PK's Meme

I can't even remember the last time I completed one of these memes. Anyhow, this one is from PK.

1. What is your occupation? Technical writer - In other words, I get to interpret the incomprehensible for the incapable at the instruction of the inarticulate who insist that investment in innovation should be institutionalized.

2. What color are your socks right now? They're white cotton footies

3. What are you listening to right now? The song "Sara" by Fleetwood Mac

4. Last thing you ate? One piece of Dove dark chocolate. OK, maybe more than one... :D

5. Can you drive a stick shift? No way

6. If you were a crayon, what color would you be? It would match the background of my blog

7. Last person you spoke to on the phone? Randy

8. Do you like the person who sent this to you? Sent? I swiped it from PK, and yes, of course I like her.

9. How old are you? I was Methuselah's babysitter

10. Favorite drink? A sweet and healthy fruit juice

11. What is your favorite sport to watch? Football

12. Have you ever dyed your hair? No, I pay someone to do it for me

13. Pets? Kitties

14. Favorite food? There are so many wonderful choices. Right now, I have a taste for Panang Gai. It's a Thai sweet curry chicken with rice.

15. What was the last movie you watched? We saw the National Treasure sequel (it was entertaining in a dopey sort of way)

16. What was the last book you read? It was a new insomnia cure that I had to slog through for work. Standardizing business processes... Where's my Tylenol?

17. What do you do to vent anger? Working out, or at least that's what I'm supposed to do

18. What was your favorite toy as a child? A talking doll with a pull string. I wished I could change what she said to better fit the situation. I could have gotten into lots of trouble!

19. What is your favorite season? Autumn

20. Hugs or kisses? That depends... With whom am I exchanging this sign of affection?

21. Cherries, blueberries or strawberries? I love them all and any of them would be delightful!

Implement Stories #4: Hermione

Hermione is one of my very favorite readers.

A Paddle Designed for Cooking
By Hermione

Isn't this the perfect description of a spanking implement?

"Composite Plastic Paddles - Superior to a concave spoon shape for many tasks, we find a cooking paddle indispensable. Each paddle is flat and smooth ... and there is a thumb rest on the handle which gives a secure grip and prevents the tool from sliding ... We offer 10, 12, and 14 inch lengths ..."

Yes, I had to order one of those from my favourite web site for cooking tools.

It arrived a couple of days later, and I eagerly tore open the box. I held 14 inches of impressively sturdy plastic in my hand and shivered in pleasant anticipation. I was really looking forward to feeling it on my backside.

Smiling, I showed it to my husband, who was reading the paper, didn't appreciate the interruption.

"Look at our new implement!"

"We don't need any more cooking stuff."

"It's not for cooking. It's, um, for spanking."

"We don't need any more spanking stuff either."

Sigh. That was not the enthusiastic response I had hoped for.

"Look at it. Isn't it lovely?" No answer. Just a rustle of newspaper.

"Oh, just forget about it", I snapped. Annoyed and embarrassed, I marched upstairs and threw the new toy into our implement drawer, then came back and tidied away the wrappings. That was that, I grumbled to myself.

The next day, Ron sent me upstairs to get ready for a spanking. As I quickly obeyed, the butterflies in my tummy woke up and started fluttering. As soon as I entered the bedroom, the white paddle caught my eye. There it lay on the bedside table, ready to be used. I smiled. He had come around to my way of thinking.

When my husband appeared in the doorway, I was in position over some pillows on the bed. My bottom was bare and ready, and the butterflies were performing Riverdance. I watched as he picked up the paddle, felt his hand caress my bottom, and felt the smooth plastic touch me for just a moment. Then the paddle cracked against my left cheek. And another CRACK! as it connected with the right one. Oh, no, what had I done? This thing hurts!

Each whack connected loudly with my bottom, accompanied by a biting sting. I am normally quite stoic during a spanking, but I couldn't stop myself from squealing "Ow" with each stroke. I didn't change my position, but kicked and squirmed as much as I dared, in the vain hope of avoiding the full impact.

My introduction to the paddle was mercifully brief. Ron put down the instrument of torture, turned me over, and slid his hands under me to cup my cheeks. I winced and gasped. Then he started doing delightful things to my body, and the pain melted into pleasure.

Afterward, I admired at my bottom in the mirror.

"You've outdone yourself this time. Look how red my bum is," I marveled.

"It's glowing" Ron agreed, smiling proudly.

Well, it certainly felt like it was on fire. I've heard about the dance people do after a hard spanking. I improvised a few steps myself to try to ease the sting. It was a while before I could bring myself to try sitting down. Even relaxing in Ron's soft leather recliner, I was tempted to pull down my sweatpants and cool my burning cheeks on the smooth leather.

I didn't want to dampen my husband's enthusiasm, and after the fuss I'd made about it, I couldn't admit the paddle had been a mistake. So we discussed trying it after a warm up or after a short spanking with another implement. Both approaches have worked out just fine, and have added some variety to our activities.

After a leather paddle spanking, the switch to the white paddle adds an extra level of sting that I am more than ready for. It's just the right final touch. And when applied after a short hand spanking, the sting is still quite fierce, but as the swats continue, I relax and enjoy their bite. I am always left feeling pleasantly uncomfortable the following day, and that's a nice bonus.

Thank you, Hermione, for sharing your unique cooking paddle. I think every spanko's toy box should include a small, stingy paddle. There are times when it's just the right sensation.

If you're enjoying reading our implement stories, I hope that you will consider telling us about your own favorite spanking tools. Just write me an e-mail and include words and/or pictures that describe what makes your implement memorable.

Wandering and Pondering

Our friend Greenwoman said the other day that MBS sends her 15-20% of her traffic. Those numbers surprised me. She has been a successful blogger for a long time and has built a loyal following. Beyond including her link in my blogroll and welcoming her to brunch, I really haven't done much to promote her blog.

I am reminded of the early days of this blog when even a passing mention by a luminary like Dan or Aunty would result in a tenfold increase in traffic and a flood of new friends. I will forever be sincerely grateful for their help in getting out the word about MBS. Even today, a feature in one of these top blogs generates an attractive bump in my numbers.

I think perhaps I should do more to promote excellent spanking blogs. I try to give new spanko bloggers a push off from the shore with the "In with the New" posts, but that still doesn't necessarily get them out of the harbor.

I am always disappointed when a quality blogger decides to quit, especially when it's due to a perceived lack of readership or, more frequently, a lack of comments. I can't be everywhere and it's simply not possible for me to comment on every post that deserves it. But maybe if I occasionally directed MBS readers to some excellent, but under-appreciated blogs, we could create a situation that is beneficial for both readers and bloggers.

Long time readers may recall that I once posted weekly descriptions of spanking-related blogs I liked. I think many readers and bloggers enjoyed it. It was an opportunity to introduce a blog and describe its author and content in more than just a sentence or two. I eventually gave up after a few bloggers complained about the way I summarized their blog or the sequence in which I chose to present them. I suppose I could have taken a tough line and said something like "I'll write my blog as I choose and if you don't like it, then don't read it." But that's not my style. I decided instead to move on to other pursuits.

Now I find myself at this crossroads again. I feel honored by the level of readership we have achieved, but with that, I believe, comes a certain responsibility to the community.

So, let me ask you, dear friends. What do you think I should do?

Spanx Power Panties

The perfect birthday gift for spankee superheroes!

Implement Stories #3: Mthc

Mthc and her husband, David, have been regular contributors here at MBS for quite some time. They always seem to have a timely thought or a perspective I hadn't considered. As a result, I knew their implement story would be a good one. And so it is!

