko brunch

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Dec 23

Thank you all for your participation in today’s holiday brunch, and in our brunches throughout the year. Our topic of the week was coping with holiday stress.

Jessica: I was thinking a good brunch topic would be obsessing on spanking. I know you have a story about this. I am finding that I can get into looking at blogs and sites obsessively and I start to neglect other things. Any thoughts?

That’s a good topic and I’ve added it to our list. Thanks!

Sleepygirl: I can tell you what I would like to happen, but it's kind of one of those "want in one hand..." situations. I’d like a good babysitter for the kids, a bottle of Jameson's, and a night to ourselves for our anniversary here in a few days. That would do wonders for my stress level.

As it is, we'll just have to muddle through until it's over.

Perverted but Friendly: We went away on holiday for two weeks just before Christmas. It was an escape from the cold harsh British winter. 25 Celsius temperatures and the clear blue skies of Fuerteventura made us both feel a lot better. It was a vanilla holiday as we took no spanking toys at all.

Stress levels have dropped and we feel fine again.

Happy Christmas and a peaceful New Year to all of you.

Paul: My love lives on, but I have no one to spank. Shame. :(

I have a children's party on Christmas Eve. There will be no spanking. These are the family little ones, so we’ll have lots of love.

As for Christmas Day, it will be just me, my memories, and animals.

Family and friends will come to dinner on Boxing Day. There will be lots of talk and friendship and the love that is between family that are friends as well.

Have a wonderful Christmas, dear Bonnie, and may you be sitting as warm as you wish. *Smiles*

Lori: Now that the shopping is done, cleaning of the house for Christmas guests will begin. We've managed a few good spankings to keep the stress minimized and we will be breaking out the Bailey's tonight. We buy a bottle of Bailey's Irish Cream once a year. It's been our Christmas tradition to share it on Christmas Eve. This year, we are starting one day early.

Happy holiday season to all!

Sara: This year, we have not managed to do a good job of keeping our balance. The long version answer is on my blog. The short version is to focus on what really is important, but how the heck does one do that?

Anyway, I wish you a most wonderful and peaceful holiday!

Paige: I have the sexiest Santa Girl outfit from Victoria's Secret that I wear for my hubby! It's hot pink in color and consists of a very sexy bra, panties, a flirty mini-skirt trimmed with faux fur and a matching Santa hat! He absolutely loves it, which is why he makes my bottom hot pink to match!

Merry Christmas, Bonnie!

Mary: We have a moderate distance to contend with on a regular basis. That means if we get busy, we don't see each other. However, when we’re together, romance just can’t take a back seat. So my back seat is always spanked. It can be the best stress relief I know. I can hardly wait until my next Christmas spanking.

Jean Marie: You can't fall into the doldrums! I feel passionate about this. Yes, the holidays are stressful, but that's no excuse to get bogged down. It's an excuse to liven things up. You've got to spice the season up with more than nutmeg in your eggnog.

Last weekend, my lover and I went to a Dirty Santa party with our vanilla friends. That's where everybody brings a gift, you draw numbers, and open the gifts in that order. You can then steal the freshly opened gift when it's your turn (I'm not explaining this well, but hopefully you all know what I mean). As my boyfriend opened the car door for me to get in on our way there, I let him know that I wasn't wearing panties under my short skirt. His boyish leer told me that he found this hot at first, then his stern dom's face told me to behave myself. All night, he shot glances at me. All night, I shot him flashes of bare flesh.

I drew lucky number twenty out of that many guests. I stole a gift certificate for a spa treatment and massage from a girlfriend for the last turn.

"Oh! I really wanted that, you brat!" she exclaimed as I scampered back to my chair and she had to choose another gift.

"Spank me if I'm such a brat," I retorted and cocked my ass out at her before I sat it down. I could tell by the cool breeze on my bum that cheek was exposed, but everybody was so drunk that only she and my lover saw it. She blushed and smirked at me. My lover smoldered from across the room.

I got a sound spanking as soon as we pulled into our garage over the fender of the car, before the remote-controlled door could even close. I felt his belt over the arm of the living room couch. I got a lesson from my hairbrush in our bedroom. Then he made it all better with lovemaking on the floor.

I've put a switch in my own stocking and come downstairs Christmas morning with the drop seat flap open on my PJ bottoms. I've mooned my lover in front of the TV during the bowl games. I've bratted up a storm. I've come right out and told my man that I need a hard spanking.

You can't give in to the rush, crush, and madness! You have to put on the brakes and feed your soul during this special time of year. And my soul is best nurtured when my bottom is warmed.

Hermione: Christmas is synonymous with stress in our home. We recently had a real gripe session about all the stressful events that would be making up our yuletide celebrations this year. We whined, complained and felt sorry for ourselves for quite a while, and it made us both very unhappy, anxious and angry. Finally, I came out with a grumble about my parents. To my surprise, Ron said, "You're so lucky you have me to discipline you!"

Where did that come from? Did he really say that? The black mood instantly disappeared. I told Ron that was the best thing he could possibly have said, and we talked about the physical effect that spanking-related words have on me. We laughed and hugged and all of the holiday stress was forgotten.

MBS reader Paul has often said that the couple that spanks together stays together, and we'll get through the holidays because we have each other for support. And as Padme Amidala said recently on her blog, "Our force is strong." We are focusing on the quiet time we'll have after the busy-ness is over. We have some plans for our own 'festivities' that will allow us to reconnect in fun and different ways.

Merry Christmas to all my friends at MBS.

Mthc: We like the holidays. We have finished shopping and everything is wrapped. We have traditions like opening a gift on Christmas Eve, going to look at Christmas lights, and watching "It's a Wonderful Life." We've both been sick, but Saturday, we managed to have some playtime. I think that you just do the best that you can and eventually everything will fall into place.

David and I wish you a happy holiday season.

Bonnie: I find the holidays to be a very stressful time. I used to think that things might settle down once our daughter left home, but that hasn’t happened. The real problem is having more obligations than time and energy will allow. I never like to let people down or do less than my best on anything. But something has to give, and ultimately, something does.

Last weekend, Randy had to convince me that I could buy some items I generally make. His method of persuasion was forceful and compelling. The spanking broke through my stress and the lovemaking that followed served to restore the connection between us. I’m probably in need of another dose today, but this treatment lasted for quite a while.

Beyond fun and games, we try to find time where we can be together and sharing enjoyable activities. Even if it’s just a movie and dinner one night a week, it can make a big difference.

PK: I am probably less stressed than most because both Nick and I are laid back in general with all things. But I think there is one thing we do to relax with the loving and spanking part of our relationship. We have finally gotten to the point where we can curl up in bed at night and be very satisfied with touching and rubbing, yet not feel obligated to go any farther if we are not in the mood. We have learned that the touching and rubbing all by themselves are fun and brings us closer. Sometimes, it does lead to more (as I posted about today), but if it doesn't, that's fine.

Anon: The shopping is done, presents wrapped, house cleaned, and cookies baked. While shopping, we bought a large piece of ginger. Tonight will be just for us, a lovely snowball cocktail, playing with the ginger, some spanking, and then some rest!

Blushing Bride: Usually, we're okay at managing everything, focusing on what's important, etc. Lists are my favourite strategy. We set out lists of who needs to do what on which day. We both know what the priority is, no one feels like they're the only one doing everything, and nothing important gets forgotten. We even write in a code (since the lists are on the fridge and visible to anyone that stops by) for spankings and sex.

