Happy Independence Day

Happy Fourth of July to all of our friends in the US. To everyone else, Happy Thursday!

Either way, this might be an appropriate occasion for certain indoor explosions.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Jan 4

This week’s brunch topic was holiday gifts.

Matt: Our anniversary is mid-December, so it wasn't really a Christmas present, but my I bought my wife a wooden paddle brush from a beauty supply store. She says it is still not quite right though. She gets significant vibration through it when she uses it on my bottom which helps to wear out her hand. I guess we will have to keep looking.

She suggested getting a real paddle so we will start looking for those. I like the symbolism of the hairbrush though, so I hope I can find one she likes.

We are just getting started. Currently, we have the paddle brush and her right hand. :-)

Tiggs: I did give spanking good gifts, but not to my beloved Dante! In fact, I not only shopped for a cheap spanking implement (that doubles as a useful gift), but I also passed along a spanking good toy that we'd never used. I honestly thought we would break it on the first swat if Dante ever had used it. Plus, I did manage to send a couple other spanking things to friends.

Dante and I have enough spanking toys to fill a huge box, way more than we use. Plus, in giving a spanking gift to him, it would really be "for" me. That would imply a "demand" to be spanked. I'm not imposing that sort of pressure on either of us this year!

The best part is that it truly is much better to give then to receive! The toys haven't been used yet (by my friends), but when they are, it will be delightful indeed! It makes me smile inside just thinking about it!

Daisy: The only people I "know" who spank are my online friends, and of course, there are no addresses or indeed real names. So I have no-one to send gifts to! Of course, Davey and I being in different countries makes it impossible to send gifts to each other. It would be expensive, and embarrassing to list the contents on a customs form! However, I have the promise of a belated Christmas spanking (and birthday spanking, and Easter spanking, and.. and.. and..!) to look forward to collecting when we meet up in a few months time! :)

Dr. Ken: I would have liked to receive a girlfriend to spank in the New Year. But last time I looked under the tree, there was still nothing there...

Paul: I received a wonderful packet from a special friend. It contained a paddle, a hairbrush and a tawse. My girl is a little apprehensive about them. Before that, I had sent my girl a nice hairbrush as part of her Christmas present.

Such presents add a little spice to her life. Chuckle.

Jay: Yes, I got a spankable for Christmas. It is a hairbrush. Sir has a cruel sense of humour.

And my lovely Couz sent my Dom a hairbrush, Tawse, and Paddle.
I think my butt is in trouble.

Hermione: I gave Ron a black wooden cane with a silver handle, and a long shoehorn to match. Both were made in Italy and are quite elegant. The cane is actually a walking stick and too heavy for play, but the shoehorn has definite possibilities. Maybe I'll find out on Twelfth Night.

Ronnie: We have quite a collection of toys, more than we actually use (P has his favourites).

I did receive an early present of a maple wood paddle shipped from the US. It has a jovial spanking Santa on it. This gives it a friendly appearance, but believe me, it is a wolf in sheep’s clothing.

Big Bear: Unfortunately for my dear Penfold, she received a new gift. It was not as part of the holidays, but as an addition to our growing collection... a cane

We just had to test it immediately. ;-)

We'll have to see how that goes through the year. I have got some ideas brewing! :-)

Julie: Since I am still hoping to transform my fantasies into reality in the future and technically am single as well, I did not give nor receive any spanking implements. However, I drew a kinky Christmas card for a special person I came to know over the internet, and I dearly wish it were possible for him to be my lover and disciplinarian. So I was happy I could surprise him with said card on which I drew the "Merry Christmas" made out of several implements we would like to experiment with. :-)

Also, with this being my first comment, I want to thank you for helping me to embrace my kinkiness through this amazing blog.

Welcome, Julie!

Our Bottoms Burn: There’s nothing new here. In fact, we have been giving away toys for the last three years.

Prefectdt No, I didn't give or receive one kinky present (damn my luck). I did pick up two books, “Over the Knee” by Fiona Locke and “A Slave in Time” by Josephine Scott in the Christmas sales (it was a buy one, get the other half price type of thing). Maybe that counts as a present to self.

I would have liked to have a kinky partner to exchange gifts with though.

Diesel Diva: My Christmas and/or New Years gift would be for my son to be able to move out. Thin walls and a son who is 25 and living here puts a definite kink in my kinkiness, so to speak. Keep your fingers crossed for me! He may move out someday. I'd have to shovel snow myself, but that would be a small price to pay. And my toasted hiney would keep me warm.

Doc: This is a sad question for me. I gave a fun spanko gift this year, but it will never be used on me. Days after giving it I had to leave the person I gave it to...

It was a cricket bat, and a full cricket set actually. The bat was the lightest one we could find. The whole set was going to be used in a scene wherein I wore a tartan skirt. My Dom liked to do erotic photos and a scene with a full compilation of props was something I knew he'd like.