The Warmth of Real Wood
By Mthc

I just thought I would send some implement pictures. As you can see, we have a new back scratcher and a bath brush. The brush is David's favorite, but I hate it! It's evil, I tell you, just plain evil. The back scratcher is almost 3 feet long. It's a force to reckon with as well, but nothing compared to that awful brush.


For the record, the back scratcher came from the dollar store and the bath brush was from "Wally World."


Thank you, Mthc. I can personally attest to the sheer power of that curved-handled spanking bath brush!

If you have a fantastic, rare, or interesting implement just sitting around that the rest of the world needs to see, I invite you to submit it for Implement Stories. All you have to do is send a digital photograph and/or a story to me via e-mail and I'll handle the rest.

Recap: MBS Spanko Brunch for Feb 24

Our topic this week was making spankings fun, and I can now safely say that there are some mighty fun spankings going on out there! Here’s what I mean…

Michelle Carlyle: Since I write spanking fiction, we sometimes play out little fantasies from my stories. VERY FUN!

It's also fun to try a bunch of different implements and positions and in different rooms of the house. Like being spanked with a wooden spoon in the kitchen.

Okay, I'm getting damp... HEE!

Jessica: We haven't been at this too long yet. They are all pretty fun. We haven't done a lot of role playing at this point, but it sounds like a lot of fun!

Mary: When playing, I have been known to get into fits of giggles. There is something so delightful about the fun of being over his lap and knowing where it will go and just loving being together that I end up giggling with delight. Or when role playing, I can end up giggling at myself because while role playing, I can be far brattier than I would attempt in real life.

Sometimes, fun spankings can originate with my only "offense" being the fact that I have a cold bottom. Of course, by the time he has "discovered" this, we have been having some naked fun! Those spankings are delicious fun. I love leather implements for these and I love to be over his lap. Actually, just last weekend, a spanking took place with that exact "cold bottom" scenario. Being all revved up, I was careful to position myself over his lap "Just So" to make it particularly "comfortable" while he spanked away. I enjoyed moving my hips against him and I enjoyed the spanking quite a bit as well. My wimpy phase seems to be fading away as I admitted to need a hard spanking. He was happy to accommodate! The next thing I knew, I had my first spanking-induced orgasm. WOW is all I can say!

Lele: I can't think of anything specifically "fun" that we do, but I can think of something I'd eventually like to do! I think it would be a fun twist on making the spankee count each stroke to have them count in a foreign language. Of course, a conscientious top would have to add extra strokes for badly pronounced numbers. :)

Abby: This week’s brunch topic is perfectly timed with the best spanking time we have had in our lives! As you know, we decided to try filming our spanking sessions. We knew it would be fun, and certainly different. What we didn't know was just how intoxicating and addictive it could become!

We've found that the "us" that has always played together becomes flexible, that it allows for a different type of role play. It's a challenge to represent both ourselves and the characters we would like to see on film. The spankings have been serious, and yet they have a heightened exhilaration that makes them both more painful and more bearable simultaneously--at least from the bottom's point of view! We can't wait to see where it takes us next.

Natty: We do a lot of joking back and forth and have mock arguments during spankings. Sometimes, we even do so during serious punishment. I think my favorite was when we started arguing about Newton's third law of motion during a spanking. Another time, I started to pass out after being intimate. Once I started feeling better he asked, "So I guess this means you're not into auto-erotic asphyxiation...?"

I think it's important to laugh -- including during spankings!

Paul: It’s not surprising this is nearly everyone’s favourite topic.

While admitting that punishment, stress busters, and attitude adjusting spankings may be necessary, they aren’t necessarily fun spankings. Though when the stress buster works and she is relaxed again, then the fun can return.

Our regular good girl, good night spankings were great fun. Mel could ramp up the spanking by bratting and joking or slow it down by being polite and quiet.

These spanking were always followed by love making, which sort depended on our mood and energy levels. If we were very tired, it was a kiss and a cuddle. Mel would snuggle in close and we would fall asleep.

Something that we both enjoyed were scenes, we weren’t able to play as often as we liked. One of our favourites was naughty schoolgirl meets strict headmaster. Mel still had and could fit into her last uniform. She had shortened the skirt and tightened the shirt. If she had turned up at school looking like that, she would have provoked sexual excitement in the males and possibly some of the females. More than likely, she would have been punished (the cane was rarely used on girls, but it was used) or more likely suspended.

I wore my graduate’s gown and cap. Mel would arrive at my study late; her tie was loose, shirt top button undone and non-regulation knickers on.

I was constantly surprised how much she could take when we played. Somehow, after we’d played she was naked as we adjourned to the bedroom, I watched a bright red bottom adorned with cane strips flaunting itself at me as if to say, “Are you man enough to give me what I need?” Needless to say, I mostly was! WEG!

Terpsichore: Such fun! This is all very new to us, so it is all play. I love when my husband flirts with me in the kitchen when the children aren't looking and takes the spatula to my backside unexpectedly... :-)

Sally: Right now, my hubby has a very fun toy. It is a small sturdy cardboard tube that makes a loud noise and produces just a light sting. It just makes me laugh when he uses it! We also play with kitchen toys. They can be fun and he likes to add to my stress by trying to do it when our adult children are nearby and might hear or walk in. We recently tried our first spanking game. I found it here in webland. It was great and a lot of fun. The game also provided us with a way to try new things without working so hard to share! As for serious spankings becoming funny, that really hasn't happened yet. Things I would like to try right now are role plays and more games!

Prefectdt: Making a spanking fun is very useful when a guy is playing with a lady who is younger, lighter and shorter than her male spankee. It helps give a lady confidence and puts her at her ease with somebody who is visually intimidating to her but who she has to order around and be the boss of in play.

I know it's unbecoming in somebody of my age, but I still find it fun to brat, at least verbally. :-)

Hermione: Spankings are a serious business for me. I crave the pain a spanking involves. Pain is exciting, intoxicating, sensual, stimulating, overwhelming and more. But it's not fun.

Our spankings are always geared towards sex and orgasm. For either of us to laugh and joke during one would definitely derail the whole event. We did have some hilarity the first time we introduced bondage into our play. We were both unsure of ourselves, it turned into a real comedy of errors, and we giggled and quipped through the whole scene. It wasn't the intense experience I had envisioned, but it sure was a whole lot of fun!

You have thrown down the gauntlet and I accept the challenge. What would make a spanking fun for me? It would necessitate detaching spanking from its current association with successful sexual performance. A fun spanking would be a playful punishment for some real or imagined transgression. Just yesterday morning, Ron came into the bedroom while I was getting dressed, his right hand playfully raised and cupped as if preparing to spank, and told me I'd forgotten to do something or other. I asked him how he was going to deal with my error. Now, if he had only taken the hint, that would've been fun!

Are there other possibilities for fun? Like Paul and Mel, I'd love to dress up as a naughty schoolgirl and get a spanking from a stern headmaster. Maybe my upcoming birthday spanking will be fun. I hope so!

Dr. Ken: Just about all of the spankings my favorite lady and I were involved with were fun. There was one of a serious nature, but that was the exception, not the norm.

"NORM!"

Sorry, I just had a "Cheers" flashback...

The spanking itself was fun. The added fun came from the sense of humor we both had. It would either manifest itself in the way she managed to earn the spanking--one of the earliest involved a squirt gun--or in things we'd say as the spanking was going on. We had no problem making little comments to each other that would have us both laughing, then the spanking would resume, then someone would say something else...

Laughter and spanking are a very powerful combination!

