Sunday, January 07, 2007

MBS Spanko Brunch #51


Today is Sunday, so it must be time for brunch. Please pull up a chair and join the group. You're always welcome here.

This week's question was sent to me by a reader a few weeks ago. I considered including it in the mailbag segment, except that I don't know the answer. I'm hoping some of our single or previously unattached participants will have some good suggestions.

Have you any signs or gestures that allow you to signal your spanko proclivities to a potential partner?

I invite you to submit a contribution to our brunch discussion. Please leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a response on your own blog. Once everyone has provided their responses, I will publish a summary of the discussion.

10 comments :

Anonymous said...

If you are searching people on an online social networking site such as Friendster, MySpace, or Facebook, a user who lists "Secretary" as a favorite film might be a good candidate.

Just a thought; I don't know if that really holds true.

Roper said...

I don't have any secret signs or signals, but I'd sure love to know about them if anyone else has any! I sometimes wonder how any D/s folk ever made connections before the internet made it possible to pinpoint like-minded people.

Theresa said...

I don't know any and sure wish I had.

I thought about getting a license plate that read OTK. I felt the right people might read and follow me!

A friend saw a strange girl in the grocery store wearing a t shirt that said naughty. He took that as his cue, and last I heard they were living happily every after!

Huggs
Theresa

Jigsaw Analogy said...

Tee hee. I have a pajama top that says "Naughty" on it, but I don't wear it out and about.

There is the whole gay "hanky code", but I don't know anyone who actually remembers the details of it, so it may not help out.

Fuscia is apparently the color for spanking, in the left back pocket if you're a top, and the right if you're a bottom.

I skimmed the list, and can someone explain to me what a "cuddling fetish" is, and how there can be a top and a bottom while you're cuddling? (The flag for that is teddy bears, should you be interested.)

And am I the last person on earth who routinely uses a handkerchief (white, cotton) primarily for the purpose of (gasp!) blowing my nose?

As for other signals... there's always keeping a hairbrush or bathbrush visible. Or keeping slightly kinky books on your shelves. Or just bratting a whole lot (if you're a bottom). (I've had people with whom I wasn't in a relationship, and with whom I hadn't discussed kink, deliver a resounding smack for some of my bratting!)

Best of luck.

Anonymous said...

We NEED one, Bonnie!
We can start one right here and now.
My suggestion; bottoms put a flat palm to a posterior cheek and rub in a circular motion, while tops put the heels of their hands together and clap repeatedly.
I would love it if this (or some widely recognized signal) became common and widespread.

Paul said...

Bonnie, I'm trying to remember how I knew Mel was into spanking.
I think that she asked a question about discipline in the army, and I replied, "not by spanking", everyone chuckled, but Mel gave me a look.
It would be nice if there was a code but it's better to rely on ESP!!!
Nice one Bonnie,
Warm hugs,
Paul.

Funny Brat Girl's Spanking Adventures said...

I always thought it interesting to just bring up spanking as a topic....like how they have spankings in movies...and see how they react. Sometimes that works and sometimes it doesn't for me. But wow, when you get a weird reaction....RUN for the hills...LOL!!

Thanks for visiting my blog Bonnie and for the invite to come and read yours!!

~FBG~ as known as Funny Brat Girl

New Beginnings said...

If I were younger and out there looking I think I would have a tee shirt that read "Love OTK". Now I am a life long spanko and when I first started reading on the internet it was several days before I realized what it stood for. However anyone who is into spanking does know these initials. So if I were wearing my tee shirt and some guy asked about it I could just say "If you have to ask it doesn't matter!"

Hugs,
Elis

bratscorcher said...

Wearing a tee-shirt that says, "Naughty" or "I Love OTK" sounds pretty bold to me. I mean, I certainly would not be offended, but living in a community that is a little on the conservative side and ...well, I would just not be comfortable advertising in that fashion. (But I will be on the look-out for you!)

Regarding the aforementioned "hanky" code -- that whole signaling technique is spelled out in the Al Pacino movie "Crusin'." But be forewarned, I found the movie dark & disturbing -- it is not about spanking whatsoever. And unfortunately, I think the only thing that wearing a fuscia hanky will accomplish is conveying to people the impression that you have really bad taste in hankies.

I'm afraid there are not subtle gestures or signals. Let me know if you can suggest one! Perhaps some special "I love Bonnie" lapel pin could come into vogue.

Right now, we just have to work at it and delve in substle ways. I remember being out on a first date and the girl kept talking about doing certain things at work or at school and saying how, "oh, that was really bad," or "I was really bad to do that." After which I would begin to interject, "oh yes, you really really need to learn to behave properly." "You really do need to learn a good lesson in proper behavior." Gradually, gradually head down this path and see if you pick up on the right signals and if all goes well you may soon be giving your sweetheart a good sound bottom warming!

Anonymous said...

Funny how spankophiles think alike! Only yesterday I did a search on my facebook networks to see who listed 'Secretary'. Threw up some interesting results... would love to know if others have found this a reliable signal (or not).

Don

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