However, through a series of circumstances that is pretty much unbelievable to have occurred all over the last three weeks, things are more than getting to both of us. We're still trying to follow the lists and just throw out the things that would be nice but aren't all that necessary.

Elle: Well, I am one girl who is not getting ANY kinky fun until Christmas is well over. Since our relationship is relatively new, we are not spending the holidays together. Both of us have gone home to our parents for Christmas. I’m sitting in my teenage bedroom typing this feeling desperate for his hands all over my body. I last saw him on Friday and it was electric. I’ll be sneaking off on Christmas day to phone him up and tell him what I’d like to be doing to him... *sigh*

I’m very frustrated here. He has sworn me to not masturbate so we are both going to be gagging for it by the time we see each other. I bet we don’t make it though. You can imagine what’ll happen if either of us finds out the other didn’t keep the promise. It’ll involve whips.

Happy Christmas to you all.
I’m sorry if I’ve gone on a bit, but when I’m frustrated. I tend to rant. LOL

I wish you all the very best in this holiday season. Come what may, don't let stress get you down!

Keywords: spanking, holiday spanking, spanko, My Bottom Smarts, spanko brunch

In With The New: Thanksgiving Edition

It's been a while since we last introduced great young spanking-oriented blogs, so it's time to remedy that deficiency. Here, for your reading pleasure, are 13 fine blogs to explore and enjoy.

24.7 A Look Inside ABC's of My Life Blistered Butt By Any Other Word Emily Jane, Behave! Growth and Decline I'm Her Husband Lady's Spanking Blog Longing for Discipline Random Perverted Thoughts The Life and Times of Spanko Roomies The Baby Girl

(If I've overlooked other new spanking blogs, please tell me and I will include them as well)

When you visit the blogs presented above, I encourage you to leave a message. New bloggers are typically starved for feedback. They don't know whether they are doing things right or even if anyone is reading. Your support can make the difference between a successful blog and an abandoned effort.

To these new bloggers, allow me to welcome you to our community. I look forward to watching your blogs grow and thrive.

Here are some suggestions I assembled as a guide to enhancing your blog. While it's certainly not the final word, you may find some useful tips.

My Blogging Smarts More Blogging Smarts My Blogging Smarts Again My Blogging Smarts: Balance

I hope you find the spanko blogging experience as rewarding as I have!

Keywords: spanking, spanking blog, spanking blogs, spanking blogger, spanko

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Nov 11

Our brunch topic this week was switching. By that, we don’t mean whipping with a thin branch (although that might make a good future topic). In this context, we are talking about changing roles. Does the spanker ever become the spankee, and vice versa? Here are your experiences and observations.

David: Just today we switched roles and I have to admit that it didn't feel half bad. Would I do it again? Why should I let Mthc have all the fun?

Perverted But Friendly: We don't switch. Sometimes my partner gets the odd spank on her bottom with my hand just for fun, but 99.9% of the time, it's her spanking me. I'm the spankee and she very kindly indulges my kink.

Greenwoman: I am not currently in a D/s relationship with anyone in an active way. But in my last relationship, we had begun to explore on a pretty even basis for a variety of reasons. He felt that I needed to allow the dominant side of my personality have freer rein and that this would bring balance in my life. His interest in exploring submission was also not just a desire for spanking, it was to make him a better dominant.

Despite this switching role for who Tops whom, he was the one who was ultimately in charge and we liked it that way.

Natty: That’s a very timely question as it's been a topic of my blogging of late.

Yes, we do switch. It's something that has come on gradually as he's had more subby phases and I've found topping to be a nice outlet for the control I lack in my life due to illness.

Initially, it was very topping from the bottom for him. He would use my competitiveness as way of getting more effective topping from me. For example, I would have one hour to make him give in or I'd get thrashed. Or he'd just threaten me with a severe spanking if I didn't do a good job.

Our topping or bottoming roles are definitely different. My core role is as a child of sorts (so he's more of a parental figure when he tops) while he prefers more traditional domination when he bottoms.

However, when it comes to disciplinary arrangements, I'm the only one who gets punished for real life stuff. And that's only because it's completely an erotic experience for him whereas for me, given the right context, it can be an effective deterrent.

Jean Marie: My lover and I do not switch. Mine is the only fanny that gets spanked in our household. I must confess that it always takes me aback a bit to read about couples that do switch here on this blog and elsewhere, just as it does to hear about men dominated by women. It just seems foreign to me.

But I must also confess that I am titillated by the thought of playing with another woman, either being spanked by her, or taking the reins and spanking someone else for a change. I've been bi-curious for years, but have never acted on that impulse. I fantasize about gifting my lover for Christmas or his birthday with another woman who would share our bed for the night or the weekend as a threesome. I've written about spanking menage a trois situations, but it's all made-up. I know that he'd find it as arousing as I would.

I just don't know how to go about looking for that certain someone. I can't envision sitting at some college bar, cruising all the co-eds, striking up conversations with those who struck us both as potentially interesting, and then plunging ahead with the question, "How would you like to come home with us for a good, old-fashioned spanking?" I wouldn't be able to get the words out past my blushing giggles. But my panties would be as damp as they are as I type this...

Purple Angel: Yes, my partner and I switch on a regular basis. And we are both accountable to each other. My preferred role is always bottom, but I also enjoy the pleasure he gets when I Top. Just for the record, I do a lot of switching now and have come to enjoy it, as long as I get to have my bottom time as well. A cold backside is a terrible thing!

This Girl: No. we couldn’t. It would spoil the dynamic that we have. I don’t think neither of us could take it seriously if I was to try and top him!

Paul: Mel and I never switched, our changes in roles were much more subtle. Mel was a very intelligent woman, often more so than I, where her knowledge and experience exceeded mine she took the dominant role.

The only place our roles never changed was in the bedroom. Had Mel lived longer, who knows?

Brad: It’s funny how roles have changed over time. As a kid growing up, I spanked lots of girls in the neighborhood and just about every date I had got at least one swat on the rear, including my wife. Also, I attend lots of parties now and probably 80% of my time, I spank the girl.

However, at home, things are different. My wife had no power in her family and loves being able to exert it over me. I get the hairbrush on a fairly regular basis. Now, she will assume the submissive role, but she gets only severe bare bottom rubbings, or sometimes I will scold her but she administers the spanking to me while I am doing the lecturing. Mighty chivalrous of me, don't you think?

Even my party play subs sometimes like to switch roles on me. It’s all fun.

Anon #1: We never switch. I need to be dominated too much. I have to be the boss at work and I really look forward to him taking control at home, I need that to calm me and give me balance.

morningstar: This question is a two parter for Sir and me.

First off, NO, Sir and I would never switch. He is Sir. I am submissive. If, God forbid, we tried to switch? I would never see Sir in the same light again. My Dominant must always be strong and in control. I couldn't see Sir being any other way.

It helps that I don't really have a dominant bone in my body. OK, OK, not a natural one! And yes, that is an arguable point now that Sir and I have a houseboy, drakor, who I am in charge of 99% of the time.

But a quick explanation... drakor has had a number of dominants who did not fill his need. drakor is also a long time friend. He comes to clean the condo every Sunday.

