Saturday, June 30, 2007

In With The New: Midsummer Night's Edition


It's a wondrous thing. As one old friend disappears, five new ones appear to take their place. So it is in the world of spanko blogging. There are so many talented bloggers writing about our favorite subject, it's all I can do not to fall hopelessly behind in my reading. Rather than feel guilty about my browsing deficiencies, I choose instead to share the wealth with you, my dear readers.

Here are eleven young blogs that I hope you will explore and enjoy. When you visit, I encourage you to not only read, but also to offer some support in the form of comments. It's difficult to start a new blog. In the beginning, it feels as though you're writing for no one. A few positive words at the right moment can make the difference between a successful blog and an abandoned effort.

Check these out!

Bare Bottom Spanking
Chloe Elise's Spanking Adventures
Confessions of a Spankee
Cookie's Spanking Stories
Deviations
Just Another Submissive
Master's Gift
My Journey into BDSM
Spanking Empire
Spanking Pics and Videos
Young Lady's Diary

     (If I've forgotten anyone, please tell me)

To these new bloggers, I bid you welcome. I look forward to watching your blogs grow and thrive.

Here are some suggestions I assembled as a guide to enhancing your blog. While it's certainly not the final word, I think you will find a number of useful tips.

My Blogging Smarts
More Blogging Smarts
My Blogging Smarts Again
My Blogging Smarts: Balance

I hope you find the spanko blogging experience as rewarding as I have!

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Wednesday, June 27, 2007

Not for the Kiddies

I found this gizmo over at Ofia's blog. I immediately wondered about my own blog's rating. After all, while my content is definitely intended for adults, I don't use a lot of dirty words. So what would they think?



Imagine my surprise! PG? Really?

I suppose I could rant about how superficial our society has become and how, in our craving of instant entertainment, we have lost our appreciation for subtlety. But I'll spare you all that. After all, it's just a program. And perhaps it's better that I fly beneath the radar...

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

Leather Fun

Our friend Pagan sent me a photo that displays her impressive collection of leather spanking toys. She claims that she needs a twelve step program to help her stop purchasing them!


It's all there - Beauty, versatility, fun, and effectiveness...

Thanks, Pagan!

Sunday, June 24, 2007

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for June 24


I didn't know what to expect when I posted a question about abuse survivors and spanking relationships. It's a difficult subject when discussed in private with a trusted friend. Would readers be willing to share their dark secrets in this very public medium?

I'm pleased to report that our readers did come forward and contribute their experiences and the insight they've gained. I have no doubt that these wise words will provide comfort and hope for people who are struggling through similar challenges. I am humbly grateful to be able to present these very meaningful personal stories.


Erin: I had the foul experience of being in an abusive relationship and I am happy to say that it did not sour me on my personal love of being spanked. My ex-boyfriend was great at the start of the relationship, but as we spent more time together, I saw a change. He had to control every aspect of our lives. If I got out of line or bothered him, I was beaten. It started out as playful spanking, but quickly became full on abuse. He would slap me across the face or hit me in places where the bruises would not show. I left after about of year of his constant abuse. The night I left him, I walked in on him with another man. It seems that he led a separate life outside of ours and was mad at me for being a female.

I knew his thinking was totally warped, but it took a few years before I would admit my love of spanking and being spanked to anyone. About five years ago, I met the most wonderful man and he became my husband. Together, we worked through all my fears and hang ups. Today, we have a wonderful relationship full of great spanking action. You can come out of an abusive relationship and still love the act of spanking. You just need the love and trust of a great partner.

Marg: I am the survivor of childhood sexual abuse. However, I figured out that this was not my fault. I always enjoyed sexual relations with my husband for 36 years. The psychological abuse I endured as a child carried into my marriage with blame being assigned to me during a disagreement. When this happened, I felt like I was living as a child again.

I did not admit to a spanking interest until 2001. By this time, we had been married for over 31 years. I feared ridicule from my husband because I was an innocent, unwilling participant in my biological father's sexual fantasies and I thought that I had the same pathetic sexual genes.

D was fine at first with erotic spanking, but he never understood the emotional and trust aspect. I later suggested domestic discipline, but it did not work and he later became physically abusive. We were married for 34 years when I found out he had grown up in a violent household. I've always been a very strong person, but when I submitted to D, he seemed to see my submission as a sign of weakness. We've been divorced for 16 months, but keep in contact as we have family. We did have many happy years together, but the last couple were really hard. My love for him died and I could not live in fear any longer.

Now I am seeing a younger and not so vanilla man who has decided that he loves to spank me for fun. :) We are special friends and I am very happy. :) I am no longer interested in a domestic discipline relationship and I'll never again take flack for another person's passive-aggressiveness. I don't do guilt anymore.

Lori: My first marriage was not lifestyle and very abusive. I also had a very abusive dom. I have no doubt he would have taken my life were it not for the friendship, strength and guidance of the one who later became my beloved to lean on and help me to get away.

Neither experience made me want to give up being spanked or any of my other kinky likes. However, it did make me question at times why I wanted it. With the help of my beloved, I realized the difference between consensual and non-consensual and that made all the difference in the world.

Over the years, I have had a lot of triggers and flashbacks. There were times that I would have flip-outs and my Master would stop and help me through things. Luckily for me, just being reminded that he was the one with me would be all it would take to bring me back. God I miss him.

For those who have suffered abuse, it is easy to get the lines confused and even easier to keep repeating it by thinking we are with a dominant when we are really with a domineering person. Trust me, there is a big, bad difference. If you have been abused and you find the right dominant, he will understand and his dominance will help to heal those wounds. I know mine did. And in that healing, I did not learn to trust every man out there, but I got smart and he taught me skills.

My dearest Master, I thank you for all the wounds you healed and all you taught me. I love you. Lori

Mary: I had the unfortunate experience of being in a relationship that was emotionally abusive beginning about the third week of the marriage. I had threats of physical abuse from about the eighth month. It actually reached the point of physical abuse in our third year. I then finally felt not only compelled, but justified, in leaving. I now recognize I could have left at any point, but religious upbringing, belief in the sanctity of marriage, and yes, love for the person, held me back. The thought we were capable of curing whatever demons he was fighting kept me there until my life was not only figuratively but literally threatened.

In spite of this experience, I still felt drawn to a relationship that included spanking. Go figure. It seems counterintuitive, but those cravings for spankings (which I seem to have always had) did not subside. Even after being hit by a partner, I somehow did not associate spanking with hitting. They are two different things.

When I did enter a relationship where spanking is delightfully part of it, I was honest about my experiences. But his character is so different that I have never felt threatened in the slightest. For me, it is extremely rare that I even associate for a moment our discipline or play with the abuse I once received. The nature of the relationship and the sweet protective tone that is emanated, even as my bottom is being punished, just leave me feeling safe and cared for.

I went through a period where I thought if my ex had used spanking and I had submitted, perhaps things would have worked. I even suggested it, but it was never adopted. Later I realized that he was not a person who would have been strong enough to really be a dominant leader. He was abusive because of his own weaknesses.

