The Difference

Here's a new take on the difference between men and women.


Randy found this cartoon here. It definitely fits his view of the world!

For those who like numbers, this is my 900th post!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 25

Happy Memorial Day to everyone in the US. Our topic for this week was day-after discomfort. Here are your thoughts and experiences.

Tempest: It takes a lot for me to get sore, usually more than one spanking in a day to feel anything residual the next day. But when I do, I Love it. It makes me want to jump my husband’s bones all day long. LOL

Jessica: I usually feel somewhat sore after. I need a pretty harsh spanking to have much of an effect the next day, but I usually feel a little twinge for several days. I love it too. I would love to feel as though I need a pillow, but I don't know what it would take. My husband doesn't hold much back!

Apple: As my bottom really doesn’t mark easily, there were just a few situations like this. :)

I remember a very hard spanking my husband gave me once. It left a bruise as big an egg on my butt. It still hurt at least two days later!

I wasn't very amused about it, but my dear husband smiled every time he saw my bare ass. We could see the different colors my backside went through as it healed.

But in general, both of us love to check my bottom the day after a spanking. For us, it a part of it and if there are any marks, my husband is proud of his good work ;))

If you would like to see some of my marks, check here.

PS: Maybe you could link my new blog, please? :)

Apple, welcome to our community! I’m pleased to add your link.

Paul: Mel certainly enjoyed sitting sensitive the following day. But as the years passed, this became harder to do as her cheeks toughened. If she was feeling particularly needy, she would ask for a top-up in the morning, by bratting, such as sticking her tongue out or whatever.

If she knew she had a hard day ahead, she would ask for a hard spanking in the morning. This made her feel loved, cared for, and self confident. So she handled her day much better. Rarely, a stress buster was needed in the evening.

Tina: I often get very bruised by a beating, but I hardly ever feel anything after a few hours or even a day. When a bruising is swollen, I can feel it, but it is not pain, just the swelling I can sense. Often, I go home from my boyfriend’s on my bike and I am sad not to be in pain, even when sitting on the saddle. I would love to have the nice, soft pain that one has right after the beating for a longer time because the pain when the cane actually hits me always seems too harsh. Sometimes, my boyfriend does very mean things (like beating the anus) and the pain last for several days. I love those days and am constantly aroused. But I must admit, I am rarely in the mood to bear the agony of going through such an unbearable spanking just in order to make the pain last for more than a few hours.

Lori: Today is the day after a hard spanking and yes, I am feeling it. Most of the time, I do not, but the wooden paddle used last night was harsh. I will never feel anything the day after when leather was used, but wood and the bathbrush usually give me an extra day of sensitivity. I do like to feel spanked the day after. It's a treat nowadays.

Anon #1: I love the feeling the day after. As a college student, it helps me to concentrate and reminds me to focus on my work. I get better grades with the knowledge that my bottom will pay if I do not work hard. My grades, 2 A's and 2 B's, are proof that it works.

Alice: I crave the bruises and the sensitivity that accompany a hard spanking. He enjoys seeing the remnants of His efforts as well. When that does not occur, or the marks fade quickly, I am a bit disappointed and left wanting another spanking as soon as possible. Since there is some distance between us and our time together is limited, He tries to leave me with this reminder of the time we share.

RPT: It's got to hurt the next day. That's the best part.

Mthc: I'm sitting on a bruised, swollen, black, blue, and purple butt now! That's the way I prefer it. I think it makes both David and I very proud. The fact that it leads TO MUCH BIGGER THINGS just makes it BETTER!

I'm sure the Memorial Day cook out we're attending later will be a bit painful, but I'll have a smile on my face!

Hermione: My bottom usually stings the day after a spanking. It's a comforting reminder that I am loved, especially on days that are challenging. I can enhance the soreness by wearing scratchy lace panties, or a thong that gives me no protection from denim jeans or coarse wool pants. Sometimes, I absently rub one of my cheeks to ease the residual burn.

At the end of the day, I always tell Ron how sore my bum still is because of the good spanking he gave me. It makes him smile.

Sometimes, I feel phantom pain days after a spanking. This is when I know another one is due. But maybe that's a topic for another brunch!

Luna: In the beginning, I would mark and be sore afterwards and I loved it. I would intentionally poke and prod the sore areas to feel them again, and for but a moment, take me back to the delicious torment.

Now, though, it takes a lot to get anything more than sore a few hours afterwards. The next day, I'm back as pale white as I ever was and just as normal. A spanking the second day would probably have to be shorter in duration because the endurance would be lower, but other than that, I doubt it would make me sore either.

Sore is good. Very good.

Olivia X: Feeling sore the next day is absolutely something that I relish. The morning after being spanked, the first thing I like to do is look in the mirror and see that I have marks. Running my finger over these and feeling how tender my bottom still is makes me blush reliving the embarrassment of it, and also makes me feel very loved and strong for the day ahead.

As I go about my day, if I feel the soreness as I sit down, and especially if I am with other people, trying not to wince or show any signs of discomfort, that is also a part of what I love about being disciplined. It’s a very lovely feeling knowing that I am sitting there with a sore and marked and very well taken care of bottom in a business meeting, or having some wine with friends, and imagining that it would never occur to them that the day before I had been across my Disciplinarian’s knee with my knickers lowered. The soreness helps to take me to those feelings!

I also like my Disciplinarian asking me "How is your bottom today?" on the telephone, when I may be sitting with friends, and him keenly wanting me to describe how it looks and how it feels and my having to try and divert the conversation through utter embarrassment! I’m pink cheeked knowing that he will be thoroughly enjoying knowing how much it will be making me squirm!

So, yes, yes, yes, please to a sore bottom every day!

Anon #2: I love the feeling of my bottom the next day. It serves as a reminder that I am loved and to focus. When, as I sit, I have a twinge or a burning sensation, that’s a very wonderful feeling. My man loves to ask me to send him pictures of my marked bottom as we are in a long distance relationship. The sting also, as he says, serves as a reminder to not do what got me the spanking in the first place.

I agree with the rest. Yes, oh yes, please let my bottom feel it for a few days!

Anon #3: It makes a boring Monday meeting so much easier to sit through when you secretly have trouble sitting!

Ms. Betty: I spank several different men on a regular basis, so I get to see a nice cross section of reactions.

I always aim for them to still be sore the next day, or the next few days, rather. Since most don't see me that often I think that lasting soreness helps the experience last.

I've found that while they all tend to feel good about soreness the next day those feelings tend to be influenced a bit by the reason for the spanking. For the ones who were spanked for a real disciplinary reason, the soreness brings up a reminder of his misbehavior and what it earned him. Among those spanked for fun, it's usually just a nice reminder of what happened.