It was not too far a stretch to take him on as 'houseboy'. Most of the sessions with drakor are done by both Sir and me. I am not considered Dominant. I am considered 'alpha sub' or Sir's #1, the 'major domo' if you prefer...

drakor is an addition to our household, on a part time basis. He is owned by Sir.

I am not sure I did a good job answering the question of the week in a condensed version :( But trust me when I say that I could NEVER switch with Sir. That would unhinge the stability of our relationship (Sir's and mine).

Anon #2: We have only recently started spanking and it's me who tends to spank my wife. But we did have a session where she blindfolded me recently and spanked me with her bare hand and then a small leather whip. I want more and I think we will probably have a fairly equal split. For us, it's a wholly erotic thing

Jim: We always dress up for our role-play switch sessions. I have a number of suits that my wife likes to see me in. She has an extensive wardrobe to choose from. We strive to surprise each other.

For example, when I was recently called to her room, I found her dressed as a left-bank Parisian intellectual (circa 1957) and puffing on a fake cigarette. My sartorial response was to pull on bell-bottoms and a stripy top. After a bit of banter and fake apache play, she ended up across the knees of her sailor lover – who had the pleasure of soundly walloping the seat of her pencil slim skirt. And, taking the leather paddle, in one hand, I rolled up that skirt with the other. Her exposed derriere was then spanked, unmercifully, until it displayed all the hues of the French tricolour.

The sailor's wrath abated, it was his turn to experience the thrill of being thrashed by his paramour. This was a voluntary action on his part. He understood his woman's desire to redress the temporary imbalance of power between them. His pride, in having the fortitude to endure the savage strokes of the cane she wielded, was manifest also in a triumphant penis – ready to perform the climactic act of their lusty encounter.

Anon VII: My answer is, "Well, often maybe sort-of, but never really." By that, I mean that she frequently nails me with a playful or affectionate pat, pinch, or even an occasional swat (sometimes rather hard!) with the hand, as I do with her when we're not into the heavy-duty activity. In those situations, there is no real top or bottom, no dom or sub. It's mutually enjoyed, playful affection. In the more serious situations, however, I'm invariably the top, although, as I've said in previous postings, my topping is never of the heavily dominating or punitive sort. Her wants, which tend to vary within the rough-and-tumble playful to intensely erotic range, with the former often proceeding into the latter, are always very important to me. It might be said, therefore, that we occupy something of a gray area in which top and bottom roles are not so rigidly defined, which means that the issue of switching or non-switching isn't one that we ever really confront.

Todd and Suzy: We had a very similar topic in our Roundtable this week. We asked about readers’ spanko 'role' and how flexible they are in terms of changing it. We asked because of how many people we know that have changed their 'label' in the time we've known them.

For us, as a couple, we don't ever switch. I am the spanker and Suzy is the spankee. In a party setting, though, Suzy enjoys playfully spanking other females. She's also open to playful being spanked by females, and she might even be willing to spank a guy. So, her role there is very flexible. I'm still only interested in being a top, no matter the situation.

Anon #3: Yes, we sometimes switch. I suggest a game of dice when I feel an urge to spank Sue's svelte rear, for no reason, and perhaps risk my own. The rules are very simple. Each of us throws a die. The highest number spanks and the total of both dice is the number of swats. Two further throws decide the implement and the clothing. We agree beforehand the number of games. The loser has to do exactly as they are told. Any argument or refusal earns a caning.

I remember quite well, one evening when I was just longing to get my hands on Sue's bottom, but for four throws she won. I was well bent over for strap, paddle, switch, and hairbrush mainly on the bare. My sore rear was dreading the fifth throw. We each threw a five. This means we throw again. Sue threw another five. Oh no! I threw a six and I watched with glee as the dice choose 21 swats with the paddle on her knickerless bottom. My own bottom encouraged me to lay on twenty one juicy ones, as she arched over the chair back. From then on, my luck changed, and Sue earned four more good spankings, whilst I got a good dose of the hairbrush over her knee, which I loved. After five wins each, it was time to celebrate on the fireside rug, my smarting bottom helping me to give her a real seeing-to, as her equally sore bottom squirmed on the rug.

Hermione: We never switch. I did ask my husband once if he wanted me to spank him. Not that I felt any desire to, but I wanted to show willingness to reciprocate, and to give him as much pleasure as he was giving me. But he said no. He was the spanker and I was the spankee.

We were debating the possible outcome of an upcoming election recently, and Ron wanted to make it interesting. "How much do you want to bet?" he asked me. I replied, "A spanking". The look of dismay on his face was priceless! "But I don't want a spanking!" he wailed.

Outside the bedroom, we each have our areas of expertise and our own responsibilities. When we can't come to an agreement or reach a compromise, Ron casts the deciding vote.

Mary: We don't switch. He was quite clear when I mentioned the topic today that he would not switch. Which is just perfect, because I have no desire to spank him, and I absolutely love being spanked by him. The idea of a house boy – or even girl – totally delights me in theory. Mostly because I can't seem to keep up with the house and my bottom is currently well bruised and sore on account of that failing.

The closest we get to switching is when I am allowed to tie him up. This was done as a fantasy gift from me to him. I loved teasing him mercilessly with my tits in his face or near his hands just out of reach or sucking him hard with him helpless to do anything but enjoy. Of course, my bottom got a spanking when I was through delightfully torturing him for being such a naughty tease. It is all part of the grand plan to me. I like control if it is to tease him and make him wait to have access to me, but beyond that, he is totally in charge of what happens and it always my bottom that gets spanked.

Jen: We rarely switch. In the beginning, he would let me spank him with my hand, but I could tell he only occasionally enjoyed it. Now that he has recently started to really take control of our sex life, he is very much the authoritative spanker and I am the erotically satisfied spankee.

I'm sorry, but I want and enjoy all the fun to be on my bottom. Because I am so dominant in every other area of my life, it really nice to have my man in total control in the bedroom – who wishes to please me (and my bottom) in every way.

Kayley: We can't switch. As Paul puts it, I can be dominant and I tend to be so with everyone. But in my fantasies, and his as well, in bed I am the bottom. And I love it.

Lula: We don't switch. Neither of us has any desire to switch. However, for our first spanking ever, we had seen a movie with spanking and were both intrigued and we experimented with him spanking me then me spanking him. Outcome of that "experiment" was that I love being spanked and he loves spanking me, and NOT the other way around at all! Since then, we've never looked back!

As others have commented, I'm in control of so much else – at work, with the home, the finances, etc. I like to give up that control between the sheets (or on top of them, beside them, etc.)!

Our Bottoms Burn: We both have controlling personalities and we both switch. Our spanking is faithfully erotic and our submission to the other only lasts for a few minutes. Usually, one of us is the top for the session. Less frequently, we take turns warming each others bottoms. Today was one of those more rare days.

Him: The sort version is that we switch, and I can't claim to have a favorite role (both sides of the paddle are great). She, however, seems to enjoy being the spankee more than the spanker.

I go into a little more detail on our blog, but there you are!

Anon #4: This has been the topic of many a conversation between my Dom and me. He will not switch. He is too dominant and I am not allowed to even think about changing roles. During playful exchanges, I have been known to swat in passing and it is always reciprocated with a firm reminder of my true role in our relationship. He tells me that if I want to switch, I need to find myself a nice subbie boy to spank. But it is not going to be him. This is fine with me because I love being his sub.