I got the cricket bat in England. It’s perhaps not the most amusing gift if you're from that country, but I thought of it as a very suitable surprise coming from a sub who has just been traveling.

Danielle:While we were on vacation I bought three identical gifts. One crossed the ocean on its way to a dear friend. The second went to our closest friends when we visited them just before Christmas and the third... was for us.

Of course, I have used that one already many times on my husband's backside. What it is? It is a smaller version of an Irish (and American?) hurling stick. It’s not a true spanking tool, but it does a great job. It looks quite innocent. It is easy to swing and looks nice as well. Ours is called Miss Hurley.

Padme: I received a brand new long suede flogger from a good friend of mine for Christmas. It's wonderful and I really enjoy playing with it! I also got a new wooden spoon in my stocking too from Santa. We have yet to use it though and I'm looking forward to a spanking from it! :)

Red: I stumbled over your blog a few days ago and find it quite nice.

Yes, I gave my sweetie a new, long handled bath brush. While I haven't been on the receiving end yet, she immediately picked up on its dual uses.

Hi, Red, and welcome! That brush sounds like a real scorcher.

Mthc: Yep, I gave David a bathbrush that he makes use of every waking moment.

Impish1: Nope, I put a pretty hand-shaped leather spanking paddle on my Christmas list, and showed him where to buy it, but we don't always get what's on our lists, and I didn't get it. He's never bought a spanking implement, so it was really a little too hopeful anyway.

Ann: I gave a paddle to my fiancee. We haven't tried it out yet, but I think it's just a matter of time before it's used. :)

Bonnie: We bought a new toy together this year. It isn’t an implement and its use is not limited to spanking. It’s a wedge pillow. We had something similar several years ago, but this model is far superior. The wedge has been a lot of fun and we’re just getting started.

Thank you to everyone who shared their holiday thoughts and memories. We will have an excellent, thought-provoking reader question next Sunday. I hope you will join us again.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Dec 21

Our topic this week was spanking-related plans or wishes for the holiday season. As you can see, MBS readers are filled with the holiday spirit!

Jean Marie: The reality of Christmas morning is always pretty special. In my dreams, it's phenomenal!

In reality, I always get at least one spanking-related gift each year. My stocking (hung on the fireplace mantle) is reserved for that. In the past, I've gotten a nice wooden hairbrush or tooled leather paddle in there. One year, my lover claimed that I was a bad girl and I got a switch. As soon as I pull the gift from my stocking, tradition dictates that I drop the seat of my flannel pajamas and bend over for a dose from the new implement. Oftentimes, this leads to hot sex in front of the roaring fire with my buns all toasty warm.

My dream is to go with my lover to one of those spanking parties like those Shadow Lane hosts several times a year. I'm painfully shy in front of strangers as a rule, but in my dreams my lover bares me and sensually spanks me. Then a long line of tops, men and women both, queue up to discipline my deserving derriere. I'm passed around and spanked repeatedly, by some sensually and by others severely. With some people, this evolves into sex-play. I know that the reality would pale in comparison to my fantasy, so I preserve the heat of it (and my dignity) by just keeping it as masturbation-fodder.

Jflame: In reality, I don't know, I'll leave that up to my Dom. But dreams are another story.

On Christmas Eve, it’s our tradition to open one present after we get home from the midnight carol service.

I shall open the present from my Dom and find a nice wooden paddle. Of course, I'll be all surprised and pout a little as he leads me over to the sofa where he stands me before the arm and pulls down my jeans. Yes, I'll struggle a little as he orders me to bend over the arm forcing him to give me a few warning swats before I comply grudgingly. Of course, he won't be thrilled with the fact that I went to church without any panties, so he'll have to teach me a lesson in propriety.

As the swats land on my upturned bottom, I will moan in pleasure. But as he notices this, he will inevitably endeavor to strengthen the impact that the paddle is having upon me.

As the blows get harder and harder, I get hotter and hotter and eventually he cannot help but to drop the paddle and take me long and hard as the snow continues to fall and Santa continues to deliver presents to all the good boys and girls.

In the morning, I shall receive a switch because I've been such a naughty girl this year.

Greenwoman: That was a l lovely story, Jay.

This year, I've no plans for spankings. Even if my husband and I were still together, its family time for us. We've always got kids around, so there's really no time for such play. For us, spanking time has always been non-holiday time.

But if I were to have a tradition, it would be a Christmas Eve one. I would like to get a spanking for being naughty through the year. Then, in order to make up for it all, I'd have to give some kind of “make me happy service.” I'm sure it would be the usual kind that all men want. All before I get a lovely Christmas Eve gift of something romantic that I'd adore and feel like a jubilant giddy school girl over.

