Implement Stories #2: Pagan's Paddle

For our next installment of Implement Stories, wwe feature Pagan showing off her beautiful custom Leather Thorn paddle.

My hubby and I have an ever growing collection of spanking toys, but our most memorable (and unique) is definitely the InSinerator. An odd name, you say?

Incinerator: [in-sin-uh-rey-ter] – noun: a furnace or apparatus for burning trash, garbage, etc., to ashes.

InSinerator: , [in-sin-uh-rey-ter] – noun: an apparatus for burning the Sin in the recipient to ashes. Most effectively, I might add.

Now, I like a sound spanking as much as the next girl, and if it's delivered with a nice solid leather paddle, so much the better.

We have several leather paddles that we are very fond of, and include in most of our spanking play; the Boudoir Paddle from the London Tanners, the Brat Paddle from Leather Thorn Paddles, and the Small Hairbrush Paddle from Adam & Gillian's. All very well made, quality implements.

But being a greedy bottom, I decided I wanted something MORE. Something BIGGER. Something that would cover BOTH cheeks, so that each side didn't have to wait its turn.

Yes, yes... I know. My name is Pagan, and I am a spankoholic. It has been... um... never mind. LOL

So, I contacted John at Leather Thorn Paddles, who was happy to work with me on designing a nice BIG custom paddle.


Here is is, in all its glory: Fifteen and a half inches long, four and a quarter inches wide... and a full HALF INCH THICK. Two layers of leather - no stiffener.

Like a rich dessert...it is best served in small quantities. But it is absolutely GORGEOUS, and it most assuredly makes an impression.


Remember what Mom always said... Be careful what you wish for....

Modesty prevents me from posting a pic of it framed by a reddened bottom. But my hubby has teased that he's left my name imbedded in my butt more than once. LOL

Thank you, Pagan, for showing us that marvelous custom paddle. I know I'm impressed!

Readers who wish to participate in our Implement Stories series may do so by contributing photos and/or tales of their favorite (or infamous) spanking implements. Simply e-mail me your entries and I will post them here. For those who have already submitted implements, thank you! Yours will be appearing here in the coming days.

Keywords: implement stories, paddle

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Implement Stories #1: Todd and Suzy

Most MBS readers know Todd and Suzy and their blog, American Spanking Society. They were generous enough to submit two implement stories for publication here. So to kick off this round of Implement Stories, here are Todd and Suzy.


The first picture is of our wooden paddle. This is the first spanking implement we got as a couple. It's Suzy's least favorite implement. This is used pretty much only for harder spankings, which recently have been 'diet' spankings. Here is a story detailing a diet spanking given with this paddle.


The photograph above shows our leather/cushioned paddle. We picked this up a couple of months ago. It has a soft, cushioned side, and a stingy leather side. We both really enjoy the fun options this paddle offers. Here is a story about this paddle.

Thanks to you both for sharing your toys and your spankings.

If other readers would like to contribute photos and/or tales of their favorite (or infamous) spanking implements, there's still time left to join in. Simply e-mail me your entries and I will post them here. For those who have already submitted implements, thank you! Yours will be appearing here in the coming days.

Keywords: implement stories, paddles

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for January 28

Spank me now or spank me later? That was the question we asked this week for our spanko brunch. Here are your thoughtful responses.

Pagan: Hmm... I'm not sure if you had disciplinary spankings in mind when you asked the question, but I'm going to answer it from the standpoint of someone who only receives playful/erotic spankings.

Can I have both? WEG

I guess it would depend, really. If it was a playful, impromptu spanking, there's something to be said for being summarily snatched, overpowered and spanked without further ado. Yum. Sometimes, the unexpected ones are the most fun.

On the other hand, having him lean over in a reasonably public setting and whisper his plans for me into my ear is almost unspeakably HOT. Just knowing that later that evening, when the stress of the day is over and our charges are asleep in their beds, I will be spending some quality time over his lap is enough to have me flustered and aroused for most of the day.

So again, given the choice? YES.

Paqster: For punishment spankings, immediately, definitely.

For play spankings, anytime is the right time. But Pagan is right. Nothing is hotter than knowing a spanking is coming soon.

Jean Marie: Even though immediacy is hot, being seized, bared, bent and beaten has the incendiary appeal of quickie sex, I have to vote for delaying the gratification. Anticipation is wonderful. Carly Simon (a reputed spanko) wrote a song about it. I love having to simmer in my own juices, knowing that I'm sure to get scorched later.

CN: We only do erotic spanking, so anticipation is part of the wonderful part for me. Sometimes my spouse will whisper to me 'ready for your spanking?', when I didn't expect it. Those are also great. I guess I vote for both!

Grizzly Bear: I love letting my girl know that she is getting a spanking later in the same day, but not telling her when it will be. Then I surprise her with it when she least expects it.

S: Later, please. I just love being told in the morning just what is going to happen to my bottom that evening, so I can think about all day with happy anticipation, as the baring of my bot gets closer.

Padme: I would have to say later in the day. We have young children so it's very hard most of the time for spankings to be administered immediately. Usually, it's when they are in bed and we get some alone time. On days like Friday when I knew it was coming, I find it very arousing to wait all day thinking about it and wondering what it will be like. :)

Anticipation for me is always a big part of the fun!

Mary: I am all for delayed gratification. Due to the fact that we do not cohabitate and now there is distance to deal with, it has almost always worked out where there is the anticipation. Since I find the anticipation brings on such sweet, intoxicating arousal, I like it. Our version of phone sex/e-mail sex would be his describing in explicit detail just exactly what treatment my bottom has coming. I can feel the flow of blood shift to the nether regions when I picture the events to follow later on.

The closer the hour comes, the more the butterflies dance in my stomach, and the more wet I become. Since I am usually "forbidden" to touch myself at this point in time, the cravings for release grow stronger until it is almost agony.

By the time my lover arrives and my bottom is bared, I want that spanking so bad. If I have a nice long warm up, then it is all pleasurable pain. If there is some discipline involved and the warm up is absent, the first real "painful" swats rapidly change my mind about craving the spanking. However, there is no choice but to take what I have coming and his taking control totally makes me hot. After it is over, I am begging for him to fill me and ripe for orgasm. So for me, time for anticipation is best.