Joni: Jim has more than 40 employees he can lord it over if he wishes. I am at the top of my profession too. There is no need for a casting vote in our home. We are both rational adults.

Our play is not about dominance. It is about pleasing each other. I have a child within me. And he has too.

Bonnie: For Randy and me, switching just doesn’t fit. Whatever else it is, spanking serves as the centerpiece of our erotic relationship. While our roles are somewhat flexible, the real turn-on for both of us is him spanking me (and everything that surrounds that act). Switching, for us, would feel like rubbing a cat’s fur from tail to head. Besides, as Randy occasionally points out, I’m the one with “padding in all the right places.”

Thank you all for joining in our brunch discussion!

Keywords: spanking, spanking roles, switching, spanko, My Bottom Smarts, spanko brunch

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Nov 4

Our topic for this brunch was asking. Is it all right for the spankee to ask to be spanked or to ask for more? Or does that constitute topping from the bottom? Here's what you said.

Perverted but Friendly: We are slightly unusual spankos as we normally discuss the spanking first and I get to add my input, then I get spanked. Sometimes, I do ask for more or harder swats, but I think that my partner has the measure of what I need, so that does not happen often.

Anon VII: Addressing this issue from the spanker's perspective, if I may, I have no problem with being asked (or better, invited, ideally by wordless action and/or look) to administer a spanking. Since I'm not into either punishment or dominance, but very much into the erotic/sexual aspects that often begin playfully, I like to know as exactly as possible what she does and doesn't want.

Sometimes it's discussed, but often that, too, is wordless. She might leave an implement in plain sight (often on my desk), stretch across my lap ostensibly to get something off the table beside the couch, or emphasize the bending over to pick something up off the floor. To me, her wants are every bit as important as mine, so I'm not bothered by "topping from the bottom" so long as it's not done in a commanding or petulant fashion.

Robin: Oh, that’s absolutely reasonable. As much as I would like DH to take charge and just do it, there will always be times when I want/need a spanking and DH is not in that mind space. If I don't say anything, he's not going to know, and as irrational as it is, I will get frustrated and irritated with him for not giving me the spanking I want/need. I have to remind myself that DH is not a mind reader.

As for asking for more, I suppose it would depend on the type of spanking. Our spankings are play/erotic. Asking for more or harder or whatever, seems reasonable. I have made comments during a spanking, but how the spanking goes is ultimately up to DH. If we were doing disciplinary or punishment spankings, I don't think it would be appropriate for me to comment about quantity or intensity during the spanking. It would be too much like questioning his authority.

I sometimes set out my preferred implements, and DH will most likely use them. But if I don't set out what he prefers he'll get them out and use them anyway.

I may ask to be spanked. I may suggest implements, positions, intensity, quantity, etc. While DH does listen, he's in charge and may or may not do as I suggest. And I prefer it that way.

Todd and Suzy: We think it's reasonable for a spankee to make requests. But it's not always practical. Having to come right out and SAY what is wanted changes the dynamics. It doesn't feel very submissive and thus takes something away from the experience.

So, we have little playful 'rules' that lead to a spanking if they're broken. Nothing bad happens if the rule is broken. We're talking about things like having to shave or not leaving dirty clothes on the floor. By breaking one of these silly rules, the "I want a spanking" signal is sent.

Some would say this is topping from the bottom, and they're probably right. It works for us, though, so... So what! It's better than having to directly ask.

As for more swats, or harder/softer requests, Suzy has subtle ways of letting those desires be known. For example... “Have you learned your lesson…?” “What lesson, sir?” LOL Okay, maybe it's not so subtle!

Also, it has helped that we've communicated so openly about spanking through the years.

Natty: Oh, I think it's certainly appropriate to ask. Personally, though, I hate asking. Like Todd and Suzy mentioned, asking changes the dynamic, and I like to feel that it's something I don't have a choice about. Sometimes, out of desperation (usually at bedtime), I might ask for a spanking, and then it comes outs something like "CanIhaveabedtimespanking?" You know, I try to get it out there as fast as possible so that the taste of asking leaves quickly.

A. and I have talked about implementing some sort of system where one of us will wear something that's a signal that he or she is in the mood for a spanking. And if during the spanking it's not hard enough, I tend to say something like "Please don't spank me more, Sir!" Something really smart-assed also does the trick. ;-)

Lula: Yes, I think it's reasonable for a spankee to ask for a spanking. We're new spankos, and for now, we communicate about everything. I have asked for both less and greater intensity. I have also "checked" to make sure a spanking was not over when my spanker has given me a break (during which his hands wander to other parts of my body). I would imagine that, as we gain more experience, we'll use words less and communicate in other ways. I'm seeing this start to develop already. But for now, we're definitely fine with me asking to me spanked, for a particular implement, for a harder spanking, etc.

Dove: I also think it is appropriate, and when in a new spanking relationship, entirely necessary.

Jack: At the very beginning of my spanking journey, I asked few times to be spanked longer and harder. This was because my wife was afraid that she might injure me and spanked very lightly.

Now, after five years of experience, she spanks hard and it’s never too light or to short.

However, asking to be spanked is something that we find to be a turn-on. From time to time, when she schedules a spanking, she orders me to come to her and ask to be spanked on certain day, or/and at a certain time. If I forget, I get extra punishment.

Sara: I also think it is not only appropriate, but necessary to develop good enough communication so the spanker knows what the spankee feels, thinks, needs, etc. In disciplinary spankings, I would not comment, but even with these, we sometimes talk maybe the next day, and assess how things went. I might then say what I think. It really is possible to communicate without taking control.

Paul: We were rather relaxed about rules. Mel rarely asked for a spanking in words. There were so many ways that she could show by actions what she wanted.

She always got what she needed and was mostly happy.

Jean Marie: Normally, my thought process runs in the opposite direction. I'm biting my lip or chewing my cheek while lover-boy is working my other set of cheeks fiercely. I'm usually thinking something like, "Ouch! Geez, go easy there, big fella! Youch! I'll be good! I promise..."

But every once in a great while, the endorphins kick in early, and I feel like Wonder Woman. I honestly feel as though I could take it all night long. I don't ask for more; I brat for more. I stick my ass out and say something like, "Gee, I thought you said I was gonna get spanked... If I'd known I was in for a session of patty cake, I'd have put my hair in pig-tails... Are you gonna thrash me or tickle my tush?"

I've never been disappointed. In no time I'm thinking, "Ouch! Geez, go easy there, stud! Youch, that stings! Okay, I'll be good... promise!"

Morningstar: Boy, that is a debate we have had more than a few times around here. Do I have the right to ask for a session?

Sir has always said, "Yes, I have the right to ask – respectfully.” But that does not mean I am going to receive one... The final decision, as with all things, is up to Him.

During a session, do I have the right to direct the session? No, I don't. Do I? You betcha! But only in a nonverbal manner.

If I want more intensity, I stick my ass further out. Sometimes, I have been known to actually wiggle my ass (in a cheeky fashion) at Sir.

If I want less intensity, I usually without thought move away from the hits and try to "escape."

Do either of these messages get through to Sir? Yup, every time. Does He do anything about them? Sometimes yes and sometimes no. Again, it is entirely up to Him what I get or don't get.

