Top Ten: Reasons Why Bare Bottom Spankings are Best

Whether you pull 'em down or lift 'em up, spankings on your bare bottom are simply more effective. Here are ten reasons why this fact is undeniable:

1. Unveiling - Exposing a naughty bottom as a prelude to a spanking is a wonderful ritual in its own right and has many permutations.


2. Warmth - The glowing heat generated during a vigorous spanking session flows from the spankee's bottom back to the spanker thus rewarding his efforts.


3. Exposure - The surrender of clothing represents a loss of protection, both literal and emotional. The spankee becomes more vulnerable and available to receive the lessons that follow.


4. Access - The absence of fabric begins the preparation for the celebration that follows the spanking.


5. Sounds - How can you not love the unmistakable thwack of skin slapping against skin, the crack of a landing hairbrush, or the whispered whimpers of the punished one?


6. Intimacy - Skin to skin contact builds closeness and connection.


7. Bounce - Spankers love to watch a round bottom compress with each strike and then snap back again and again


8. Colors - Pink, red, dark red, and more. The changing hues indicate a message delivered.


9. Monitoring - How better to watch for excessive damage than up close and personal?


10. Ouch - Of course spankings hurt. They always hurt and they are supposed to hurt. And a spanking with zero coverage just hurts more.

A couple years ago, Randy decided that I should start wearing thong-stype panties everyday, not just when spankings were planned. Now when he lifts my skirt, every spanking is a bare bottom spanking. Once I found a comfortable style, I've come to love this arrangement as much as he does.

Top Ten: Lovely Spanker Moves

It's the holiday season again and a time to consider all that's good in our lives. This top ten list examines positive things that a spanker can do to enhance a spankee's experience.

10. The Game – There are so many fun options here. Our favorites include Spank Poker, Trivial Pursuits, and Spin the Paddle. I think it's important that these games be reasonably fair. The spankee should have an opportunity to win something other than more spanking. We sometimes use money or a gift card as an incentive. But losing is fun too.


9. The Runway – My husband / Prince Charming loves to buy all manner of lingerie and clothes that he thinks will look sexy on me. I am flattered by his attention and happy to conduct mini-fashion shows for his benefit. These runway episodes inevitably end with spankings and our other favorite activities.


8. The Beat – We love music and especially songs with that driving drumbeat. These songs provide the perfect soundtrack for our private percussion performance.


7. The Leather – Is there anything better than accepting a long, slow, loving spanking with a soft, smooth leather implement? It generates a crimson glow that is toasty warm to touch. The ouch is sufficient to be meaningful and yield positive feelings, but fades quickly afterward. This fun spanking is excellent preparation for all that happens next.


6. The Shower - A dual shower is a good time, even without the spanking. But add in wet, soapy swats and rubs and everything that comes with that, and you have some clean, wholesome play.


5. The Costume – We enjoy roleplay spankings. Getting the costumes right adds to the fun. I've been the naughty cheerleader, June Cleaver, superheroine Booty Girl, a tennis player, and a way too curvy swimsuit model. Each role has its own (mostly ad libbed) script and set of expectations. It's a way to create memorable spanking experiences.


4. The Wave – Years ago, Randy and I had a waterbed. Yes, of course it leaked, but that's a different story. We would create a pile of pillows in the center of the bed, and I would lie, face down, atop it. That's when he would start a wave in the bed, so I was bobbing up and down. He timed each swing of the paddle so that he hit downward just as the wave carried me upward. The sensation was amazing. I loved it.


3. The Journal – Almost since the beginning of our relationship, Randy has encouraged me to write about my experiences as an enthusiastic spankee. He knew I loved to write and loved to be spanked by him, so why not combine them? Since then, I have recorded hundreds of accounts, many of which landed on this blog. I am grateful for his suggestion. It's wonderful to be able to relive all of these special moments.


2. The Buzz – It seems as though I can and will happily absorb almost limitless spankings when the right vibration caresses the right spot. A spanking alone does not put me over the top, but this technique definitely will.