Shae: I like my microwave because it gets things hot real fast. But I love my crock pot because I get to savor the smells all day long, and build up a ravenous hunger.

I like being spanked spontaneously, but I love anticipation. I love being told in the morning as we kiss so-long that my bottom will be warmed after dinner, being e-mailed at noon as a reminder of the inevitable, flirting as we cook together, and then adjourning to our boudoir after supper. I stay aroused all day and orgasm so intensely during and after the spanks.

Frank Spanko: That’s an excellent question to ponder. But, after some thought, what comes to mind is the old adage:

     Good things come to those who wait.

Besides, the anticipation is half of the fun.

Funny Brat Girl: I have to prefer the anticipation of the spanking, for either discipline or play.

Basically, I'm never going to know exactly what He's going to do during our "session," so both are somewhat a surprise. But thinking about it all week, the build of anticipation, and the embarrassment of his daily lectures until the fateful day, definitely gets the weather changing, and before you know it, I'm at a category 4! LOL

All in all, I have a few triggers that work well. These include anticipation, embarrassment, scolding, and then the punishment and/or play.

Eva: Now AND later. That's what I say. If I had to choose one over the other, though, I would say later because the anticipation is the best/worst.

Paul: Mel generally received her play spankings in the evenings, so she would dwell on it all day. Sometimes, she got one in the morning. She liked that, but wondered if she would get another in the evening. That kept her guessing, and kept her hot.

Her rare discipline spankings were given as soon after the offence as possible, because waiting only made it worse.

Carye: For me, I would prefer later rather than right away. I like the wait. It keeps me on my toes, focused on spanking, and normally aroused! I like to think of the special time we will have together after the kids go to sleep. It makes me focus more on my husband who I love.

Thank you all for another great brunch. I'll see you here next Sunday. Lurkers in particular will want to attend...

Keywords: spanking, spank me now, spank me later, spank me, My Bottom Smarts, spanko brunch

MBS Spanko Brunch #54

Once again, it's time for our weekly get-together. Please fill your cup, grab some goodies, and find a comfortable seat.

A couple of weeks ago, I posted top ten lists of arguments why a spanking now is better than a spanking later, or vice versa. I would like to hear your thoughts on this debate.

If a spanking is inevitable, but it can be administered either immediately or later in the same day, which option would you prefer and why?

I hope you will provide your thoughts to our brunch discussion. Please leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Once everyone has shared their insights, I will publish a summary of the discussion.

The Surprise

There’s something special about getting a spanking that’s completely unexpected. Randy surprised me two nights ago in a most delightful manner.

Randy called me from work and suggested that we visit a favorite restaurant. I eagerly agreed. This particular establishment has a casual environment and a clever eclectic menu. It’s a family-run local business that we love to patronize.

Upon his arrival, my man greeted me with an especially long and passionate kiss. I suppose, in retrospect, that this should have been a tip-off, but my mind was elsewhere. As we were standing in the kitchen, ready to depart, he turned to me and said, “Wait, I forgot something.” As I heard my love bound up the stairs, I envisioned a misplaced wallet or elusive set of keys. He returned carrying instead our dogleg hairbrush. The game was on.

This particular spanking implement features an oval shaped, solid hardwood back. When applied to a woman's seat, it delivers a powerful, burning sting that seems quite out of proportion to its modest size. We’ve had it for more than ten years. Over that time, I believe it’s seen more use than any other bottom thrashing tool.

Randy had the brush gripped firmly in his right hand and the gleam in his eye told me that he planned to use it on my bottom. Almost unconsciously, my hands slipped behind me to cover his intended target. I moved slowly backward toward the wall.

“C’mon, Bon” he coaxed. “There’s no sense in delaying the inevitable.”

He was right, of course, but I hadn’t time to properly prepare myself for what was surely about to occur. I froze.

“I’m waiting…”

He expected me to come forward and voluntarily offer up my bottom. I hesitated still.

“Bon?”

“OK,” I squeaked in a small voice. He now stood before me with arms folded. I took one tentative step forward. My husband’s face looked serious, though not angry. He intended to spank hard and my delaying tactics weren’t helping.

I reached down with both hands to catch the hem of my skirt. I lifted it gradually as I turned away from him.

“Very good,” Randy said in an emotionless tone. His hand first touched and then rubbed my bottom through my nylon pantyhose. His digits worked in a circular motion, stopping to linger at the base of my canyon.

As I was becoming intoxicated by the sensuous luxury of his tender touch, the mood shifted. The hand disappeared and was replaced by a smooth, firm surface. I knew the cool aspects of the brush as well as the warm. Soon rubbing gave way to tapping, and ultimately, to swatting. Randy spanked my cheeks at least twenty times without a pause. It hurt to be sure, but his unhurried build-up allowed me the time I needed to fully embrace the pain of this magnificent spanking.

When he did pause, it was to lower my pantyhose and panties. With both gathered tightly around my thighs, I could not escape even if I wanted. Randy bent me forward from the waist and had me place my hands on a kitchen chair. Once in place, my bottom was perfectly positioned for further abuse.

Now working against my bare skin, the heat from the brush acquired a new urgency. Randy snapped his wrist as he spanked to yield extra sting. My familiarity with this technique did nothing to lessen the intensity of its result. He struck my exposed flesh a couple of dozen more times alternating sides as he continued. I tried my best not to tense up from the discomfort. Even so, I couldn’t help gritting my teeth and clenching my fists.

I knew the spanking had concluded only when I heard him place the rigid wooden instrument on the counter. Entranced by the proceedings, I stood motionless for several seconds before Randy helped me to regain an upright posture. I felt a little dizzy and quite detached as I clung to my lover. He embraced my limp body. When he kissed me this time, all manner of erotic thoughts drifted through my open consciousness. The spanking left my libido hyper-stimulated.

Randy surprised and startled me a second time when he whispered in my ear, “Let’s go get that dinner.” Eating was pretty near the end of my priority list at that moment. I looked into his gentle, calm eyes. I hoped he would pick up the immediacy of my desire. Instead, he chuckled at what must have been an expression of horror on my face.