Oddly enough, the reason for the spanking does not tend to influence whether or not they try to avoid sitting. Big tough guys that they are, they tend not to want to admit that their sore bottom is bothering them that much. You can usually tell, though. I have one that will go so far to avoid sitting after a spanking that he'll stand there trying to balance on one foot to put his shoes back on rather than sit down, even on a well padded chair. LOL

Susan: Usually not, unless I have had a very sound and prolonged spanking. However, there are two exceptions. A long hard spanking with a big wooden paddle, like your MOAP, makes sitting very uncomfortable next day. My bottom feels oversize, tender and glowing, and it makes me feel vey sexy. Luckily, David is only too pleased to help with this problem.

A good caning produces even more difficulty with sitting, especially if he has concentrated low down on my underhang. This, as someone has already said, makes for an interesting time at a next-day meeting, as I try not to fidget too much on my sore bottom. But the real thrill is taking any opportunity to inspect my stripes in a mirror. David likes this too, and that soon gets him going. I like going through the day with my striped cheeks bouncing beneath my skirt. I only wish I could show them around more! Sadly they only last a few days.

Maryann: I got my very first real, hard spanking yesterday. The afterburn and tenderness today is fabulous! My sweetheart is a really big, strong man who can very easily overpower me. I love that! So, he started slow and easy. Then, throughout the day, he tested every implement he could think of, including twisting up the damp dish towel and snapping it on me. Even through jeans, that left definite bruises! Ouch!

The day ended with me bare bottomed over his lap with a firm hand spanking. He says I only got about half of his force, but he stopped because my behind looked like hamburger. Today, I have bruises of every size, shape, and description all over my bottom and thighs. Who knows which thing caused which bruise? But above it all is a very clear hand print, complete with each distinct finger!

Mmmm-mmm-good!

I love the pain the next day and hope it lasts several days. I love this man!

Greenwoman: I like a sensitive bottom following. I dislike seeing heavy bruising on me and every Dom in my life has disliked seeing my skin disfigured that way too. They want to see pretty skin, only reddened after the spanking. I have learned that a spanking done skillfully can be incredibly painful but never leave a visible mark once the initial reddened moments are behind me, so to speak. *smiles*

Jo: Although our spankings have gotten heavier over the past while, even the burn doesn't seem to last past snuggling into his front as we go to sleep. I had hopes the other night as he tried two different paddles, one small plastic paddle and another large wood one, and it did hurt and my 'fundament' did seem a lot more sensitive for quite a while but still no discomfort the next day. I think I would like it, but maybe I should be careful about what I wish for.

River: I adore some soreness the day after a good spanking, but there have only been a handful of occasions where I was sore the next day. And really the only way I could tell was when my husband smacked my bottom the day after and it hurt more than usual, or the hot shower water stung a lot. Here's hoping tonight's spanking leaves a lasting impression!

PM Duo: In the beginning, I would definitely be sore the next day. Unfortunately, it didn't take long for my bottom to toughen up. I loved the sensation of sitting on a sore bottom the next day!

I think if he'd been willing to spank harder, I would have continued feeling it, but while I enjoyed the bruises, he didn't. Oh well.

Jean Marie: Oh, yes, I LOVE the feeling in my behind that triggers flutterings in my soul the day after a good spanking. The choice of the word "relish" is very apt. I relish the reminder that I got spanked soundly.

I used to bruise more than I do now. I bruise most when the heavy wooden paddle is used on me.

Tangential musing: Years ago, I lived next door to a professional submissive who worked in a place called the Chateau in Los Angeles. When we discovered that we had the fetish in common, we'd share coffee and talk away the day (I was a waitress who worked nights, trying to be an actress). She complained that she was getting calloused on the spank spots of each cheek, right where the bones reside deep beneath the flesh (though she, like me, was very well-upholstered back there). She cautioned me to moisturize the skin of my bottom often to prevent this occupational hazard. So, no matter how sublime the session, I always got up to rub lotion into my bum after the lovemaking that resulted from spanking foreplay. But my current cruel top of a lover noticed this and makes me lotion my backside before the spanking, too. It makes it sting so much worse. I think this contributes to the black, blue, green, and purple bruises the next day.

Michelle: I bruise so easily that just about any contact leaves a mark. So, any time my husband uses anything other than his hand, I'm sporting decorations, of which I'm quite fond. The marks and the little twinges which last for a day or so (sometimes longer) remind me of the fun we had together.

Anon #4: I too like the reminder the next day, but it is rare for me.

BUT, we have a new implement, a delrin rod, that seems to deliver a deep, lasting soreness! The first time it was used, it was a pretty short, light session (a trial, so to speak). Although it didn't sting all that much during, it left a soreness well into the next day. The next time (which was the only other time I've had it so far) was for a real discipline, my husband used it in combination with other implements and I could not believe how sore I was! It left only a slight bit of bruising, but I could feel it for the next 4-5 days! We have concluded that this implement needs to be used with care and caution, but it does seem to give a lasting impression.

GF: Thank you for addressing this, Bonnie. I am eagerly awaiting the chance to use your advice. Daisy and I don’t see each other often, as she is in England. I really do believe the next day ouchie would be a great help. Thank you

Daisy: OH, dear! My bf is planning on delivering such a spanking at the next opportunity, and though I will enjoy that tender feeling the next day, I'm not so sure I will enjoy what puts it there!

Especially since the Vermont Country Store bathbrush has been recommended to him for the job at hand. After all, I don’t bruise easily, so quite some force would be needed... Eeeek... LOL

GF: Daisy, you naughty girl. You are to be asleep by now. Sorry Bonnie, obviously more discipline is needed here. LOL

Michelle: I bruise easily, and I LOVE when it stings the day after. I'm sitting here wishing for a spanking just thinking about it!

Bonnie: As some of the others said, after years of spanking fun, my bottom is conditioned to the point where I don't mark very much. However, I do still occasionally enjoy some residual ouch, even when there are no visible signs. I relish these sensations because they vividly bring back to mind all of the amazing events that created them.

For a next day ache, Randy prefers hard, flat wooden objects like hairbrushes (solid backed, not the kind with the rubber dome) or bath brushes. They hurt quite a lot when applied and reliably deliver the much coveted day-after reminder.

Thanks to everyone who dropped by our brunch and added an opinion. I hope you'll all visit again next week.

MBS Spanko Brunch #123

Welcome back, one and all, to our weekly spanko brunch. I'm glad you chose to join us.

Our topic this week was inspired by a question I found in the mailbag.

Do you or your partner ever experience discomfort when sitting the day after a spanking? If so, how does the spankee feel about residual soreness? Is it a sensation to be relished, one to be avoided, or simply a part of getting spanked? If you or your partner have not experienced this next day twinge, would you like to do so? Why or why not?

If you would like to add your voice to our discussion, I invite you to type a comment below and let us know about your experiences. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will post an edited summary of the proceedings.

Video: Jack and Diane

Here's a music video from the early days of MTV. It features a song by John Mellencamp (although back then he went by the name John Cougar). If you're not familiar with this artist, my husband once described him as who Bruce Springsteen might have been had he been raised in rural Indiana.

More to the point, look for a brief three swat spanking beginning around 2:12. It's not particularly effective, but one is left with the impression that Diane is neither unfamiliar nor totally opposed to this sort of play. Also, the clapping throughout brings to a spanko's mind another sort of impact.