I guess the best analogy I can offer is that the opposite of love is fear. My ex found it okay to have me fear him, and preferred that I submit because I feared his withdrawal of love and affection.

My partner, who spanks and who I love, would never be comfortable if I feared him. My bottom may fear a well-earned dose of the cane, but I never fear him. I may anxiously anticipate a spanking. I may fear that if I break a rule and do not do what is best for me, that he will use the belt or cane, but I never fear him. I am never afraid that he will truly hurt me. I never fear that my needs will be ignored. I always know that if I were to become afraid, he would stop and console and protect me.

My submission to his dominance is simple. I want to submit because his dominance eases my soul and allows me the freedom to relax in my best nature and enjoy. It isn’t about a clash of wills. It is simply about an acceptance of our nature and a pleasure in being.

I do not know if this makes any sense. The concept is so convoluted on the surface. The truth lies in that deep "gut" knowing. With my ex, even when he hadn't laid a hand on me, my heart was not safe, let alone cherished. With my love, he cares most about the safety of my heart and soul. A spanked bottom is sometimes merely an expression of caring to motivate me to do my best, so I can feel my best. Sometimes, a warm bottom is given for the sheer pleasure and delight I get from playing with him. Yet, I have every confidence that he would forgo spanking me if for one moment he thought I would be emotionally harmed by his doing so.

Listen to your heart and soul. Be with someone who values you. Spankings can be another way of communicating trust and care.

SuZQ: I have often thought about the role my early childhood abuse had on my relationships. I believe that my deeply felt need to submit is directly connected, although I have fought against those desires for most of my adult life. I preferred, instead, to form relationships with men who were "safe" – not likely to abuse or take advantage of me. In that way, I could hide behind my facade and never deal with those ghosts. I became the strong, take-charge woman in my relationships (and especially my marriage) thinking that would squelch those latent subby desires.

It worked for many years, although I always longed for a strong, dominant man in my life and grew to resent having to be the "strong" one all of the time. Finally, after more than 25 years of a "safe" marriage, I found myself single again and wanting to explore my long-repressed subby side.

It has been quite an experiment, which began only a year ago. Once we connected, Coach and I had many deep discussions about my abuse, and I came to trust him enough to submit completely. He was strong and dominant, and required that we talk through any fears or flashbacks I might experience. He created such a safe environment that I was able to submit to my deepest desires. It was wonderfully liberating after all these years.

Now that he's gone, I wonder if I'll ever feel that safe again, but the desire is definitely still there.

Jujubees: My father was physically abusive to me. I left home and got into a marriage that was also abusive on all sorts of levels, including physically. I left my marriage after 21 years and three kids. I've never felt as free as I have during the last few years after finally being away from the abuse.

I am starting to feel human again. Every day is a new adventure as I work towards discovering what I am comfortable with regarding this kink. I used to be angry and felt that I was cursed. Now, I embrace my kinky desires. I've learned a lot over the years. I have been fortunate enough to meet some men who know how to be dominant without being abusive. One of them is very dear to me and I see him at least once a month. To be honest, though, I have a lot of domme tendencies in me that are starting to come out.

Every day is a challenge to forget the past as best I can and move forward to something that I hope will be better and something I want to be part of. I still have a lot of confusion and struggles inside, but life gets better and better every day.

Weazel: I was sexually abused throughout my teens. I now attend both group and private therapy due to this issue in my life. My boyfriend spanks me every day of the week if he wants and I love every minute. I can only speak for myself, but I enjoyed the idea of spanking before the abuse started and I do not believe that the two coincide in any way. My abuser hit me, but there was never an ounce of real love. My Dom spanks me and I feel very loved and cared for.

Today I have to attend a pool party. I have a hairbrush mark on my thigh. I am sure someone will think the absolute worse. Someone may even ask what happened. To be truthful I don't know what I will say.

But if someone were to ask me about sexual abuse, I would be very helpful in finding resources for that person. I would tell them they are not alone and the this challenge can be dealt with. My point is that if you are an advocate for sexual abuse or domestic abuse, then attack the issue at hand. Go attack the abusers. But I will not allow someone to "explain" to me that I enjoy spanking because of some abusive ass hole. It just does not fit. I enjoy it way too much and this is my secret garden. It’s just like cooking a dinner. It’s so in a different compartment of my mind.

Wow. What else can I say? Thank you all.

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MBS Spanko Brunch #75


Today's topic is neither easy nor fun, but I think this discussion may be valuable to some readers. The subject of abuse was raised by a correspondent and I agreed to pose these questions for one of our brunches. I have no first hand knowledge, so my role will be limited to facilitation.

I recognize that these matters are very personal and private. If people want to post anonymously, that is perfectly fine. If you are not comfortable participating at all, that's quite understandable as well. However, if you can speak about your experiences in a manner that assists other readers, you will have earned my respect and my gratitude.

If you or your partner are the survivor of abuse, how did this experience affect your later relationships? Specifically, what was the impact upon the spanking or dominance/submission aspects of your relationships?

If you would like to submit a contribution to our brunch discussion, please leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Once everyone has provided their thoughts, I will publish a summary of our conversation.

Friday, June 22, 2007

Look, Spanky, a Crossword for Us!

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Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Dueling Top Tens: Leather versus Wood


Leather or wood? Which material makes for better spanking implements? Here's your chance to decide for yourself.

Why Leather is Better
  1. Greater variety of sensations
  2. Less chance of bruising
  3. Distinctive CRACK sound
  4. That great smell!
  5. More sensual
  6. Lightweight, travels well
  7. Creates a warm glow
  8. Sound of a belt sliding through belt loops
  9. Pirate floggings! Arrr!
  10. You can't wear wooden toys
Why Wood is Better
  1. Feel the burn
  2. Lasting after-effects
  3. Traditional classroom scenes
  4. Very effective persuasion
  5. Solid feeling of contact
  6. More form factors and sizes
  7. Cool, smooth sensations beforehand
  8. Usually less expensive
  9. Many pervertable objects
  10. Easier to construct

Tuesday, June 19, 2007

A Quickie Spanking Question


Let's try something different...

Spankees: If you had the opportunity to be spanked good and hard right this minute, would you take it?

For the sake of discussion, let's assume this is not punishment and the spanker is someone familiar and trusted.

Monday, June 18, 2007

Happy Birthday, Carye!


Today is a red letter day. It's the birthday of our loyal reader, frequent contributor, and dear friend, Carye!

I hope you and Papa Shrek get the opportunity to enjoy a glorious celebration!

Sunday, June 17, 2007

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for June 17


This week, we paid tribute to spanko fathers. Here are your thoughtful words.

Paul: The happiness of parenthood was denied us unfortunately. However we never missed an opportunity to play. I remember one year Mel hired a Tudor costume. It was great fun, but it took longer to undress her than it did to spank her. So she got spanked and loved in installments that entire Sunday. She was sitting sensitive into Monday. That was one of our better Father's Days.

Anon: My man is not a father of humans, but is definitely an involved parent for his dog and cat and for mine! Today, he is also celebrating his 1000th day without smoking!