“It’s OK,” he said with a soothing tone. It wasn’t really quite OK, I thought, but it might have to do. By now, Randy was gathering his jacket.

“Can I at least fix my face?” I inquired. “Sure,” he replied. Granted this small concession, I used those few minutes to restore my composure. I couldn’t resist the temptation of examining the condition of my punished cheeks in the bathroom mirror. As I suspected, they looked just as red and hot as they felt. This vivid display only served to heighten my hunger, though not for dinner.

Our dining experience was wonderful. Randy ordered a seafood stew and I had a huge mixed greens salad (with longastinos, capers, and pine nuts, and topped with a maple vinaigrette dressing!). Throughout the meal, my lover smiled each time I squirmed in my seat. We talked about everything except the real topic on both our minds.

Fortunately, the evening ended well. When we returned from the restaurant, Randy instructed me to go upstairs, get naked, and jump into bed. I didn’t wait to see whether he would change his mind. After he joined me in our bedroom, we coupled with gusto. The action was aggressive and vigorous. My lover took me from behind as his fingers kneaded my smarting posterior. I soon experienced a panting, shattering release. He too found satisfaction deep within me.

We snuggled until we both fell asleep. The joy brought about by a fine meal, pleasant conversation, a spanking, and sex gave way to pure exhaustion. We woke later in order to finish some chores, but the time we spent entangled in bed was a splendid escape from a busy week.

It was difficult to return to work the following morning, and not because it hurt to sit down (although it surely did). The closeness that Randy and I shared makes me long for more. This could prove to be a fun week…

Keywords: spanking, hairbrush spanking, spanking story, spanking and sex, Bonnie, My Bottom Smarts

Implement Stories: Bring Out Your Toys

Last year, I invited MBS readers to share photographs of their favorite spanking implements and the stories they evoke. Quite a few readers participated and the event was great fun. We had excellent pictures and stories about spoons, paddles, straps, and other unique bottom warmers.

I would like, with your help, to revive the Implement Stories series. I invite you to send me via e-mail a photograph (or photographs) of your favorite or most memorable spanking implements. I can accept either the picture itself or a link to it elsewhere. If you would like to include a short history, that would be splendid as well. I will then display the toys here on MBS.

Thank you, in advance, for your contributions!

Keyword Chaos Has Returned

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Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Jan 21

Thanks to one and all who participated in our first anniversary spanko brunch! Here are your thoughts about spanking celebrations.

Lisa: Ed and I really don't have any spanking traditions for celebrating birthdays or anniversary. That’s probably because we never have really celebrated much. We have recently taken a little vacation for our anniversary, but that is always a snuggle and reconnection time for us.

Rivka: Rico and I try to incorporate a spanking into just about every holiday. Of course, I'm always the one getting the spanking! =) The best are anniversaries and birthdays.

After we get married, and our anniversary date changes, so will the spanking surrounding it. It will be a lot more intimate, and have a lot more meaning to it. On our wedding night, I'm going to give myself to him as his total submissive and a sort of "initiating" spanking will occur. Each year it will repeat as a reminder of our love and commitment.

Kallisto: Being relatively new spankos, we hadn't incorporated spankings into celebrations. I have now enjoyed a great birthday spanking though, and I am sure we will continue that trend!

Don: The fair Dorothy's birthday is in August, so we make the whole month Birthday Month. She may not be spanked every day, but most days. This may not be any different from other months, but it does get us in a celebration mood.

Tigger: What an apropos question, Bonnie, since today is my birthday! And yes, we're definitely going to be incorporating some spanking-related activities! Not just for birthdays, either, but for our anniversary and Valentine's Day as well as Christmas and New Year's Eve, too!

Paul: Mel and I always tried to make sure that we had a few hours to ourselves on birthdays, holidays and anniversaries.

On these occasions, I always gave Mel an extra special good girl spanking, usually with toys of her choice. Sometimes, she'd be blindfolded and have to guess what I was using. Other times, she would throw dice to select implements. On the longer holidays, dice or a sort of lottery might be used to select what scene we would play, naughty schoolgirl, slave/harem girl, bad secretary, or one of our favourites, biker and bimbo.

I doubt if I need to elaborate how these games ended, as this isn't a XXX blog. I'll spare your blushes. WEG.

Mary: Happy Birthday Tigger! For my birthday, I definitely get a very good girl birthday spanking. It usually plays off the numbers in my new age. I turned 39 this year, so there were MANY ways to add, subtract, multiply, and divide these numbers into interesting spanks with various implements. I even got a new toy to be spanked with (which I was skeptical about, after all who is really getting to play with the toy?) On his birthday, he can pick the fantasy and spank me accordingly. I usually gift him something sexy being worn by me. (My twist on who gets to use the present and who gets to enjoy it theme) Other holidays are not so spanking focused, but definitely birthdays have been.

Jigsaw Analogy: Generally, my birthday celebration includes a spanking, and this is good. Beyond that, we make some effort to go somewhere away from home so we can have some privacy (we must be one of the few couples around who will go to a play party solely for privacy!).

My favorite, I think, is from a couple of years ago, when W. had me meet her in the city, with strict instructions about what to bring along. We had a nice dinner, and then went to a play party, where I got a great deal of very yummy spanking (schoolgirl themed). Then, at midnight, she brought out an elaborate feast, which we shared with some of our friends, and I received my official birthday spanking.

Other times have been less elaborate, but no less satisfying.

Non-birthday holidays, and W's birthday tend not to be celebrated with spankings, though (I think I've given W. a birthday spanking or two, but it's not something she would seek out for herself, so I usually don't).

Bonnie: Randy and I are quite fond of celebratory spankings. I’ve chronicled quite a few here, including Valentine’s Day, Vacation, Birthdays, Halloween, Christmas, and New Year’s Eve.

A spanko celebration is generally accompanied by plenty of kidding, laughing, and joviality. The spanking itself can be prolonged by thematic banter and good natured ritual. These sessions are always great fun, but they also serve to strengthen the bond between us.

See you next Sunday!

Keywords: spanking, spanking celebration, My Bottom Smarts, spanko brunch

MBS Spanko Brunch: Anniversary Edition

It was one year ago this week that we held our first spanko brunch. Appropriately enough, our topic for this week is celebration. Naturally, we'll approach the question from a spanko perspective.