1. The Massage – I love to be touched by my sweetie. I love massages with warm, scented oils. Whether before, during, or after a good spanking, his gliding fingers provide a feeling of pure bliss.

Aren’t these splendid? The ranking is mine, based upon my own experiences.

Are there any other pleasant spanker techniques that should be added to this list?

Bottom Ten: Dastardly Spanker Deeds

Hi friends. Those of us on the wide side of the paddle know well that receiving a spanking can be dreadful or delicious or anywhere in between. Today, we will examine some of the techniques that push spankings toward the dreadful end of the scale. Here’s my bottom ten list:

10. The Wet Spanking – I don’t fully understand the physics behind it, but spankings on a wet bottom simply sting more. My husband, Randy, likes me to wear a certain pair of delicate white panties. They are translucent when dry and transparent when wet. And they have the ability to retain dampness despite repeated strikes with a favorite implement. He employs a spray bottle to ensure the effect is long lasting.


9. The Wrist Snap – It’s possible for a spanker to significantly increase the force of a swat by flicking their wrist immediately before contact. This increases the speed at which the implement end is traveling and magnifies the resulting pain proportionally.


8. The Double – One practice that Randy uses to multiply my posterior discomfort is the double. The double is two complete spankings separated by less than an hour. If I’m still hurting when the second spanking begins, that promises a long and unpleasant ordeal. Sometimes, he will tell me that I am in “double trouble.” That’s a bad one.


7. The Thigh Smack – Sometimes I kick or struggle during a spanking when I am supposed to remain still. I can’t help it. Spankings hurt. The technique that Randy uses to curb this sort of misbehavior is the thigh smack. Upper thighs have much less padding than a bottom. In my case, they are spanked much less frequently and lack the hard-earned toughness found immediately above. I question whether this is a valid spanking technique, but I must admit that it does have the intended effect.


6. The Observation - Sometimes, Randy requires me to watch my own spankings in real time. Back in the dark ages, he set up mirrors. Now, he’s gone digital and I watch on a tablet. It’s weird to see an implement slamming into my already tender flesh and simultaneously feel the full burning impact. I think witnessing the full scope of damage as it's being being inflicted makes a punishment worse.


5. The Stool – After the spanking is over, I sometimes have to serve corner time. He frames it as an opportunity for me to reflect upon my (mostly imaginary) bad behavior and think about why I was spanked (because he enjoys it). He uses the opportunity to snap pictures of my unfortunate bottom. Sometimes, though, he makes it more intense by having me sit, bare bottomed, on a small wooden stool. It’s the “naughty stool” and I feel that way when my poor butt is throbbing atop my throne of dishonor.


4. The Concentration – Randy likes to use spankings to “make a point.” One of his special methods for doing so is the concentration. That’s when he strikes the same two spots, low on my bottom, again and again throughout the spanking. He claims that he wants me to feel it every time I sit. He has no idea!


3. The Plug – This one has nothing to do with spankings, until it does. In our house, butt plugs are used exclusively during spankings. The plug serves as an unwelcome distraction. And it humbles me. The concept of being plugged might be interesting, but the reality is unpleasant, especially when someone is relentlessly beating the surrounding territories.


2. The Diaper – Spankees don’t like the legs-up diaper position. Not only are privates fully exposed, but the bottom is stretched in a way that makes spankings hurt much more. Then there’s the whole concept of an adult woman being positioned for a diapering. That’s not my kink.


1. The Inner Cheek Spanking – There are portions of the bottom that aren’t routinely spanked. Chief among these are the inner cheeks. Randy uses this technique as a change of pace – spread, smack, rinse, repeat. Unlike the center of each cheek, these inner slopes are not accustomed to such harsh treatment and mark easily. Did I mention that it hurts a lot? Definitely not fun.

Aren’t these positively mean and horrible? The ranking is mine, based upon my own experiences. But your mileage may vary.

I didn’t include techniques like leg locks or restraints or fearsome implements because I figure those are just part of getting spanked.

Are there any other nasty spanker tricks that should be added to this list?