Elle: Spankings are fun for me, but almost always, they are the orgasmic sort of fun as opposed to the giggly kind of fun. Playing with different sensations can be "fun" and role playing is always fun too. But I don't tend to giggle so much as gasp. *winks*

The only times I've giggled have been when introducing new guys to my favourite pastimes. Because I'm young, a lot of my boyfriends have not really explored any kinks they might have. So I've been with two or three spanking virgins. I always feel a little wary of coming on too strong in the beginning. So I joke that I'm a naughty girl and flaunt cheeky glimpses of my knickers. This approach is more likely to win me what I want than saying "Whip me ‘til I scream please," even if that is the desired (and often achieved) effect.

On that topic, I wonder if anyone else has a sort of a sense for these things? I mean I can often tell (or think I can) when I talk to someone if they have a few BDSM leanings of their own. Guessing what someone wants and teasing to feel out the ground is another way I have "fun" with it!

Elle, we held a brunch dedicated to that topic last year.

Greenwoman: Spankings with my husband have always been mostly for fun and play. They are accompanied by silliness, giggling and even shrieks of laughter. Frequently, there’s a tickle session and wrestling too. It is only recently that I've gotten stress buster style spankings from him and we've never had any punishment spankings.

On the other hand with M, most all of the spankings were stress busters as we both needed the outlet a lot. He did punish me a few times, but they added a great deal of sexual tension that was an unexpected delight for us both.

My husband is still far more given to playful or sexual spankings than any other kind and lately he's been expressing an interest in dress up and role playing, so I guess that's likely to get added to the fun.

Personally, I think that any spanking that ends in orgasms and begins with laughter is the just right kind. *smiles*

Tim: I always keep the intense seriousness of spanking a bit at arm's length. For me, without a bit of humor and fun, it's nothing. So there's often a lot of funny interplay between me and the spankee as I scold and she squirms and we attempt to "one up" the other even during the spanking. (I'm glad to report that in the end, I win.)

Bonnie: Living with Randy, I am subjected to a nearly ceaseless barrage of silliness. Even when he’s serious about a spanking, the goof lies just beneath the surface ready to arise at the first provocation. My spanking accounts contain many examples, but I’ll share a more recent event.

Last night, he put me across his lap and celebrated the upcoming Olympic Games by singing the Olympic theme song while spanking my bottom in time (Thank you, Sherryl, for inspiring him!).

            Daaaah-Daaaah-Doo-Dah-Dee-Doo-Dah
            Lah-Dah-Dah-Dah-Doo-Lah-Tee-Dah-Tee-Dah

And so forth.

By the time he came to the second half of the song where the beat speeds up, he was crooning at the top of his lungs and swatting a hundred miles per hour with both hands. Needless to say, I was laughing so hard I could barely catch my breath.

It was a good hard spanking, but we loved every minute. That’s what fun spankings are about for us.

Thank you, everyone, and have some fun out there this week! :D

MBS Spanko Brunch #110

Welcome back, my dear friends! I realize that I've probably said this before, but our spanko brunch topic this week *might* be my all-time favorite.

Spankings serve many different purposes. Some calm turbulent waters. Others are purely erotic in intent. Some are just because, while others are delivered for a very definite reason. However, the very best spankings, at least for me, are those that are just for fun.

What do you or your partner do to incorporate an element of fun into your spanking activities? Do serious spankings ever turn fun? Are there any fun practices related to spanking that you would like to try in the future?

I appreciate all of the wonderful thoughts that people contribute to our brunches. If you would like to add your voice, just enter a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a message on your own blog. When everyone has had a turn to speak, I will post an edited summary.

Where in the World?

I often wonder, "Who are all you readers out there?" What are you thinking as you read my words?

Please understand, I have no interest in violating your privacy or making you uncomfortable. I just wonder.

I think it's fun every so often to take a kind of rough census of MBS readers. According to my statistics, here's where you came from (in order of visit count):

1. United States	21. South Africa	41. Puerto Rico
2. United Kingdom	22. South Korea	42. Lithuania
3. Canada	23. Brazil	43. Ukraine
4. Germany	24. Greece	44. Malaysia
5. France	25. India	45. Latvia
6. Australia	26. Japan	46. Estonia
7. Italy	27. Russia	47. Iceland
8. Netherlands	28. Hungary	48. Slovenia
9. Spain	29. Romania	49. Colombia
10. Denmark	30. Singapore	50. Taiwan
11. Sweden	31. Israel	51. China
12. Ireland	32. Mexico	52. Philippines
13. Switzerland	33. Portugal	53. Indonesia
14. Belgium	34. Hong Kong	54. Chile
15. Norway	35. Egypt	55. Thailand
16. Poland	36. Slovakia	56. Peru
17. New Zealand	37. Argentina	57. Bulgaria
18. Austria	38. Turkey	58. Serbia/Montenegro
19. Czech Republic	39. Luxembourg	59. Malta
20. Finland	40. Croatia	60. Pakistan

61. United Arab Emirates	81. Guatemala	101. Palestinian Territory
62. Vietnam	82. Bahrain	102. Maldives
63. Algeria	83. Jamaica	103. Libya
64. Saudi Arabia	84. Venezuela	104. U.S. Virgin Islands
65. Jordan	85. Bangladesh	105. Andorra
66. Sri Lanka	86. Moldova	106. Barbados
67. Faroe Islands	87. Morocco	107. Netherlands Antilles
68. Bolivia	88. Panama	108. Malawi
69. Kenya	89. Namibia	109. Sudan
70. Trinidad/Tobago	90. Zimbabwe	110. Mozambique
71. French Polynesia	91. Cayman Islands	111. Anguilla
72. Costa Rica	92. Suriname	112. Réunion
73. Belarus	93. New Caledonia	113. Kyrgyzstan
74. Iran	94. Dominican Republic	114. Macedonia
75. Bosnia/Herzegovina	95. Bahamas	115. Grenada
76. Mauritius	96. Liechtenstein	116. Guam
77. Ecuador	97. Haiti	117. Iraq
78. Kuwait	98. Tanzania	118. Bermuda
79. Cyprus	99. Monaco	119. Uruguay
80. Lebanon	100. Nigeria	120. Afghanistan

121. Laos		123. El Salvador	124. Nicaragua
122. Qatar

Isn't this amazing? I hope spankos the world over enjoy a wonderful weekend!

Turkmenistan, we'll catch you next time...

Implement Stories #2: RPT

As we roll along with our Implement Stories, we come next to our good friend RPT.

MP's Most Favourite Implement
By RPT

Here are two photographs of a hairbrush that I bought as a birthday gift. It was used for its intended vanilla purpose for a while, brushing MP's long hair.


Some time later, it was used for spanking, and we have both felt the
sting on our bottoms from this lovely wooden toy.

Recently, MP admitted that she masturbates with it. Long before it
became a spanking toy, it was also a dildo.


With three uses in one, this brush is a most versatile item!

That brush is truly a triple threat. Thank you both for sharing it with MBS readers!

If you have an implement that you believe should be famous (or perhaps infamous?), I invite you to submit a photograph and/or a story.

Gotta Love It

I was genuinely amused by this old photo.

Implement Stories #1: YKF

It’s my pleasure to begin our third season of Implement Stories with a wonderful tale from a new friend.

Living Dangerously
By YKF

I was working at home and Honey called to say he would be home early because he had to attend to some business. I hoped that included a spanking, but he didn't come right out and say it. I had butterflies in my stomach as I waited the hour that it takes him to get home from work.

When Honey arrived, he asked me to strip to my bra and panties and gather the braided belt, SpongeBob paddle, whippy thing, and the big paddle and meet him in the bedroom. I obeyed, gathering the implements and waiting patiently on the bed. My stomach was doing flips as I sat there with the implements around me... waiting and waiting... and waiting.