Nice fantasy, eh? I'm hoping that some day such a thing will be a tradition in my home.

morningstar: Sir and I find the holiday season probably the hardest time of the year to find time for "us."

On Christmas Eve, the family gathers here for lunch and gifts. On Christmas Day, we usually go off to our youngest daughter's for the BIG feast. Then there is Sir's birthday on the 28th. This involves entertaining family and friends.

In between times, we tend to veg out and try and recharge our batteries.

This year, however, there is one planned event for "us." I have been on a shaving ban. Sir promised that Dec 25th (before the trip to daughter's), I will be shaved.

I purchased a couple of new "toys" for Sir. One is for Christmas morning (snuggled in bed with juice) and then one is more for His birthday. I guess I am hoping that Sir will find at least one evening or afternoon or a stolen hour somewhere to try them out.

I have my fingers crossed...

Ariana: Sadly, I'll be away from my honey this winter. Alas, the course of collegiate spanko love never did run smooth. I might go visit him for a weekend, but any sort of fooling around, let alone the loud (and giggly) kind, seems inappropriate under his parents' roof.

Fun, but inappropriate.

We do have a long weekend over Valentine's weekend, and I've been fantasizing about going to a B&B with sound-proof walls, lots of rope, and aloe...

Dragonmage: I have nothing spanking-related for luvbunny this year. Last year, I got her a brush (specifically, a paddle brush). ^_^

I did get her a special gift, though. It is a gift card for a half-hour massage. It's not a surprise, so it's OK that she will read this comment. LOL

Irelynn: I'm going to be home for two weeks over the holidays, so a spanking is not an option for me this year. Nor do I have a partner to give me a spanking. Maybe next year!

I did receive a rather lovely flogger from a good friend though. It’s just like I gave my blogging partner in crime a brilliant riding crop with an angel at the end. I got a similar crop for myself, only with a devil on the end. ;-) Kinky presents are always nice to give and get, because you know so much thought goes into choosing one that suits a person's wants and their character.

I'm thinking Greenwoman's ideas about Christmas Eve spankings (and other things!) are quite good! That's a tradition I would love to introduce some day!

Ronnie: We also find it hard to spank during the holiday season. This Christmas is no exception. We are going to a family pub in Wales, and it’s apparently haunted. It’s been in the village over 200 years.

Here is my wish:

Christmas Eve would be just the two of us. This may sound selfish at this time of year, but in all the years we have been together, we have only spent two Christmases with just the two of us. We would attend the Christmas Carol service and then return home. Under the tree with a glass of wine, mince pie, and music playing, we would just be close and please each other.

On Christmas Day, there would be a special present from me to P, given whilst we are still in bed. It will be one he can use on me, but I can't say what it is as P sometimes reads Bonnie's brunch. It would be accompanied with a cheeky note that P will have to act upon. This would leave me with a very, very sore bottom that will still be stinging while I am preparing the turkey and uncomfortable while sitting.

It’s nice to dream, but I will be looking forward to seeing the family.

Andrades: My husband and I don't usually buy each other gifts at Christmas. This year, I am not really sure what is going to happen. There are so many changes. I finally had "The Talk" with my husband. I showed him some of my posts, including my Dear Santa post. But that was just for fun. Did he take it seriously or for fun? I have no idea, and I am a little scared / excited about that. I am trying to let things unfold and let him find his way. I am already having trouble letting go of control and nothings happened yet, only a few threatening lighthearted conversations.

OH MY! What have I started? I will keep you posted. And Bonnie, I started my conversation with info about your blog. I sent him a link to one of your tutorials and he read them all in one night. Double OH MY. We shall see what happens on Christmas.

I’m pleased to be able to assist. I hope all your wishes will come true!

Todd and Suzy: We like to pick out something fun and kinky for Christmas as a way to celebrate the extra time the season allows us. Plus, it can get pretty stressful at this time of the year, and something fun to look forward to helps with that. Usually the gift can't make it under the tree... A couple of years ago, we picked out a paddle.

This year though, we're going with drop-seat pajamas for Suzy. If Santa can get it here in time, they'll go under the tree.

Pammie: Sadly, there are no spanking plans for me for Christmas – and most likely, no spanking gifts either.

Santa, all I want for Christmas is a spanker of my own – to have and to hold, and to bend over for.

Paul: I suspect that this is every Dom's dream for Christmas Eve. I have a favourite tawse, well used and stingy. It's about 10 PM. My brat wanders in wearing only one of my shirts. I've piled a stack of cushions in front of the fire.

I tell her to remove the shirt and lay over the cushions bottom up. I swing the tawse against her bottom, gradually increasing the heat. She ouches and hisses, but I know that she is enjoying it.
Midnight finds us entwined in a loving snuggle, both of us nicely warmed.