Do you and your partner incorporate spankings and related activities into your birthday, anniversary, or holiday festivities? If so, please describe one or more favorite celebrations. If not, would you like to do so?

I hope you will add your experiences to our brunch discussion. Please leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Once everyone has shared their thoughts, I will publish a summary of the discussion.

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Spanking 101: Talking with Your Partner

This essay grew out of a recent e-mail exchange with a reader who was having trouble convincing her partner to spank her. I thought these points might be helpful for other MBS readers.

For the sake of clarity, I will assume that a male spanker is reluctant to spank his female partner. I invite you to substitute genders, roles, or level of interest as fits your circumstance. However, some combinations, particularly those involving an unwilling spankee, may be considerably more problematic than the scenario described here.

Below are ten points to consider should you decide to raise the subject of spanking with a presumably vanilla partner.

1. Incorporating spanking into an existing relationship can be very difficult. This message was conveyed very clearly during a brunch we held last summer. Individuals are complex and so are their needs and desires. It's unusual for two people to always be on the same page, especially when their relationship is evolving. It's quite natural that partners will have differing levels of interest. The first step toward enhancing your relationship is to accept and respect your differences.


2. Sometimes, things go wrong. It's relatively common for one partner to misinterpret the other's words, acts, or intentions. In the process, feelings can be hurt and trust can be damaged. The challenge is to recognize problems as they arise and deal with them at the time. This means lots of open communication including the sharing of concerns, fears, disappointments, desires, and aspirations. If both partners have the same, or at least compatible, expectations, the opportunity for future misunderstandings will be reduced.


3. There is no silver bullet and one size never fits all. I wish someone could simply lay out a cookbook approach to a fantastic relationship. Unfortunately, that's impossible. What works well for one couple may be a disaster for another, and vice versa. Ultimately, you must chart your own path to success.


4. As you approach your partner, please keep in mind that while you've had this concept in the back of your mind (or maybe the front) for a long time, the idea of spanking is less familiar to him. It will likely take time for him to process this information on his own terms. As much as we might like to set timetables, partners work on their own schedules.


5. Please be patient and try not to push too hard or too often. As much fun as a good spanking can be, it's probably not worth damaging your relationship. He may come around with the passage of time. Or perhaps not. Either way, it's important to be an understanding partner.


6. Another issue is that most men are taught from early childhood to never, ever strike any female. This socialization is very beneficial overall, but it may impede your partner's willingness to spank. The only real way around this obstacle is to prove to him that you are not harmed by spankings, and that in fact, they are very positive.


7. If he is inclined to talk, then talk with him. I think a good time is in bed after lovemaking. Both of you are relaxed and feeling very connected. At that moment, he has no pressure to perform and every reason to be open-minded. Be sure to look him in the eyes so that he understands the conviction behind your words.
   
   If he is inclined to read, you might send him links to blog posts that describe the kind of activities you desire. Alternately, if he likes paper, you could print out a few favorites.


8. Don't force the issue. If he agrees to read, give him the space to read or not read as he chooses. If he is eager to discuss the text, then by all means do so. If he says nothing, let the subject drop for a few days before raising it again. Mark my words, if he feels you are pressuring him, he will dig in his heels and your job will become immeasurably more difficult.


9. At least at first, it's best to focus upon the erotic elements of spanking. There's nothing wrong with wanting domestic discipline or heavy BDSM play, but you will be more likely to gain initial acceptance if you keep it light. Spankings are marvelous foreplay. Anything that turns you on is likely to improve his love life too. This is a language most men implicitly understand.


10. Finally, you need not feel alone in your quest. There are lots of spankos who have been precisely where you are. Bloggers and forum members are experiencing or have experienced these challenges. Most are quite willing to share their wisdom. These folks can be an excellent source for advice and support.

If you choose to pursue this course, go forth with caution and forethought. It's not the easiest path, but you might just change both of your lives for the better.

Keywords: spanking, spanking 101, spanking tutorial, talking about spanking, spanking advice

Poll: Favorite Part of a Spanking

What is your favorite part of a spanking? Anticipation Undressing Fetching the implement Getting into position Lecture Swatting the bottom Corner time Aftercare Lovemaking Remembering Current Results

Spanking Theme Restaurant Coming to Windy City

Press Release FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE For more information, contact: Rosie B. Hinde Public Relations Director OTK Cafe Partners (312) 555-9000 Spanking Theme Restaurant Coming to Windy City CHICAGO, IL -- The Windy City will soon host the first location for what is expected to become an international chain of spanking-oriented theme restaurants. The OTK Cafe will offer moderately priced lunch and dinner menus, but the real attraction will be the decor. "For the past few years, we've been collecting all sorts of spanking memorabilia," said Tina Hamilton, executive vice president of the firm. "For example, we believe we own the world's largest collection of fraternity and sorority paddles. I think patrons will be surprised and delighted by these unique items." The Chicago restaurant will be divided into four major rooms. Each will have a unique thematic decor - classroom, woodshed, boudoir, and dungeon. There will also be several smaller party rooms and alcoves that explore other aspects of spanking. The Chicago location, located on Wacker Drive, is expected to open its doors around June 15th. "The construction is already underway, and the excitement is beginning to build," said Hamilton. "We've spent a lot of time refining the concept. Our hope is that its appeal will extend beyond the established spanko community. I think there are many people who have an interest in adult spanking, but they've never really explored this area. We hope the OTK Cafe can show them that not only is this activity solidly in the mainstream, it can be safe and a whole lot of fun as well." The name OTK Cafe was a compromise after corporate legal staff nixed alternatives such as Hard Swat Cafe, House of Bruise, Pain Sorest Cafe, and Planet Paddlewood. "OTK stands for 'over the knee,' which is a popular position for administering spankings," explains Hamilton. "It's kind of an inside joke, yet not so obscure that it cannot become a household word." The privately held partnership is currently in negotiation for properties in several other popular US locations including Times Square in New York, the Inner Harbor in Baltimore, and Fisherman's Wharf in San Francisco. "We really wanted to open first in Chicago because spanking themes run especially deep in Midwestern culture and tradition," Hamilton said. "We expect that success at this location will provide a springboard for future growth." There will be a number of events associated with the grand opening. These are expected to include public appearances by luminaries from the spanko community and promotional give-aways. There will also be a press night. Details will follow as the opening approaches.

