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Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Jan 29

Our topic of the week was making sure a spanking is “even” across both sides. Here are your thoughts.

Abby: Master is an engineer. He always likes to have everything nice and even!

Sunny Girl: My husband is precise in everything he does, including spanking.

Dragon's Rose: If it is a fun spanking, he may give a few extra swats to even out the pink.

Julie: I either want it completely the same, or sometimes I spank on only one side, leaving the other lily white.

Scunge: It drives me CRAZY when R chooses to spank with an uneven number. I actually ASK for even!

Spanky: I frequently do this during our OTK spankings, which are given bare handed, to even out the glow. When spanking OTK, I get different angles with each hand, so the results are somewhat different depending which side I'm working on and which hand I'm using. I like to keep things nice and even, and I never spank only one side during a session!

With larger paddles, she gets both sides at once. With smaller paddles, I like to keep the sides even also.

I think Kallisto feels good about it. I'm not getting any complaints!

L.: He's not systematic. Sometimes, he'll unintentionally land too many swats on one side. I point it out to him and he obliges me by evening things out.

Penelope: There's no real obsession with symmetry in our little spanknest. I generally prefer a nice right-left, right-left as the basis of my spanking, but anything thrown in to vary it is perfectly OK. A sudden succession of spanks to one cheek can make for a really nice extra punishment (for example, for answering back).

Hermione: I hate the feeling of being uneven, and my husband is usually pretty good about delivering the same number of swats to each side. Sometimes, I get a few in a row on one cheek before he delivers the same on the other, but more often it's single spanks on each one in turn.

In a playful situation, he sometimes gives me a spank or two on one side then stops. I'll often ask him to "even me out."

Prefectdt: This spankee appreciates this technique a lot. I hate that one-sided feeling, especially in an OTK spanking where the spanker has over favoured the far buttock.

Kitty: I get spanked unevenly at times (during punishment, usually).

Six of the Best: I try to give both sides of a woman's delectable bare derriere equal justice. Yes, I try to make them evenly blushing red.

Lea: Yes, I've received extra swats many times to even things out. I don't ever get fully spanked on just one cheek, which would be horrid, but especially with being OTK one side tends to get it a little more than the other. So, it happens.

Rod: I can't see the point, really. Surely we play these games for the pain and pleasure, the endorphin high.

Ronnie: P sometimes spanks one cheek more than the other intentionally and then, of course, he has to even up the heat/colour of the other cheek. This can go on for a while. :)

Naughtyney: My top is very aware of whether my bottom is getting rosy enough. So I often get a few extras on one side or the other if I'm not quite rosy enough. The problem is that this includes the thighs. Ugggghh.

Sarah Thorne: I've had it happen, but it's not been anything obsessive, excessive, or noteworthy really. So I don't really have an issue with the technique.

Michael: Is Randy's interest in symmetry just an excuse to smack your bottom more or does he have a touch of OCD? :-)

I try to even swats out on Season's bottom to avoid having one cheek show bruises. That's something we don't like. We prefer her to have a nice even glowing red bottom. Though during Season's spanking, I will not just alternate cheeks as that gets too metronomic and unimaginative. It drives Season wild and I need to hold her tightly in place when I give her many consecutive spanks on the same spot then repeat this process on her other cheek to even her out. I will also tease her and say one cheek is redder than the other and proceed to smack one side then say "Oops" now that side is too red so I must slap her other cheek. In theory, I could keep this up indefinitely, but will soon stop after Season whines and pouts, but only to move onto the more amorous part of her spanking. ;)

I think it's both!

Elysia: Yes, Henry will deliver extra spanks to one side to even things up. I brought the question to him for his input, and he said the reason is that the outside cheek often gets an unfair amount of attention, so he will deliver some more purposefully to the inner cheek. This is a regular part of maintenance and erotic spankings. If it's a punishment spanking, it's administered deliberately to the "sweet spot" only. There's never any movin' around on his part anyway (giggle). I think Henry has the techniques "down pat" or "down spank." What he does, does the job for both of us. ;-)

Oh, and one time he asked me to get up and lay over on his other side. That REALLY evened things up!

