Showing posts with label spankings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label spankings. Show all posts

Sunday, September 04, 2022

A Proper Spanking?

I've seen this saying posted on various spanko blogs for years:

A proper spanking doesn't start until you wish it was over

Bah, I say! Most of my spankings wouldn't be proper by this definition. My husband and I enjoy and celebrate every moment and every swat, from beginning to (rear) end. Even when my bottom really hurts, I want to receive the full spanking that I deserve. I'm committed until he decides we're done and I am grateful for the stinging gifts he delivers.

I think whoever wrote this must not love getting spanked.

Sunday, February 09, 2020

Things About Thongs

Our friend, Dev, recently mentioned a topic that reminded me of a post that I composed in my mind, but never actually created. That topic is spankers who feel extra motivation to spank women who wear thongs. I happen to be married to one.

Randy has always been oddly obsessed with the state of my underwear drawer and what I’m wearing beneath my skirt. He buys me new panties almost as fast as I can wear them. The styles range from pink lace nylon granny briefs to practical cotton high cuts to sexy red bikinis. To his delight and arousal, I wear them all. We have a little ritual where I will model his latest acquisitions, generally ending with a fun spanking and more. I appreciate his attention.

I also wear thongs. We established ages ago that wearing a thong means a spanking for me, and usually a fairly hard one. After hundreds of iterations, I know this game very well. When I crave some posterior encouragement, slipping on a thong is a fast track means to make it happen.

Randy knows too. Occasionally, he hides the usual contents of my underwear drawer and replaces them with a dozen or so new thongs. As I lie across his lap and accept the inevitable consequences, he tells me, “Those look amazing on you. I think you should start wearing them every day.” Hoo boy.

Truth be known, I don’t hate thongs. I used to complain about wearing them until I found the correct style and size. In that part of the world, I need soft material with no abrasive edges. The waistband should rest at my natural waist and the fit should be snug, but not tight. When they are right, thongs can be so comfortable that I forget about them, at least until he gets out the paddle.

A reader asked me whether I feel humiliated by having to wear a thong. My answer is no. First, I’m not forced to wear anything. I choose my clothing with a full understanding of the implications. And I don’t feel humiliated. I’ve worked for years to find peace with my curvy body. I don’t mind showing it off for Randy because he loves how I look and often tells me so.

A better question is why so many guys are fascinated by this simple strip of cloth. I don’t know the answer, but I imagine someone will explain it to me. While we’re asking, what is it about a thong that makes guys think that the wearer needs to be spanked? I understand that the bottom is fully exposed, but even a completely naked bottom doesn’t seem to have this same effect. Does the presence of a thong convey something about the wearer?

I have a theory, but it may only apply to my man. I think that Randy likes me to be complicit in my own spankings. When I play a role, whether putting on a forbidden thong or fetching an implement, it signifies not only my agreement, but also my active participation. So I am at least partly responsible for the punishments I receive and the pain I feel. Collaboration is a different headspace than simple compliance.

So what do you think? Why do guys think thongs are different from other panties? What, for a spanko, makes them different?

Sunday, April 22, 2018

Slide Night

Two posts on consecutive days - How about that?

Some of you may remember a mid-century tradition where family and friends would gather in a darkened living room or den to view still photographs projected on the wall. Using a borrowed slide projector, Dad would present and narrate a collection of pictures that captured family vacations, school events, milestone moments, and holiday dinners. By today’s standards, this was primitive and boring entertainment, but for us, it was a lot more fun than another evening of black and white network television.

On Friday, Randy and I resuscitated the ancient tradition of Slide Night, with a spanko twist. Our Friday night celebration began with me getting a bare bottom spanking. At Randy’s suggestion, I stripped down to my T-shirt and thong. Fortunately, it’s finally a little warmer around here and my dearth of clothing wasn’t an issue. We settled in the living room where I took my familiar position over his lap on the couch. He selected a favorite leather paddle for the festivities. My spanking was dreamy with just the right amount of sting. I thoroughly enjoyed it!