Keywords: spanking, OTK Cafe, parody, spanko restaurant

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Jan 14

Here are your thoughts about aftercare and other activities that follow a spanking.

Todd and Suzy: Most of our spankings are of an erotic nature, with sexual play flowing quite naturally after the spanking. Actually, sexual touching, even to orgasm, is often a part of the spanking itself.

For punishment spankings, the aftercare is quite a bit different. If it was an especially long or hard session, I'll rub ice onto Suzy's bottom before moving to a soothing lotion. I use lots of gentle and loving words while I'm rubbing and caring for her sore bottom. This eventually leads to sex.

Sometimes, aftercare takes as little as ten minutes, and then other times it can take over two hours. It really depends on Suzy's mindset.

I’m not sure anything else would work with Suzy as far as aftercare goes. It would be interesting to give a spanking in the middle of the day, and then offer no aftercare until much later in the evening. Suzy's not real good at waiting though... LOL

Mike: It's real simple for us, hot sex. It’s nothing set or routine, just whatever strikes our fancy, after something struck a bottom.

Tigger: Our spankings are always of the erotic variety, so after such hot foreplay, my hubby and I make love! *sigh*

Paul: Most of our spankings were erotic, as very intense foreplay often including orgasms led to hot and satisfying love play.

After the rare punishments, I used ice to reduce swelling, Arnica to heal bruising, lots of reassurance and cuddles, and often in the evenings, gentle love making.

Mary: When we first got together, sex was not on the list of options. Aftercare was often spent sitting on his lap, while he whispered words of comfort and reassurance, brushed my hair out of my face, and rubbed my back. That is the same response now following a severe punishment for letting things go. Only now, sex will follow eventually.

If it is an ordinary punishment or a play spanking, it always leads to great sex. For certain "crimes," the spanking is very erotic and the sex is intertwined, rougher, and more rowdy. It’s very much about SEX and the power exchange of a spanking is intermingled with the intercourse. It is very "bad girl" sex and very delicious. Other times, the sex that follows is sweet and tender, make up kind of sex. The whys or what happened don't matter. It is conclusive. Orgasms come much more readily after a spanking.

One other aftermath ritual is the "bottom inspection." Later that day/night/the next morning, he announces that a bottom inspection is needed. It means I am to bare my bottom and present it to him, often over his lap, sometimes by bending over the bed. He rubs his hand over my tender bottom and "inspects" the marks and results of his labor. Unfortunately, I do not show marks readily (even when I’m still quite sore) and he is often "disappointed" in his handiwork. When time allows, this can mean only one thing - more spanking for me! I love "presenting" my punished bottom to him. I love feeling his hand rub over my bottom. I giggle and swear he has trouble with his eyesight when he says he doesn't see anything, because I sure do feel it. I often have to inspect it myself in a mirror and point out where it still hurts and maybe is showing some signs of the spanking. For me, this ritual has been one of the playful, fun aspects of our spanking relationship.

Kallisto: Great sex always follows spankings for us! If I feel like there might be bruising, I will sit on an ice pack for 15-20 minutes, and it does help reduce bruising. Sometimes Spanky will rub aloe vera gel onto my hot bottom, and that feels really good too!

Natty: Usually, it starts with A. saying "big cuddle for my girl" and me pulling my trousers up and laying next to him in bed. During said cuddling, A. will joke about what a "mean boy" he is. To which I'll readily concur. ;)

Now that I'm on blood thinners, we do have to watch for bruising. If a nasty bruise is arising, icing can become part of the after spanking ritual, along with Arnica gel.

Funnily enough, sex has rarely been an outcome of spanking. Sometimes, um, a bit of wanking is involved. So there may or may not be an orgasm ending it all. Most of the time, though, it's just lots of cuddling and chatting.

Dave: As with most of the answers, if it's an erotic, or good girl spanking, some form of sex will follow.

If it's a punishment spanking, we may go immediately to me holding her tight while Cindy sobs the "I'm sorry’s." Even if she cries during the spanking, having me wrap around her tightly and kiss her softly brings her a new wave of release.

Other times, there may be some corner time for reflection before I pull her tight inside me, and reassure her that it's all done. No more spanking (for this offense anyway!).

Sometimes after a punishment spanking, and the cuddling until she's calmed down, I will have her 'thank' me with her mouth on the part of me that's been so hard and drippy during her punishment.

We very rarely use any creams on her bottom. A punishment spanking is supposed to hurt, and I believe any lasting discomfort only further benefits her memory for the long term. And we've never used any ice or other treatment to reduce the bruising, as she is as proud to wear them as I am to see them.

Cindy: Aftercare is essential, especially if the spankee has had an intense emotional reaction. Some time has to be spent bringing her back to 'reality'. As Dave has already answered, I'll only add that rubbing lotion onto a well spanked bottom, namely mine, would be awesome! I even have special lotions I could keep handy for just such occasions. Then, whenever I used it or smelled that particular lotion, oh the memories it would bring!

I hope Dave reads the wrap up!

Bonnie: I wrote a post back in 2005 that summarizes my thoughts pretty well.

Regardless of the purpose of a spanking, Randy and I virtually always make love afterward. This act relieves any residual stress, provides a feeling of completion, and renews our spiritual bond.


I'd like to offer a big thank you to everyone who contributed today. Please be sure to join us next weekend for the one year anniversary of our MBS Spanko Brunch!

Keywords: spanking, aftercare, after spanking, My Bottom Smarts, spanko brunch

MBS Spanko Brunch #52

Welcome back, my friends, to our Sunday brunch. I invite you to make yourself at home and join our discussion.

Our topics for this week are aftermath and aftercare. Specifically, we are interested in what happens after the swats subside.

What types of post-spanking activities do you and your partner enjoy? What types of aftercare you find particularly beneficial? Is there something else with which you would like to experiment in the future?