I think the most difficult situation is when I don't want a session to end. I want it to go on forever and ever, but Sir decides for whatever reason the session is over. I have been known to pout (very un-subbie like for sure). But after six years of being with Sir, I know He stops things only because there is a very good reason!

Jammin: Yes, I think it’s reasonable to ask for a spanking. Most of my spankings are erotic/sexual. So I don’t think I'm topping from the bottom. Usually, I will let my lover know with body movements such as shaking my rear at him, being cheeky, or little sounds like giggling, moaning, sighing, etc. He knows me so well that he gives me what I need. I don’t get to pick positions or implements or how hard or soft, but I love having a warmed up rear.

Hermione: There does seem to be a fine line between a sub expressing his or her needs and topping from the bottom.

Our spankings happen on a specific day and time, and this is a very comfortable and reassuring arrangement. I can experience excitement, anticipation, apprehension, and fear without needing to wonder if or when it will happen. The downside is that no amount of hinting, dressing up, or just plain asking will make the appointed hour come any sooner, and no extra spankings happen in between. My husband knows I'd like them more often. But being a sub means accepting my Dom's decision.

The choice of implement is entirely up to my husband. I might mention some time beforehand that he hasn't used the belt (or whatever) for a while, and he'll usually take the hint. But since I was the one who assembled our collection, anything he decides to use pleases me. I love surprises and Ron enjoys my reaction when he shows me what he has in store for me.

One of the recent brunches dealt with the topic of counting, and I had planned to use this as a way of asking for more swats. Recently, during a session with our favourite implement, Ron stopped spanking my bottom and started rubbing it. That was fine, but then his fingers strayed to a more intimate area, signaling that the spanking was over. I quickly found my voice and asked for six more hard ones. I got more all right, hard and harder. And not just six, but as many as he felt were needed. That did the trick, because I have not had any reason to complain about either quality or quantity since.

I had a bit of a dilemma when I wanted to try a new spanking position. Should I say something in advance, or wait until zero hour? Would he refuse? Should we have a walkthrough? I rehearsed the scene over and over in my mind, tried it out in private, and worried for two days straight. Then, when the spanking was actually imminent, I simply 'assumed the position'. Ron took it from there, and we both enjoyed it immensely.

This seemingly simple business of spanking and being spanked comes with such a plethora of rules, rituals, signals, and secret handshakes. And they are all of our own making.

Radha: In the beginning, I used to ask for a spanking. But now, it’s not so much. I usually lay out the implements that I would like to include in the evening's spanking. If the paddle comes out, it is an indication that I want something harder. If nothing is out, then Krishna uses his hand. But, of course, he can choose whatever he wants when he wants. This seems to be working for us now. Maybe things will change when we are done testing our limits.

Jeana: Yeah, I think it is reasonable to ask, although I never ask with words. He can normally take a subtle (or sometimes not so subtle) hint. Sometimes, I ask him to spank me harder because he is still kind of paranoid about hurting me. He doesn't mind if I ask. He says he likes it since we are both new at this.

Paige: I totally like to top from the bottom! And although my hubby lets me, he chuckles and reminds me that he's supposed to be in charge of spankings! LOL!

Mthc: Not only do I think it's reasonable, but I ask for certain positions as well. Ours is a mutual fun relationship and usually ends sexually. Big Evil grins!

Prefect DT: As far as asking for a harder spanking goes, I find that nine out of ten times a woman will not spank hard enough for me the first time we play together. So I have to ask for more. But when you think about it, that is just he spanker being sensible.

Abby: At the very beginning of our romantic relationship, when we moved from being friends in love with one another to being actual lovers, we talked about what we wanted from our spanking relationship, especially as we'd both been away from it for years. My clearest memory of that conversation is of him telling me, "Sometimes I'll want you to ask for more." Sometimes I'm embarrassed to do so, but I know both asking for more and that little bit of shame that comes with asking for it are turn-ons for him. I think asking for it actually gives him more power, because it's me saying "I want you to take control of me that much more."

Him: My response is posted at Lost in Our Eyes.

Bonnie: Randy says that I am absolutely welcome to ask for spanking or more spanking whenever I please. However, he has made it equally clear that everything that happens afterward is up to him.

He figures that if I am in a state where I need to ask, a simple bottom warming won’t be sufficient. When I ask, his response is usually a fast, hard paddling. It’s usually more than I think I want, but often precisely what I need.

As I’ve described before, we also have a variety of non-verbal signals. Examples include wearing thong-style panties, bending over right in front of him, and laying out an implement. These work quite well (and occasionally too well!). We have a lot of fun with spanking and when I initiate, it doubles our opportunities for play.

Carye: I do request spankings at times. But most of the time, PS can tell when it is needed. As for how hard, PS usually knows what I need. He has taken to asking whether I want some "hard" swats at the end of a spanking. I usually do! And he always gives them to me. We've incorporated this routine as a way to build up the intensity for me, and to let him know how intense I'd like it to be.

I think this was one of our best brunches. Thank you to everyone who contributed. Please be sure to join us next week for more of the same.

Keywords: spanking, asking, spanko, My Bottom Smarts, spanko brunch

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Oct 21

Our topic this week was maintaining a record of spankings, be it paper or electronic. Here are your thoughts.

Sara: I did keep a record, as integrating spanking in our marriage as part of DD, came with many life and relationship changes. I wanted to be able to see it clearly now, and later when I look back, too. A lot of it is too private, but that is also why I started my blog, for the things I can share.

As for photos and/or videos...how horrifying! I am afraid I would be scarred for life!

Carye: We don't keep one, but it could be fun. I think I would like remembering every detail and using it to fuel additional fantasies! Ah, but I'd be afraid of the kidlets finding it! So, I guess for now, I won't :-)

Emmy: My Mentors and I have recently decided that a punishment log would be good for the both of us. It is just a simple spiral bound notebook with three sections. One contains rules we have set between us. The second is the log of rules broken with punishment recorded. The third is for any writing assignments he might decide to give me.

There are many positives to this log. It proves to both of us that my mentorship/training is taking a turn for the better and that I am improving my behavior.

Would I show it to anyone? Probably not. It’s for Don, Ana, and me, and is for our eyes only.

After three months, I only have four infractions, and only one of them was major.

Jean Marie: I keep a journal, and a lot of my reflections get transformed into fictionalized short stories. I have scores of bound composition books dating back to my first time as an adult being taken OTK in college. And, yes, I go back and reread accounts from the past when I have time, such as during the summer. I've spent lots of afternoons at the public pool circumspectly reading marble-covered volumes with the gusset of my bathing suit bottoms drenched with arousal, and no one being any the wiser.

I must say that I'm a little envious of all the girl-next-door types who publish blogs with membership sites where they display nude photos of their freshly spanked derrieres. I'm 35 (and you have no idea of the nerve it took to just write that openly) and when I was an actress/model in L.A. fifteen years ago, I had a world-class ass, and I have always been able to take a hell of a spanking. I could've made a fortune and a name for myself. But back then, I did absolutely no nudity and spanking was very closeted (I usually didn’t reveal it to boyfriends until months into a relationship).

I do respect the women who are my age and older who are open and out-there about their orientation. Sassy who runs Spanking Digest comes to mind.