Anon: My girlfriend is far, far away this year and I am back home with the family. We will be doing our kinky Christmas late this year once we both get back into town. I've purchased something from Ian for her.

Lil Sam: I would like Santa to bring me or take me to a new partner as I have been alone now for two years and nine months. I would like a partner who is a patient teacher and I would be a willing student. I need a partner who is into giving spankings and teaching his lady about the kinky side of life.

Welcome, Lil Sam!

Olivia: I was thinking about what Shannee spoke of in terms of a Christmas Eve tradition. I started wishing away, and writing, and it lead to far too many words to write here. It turned in to a bit of a story over on my own blog.

Zille Defeu: We will be stuck at my parent’s house for Christmas. Any spankings that occur will have to be done very quietly, and I’m not generally known for being quiet. So if he does spank me, he has to gruffly order me not to make any noise, and I have to bed to stuff my face in a pillow! ;)

This year, there are no directly-related spanking gifts. When we have those, we open them at home before we leave (and of course, try them out!)

One of the best I’ve ever given him was a weighted bookmark that has the words, “Regard the weight of words rather than their number” (Cicero) stamped in the leather. I figured it applied not just to words, but to spanks, as well! It’s a good, if nasty, little spanking tool, and very portable. Yet, it is not obviously a spanking implement (except to spankos, who would never use it for anything else!)

But, happily, we will be home in time for New Year’s, and my perfect way to celebrate it would be for us to drink a lot of champagne (several bottles of our favorite brand have already been laid in!) and have sex and spankings all night long. How better to ring in the New Year?!

Daisy: We have never spent a Christmas together yet, and hopefully, this year will be the last time we are apart. I am hoping we will start some "traditions" next year to begin our lives together. Bright ideas are welcome...

I particularly liked the idea of dragging the mattress in and sleeping by the Christmas tree and having a whole lot of fun there. I read about this on Carly’s blog.

Dave: My wish is to simply meet that special someone who is into spanking. My lap is terribly empty at the moment.

K: Not only do we have Christmas, we have a birthday and an anniversary to celebrate this week. Since this is our first celebratory season as spankos, we're exchanging several naughty gifts and hoping for lots of opportunities to use them. Hubby's nearly finished making me a set of leather wrist and ankle cuffs with clips to attach them in various ways. He also has plans to make a leather paddle and a collar. I'm not sure what the collar means because he doesn't think of me as submissive, but he does know I'm his. I'm giving him a wooden hairbrush and a chamois that I'll make into a flogger afterwards. His gifts can't be opened in front of the teens, but mine can. Only the two of us will know what the gifts are really for and we'll share a naughty secret.

Hubby has vacation the next two weeks and the teens will be in and out with other relatives to visit. We're hoping for lots of lazy mornings and late nights after the baby is asleep to enjoy our new toys and each other.

Bonnie: We will have houseguests next weekend, but that won’t stop the spanko part of our celebration. We planned a very private party on the evening before our daughter (and her daughter!) arrive.

We generally exchange gifts that somehow relate to this interest of ours. These could be new implements, but they are just as likely to be sex toys, lotions, bondage equipment, or videos. I’ve tried giving Randy innocent-looking, but pervertable gifts during the family exchange, but he seems to always find a way to make it uncomfortable for me. So I’m not going to use that strategy this year.

I have something fun for him, but I can’t give it away just yet!

Wow, it’s going to be a great holiday! Thanks to everyone who contributed.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Dec 23

Thank you all for your participation in today’s holiday brunch, and in our brunches throughout the year. Our topic of the week was coping with holiday stress.

Jessica: I was thinking a good brunch topic would be obsessing on spanking. I know you have a story about this. I am finding that I can get into looking at blogs and sites obsessively and I start to neglect other things. Any thoughts?

That’s a good topic and I’ve added it to our list. Thanks!

Sleepygirl: I can tell you what I would like to happen, but it's kind of one of those "want in one hand..." situations. I’d like a good babysitter for the kids, a bottle of Jameson's, and a night to ourselves for our anniversary here in a few days. That would do wonders for my stress level.

As it is, we'll just have to muddle through until it's over.

Perverted but Friendly: We went away on holiday for two weeks just before Christmas. It was an escape from the cold harsh British winter. 25 Celsius temperatures and the clear blue skies of Fuerteventura made us both feel a lot better. It was a vanilla holiday as we took no spanking toys at all.

Stress levels have dropped and we feel fine again.

Happy Christmas and a peaceful New Year to all of you.

Paul: My love lives on, but I have no one to spank. Shame. :(

I have a children's party on Christmas Eve. There will be no spanking. These are the family little ones, so we’ll have lots of love.

As for Christmas Day, it will be just me, my memories, and animals.

Family and friends will come to dinner on Boxing Day. There will be lots of talk and friendship and the love that is between family that are friends as well.