Lest there be any doubt about John Mellencamp's proclivities, he had a second song around the same time entitled "Hurts So Good." The corresponding video had a biker theme and featured young women with black leotards, stockings, and riding crops. But it was the fun little spanking in Jack and Diane that always captured my imagination.

Bonnie's Mailbag

I can't believe it's been almost two months since I last shared highlights from my mailbag. It's stuffed so full at the moment that I can barely lift it. I guess we had better make room for more messages.

Comment: Not to sound fresh or trying to be funny but I think you have a nice bottom. I'm not one for these nice slimmer models. Boy do I get disappointed when they have these exercise ads to slim down lady butts.

Response: Nope, not one of the slimmer models. That wouldn't be me...

Question: I've noticed that many spankos seem to increase intensity and frequency as time goes by. Then at some point the interest seems to wane and the person disappears from blogland or their spankings seem to be few and far between. You and Randy seem to have a consistent spanking relationship without having to be elaborate every time and without getting out of control to the point of obsession or injury. I wondered what your secret is after so many years.

Response: I wouldn't necessarily equate a blog disappearance with giving up spanking. I know several bloggers who moved on to other pursuits, but a lack of interest in spanking wasn't the reason for any of them. For most of us, if we're spankos, then we are spankos with or without a blog.

Naturally, there are life issues that can, and eventually do, interrupt the fun. When this happens, distractions mount and interest can certainly wane. But this condition impacts any hobby or interest.

As for increasing intensity, I believe most couples eventually find a level where spankings are effective for the intended purpose. The intensity may vary from one session to the next, but with experience, a spanker will learn where the boundaries lie.

Randy and I don't have a secret beyond talking every day, trusting one another, being open to new ideas and experiences, and lots of physical contact.

Question: I'm the owner of a Butt Plug blog. I want to propose you to exchange links with your blog for visitors interchange.

Response: OK, let's picture a class reunion, "Hi, Pat, what have you been up to lately?" "Well, I'm the owner of a Butt Plug blog." "That's lovely. Say, which one of those casseroles did you bring?"

Question: I write spankings stories. Are you interested in purchasing same?

Response: Nope. Everything in this blog is free of charge.

Question: Since I asked my husband to spank me, we've had a lot of fun, but he still worries about hurting me too much, and he's still a little afraid that erotic spanking is "hitting."

Response: I think it's reasonable to expect that it will take some time for your husband to become comfortable with this style of play. Please remember that while you've been thinking about spanking for years, it's all quite new for him.

I think as you have more positive experiences together, it will become clear that he's not harming you and you enjoy his attention. I wouldn't rush him into adding toys or increasing the intensity until he's ready. You have time to try a hundred variations, but I suggest you take one step at a time.

If the "hitting" dimension seems to bother him, then you could explore in other areas by adding new positions, a blindfold, a vibrator, or some light bondage. This way, you don't have to feel as though you've stopped moving forward and he can gain confidence as a spanker.

Question: My hubby always spanks me (Using belt, paddle or cane) on weekends in front his brother and sister in law. Is it common?

Response: In my experience, that's not common. Most spanking couples I know do it in the privacy of the bedroom (or sometimes with a group assembled for that purpose).

However, I recognize that you are from a different culture and my observations may not be relevant in your country. Are there any local spanking clubs or online forums available to you? The people there might be able to better answer your question.

Question: How do you feel about those who "borrow" your blog entries without permission?

Response: I generally don't mind if people reprint my content so long as (a) it has proper attribution, (b) it's not materially altered, and (c) it's not used for any purpose other than to educate or entertain.

On the other hand, if they're looking to sell web site subscriptions, pick up partners under false pretense, or attract clicks for their advertisers, I definitely object.

Question: I realize I do not know you. I'm looking to find a spanking group in _____. This is a serious interest desire.

Response: I searched Google and found a couple of groups in your area. I hope you find what you seek.

Question: I really don't want to give a wrong impression but I was quite aroused by your writings and the picture of your butt. I am married but my wife don't like to be spanked. I really hope we can chat. I have an elaborate sex fantasy that spanking is a major part of the foreplay. I love women's butts and anal sex. I hope somehow, someway we can chat. I like your blogpage by the way. Thank you for your time and I truly hope we can chat soon. Discreetly if possible.

Response: "Hello" often works well too.

Question (same guy, next day): I wanted to say how much I enjoy your write ups. I hope I can share some thoughts on spankings and related thoughts. I e-mailed you last night, I was not sure if you got it. I hope you are interested but I do not want to waste our times. Is the butt picture yours by the way? If so, it is beautiful. And yes, I wondered how it looks bare. My wife is not a big spanking fan and it frustrates me.

Response: Perhaps your wife would appreciate a more subtle approach.

Comment (same guy, two weeks later): After filling your bowel with a large bottle full of water/soap and then inserting [snip]

Response: I don't think so.

Comment (different guy, same story): You have a very nice appealing derriere young lady. The first thing that came to mind when I saw the picture, was “hand me the hairbrush please!!” in my opinion there is no doubt your seating was designed with spanking in mind. I have been a Top for many years and would love to have the pleasure of soundly applauding your exposed hindquarters.

Response: Why, we haven't been properly introduced.

Comment (last guy, the sequel): That is a fantastic bottom young lady, one that should be smarting regularly from brisk applications of palm, paddles and hairbrushes. Would love to have the pleasure. That derriere of yours was designed with spanking in mind.

Response: I recognize that at some level these fellows are trying to be nice. They're just not very good at it.

Here's some advice to every guy who wants to seduce a female spanko. Just because someone likes spanking doesn't mean she stops being a woman. Talk to her, and not just about scenes. In fact, forget those wild imaginary sadomasochistic dungeon scenes altogether. In the real world, you have to start from zero. Get to know her and allow her to get to know you. Help the woman to feel comfortable around you. When the time for spanking does arrive, move slowly but deliberately. Don't think "shock and awe." Try for relaxed contentment instead.

There will be plenty of time for unusual fantasies later. If you pitch them right, she might even want to join in. But, whatever you do, don't creep her out and scare her away right from the beginning.

Finally, lest we forget, your chance of success will be greatly improved if you focus on women who are not already in a committed relationship.

Question: I have just written my first story but am not sure if it good enough to go on your site, or if you allow anyone to put stories on. ~If so, how? Can you help?

Response: I do feature guest posts on MBS occasionally. Write me and let's talk about what you have in mind.

Comment: I'm a student and I love your stories. Randy does to you basically everything I've dreamed of having since I can remember. Anyway, reading your blog made me want what you have so badly, and it made me not feel so strange in wanting it. In fact, today I told my boyfriend my entire fantasy in detail and we began tonight and it was great. It was my first real spanking ever. And Jeez I could hardly handle his hand, but I loved every minute of it -- I suppose I work up to other things but it was a great first experience and my bottom is tingling terrifically as I write this.

