Sunday, June 10, 2007

MBS Spanko Brunch #73

Each Sunday, we enjoy getting together with like-minded folks and discussing our favorite subject. Today's spanko brunch topic is bratting.

Do you or your partner ever intentionally act up in order to earn a spanking? If so, does it work? Do you consider yourself or your partner a brat? Why or why not?

If you would like to contribute your thoughts to today's brunch, I encourage you leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Once everyone has provided their responses, I will publish a summary of our discussion.


Pagan said...

Hi, Bonnie. Sure, I will teasingly bait him sometimes. Often leads to a playful swat (if the kids are around) or a quick mini-spanking if not.

We don't do punishment spankings, so actually behaving 'badly' wouldn't lead to a spanking.

I think bratting can be overdone and get old - but a little of it can be fun for both. :)

My hubby indulges as well - will offer an offhand remark that is certain to cause a reaction, then sits back in wait. He starts something, and I get spanked. Not sure how that works. LOL

pinkcheeks said...

I have to agree with Pagan on this one. We are not a true DD couple, so spankings for us are often playful, erotic, or mildly "badgirl".

Bratting is something my husband will not tolerate, and I am not one to display that type of behavior. But that does not mean others can't indulge in this type of thing. I will teasingly bait (Pagan's words - but that fit so well :) my husband at times, and this leads to swats too.

We have been together so long that we can almost "read" each other. He knows when I want a spanking, and I know when he is in the mood to works for us!

Spankoe said...

Being a brat just isn't really my style. We're new at this as a couple but my wolf-man already knows that we don't need a reason to spank! We both enjoy him giving and me receiving. Possibly we may role play at some point and my bratting him might be a part of it, but as for me just up and bratting to get spanked? Probably only in fun.

Jujubees said...

I am into adult spanking for fun and eroticism and not for discipline. Sometimes bratting or joking around with a spanking partner can be a lot of fun and break up the monotony. I enjoy that. Part of my criteria when I seek out a new play partner is to try and choose one who likes to kid around with me and who would be open to my bratting him for fun. A partner who doesn't take this whole business of spanking too seriously. I don't mind if my partner spanks me for bratting him all in good fun, but I wouldn't want to be "punished" because of it. I don't really consider myself a brat, even though I like to joke around and brat a bit here and there, generally I'm not a bratty person.

Paul said...

Bonnie, we were a D/D and D/s partnership, there were plenty of erotic and playful spanking, however Mel never really needed to brat. She had a wild spirit and could tease with the best when she was that way it was easy for me to pick her up, flip up her shirt, land a few brisk slaps on her butt, a quick cuddle, and carry on with what I was doing.
She really liked to have a warm seat.
Warm hugs,

Anonymous said...

Suzy never acts up to get a hard spanking. She really does her best to avoid those. In fact, when one is coming... she does everything she can think of to avoid it.

When it comes to the playful and erotic spanking, her manipulation techniques are pretty obvious. She'll expose her bottom... present it for spanking... or just flat out ask for a spanking.

That said, Suzy does sometime get bratty in a playful way. But, that's more just for the fun banter in creates... where we're both smiling and enjoying talking about spanking. It's not a serious thing though, that would actually lead to a spanking.

If our time wasn't so restricted, to the point we have to schedule time for spanking... perhaps some of that fun banter could actually lead to a playful spanking though. That would be fun. It would work, because we'd be both in on the game. It would be like a role play spanking.

Personally though, I'm not a fan of bratting into a 'real' spanking... because, well... there is nothing 'real' about it then.

-Todd (and Suzy)

Paige Tyler said...

LOL! While I don't do the traditional "bratty" things, I do like to flip up my sleepshirt and stick my bottom out! It's my little way of telling my hubby that I want a spanking! In fact, I did that very thing this morning! I came out of the bathroon wearing these cute bikini panties that I got at Victoria's Secret -they're orange and say "Beach Bum" in big, bold letters! - and told him that I needed a spanking, then promptly bent over the bed! Of course, I didn't know he was going to pull out the sorority paddle! *grin*

Paige (Tigger)

Bonnie said...

My dear Randy and I have a difference of opinion over this question. My stance is that I am mature, adult woman and a dedicated spanko. If I want or need a spanking, I simply ask for it. After all, we’ve developed all manner of signals such that I needn’t actually say the words unless I choose to do so. Almost without exception, this results in a spanking that greatly exceeds my expectations. I have no need to brat.

Randy laughed when I said this. He asked, “What about this, this, or even this?

Well, I’ve staked out my position and I’m sticking to it! I’m not a brat. Nyah!

Anonymous said...


My girlfriend is the same way - often she is bratty for what seems to be no other reason than to entice a spanking, but she denies doing it on purpose. Maybe it is subconscious?

99% of the time, she doesn't do it at an actually inappropriate time. We're still working on that 1%, though.

Thanks for all you do - I think a lot of people are more comfortable with who they are and are able to be more healthy because of your site and others like it.


Anonymous said...

Because of physical problems on both sides, some recent and now resolved, some not so recent and resolved enough that spanking could work for both of us, spanking seems to have totally dropped out of his *vocabulary*. I never have actually bratted-which I take to mean that sort of teasing play that both know means asking for a spanking-but I have recently been pushing the envelope of behavior he dislikes. At the same time, I've been doing just about everything but serve up my ass on a platter. Because we live together but are not married, I worry occasionally about pushing too hard; in spite of the lack of spanking, I still love him. I've been told to talk with him; every time I even get near a topic that might lead to spanking, he pushed the conversation into another area, thus avoiding the discussion.

Caryagal said...

I don't brat or act up on purpose except very occasionally. When we're both in the mood and playing. Papa Shrek can always tell though he says and has thought I was acting up on purpose when I need a spanking. I guess I just get cranky or somehting when I havent' been spanked, and he can tell! He is happy to alleviate that though!


Southern Angel said...

Hi Bonnie,
I hope this post takes because Blogger has not been kind to my previous comments. LOL

JD says I do brat him for spankings but I, of course, disagree. I may be a little bratty at times, but more just to tease him, not because I want to be spanked. If I wanted a spanking I would ask for it, not be a brat for it, because I probably won't like a spanking given for bratty behavior.

But, like I said, JD disagrees.


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