I hope you will contribute your thoughts to our brunch discussion. Please leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Once everyone has shared their insights, I will publish a summary of the discussion.

Top Ten Plus Ten: Now or Later

There are times in the lives of most spankos when a spanking in inevitable. It needs to happen and it will happen. It will definitely hurt, but afterward, the benefits will have been worth the discomfort.

Getting out of a well-deserved spanking is out of the question, but sometimes the timing can be somewhat negotiable. All it takes to postpone a spanking is a line like, "Honey, I really need to pick up your dry cleaning before they close." There are many other permutations, but acceptable excuses abound so long as you don't abuse the privilege.

This brings us to the today's topic. Is it better to just bend over and take your medicine or to wait for an optimal moment? Let's examine both sides of the question:

Get Spanked Now	Get Spanked Later
You know you deserve it	Procratination is a time honored tradition
There's no sense in waiting	Absence make the heart grow fonder, right?
Ah, lovemaking...	It'll be even better later
A good bottom warming will improve your mood for the rest of the day	Enjoy sitting while you can
C'mon, it'll be fun	Hey, spankings hurt!
He'll spank harder if he thinks you're stalling	If you're going to be spanked regardless, he might as well have a reason
If you bring him the implement, he might not choose something far nastier	Given adequate preparation time, you could dress up for him
It's the submissive thing to do	You need more time to heal from the last session
There are many worse things than a red, sore, hot bottom	So maybe you wanna be a brat
You crave the physical contact	Perhaps he's bluffing

Happy Birthday, CeeCi!

Today is a special day. It's time to celebrate with our dear friend, CeeCi! I encourage you to stop by and wish her well.

CeeCi,

Thank you for making our world a more beautiful place. The calm serenity of your garden is an inspiration to all who visit.

May your every path be lined with comfortable reassurance and unexpected joy. When the rains come, let them nourish. When the birds come, let them entertain. When the winds come, let them set us free.

Have a wonderful day, and a momentous year!

The Kiss

As much as I adore rollicking, kinky fun, there’s something very special about a kiss. It’s just a kiss, but oh my, what a kiss can hold.

It’s a simple act. Two pairs of lips touch in unison. A kiss can be innocent, or it can be outrageously lusty.

A kiss, like an “aloha,” can either bid someone goodbye or welcome them home.

It’s so acceptable that it can be done with a child in church. Yet, a kiss is ideal for expressing the burning flames of sexual passion. It can speak a non-verbal command, suggestion, or request. One kiss can express love or need or comfort or support or affection or all of these emotions.

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When couples live together as long as Randy and I have, they develop certain routines. For us, there is the kiss. Most days, I arrive home from work an hour or two ahead of Randy. I use this time for errands, cleaning, cooking, or blogging. It’s my time to just be me.

When Randy returns, I make a point of greeting him in the kitchen with a kiss. We usually kiss before we speak and the nature of that kiss does a lot to shape the course of the evening ahead. Many days, one or both of us is tired. We share a familiar peck and a quick hug. Many times, he’ll pat my bottom as a reminder of the fun we share. Then we have dinner and often go our separate ways until bedtime.

Every so often, however, our kiss acts as a flashpoint. One adventurous tongue darts forth and is soon joined by its partner. Hands roam and fingers knead. Clothing descends amid rapid breathing. Now unleashed, our carnal craving will not subside short of sensual satisfaction.

Take last night, for example. All day long, I had been thinking about my man and the wonderful things he does to me. Sitting at my desk, my mind wandered. I shivered with delight as I imagined his hand sliding over my thigh. A moment later, I remembered where I was and resumed my work. Still, that undeniably erotic imagine was firmly embedded in my psyche.

When my lover arrived home, the kiss I had been saving for him spoke volumes about my intent and my state of mind. I placed my arms around his neck as his arms encircled my waist. His lips were soft and slightly moist. When they met my own, I could feel my excitement rising. Randy delivered a series of prolonged and deliberate smooches, each more sensuous than the one prior. I matched his pace as I began to massage his strong shoulders. By now, both of his hands were upon the seat of my slacks.

Feeling increasingly warm, I escalated the action by licking around the inside of his lips. He reciprocated by thrusting his tongue into my mouth. At that instant, I felt nearly overcome by blind desire. I was vaguely aware of a cool breeze on my legs as my pants fell. Two tongues, four lips, and four hands worked in unison to heighten our mutual stimulation.

I jumped with surprise when Randy’s solid palm clapped against my panty-covered bottom. He repeated this gesture using his right hand even as his left arm pulled my torso toward him. I could feel his undulating pelvis grinding against me. The impacts hurt, but I did not resist. I longed for these sensations.

A short time later, I found myself perched face down over Randy’s lap as he sat on our living room couch. My bottom tingled from his earlier attention. Before renewing his efforts, he admired my gluteal globes as he peeled back my underwear.

“What a luscious ass you have.” I thanked him, for lack of a more considered response.

My lover rubbed my bottom with both hands, pausing periodically to squeeze or swat. This delightful interlude went on for five or ten minutes as he enjoyed playing with my bottom and I luxuriated in his every touch.

Whack! Randy had obviously brought a light, stingy implement with him from the kitchen. What I later learned was a wooden spatula briskly slapped against my right cheek. He rearranged me on his lap, anchoring me by gripping my hip. The spatula struck the opposite side with what seemed like the power of a paddle. I wasn’t going anywhere until Randy decided my spanking was complete. This submissive notion triggered another wave of shivers. I signaled my continued willingness by arching my back so that my bottom was thrust upward. I invited more stinging blows and he did not disappoint.

The actual spanking probably lasted only ten minutes or so, but wow. I was in a submissive headspace such that time was irrelevant. I wanted him to spank me every bit as long and as hard as he wished. I felt as though I was completely his to handle in any way he chose. I wanted this spanking. I needed it. It had been too long between sessions and I wasn’t about to settle for less than everything.

The spatula is a fun toy. It generates plenty of sting and redness without the deep ache I associate with paddles and other heavier wooden implements. As a result, I felt as though I could go on and on. At least once, when Randy seemed like he was slowing down, I jutted my bottom upward again as if to request his burning salute. These kisses were a whole different variety, but no less welcome.