When he was finished paddling and rubbing my bottom, we settled in on the couch. Randy used his laptop to cast a slideshow onto our big television. We’d done this before for streaming movies, but this slideshow was new territory. I quickly deduced that I was to be the star of the show. Over the past forty years, Randy has taken thousands of photographs of me. Specifically, most are pictures of my well spanked bottom in every imaginable position and state of undress. He has collected, captioned, and curated these photos as a catalog of our happy spanking memories. On this night, we took a sore bottomed stroll down memory lane. The dialog that follows represents transcribed highlights from the ensuing discussion.

R: Remember this one, Bon?

B: How could I possibly…? It’s another picture of my butt.

R: Well, that was the first time we tried the Vermont Country Store bath brush.

B: Holy %#@&! No wonder I was marked. That thing is pure evil.

R: Yes, but we had a good time with it.

B: Sometimes my idea of a good time and yours are different.

R: How about this one? I have very fond memories of you wearing those purple bikini panties.

B: It looks old. Was that a Polaroid you scanned?

R: Very good. This was one of the first times I spanked you really hard with the sorority paddle. Back then, I wasn’t sure how much you wanted and how much you could take. I underestimated you on both counts.

B: Those were happy times. I remember telling you that I wasn’t made of glass.

R: This one is more recent.

B: Yeah, I can see the spanking bench.

R: Good eye. It was actually our first time with the bench.

B: I fell in love immediately. There’s just something wonderful about being strapped down for a spanking.

B: What on Earth did you do to my bottom here?

R: This is another old one. Do you remember that old blue plastic bathbrush? You got about a hundred hard swats from it that day.

B: Yikes! That looks so ouchie. I wonder what I did to deserve that.

R: I think you asked for it.

B: Oooh.

R: And here’s one from the naughty cheerleader series.

B: Naughty cheerleaders always get spanked.

R: Yes, they do.

B: That picture looks downright pornographic. I don't like it.

R: You were so sweet and lovely that day.

B: Next time I'm sweet and lovely, let's point the camera at the other end, all right?

B: Now this looks like the results of a caning.

R: Right. I love seeing you standing in the corner with your stripes on display.

B: Not especially my thing, but whatever. I’d actually rather you caress me afterward.

R: I don’t have many photos of that part because my hands were full.

B: Just as well.

R: This picture is one of my all time favorites. Look how the red peeks out from the bottom of your short shorts.

B: The reason the red peeks out is because you spanked my thighs. Meanie!

R: You love it.

B: That is totally beside the point. Let’s move on.

B: So what’s going on here?

R: I thought you looked beautiful that day so I took your picture.

B: When was this one taken?

R: That was when [adult daughter] was a baby.

B: I just remembered why I work out. I look mighty wide there.

R: You know that I adore your curves.

B: I believe you said that once or twice.

R: Here’s a summer bathing suit spanking.

B: That suit wasn’t designed as a thong back, you know.

R: Yeah, but taking off that one-piece would have been a lot more effort.

B: ...And we certainly wouldn’t want an inefficient spanking.

R: Sometimes you just need the paddle and it can’t wait.

B: So this is about my needs? Or is it about what you think I need?

R: Okay, maybe it’s that second one.

B: Just as I thought.

This happy show-and-tell banter continued for more than an hour. I didn’t recall seeing many of the pictures previously. After a while, punished bottoms start to all look alike to me, even with his witty backstories. So we decided to stop for the evening. Randy felt it was appropriate, in the spirit of the occasion, to spank me again. So I clambered across his lap a second time and gratefully accepted all the percussive love he promised. He was dismayed that my bottom had shed the color he deposited during the previous session, but quickly remedied any deficiency. When satisfied with his artwork, he tossed the small paddle onto a side table. Kissing and touching ensued. Spankings are still the very best sort of foreplay for us.