Have a wonderful Christmas, dear Bonnie, and may you be sitting as warm as you wish. *Smiles*

Lori: Now that the shopping is done, cleaning of the house for Christmas guests will begin. We've managed a few good spankings to keep the stress minimized and we will be breaking out the Bailey's tonight. We buy a bottle of Bailey's Irish Cream once a year. It's been our Christmas tradition to share it on Christmas Eve. This year, we are starting one day early.

Happy holiday season to all!

Sara: This year, we have not managed to do a good job of keeping our balance. The long version answer is on my blog. The short version is to focus on what really is important, but how the heck does one do that?

Anyway, I wish you a most wonderful and peaceful holiday!

Paige: I have the sexiest Santa Girl outfit from Victoria's Secret that I wear for my hubby! It's hot pink in color and consists of a very sexy bra, panties, a flirty mini-skirt trimmed with faux fur and a matching Santa hat! He absolutely loves it, which is why he makes my bottom hot pink to match!

Merry Christmas, Bonnie!

Mary: We have a moderate distance to contend with on a regular basis. That means if we get busy, we don't see each other. However, when we’re together, romance just can’t take a back seat. So my back seat is always spanked. It can be the best stress relief I know. I can hardly wait until my next Christmas spanking.

Jean Marie: You can't fall into the doldrums! I feel passionate about this. Yes, the holidays are stressful, but that's no excuse to get bogged down. It's an excuse to liven things up. You've got to spice the season up with more than nutmeg in your eggnog.

Last weekend, my lover and I went to a Dirty Santa party with our vanilla friends. That's where everybody brings a gift, you draw numbers, and open the gifts in that order. You can then steal the freshly opened gift when it's your turn (I'm not explaining this well, but hopefully you all know what I mean). As my boyfriend opened the car door for me to get in on our way there, I let him know that I wasn't wearing panties under my short skirt. His boyish leer told me that he found this hot at first, then his stern dom's face told me to behave myself. All night, he shot glances at me. All night, I shot him flashes of bare flesh.

I drew lucky number twenty out of that many guests. I stole a gift certificate for a spa treatment and massage from a girlfriend for the last turn.

"Oh! I really wanted that, you brat!" she exclaimed as I scampered back to my chair and she had to choose another gift.

"Spank me if I'm such a brat," I retorted and cocked my ass out at her before I sat it down. I could tell by the cool breeze on my bum that cheek was exposed, but everybody was so drunk that only she and my lover saw it. She blushed and smirked at me. My lover smoldered from across the room.

I got a sound spanking as soon as we pulled into our garage over the fender of the car, before the remote-controlled door could even close. I felt his belt over the arm of the living room couch. I got a lesson from my hairbrush in our bedroom. Then he made it all better with lovemaking on the floor.

I've put a switch in my own stocking and come downstairs Christmas morning with the drop seat flap open on my PJ bottoms. I've mooned my lover in front of the TV during the bowl games. I've bratted up a storm. I've come right out and told my man that I need a hard spanking.

You can't give in to the rush, crush, and madness! You have to put on the brakes and feed your soul during this special time of year. And my soul is best nurtured when my bottom is warmed.

Hermione: Christmas is synonymous with stress in our home. We recently had a real gripe session about all the stressful events that would be making up our yuletide celebrations this year. We whined, complained and felt sorry for ourselves for quite a while, and it made us both very unhappy, anxious and angry. Finally, I came out with a grumble about my parents. To my surprise, Ron said, "You're so lucky you have me to discipline you!"

Where did that come from? Did he really say that? The black mood instantly disappeared. I told Ron that was the best thing he could possibly have said, and we talked about the physical effect that spanking-related words have on me. We laughed and hugged and all of the holiday stress was forgotten.

MBS reader Paul has often said that the couple that spanks together stays together, and we'll get through the holidays because we have each other for support. And as Padme Amidala said recently on her blog, "Our force is strong." We are focusing on the quiet time we'll have after the busy-ness is over. We have some plans for our own 'festivities' that will allow us to reconnect in fun and different ways.

Merry Christmas to all my friends at MBS.

Mthc: We like the holidays. We have finished shopping and everything is wrapped. We have traditions like opening a gift on Christmas Eve, going to look at Christmas lights, and watching "It's a Wonderful Life." We've both been sick, but Saturday, we managed to have some playtime. I think that you just do the best that you can and eventually everything will fall into place.

David and I wish you a happy holiday season.

Bonnie: I find the holidays to be a very stressful time. I used to think that things might settle down once our daughter left home, but that hasn’t happened. The real problem is having more obligations than time and energy will allow. I never like to let people down or do less than my best on anything. But something has to give, and ultimately, something does.