Sooo, he and I have declared this day to be his day! What that means is that we do what he wants when he wants and I bend over whenever he says to! His preference today is a big wooden spoon that he refers to the Canadian spoon!

My poor bottom is already stinging, but I am due for much more! I did not think I could handle 1000 whacks, but we seem to be approaching 100 already!

I love Sunday Brunch! We are about to open a bottle of Champagne and make some French toast! I would love to hide the Canadian spoon in the meantime, but I would suffer big time if I did.

Jean Marie: My lover and I don't have kids, but I wanted to celebrate a memorable Father's Day with him nonetheless. He usually sleeps in on Sunday mornings. I took advantage of that time to put my hair in a French braid. I wear ponytails often, and wanted something to suggest youthfulness that was different (I don't like pigtails). I put on a pair of underwear that have pastel butterflies printed all over them, ones that my lover had commented upon previously as looking like a little girl’s panties. And I put on a short pinafore dress/smock. I folded a piece of blank notebook paper, and was standing at our bedside with a cup of coffee and this paper when he awoke (I did a lot of loud throat-clearing to achieve this).

"Happy Father's Day!" I said, handing him the coffee. "And I'm sorry that your special day has to be blemished by this, but my school report card came in the mail..."

He caught on that he was in the middle of one of my scenarios, and played along (because they always work to his advantage). "I also should tell you that I lied to you for months about how well I was doing this term in Geometry..." I said as he opened the paper.

"Oh, this isn't good at all," he improvised. He put the coffee cup down after another sip. He crumpled the paper in anger. I was put in my place, in my favorite position in the whole wide world, over his knee. As he raised the back of my dress, he lectured me about my lack of diligence in school, compounded by lies. He pulled my butterfly panties down, filling my tummy with a flock of butterflies in flight.

"Oh, must it be on my bared butt?" I whimpered.

"This will have to be a sound spanking, young lady, yes." It was. But it started slowly, with moderate spanks, just like I love it, and built into a crescendo, as my backside was thoroughly warmed.

Our scene ended there, because I did some decidedly unchildlike things to his erection, and he did some unfatherly things to my aroused sex right after.

Bonnie: We’re empty nesters and our daughter is far away. As a result, Randy and I held a very private celebration.

I woke him in a manner that any husband would appreciate. I snuggled in beside his slumbering form. I rubbed his back with light, circular strokes. This motion elicited a deep, sleepy groan. I knew I was on the right track. In time, my hand moved toward his magic wand. Up and down the shaft I stroked as it swelled like a blossom in the morning sunlight.

He offered no resistance as I encouraged him to roll onto his back. Once there, I knelt and took his manhood into my mouth amid his growls of delight. Working a little magic of my own, I wedged his appendage against the roof of my mouth as I caressed the sensitive underside with my tongue. It didn’t take much of this play before I felt the muscles of his thighs tighten. His pelvis thrust forward and locked as his love burst forth.

When I looked up, I saw a broad smile that said it all. My man was one happy father.

Thanks to everyone who contributed to our special Father’s Day edition of the spanko brunch. I hope you will join us again next week when we will consider another fun question.

MBS Spanko Brunch #74


Today is Father's Day. It therefore seems only appropriate for the rest of us to salute the fathers among our spanko community.

Have you and your partner made any special plans for Father's Day? If so, do they involve any sort of celebratory spankings? If not, please describe your perfect tribute to the man of the house.

If you would like to contribute to our brunch, I invite you to leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Regardless of the medium, I would like to hear what you have to say.

Saturday, June 16, 2007

The Bikini Incident


It’s taken me a week to finish it, but here is the new account I’ve been promising.

There are women who look fantastic in a bikini. There are even a few my age who still outshine the younger gals.

But that’s not me. I gave up the two piece look after our daughter was born and for good reason. I simply wasn’t comfortable with my appearance. I have stretch marks. They’ve faded with the passage of time, but they’ll always be with me. In one way, I carry them like a badge of achievement. We brought a life into the world and she turned out very, very well. I’m proud of our daughter and grateful for the opportunity to have played a major role in her life.

And yet, I wish somehow I could be the smooth skinned, sexy wife that Randy married so long ago.

For the record, Randy has never complained. He loves my body. He always has. Anytime I’m naked, or even partially so, in his presence, his hands are immediately upon me. I love his touch as much as he loves to touch me. Many nights, before we fall asleep, he spoons me and lightly runs his fingertips along the curve of my hip and down onto my thighs. Even if there is no lovemaking, it makes me feel wanted and appreciated in a physical way.

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After our very successful June Cleaver night, Randy decided to expand the concept. He loved how I took a simple proposal and carried it out to its logical conclusion. He never expected that I would put so much effort into making my costume authentic. About a week after June’s big night, Randy proposed a slightly different arrangement. He wanted to tap into my spanko creativity. For a change, I would pick the setting, mood, implements, and general tone. The guidelines were (a) it should be something he would find original and attractive, (b) it should be a surprise, (c) my spending for it couldn’t exceed $100, and (d) the events had to include him giving me a spanking (and presumably the traditional coupling afterward).

I was immediately intrigued and perplexed. What, I wondered, hadn’t we already done? We figured out once that he has spanked me well over a thousand times. Each occasion was special in its own way, but most tend to follow a relatively few basic themes. My challenge was to conceive and execute a truly unique plan.

It had to be something he would never expect. As you’ve already no doubt guessed, I bought a bikini. I dreaded the whole department store ordeal, but once I started thinking in terms of lingerie and convinced myself that no one other than Randy would ever see the suit, I rather enjoyed trying on different styles. I even got a bit silly all by myself in the dressing room. I craned my neck around to catch a glimpse of my barely covered bottom line as I danced in front of the mirror. “Not so terrible,” I thought.

After I concluded my secret one person fashion show, I selected an off-white bikini bottom that was narrow at the hip and left plenty exposed around back. The matching top was the classic triangle halter style. Both pieces had cute string ties. The fit was nice and snug, but not tight. Yes, I believed this would generate just the reaction I sought.

I was pleased when the young clerk didn’t even bat an eye as she rang up my purchase. If she thought it was an unusual choice for a “mature” customer, she gave no hint. We engaged in a little meaningless small talk and soon enough, I was on my way home.

In the car, I thought, “I own a bikini.” Why, I wondered, did that sentence sound so weird? I practically lived at the pool during the summers of my high school years. I always wore a two piece bathing suit back then. All of us did. Yet, all these years later, it felt as though I was going back to a place where I had vowed not to tread. Ultimately, I determined that it was for a good cause. I knew Randy would enjoy it and we would have a lot of fun.

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The magic day came on Friday. I arrived home even earlier than usual to ensure that all of my preparations would be in place when my lover returned. I undressed completely and then slipped into my new bikini. I made bows with each of the ties and pulled my long, white terrycloth robe over the top.

Upstairs in the bedroom, I selected a small, round leather paddle as our spanking implement of choice. When vigorous applied, it generates a lovely sting and leaves behind a delicious warm glow. This, I thought would do nicely. I placed the paddle near the edge of the bed such that it would be close at hand when needed. I also set out a vibrating sex toy and some general purpose lubricant. These I arranged on Randy’s bedside table.

