Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Jan 11

Our topic this week was desired spankings we’ve not yet experienced. Here are your thoughts.

Doc: I've been spanked in a lot of ways, but never, ever, in the over-the-knee fashion! Can you believe it?

I've been spanked in almost every other fashion. I would love to receive an over-the-knee spanking. After all, it's part of the spanker/spankee's canon.

Anna: Mine would be a stress-relieving, cathartic spanking. I seem to crave it more and more as I take on more responsibility at work. I would love to come home to a long, purifying spanking and then just be held for a long time afterward, maybe until I fall asleep. That would be perfect.

Andrades Girl: It is so early in our spanking life together that I really am not sure what that might be, but I can come up with a perfect spanking for now.

It is OTK (without being dizzy or uncomfortable or rolling off his lap) and he uses the belt. Each slap of the belt is perfectly placed with just the right amount of zing. So far, the belt is still my favorite spanking toy. And he is getting better and better with it each time we practice.

Maryann: I would like my man to initiate a spanking and take his time delivering it. It would be delivered OTK, by hand, with a nice slow warm up and lots of play along the way. I want him to like it as much as I do.

PM Duo: I really want a discipline spanking. I'm not sure how well I'd like it, but I really crave the idea. I want it to be for something I've actually done that he's told me not to do rather than a pretend “you've been a naughty girl” thing. I'd like it to be over the edge of the bed or the arm of a couch. He would definitely start with his belt, but then switch to something harder. I want him completely, no doubt in control, and making me obey him. I've only cried once during a spanking, but I want this to end with tears and NO sex. Discipline only. I kind of doubt I'll ever get it, but I'll keep wanting!

Jean Marie: I fantasize about getting a public spanking. They say that lots of people think about sex in public. I've had that at the beach. I want a full-on, bare bottomed spanking in public. I'd love to travel to some different city, where I feel totally anonymous, and have my lover take me out to eat in a swanky restaurant. He tells me over dessert to lie across the white tablecloth and pull my skirt up, and then demands that I pull my panties down off my ass. Then I have to ask to be spanked. He complies – hard! The management and other patrons are shocked. The police are called. My lover throws money on the table and whisks me away, back to our hotel. I'd thank him by doing any nasty act he desired.

Daisy: I have often thought it would be sexy if I and a/some girlfriend(s) did something that REALLY made Davey cross, so cross that he spanked us; with me being last. I would have to watch and hear the sounds of the spanking, see how red her/their ass(es)were getting, knowing it would be my turn next!

I think it would be scary, sexy, embarrassing, and I would know that my punishment would definitely be harder, because he would be so disappointed in me!

Waiting for my turn would be deliciously agonising....

As to whether I would want this fantasy turned into reality, I am not sure!

Prefectdt: I have always wanted a birthday caning, actually on my birthday. Unfortunately, every year it’s the same story, no playmate available on that day.

There are about a million different toys I want to try out as well. The world is full of interesting toys.

Penfold: I love it when Bear talks to me like he is a headmaster and that I’m his 'naughty school girl' and spanks me. So I think my dream spanking would have to be over one of those big old desks you’d find in a headmasters office. I would wear a school girl’s outfit and he would don the old school robes. That would just be fantastic.

BigBear: I would agree with Penfold’s comment. Schoolgirl and headmaster would be my favourite spanking. I'd be very strict as she's giggling cutely in her outfit. Then I would pull her over my knee and start telling her off in a more memorable way.

Jay: Well, I suppose I want the kind of spanking that leaves me completely worn out. I'm not one for crying. It wasn't allowed when I was growing up. We had to be big girls and boys. And we weren't allowed to show fear. That was unacceptable. I would like a spanking that scares me just thinking about it and to be allowed to show that fear. I would to like to be allowed to cry. I want to cry or sob my guts out.

I'm not talking about an age play spanking. I just want to be able to feel two of the most natural states. Yes, I will probably brat and whine, but I think that I need this. After I have been taken this far, I would like to be held and told that I am loved.

This sounds sooo stupid. I must be crazy to want this.

I would like to be held in a loving hug and not be teased or ridiculed because I showed my fear or cried. That is my fantasy.

Hermione: I have always wanted a real birthday spanking, but have never had one. Ron has never taken me over his knee and I dearly wish he would. Then, of course, there's the hour-long spanking that I dream of.