Last weekend, Randy had to convince me that I could buy some items I generally make. His method of persuasion was forceful and compelling. The spanking broke through my stress and the lovemaking that followed served to restore the connection between us. I’m probably in need of another dose today, but this treatment lasted for quite a while.

Beyond fun and games, we try to find time where we can be together and sharing enjoyable activities. Even if it’s just a movie and dinner one night a week, it can make a big difference.

PK: I am probably less stressed than most because both Nick and I are laid back in general with all things. But I think there is one thing we do to relax with the loving and spanking part of our relationship. We have finally gotten to the point where we can curl up in bed at night and be very satisfied with touching and rubbing, yet not feel obligated to go any farther if we are not in the mood. We have learned that the touching and rubbing all by themselves are fun and brings us closer. Sometimes, it does lead to more (as I posted about today), but if it doesn't, that's fine.

Anon: The shopping is done, presents wrapped, house cleaned, and cookies baked. While shopping, we bought a large piece of ginger. Tonight will be just for us, a lovely snowball cocktail, playing with the ginger, some spanking, and then some rest!

Blushing Bride: Usually, we're okay at managing everything, focusing on what's important, etc. Lists are my favourite strategy. We set out lists of who needs to do what on which day. We both know what the priority is, no one feels like they're the only one doing everything, and nothing important gets forgotten. We even write in a code (since the lists are on the fridge and visible to anyone that stops by) for spankings and sex.

However, through a series of circumstances that is pretty much unbelievable to have occurred all over the last three weeks, things are more than getting to both of us. We're still trying to follow the lists and just throw out the things that would be nice but aren't all that necessary.

Elle: Well, I am one girl who is not getting ANY kinky fun until Christmas is well over. Since our relationship is relatively new, we are not spending the holidays together. Both of us have gone home to our parents for Christmas. I’m sitting in my teenage bedroom typing this feeling desperate for his hands all over my body. I last saw him on Friday and it was electric. I’ll be sneaking off on Christmas day to phone him up and tell him what I’d like to be doing to him... *sigh*

I’m very frustrated here. He has sworn me to not masturbate so we are both going to be gagging for it by the time we see each other. I bet we don’t make it though. You can imagine what’ll happen if either of us finds out the other didn’t keep the promise. It’ll involve whips.

Happy Christmas to you all.
I’m sorry if I’ve gone on a bit, but when I’m frustrated. I tend to rant. LOL

I wish you all the very best in this holiday season. Come what may, don't let stress get you down!

Keywords: spanking, holiday spanking, spanko, My Bottom Smarts, spanko brunch

Song Parody: Sting Me Well

I love to sing and traditional Christmas carols hold a special place in my heart. For the past two years, I have posted seasonal song parodies (to the point where some readers actually begged me to stop).

As a salute to the holiday season, here's a variation of Jingle Bells that you may not have heard.

Sting Me Well

Lashing to and fro
On a sawhorse made for play
Oh my cheeks they glow
Jiggling all the way
Whacks on my tail sting
Making colors bright
What fun it is to spank and sing
A flaying song tonight

Oh, swat me well, swat me well
Swat me all the day
Oh, what fun it is to ride
On a sawhorse made for play
Swat me well, swat me well
Swat me all the day
Oh, what fun it is to ride
On a sawhorse made for play
I realize that I posted a slightly different Jingle Bells parody in 2005, but I like this one better.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Dec 2

Our topic this week was holiday suggestions for the spankos on our gift lists. Here are your thoughts.

Purple Angel: I asked members of my group what they would wish for if they could pick a spanking gift to get. So far, the largest number would love to get a spanking horse, with, of course, a good spanking to go along with it.

I personally would love a ticket to Canada so I could get a wonderful holiday spanking and give one as well.

Hermione: My suggestion is actually called a wedding plaque, but I thought it would be nice to commemorate the date of my first spanking from Ron. It's a Christmas gift for him (We open our gifts to each other when we are alone).


It's meant to be attached to the outside of a house, but the bedroom wall is a good second choice! I'm thinking of starting a tradition of celebrating this anniversary as well as our other one.

Mary: I just bought some new panties and a pretty new bra. They’re for me, but he can enjoy them as much (or as little) as he'd like when we are together for the holiday. :-) I am not about to give him anything new to spank me with. My bottom was well marked last time we were together. He has enough to play with!

Prefectdt: There is plenty to choose from including clothing, books, DVDs, and especially toys. But my cunning plan goes like this (and I do this every year). I ask vanilla members of my family to buy me everyday household stuff for Xmas. Examples include towels, sheets, and stuff like that. Then I take the money from my normal budget, that I would have spent on this stuff myself, and buy kinky stuff with it. This way, I can get the vanilla members of my family to buy me spanko goods without even knowing it.

I'm the guy who is genuinely happy to get socks for Christmas. :-)

Bonnie: I have two suggestions:

• Drop seat pajamas from Vermont Country Store – Cold nights shouldn’t be an impediment to warm bottoms.