Randy says that he has plenty more “slides” so there’s a good chance we’ll hold this event again soon.

Saturday, January 13, 2007

Top Ten Plus Ten: Now or Later


There are times in the lives of most spankos when a spanking in inevitable. It needs to happen and it will happen. It will definitely hurt, but afterward, the benefits will have been worth the discomfort.

Getting out of a well-deserved spanking is out of the question, but sometimes the timing can be somewhat negotiable. All it takes to postpone a spanking is a line like, "Honey, I really need to pick up your dry cleaning before they close." There are many other permutations, but acceptable excuses abound so long as you don't abuse the privilege.

This brings us to the today's topic. Is it better to just bend over and take your medicine or to wait for an optimal moment? Let's examine both sides of the question:

Get Spanked NowGet Spanked Later
  1. You know you deserve it
  1. Procratination is a time honored tradition
  1. There's no sense in waiting
  1. Absence make the heart grow fonder, right?
  1. Ah, lovemaking...
  1. It'll be even better later
  1. A good bottom warming will improve your mood for the rest of the day
  1. Enjoy sitting while you can
  1. C'mon, it'll be fun
  1. Hey, spankings hurt!
  1. He'll spank harder if he thinks you're stalling
  1. If you're going to be spanked regardless, he might as well have a reason
  1. If you bring him the implement, he might not choose something far nastier
  1. Given adequate preparation time, you could dress up for him
  1. It's the submissive thing to do
  1. You need more time to heal from the last session
  1. There are many worse things than a red, sore, hot bottom
  1. So maybe you wanna be a brat
  1. You crave the physical contact
  1. Perhaps he's bluffing

Saturday, December 30, 2006

MBS Year in Review


Good old 2006 is pretty well finished and 2007 is nearly upon us. This transition seems like an ideal time to reflect upon the year that was. I don't know how to summarize 365 days and a similar number of widely varied posts. For my year end MBS retrospective, I chose instead to present twenty posts that I consider to be highlights. I hope you will enjoy reliving these moments.

  1. Bonnie's Definition of a Good Spanking - This list was equal parts advice, opinion, and fun!

  2. Account: Over the Couch - This was the story that really put MBS on the map. After it was picked up by SpankBoss at the Spanking Blog, my readership soared.

  3. Sunday Brunch: Number One - This wasn't our best Sunday brunch by any means, but it was the first. It began what is my favorite continuing feature. I simply love to read everyone's perspectives and to bring the community into my blog.

  4. Account: Baby's Got Back - A Valentine's Tale - It warms my heart to recall this bottom-warming evening.

  5. The Female Bottom: An Owner's Manual - As with #1 above, this post seeks to be both informational and humorous.

  6. The Moment of Truth - A journey inside the spankee's mind.

  7. Account: Rituals in Action - My dear husband, Randy, decided to explore spanking rituals.

  8. Account: Weekend of Wonder - This was an older story that first appeared in MBS during 2006. These are some wonderful memories.

  9. Spanking 101: Fantasy and Reality - Many readers have expressed their gratitude for my tutorial series. In this installment, we went beyond the simple how-to to explore the role of fantasy within a kinky relationship.

  10. Account: Paddled Cheerleader - No summary of 2006 at MBS would be complete without this classic. I got to be the naughty cheerleader!

  11. Account: Of Duct Tape and Step Stools - I have fond memories of this post. Not only does it capture an amazing night, but it was picked up by a number of prominent blogs thanks to Fleshbot.

  12. Account: Hindsight - Fun with smoke and mirrors!

  13. Account: The Saga of the White Shorts - I had no idea what I was getting into...

  14. Panty Drawer Inventory - For a certain segment of my readership, this is their favorite post ever. They want me to post a sequel where I model them.