My idea of the ideal birthday spanking would be for Ron to lay out every one of our implements, then sit in the armchair and put me over his knee. He would give me ten strokes with each implement in turn. I would have to count the strokes (something else I haven't done). Once I reached my age, the count would start over again. Otherwise, I would end up being 200 years old! After each set of ten, my bottom would be rubbed and caressed.

When he got to the longer implements, I would bend over the back of the armchair – also something I would love to try. It's exactly the right height. After all of the implements have been used, Ron would gently but thoroughly rub arnica creme all over my bottom. Then we would move on to other activities. That sounds like an hour to me.

Anon: As a switch, I frequently wonder whether my spanking playmate would invite over one of her adventurous girlfriends, who would serve as both a spectator and participant. The women would sit in armless chairs facing each other, knee to knee, and I would go over the platform thus presented for what I'd alliteratively describe as a "Tandem Torrid Tushy Tanning."

Multiple implements would be employed, sometimes by both at the same time, other times by just one. They would certainly have their way with me, fulfilling all of the following elements in expert fashion:

          Ritualistic
          Unrelenting
          Maternal
          Punitive

I'm hoping this will one day be attainable. And that the advice "all you have to do is ask" will be the means to a glowing, fire engine red rear end – MINE!

Tiggs: I desire a true, honest to goodness, discipline spanking, given with love, for my benefit, and without me having to ask or being allowed even to ask or being mostly for "play" or a "scene." I want to be held and told I was loved afterward, and really and truly feeling that love and security. I seek to feel as though me and my utmost needs matter more at that moment than anything else.

Oh, and Jay, my little couz, your wish is not remotely silly, but most heartfelt and sensible. And we both know that you've indeed found just the right man to deliver such a spanking very, very soon!

Padme: I have always wanted an OTK spanking from another woman. I have only had one spanking from a woman and that was a brief cropping. I'd love to experience a very hard spanking from a woman. That is one kind of spanking I've always wanted and have not been able to get yet. :)

Zille: I’ve never been “horsed” – that is, put my arms around the shoulders of another person, who then bends forward so I am lifted off of the floor and helpless to avoid the blows. This was pretty popular in England for corporal punishment in Victorian times (and lasting for a while after in school discipline.) This is more a position for caning or birching than actually spanking, but I’ve been in all the positions for spanking that I would like (well, at least that I know about!). However, I haven’t been over all of the laps I might like!

Ronnie: I've been spanked in many ways and in lots of different locations, but I would like a real public spanking pulled over whatever is available, skirt up, pants down and delivered hard, no nonsense. Of course, it would have to be in some place far away. I’m glad it's in my mind and won’t happen.

K: Hubby has only been spanking me for the last year, so I'm sure there are many more variations that we will try. However, there aren't any particular positions or types of spankings that I've been dying to try and haven't. I have little trouble sharing ideas as they occur to me and Hubby is usually quite eager, or at least agreeable, to try new things with me. What I'd really like as far as spankings go, is to be able to enjoy them without worrying that our Angel will wake up before we're satisfied. We're looking forward to her sleeping through the night, or even just longer than a couple hours at a time.

Betina: I think I'll join the commentators who said that they would like to try a true and honest discipline spanking. It would be a spanking I knew for sure I could not get out of and one that would leave me in tears. The spanking would include stern talk and lecturing while I'm over his knee with my bottom bared. After it’s over (maybe with corner time), I would be held by the man I love and told how much he loves me.

I find it hard to actually accept that this is what I crave, and I have no clue how I'd truly react if it ever happened. I came close to a discipline spanking once, but honestly, I doubt it will ever happen for real. Until then, I'll just wish for more of the spankings that he initiates, which are very rare. And I will hope that he when he initiates, he will take me further without me having to ask for more.

Frank Spanko: If an imaginary spanko can have a fantasy spanking, mine would be to be spanked in front of an audience. I desire not just to be spanked in front of another person or couple, or while a few people watch, but on a stage with a fair number of people in attendance. I would be lead out, perhaps naked, perhaps wearing only a shirt of some sort. Someone would then read what my offense was and what my punishment was to be.

I would them be ordered to face the audience and assume the position. A stern but beautiful woman would then deal with me, using a wooden paddle or a very sturdy leather strap. I would be given a number of strokes, very hard, that I had to count out, while the audience was able to view the discomfort on my face. I would then be told to turn around so that the viewers could see the implement punishing my bottom, and given an equal number of strokes.