Response: That sounds like a wonderful beginning. I wish you many more enjoyable spanking adventures!

Comment: I'm a male in college and i want to thank you for your blog. I never realized that there are real girls who actually like being spanked.

Response: Yes, we're real all right. In the right circumstances, there's nothing more enjoyable than a good spanking and romance shared with one's lover.

Comment: i like yr bottom badly

Response: My mother always said that anything worth doing is worth doing well.

Question: My english is'nt very good, but I like your blog. Go on! I am a french journaliste. I am a little sad because my wife dont like to be spanker. Perhaps in the future... What can you say for me?

Response: In convincing your wife to spank, it's important to make the experience enjoyable for her as well. Do what she likes. Make her feel special. Show her the depth and breadth of your love. Don't push spanking on her, but allow her to accept it on her own terms. This approach is your best opportunity for success.

Question: Do you still get spanked? I don't read about it in your blog anymore.

Response: Yes, spankings generally happen at least once per week. If I fail to document them here on the blog, it only means that I get busy or preoccupied or tired or just plain don't feel like writing. I love MBS readers, but I cannot blog to the exclusion of all else.

Question: Me and my husband are going away to a B&B this weekend for couple time (we do this once a year), and i was wondering if you could offer some suggestions as what my husband can use for spanking implements that won't be really loud?

Response: We had a great brunch on this topic a couple of years ago.

B&B's are a real challenge for us spankos, because there just isn't much privacy. I recall Randy and I had this problem once. We ended up driving to a deserted stretch of beach and taking care of business there.

A cane is very quiet, though the person on the receiving end may not be. A small wooden spoon shouldn't make too much noise either. A bungee cord is nearly silent, but it can leave nasty welts. A leather belt makes some noise, but it's quieter than a paddle.

Another trick is to leave on some clothing. It muffles the impact (and gives the spanker an excuse for a longer session).

You can try going in the bathroom and running the shower. That tends to mute the higher pitched sounds made by light toys. Operating the TV a bit too loud is another traditional form of aural camouflage.

Question: I have read several times about a spanking that makes sitting the next day a challenge. I have tried for that a few times as my partner would enjoy and learn from that. I have tried, I am not small and have gotten over worries about being abusive. It just seems that short of a baseball (lol) bat nothing leaves much of an impression. I really am not trying to be mean but discipline needs to have a lasting effect.

Response: Skip the bat. You won't need it.

If you both desire that she feel residual soreness on the day after a spanking, I believe that state can be achieved. Step one: Apply this brush vigorously to her bare bottom. Step two: Wait one day. Caution: Welts on skin may be sorer than they appear.

I will be very surprised if this technique does not generate the outcome you describe. With that said, I believe it's appropriate and necessary that you safeguard her physical and emotional well being during a severe spanking. It's fun to carry around a bit of "ouch" the next day, but no one wants to cause or incur a serious injury. Please check on her condition a few times during the spanking and allow her to use her safeword if she needs it.

Question: Do you wear panties up your ass?

Response: I do wear a thong sometimes and it's designed to fit between my cheeks.

Question: My husband and I are new to the DD lifestyle as well as to spanking. We are finding it very much to our liking, but are feeling a little foolish about it because of our age. He’s 55, I’m 50. Just curious – is this unusual?

Response: You might be surprised to learn that spanking enthusiasts come in all ages. Empty nesters, like us, are definitely not too old. In fact, we now have the opportunity to enjoy life as never before. For many of us, that includes a good spanking once in a while.

You and your husband are not unusual at all. There's certainly no cause to feel foolish. For Randy and me, spanking is an extension of our lovemaking. It's all a celebration of our wonderful life together.

There are many couples who start spanking after many years together. It often energizes their romance like a lightning bolt. I have heard this story again and again (and still I never tire of good news!). You tread a well worn path.

Comment: You have a very nice picture...nice and tight jeans...enough to make anyone want to give you at least a hand spanking...no wonder your husband can;t stop himself...lol

Response: You say LOL, so I hope you're joking. Tempting as it may be, you really can't just walk up and smack a woman on the bottom. Believe me, it's much better to get to know her and obtain her consent first.

I guess that's enough for this month. Thanks to everyone who wrote!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 18

Thank you to everyone who joined our brunch discussion this week. Our topic was summer spanking fun. Here are your thoughts.

Terpsichore: I don't have any summer spanking memories yet... But I am looking forward to a nice summer. This summer we are taking our first family vacation away. This will be fun. We will be staying in a two bedroom condo, so there is potential for some alone time with my husband. But, most likely, we will all be snuggled together in one bed and won't have the opportunity for intimacy and spankings... Perhaps in a few years. :-)

G: This is a timely topic for D and me. We're about to take a week to drive down the Left Coast along the ocean. We have no deadlines, no preplanned stops, nor anyone expecting us anywhere. It’s just she, me, and the open road (and an implement or two?)

Now, will there be spanking involved? Absolutely! The question isn't a matter of whether. It's a matter of where!

I hear there are some pretty isolated beaches along the Oregon coast. Hmm....

G, I can assure you there are. We like the waterfall on the beach at Hug Point, south of Cannon Beach. The sea caves near Bandon are fun as well (great resonance). There are fewer people later in the day, but check your charts for low tide.

Lori: Well, as now I sit in a hotel room on the last day of my vacation, I had full plans of getting a spanking. But my son decided that he doesn't want to get together with friends tonight. He would rather sit here with me and Joe. *Sigh* I haven't been spanked in well over a week and I'm going crazy just thinking about it. I love my son but I WISH HE WOULD GO OUT FOR A FEW HOURS!

Jessica: There will probably be no real vacations for us this year. We are struggling a bit on the money front. If we were to travel, we would bring our kids. That means no privacy for spanking. So, maybe there is a positive in not having a vacation. We don't have to give up spankings!

Mary: Any trip with my honey is definitely spanking time. Nothing is planned right now, but here is hoping!

Dr. Ken: Every July, the group Chicago Crimson Moon hosts a 3-day spanking party. I fully expect to be there (and if anyone else plans to attend, feel free to look for me and say, "Hi").

I usually take 11 days off from work, go and enjoy the 3-day party, and then return home to Minnesota to relax and enjoy the rest of the time. It's one of the few chances I have to actually go to a movie theater and see the summer blockbusters.

Thomas: Typically, any trip that I make is either planned around spanking, or at least has a spanking or two planned. Even if I travel out of town for a convention, I like to meet up with friends in the area for some spanking fun or even a party.

I only have one spanking memory that really qualifies as a "summer" memory. A couple of years back, just before Leelee moved back to Atlanta, I went down to visit her in Ft. Lauderdale. I knew that I wouldn't get to see her as much when she was back in Georgia, so we planned a little time together before she left.

Part of that time included a trip to the beach. However, it wasn't just ANY beach. Leelee is also an exhibitionist, so this was a nude beach. It took some convincing on her part, but she managed to talk me out of my clothes for it.