  15. Top Ten: Why Spankings are Better than Prozac - I had to include a humorous top ten list and this was my favorite.

  16. Account: The Awakening - What a way to start the day!

  17. Welcome to Whaxton - This post is a parody of a recruiting pitch for a private college. Life at Whaxton, however, is a bit different.

  18. Love Our Lurkers Day - LOL was definitely one of the best moments of 2006 for me. The effort succeeded beyond anyone's wildest expectations. It was great to hear from so many friends, both old and new. We'll have to try it again sometime next year.

  19. Song Parody: Like a Brat over Piled Pillows - OK, so I slaughtered one of the greatest pop songs ever written. At least we had a lot of spanko fun doing it.

  20. Account: Just What I Needed - I can assure you that this spanking session was precisely that.

Of course, I've omitted the fiction, the games and puzzles, the op-ed posts, Keyword Chaos, Spankologues, silly stuff, sexy stuff, and much more. But if I included it all, this post would be, well, the blog. If you like these posts, I invite you to browse the archives. There you will find lots more features that appeal to spankos like us.

Now I just have to figure out what I want to write about in 2007. If you have any suggestions, I'm always listening.

In any case, thank you all for your ongoing support and encouragement. You truly make this endeavor worthwhile.

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Thursday, December 21, 2006

Top Ten: Why We Rub


I recently received an interesting e-mail from a long time reader named Brett. It read in part:

Bonnie, you have more spanking experience than anyone I know so I'm sure you can answer my question. Whenever I see video of a woman being spanked, as soon as it's over, she nearly always rubs her ass like crazy. Why is that?

I was going to save this question for my monthly mailbag feature, but I decided instead to turn my answer into a top ten list. So, here are my top ten reasons why a recently spanked woman will often rub her sore bottom.
  1. It provides a great visual display for the spanker (thus convincing him that he's done the job well and need not repeat the procedure)

  2. It helps to bring oxygen-rich blood to the punished region and aids in healing

  3. It's a good method for assessing the scope of the damage

  4. Placing hands over a spanked bottom signals a desire to protect it from further harsh treatment

  5. When paired with an appropriately contrite facial expression, it's a demonstration of submission

  6. It focuses the spanker's attention upon the spankee's curvy posterior and other potential activities that might ensue

  7. It gives the spankee something to do with her hands at a rather awkward moment

  8. Rubbing brings out the pain, but in a controlled way

  9. It's kind of fun to feel the heat

  10. It allows the spankee to symbolically accept her spanking and take ownership of the consequences of her actions

I hope that clears up the mystery!

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Saturday, November 25, 2006

Happiness is...


Happiness is...
  • Being surrounded by family and friends, especially when they're mostly getting along

  • Doing something well and having people notice

  • Having a husband who still wants to touch me

  • Attending a nearly perfect performance

  • A leather paddle expertly applied

  • Gifts for no reason at all

  • Teasing my man by wearing tight jeans

  • A road trip just for fun

  • Getting the spankings I want

  • Fresh flowers even in the winter

  • The warm glow one feels after spanking and lovemaking

  • A clean bill of health from the doctor

  • Sharing thoughts in front of the fireplace

  • A smile from a stranger

  • Hot chocolate on a cold day

  • That little twinge felt when sitting hours after a bare bottom spanking

  • Healthy AND delicious

  • Finding a sex toy in an unexpected location (no, I meant a drawer!)

  • Seeing the beauty in small things

  • Homemade spanking and bondage toys

  • Preparing his favorite meal

  • Wearing skimpy underwear for my man

  • Finishing a large assignment at work

  • Unexpected kisses

  • Helping a friend

  • Petting a sleepy cat

  • Rear-entry sex

  • A warm wool sweater

  • Wearing my lover's marks

  • An old song on the radio

  • Envisioning peace

  • Feeling two strong hands grasping my hips

  • Demonstrating my submission

  • Wonderful cyber-friends

  • A love affair measured in decades

  • Hearing the magic words, "Young lady, assume the position."