I inserted a CD with surf music into our player. What better accompaniment could there be for this occasion?

When I wandered back downstairs, the clock told me I still had 45 minutes to kill. I made some sandwiches for later. Then I checked my e-mail. I had plenty to do, but I was occupied with nervousness and hoping that everything would be perfect. Finally, I ended up playing a silly online Mah Jongg game.

I jumped from my chair when I heard the garage door open. Randy was home and it was time to put my plan into operation. I greeted him in the kitchen as usual.

“What’s with the bathrobe?” He inquired with a smile. He knew this was our special night and that I had planned a surprise. He was about to find out.

I nonchalantly rolled my eyes and said, “I dunno. It’s just comfortable.”

“C’mere…” was all he said before embracing me with a bear-like hug. As he pulled me toward him, his hands explored the outside of the robe. “What have we here?” he asked in a knowing tone.

“Why don’t you unwrap your present and find out?”

He took a deep breath as he parted the robed. His lips were formed in the shape one would use to make the sound, “Ooooo,” yet he uttered not a word. He slid the robe off of my shoulders, removed it from my arms and placed it over the back of a kitchen chair. He took a half a step back as if to drink in the sight before him.

“Wow, that’s hot. Will you model it for me?”

I thought he’d never ask. I did my best runway strut and wiggle into the living room and then turned to return. Randy’s praise was gushing and genuine. It made me feel terrific. At least I can still be sexy for him!

We kissed passionately for several minutes as roaming hands reacquainted themselves with familiar locales. It soon became clear to me that without immediate intervention stage two might never happen.

“Let’s go upstairs,” I said breathlessly. Randy answered with his feet and up we went. When he spotted the small leather spanking paddle on the bed, my lover picked it up and exclaimed, “Oh yeah. This will be just right.” Without further encouragement, I activated the CD player and then took my position over his lap at the edge of the bed.

Our dreams were fulfilled one solid whack at time. It was a simply splendid spanking. In Randy’s skillful hand, the little paddle ignited a burning, lustful arousal deep within me. He too found great carnal inspiration in swatting and rubbing both the cute little bikini bottom and the curvy flesh that escaped out the sides. Eventually, though, he tired of the suit’s interference and pulled the crotch up my crack thong-style. So efficient was this move, I don’t think he even missed a whack!

Now working against my bare skin, the paddle made a healthy “thwack” sound with each stinging impact. I loved it! Had Randy decided to spank all evening, I don’t believe I would have objected.

When he determined that my skin was the proper hue, he tossed the paddle aside and pulled down my bikini bottom. My man then guided me into a hands and knees position at the edge of the bed. His dancing fingers confirmed my undeniable state of readiness. I shrieked as much with thrill as with surprise when he plunged deep inside me in a single stroke. I cooed and panted as his deep pumping action released both pain and pleasure. Every forward stroke brought his torso in forceful contact with my freshly spanked cheeks. However, this acute discomfort only served to push me closer to my inevitable release. When it arrived, I shook to the point where I could barely support myself. Soon after, Randy too gained satisfaction.

We recovered our wind and our senses lying on the bed in each others’ arms. The first words were his.

“Wow. You’re way hot, bikini girl.”

I rubbed my toasty bottom, smiled, and nodded in agreement. And so I was…

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Friday, June 15, 2007

Bonnie's Mailbag


Let's check out the contents of my mailbag. It's amazing what readers send me!

Question: Will you read my spanking-related manuscript?

Response: Yes, I will try, but it may take me a while to get to it.

Question: i am a real retro fifties type submissive kindof gur my ideal fantasywould be for joan crawfor to give me a bare bottom hair brush spanking good ol mommy dearest in a tight sweater and capris you get the idea aybe you could spank me in the right direction

Response: I have no idea where Mommy Dearest is lurking these days, but she wants you to be sure to bring along some wire hangers.

Question: How do you [spanko bloggers] all know each other?

Response I don't know that we do all know each other. As with any large collection of people, there are some with whom one feels very close, others who are friendly acquaintances, and a third group with whom we exchange a smile and a greeting.

A big part of the blogging experience is getting to know people with similar interests. We regularly swap comments and e-mails, and sometimes collaborate on projects. I have developed a deep affection and admiration for many of my blogging colleagues, even though we've never met. If we write with a tone of familiarity, this is the reason.

Question: When are u going to wear tight jeans agin?

Response: As a matter of fact, I'm wearing them right now!

Question: Do you make up phrases for keyword chaos?

Response: No. Happily, the readers supply me with all of the wonderfully strange material I could ever want. I don't believe I could write gags as funny and offbeat as the ones that roll in my door for free.

Question: Did you & Randy "ever" play the Cheerleader & Principal?

Response: Yes, I believe we have.

Question: Can I smack you.

Response: "Hello" would be a more conventional greeting.

Statement: I couldn't help but notice the pantie lines on your jeans. I can just imagine taking those jeans down and, after warming up the seat of those panties, taking them down and making your cheeks bright red!!

Response: Ah, yes, the progressive spanking. There's a perennial fan favorite!

Statement: I think that women with big butts that liked to be spanked are extremely sexy and amazing.

Response: That was almost a compliment.

Question: I live in ___. Do you live near here?

Response: No, regrettably, I don't live near ___. According to Randy, I live on the internet.

Question: Where do you get all your ideas?

Response: Ideas are like the air around us. Inspiration is everywhere! We need only open our eyes and set our imaginations free.

Thursday, June 14, 2007

Poll: Summer Spanking Settings

Ah, summer! It's the time to luxuriate over a cold glass of lemonade, bask in the abundant sunlight, and capture the heat of the season right where you sit down.

Which of these is your ideal summer spanking location?

Jacuzzi
Beach
Back yard
Tree-lined stream
Country lane
Woodshed
Outdoor concert

Wednesday, June 13, 2007

What Kind of Sexy Girl Am I?

You Are Fun Sexy

You're funny, quirky, cute, and sassy. Guys always have a great time with you, and that alone is sexy. You've got an upbeat, optimistic spirit that totally shines through. Any guy would be crazy to turn you down!

That sounds about right. After all, what's more fun than a gal who loves spankings?

Monday, June 11, 2007

Keyword Chaos Reconstituted


My statistics tell me that 54% of the visitors to MBS arrive here by clicking a link on another blog or web site. Another seven percent are the very loyal readers who simply typed my URL into their browser or saved it as a bookmark. The remaining 39% find this blog through the use of a search engine like Google, Yahoo, or MSN. It is this final group to whom we pay tribute today.

I enjoy examining the offbeat and sometimes perplexing search phases people use to arrive at MBS. Here's a sample along with my observations.
  • huge bottoms - OK, I'll admit to having a little extra padding back there. But huge?

  • spanking between friends - What's a little swat or two between old chums?

  • my bottom smarts love that bonnie - Hee hee

  • sounds of an actual spanking - Whack! Ow! Whack! Oooh! Whack! Ouch! and so forth...

  • rubber band butt sting - Oh, please. Don't give Randy any more ideas. I can just picture him wanting to tie me up and shoot rubber bands at me!