While I'm not a showoff with my body, I'm quite an exhibitionist when it comes to spanking. So, when the offer to put her over my lap for a very public bottom warming was made, I didn't hesitate. This was near the time that we were going to leave, so it was sort of a last minute decision before we packed up and went to the car.

It was a fast spanking, and we were soon lugging our gear back to the car. Just as we were about to move through the bushes that separated the beach from civilization, though, we noticed two beach patrolmen on ATVs pull up to the area that we were at and start asking questions to everyone.

While we didn't stick around to see, we think that someone reported our spanking play. If we had stayed just a few minutes longer, we may have had to explain to the nice officers exactly what we were doing. ;)

Hermione: In summer, unless it's very hot and the air conditioning is on, we leave the windows open. I remember one pleasant summer day when we had gone upstairs to the bedroom for some “afternoon delight.” The blinds were open and a soft breeze blew in through the window that looks out onto the back yard. I got a very hard and noisy hand spanking and expressed my appreciation with a few loud “Ow’s.” The lovemaking that followed was also quite enthusiastic.

Afterward, I went out onto the back patio. Our neighbour on one side was working in her garden and her granddaughter was helping. On the other side, two boys were playing on their swing set while their father painted the back door. They all must have heard everything!

I told Ron who just shrugged and said that was a good way to keep the neighbours from becoming too friendly.

Spanked Italian Gal: The first of my summer stories will happen today. J and I are heading out on our motorcycle in search of a secluded spot. I will bring a picnic lunch and blanket. J will bring the implements.

With your permission, I would like to add you to my blogroll.

Hi I.Gal! Welcome to MBS and our Sunday Brunch. It’s a pleasure to meet you. I would love to join your blogroll. Your blog is now included in mine. Best wishes with the blog and the picnic!

Greenwoman: We have no big vacation plans, but I fully expect that like every summer, there will be some time and opportunities for mini-getaways to the coast or the woods and that, in either case, there will be some spanking and some other D/s play that's erotic and fun.

Paul: I have no break planned for this year, and if I had, there’s no one to spank.

However, I have lots of holiday memories to share. Mel and I used to like to take short hacking breaks of two or three days. For those not familiar with this term, it means horse riding. One of our favourite areas was the New Forest.

One of the rules is that on a long stop, you need to make sure that your mount is comfortable before going off to do your thing. It was a very hot day, we were both uncomfortable with the heat.
Mel would have been twenty-two. Our first destination was a cool secluded pool. Seeing the pool, Mel cheered, dismounted, dropped the reins, stripped off, and was in the water before I could say “Jack Robinson.”

I settled my mount, cut half a dozen switches and called Mel out of the pool. Mel saw the bundle, looked at her mount, and her hand went to her mouth and her eyes widened. I told her to settle her mount and remove the saddle. She placed it on a convenient log.

I put her over my knee for a warm up. After the warm up, she was a little teary but still smiling. She lost the smile when I told her to bend over the saddle. She counted out twelve firm strokes. She never forgot to care for her mount again. Just as I never forgot to care for her. We didn't get much further that day and Mel smiled all the way home, even though every pace the horse took reminded her of her spanking.

Indiana: On summer trips with my family, we used to stop in those kitschy roadside shops where my dad would buy a milkshake with real ice cream, we kids would get ice cream, and my mom would buy a Tab. These places always had a selection of paddles with rather cheesy slogans on them, like "Teenage tongue depressor, apply at either end." I used to wonder if anyone actually bought those things and I'd imagine myself on a similar road trip with a parent who kept one in the car.

Of course, thanks to blogs like this, I know who *actually* buys these things. Or perhaps I should say bought, as I imagine they're harder to find these days.

I actually do have summer spanking plans for the first time. I'm planning to attend at least two spanking parties, perhaps three. :-)

Susan: Summer means swimming, and that means swim suits or bikinis, and one of David's favourite games is spanking me while I am all wet from the pool. It stings far, far more, and if he decides to use my flip-flops, that's even worse. The result is one very sore bottomed young lady feeling very sorry for herself.

No matter how you tug, those swimsuits never seem to quite cover enough in back, especially right after a spanking!

Jo Lee: Most of our summer vacation plans involve our delightful young teenagers so I have only one such hope. That would be an overnight trip involving only the two of us, on our sailboat, in a deserted river anchorage with rope, the mast, possibly natural implements gathered on shore plus whatever other toys the Captain decides to bring.

And a mosquito net, a tube of anti-itch cream, sunscreen and lots of lotion. Although, I will most likely be able to lay on the deck on my stomach on the way home when the lack of galley and deck-hand duties permits, I hope.

Bonnie: Randy and I will be enjoying a long awaited getaway in a few weeks. We will spend some time at the beach and in the mountains. There should be plenty of opportunities for bottom warming and all that accompanies this delightful pastime. Since we will be traveling by air, we will probably have to rely exclusively upon pervertable implements, but we have some excellent ones.

As for a memory, mine doesn’t involve spanking per se, although I’m quite certain there was some that day. I recall one particular hike in the woods with Randy. We were young. This was before our daughter came along. We stopped at the top of a hill to take a break. There were huge oak and maple trees all around us. We had seen no one else on the trail and there were no other vehicles at the trailhead. We figured it would be safe to sneak in a little fun. I was soon kneeling on the forest floor and paying tribute to my dear husband. The next thing I knew, he was tapping me on the shoulder and whispering for me to stop.

I couldn’t see them, but an older couple had come up the path we had just taken. Randy told me they took one look at us and abruptly reversed course. He said he thought all they could see was the back of my head. I felt embarrassed by this encounter, but we continued our hike nonetheless. All the while we worried that we might encounter a disapproving ranger, but we never saw another soul. By the time we returned to the trailhead, our vehicle was again the only one there.

I hope you will all join us next week when we will again explore this thing we do.

MBS Spanko Brunch #122

We are rapidly approaching the traditional vacation season here in the northern hemisphere. This time brings to mind fond remembrances of picnics and outdoor parties, lemonade, hayrides, BBQ, and flipped skirts. It is from these recollections and memories yet to come that we draw this week's question.

Have you any vacation plans for this summer that include spankings? If not, would you like to share a favorite summer spanking memory?

If you want to join our sunny summer spanko session, all you need to do is leave a comment below. Once everyone has had their say, I'll post an edited summary of the discussion.

Another Day in the Office

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 11

Our question of the week considered whether regular spankings satisfy spanking urges or simply intensify them.

Curtis: For me (and perhaps for many), spanking is at the core of my sexuality. And unless something goes wrong with my sexual functioning, spankings both satisfy a natural craving and increase the desire for more. In my case, it’s true whether I am giving or getting. That does not mean I want more severity or intensity, just always more frequency.

Sara: IMO, if they do not satisfy the craving, someone is doing something wrong!

G: As one who gives, I'd have to say that giving a good spanking regularly satisfies the craving at the time, but it's temporary.

It's like the clean feeling you get when you take a shower. It feels good, but sooner or later, you're going to want another.

I don't think it heightens it. It just temporarily relieves the itch.