When the punishment was complete, I would again have to face the audience and thank my punisher. She would ask if my bottom hurt badly, and I would respond that it did. She would then ask if I had learned my lesson, and I would again respond in the affirmative. Properly chastised, I would be led offstage where I would be allowed to dress and leave, hoping that I would never have to return to that stage again, but knowing that I would.

Hmmm, this might make a good story, don't you think?

I think it already is.

Todd and Suzy: We've been very lucky and thus have been able to experience almost every spanking scenario we can think of. We would very much like to enjoy a spanking on the beach though. Say Maui... close to the water, a long and relaxed bare bottom spanking.

Lucy: I have always wanted to be spanked past my pain threshold. All of the spankings I have had so far have been tolerable. I'm curious as to what I am capable of taking. Plus, I would love having a Top who wasn't afraid to push my limits.

I would also like to experience the traditional "Six of the Best."

Michelle: I've been thinking a lot about a variety of implements. We have several prevertables (a wooden spoon, a ping-pong paddle, a ruler, a slotted spatula), but few purpose made implements (only a riding crop).

I've been thinking about being flogged of late. I think a cat o’ nine tails, with heavy braided plaits or one of the ones that has all the little, thin leather strips could provide a variety of interesting sensations.

I've also thought a heavy leather paddle might be interesting. Our current paddle makes a lot of noise, but doesn't pack much of a wallop. A nice thuddy paddle might be fun.

I'd like there to be more of the over the furniture, skirts up, panties down variety as well, but I do get them and there have been some very memorable ones, just not quite as often as I'd like.

Bonnie: I will stick with the answer I gave in my previous post. I would like to experience spanking (and lovemaking) in zero gravity. I think it would be mind-blowing to live, love, and spank in three dimensions. In this weightless environment, the number of possible positions, for spankings or sex, is almost endless.

Thank you to everyone who joined in today’s discussion. For those who thought about speaking up, but weren’t quite sure, I encourage you to let your voice be heard. We’ll all be back here again next week and all MBS readers are welcome to participate (yes, even YOU). Until then, may your week be positive, productive, enjoyable, and filled with all the spankings you desire.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Mar 9

Our two-part question for this week was how frequently readers crave a spanking and how often spankings actually occur. I thought the results were quite interesting. Although there was a considerable variation in the responses, I believe I am safe in observing that there's a whole lot of spanking going on out there. Even so, many of us would prefer more.

Jessica: We have only been doing this for a short time. I have been craving spankings pretty much daily. With life intervening, we were getting to indulge about three to four times a week. We have both been very sick the last two weeks, so no spanking. :-(

I think we may be well enough this weekend to have a little fun. *wink*

Lori: I am a well spanked woman. We spank several times a week. I usually crave daily spankings unless I had a hard discipline spanking, then I crave it after I can comfortably sit again. I love the attention from my husband and I love what comes afterward. When we play, I feel like we are two kids, giggling and having fun. Discipline drives home the fact that my husband loves and cares for me.

PK: How often do I crave spanking? Very often, maybe not daily, but I would be happy with several times a week. Some weeks we are able to fulfill that, but sadly not often enough. We rarely go more that two weeks without at least a little spanking. Nick is wonderful when we have lots of time and privacy, but I wish that there were more short, spontaneous spankings when we can sneak them in.

Marcus: I too crave a daily spankings. Circumstances don't always permit this. Sometimes, college work gets in the way. Other times, privacy is an issue. However, we manage to get to them in time, and they are well worth the wait. Not to mention, I can feel them for quite sometime afterward.

Dr. Ken: Speaking as a spanker, I'd love to be able to play every day. Or twice a day, even. Unfortunately, I currently don't have anyone here in Minnesota to spank--which perhaps explains why spanking is in my thoughts on a daily basis.

My only outlet is the sort of spanking party hosted by groups such as Chicago Crimson Moon. That translates to two or maybe three weekends per year. There's ample opportunity for as long as the party lasts, and there are two ladies in particular with whom I have a great time. I just wish I could talk them into moving to Minnesota!

The party weekends are certainly spanking intensive, but it clearly isn't enough...

Dragon & Tiger: I would guess I crave a good erotic spanking once every couple of weeks if I haven't had one in a while and more frequently if I have. I have never craved a punishment spanking... yet. I won't say it will never happen, but it hasn't so far.

Paul: Since I've been alone, I haven't spanked anybody.

Where I live, it's very conservative. As a result, if there is any kink going on, it's very quiet.

Mel liked to go to sleep on a good girl, so she was spanked daily, and sometimes more often. So believe me, I miss it, lots.