After what seemed like forever, Honey came into the bedroom. He sat in his chair and asked me to tend to his very hard cock. I began caressing and kissing his member and brought him to the brink of orgasm and he stopped me.

"Have you been a naughty wife?" he asked.

I was a little puzzled by the question. I had been a horny wife, but I didn't think I had been any naughtier than usual lately. When I didn't answer, he asked again, trying to clarify things for me a little.

"Have you been on the internet looking at spankings?"

I knew I was caught. I had been working at home a lot recently and I had taken a few unscheduled breaks to check out some spanking blogs. He must have looked at the history on my computer.

"Yes, sir," I replied in my sweetest voice. "I have been looking, but I still got all my work done." (This last statement was a lie, as I have been falling behind in my work and letting the house go.)

"Did you really get all your work done? He asked. "What about the laundry that has been sitting folded in the chair for two days, did you put that away?"

"No, sir."

"Did you make the bank deposit today like I asked?"

"No, sir, but you called and said you were coming home early and I was trying to get my work done before you got here"

Honey cut me off. "Why don't we see how much work you got done this morning. Go get your laptop for me."

I knew I was really in for it now. I had been on "My Bottom Smarts" earlier and had followed a few links to check out some of the other blogs. I handed over my laptop and watched as he visited every page. On one blog, he found a picture of a very red bottom.

"Do you see what you are about to get?"

"Yes, sir."

He moved to the edge of the bed. "Come over here and bend over my lap."

I walked over to the bed and positioned myself across his lap. He began rubbing my ample behind over my panties.

"You know you have been very naughty," he said. "You have been a dangerously horny wife and you have not taken care of your work. You are going to get a very hard spanking today. Do you understand?"

Before I could answer, his strong hand came down on my behind. Over and over he spanked, alternating cheeks in a rapid fire fashion that really stung in spite of the covering of my panties. He spanked on and on, sternly reprimanding me for ignoring my work in favor of internet spanking. When he pulled my panties to my knees, he simply commented that my bottom was not nearly red enough!

He began spanking me harder with his hand on my bare behind. I was writhing on his lap as the smacks landed in quick succession. Occasionally, he would stop to rub my burning buns and scold me. "Have you been dangerously horny?" He would ask. "I think you have been so horny that you would let anyone spank you. You would like that, wouldn't you?"

I really had not thought about it that way, but I had to admit that I was certainly "dangerously horny" at the moment. This afternoon surprise had taken me to new levels of desire and I would probably have done just about anything. I admitted that I was indeed "dangerously horny" and I prepared myself for the next level of spanking that was to come.

He stopped his hand assault on my bare ass and rubbed me a little. Then I felt him reach for one of the other implements lying nearby. I was afraid to know which one, but I assumed it was not the big paddle or he would have asked me to bend over the edge of the bed. I soon felt the stinging lash of the whippy thing on my red hot rear.

He flicked his wrist sharply as he whipped me over and over with the little monster. It is made from an old belt that came with a pair of my pants. It has four leather lashes and is held together at the top with a handle made of duct tape. The little monster stings like the dickens, especially when he snaps his wrist. My bottom was on fire and I was getting wetter and wetter with every lash.

More admonishing followed as he stopped to rub my bottom, check between my legs, and change implements. This was one of the most intense spankings I had had in a long time, and it was really heating me up!


Before I knew it, I felt the sting of the SpongeBob paddle on my bottom. This implement first arrived at our house as a birthday party favor for one of our children. Soon the rubber ball was gone, and Honey had re-purposed the paddle for my pain and pleasure. It is made of lightweight plastic and it really stings. When he uses it on my already tender bottom, I cannot be still!

I squirmed and wiggled, and even tried to roll off of his lap, but Honey held me firm and paddled away. Smack, smack, smack, smack, smack... He hit the same spot on my left cheek over and over. I was actually trying to turn my body to present my right cheek for some attention! He found it and smack, smack, smack, he hit the right side.

Finally, the spanking stopped. He moved his hands between my legs and found me dripping wet. Honey moved me onto the bed and entered me from behind. His hard cock filled me up and I immediately had an orgasm. I could feel him pounding against my hot, punished cheeks. It was sublime! We slowly came down from the euphoria and I climbed off the bed, a little shaken, but feeling very fulfilled.

"Wait a minute young lady," he said. "Where do you think you are going? I haven't finished with you yet."

"Ooh no, I think I have been taught my lesson today. I won't be lurking on the internet when I have work to do any time soon."

"We are going to make sure of that. Come over here and bend over the bed."

The dreaded paddle was in his hand and I slowly walked back over to the bed. "How many?" I asked feebly.

"As many as I think it will take to help you remember to do your work. You have been naughty and you admitted that you were dangerously horny. I don't want to come home to find you getting your tail warmed by a total stranger. Now bend over."

Wham. He brought the paddle down hard on my sit spot. The impact on my well-spanked bottom set me on fire and I jumped up and threw my hands behind me.

"Bend over."

Wham. The second lick was harder than the first and the sting was almost a delayed reaction. I have never cried during a spanking, but I could feel hot tears welling in my eyes. "I think that is all I can take" I said.

"I think you can take more. Bend over."

Wham. Honey swung hard and very accurately hit the same spot as the previous two licks. My ass was on fire! I danced and held my bottom and headed to the bathroom, only to be brought back to the bed.

"One more – and you better remember this. Now bend over."

Wham. I think he swung harder for the last lick than he ever has before. I came up off the bed and furiously rubbed my burning ass. Honey came over and held me and told me how much he loves me. He then sent me off for a quick shower before the kids got home from school.

It was a memorable spanking and I felt the effects for several days. I didn't spend much time on internet spanking sites, mostly because I couldn't sit comfortably, but I was still "dangerously horny."

Whew! That was fantastic. Thank you, YKF, for sharing your implements and this terrific story about how well they are used!

When Randy learns that my blog played a role in YKF not completing her work, I might just find myself being instructed to bend over as well. Such is the life of a spanko blogger!

If you own a spanking toy that has a tale to tell, I invite you to participate in our annual Implement Stories series. Just send me an e-mail with a photograph and/or a story about your implement.

In with the New: Depths of Winter Edition

One of the great parts of publishing this blog is the opportunity I have to introduce new spanking blogs to a wide audience who tends to like such things.

Here, for your reading pleasure, are eight young spanking-oriented blogs that I hope you will explore and enjoy.

Kinky Little Girl Ludwig's Rohrstock-Palast MarQe's Study My Dirty Little Secret Sore Bottom Love Spank a Yankee Spanking Minnesota Well Spanked Man

When you visit these blogs, I encourage you to leave comments. New bloggers are typically starved for feedback. They don't know whether they are doing things right or if anyone is even out there. Your timely words of support can make the difference between a successful blog and an abandoned effort.

To these new bloggers, allow me to bid you welcome to our community. I look forward to watching your blogs grow and thrive. I hope you find the spanko blogging experience as rewarding as I have!

Keywords: spanking, spanking blog, spanking blogs, spanking blogger, In with the New

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Feb 17

Our topic this week was punishment spankings. Specifically, the question considered the seeming paradox of using something we love as a punishment.

Greenwoman: Having my man mad at me or disappointed in me is enough to totally change the experience of a spanking.

Besides that, it really hurts when they get mad... They don't warm up the skin… Ouchies!

Natty: This is the perennial discussion we have over at the Punishment Book, and I think that for certain people, the answer is yes. But only for certain people.