Have I mixed enough metaphors? :-)

HBS Sports: Do you need a good spanking?

No, I already got a nice one in honor of Mother’s Day. Let’s get back to our topic.

Thomas: While a spanking can satisfy the craving for a little bit, it is ultimately like any other addiction. Indulging will ultimately urge you forward to get the next hit. In my case, I might be giving spankings daily, but it will eventually not be enough for me, and I'll need something bigger to satisfy the need, like a spanking party or a more intense session. For a brief amount of time after such a heavy dose, I'll be sated (during which times my creative juices flow the most readily), but I'll eventually get back to a point where I need that dosage, again.

Anna: What was the question? Sorry, I'm a bit distracted by the picture of the key lime pie.

Sadly, I'm not getting any spankings right now, but when I am they do both, temporarily satiate, and then the fires are burning brighter than ever.

*adding "key lime pie" to my grocery list*

Lucy: Spankings initially satisfy my craving. But once the sting wears off, I'm ready for more. I think that if I were spanked harder and longer than I'm accustomed, it might take a while for the craving to return. I haven't been spanked in nine months and counting, so I'm definitely craving one.

Dr. Ken: Speaking for myself, this one is pretty basic. Going without is what heightens the desire, and being able to give in and indulge is what satisfies the craving. I wish I did have someone to spank on a regular basis...

Flamehand: As a spankee for several years, I would say that giving regular spankings does satisfy a craving, but also it heightens the craving for the next one. Maybe it’s because I have been lucky in my relationships with spankees. They have all been great company, good fun, and a very spankable backside

Daisy: Oh, yes, it does both. As I am being spanked, it definitely satisfies the craving. It even cures me of the craving and makes me wonder why the hell I wanted it!

But, an hour or so later, I am looking for ways to cause another... LOL

Jam: Happy Mother's Day to every mother who visits My Bottom Smarts. I always want more after I've been spanked. Today, I will be spanked as it's my birthday.

Happy birthday, Jam! That’s always a fine reason for a good spanking.

Your Sweetheart: Being spanked almost always satisfies a craving. Even experiencing the anticipation and going through the ritual of my discipline prior to being spanked is all a part of the craving.

Afterward, I feel very content, energized, settled, and loved, depending on the nature of the spanking (and glowing too, in various forms!)

This can sometimes lead to a melancholic longing for it to happen more often. So, in some ways, this could be deemed as heightening my desire for it. But rather than drawing attention to what I love so much but am not getting enough of, I like to / try to experience it as something that I am lucky to have found at all!

Paul: Bonnie, Happy Mother’s Day.

All the spankees that I have known always need more. I must admit that spanking my girl was something I never really tired of. After nearly fourteen years, I still crave the feel.

Jean Marie: You are asking us to analyze a cycle, similar to the question, "Which comes first, the chicken or the egg?"

The way I see it, it's analogous to hunger and appetite, which is marvelous because it's voiced at our weekly "brunch." Compared to the world population (where there are food riots occurring in various places), I'm very fortunate to get three square meals per day (as well as a sinful snack or two). I eat and satisfy the craving for awhile. If I over-indulge, I stretch my tummy and have the capacity and craving to eat that same, larger amount next time. I don't want to gain weight so I watch what I eat. I know that in a larger sense I am what I eat, so I try to keep it healthy overall.

I'm a lucky girl I guess, in that I get spanked quite frequently and most satisfyingly by my lover, with whom I've been for several years. When we first hooked up, there was that newness, that elation of finding someone who shared common interests, especially the joy of finding someone who shared our fetish. We over-indulged in both the spanking and the consequential sex. Now we've settled into a pattern that fits our busy lifestyle where I "get it" once or twice a week and usually big time on the weekend. We often let this brunch discussion inspire us for the weekend blow-out session. I got a brisk hand spanking last Thursday as we cuddled in front of the TV, followed by a quickie. It got me through a tough week of teaching school. Instead of crawling back into bed after I send this, I think I'll bend over the breakfast nook table with my nightie pulled up and panties pulled down, and the thick leather tawse beside my presented derriere. That tableau will be enough to inspire a strict session with the strop, especially when he discovers that I blogged about us.

Elle: I find that getting a good spanking should leave me squirming and aroused. But I’m always still in eager anticipation of the next one. I've had previous relationships, if you could even call them that, where I was getting far more or far less than I wanted or needed and believe me, there's a happy balance to be achieved!

For me, as a spanker, it's a "heat of the moment" thing. Whilst I enjoy making him cringe with the build-up, there is not the same level of "can't wait to do that again." As much as I love give it to him, it's not as much of a craving.

Maryann: I don't know whether they satisfy or intensify desire, but I can tell you that not having one is driving me nuts. About a month ago, my gorgeous hunk of man gave me several friendly swats that sang on my seat for an hour or so afterward and I found I wanted more! Lots more!

So, I began researching and found your site. Thanks, Bonnie! I'm going to have to wait another two weeks for my first real spanking because we won't have enough privacy until then. Meanwhile, he is busy making implements. I keep teasing him about it. Can we just start with your hand, please? He is into it, so I bet I'll be in for it! Meanwhile, not having one is definitely increasing my desire and my anxiety.

Thanks for such a helpful, friendly blog.

You’re very welcome, Maryann. Best of luck with your upcoming event!

Brennus: Happy Mothers Day to all the wonderful Mothers. May you get or give a grand spanking today!

Spanking, as Curtis said, is part and parcel of my sexual being. So until my sex drive grinds to a halt, I imagine that I will crave giving spankings. The craving may be satisfied, albeit temporarily, but all it takes is a cute spankable bottom to come into view or a bratty cue to set me off yet again.

Terpsichore: It’s fun to hear everyone's answers. I crave being spanked, right now in fact. But since we are progressing slowly, I was curious when I start receiving spankings whether I will just want more or if I will be satisfied or more likely both. :-) Happy Mother's Day to all the moms out here!

Sally: Happy Mother Day!

I have recently had a week of spankings and it was wonderful! I felt satisfied, happy, loved, and content. But when they stopped, I wanted more. In the last few months, I also got one of those “you'll not sit down for a week” spankings. This was also very satisfying until the bruising started to fade. By then, I was craving another, perhaps milder, spanking. So I would also have to say, yes, a spanking is satisfying, but it is something that needs to be refilled as needed!

Hermione: Being spanked eases the craving for a while, like scratching an itch. It doesn't increase it for me. Wanting a spanking has more to do with how I am feeling, emotionally and physically, than whether I have been given one recently.

But since I do receive regular spankings, I'd rather not stop getting them.

P.S. Happy Mother's Day

Indiana: Happy Mother's Day everyone!

My very limited experience suggests that a weekend of spanking play takes care of the craving for about a week (or a little less), and then it's back as strong as ever...

Michelle: After being spanked, it is so difficult for me to focus on anything else. I think regular spankings make it so difficult to function. And yet, I definitely can't function without them.

I guess they just preoccupy my mind all the time

He he he. It’s part of being a spanko.