Lost In Our Eyes: The two of us probably crave much more than we get. Personally, it's a daily (and sometimes all-day) craving but only getting indulged once every few weeks.

As for Her, I'm not sure about the cravings, but yesterday was her first spanking in a LONG while.

Bet: My craving for spankings varies a lot. Sometimes, I could go for one a day or more. Other times, I'm content with once a month. But as it is now, I definitely do not get spanked as much as I'd like to be. But on the bright side, I now get spanked more than I used to be. So who knows? In time (probably a long time), I may get my wish. Besides, with two kids under age five, you have to be careful when you play.

Hermione: I want a spanking every time I start reading spanking blogs!

As to really craving one, I get a serious spanking once a week. That's enough to keep me pleasantly uncomfortable and basking in the afterglow for a couple of days. Three or four days later, the craving starts and I'm ready for another one. I almost always get one as part of our love-making, though it’s not necessarily very intense. That's usually enough to keep me going for a while.

The day before the scheduled weekly one is when I crave it the most; I don't know how I can last another day. But on the day, I start to feel apprehensive, knowing what's in store for me. And it's always worth waiting for.

Terpsichore: It’s so fun to hear everyone's answers. This is a question that I knew would generate a variety of responses. We are all different and have different needs. I was curious because there are times when I feel as though I crave being spanked all the time. I am still so very new to this and have only really experienced a few playful spanks during lovemaking and an occasional love tap, I sometimes feel awkward about my needs and desires. It is nice to be reassured about what I already knew. Everyone is different and it is OK :-)

Lele: Right now, I think I'd like a spanking every day, like a bedtime spanking or something. In reality, I only get spanked two to three times a month, but those few times leave me sore for days!

Jean Marie: As I e-mail this reply the comments can be summarized to say, "I crave a daily spanking, but I get it less often." I honestly have to go further than that. I crave it frequently enough so that I'm reminded I'm a spanko and am in a relationship with another spanko every time I sit. I love putting warmed cheeks on a toilet seat. I never sit at my desk when teaching school, but I do have a tall stool in front of the class. I melt when I put a sore, stiff bottom on that hard, flat seat. I get wet when I sit down to lunch in the lounge with peers if my butt screams at me as I put it into a chair. Mostly, I love the lovemaking that follows hard upon any spanking at home; the feeling of oneness with my lover and wholeness with myself.

My answer is that I get it daily, sometimes twice a day. Sometimes that spanking is very hard and punishing, and I'd still like it more frequently.

Sally: I would love more, and that seems to be pretty common. I am lucky to get one or two a week. I think I would like a daily GG, but I might not want it if I had it. I love one that lasts for days and I'm pretty happy until the effect wears off. When we are both healthy, one or two a week is average, and sometimes more :) Since we have both been ill, spankings are pretty scarce and I find myself craving them several times a day.

Greenwoman: I think I need a spanking each day, at least the 'good girl' or sleepy sensual kind. How often I crave it is a different matter. I crave it when I am hormonal, and I crave the stress busting kind. I need the kind that hurts, that must be endured, and that causes emotional release. Those kind I crave a few times a month.

My husband has been spanking me every day lately. I am feeling really nourished by that. But not so long ago, perhaps a month ago, I'd be lucky to get any spanking at all in a month. Then I craved them every day.

Padme Amidala: I crave spankings when I am stressed out and in need of release. I also crave them when I am horny and need some attention. Some weeks, I crave it every day and other times not as much.

This last week, I had surgery so there hasn't been any spankings or even cravings for one. I just haven't been feeling too good and recovering from it.

Sometimes, I am spanked a few times a week. Other times, it’s only a few times a month. It depends upon how much time we can get or what is going on.

Padme, I hope your recovery is swift and complete!

Abby Williams: As many people have commented, I crave spanking daily. Most of my morning emails and texts with Mr. Williams are on the subject, and we tend to make plans for playing at the end of the day. All too often, though, by the end of the day our mindspaces are just not right for that kind of play. So while we would spank daily given the freedom to do so, we're at a couple of times a week for now. With the exception of last Sunday's paddling, severity usually doesn't make me need time off. That time, however, my bottom was so sore I felt as if I'd been stair-climbing skyscrapers all day!

As an extra thought, something my husband and I discuss is that for us, spanking (or paddling, or caning, or what-have-you) is sex for us. The actual sex is a bonus. Craving it daily makes sense for us because it is often how we feel desire not just for spanking, but for one another.