I'm titillated by the thought of videotaping a sensual escapade or punishment session, but I don't have the cajones. I have had lovers take Polaroid pictures of my bottom after certain milestone events. Color shots of the first time I was paddled with a hairbrush until I bruised, and most of my canings are immortalized in a shoebox on a shelf in my walk-in closet. Many times, boyfriends were just as interested in taking snapshots of my tear-stained face. I think they enjoyed seeing my haughtiness humbled. I've let lovers keep those when we split-up, but never one of my tanned tushy.

In summary, I secretly dream of being a spanking model for the world to see. But in reality, my bared and/or chastised butt is for two pairs of eyes only. It's just as private as the lovemaking that usually follows.

Dove: I have a now private journal for spanking for when I want to remember a particular time or session. I would love photos, but can't get ML enthused about that one. However, they would never be posted on my blog. That's for sure.

D and S: We do take the odd photograph of my spanked bottom. In a rash moment, we decided to make a blog, “My Spanked Cheeks.” But we got cold feet (which makes a change from a warm bottom) after some friends were outted by a newspaper about their nudist activities. We were scared that our spanko lifestyle would also be outted, so we panicked a bit and deleted the blog.

We may return to the blogsphere, but for the time being, I keep a private blog.

littleone: Sliding in quietly on this early Sunday morning, and grabbing a big cup of coffee as I work my way over to a quiet corner...

Yes, we do keep records of our spanking sessions. It’s not always, but most of the time. They are sometimes in the form of photos, but I always make entries in a private journal to Sir. A goodly number of times, I post about it on The Journey. Yes, sometimes I do even post pictures, but only of my ass. I too fear a little bit being outted.

This record is kept because I enjoy going back over the words and photos, usually on an anniversary. I have even (OK, OK, this might be a bit odd for some) made Sir a scrapbook of spanking shots and more private moments for our anniversary this year (number 6).

Moves back to my corner to listen to others and sip my coffee.

LynLass: Sometimes yes and sometimes no. Usually I write if it's something new. I record what was good and what didn't work. Or if it's a bad experience, I process what went wrong in writing. I'm also working on a recall of childhood spankings and fantasies. All are kept in securely locked files on the computer. I'd share those on an individual basis, but not on my blog. They provide background for some posts that I'm working on.

I did a series of pictures one time that showed the process of bruises fading following a spanking and shared them with one person. They may show up on another website without any identifying information.

I suspect my reluctance to share any further than this is the feeling that this is a special part of my life, shared only as I trust someone.

Hermione: I'm afraid I have to say none of the above. We do not do punishment spanking, so there is no need for a record. And while we have been engaged in the lifestyle for many years, my husband and I are just starting to become more open about it with each other, as a result of all I am learning on this and other blogs. That openness means talking to each other about it more and in a natural, relaxed way. We are not ready for photos or videos.

The idea of a journal appeals to me. I would consider keeping one in order to record thoughts and ideas for an attempt at writing fiction. Privacy is always the issue, and I would not feel comfortable sharing it, but I am definitely interested in starting one. If I did manage to write stories, I would definitely share them in some manner, possibly in a blog.

Jim: We did have pictures, stored at Yahoo, at which we would occasionally gaze fondly. However, they were all deleted three weeks ago when Yahoo closed their picture files. The problem we have now is that both our daughters have moved back home (temporarily). As a result, opportunities for play have become very precious and having pictures floating around on the computer would raise anxiety.

If I may go slightly off-topic, can I ask our fellow brunchees if they have ever been particularly inspired – in their personal playing – by a photograph of a spanking?

Lost In Our Eyes: We don't have an official record keeping system, and we honestly haven't been playing long enough to have the urge to reminisce!

We do tend to take pictures, both for our blog and to let the spanked party see what the spanker is seeing.

On a related theme, I've started to keep a log of my offenses for Her review. That might translate into spankings later, but it's the only standardized records we have!

Paige: My hubby's taken my picture after a spanking, and though they're for our own personal use, it's a huge turn on!

David: I have never kept a journal, but I do have pictures of Mthc after our spanking play. I would never share these with anyone but my Mthc

Paul: Mel and I thought about keeping a record of her punishments, and we did for a while. But as the punishment aspect began to fade, so did the record.

As for a photographic record, had digital photography been around, certainly. But not having either the knowledge or desire to develop our own film, it wasn't possible.

Mthc: We have pictures, but they are private. Since I have a home daycare center, we have to be very careful.

Mary: When we first started spanking we would e-mail. I loved to explore the feelings that I experienced and shared every aspect of them with my partner. I originally printed some of the letters and then felt embarrassed by the possibility that they might be found, so I felt content to lock them on the computer. Later, the computer truly crashed and I lost them all. He thought he had them stored in his email account, but discovered that many were automatically deleted due to the time frame. I still feel sad when I think of those letters being lost. I really had wished to save them to review and revisit the feelings of those first spanking experiences. There have been a couple of pictures. It indicates an enormous amount of trust to have those pictures taken. He has sent them to me on occasion to remind me to "be good."

Pandora Sox: We sometimes take pictures. I sometimes write special letters to my Man to recollect our special moments of love and spanking. Sometimes, it is only kept as a shared memory, and other times, I make a post about it on my blog.

Scout: Jim has taken pictures, and although he's shown them to me, he retains possession and they're downloaded to his personal computer. I've sent recounts of diet spankings to Todd and Suzy, and a couple of others here at MBS, but we haven't kept a written record for the most part. I'd be awfully afraid of my kids discovering them on my computer, which is the one they use when they have schoolwork or want to play games. It's intriguing, though.

Dixie: I don't necessarily keep an official log of the spankings that I receive.

In the beginning of my relationship with my Dom, we discussed keeping a log, especially since we are long distance, but it never materialized. However, he says that he keeps a generic list in my folder on his computer.

There are some pictures of my spankings, some I have shown and others are for our eyes only. Some can even be seen at random times on my blog.

Most of the pictures that catalog my spankings show fun spankings. There are a handful of maintenance ones thrown into the mix. I have not taken any pictures after my punishment sessions. I have given thought to the benefits of that though.

I have a small number of short videos of some fun sessions taken with my digital camera. I have shown them to friends, but never in a more public setting and I’m not sure that I ever will. It’s not because they are private, but just because they are mainly so old and dated.

I guess that is the majority of my two cents. ~smiles~

Bonnie: I am a journalist by training and nature. I tend to write things down. A number of years ago, I began creating accounts of particularly noteworthy spankings. Those stories eventually became the foundation of this blog.

There are a lot more spankings than stories, both because of time constraints and because many spankings are simply routine, necessary, and utilitarian. But I still try to capture the best.

Randy has taken photographs for years. They’re fun to review, but I can’t imagine sharing them with anyone, let alone posting them on the blog. I’ve often heard that the camera adds ten pounds. Well, if said camera is pointed at my butt, it adds more like thirty!

Years ago, Randy borrowed a friend’s VHS recorder. As I recall, he wanted to record our daughter’s softball game. He thought it might be fun to memorialize a good, hard spanking as well. When I saw the results, I was horrified. The issue was not the spanking itself, but the unflattering fashion in which I was exposed. It might as well have been a porno flick. Randy said he destroyed the tape, but I wouldn’t be surprised if he still has that video hidden somewhere.

To address Jim’s question, we have definitely been influenced by both photos and stories. We’re always looking for a new spanking approach or scenario. The internet is an endless source for ideas!