However, I think that since I just started actually participating in spankings, the novelty hasn't worn off. Can it wear off?

I suppose it can, but it hasn’t for us yet. If there’s a secret, I believe it’s exploring your fantasies together.

Michael: Happy Mother's Day to all of you beautiful women who give so much of yourselves.

I actually think that regular spankings both heighten and satisfy the spanking itch. It seems the more I spank a woman, the more satisfied we both are. But it also increases our need and desire for further spanking adventures.

Lori: The answer to this question for me is that it depends. How regular? I've had times when I've been spanked so much that I actually welcomed a break. If regular means once a week, then that would heighten my craving.

Happy Mom's Day!

Greenwoman: A climactic experience usually sates me in the moment and when I recover myself, I want that again and again...*smiles*

I'm a greedy wench... or demanding in the opinion of some. *winks*

Jess: A spanking satisfies the craving and leaves me with a nice glow for awhile. The craving for more starts pretty soon after. It usually takes a day, sometimes less, if I am not very sore.

I have noticed that if we can't get privacy for a week or so, the craving starts to lessen a bit in intensity. And then it returns with a vengeance if we take too long or start up again.

I think the term is insatiable...

Robin: I'd have to say both. It doesn't take long after a spanking, even a really good one, for the craving to start again. It’s usually within a day or so.

Thanks for your work on this blog, Bonnie. I've been lurking for quite awhile. It has been comforting to hear about other people's experiences. My, unfortunately, former partner and I started spanking a number of years ago and at the time I wasn't aware of anything like this. Reading your blog helps me feel a lot less lonely!

Robin, you’re most welcome. It’s a genuine pleasure to be able to meet people who share our common interest.

David: It's not long after I have spanked Susan that I see her superb bottom undulating teasingly about the place, and I am counting the time until I can spank it again.

PK: I don't know if regular spankings make me want more or I just always want more! I do know that even when I am being spanked and think I can't possible take one more swat, I am craving more as soon as I realize that he is done.

Pest: Happy Mother's Day to you too, Bonnie!

I think that if I got regular spankings, it would heighten my craving as well as satisfy it to a certain degree. If it was at all possible, I would love to get daily spankings or more than one per day depending on how I feel! LOL!

D: My answer is... absolutely BOTH!

I am a greedy girl and it satisfies the itch for the moment. But then I just end up wanting more! Of course, I need to be punished for my greediness... Hmmm... I sense a wonderful vicious circle forming...

Now, with that said, I have never been in a situation where I have received spankings on a regular basis. But that is soon to change.

Starting next week, I will be living with G on an every day basis in a LDD relationship which will include erotic/fun spankings on a regular basis. So in that case, the answer to this question might be different. But I doubt it! :)

Mr Bill: It sounds like I fit in with the majority of responses in saying that I don't get enough spankings!

Greedy bunch, never satisfied, give me more, harder, and more than just every once in a while!

River: Happy Mother's Day to all!

I guess I don't see spanking as an addiction. It's just a part of who I am. So I love to be spanked, just like I love a good meal or satisfying sex. The only time I 'crave' a spanking is when I am faltering emotionally/mentally. Then my dear husband comes to my rescue with discipline. Other than that, I am kept sated with frequent robust slaps to the seat of my pants throughout the day. And when He's not around, I'm really too busy to think about it much! :)

Jo Lee: I think regular (weekly or so) spankings do both. They satisfy the craving for a spanking. Any spanking releases the endorphins and reinforces the intimate connection with your partner. But they also then start building the anticipation for the next regular spanking (regular implies you know it is coming and when to a certain extent) and possibly increasing the craving for the extraordinary events, such as a new locale, different position, new toy, etc. It’s just like having sex regularly makes one want more sex and possibly different sex (assuming it is "good"). The nice thing about spanking is that it is always good, in my book anyway!

Then one starts reading blogs and then more blogs and the next thing you know, de-lurking occurs and maybe eventually one might even start a blog. See all the "trouble" regular spankings can cause? So can regular spankings be said to ever satisfy the craving fully? Probably not! Heighten it, increase it? Oh, yes!

Bonnie: Have I ever mentioned that I love spankings? From that first subtle pat on my posterior to the last twinge upon sitting a day later, I adore everything. I want Randy to spank me because it’s the key that opens the door to a thousand treasures. Among these are lovemaking, satisfaction, relaxation, loss of stress, emotional intimacy, communication, caressing, sharing, kissing, skin-to-skin contact… (Where is that man?)

Do I crave spankings? Yes, I most certainly do. Do I crave them more when I have been spanked recently? I would say yes to this question as well. Am I satisfied? Again, yes, but only for a short while.

Thank you all for this wonderful turnout and for your excellent responses! I hope your Mother's Day Celebrations were a tremendous success.

MBS Spanko Brunch #121

Happy Mother's Day to all of our mothers! It's a difficult job sometimes, but it can also be a very satisfying one.

Our excellent question du jour was submitted by our friend, Terpsichore.

Do regular spankings satisfy a craving or merely heighten it?

I invite you to participate in our discussion by adding a comment below. Once everyone has offered their opinions, I'll post an edited summary.

A special note to lurkers, newbies, and otherwise silent readers: If you're inclined to peek your head out and share your thoughts, this would be a fine day to do so. We'll be nice. I promise!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 4

Our topic for the week was hanging spanking implements on the wall. Here are your insightful responses.

Michelle: I think part of what excites me about spanking is the secrecy of it. So I don't think I would hang up obvious implements. Not to mention, I already get so distracted by spanking that I don't get my work done (earning me another spanking LOL) So with it on the wall, I don't know how I'd get on. LOL Oh, and finally, by sparing use, I get more excited. So having them on the wall may be over the top (OTT, if you will).

However, temporarily hanging them on the wall for play could be intriguingly sexy. :-)

River: If I didn't have children at home, I think it would be really cool to have a wall full of implements, sort of like in a “dungeon!” We do keep the bath brush on top of the entertainment center in the living room, high enough that people don't see it unless they're looking for it. And my Husband almost always wears his belt, so that is like a constant reminder to be a brat. Oh, I meant to be good ;)

Thomas: While I don't have any spanking implements adorning my walls, I do have several spanking pictures on the wall over my computer desk. Fortunately, Cookie's kids never (or rarely) see this room when they come over. I'm pretty sure that they know what Mommy and "Dad" do in private, but there’s no reason to flaunt it to children.

I do have some "pervertables" in certain parts of the house that can be quickly acquired for a bottom warming. I also have spanking-related bumper stickers on my car, spanking shirts and hats that I wear, and even games that have spanking themes. Except for the children, I really do little to hide my spanking kink.

Blushing Bride: We don't have any implements on the walls either. We do have a selection of magnets that are in the laundry room, on the washer and dryer. The laundry's upstairs and few guests ever come up, so it is our little secret, and does make the mundane chore of laundry just a little more interesting.

We'd thought of putting them on the fridge, but too many friends and family just drop by and make themselves at home in the kitchen. They would definitely be noticed there.