DG: As many of you say, I crave spankings at least daily. My ideal would be a morning and a bedtime spanking. I find that if I am not spanked for about four days, my mood and behaviour really show that I need a good smacked bottom. I suspect I need discipline weekly and daily "attention".

Elle: I crave spanking nearly as often as I crave sex (which is constantly). I would love to be spanked much more often than I am, but maybe it wouldn't be so special if it happened all the time. The last time I was spanked was a week ago last Thursday. I've been told I'm due a hard one in the next few days though... Craving it more than ever.

Prefectdt: Simple questions, simple answers:

How often are spankings craved? Every day.

How often am I actually spanked? In a good period, once a month. When things aren't going so well, anywhere up to three or four months between spankings.

You would probably find similar answers from most single male spankees of my age or older, I think.

Bonnie: Some readers believe that because I publish a spanking blog, our lives must be one continuous spankfest. The truth is not quite so glamorous. Our interest (and our activity) tends to wax and wane. I can’t say that I *crave* a spanking every day in terms of a deep and intense longing. But I generally think about it several times per day.

I am at that age where hormones are an unpredictable part of life. In addition, both Randy and I have responsibilities that can sap our energy and suppress our spontaneity. Even so, we probably average two or three times per week. We might play three nights in a row and then not at all for ten days. It largely depends upon a lot of relatively mundane factors.

One thing that really helps us to keep the flames burning is designating one night a week for spankings. Ours is Friday. All day long, I walk around with the knowledge that I will soon be the beneficiary of a good, hard spanking. By the time Randy arrives home, I am mentally and physically ready for whatever sort of play he devises.

Robin: Crave? A lot, but maybe not everyday (although I pretty much think about spankings everyday).

How often am I spanked? Nowhere near enough. DH has to want to, there has to be time, energy and privacy. It’s not easy to get everything at the same time.

Mary: We live apart so I crave it far more than I get it. I am lucky if I am spanked once a month. Once in a while, it goes a full two months without spanking. Sometimes, that serves to make me want it more. Other times, the frustration moves beyond wanting to not caring and being upset. Some days, I could want a spanking every day. Since we are not often together, every day is what happens most times when we are together. I think a couple times a week would be perfect. But that is pure speculation.

I'd like to offer a special thank you to Terpsichore for contributing this excellent brunch question, and thanks, as always, to our wonderful participants. You make Sunday a day to fondly anticipate. I hope to see you all again next week.

Five Senses Worth

This is an open letter to Randy.

Open yourself, please, my love, to this raw corporeal experience we call lovemaking. I want to share it with you, and you with me. Let's indulge all five senses.

Sight	See how I dress for you Watch my hips rock as you draw me close Observe the lust in my eyes
Sound	Hear your palm smack against my flesh Drink in the sound of my eager panting Listen as I moan only for you
Touch	Feel my soft curves beneath your fingertips Make me shiver with your caress Enjoy the warmth of my bottom
Smell	Draw pleasure from our scented candles Share your manly aroma Breathe in my arousal
Taste	Kiss me sweetly Savor the nectar of love Let me be your favorite confection

Take me now. Keep me forever. Please?

Think Pink

Friday night is our standing spanking date night. But Randy is out of town. So it’s just me here ruminating about… Spankings!

There are times when nothing else can substitute. I crave the shocking impact of that first blow striking the exposed flesh of my carefully presented bottom. I welcome the burning, stinging, aching sensations as a hard wooden paddle demonstrates the warmth and depth of his love for me. I miss that slightly numb feeling where I am still aware of the pain, but it seems somehow less immediate than it did just a few moments prior. I desire that floating, relaxed place where I can make peace with pain, accept it, and claim it as my own.

I absolutely love the afterglow. I feel all warm and tingly. I am energized yet relaxed. Most of all, though, a good spanking leaves me with a voracious appetite for vigorous lovemaking. The intercourse that follows is a wonderful completion to our carnal celebration.

Hours later, when I sit on a chair, I revel in the twinge of an ache. At that moment, all the memories of this delicious spanking and a hundred more before it flash through my mind. The corners of my mouth rise imperceptibly as I fondly recount my husband’s sweet assault. My eyes twinkle with the secret knowledge that I am one well spanked wife. My world has regained equilibrium.

Occasionally, I ask to be spanked. When I need it. I really want it. I so deserve it. Randy is almost always delighted to fulfill such a request. He is happy to turn me over his lap, and I am pleased to be the gal whose bottom he spanks. All I have to do is say the word…

…And I just did!

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