It works for me because I really dislike actually being in trouble. I love to pretend to be naughty. I love getting spanked on my terms -- i.e. as play. Punishment spankings sort of take spankings out of the realm of fun and sully them by placing them within the context of genuine disappointment, frustration, and failure.

Some people are unable to take that seriously. My boyfriend cannot divorce being spanked from sexual pleasure and therefore it doesn't work as behavior modification for him. But for me, for the reasons listed above, it's extremely effective.

Here are some additional thoughts from the Punishment Book.

Lele: I hate to give what may be a clichéd answer, but I think it's very psychological. Specifically, (1) you've disappointed someone you love, and (2) you know that this type of spanking won't just stop when you're turned on, but rather when you're VERY sore and VERY sorry!

It makes a huge difference to me!

Anon #1: It sure wasn't any fun when my dad did it. It was an intrusion, but the violation was so unpleasant that I didn't want to get another spanking.

Now my boyfriend does it and it is a turn-on. I want him to do it. Thanks, Dad, for making me a spanko. This is not something I am proud of. I will make every effort to bring up my own children so that they don't crave spankings when they are older.

Anon #2: I agree with Lele and Greenwoman, in that when I have angled for a spanking by being "naughty," it’s fun to play that role. But when I have actually annoyed/angered him, it changes the whole experience. I know he is disappointed in me, and that upsets me. I don’t feel sexy, but bad, until it’s over and I am forgiven, and soooooo sore. However, after making me wait a while to reflect, my ass gets some nice attention, kisses and rubs and massages until ooooooooooooohhhhhhhh, yes. That’s definitely more like it…

RPT: Fun spankings end up in the bedroom with sex.

Punishment spankings end up in the corner with a scolding.

But mostly, it is a mental attitude.

Susan: My punishment is being denied a smarting bottom when I desperately want it, and much later getting a spanking when I have gone off the boil.

Tina: in my life, playing and punishment are two very similar things. When we do punishments, which we occasionally do, they are not “real life” punishments. For us, punishments are just another name for the game. A punishment game involves serious pain, but I still really like to do it. It just feels so good to have to say that I am sorry over and over again and to hear him telling me off. I love to be able to just scream and shout and beg him to stop and forgive me, and to let all the tension go, and not to be under any pressure to stay calm or professional, and to live - for short time - under the illusion of not having any responsibility. "Normal" spankings don’t quite do that for me.

Lori: The whole dynamic is different. During play, there is no scolding. It's lighthearted and makes me laugh. During punishment, the disappointment comes through loud and clear and the spanking feels so much different. It's a much more intense spanking that is intended to teach, at least in our house.

Lost In Our Eyes: I think I'm in tune with most of the posts so far. The difference is one is playful and happy, while the other means I've done a bad job keeping my lover happy.

That, and she tends to pull out the least-fun toys...*shudder*

I ramble on in a little more detail back at the blog, but that's the gist!

Paul: The others have more or less covered the subject.

When Mel got her degrees and life became more serious, punishments became quite rare. I hated giving them and, of course, Mel hated receiving them. Mel would be really told off. This would often have her in tears before the spanking started.

Spankings always took place in the office and were hard. She always knew that I loved her. But it was necessary for the lesson to sink in, so it was a while before aftercare. Mel would kneel at the side of my desk. It was so hard not to react to her woe-begotten face. After an hour or so, I'd take her upstairs and give her the care and love she always deserved.

The reconnecting was always great.

Hermione: That's a very good question, and one that my husband has often asked. His reasoning is similar to Susan's comment. If I enjoy being spanked, then punishment is withholding a spanking. Being spanked as punishment would just encourage a repetition of the unwanted behavior in order get another spanking. That makes sense to me, and I would probably do just that. It would be like spanking on demand.

For my many crimes of commission and omission, I get lectures. They create anxiety and fear, but don't do much to change my behaviour, I'm still far from perfect.

Prefectdt: For play, it is with somebody else.

For punishment, I self discipline (self spank), which I do not enjoy at all.

Abby: For as much as we play and as much as I write about it, we would never use spanking as an actual punishment. We won't have rules, and I don't get in actual trouble. We pretend I do, up and down the block, but this is where the spanking fetish gets confused with domestic discipline. I never have to fear being punished for something. It's all play, in the long run, even if it feels like it's punishment at the time. We might use a real life situation to play off of, but it's never a husband punishing a wife. It's taking life and making it work for our fetish.

There are a few Anonymous replies here, but there's one that refers to her father. I don't normally jump in with comments like this, and forgive me if I'm commenting out of turn, but anonynous, it might help to find someone to talk to, be it close friend or counselor. If anger with your father is getting confused with your romantic life and making you feel ashamed, this might not be what will make you happy in the long run. Or maybe it will, if you own it as something you enjoy and something that's a part of you, not something that someone inflicted upon you.

Thank you, Abby, for your thoughtful response to Anon. I considered editing that comment from this summary on the grounds that childhood experiences are off topic. But after reading your reply, I decided to keep both in the hope that your words might help someone.

Purple Angel: This seems to be an ongoing question in every group I belong to and it sure is a legitimate one. It seems to be a contradiction, but it really isn't.

I believe a great deal of it is mindset. I do not like punishment spankings and I absolutely love, adore, and crave other spankings. But there is a need in me for the serious ones too.

First of all, whatever I have done has me disappointed in myself, feeling guilty and feeling miserable that I let others down as well. I always get lectured and that is a crucial piece to the puzzle. I often begin crying before anything has come near my bottom. Also, during this type of spanking, I do not allow my mind to go off in other directions. Granted my body has its usual physical response to spanking, but I don't even realize it at the time.

My attention is focused on the continuing scolding and questions throughout the spanking. Many times, I cry throughout the spanking. But at the end, I am able to release the guilt, apologize, thank the person who cared enough to give what was so needed.
I will also tell you they work for me. Since they became part of my life, the number of times I need them has decreased dramatically.

Oh, and the best part is that I get instead all kinds of lovely Just Because and sensual spankings. Now those are a whole different story.

Elle: Hmmm. Interesting. In my relationship, he views himself as a leader or a teacher, and dominant over me. But as for actually punishing me, whenever he starts to, I enjoy it... and so does he! We end up just having "extra angry" sex as a result of whatever has annoyed him. That's just the way we are I guess.

Jean Marie: Many have already posted that the dynamic is different, but for us there are more distinctions.

For play, there can be a whole range of implements used, but never the two that I hate most, the big hairbrush and the cane. Those two are exclusively utilized for punishment. Both can elicit tears before they come in contact with my tush. They hurt so much. I hate them so!

Play may go on for a long time and end up being painful, but when I've been naughty and am in need of punishment and Kyle intends to whip me hard for some serious wrong, he'll give me an enema first. We both know that I won't be sitting afterward. During play he may caress and even lubricate my rectum, but it's sexy then. The enema procedure makes me shudder because I know I'm in for it good and hard.

Positioning can be a part of it. I love the intimacy of snuggling over his lap during playful spankings. Knowing this, Kyle will deny me that pleasure during a punishment session. I'm often made to bend over in the middle of an open room and grab my ankles, or else bend over the bed, so that I have something to collapse upon if the whipping goes on for a long duration.

Playful spanking will segue directly to love-making, but my man will withhold that reward for awhile as well after punishment. He knows I hate corner-time, so that trial awaits me after punishment sometimes. And if I'm not obedient in keeping my nose pressed to a wall, or bent over obscenely displaying my marks, I will often get another dose of discipline.

But even if the play and the punishment are restricted to a bare bottom, over-the-knee hand spanking, there's still a world of difference. Kyle gets quiet when I've raised his ire; the spanks come hard and fast. There are no caresses or compliments. It is nothing like the giggling, talkative repartee that we share during play when his hand and my heiny share a colloquy.