• Body brush from Pottery Barn – Whether sending a message, setting things straight, or just because, this brush makes a lasting impression!

On the other hand, if Randy wants to buy a padded spanking bench, I think I could get onboard with that idea.

Paul: For the spanker, I suggest a Swiss spanking kit. It would be similar to the Swiss Army Knife, only bigger, with perhaps a dozen different spanking implements.

For the spankee, I recommend a selection of multi-packs of panties with risqué sayings printed on the seat to encourage the spankers and large containers of Arnica and Aloe Vera. (Smiles)

I’m sorry that this is rather more light-hearted than my usual offering.

Jean Marie: My lover and I were just "discussing" this topic the other day. The words that flew out of my mouth were so heated, I ended up getting my bottom heated over his knee. I know tops and bottoms are opposite, but it should be two different sides of the same coin. Sometimes, K and I seem so foreign.

Although we collectively own a great many implements, most are of the improvised variety. For example, last week I was punished quite harshly with a doubled-up extension cord and teased quite erotically with an oversized rubber spatula from Tupperware. So I brought up the subject of toys expressly for play as pillow-talk.

I want leather toys for Christmas. I love their sensuality, their fragrant smell, and the pliant thick feel of straps. I find sessions with leather, even when hard, to be very arousing.

My lover wants to give me wooden implements, such as Rosy Bottom brushes. He likes to punish me with wood. Maybe it's because it makes me bruise, or maybe it's because he knows I detest the sharp-edged, no-nonsense bite of hardwood brushes and paddles.

I already know what's gonna happen on the morning of the 25th. He'll have a brush or two in my stocking, and he'll ceremoniously undo the drop-seat of my flannel PJ bottoms and spank me wickedly throughout the day. But he'll also give me cash to buy clothes, because he's inept at such things. So I'll order some leather toy by mail order. When it arrives a week or so later, I'll finally get a reprieve from splinter-imbuing paddlings.

Anon: My boyfriend promised me a very special surprise from Ann Summers. I’m hoping it’s leather and stingy. But I would settle for new handcuffs.

Carye: Ooh, I'd definitely recommend a hickory smacker from Paddles by Walt, or a dogging bat. :-) As for me, I'd just like some around the house stuff to become implements, or one of those fun trips to Walmart with spanking in mind... together with my husband!

Thanks to everyone who contributed these toasty warm holiday gift ideas!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Dec 24

Thank you, everyone for your generous words and for participating in our brunch series. Here are your holiday wishes:

Jean Marie: I wish this community of friends the merriest of Christmases, and the most wonderful on New Year’s.

I wish every spanko as many play spankings as they can handle, and as many punishment spankings as they deserve.

I wish our gracious host the very best, because she exemplifies that daily on this blog.

And I wish that I'd get what I truly have coming to me this holiday, so that I won't be able to sit for Christmas dinner.

Amber: Merry Christmas to you, Bonnie, and all of your readers.

Paul: Bonnie, dear girl, I wish you all that you wish yourself, and then some. I'm sure that Randy likes to push your limits a little.

Have a wonderful time.

Bonnie: You know me. I simply had to turn this assignment into a top ten list.

My holiday wishes are…

1. Food for those who are hungry


2. Companionship for those who are alone


3. Patience for those who move slowly


4. Relief for those who live in pain


5. Shelter for those who have no home


6. Warmth for those who are shivering


7. Understanding for those who are unable to explain


8. Renewal for those whose lives have become stagnant


9. Compassion for those who fail


10. Peace for the entire world

I also wish a good old-fashioned bare-bottomed spanking for everyone who deserves it, and two such spankings for everyone who desires it! :D

Happy holidays, my dear friends!

Kallisto: Wow, Bonnie, I think you covered it all. Our best wishes to everyone during this holiday season, and all through the new year!

Tigger: Merry Christmas!

G: Yeah! I gotta a freakin' wish!

I wish you, Bonnie, your family, and all your devoted readers a safe and joyous holiday season!

So THERE! Take that!

Reesa Roberts: My wish is for safe travels for all who are going home for Christmas – I have a lot of family traveling here this year!

Doc: I wish for all the small kindnesses we do for one another to be recognized.

...and to put out some propaganda, if you feel like reading a small piece on some holiday cheer, unrelated to spanking or sex, I have a post about that.

Merry Christmas, everyone, and remember to take some holiday cheer for yourselves while you run around in the hassle of it all.

Mistress Sky: Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you all. I think your list just about sums it up, Bonnie.

OPB: Thanks, Bonnie, for the blog. It helps to read your cheerful words.

Happy Christmas

The Spanked Wife: Thank you for the warm welcome, Bonnie. I have loved reading your blog. I hope you and anyone who reads this will have a very wonderful Christmas.