  • everyone has a bottom - A pretty good arrangement as it turns out

  • panty draw - She had the fastest thong in the West

  • bottom smacking service - I picture two guys in uniforms coming out to your house in a truck

  • I want to spank my wife - Everyone's life will be easier if you discuss it with her first

  • I love my bottom - Good for you! Too many women are socialized to believe that a healthy adult figure is somehow ugly.

  • u tube spankings - OK, would that be a spanking on an inner tube being pulled by a German submarine?

  • spank my shorts - Yeah, and kiss my grits!

  • my bottom smarts anal - It's been known to happen

  • the princess of spanking - I heard she abdicated

  • noisiest plastic panties corner time story - All hail, it's the Wizard of Odd

  • girls being naughty in cheer shorts - Just wait until those shorts come off!

  • golf and bare bottom spanking - We love the skins game!

  • harem left breast nipples - Brenda found it difficult to buy a good bra because she had two left breasts

  • introducing kink to girlfriend - A simple curtsy is the normal protocol

  • my girl friend wet her panties on our first date - This could be a sign that she's too young for you

  • can spankings draw blood? - Yes, but the Red Cross isn't likely to be put out of business any time soon

  • emergency room in her anus foreign - My mother always told me to wear clean underwear for just such occasions

  • my paddling doesn't sting - Armor is not appropriate apparel for a spanking

  • photos of bear asses wearing butt plugs - This is an incredibly bad idea

  • frontier gal spank research - Riding home on a horse is the worst part

  • I got spanking - Who could ask for anything more?

  • bountiful butt - And a fine harvest it was!

  • husband spanking wife through the ages - I think I saw this show on the Discovery Channel

  • how to get my wife to spank me - Ask her

  • I want to be spanked by my boyfriend - Ask him

  • I have spots on my bottom - You know it was an effective spanking when...

  • a good honest to goodness spanking - How good can it get?

  • when I bend over, my head hurts - Stop! You're spanking the wrong end!

  • plastic apron spank - Here's another totally ineffective implement

  • mister spanking - He's sort of like a kinkier version of Doctor Love

  • zoo bare butt bonanza - Why do we always end up at the ape house?

  • spanking always - Aw, that's sweet

  • visible panty lines - OMG! She's actually wearing underwear!

  • spankasia - Coming soon to a theater near you

  • butt plug law - I think those legislators need something else to do

  • fifty year old women having sex - You bet! It keeps the fifty year old men off of the street

  • spanking gets your blood flowing - Let there be no doubt

  • boys punished in panty girdles by girls - Whatever, dude

  • spankings on independence day - It's like my very own fireworks show in my pants

  • words that rhyme with bonnie - They're all cousins - Donnie, Ronnie, Connie, Lonnie, Johnny...

  • fine pleated panties - I thought I'd seen it all

  • loincloth tawse - And so Jane learned to avoid joking about Tarzan's grammar

  • ghost spanking - Bringing afterburn to the afterlife

Sunday, June 10, 2007

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for June 10


Our subject this week was bratting. Here are your thoughts and observations.

Pagan: Sure, I will teasingly bait him sometimes. It often leads to a playful swat if the kids are around, or a quick mini-spanking if not.

We don't do punishment spankings, so actually behaving 'badly' wouldn't lead to a spanking.

I think bratting can be overdone and get old, but a little of it can be fun for both. :)

My hubby indulges as well. He will offer an offhand remark that is certain to cause a reaction, then sits back in wait. He starts something, and I get spanked. I’m not sure how that works. LOL

Pink Cheeks: I have to agree with Pagan on this one. We are not a true DD couple, so spankings for us are often playful, erotic, or mildly "bad girl."

Bratting is something my husband will not tolerate, and I am not one to display that type of behavior. But that does not mean others can't indulge in this type of thing. I will teasingly bait (Pagan's words, but they fit so well) my husband at times, and this leads to swats too.

We have been together so long that we can almost "read" each other. He knows when I want a spanking, and I know when he is in the mood to spank… It works for us!

Spankoe: Being a brat just isn't really my style. We're new at this as a couple but my wolf-man already knows that we don't need a reason to spank! We both enjoy him giving and me receiving. Possibly we may role play at some point and my bratting him might be a part of it, but as for me just up and bratting to get spanked? Probably only in fun.

Jujubees: I am into adult spanking for fun and eroticism and not for discipline. Sometimes bratting or joking around with a spanking partner can be a lot of fun and break up the monotony. I enjoy that. Part of my criteria when I seek out a new play partner is to try and choose one who likes to kid around with me and who would be open to my bratting him for fun. I seek a partner who doesn't take this whole business of spanking too seriously. I don't mind if my partner spanks me for bratting him all in good fun, but I wouldn't want to be "punished" because of it. I don't really consider myself a brat, and even though I like to joke around and brat a bit here and there, generally I'm not a bratty person.

Paul: We were a D/D and D/s partnership, but there were plenty of erotic and playful spanking. However, Mel never really needed to brat. She had a wild spirit and could tease with the best. When she was that way, it was easy for me to pick her up, flip up her skirt, land a few brisk slaps on her butt, a quick cuddle, and carry on with what I was doing.

She really liked to have a warm seat.

Todd and Suzy: Suzy never acts up to get a hard spanking. She really does her best to avoid those. In fact, when one is coming, she does everything she can think of to avoid it.

When it comes to the playful and erotic spanking, her manipulation techniques are pretty obvious. She'll expose her bottom, present it for spanking, or just flat out ask for a spanking.

That said, Suzy does sometime get bratty in a playful way. But, that's more just for the fun banter it creates, where we're both smiling and enjoying talking about spanking. It's not a serious thing though, that would actually lead to a spanking.

If our time wasn't so restricted, to the point we have to schedule time for spanking, perhaps some of that fun banter could actually lead to a playful spanking. That would be fun. It would work, because we'd be both in on the game. It would be like a role play spanking.

Personally though, I'm not a fan of bratting into a 'real' spanking, because, well, there is nothing 'real' about it then.

Paige Tyler: LOL! While I don't do the traditional "bratty" things, I do like to flip up my sleepshirt and stick my bottom out! It's my little way of telling my hubby that I want a spanking! In fact, I did that very thing this morning! I came out of the bathroom wearing these cute bikini panties that I got at Victoria's Secret - they're orange and say "Beach Bum" in big, bold letters! - and told him that I needed a spanking. I then promptly bent over the bed! Of course, I didn't know he was going to pull out the sorority paddle! *grin*

Bonnie: My dear Randy and I have a difference of opinion about this response. My stance is that I am a mature, adult woman and a dedicated spanko. If I want or need a spanking, I simply ask for it. After all, we’ve developed all manner of signals such that I needn’t actually say the words unless I choose to do so. Almost without exception, this results in a spanking that greatly exceeds my expectations. I have no need to brat.

Randy laughed when I said this. He asked, “What about this, this, or even, this?

Well, I’ve staked out my position and I’m sticking to it! I’m not a brat. Nyah!

Doug: My girlfriend is the same way. She is often bratty for what seems to be no other reason than to entice a spanking, but she denies doing it on purpose. Maybe it is subconscious?