Top Ten: Spanking Myths

There are a lot of misconceptions floating around about adult spanking. It's little wonder if you think about it. Spanking is simply not something about which most people generally speak. Even those of us who are quite familiar with the joys of consensual spanking hold our secrets quite tightly outside our small circle of trusted friends.

There is, of course, the internet and the wonderful resources here. However, many people have yet to find their way. For those newly arriving and anyone else with an interest, I would like to present and discuss ten common myths about adult spanking.

1. Effectiveness is related to severity - I believe that effectiveness depends far more upon what's happening inside the head of the recipient than anything that takes place at the opposite end. An effective spanking is one that produces a beneficial change in the spankee. That may, in some cases, necessitate a severe spanking. Often, however, a more moderate spanking, combined with encouraging words, expressions of caring, and appropriate aftercare will provide the greatest good for both partners.


2. Wood hurts more than leather - I hear this phrase even from experienced spankos, but I think it's an unfair generalization. Granted, some wooden toys can be fierce. But they are no scarier than a bullwhip! On the other end of the spectrum, we own both leather and wooden toys that I consider to be pure joy. Many factors enter into the severity of a spanking. The material from which the implement is constructed is but one.


3. Being dominant (or submissive) is a full time job - There are indeed couples who live their D/s on a 24 hour per day basis. However, there are other viable lifestyle options that can also work well. For example, some couples practice dominance and submission only at home or only during sessions. There is no single correct arrangement, except in the context of one couple's relationship.


4. Erotic spanking is the first step along the path to domestic discipline - As with the previous point, this is but one of many alternatives. Some couples practice DD without erotic spanking. For others, it's the opposite. A third group partakes in both. Each couple must seek their own ideal mix.


5. Spankees seek most of all to be humilated - I have read fictional stories where the big, bad dom yells, "Bare your fat ass, you stupid slut," or something even worse. There's probably a woman somewhere who gets off on that kind of talk, but I guarantee she is in the minority. I believe most of us who choose to submit do so out of love. We care for our partner and expect he will reciprocate in some fashion other than abusing us and beating us down. Earning submission is a honor. Taking it is a crime.


6. A good spanking is one that can be felt the following day - My husband says this, but I still don't buy it. As I outlined above, a good spanking is one that brings about a positive change in the recipient. It might only hurt for ten minutes, but that may be all that is required.


7. Spankings should be serious - Spanking, like almost everything else, is so much easier if you can laugh and see the humor sometimes. A trip over the knee is not quite like a trip to the gallows. Forget the executioner hood. It looks ridiculous.


8. It's best to spank until the spankee cries - Some spankees cry before the first swat. Others, like me, almost never cry during a spanking. There are better signs for judging a spanking's therapeutic value. For example, when the spankee relaxes her muscles and struggles no more, it generally means she has accepted the gift being given her.


9. Spanking solves most problems - No amount of spanking can repair a bad relationship. In fact, it might even exacerbate the situation. What spankings can do is open the channels of communication required to preserve and maintain a healthy relationship. But there is no magic bullet.


10. Aftercare is a sign of weakness - The purpose of aftercare is to bring the spankee gently back to Earth following a very intense physical and emotional experience. There is a time to play the tough disciplinarian, but this isn't it. Aftercare is an opportunity to return to the role of trusted friend, tender lover, and loyal companion. It completes the cycle and makes the entire experience real.

I'm sure I could think of ten more, but that's a project for another day.

Randy and I will be away for a few days with limited internet access. I hope to stop in, but if I don't, please know that I'll be missing all of you.

Dueling Top Tens: Leather versus Wood

Leather or wood? Which material makes for better spanking implements? Here's your chance to decide for yourself.