Elis: I agree with everything Jean Marie said and everything you said! Love to everyone this Christmas!


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Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Dec 17

Happy Holidays, everyone!

Thank you for your wonderful contributions regarding holiday fun past, present, and future. Here are your words:

Doc: While my lover and I have a lovely night planned for the weekend just before Christmas, it likely won't involve spanking.

A lovely seasonal fantasy to share, though, would either be Santa taking me over his lap for being on the naughty list, or mistletoe being twisted in a delightful manner.

Tis the season to be Jolly, and remember, red is the colour of the season!

Mary: As far as fantasies go, I like coming home from boarding school with a bad report maybe. Or I would love to find those pajamas with the flap for the seat. I think it would be quite fun to get a naughty girl, bedtime spanking with those pj's on.

Fitz: We're so frazzled by having to clean the house from top to bottom, do all the shopping, and still try to make it special for two little kids that right now, "romantic" entails nothing more exciting than cuddling up without mentioning the presents we've got left to buy...

I'm sure there'll be some sexy gifts in my brats' stocking this year, though, and I reckon a nice, juicy Christmas Day spanking might be just what the doctor ordered... if we're not both too full on turkey!

Jean Marie: First of all, Mary, a spanko named Bobbie Tawse has drop-seat flannel p.j.'s that are sexy and functional. Hope that you love your pair as much as I love mine!

Now, spontaneity will rule this holiday, so who knows what may transpire? But a favorite memory is the first Christmas my lover and I were together. I thought that we'd opened all the gifts, when he reminded me that the stockings still hung by the chimney with care. I'd forgotten to get Kyle a "stuffer" but in mine was a freshly cut switch. I felt guilty that he'd purchased so many more lavish gifts for me than I had for him, so doffed my bathrobe, bent over and received a very smarting impromptu session. Of course, it was followed by love-making. A perfect Christmas morning – lots of gifts, a stingingly real lesson on my bare butt, and passionate sex.

Paul: Christmas Eve was for us, Christmas Day, and Boxing Day were spent with in-laws. We opened presents at 6 PM by the Christmas tree. Mel wore a little red baby doll nightie and nothing else. Her bottom would already be red from frequent good girl's given during the day. Our gifts always included something kinky, such as a sexy article of clothing for Mel and a new strap or tawse for me. Mel would model the clothing and eagerly present her bum for the maiden run of the new toy. Slipping off what little she was wearing, she would bend over the arm of the sofa. She looked so appealing in the candle light and the flickering light of the fire.

After the trial run and Mel's little dance, I'd blow out the candles, put the fireguard in front of the fire, and we'd retire to the bedroom where the festivities would continue.

Todd and Suzy: We have no plans to go anywhere. We'll share the upcoming holiday at home with family and friends. We had our anniversary and a birthday that just recently passed. Those both were a lot of fun. We took romantic getaways, including some private spanking fun. Suzy's birthday spanking, about which she wrote a blog post, was the most memorable. We had a very cool hot-tub suite in Vegas, a new paddle to play with, and a great reason to bust it in.

Tigger: We do! I found the sexiest Santa-girl outfit from Victoria's Secret that I wear for my hubby! It's hot pink, and consists of a bra and matching panties, a white faux-fur trimmed mini-skirt, and the cutest matching Santa hat! My hubby loves it! And the best part is that I get the yummiest spanking!

Anon: Our kids are still fairly young, so my husband and I are used to be awoken early. We take turns opening gifts, then I cook a big breakfast (all the while I'm as horny and eager as a randy teenager). Then, while my oldest watches her younger brother, and they both play with new toys, hubby and I sneak off to our bedroom. I'm given my last gift in private. I always ask for some new implement, a really nice one. We have lots of multi-use things, like wooden spoons and spatulas, but this is a special toy. Over the years, I've gotten a Lexan paddle, several other big paddles and quality hairbrushes, and a host of leather straps. I get the present, then I get a brief test with the present, followed by a quickie. Mommy usually can't sit comfortably for Christmas dinner, but she's always very full of Xmas cheer!

Reesa Roberts: D wants me to always wear skirts/dresses around the house with no underwear. So I told him it's getting too cold, and he said he was buying me some long flannel nightgowns for Christmas. Since we're both off for a week, I'm expecting good times!

Bonnie: We plan to spend our Christmas holiday here at home. Our daughter and our granddaughter are coming to visit! We hope to make little Emily’s first Christmas something special for everyone.

Our private holiday celebration will occur a few days longer. Randy reserved a chalet in a very scenic area. We’ll be there for several days between Christmas and New Year’s. I know he will have some fun surprises in store for me, and I might even have a trick or two of my own. :D

Thanks to all our dedicated contributors. I wish you all a wonderful holiday filled with joyful spanking fun!

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