99% of the time, she doesn't do it at an actually inappropriate time. We're still working on that 1%, though.

Anon: Because of physical problems on both sides, some recent and now resolved, some not so recent and resolved enough that spanking could work for both of us, spanking seems to have totally dropped out of his *vocabulary*. I never have actually bratted, which I take to mean that sort of teasing play that both know means asking for a spanking, but I have recently been pushing the envelope of behavior he dislikes. At the same time, I've been doing just about everything but serve up my ass on a platter. Because we live together but are not married, I worry occasionally about pushing too hard. In spite of the lack of spanking, I still love him. I've been told to talk with him, but every time I even get near a topic that might lead to spanking, he pushes the conversation into another area, thus avoiding the discussion.

Carye: I don't brat or act up on purpose except very occasionally when we're both in the mood and playing. Papa Shrek can always tell, he says, when I am acting up on purpose and need a spanking. I guess I just get cranky or something when I haven’t been spanked, and he can tell! He is happy to alleviate that problem though!

Southern Angel: JD says I do brat him for spankings. But I, of course, disagree. I may be a little bratty at times, but it’s more just to tease him, not because I want to be spanked. If I wanted a spanking, I would ask for it. I’d not be a brat for it, because I probably won't like a spanking given for bratty behavior.

But, like I said, JD disagrees.

Thanks, everybody! See you here next week!

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MBS Spanko Brunch #73


Each Sunday, we enjoy getting together with like-minded folks and discussing our favorite subject. Today's spanko brunch topic is bratting.

Do you or your partner ever intentionally act up in order to earn a spanking? If so, does it work? Do you consider yourself or your partner a brat? Why or why not?

If you would like to contribute your thoughts to today's brunch, I encourage you leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Once everyone has provided their responses, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Saturday, June 09, 2007

Top Ten: More Magic Words


Tim over at Spanking Central posted a top ten list of otherwise innocent words and phrases that scream SPANKING to those of us so attuned. I think his list is excellent. In fact, I offer this second group of ten to augment it.
  1. When a sportscaster says team A spanked team B, I picture baseball players in the locker room rubbing their strike zones!

  2. Speaking of baseball, who can't appreciate the "Sultan of Swat?"

  3. Any sort of "corrective measures" or "punitive damages"

  4. An initiation ritual of any kind

  5. "My seat was very uncomfortable."

  6. "A turn-around specialist is working with the board of education."

  7. "Excuse me, I'm late for my tanning session."

  8. Rump roast

  9. On the "hot seat"

  10. "Feel the burn..."

Friday, June 08, 2007

In with the New: Backyard Cookout Edition


No sooner than I post links to a great collection of new spanking blogs, it seems that another bumper crop arrives. It's not really time for "In with the New" again, but I see no reason not to share these wonderful discoveries now.

Here are an even dozen young blogs that I hope you will explore and enjoy. When you visit, I encourage you to not only read, but also to offer some support in the form of comments. It's difficult to start a new blog. In the beginning, it feels as though you're writing for no one. A few positive words at the right moment can make the difference between a successful blog and an abandoned effort.

Check these out!

BB's Spanking Adventures
Cornertime for Naughty Girls
Inner Workings of Dixie
It's a Beautiful Life
Life of a Switch
Looking for Spanko
My Dabble in the Middle End
Paolo Macca
Spanking Central
Spankoe's Caldron
The Spanking Bench
Walk in the Wind

     (If I've forgotten anyone, please tell me)

To these new bloggers, I bid you welcome. I look forward to watching your blogs grow and thrive.

Here are some suggestions I assembled as a guide to enhancing your blog. While it's certainly not the final word, I think you will find a number of useful tips.

My Blogging Smarts

More Blogging Smarts

My Blogging Smarts Again

My Blogging Smarts: Balance

I hope you find the spanko blogging experience as rewarding as I have!

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Thursday, June 07, 2007

Top Ten: Wooden Paddle Thoughts


A reader recently asked me if I would share some observations about wooden paddles. He and his girlfriend live in a part of the world where such items are not easily purchased. They would like to manufacture one and wondered how the composition and dimensions alter the results.

I'm not an expert in creating wooden paddles. The truth is that I've never made one. However, I am well acquainted with their use and my thoughts are derived from those experiences.

The following list summarizes my thoughts about wooden paddles.
  1. All wooden paddles should be handled with care. Wood is harder than bone and can cause serious injury if used improperly. It is essential that spankers learn about any new implement and their partner's response to it before attempting a serious spanking.

  2. Wooden toys have a well-earned reputation for being harsh, but when used skillfully, they can also be deliciously arousing. It's easy to overgeneralize when judging paddles. Each implement has its own unique characteristics.

  3. Beware of edges. A lot of the skin damage attributed to paddles is due to abrupt edges along the sides of the striking surface. These should be sanded or machined until they are rounded and smooth.

  4. Thicker, heavier paddles hit with more force and tend to deliver more ache. With any hardwood paddle over half an inch in thickness, bruising is a particular concern.

    Conversely, a thinner, lighter paddle provides more sting and less ache. In my experience, sting seems to be more closely related to velocity than force. A lighter paddle is easier to swing and tends to be applied with a quicker stroke.

  5. The length of a paddle also affects its characteristics. A short paddle (say, 12-18 inches) is ideal for OTK spankings. With this type of paddle, the spanker often employs considerable wrist action. This increases the velocity at impact and the spankee's perception of sting.

    A longer, school or fraternity style paddle is generally used by the spanker while standing. The position allows for a full and unencumbered swing. For the spankee, the combination of maximum force and high velocity yields a very painful swat. This type of spanking is not recommended for beginners, spankees who are slender, or anyone unprepared for the intensity of the experience.

  6. The size of the impact surface is another important factor in paddle design. While many spankees are intimidated by the appearance of a wide paddle, these are often less severe than a narrower alternative. The reason is that a wider paddle distributes the same force over a larger area of skin surface.

    The extreme counter-example is a wooden hairbrush. Unlike most paddles, the hairbrush concentrates the full force of the blow over just a few square inches of bottom. The spankee finds they are very sore very quickly. Anyone who has ever been spanked with a solid wooden hairbrush or bath brush knows exactly what I mean.

  7. The wood used to manufacture a paddle is also important. Pine is a light, cheap, flexible wood that is completely useless for paddles. Pine paddles break. I've outlasted several!

    Better choices are hardwoods like maple, oak, or cherry. These are strong heavy woods that stand up well, even with frequent use over many years.

  8. Some people prefer a paddle with holes. They insist that holes make it more aerodynamic, but that seems like a dubious claim. However, if the objective is to intimidate the spankee, the holes may help.

    When used against a bare or lightly covered bottom, a paddle with holes will tend to cause skin damage at the spots where the rim of each hole stretches the skin. As with edges, any holes should be beveled to minimize the likelihood of serious injury.

  9. Surface coatings and coverings can change how a paddle feels. For example, I've found that heavy coat of varnish can increase the burn factor somewhat. Covering a wooden paddle with leather seems to reduce the perceived force of the impact.