Robin: The closest thing to a journal or log would be my blog, and obviously that gets shared :P

DH has taken pictures, but since he feared that someone else might see them, I think he deleted them. I don't mind the pictures, and I kind of wish he'd take some more that I could keep on my computer (it’s totally password protected so NO ONE, not even DH can see anything without my OK). I’m not so comfortable with audio or video. I don't think I would ever share photos, etc. Words only :)

Thanks to everyone who contributed to our discussion! I hope you'll stop back next week.

Keywords: spanking, spanking records, spanking accounts, spanking photos, spanking keepsakes, spanko, My Bottom Smarts, spanko brunch

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Oct 14

Our topic this week was spanking rooms, both those we use today and those we'd love to own. Here are your thoughts.

Todd and Suzy: Our favorite room is the bedroom, which is a good thing since it's close to the only room we ever use for spanking. In any other room, privacy becomes a real issue.

The bed has to be our favorite piece of spanking furniture. It's extremely versatile, allowing several different positions. It's also comfortable, and convenient for the fun we like to have after the spanking is over.

We also have a large chair on our bedroom. We often use that for more playful type spankings.

An ideal spanking room for us would be TOTALLY private, first and foremost. It would have lots of different furniture options (school desk, spanking bench, etc). It would also be in Maui!

Marcus and Deborah:

• Bathroom: Hairbrush and /or Bath brush
• Bedroom: Belt, Cane, Hairbrush, Paddle, and /or Switch
• Kitchen: Metal Spatula and /or Wooden Spoon
• Living room: Belt, Birch, Cane, Hairbrush, Paddle, and /or Switch
• Office: Cane, Hairbrush, Paddle, and /or Ruler
• Favorite Room: No favorite, we like them all

Deborah and I like all the implements in all the locations. However, there are times when implements have a greater impact based on the location and spanking type. For this reason, we select a certain implement to heighten pleasure. For instance, we use the bath brush and /or hairbrush for bathroom spankings on a wet, bare bottom. While in the bedroom, we like to use pillows with a belt, cane, and /or paddle. When it comes to the kitchen, the metal spatula and /or wooden spoon comes in handy, especially when she is cooking and gives a sassy reply about what is cooking. In that event, it is her bottom!

Living room spankings tend to be with the belt, birch, cane, hairbrush, paddle, and /or switch. Any number of them or even all of them can and will be used. The couch gives wonderful possibilities for a sound spanking whether OTK or leaning over the back of it. I have already been notified that should I come through the door with an outrageous attitude that I will be receiving the appropriate adjustment, couch or no couch. It might just be hands against the wall, pants and undies down, and bottom out for the blistering of my life!

Lastly, the office is usually used for punishment spankings or secretary spankings. Deborah loves being my secretary, and sometimes she simply requires a spanking for getting behind in her work. When she gets behind in her work, I get a behind to work on. Typically, office spankings are performed with the cane, hairbrush, paddle, and /or ruler. No matter where the spankings are or which type, spankings have a special place in our lives. We simply couldn't imagine our lives without them!

Natty: I live in a studio apartment, so at this time, we don't have a lot of choice. The bed is pretty much the focal point of all our spankings (though we'll probably be getting a sofa/futon soon and I can imagine it'll get lots o' spanking use).

I've always dreamed of having a writing studio/office in a large garden shed (saw it once in a Mary Englebreit magazine). So, I could always be threatened with being taking out to the shed. Inside, it would have a large desk, a smaller student desk, a chalkboard, and probably a sofa/futon of some sort. And, of course, there would be a peach tree and a birch tree just outside the shed. You know, along with the flower-lined window sills... ;-)

lessa{D}: We have a room in the souterrain which we use mostly as our playroom. It has a fysiotherapy massage table which was altered by DragonM to add extra eyes to tie me down. I do love that room, but also the bedroom upstairs that we changed into my libary. It has a real big couch were I can be over his lap. grinnnn...

Those implements can be taken everywhere, which is a good thing since we visit play parties a few times a year. A close friend of ours has a real play dungeon and that I absolutely adore...

My favorite spanking implement would be either his hand or the flogger... I can't really choose...

Paul: The bedroom has to be my favourite and the bed because it's big and there is very little that can't be done on or in it. The bedroom was always for fun and erotic spankings, with hand, belt, strap, tawse, cane and switch. Mel would be spanked in any room in the house if she bratted or teased. The bathroom was always good because she was usually wet and the sting factor went up. The office was used for punishments, and schoolgirl teacher scenes, which were Mel's favourites.

Any place is good for spanking if you have privacy and the desire. Our motto was the couple that spanks together, stays together.

Jean Marie: In past relationships, I've been spanked mostly in the bedroom. This is due to how aroused we get, and how easy it is to segue to love-making right after (or during) spanking.

I've consciously tried to mix it up while living with K, aided by the fact that he lives in a marvelous big house. I need only misbehave and shoot my lover a look, and he's pulling my clothing off, and "Viola!" we've christened another room. Some past playtimes include:

• Being punished and then taken from behind bent over a rumbling clothes-dryer in the utility room
• Being bent over his work bench in the garage and whipped with an electrical cord
• Being spanked while I cooked his breakfast, which I ate while he sated another appetite on the breakfast-nook table

I'd have to say that I love it best outdoors in the fenced-in backyard. It's super sexy being bared whether in sunlight or star-shine, whether up-ended over the patio furniture, roasted over the unused grill, or tied to a tree and switched...

I'd love to redecorate the game room as a full-on dungeon. The reinforced chandelier would hold my weight if he wanted to tie me to it on tip-toes. I would place a spanking bench in the center of the room and hang all of our implements on the walls. I’d want to be able to photograph and video tape our sessions, so tripods would be set up. In one corner would be a stall, for when I dress up as a pony-girl and offer my haunches to the dressage whip. In another, a schoolroom would be set up for when the cheerleader needs the ruler or the bad girl needs the cane. But K is a businessman who entertains clients in our home, and that would be a bit too provocative. But a girl can dream.

David: I would have to say the bedroom on the bed. The ping pong paddle is Mthc's favorite, but she is starting to like the flogger as well.

Sarah: I am flat sharing for now, so I need to take opportunity while alone. Since I'd have difficulty explaining myself were I caught with a belt, bath brush, or paddle in the living room, I always play in my bedroom. After much experimenting, I've concluded that these three objects are best when playing alone. Unfortunately, I have no partner at the moment. I usually lie on the bed, but sometimes stand up for the paddle.

I would love to have a partner and use a remote cottage, with access to a low fence. My absolute favorite "scene" is getting the belt while bent over a fence.

Mthc: The room most used is the bedroom. This morning already I have found myself across his knee on the edge of the bed taking some of Paul's birthday spanking.

David will use any room in the house. In the kitchen, it's nothing to have to bend over when he gets home from work and feel the spatula. In the sun/computer room, he has a paddle as well as a fly swatter, ruler, and bungee cord. In the living room, we have a recliner/rocker and a sofa. He uses his hand, a hair brush, a backscratcher, or whatever else is available.

We even like the back yard if he can get away with it!

Luna: I posted my response over on my blog.

Paige: My hubby spanks me all over the house! But I'd have to say our favorite room is probably the bedroom, mainly because it's so easy to move into making love!