Why Leather is Better Greater variety of sensations Less chance of bruising Distinctive CRACK sound That great smell! More sensual Lightweight, travels well Creates a warm glow Sound of a belt sliding through belt loops Pirate floggings! Arrr! You can't wear wooden toys

Why Wood is Better Feel the burn Lasting after-effects Traditional classroom scenes Very effective persuasion Solid feeling of contact More form factors and sizes Cool, smooth sensations beforehand Usually less expensive Many pervertable objects Easier to construct

Top Ten: Things I Would Tell Vanillas

For my entire adult life, I've been keenly aware of my status as a fudge ripple gal in a plain vanilla world. I don't aspire to convert anyone, and I'm certainly not going to abandon my kink, but a little bit of understanding might be nice.

Here are ten thoughts I would like to share with open-minded vanilla folk.

1. Even if you think spankos are weird, please recognize this is just one element of our lives. In every other respect, we live like everyone else. We raise children. We have jobs. We pay taxes. We go to the grocery store. We love our families. We complain about gasoline prices.


2. We are not dangerous to anyone. Everything we do is with full consent and we are very careful so as to ensure no one is injured. Spanking is a much safer pastime than, say, motorcycling or rock climbing.


3. We have zero interest in involving children or any non-consenting person. Those kinds of illegal behavior are every bit as reprehensible to us as they are to you.


4. We are not all trying to compensate for or re-live a troubled childhood. I know lots of spankos and this stereotype simply doesn't hold up.


5. Spanking within the context of a loving relationship is the diametric opposite of spousal abuse. While an abuser tries to suppress his partner's will by force, a loving spanker seeks to fulfill his partner's fantasies with her full participation.


6. We genuinely love one another and spanking is one of many ways we demonstrate our love and commitment. For us, spanking is another flavor of lovemaking.


7. Yes, it really does hurt. But, as odd as this may sound, the pain is a secondary consideration. What we treasure more are feelings of connectedness, peace, and openness that follow.


8. It's not an exclusive club. Anyone can be a spanko. In my experience, this community is remarkably helpful, caring, and inclusive. Newbies are definitely welcome.


9. Yes, as a matter of fact, sometimes we think it's funny too. We'll be the first to admit there is something slightly comical about a grandmother eagerly bending over to be spanked across her husband's lap. Our kink needn't be somber and disciplinary. Honestly, who wants that all of the time? We definitely laugh well and often.


10. There is a whole continuum of spankos. For some couples, spankings are playful fun. Others focus primarily upon the disciplinary aspects. Most of us fall somewhere in between. Even otherwise vanilla people occasionally enjoy a few well-placed swats during sex. This too qualifies as adult spanking. The point is that there is no single formula. The couples who are happiest are typically those who tailor their lifestyle to their own tastes, preferences, and desires.

Understanding is the first step toward acceptance. Let this be a first step toward understanding. We spankos are friends, neighbors, and relatives. We're not strange or scary. We're merely normal, happy people striving to enjoy rewarding lives and relationships.

Top Ten Plus Ten: Now or Later

There are times in the lives of most spankos when a spanking in inevitable. It needs to happen and it will happen. It will definitely hurt, but afterward, the benefits will have been worth the discomfort.

Getting out of a well-deserved spanking is out of the question, but sometimes the timing can be somewhat negotiable. All it takes to postpone a spanking is a line like, "Honey, I really need to pick up your dry cleaning before they close." There are many other permutations, but acceptable excuses abound so long as you don't abuse the privilege.

This brings us to the today's topic. Is it better to just bend over and take your medicine or to wait for an optimal moment? Let's examine both sides of the question:

Get Spanked Now	Get Spanked Later
You know you deserve it	Procratination is a time honored tradition
There's no sense in waiting	Absence make the heart grow fonder, right?
Ah, lovemaking...	It'll be even better later
A good bottom warming will improve your mood for the rest of the day	Enjoy sitting while you can
C'mon, it'll be fun	Hey, spankings hurt!
He'll spank harder if he thinks you're stalling	If you're going to be spanked regardless, he might as well have a reason
If you bring him the implement, he might not choose something far nastier	Given adequate preparation time, you could dress up for him
It's the submissive thing to do	You need more time to heal from the last session
There are many worse things than a red, sore, hot bottom	So maybe you wanna be a brat
You crave the physical contact	Perhaps he's bluffing