  10. I don't believe there are any definitive right or wrong choices in terms of paddles, except in the context of one couple and the spankings they share. Each style serves a purpose. Some experimentation may be required to find the right combination of implement, position, and technique.
These are my observations and your mileage may vary.

I recognize that paddlings aren't everyone's cup of tea. Plenty of spankos live quite happily with no wooden toys at all. But if you too are enamored with the feel, sound, and tradition of wooden paddles, I hope these tips will prove helpful.

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Tuesday, June 05, 2007

Submissive versus Equal?


Self Spanker recently posed three challenging questions. These are the kind of queries for which there can be no single right response. So much depends upon context – the individuals involved and the dynamics of their relationship. In answering, the best I can hope to accomplish is to share my perspective. Nonetheless, these are interesting topics worthy of our consideration.

  1. Is it possible to be submissive and equal simultaneously?

  2. At first glance, these two states seem clearly irreconcilable. If one chooses to be submissive, they are, by definition, placing themselves below their dom(me).

    But that needn’t be the end of the story. In practice, these two concepts are considerably more malleable than their dictionary definitions might suggest. Submission can mean a 24/7 total power exchange master/slave relationship where one partner is in full control at all times. The same term can be used just as correctly to describe a lover’s occasional desire to lend some of her control to her partner during a lovemaking session.

    Mathematics teaches us that many different formulas can yield the same numerical result. Equal does not mean identical. In a relationship, partners routinely take the lead in areas where they have a stronger interest or aptitude. If these responsibilities roughly even out, we can say that the two roles are generally equal overall. This can be true even if one partner exercises complete control in one aspect of life.

    Randy and I are approximately equal. Spankings are clearly his domain. He leads and I like it that way. But counterbalancing this facet of our lives is a separate set of responsibilities that I handle independently. So, the technical answer to the question is “no,” because I am not simultaneously submissive and equal. However, when viewed from a broader perspective, I can indeed be both.

  3. Does the fact that you submit to spanking negatively impact your standing in your relationship?

  4. I don’t believe so. If anything, it’s quite the opposite. Spankings bring us closer and increase our mutual appreciation.

  5. Do you or your partner view you as the lesser member of the relationship, or are you equal in all things other than spanking?

  6. I would say the answer to both parts is “no.” I am a full member of the relationship. I have the right and the responsibility to help guide our direction.

    At the same time, I am not equal in all things other than spanking. We each have our own unique skills and we divide up work and responsibility along those lines.

I recognize that this answer is not nearly so satisfying as a simple yes or no. But in the world of human interactions, nuances are everything!

Sunday, June 03, 2007

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for June 3


Wow! What a great response. Big thanks go out to everyone who answered our question about spanking around the clock.

PK: No contest! My hands down favorite is afternoon. For me, this has a lot to do with knowing the days that we will have complete privacy. We are both fully awake and there is no need to rush. We take our time and we play, we talk, and we take cuddle afterwards. Early mornings before work can be fun, but for the best time, I will go for afternoon.

FlinchFlower: I prefer a spanking in the morning if it is related to behavior at work, or before class if it's related to school. I'd like a hard spanking then, so the sting lasts through the whole day, setting me up for meditation upon my errors. Otherwise, I want a spanking just before dinner, so that it's necessary to sit on a wooden chair and squirm. A spanking before bedtime is preferred when it's going to be very serious, hard discipline, so there's time for reassurance afterwards, and the ability to be put to bed if it wears me out badly.

Reesa Roberts: I get a bedtime spanking at least 3-4 times a week, so that's when it's most often. I prefer first thing in the morning, though. It really gets your blood flowing and fills you with energy you didn't know you had! D sleeps as late as possible, though, and then rushes around in a hurry to get to work. LOL I don't know how a spanking can both put me to sleep at night and wake me up in the morning, but I love it either way!

Jammin: I love my just before bedtime spanking. It helps me to release stress and become centered. I do so sleep better with a hot and sore bottom. These spankings are erotic and happen every night unless my lover has to travel.

Pagan: Due to having children in the house, our spankings are always done late at night, when we're sure everyone is asleep.

A few weeks ago, my hubby was home during the day when the kids were out, and we were able to take advantage of some rare privacy. It was nice not to have to worry about noise - although it meant he pulled out some favourite nasties.

I do love being spanked before bed though and curling up against him afterwards as we both fall asleep. Yum.

David: Our spanking play is usually in the evenings or anytime on the weekends. Our oldest is home disabled and our youngest is fifteen. We work these play times around them not hearing.

Paige Tyler: Any time of day! LOL! However, we do set aside time for spankings, and I really look forward to them! Examples include my mid-week spankings, which my hubby gives me before he goes to work on Wednesday mornings, and our standing Saturday afternoon spanking date! Of course, we always manage to fit in other spankings throughout the week, too!

Spankoe: Sign me up for bedtime spankings! Talk about letting go of the day’s stress, and being ready for a sound night of sleep (after a little post-spanking sex), a spanking does that for me.
I only get to see my guy one weekend a month currently, so he has a lot of catching up to do when he's here. The goodnight spanking is the one I enjoy most!

Paul: Our favourite time was bedtime closely followed by early morning. Both of these times were erotic spankings. The first was to ensure a good nights sleep for both of us, and the second, rather harder, was to set Mel up for the day.

This isn't to say that spankings didn't happen at other times. That depended on our mood. The rare punishment only took place in my office and always as soon after the offence as reasonable.

Jean Marie: When is the best time for a spanking?

I've been awoken by playful love-pat spanks to a bottom bared of covers and jammies and underwear that got me in the mood for love-making at dawn, when our sighs and moans drowned out the waking birds' singing. That's an excellent time.

I once worked in the world of business, and I'd come home for lunch and a quickie. My boyfriend at the time discovered that the fastest way to get me aroused for sex wasn't with tickling fingers or a lapping tongue, but rather with role play. He'd impersonate the boss of my dreams, and order me out of my snug business skirt for punishment of some made-up managerial error. A little spanking got me hot for lots of nooners. I often went back to work with marks on my behind and an extra wiggle in my walk.

I absolutely love a languid spanking on a lazy Sunday afternoon. My lover and I have filled this day of rest with spankings and fucks and naps and more spankings followed by still more nookie and nap-time and...

Of course, spanking is great in the evening. I've been spanked before dinner, and then sat and squirmed on a freshly warmed tush during the meal. I've been told that I'll be spanked right after dinner, and have not been able to eat due to the butterflies that fill my tummy. I've been spanked the second after I misbehave. I've been made to wait and anticipate a spanking to come later. Both ways are sublime. An ultimate erotic moment is to be spanked right before bedtime, and cuddle my glowing globes into my spooning lover's groin. No matter how seriously I've angered my man, no matter how late the hour, he can not resist make-up sex at these times.

I've been spanked in the shower. I've been spanked in a sexy bubble bath. I've been spanked when I was actually trying to get clean in the tub. The resulting sex was so dirty that we had to take another shower afterward. I've even been spanked and seduced while on hands and knees just trying to scrub the bathtub/shower stall.