R Humphries: Symmetry is poetry, and poetry is spanking up one buttock cheek and back down the other, so to speak. Of course, originating from the shores of Blighty, everything spanking is dominated by the magic spanko number of six. Whether using a cane, paddle, hairbrush, slipper, strap or simply your hand, as long as you deliver in sets of six, everything will remain symmetrical. Whoa, that was geekish!

TheVBB: My wife likes to visit both sides and leave each side equally red when she gives me an OTK. She actually looks for any white spots and actually seems excited when she finds one. She goes right after the white spots to make sure every inch is red. When she is giving me school type paddlings, she does not focus so much on getting both sides even, she just goes at it. This technique usually leaves one side more red. I try to help her out by moving to one side, but she usually adjusts her swing.

When we are having a session with our disciplinarian there is not an issue with one side being uneven as my wife is right handed and our disciplinarian is left handed. So when the team up my poor bum is thoroughly spank evenly.

Bonnie: Randy and I agree about the need for spankings to be even. I hate that lopsided feeling where one cheek is on fire and the other feels barely touched. He takes pride in his thoroughness and even a casual spanking includes attention to both sides.

Evening up is particularly an issue when he uses longer implements and sometimes OTK. As others have observed, the far cheek is often struck with greater velocity and more leverage. As a result, it quickly becomes redder, sorer, and more thoroughly punished. Extra swats to the nearer cheek correct this inequity.

Thanks, everyone, for sharing your insights and your weekend with us. See you next time!

MBS Spanko Brunch #315

Welcome, my friends, to the latest in our continuing series of community conversations. Our topic this week was inspired by my dear husband's love of symmetry.

Do you or your partner ever deliver extra spanks to one side in order to "even up" the spanking? If so, is this a regular practice or an exception. Does the use of "evening up" swats depend upon the position, implement, or purpose? How does the spankee feel about this technique?

If you'd like to join the fun, please enter your response in the form of a comment below. Once everyone has had a turn, I will post an edited summary.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Jan 22

Our topic this week was maintenance spankings. Here's what you had to say.

Abby: I get a maintenance spanking once a week. It is a priority. Master sees it as a reminder that I am not in charge and as a deterrent to a punishment spanking. I see it as peace of mind.

Sara: We absolutely do use 'maintenance' or 'resssurance' spankings, generally about twice a week. They have become the cornerstone of our DD marriage!

L.: I think what we do is more of pseudo-maintenance as I ultimately have control over it. Probably most people doing DD would just consider it recreational spanking, but it makes an adjustment in my head anyway so it might as well be maintenance. It works for us!

Poured Out: I think I get spanked often enough (not punishment) that I don't require maintenance spankings.

Hermione: Our spankings are purely recreational, but we do engage in them on a regular basis, and they are very necessary for my well-being. They help me unwind, relax, and reconnect with my husband. They aren't maintenance spankings in the DD sense, but they are very beneficial to our relationship.

Rogue: For the past two months, we've scheduled a maintenance night once a week. Beyond the benefits of simply setting the tone for the week ahead, I've noticed that I no longer have intense headaches. Go figure. :)

Susie: How did you know that this is ALL we've talked about at my house this week? Yes, we do these two times a week and since we started them, punishment spankings are few and far between. I think things would get topsy-turvy if we were to give them up.

Just a lucky guess?

Kitty: Yes, Daddy gives me maintenance spankings, but it usually ends up being a "paintenance" spanking, maintenance + punishment = paintenance... Killing two birds with one stone and all! ;)

Duality: I'll give Grace a maintenance spanking about three to four times per week. They help refocus her and put her in the correct headspace. The biggest benefit, though, is the fact that her anxiety will lessen after one of these spankings. So for us, they are basically therapeutic.

Alex Reynolds: I don't get dedicated maintenance spankings. I get spanked arbitrarily nearly every night, though, and there are times when I use that to focus myself in the way that you've described. I've gotten "reminder" spankings in the past. These spankings were meant to keep my mind focused on accomplishing a particular task or minding a rule which I hadn't been giving enough focus in the past couple of days.

Blondie: How great is your timing with this discussion? We are missing each other and needing to reconnect and he feels a spanking is the answer and I agree. If I haven't been getting into trouble the last few weeks, so spankings have not been necessary. YAY! And our sex spankings haven't been going on much either since we haven't been able to do much of that either. I miss my husband and I miss my spankings and we might just have to do maintenance or something because I don't want to brat to get in trouble.