Naughty Girl: I always have to report to the basement for my spankings. I am always told in a stern voice. "You will report downstairs later this evening (or in ten minutes, or whatever) so that we may discuss your behavior." This means my bare bottom shall soon be paying DEARLY!

It is typically the cane! But sometimes, if I have been really bad, it is the leather paddle, wooden paddle, and then the cane! Fortunately, I am permitted to provide oral pleasure between each implement, which provides my bottom some VERY blessed cooling off time.

Erik: Personally, I like to use a straight-backed chair in the dining room, but my wife prefers the bedroom.

Mary: The home locations would include ANY WHERE I have been over his lap whilst he is seated on the chair or couch. I have bent over holding my ankles in the middle of the room. I have been told wait bent over the arm of the couch, and in the bedroom I have bent over the bed, or lying over pillows on the bed, or over his lap on the bed. My bathroom lacks swinging room, but we have enjoyed a couple of large hotel bathrooms with glee. I didn’t know that the swing of a soft whip could not only stink a wet bottom, but serve to dry me off after a shower. That scene was one of my favorites. I had been lingering in the shower, and he came to check on me - well my lingering was actually due to some distracting thoughts that led to masturbation. He pulled me out of the shower and started scolding and spanking, It was cold at first, but I soon was dry from the fanning effect of each swing. The mirror in the bathroom added to the sensuality of the experience as I could see him spanking me. He is so good at being stern. Normally his facial expressions are so kind, that when he gets that stern look on his face my stomach twists and butterflies flutter.
My all time favorite overall would have to be a tie, I love being on the couch over his lap with the hand or small rubber paddle. The contact with him is so reassuring that I don't often mind that I am being spanked. (I will often end up spanked longer because I don't want to get up and go to the corner when instructed. - He eventually convinces me that I do want to leave his lab with some harder spanks, but I love it there on his lap. My other favorite is in the bedroom, lying with my bottom elevated on pillows, with he using the belt. (one particular belt that of his is just right.) The edges on the belt are softened from wear, and the weight of the belt is heavy enough to feel the impact as well as the sting. He likes it too, because with some experimentation we have discovered that even used full force, it is safe to use. So when I am belted in the above position I can be still enough that he can swing with gusto and not be concerned with me moving out of place or with causing any harm.

PS we also like hotel desks for secretary scenes.

Jeana: My favorite place to be spanked is in our bedroom with Will sitting with his back up against the head board and me laying across his lap. I am not a huge fan of being turned over random objects and I much prefer being close to him, like over his lap. I also don't like to feel like I am going to fall. (We have tried him sitting in a chair me OTK and all I could think about was balance and not falling, plus it is really not that comfortable.) The couch is ok too but in our bed is by far the favorite for both of us. I'm sure we will try some other things eventually, but this is all still a little new to both of us though.

Hermione: My ideal spanking room would be full of light, with a large mullioned window, curtainless so that anyone looking in could observe the activities. The woodwork and wainscotting are painted white, and the upper walls are papered with a tasteful maroon pattern. On one wall are racks where canes, crops, straps, belts and other large implements hang, arranged by type and length. A white cabinet with glass doors holds the smaller paddles, hairbrushes and rulers. There are also hooks to hold clothing as it is removed.

There is a window seat, well padded, for spanking. The central feature is a chaise lounge of sufficient length to permit comfortable OTK and the padded end is just the right height for bending over. There is also a padded spanking bench where one could stand and bend over, then be fastened with leather restraints. A second bench of lesser height is available to support a victim in a kneeling position.

Arranged here and there are small kneeling pads upholstered in the same pattern as the chaise and padded benches, for the spankee's comfort.

Morningstar: I love the topic and I wrote a post on my blog.

Bethie: We tend to go into the bedroom for long spankings that we know are going to end in lovemaking, but pretty much every room in the house is within the spank-zone. (Heck, even the car and the great outdoors aren't out of the question, but that's another story).

When we're not in the bedroom, I get tossed over his knee, over the couch arms, or just bent over for a spanking any place the feeling hits us. We don't have any particular area or implements for different types of spankings. Spankings just happen around here.

As for an ideal spanking room, my imagination runs wild on this one! It'd have a couple of spanking benches (one comfy, one more utilitarian), a desk, a couch in front of a big entertainment center, a big storage place for toys, some rings bolted into walls, a hook or two, and a big bed. Yum!

Abby: Like many others, it sounds like, we use the bedroom for the most part. Part of the fun is that he leads me in there and I think we're going to do one thing, but then it turns out that part is coming much, much later! I love how one minute we're kissing and the next he's somehow turned me around and I'm bent over the mattress.

We also have a room we call the library. Although I moved all but one of the bookcases to the living room, there is also my desk and an antique school bench that we bought specifically for this purpose. It's where we keep most of our implements as well. This room is for harder punishments, or sometimes just to make me think I'm going to be severely punished.

I'd love to have a little building outside that is split into two rooms, front and back. The front is a schoolhouse, complete with student and teacher desks, hooks on the walls for canes and straps and paddles, and a spanking horse. (One of the first spanking clips I saw had a classroom with a horse and I've never gotten over the image.) The back room would be a barn, with bales of hay and possibly something with a saddle over it, so I could go over the saddle. It would be my little English/Western Spanking House!

Bonnie: One of the real joys of being empty-nesters is the ability to move our fun to any part of the house that we choose. We have done precisely that. Most rooms now have some sort of implement on hand, just in case.

Our main toy collection is stored in our bedroom and that’s where the majority of our spankings take place. However, there are plenty of cooking implements in the kitchen, brushes in the bathroom, canes and straps in the basement, and a certain notorious wooden wall hanging in our living room. We even have matching brushes in our respective glove boxes. So, as you see, location is no barrier.

For my ideal spanking room, I would set it up with acoustic baffles like a recording studio. I’d love to be able to yell, whack, and laugh to our hearts content. The carpeting would be downy soft and heavily padded so time spent kneeling wouldn’t kill my knees. I’ve always dreamed of a spanking bench to which I could be bound. There should be a small lavatory adjacent because darn if I don’t have to pee as soon as the action starts. I like the idea of toys hanging up all over the walls. Finally, there would have to be a bed to accommodate all that quite naturally transpires after the spanking is concluded. Such fun could be had!

Anon VII - A mirrored wall often comes in handy, especially for paddlings (which I do) and canings (which I don't). I must admit to a bit of selfishness in saying that the spanker gets the most benefit from getting to observe breasts and facial reactions (both anticipatory and _post facto_) as well as the shoulders, the hair down the back, and the ... well, you know! The recipient needs to understand, of course, that if she chooses to look upward rather than down at the floor (better, since it tips the bottom up), she absolutely must not flinch when her partner swings. If the urge to flinch is too strong, the spanker should have the lady hold her ankles, and then swing with some restraint. That position won't stop a major evasive move, but it tends to stop involuntary twitches.

As to the room, my preference would be one in late nineteenth-century decor: judge's paneling on the walls, arched windows, dark brocade upholstery, etc., perhaps even lamps burning scented oil, replicating a time and place so much in keeping with the activity and creating an atmosphere that is romantic with a measure of formality, if not authority.

Thank you to everyone who added their insight to our discussion. I hope to see you all back here next week when next we sit down (oh so gingerly) for another spanko brunch.

Keywords: spanking, spanking room, spanko, My Bottom Smarts, spanko brunch