So there's NO confusion between play and punishment in our household.

Bonnie: My answer is similar to Abby’s. Randy and I enjoy many types of spankings and we play fairly regularly. But genuine punishment is not part of our relationship. It’s simply not who we are.

We enjoy every spanking. Even if I am gritting my teeth, it’s not because I don’t like what’s happening. We consider spanking, like other forms of lovemaking, a celebration and a physical manifestation of the love between us. I crave spankings from Randy and he wants to spank me. It reaffirms our bond and clears the barriers that divide us.

Randy once said that punishing me with spanking would be about as effective as making me eat chocolate cake. I suppose indulging in either to excess could eventually become tiresome, but I’m not likely to lose my taste for either recreational spankings or chocolate cake anytime soon.

Jeana: All the spankings I get are completely erotic. There are times when I wonder things like, "why I am putting myself through pain like this for fun?" But I enjoy it every time. I'm not sure if the whole punishment thing would work for me, but it is something we agreed we would not try. Sometimes when Will is spanking me, he will bring up something I did to somehow deserve it, but this is all playful.

Thank you all for sharing your perspectives. As I anticipated, responses covered a wide variety of viewpoints. Clearly, punishment spankings aren’t for everyone. But for those couples who employ this method of problem resolution, the results can be very positive.

MBS Spanko Brunch #109

Our brunch question for this week was suggested by Sally. She asks about one of the classic spanking dilemmas.

If we enjoy spankings, how can they be effective as a punishment?

If you would like to join in our conversation, you can leave a comment, send me an e-mail, or post a message on your own blog. I look forward to reading your insightful thoughts.

Catching Up

Wow. I take a day away from the blog and it feels as though I've been gone for months. I know I owe several of you e-mail responses and I will get caught up soon.

I envy bloggers who can effortlessly write a post that wanders all over the pasture, but still seems cohesive and coherent. I tend not to do that, but today will have to be an exception because I have a lot to say.

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Randy and I had a lovely V-Day celebration. There were roses. There was chocolate. There was fine dining. There were spankings too. My oh my, there were spankings.

Randy decided it would be "fun" to spank me up before we left for the restaurant. The warm-up, as he called it, involved the repeated application of a small wooden paddle. If this was the warm-up, I thought while lying perpendicular across his lap, the main event was sure to be something fierce.

I was plenty tender as I enjoyed a delicious seafood paella. It seemed as though Randy smiled every time I squirmed in my seat. Still, the gleam in his eye spoke volumes about his love and devotion.

True to his word, Randy stripped me down as soon as we returned home and positioned me on the bed in preparation for another round. As I crouched on the bedspread, I could still feel the after-effects of his previous efforts. Never one to be deterred by such concerns, my lover started right in. The crop made a swishing sound immediately before each stinging impact upon my upturned flesh. It hurt, but not as much as the paddle had.

After a few minutes and a few dozen sharp blows, Randy determined the time had come for other corporeal amusements. He took full advantage of my exposed position and undeniable state of arousal. Our lovemaking was fast and exciting. With a hand firmly gripping each of my hips, my dear husband made the hurt all better. Our mutual desire poured out in the form of pants, groans, and screams of exhilaration.

This was a fine Valentine’s celebration. Have I mentioned that I love spankings?

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In other news, I’ve received several excellent submissions for the third season of our Implement Stories series. If you’d like to tell MBS readers about your favorite (or perhaps least favorite) spanking implements, it’s definitely not too late.

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During our last Ask Bonnie segment, a reader asked if anyone had plans for building a spanking bench. I didn’t, but I knew you folks would. Here are two suggestions care of the EhBC Canadian BDSM group:

Bondage Bench
Spanking Horse

Thanks to Hermione for finding these!

I hope you’re enjoying a great weekend with all the spanking fun you desire!

Happy Valentine's Day

Do you have a partner, a lover, or someone who makes your life special? If so, this is the day to show just how much you appreciate everything they do.

Let's make today a memory to treasure.

Ask Bonnie

Let’s answer some questions.

Question: Does a spanking hurt more (or less) in certain positions, all other things being equal?

Response: Definitely. The positions where spankings seem to hurt the most are those where the recipient's legs are pulled up toward the abdomen. In these positions, the muscles, soft tissues, and skin of the bottom are stretched out. This leaves the spankee less protected and more vulnerable.

Great care should be exercised when heavy implements are employed in those positions. Bones and nerves tend to be more exposed, especially in spankees who are slender. No play is worth the risk of a permanent injury.

Question: Are marks more likely to happen in some positions than in others?

Response: I think so. If the skin is taut, implements like the cane tend to do more damage and leave more pronounced marks.

Question: Can you comment on the over-the-knee position on the side of one of the newer beds that has an extremely deep mattress? Unless the spanker has very long legs, I would guess there might be stability problems.

Response: That arrangement probably wouldn't work too well (unless the resourceful spanker placed his foot on top of the box spring!).

Question: Are some spankees also self harmers, or excessive self spankers?

Response: I think that self-harming is kind of a touchy subject for many MBS readers. There are definitely cutters and the like among the ranks of spankees. However, based upon my non-scientific sample, that wouldn't describe the vast majority of us.

When the movie Secretary came out, I was thrilled to have a reasonably positive mainstream portrayal of adult spanking. Yet, the fact that the heroine was a cutter and just released from a mental institution seemed to portray us in a negative light.

I think many cutters also have an interest in spanking. But most spanking enthusiasts are not cutters.

Question: How can I increase the readership of my blog?

Response: The three most important considerations are content, content, and content. If your posts are interesting, fresh, and unique, you'll get links from the big guys and you may even be featured. If readers arrive at your blog and like what they find, they will return. If there's a secret, that's it!

Question: Do you think submissives should be denied the right to wear panties?

Response: Every couple and every relationship is different. As a result, there are few absolute statements that apply to everyone. Your no-panties decree wouldn't be consistent with the way Randy and I operate. But at the same time, I have great fondness for two submissive women who have declared underwear to be a relic of the past. I suppose this isn't a very definitive answer, but I believe it depends upon the dynamic between the two people involved in the relationship.

Question: You once said that when people get spankings fairly often, their butts toughen up. Well, I'm there. In fact, my butt is so tough now that it barely gets red anymore, even after a serious paddling. My husband and I both miss that bright crimson blush. Is there anything we can do to get it back.

Response: Yes, short of not spanking for a month, I do have a couple of suggestions. You might try taking a warm shower before (or during!) your next spanking. You might also want to switch to lighter and more flexible implements. These tend to work at the surface level. Finally, consider positioning mirrors so that you can both watch the spanking as it progresses. This way, you can experiment with different implements and spanking techniques and observe the results together.

Question: I like having my butt spanked hard for sex because it gives me the ability to focus on my rear instead of the grocery list. My dear husband seems to get into it, but I am afraid that when he sees the bruises, he won't want to ever do it again.

Response: Some toys cause more bruises than others. Rigid wooden toys are the worst. Your bottom will toughen up with regular spankings, but mixing in a light leather paddle might be helpful in the interim.

Question: My husband sometimes has trouble keeping an erection long enough to satisfy me. What would you suggest?

Response: Based upon ads I see on television, many men must experience these kinds of issues. Randy does quite well, but he definitely lacks the endurance he had at 25. Our solution is a vibrator (or sometimes two). His hands still work fine and nowhere is it written that vibrators can only be used solo.

Question: I am scared that this will end up being the only way I like to make love. Do most people still like gentle loving sex after they discover the pleasure of spanking?