I've been spanked in the wee small hours when we've come home from parties, but I've never been awoken from a deep sleep by an honest-to-goodness hard spanking. I have stayed up all night while in college, and know how giddy/silly/hallucinogenic I can get when sleep-deprived, so it could be kind of fun/bizarre/other-worldly to be spanked then. I think I'll suggest it to my current boyfriend, since I'm now a school teacher and am free for the summer. Maybe some night this week, when I least expect it, I'll get my rump roasted.

You know when you have to pee at night, and your dreams incorporate this fact? I wonder if my dreams will take this kinky turn, or if I'll just wake up in shock and awe...

When is the best time for spanking? Hmmmmmm... I guess that I'd have to answer ANYTIME!

Tim: I hate to say it, but I'm not much of a morning person, so give me anything in the PM. I hate trying to give a spanking and then falling over asleep. It really wrecks the mood.

Mary: We have a long distance relationship and both of us have demanding jobs. Whenever we are together, there are many spankings to catch up on. I think I like the afternoon spanking the best. It is usually the one to clear the slate. He is fresh and my bottom feels it! But then there is nice afternoon sex and cuddles and a long evening together to enjoy. I have found that when a hard discipline spanking comes right before bed, even though we cuddle and have sex, it is really hard on me emotionally if he has to leave early in the morning. If the spanking is hard, I not only need cuddles and love, I think I need some "ordinary time" to readjust. If it is a late night spanking followed by an early morning good bye, the letdown is huge and my emotions are very raw.

Patricia: Bill loves to spank me before bed. There’s something about a hot bottom next to him. I must admit that I do like the stress relief it brings me. Second to bedtime, I also love afternoon spankings. If these just happen to work their magic all evening, then of course it's time for a bedtime spanking.

Discipline spanking occur whenever the offense happens, and not at any special time.

Pink Cheeks: Spankings usually occur in the evenings, although they have taken place at other times as well. Since our children are grown and out of the house, we now have free reign. So, when the mood "strikes…" *grin*

Todd and Suzy: Most of our spankings take place in the morning between 8 and 9am. That has both good points and bad. The bad is that they often feel somewhat rushed. There is a day’s worth of stuff to do, after all. It's nice way to start the day though. A spanking puts a better focus on the day, and actually getting stuff done.

It sure would be nice to have the option to spank at other times of the day though!

Ofia: I can't decide.

I love spankings in the evening because I can relax for the rest of the day, and only sit on soft things. I love spankings before bed because I sleep so very well. I love spankings in the late morning/early afternoon on the weekend before we start the day because I'm reminded all day of the fun we had.

None of that changes, regardless of the type of spanking I'm receiving.

Theresa: I love lazy late Saturday afternoons! Yummo!

BB: Late afternoons are the ones I enjoy most. That means we have the whole rest of the night to cuddle and play. We don't get to be together very often. So when we do, we don't waste much time. There is just something about getting a spanking, getting to play for a couple hours, snuggling together, and falling asleep. I love it!

Cindy: I have no favorite time for spankings. I guess it depends most on what's going on. I love a spanking before dinner out, before riding, before a family picnic, and that sort of thing. And then again, bedtime spankings do something to me that nothing else can do. So, there is my answer! Just before bed!

Carye: I love spankings before bed. I love to cuddle and hug and be close afterwards. We don't get much chance for any other time at this point in our lives with the little kids. Every once in a while, there is a few minutes in the afternoon and I truly enjoy that too. I think one before a dinner out or a long trip in the car would be awesome. I shall dream about that for now and hope to enjoy it when the kids are a little older!

Bonnie: As empty nesters, our opportunities are limitless, or so it might seem. The truth is that both of us have responsibilities that frequently take us away from home. We still have to schedule time for play.

Our favorite standing date is Friday evening. It’s that perfect transition point. Both stress and the need for stress relief are at their highest. We’re ready to move into the more relaxing pace of a weekend. A good spanking provides a clear demarcation, a jumping off point, and a celebration of another week completed. The resulting reconnection sets the ideal mood for the weekend to come.

I hope you'll all stop back next week for another spanko brunch! Until then, "Keep your rump in the air and keep reaching for your ankles!"

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MBS Spanko Brunch #72


Welcome back to our regular Sunday get together. I'm glad you dropped by. This week, we will consider spanking time. By this, I don't mean the amount of time spent spanking, but rather the time of day when spankings occur.

Have you a favorite time of day for spankings? If so, when and why? To what extent does your answer depend upon the the nature and purpose of the spanking?

If you have thoughts you would like to contribute to our discussion, I invite you to leave a comment below, send me an e-mail message, or post a response on your own blog. Once everyone has provided their input, I will publish a summary.

Saturday, June 02, 2007

National Erotic Spanking Month

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National Erotic Spanking Month begins June 1

CHICAGO, IL -- "Let's set the night ablaze." That was the message delivered today by a host of celebrity speakers at the kickoff luncheon for the 2007 National Erotic Spanking Month. The event, sponsored by the National Coalition for Spanking Romance and the Center for Erotic Spanking, highlighted the many benefits realized by couples in spanking relationships.

"There's simply nothing that stokes my fires like a good bottom warming," said spanking enthusiast Leah West, "and when we're finished, the lovemaking that follows is marvelous." Her husband, Louis, agreed, "Spanking is an intimate exchange we share together. It brings us closer as a couple."

A recent poll suggests that recreational spanking has never been more popular. According to the study, nearly one half of adult women in the US have spanking fantasies and approximately twenty percent have tried erotic spanking. The percentages for men were slightly lower.

According to the National Coalition for Spanking Romance, the West's story is representative of millions of couples who have discovered the joys of erotic spanking. "We find that this type of positive experience is very common," said Dr. Horace Wacker, professor of Human Sexuality at UCLA. "Once people try a little kink, it quickly becomes a part of their regular repertoire."

Spanking-oriented events are scheduled at various locations throughout the month of June. For the complete schedule, consult the Center for Erotic Spanking web site.

Friday, June 01, 2007

Something New: The Spanking Bench


It's my pleasure to direct your attention to a brand spanking new blog called The Spanking Bench. It was created by Cody, the host of the excellent Colorado Spankers site. As the name suggests, this blog is dedicated to furniture, vanilla and otherwise, that aids in the administration of spankings.

I'm not certain whether I've ever admitted this here, but I have long been smitten with the idea of owning a real spanking bench. The concept appeals to me in so many ways. Let's count them...
  1. I love being strapped down for a spanking. It feeds my submission to essentially volunteer for whatever unspeakable delights my husband's twisted mind might concoct.

  2. I think it would be really cool to own a piece of furniture whose one and only purpose in the world was to facilitate spankings. It would be sort of like saying, "Yes, we're dedicated spankos right down to our very core and this is the place where we celebrate that fact."

  3. It would undoubtedly be more comfortable than some of Randy's alternative bondage rigs.

  4. The bench would allow us to enjoy more prolonged sessions including all sorts of inventive play.

  5. We could quickly set up for a spanking in any room of the house.

  6. It makes a perfect birthday gift.
Well, I digress. Check out The Spanking Bench!