Spanky: I think our situation is the same as Hermione's. We have regular "fun" spankings five or six days a week, if not every day. This keeps us pretty much on an even keel. I believe they contribute greatly to the increased closeness we've had over the last four years or so.

Lea: J and I have scheduled maintenance spankings once a week. I'm glad we do because I'd hardly ever get spanked otherwise. Why is that? Because I'm so well behaved, duh! LOL The spankings aren't particular hard, but having them does help me to de-stress and feel more centered when it's been a while.

A-Non: We tried maintenance (or "practice," as I liked to call it). We didn't really stick with it. But we've never had a true punishment. We just played around with some minor corrections. Therefore, all of mine have been either practice or purely erotic. Obviously, we are still figuring all of this out.

Having said that, I would like a once-a-week practice to 'reset' our relationship and keep the threat of spanking in my mind.

Kiwi Girlie Girl: Your timing for this week's topic is scary. I had my first proper maintenance last night. It was intense and harsh and he wouldn't stop until he was ready to stop, as opposed to stopping when I ask. It's another step forward for my Sir. The maintenance was just before bed, which followed a punishment earlier in the day. I think it's going to work wonders. I really do. I'm going to post a blog about it later. ;)

Daisy: When we were together, Davey gave me a maintenance spanking every morning to set me up for the day ahead and remind me to behave. Typically, it was not harsh, but just enough for me to not want a harder repeat later!

When I lived alone, he used to make me self spank while on cam with him. I hated that. Fortunately, one of my kids moved back home with me, so that stopped!

A'marie: I've not been in a relationship where this would come in to play, but I find myself intrigued by the notion. I'm perhaps a bit uppity, and it seems that may be an interesting dynamic for reminding me who wields the paddle. ;)

Loki_Darksong: I have considered having maintenance spanking sessions for both my wife and me on several occasions. Of late, we have become two very stressed out individuals. Maintenance spankings may be required to keep us somewhat sane!

I do see the merits of maintenance spankings. I have suggested them for some of our friends as well.

Anon: No maintenance spankings here. All are given under the discipline label and all are painful with considerable soreness afterward. I love it that way. She says it makes me think of her every time I sit down! That's not far from the truth!

Mark: We do not have a label. However, judging by your definition, my wife and I do use maintenance spankings. Sometimes I ask for it, or she does, or either of us decides that it would be good to spank. We just do it, put the clothes back on, and then we go about our things. All is well in the world, and we are at peace again. We have no set time or interval. We're just opportunistic.

Then there is the other kind of spanking, deliberately executed as prelude to other fun. Both hurt all the same though. Spanking is meant to hurt, no? We do not use spanking as discipline.

Bonnie: We don't use the word maintenance, but many of our regular spankings serve the same purpose. Afterward, I feel remarkably calm and focused. We become reconnected and in touch with one another. There can be no doubt about our respective roles. Regular spankings are the key to our peaceful home life.

Thank you all for joining in our brunch conversation!

MBS Spanko Brunch #314

Hello again, dear friends! We have for your enjoyment a classic brunch question originally posed almost five years ago.

A maintenance spanking is neither disciplinary nor recreational. It is focused instead upon the well-being of the recipient and the relationship. The spanking itself is typically fairly intense and generates considerable residual soreness.

Some couples schedule maintenance spankings at regular intervals. Others employ them as needed. In either situation, the objective is to provide balance, preserve peace of mind, re-establish communication, and reconnect the partners. Our question this week examines whether and how couples utilize maintenance spankings to enhance their relationships.

Do you and your partner employ maintenance spankings? If so, in what circumstances and how effective are they? If not, would you consider this practice? Why or why not?

If you would like to submit a contribution to our brunch discussion, I invite you to leave a comment below. Once everyone has provided their responses, I will publish an edited summary of our discussion.

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Twelve Million

A little while ago, MBS registered our twelve millionth page request. That number boggles my mind. I can't visualize twelve million of anything. This modest creation of mine has grown beyond my comprehension.

All I can say is thank you all for six years of steady support. I can't promise another twelve million, but my aim is squarely set on thirteen.