Response: Don't worry. You won't. Even after many years, I certainly haven't. Just because you've gained a taste for spicy foods doesn't mean you insist upon having them at every meal.

Question: How do you manage to hold still when someone is whacking away at your ass?

Response: It's not that difficult after you've taken a solid swat to the hip or the thigh because you moved. Besides, I am a willing spankee. I accept freely the gifts Randy gives me. Even if certain moments might seem excruciating, the overall experience is positive and beneficial for both of us.

Question: I've been wondering and worrying practically all my life about this fascination with spanking. I can't put it out of my mind, at least not for long. Try as I might, it enters my thoughts eventually. I picture myself over the lap of a powerful man and he is spanking me. That's my dream anyhow. I've never been spanked as an adult and I'm not even certain that I'd like it. But I've decided that I will never rest easy until I find out for sure.

What should I do next?

Response: You didn't mention whether you are in a relationship. If so and you believe a strong trust exists, you might consider raising the issue with your partner. The easiest way to begin is to incorporate it into foreplay and/or lovemaking. If you both enjoy those experiences, the door is open for further exploration.

If you're not in a stable, trusting relationship, other options exist. In most metropolitan areas, there are social groups dedicated to spanking and related activities. If you find a good one, this would give you an opportunity to learn in a safe environment where there is no pressure to go beyond your limits.

In any case, please know that many fine people have been precisely where you stand today. Quite a few have chosen to incorporate spanking into their lives and have benefited from this change. Many of the bloggers on my blogroll share stories about how they accomplished this feat (or continue to work at it).

Question: Have you ever wondered about there being a connection between an inclination toward either giving or receiving spankings, especially those of the erotic kind, and a preference regarding sexual positions, specifically, a link between the spanking penchant and an inclination toward rear-entry?

Response: No, I don't wonder about this subject at all. For me, there is absolutely a strong connection between love of spanking and fondness for rear-entry intercourse. I suspect the same is true for the vast majority of spanking enthusiasts. To my (admittedly slightly twisted) mind, they simply go together.

Question: Does TTWD refer to any kind of spanko lifestyle, or does it specifically mean DD? Or is the meaning dependent upon the context?

Response: It's pretty generic. It means whatever it is that you do. The implication is something kinky, but not a specific act or lifestyle.

Question: When you're wearing a skirt and Randy spanks you, does he spank over the skirt, lift it up, or pull it down?

Response: I'm sure all three have happened at different times. Of these choices, Randy is probably most inclined to lift the skirt.

Question: I'm having one of those urges to actually build something in my wood shop and what could be better than a custom spanking bench? I haven't had much luck finding plans on the web and wondered if you might have stumbled across some.

Response: I don't have a source for such plans, but I wouldn't be the least bit surprised to learn that MBS readers know where to find them. Any ideas?

Question: When vanilla friends ask what you do with your spare time, what do you tell them?

Response: Believe it or not, I have a life away from this blog. I have been involved for a number of years with local community theater and performing arts groups. Although we have some other activities, that would be my best answer.

If you would like me to answer your question, you can send it to me via e-mail.

Implement Stories: The Third Season

For the past two years, I have invited MBS readers to share photographs of their favorite spanking implements and the stories they evoke. Quite a few readers participated and the event was great fun. We had excellent pictures and stories about spoons, paddles, straps, and other unique bottom warmers.

I would like, with your help, to revive the Implement Stories series. I invite you to send me via e-mail a photograph (or photographs) of your favorite or most memorable spanking implements. I can accept either the picture itself or a link to it elsewhere. If you would like to include a short history or memorable adventure, that would be splendid as well. I will then display the toys here on MBS.

Thank you, in advance, for your contributions!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Feb 10

Our question this week dealt with playing outside the home. When I posted it, I knew the wording was slightly ambiguous. I hoped that would yield a variety of interesting responses. As you can see below, I needn’t have been concerned.

Jessica: Hmm, let's see. I've played... softball, volleyball and musical instruments outside of the home. Ooohhh, you mean *PLAY*. I wouldn't mind watching live play, but I couldn't possibly bare my bottom in public. I am pretty shy and my body is one that only a husband can love. :-)

Wilhelmina: Hotels are the obvious place away from home where play happens, but I wouldn't mind some outdoor play amongst nature. Especially where a cool breeze can blow over my warmed bottom, with no one about of course. *blush*

JmyRPT: We played along a muddy track in the middle of English countryside a few months back. (The idea was better than the execution).

We have also been going to a nude spa where folk 'play' in all sorts of ways.

We played on holiday in the hotel bedroom.

I think we are up for it almost anywhere, just give us some ideas.

Hermione: This question can have two meanings: playing in a location other than our house, or playing away with other people. The answer to both is "No". We play only with each other, at home.

Paul: Hotels of course, often.

Outdoors was always a turn on. Let me think, there was the New Forest, Dartmoor, Exmoor, Yorkshire Dales, Scottish Glens and Highlands, and isolated beaches. On foreign holiday, we were mostly indoors.

It certainly adds a certain frisson to the game, the possibility of being caught, not exactly red handed. Chuckles!

Terpsichore: If the question is interpreted as a place away with other people the answer is no. This is something special shared only between my husband and me. If the question is interpreted as a place outside of the home, then the answer in currently no. However, the idea of being outdoors with no one around has a certain romantic appeal. Once our children are a little bit older, going away to a hotel where we can enjoy some time together, just the two of us, has definite possibilities. :-)

Lori: We are too new at this to have any out-the-home experiences. We just haven't gone anywhere, but we are planning a "spanking weekend" after the work on our kitchen is done. We want to rent a cabin for the weekend somewhere secluded. When the weather warms up, I think a private place outdoors would actually be fun. I'm huge on the privacy issue though, so I will have to feel totally comfortable with the situation.

Mary: Hotels are the obvious place, but we have not played with others. I have had "fantasies" of being spanked in front of others. But those are fantasies that I would truly rather remain that way and not ones I want to execute.

We have played in the woods and I find that absolutely delicious. I wish he would take the initiative to do that more often. Here’s an example of a "fantasy" that actually occurred while hiking. There was a trail marker that said to stay on the trail, but something caught my attention and I wandered into a clearing to look at something. As we meandered back to the main road, we saw a ranger. I imagined getting scolded for not minding the signs and my partner giving me a spanking in front of the ranger to get out of a fine. But it was strictly a head space thing. I don't think I would seek out a public spanking in actuality. But the outdoors is great!

Greenwoman: In summer, I generally have quickies in the woods or on a moonlit beach at least a few times. It’s part of what I love about summer. We also frequently find some time to be in our yard at night a few times too.

There are few places/scenes that I fantasize about anymore because I've been diligent about fulfilling my fantasies. But I have a thing about getting one during a professional massage, in the bathroom at a restaurant, on balconies of hotels, in elevators... that sort of public experience.

The first requirement of playing outside the home is how to dress. You have to dress so that it can be spontaneous, but a quick cover up. Once that's taken care of, you just look for privacy during whatever else you have planned during a day with your lover. It will arrive and when it does, be ready to whip the parts in question into view and go for it!

Abby: I would love to be confident enough to be spanked anywhere, anytime. It's not so much a body issue or an embarrassment issue as it is an issue of trying to answer the "What on earth are you doing?" question if we were seen. Is public, even semi-public, spanking considered indecent behavior? Nudity wouldn't be allowed, but over the panties? Over the pants? What could we really get away with?

At a hockey game this weekend, we saw a man whack at his wife's bottom all the way as they walked up the stadium stairs to their seats. She wasn't safe until she sat down, which she could barely do because she was giggling so much. It was fabulous. Part of me wanted to go say hello. We've been talking about where else we could play and I freaked out a bit at the thought of being spanked out in the world. I'm getting over it though. When I do, I will certainly let you know!