When my man determined that the spanking was over, he rolled me off of his lap and lowered me to the carpeted floor. There I sat, slightly woozy, and just looked at him. Before I knew what was happening, he had me on my back and was quickly removing the rest of my clothing. I gasped when he ran his thumbs over my sensitive nipples. His kisses now were those of an experienced lover, filled with intimate passion and expectant longing. I reached to embrace him, but he eluded my grasp. Now he was between my thighs, kissing and lapping at the very core of my sexuality. Energized from the spanking, it took only a few moments of this intense play before I found myself shaking with orgasmic joy.

Just when I thought I could take no more, he placed himself between my legs and thrust into me. I accommodated him easily as he let loose a groan of pleasure. We made love right there on the floor of our living room. Each time Randy drove into me, I could feel my well-spanked derriere slide across the carpet. Revisiting the pleasurable pain made all of the other sensations even more incredible.

When we finished, we lay together on the floor in the middle of the room for several minutes. We both felt spent in a most delicious way. Eventually, he retrieved my robe and we enjoyed a light dinner in front of the television.

This morning, Randy had the audacity to complain about rug burns on his knees! I can tell you that my own rug burns are more than a little touchy as well. Every time I sit today, my mind slips back to those sweet, magical moments.

Kiss your lover today. You’ll both be glad you did!

Keywords: spanking, spatula, spanking story, spanking and sex, Bonnie, oral sex

In with the New: Winter Edition

Over the past month, a few of my favorite spanko bloggers have decided to give up this pastime in favor of more pressing pursuits. While I fully respect their choice, I will miss reading their inspired and inspiring words. It makes me sad that these friends are gone.

At the same time, I've discovered a number of great new spanko (or spanking-related) blogs created during the previous few months.

I'm delighted to highlight sixteen more blogs that I hope you will explore and enjoy. When you visit, I encourage you to not only read, but also to offer some encouragement. It's difficult to start a new blog. In the beginning, it feels as though you're writing for no one. A few positive comments at the right time can make the difference between a successful blog and an abandoned effort.

Check these out!

Bishy's Blog

Brat Out of Control

Brazen Brunette

Chross' Guide to the Spanking Internet

Crannbean... Life of a Tree Woman

The Disciplined Feminist

Emilie Gets Spanked

Farmwife with a Twist

Leia-Ann Woods Diary

My Ever Evolving World

Reesa Roberts

The Spanked Wife

Spanky Love Kallisto

Strange Imagination

That Smitten Kitten

What are You Wearing?

(If I've forgotten anyone, please tell me)

To these new bloggers, I bid you welcome. I look forward to watching your blogs grow and thrive.

Here are some suggestions I assembled as a guide to enhancing your blog. While it's certainly not the final word, I think you will find a number of useful tips.

My Blogging Smarts More Blogging Smarts My Blogging Smarts Again My Blogging Smarts: Balance

I hope you find the spanko blogging experience as rewarding as I have!

Keywords: spanking, spanking blog, spanking blogs

The Bottom of the Mailbag

OK, this is off-topic. I admit it. But it just so needs to be said…

These are some messages that, for reasons that will become evident, I didn’t include in my usual mailbag segment. Let’s see if we can have a little fun with them.

Message: I am the former oil minister of Nigeria…

Response: Oh yeah? I used to be court toady to the Livestock Queen at the Murphy County Fair.

Message: Miracle penis growth formula!

Response: That would a miracle all right. I believe I’ll pass.

Message: Confidential stock alert

Response: How confidential can it be if spammers know about it?

Message: XXX squirting beauties

Response: I’m holding out for four X’s

Message: Meet hot girls in your town

Response: If I really wanted to meet those girls, I’d probably just say “hello.”

Message: Free on-line casino action!

Response: I’ll wager the “free” casino wants a credit card number.

Message: Buy \/l@ggr@ cheep

Response: Why would I buy anything from people who can’t spell?

Message: Microsoft Office for $50

Response: Have I shown you my bridge in Brooklyn?

Message: Weight loss breakthrough your doctor doesn’t want you to know about

Response: If my doctor doesn’t want me to know, I’m confident it’s a bad idea.

Message: Grow hair instantly!

Response: Look, it’s the amazing human Chia Pet...

Message: Lowest prices on Rolex

Response: Why is my wrist turning green?

Message: Your eBay account has been suspended

Response: Thank goodness. I was going broke bidding on that junk!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Jan 7

Our topic this week dealt with signals a spanko might use to indicate their preferences to a potential partner. I want to offer my thanks to everyone who contributed.

A special greeting goes to Funny Brat Girl who joined our brunch for the first time today.

Anon #1: If you are searching people on an online social networking site such as Friendster, MySpace, or Facebook, a user who lists "Secretary" as a favorite film might be a good candidate.

Just a thought, I don't know if that really holds true.

Roper: I don't have any secret signs or signals, but I'd sure love to know about them if anyone else has any! I sometimes wonder how any D/s folk ever made connections before the Internet made it possible to pinpoint like-minded people.

Theresa: I don't know any and sure wish I had.

I thought about getting a license plate that read OTK. I felt the right people might read and follow me! A friend saw a strange girl in the grocery store wearing a t-shirt that said “naughty.” He took that as his cue, and last I heard they were living happily every after!

Jigsaw Analogy: Tee hee. I have a pajama top that says "Naughty" on it, but I don't wear it out and about.

There is the whole gay "hanky code", but I don't know anyone who actually remembers the details of it, so it may not help out. Fuscia is apparently the color for spanking, in the left back pocket if you're a top, and the right if you're a bottom.

I skimmed the list, and can someone explain to me what a "cuddling fetish" is, and how there can be a top and a bottom while you're cuddling? (The flag for that is teddy bears, should you be interested.)

And am I the last person on earth who routinely uses a handkerchief (white, cotton) primarily for the purpose of (gasp!) blowing my nose?

As for other signals, there's always keeping a hairbrush or bath brush visible. Or keeping slightly kinky books on your shelves. Or just bratting a whole lot if you're a bottom (I've had people with whom I wasn't in a relationship, and with whom I hadn't discussed kink, deliver a resounding smack for some of my bratting!)