Prefectdt: Do you remember your grandmother telling you about everybody knowing each other, so little crime that you can leave your door unlocked and not worry about it, and small kids being able to play in the street because the whole street would keep an eye on them and make sure that they come to no harm? Well, there are still places like that in the world and I count myself as being very lucky to live in one of them. The down side of this is that everybody knows everybody else's business. Combine that with living in a terraced house with thin walls and kids next door, my home is not a very good place to play.

This has left me with an eternal hunt for suitable places to play. If you think that I proposed this subject to help get new ideas, you are right. I am studying the other comments with close intent. :-)

Using Antwerp as a playground is my first solution. It is not too far away and is just large enough a city to be slightly impersonal. Antwerp is also "Kink Central" for the two provinces of East and West Flanders. If there is enough money in the budget, there are rooms for hire where you can go AAARG! as loudly as you like and no one will be bothered. There are even fully equipped dungeons if you feel the need (but expect to pay a lot to hire these).

The cabin in the woods isn't too far an option either. The Ardens is not too far away and if you are prepared to book outside of the main holiday seasons, prices can be very good. You just have to make sure that it is a chalet standing alone and not one in a park with dozens of others. Organisation between two or more people is difficult with this as well, as it does mean staying away from home for a few days.

The dream is to find a strict lady living not too far away, but in the countryside and not in the village where privacy is no problem, but I think this is about as likely as a big Lotto win.

Todd and Suzy: There was a time that we rarely ever played anywhere but outside of the home because of privacy issues. Fortunately that is no longer an issue, and we're mostly able to spank in the house whenever we wish (which we love!).

But we still do enjoy the chance to spank elsewhere, and do so as often as we can. That 'elsewhere' is almost always a hotel room. Just this weekend, we got the chance to have a very enjoyable spanking session in a hot tub in a hotel suite. We like 'theme' hotels too. Those definitely can make of a fun spanking experience.

We'd like to do a little outdoor spanking, and have some ideas when the weather warms up. Spanking at the beach would be great too.

Starlight: Hotels are the obvious answer, but really, cabins are a better choice. There are lots of woodsy destinations that have cabins for rent. Obviously, the distance from our room to other ears allows for greater release of inhibitions! SMACK! OUCH!

Darling Girl: Hotels certainly, and often in the past. Once, and very memorably, on a train, in a train carriage in between ticket inspections. My Disciplinarian assures me he knew nobody was about... But still! At least my knickers were kept up.

Elle: OMG... I love to "play" in unusual locations. We like to get out and about to say the least. The fear of getting caught is an enormous turn on for me and the man in my life too. I wouldn't dare list the places we've had a go. We really should have been arrested by now. He's almost always dom in public (we switch in private) and it gives me such a thrill. We are infamous at parties because our friends know we'll end up in a bathroom or a kitchen misbehaving *wink*

Mthc: We play everywhere. He even smacks me in Walmart, the grocery store, and while cooking dinner!

Skellos: I agree with the majority here... Hotels are an obvious. I have had the opportunity to play in the out of doors. It was a pretty ideal setting, and it was fun at first, but we got caught in a rainstorm and had to leave much sooner than we wished.

Jeana: Like everyone else, we have played in hotel rooms. I have also been spanked leaning over the side of a bridge while hiking down an abandoned trail in the mountains. Although we had not seen anyone in like four hours, the idea of someone walking up and seeing us in the middle of the woods was thrilling. Of course, a single swat in a public setting is always fun, but I wouldn’t want it to go any further than that. As for other partners, we just don’t do that. I have nothing against the idea. It’s just something I don’t personally see the need for right now.

Jean Marie: My lover and I play mostly in the bedroom because, whether the spanking I receive is playful or punishing, it's always followed by lovemaking, and that just makes it easier.

We've only had three chances to play in other venues besides hotel rooms (which are always a turn-on and where I'm sure we've disturbed our next-door neighbors).

Two years ago, my maternal grandma died, leaving me the farm property where I'd spent many summers growing up. I took Kyle to upstate New York to see the place before I sold it. The big barn was just as I remembered it, just as scary/thrilling to explore as when I was ten. On the far side of the structure was an attached tool shed. As soon as we went inside, Kyle remarked, "This is like a woodshed..." I looked up at him, he smiled down at me, then took his belt off. I love taking my clothes off outside, but was a little bothered by a big wasps' nest on the ceiling of the shed. Regardless, Kyle put a sting in my tail with an exquisitely hard strapping, and the nookie afterward was sublime.

Then last summer I finally took Kyle home to meet my parents, signifying that our relationship was serious. This didn't matter to my dad and step-mom, or the fact that I'm 30 and Kyle is older, we were put in separate rooms of my parents' summer home on a beautiful lake. We stayed for five days, and after three I was getting horny in the extreme. One evening after dinner the two of us strolled hand-in-hand to the boathouse. The polished wood, chrome, and leather of the old Criss Craft classic seemed so masculine as we made-out (to say nothing of my boyfriend's lips and tongue and fingers). I was very aroused very quickly. He pulled my bathing suit bottoms down to enter me, but I whispered, "Spank me first." He did. I don't think I've ever climaxed so hard. No sooner had we done the deed and my reddened butt was somewhat re-clothed by my bikini than my dad showed up! He was wondering what we were up to, and wondering if we wanted to take the boat out. Treating us like the kids he'll always think of the younger generation as, he drove! I don't know if he noticed my glowing backside or nipples poking through my top like bullets. It was romantic, nonetheless.

So we're driving home a couple days later, laughing about all the incidents during our stay, and Kyle compliments how lovely I looked in the speed boat at twilight. I wriggled out of my clothes, then got his stiffy out of his pants. He wisely pulled the car over, and we jumped in the back seat. This wasn't the optimal location. It was cramped and hot, but it made me feel like a teenager. He spanked me as best he could, then took me from behind, and we were just building to a crescendo when there was an abrupt rap on the glass. A cop ticketed us for creating an unsafe road condition of the side of a freeway. He warned us that he could have cited us for several other violations. Unlike my father, this cop got a real eyeful. That shamed me out of wanting to try sex in a car ever again.

Anyway, "place" can be a marvelous addition to sex and spanking. Your question reminds me that we don't take advantage of this enough.

Bonnie: We love the outdoors and enjoy a (hopefully) secret spanking in the woods when the opportunity presents itself. We have a few favorite destinations that see very little foot traffic.

One fond memory involves a picturesque spot by the Pacific where there is a waterfall right on the beach. This is normally a fairly busy spot, but when we were there, a light rain kept away all but the most intrepid beachgoers. Randy sat on a rock ledge, flopped me down across his lap, and spanked me over my shorts. It didn’t hurt that much, but the very idea of getting a full fledged spanking in such a public location was an incredible turn-on.

There have been lots of other places, but many of the best are already chronicled here.

Thank you all for joining our spanko brunch. We'll be right back here again next week for another discussion related to our favorite subject.

MBS Spanko Brunch #108

Welcome back, everyone! It's time for brunch and I'm glad you stopped by. Our question this week comes from our friend Prefectdt.

Do you play outside the home? If so, what sort of environment do you prefer? How do you find good places to play?

If you would like to add your thoughts to our brunch discussion, I invite you to leave a comment below, send me an e-mail, or post a message on your own blog. Once everyone has had their say, I will publish an edited summary of the proceedings. I look forward to reading about your insights and experiences.

My Bottom Smarts - Andy Warhol Style

I found this bit of fun at the Generator Blog.