Anon #2: We NEED one, Bonnie! We can start one right here and now.

My suggestion is bottoms put a flat palm to a posterior cheek and rub in a circular motion, while tops put the heels of their hands together and clap repeatedly. I would love it if this (or some widely recognized signal) became common and widespread.

Paul: I'm trying to remember how I knew Mel was into spanking. I think that she asked a question about discipline in the army, and I replied, "not by spanking." Everyone chuckled, but Mel gave me a look.

It would be nice if there were a code, but it's better to rely on ESP!

Funny Brat Girl: I always thought it was interesting to just bring up spanking as a topic... Like how they have spankings in movies... and see how they react. Sometimes that works, and sometimes it doesn't for me. But wow, when you get a weird reaction... RUN for the hills... LOL!

Elis: If I were younger and out there looking, I think I would have a tee shirt that read "Love OTK." Now I am a life long spanko, but when I first started reading on the Internet, it was several days before I realized what it stood for. However, anyone who is into spanking does know these initials. So if I were wearing my tee shirt, and some guy asked about it I could just say "If you have to ask, it doesn't matter!"

Brat Scorcher: Wearing a tee-shirt that says, "Naughty" or "I Love OTK" sounds pretty bold to me. I mean, I certainly would not be offended, but living in a community that is a little on the conservative side and ...well, I would just not be comfortable advertising in that fashion. (But I will be on the look-out for you!).

Regarding the aforementioned "hanky" code, that whole signaling technique is spelled out in the Al Pacino movie "Crusin'." But be forewarned, I found the movie dark and disturbing. It is not about spanking whatsoever. Unfortunately, I think the only thing that wearing a fuscia hanky will accomplish is conveying to people the impression that you have really bad taste in hankies.

I'm afraid there are not subtle gestures or signals. Let me know if you can suggest one! Perhaps some special "I love Bonnie" lapel pin could come into vogue. Right now, we just have to work at it and delve in subtle ways. I remember being out on a first date and the girl kept talking about doing certain things at work or at school and saying how, "Oh, that was really bad," or "I was really bad to do that." After which I would begin to interject, "Oh yes, you really, really need to learn to behave properly. You really do need to learn a good lesson in proper behavior." Gradually, gradually, head down this path and see if you pick up on the right signals. If all goes well, you may soon be giving your sweetheart a good sound bottom warming!

Thank you all for sharing your insight! See you next week...

Keywords: spanking, spanking signals, My Bottom Smarts, spanko brunch

MBS Spanko Brunch #51

Today is Sunday, so it must be time for brunch. Please pull up a chair and join the group. You're always welcome here.

This week's question was sent to me by a reader a few weeks ago. I considered including it in the mailbag segment, except that I don't know the answer. I'm hoping some of our single or previously unattached participants will have some good suggestions.

Have you any signs or gestures that allow you to signal your spanko proclivities to a potential partner?

I invite you to submit a contribution to our brunch discussion. Please leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Once everyone has provided their responses, I will publish a summary of the discussion.

Acknowledgements

Two friends of MBS recently recommended this blog to their readers.

Debbie from Fresh Air Lover said:

My Bottom Smarts: This is a blog about spanking. Tastefully, artfully, intelligently done. I love Bonnie. If you are curious about spanking or someone who is into spanking and want to find a community that embraces you, you should check her out.

Meanwhile, Ed from Chicago Spanking Review wrote:

MY BOTTOM SMARTS - I'm sure it does, for Bonnie (whose blog and bottom these are) is regularly spanked by her husband - sometimes, with a good-sized paddle (yes!). Bonnie views spanking as a prelude to passionate lovemaking, and has a great sense of humor. This last is in short supply in the spanking world, and something we value a great deal here at CSR. In addition to writing about her own spankings, Bonnie writes spanking fiction, gives advice, conducts spanking tutorials (valuable to a man who needs to know what spanking women want), and composes spanking-themed parody songs.

I sincerely thank you both for your generous words.

A Fair Question

My friend Nancy (she of the traveling blogs fame) asked me a question the other day. Two questions, in fact.

What do you like best about blogging and what keeps you going when it gets tough? I think I know the answer but I will wait to see what you write.

Fair enough. Nancy is way ahead of me because I'm not sure I know the answer, or at least all of its nuances.

Way back in the beginning of my blog, I wrote a post that examined my reasons for blogging at that time. This was at a moment when I was just starting to acquire regular readers. I was absolutely thrilled that people were actually enjoying my stories. A number of the good folks who commented remain friends to this day.

Since then, my thinking has evolved a bit, but all the points I made are still valid. To summarize, here's what I wanted:

1. A place to share the spanking stories I had written


2. A forum to discuss spanking experiences with like-minded people


3. A chance to give something back to the community in the form of spanking tutorials


4. An opportunity to demonstrate how spankings need not always be serious, and can, in fact, be hilariously funny


5. The ability to portray consensual spanking and those who practice it in a positive light


6. A celebration of the wonderful human relationships that develop through blogging

That list is really pretty close to the mark. Today, I'll add a few more:

1. A vehicle for encouraging, supporting, and promoting spanko bloggers


2. A resource for the spanko blogging community


3. A voice for safety, consideration, and tolerance


4. A constructive outlet for all of my goofy ideas

The second part of the question is a bit more difficult. Why do I keep coming back to this keyboard as if drawn by a siren's song? Even when I'm tired, busy, or not feeling my best, I'll post something if I can.

I guess it goes back to my training as a journalist. When a writer is on deadline, the article must be delivered and it must be clean. And it will be. I don't feel stress or pressure to publish here on the blog, but writing is what I do. When I don't write something new every day, I feel as though I've missed an opportunity.

As I've documented before, Randy and I have gone round and round on this topic. He simply doesn't get it. He believes I ought to be able to take a week off and not look back. The reality is that I can take a week off, but I always look back. Perhaps I act like a mother hen sometimes, but this egg is one worth hatching.

I suppose this is a wordy way of saying that what keeps me going is me. It's simply my nature. There will undoubtedly come a day when I decide that it's time for me to turn my attention and my energies elsewhere. On that day, I'm sure I will attack my new project with no less gusto than I apply to MBS. That's just the way I do things.