Danielle: Without kids at home it's a pleasure to have a reminder for bad behavior on the walls. In the hallway, there's a 'quite innocent' one, a clothes brush, that has a nasty impact. In the bedroom, we have two. There’s a paddle with my name, our very first implement, and a birch as decoration. It was used once, but it’s now too dried out.

Paul: I have no implements on display, but there are a number of spanking novels and short stories in the bookcases. There are also a couple of classic pictures with a spanking theme that Mel gave me.

Dr. Ken: I have nothing on the walls. The majority of my toys are in a travel bag that is kept in my closet. A select few never make it out of my carry-on bag for those trips to Chicago or Texas or wherever...

There are a few wooden spoons by the stove, but they're pretty lightweight and are only used for cooking.

This Girl: We have a room dedicated to our kink, so everything is readily at hand. Yes, it would be different if we had kids or family near enough to visit! It would take too long to drag everything out each time we want to play. So it’s just how we are and the ambience of it is a lot of fun :)

Mike: Displayed in our kitchen have some wooden spoons and spatulas that have all been used for spanking on more than one occasion, but it all looks mundane.

Other than those, everything is put away, including the couple of hairbrushes in the bedroom. Since we only use them for spanking, we don't keep out for everyday use (hmm, now that I think about, that's a shame really).

K: We keep all of our toys in a chest that is used as a nightstand. It has a leather skirt draped over it with an alarm clock on top to deter nosy, ahem, curious relatives. For a while, the red suede flogger I made was hanging from the chandelier in the dining room. Hubby thought it was nice to look at and handy to have hanging nearby. Once it was brought to the bedroom to use properly, it joined the other toys in the chest. It matches the color scheme in our room, though, so it may get a permanent display spot when we finish the decorating.

Luna: We had things on the walls in the bedroom for the longest time. But one day we took them down and put them into the play bag. I think Master got tired of having to take them down each time we knew the landlord would be in the apartment for repairs.

I still have one up. It's decorative really. The first one I made to just see if they were possible to make out of almost anything. It's silk cord and is pretty, but does absolutely nothing.

We dream of having a play space in our next apartment and are tossing the idea around again. Should we have a toy cupboard or just hang them on the wall? We don't know.

Emmy: I feel like I should speak for my whole gaggle of girls living in the spanko roomie apartment. Yes, we have a paddle adorning our walls! We call it our house paddle and it was made by Dixie's buddy GD.

It hangs by a decorative ribbon, the color of which depends upon whether I need it for my hair. Its purpose is really to just hang there and looks pretty. Only a handful of our Tops have actually really used it. They found it to hard to retie that ribbon and hang it back up, so it started to look sloppy.

We made a rule, "If you can't retie the ribbon, you're not allowed to remove the spanking implement."

Right now, the paddle isn't there. We had some vanillas in our house one day and we have yet to remove the picture frame and replace our paddle. That’s only because we've been so busy!

Elle: We don't live together, but everyone (all of our friends, that is) knows about our kinks anyway. We have no reason to hide anything. Due to flat sharing, only our bedrooms reveal our tastes. I'm neurotically tidy and everything that can be put in a drawer in my room, stays in a drawer. Round at his, it's a different story and there are spanking implements and bondage gear EVERYWHERE. In fact, he doesn't even keep it to the bedroom, and his flatmates have requested more than once that I make sure things are removed from the living room... *cringes*

Brennus: There’s nothing actually adorning the walls, but there are items secreted throughout the house, ready for those spur of the moment events. Of course, there are pervertables everywhere, including some outside of the house.

Raheretic: It is interesting this would come up now. Just about four weeks ago, we were looking at one of our more artful paddles manufactured by The Toy Bag and decided it was such a work of art that we would hang it on our living room wall. It is a beautiful and colorful piece dubbed "The Last Resort." It is constructed of laminated bloodwood and zircote woods. We hung it on the wall right beside the sliding doors that exit onto our patio. It is beautiful there. It is just "designy" and colorful enough to appear an interesting art piece to vanillas we have in. It is, on the other hand, quite obviously a very deluxe spanking paddle to those of our acquaintance who share our sensual erotic orientation.

Today my two children (now 19 and 24) have initiated a visit here to commemorate my 59th birthday. It will be an interesting test to see if its presence in our room decor will arouse any curiosity on their parts. I'm betting not.

So, yes we have just recently hung one of our most deluxe spanking paddles in a place of prominence in our living room decor, and we enjoy the "hiding in plain sight" aspect of having it right out there without being overtly in the face of those who might be offended by it. It is very similar to the way we deal with our alternative lifestyle... that "hiding in plain sight" process.

Happy birthday, Tom!

Dragon Mage: We do not have any hanging on the walls (visible to daughters who are pretty curious anyway), but the paddle hairbrush I gave luvbunny for Christmas stays on the headboard of Our bed.

We plan to have a play room when We finally move from this apartment into another house, and will likely have things hung up there.

Hermione: We have a couple of canes leaning against the wall by the front door that make me shiver each time I see them.

In my husband's study, the dressage whip and a bamboo shoehorn adorn the walls, and in mine, there's a special rack with pegs for hanging a selection of toys. Above my desk, I have hung a miniature flogger and set of thumbcuffs - both actually keychains - and a tiny hairbrush, for inspiration.

The only implement on display in the bedroom is the dogging bat, which enjoys pride of place hanging from the bedpost.

Jo Lee: For us, with kids, a nanny, a house cleaner and family traipsing through, we are probably deluding ourselves when we think that no one knows. So probably the real reason why everything is hidden away in bedside drawers is that we have only collected a few toys so far and they fit in the space provided. My next plan, though, is to add a wall-hanging unit behind the clothes in our closet. It’s out of obvious sight, but not out of mind.

Papa Woodie: We have several items on our walls. It seems natural and normal to be surrounded by the things you love. It’s comforting and endearing to look up and be reminded....

As to whether there is anything 'wrong' with it... Well, we love sailing and beaches and sunsets and living on the water, and we feel no qualms personalizing our space with beautiful pictures or boat models or seashells... These are the things that make us happy and enrich our lives. And we can't imagine being without them. They brighten our hearts and give us so much more to look forward to...

My beloved Ka adds "they provide fond memories and hopes for our future!" A couple of years ago, I finally learned how to braid leather in the round (as opposed to flat plaits). I've made several nice short leather whips and a couple of fun floggers this way. They all are proudly hung in our living room.

I've also made some beautiful wooden paddles and some very well loved (and often used) leather straps and thick leather paddles. I've also bought several 'vintage' riding crops (eBay !) that look great in a grouping. There's also a wonderfully colorful spanking picture, nicely framed hanging by our front door. All are on full display in our house, either on the walls, or conveniently handy on the top of the sofa table.

Folks who have seen them, if they make a comment, are most likely to remark on the workmanship, the natural beauty, or the uniqueness of the items. So far, we've had no 'negative' reactions...

My beloved also publicly wears her symbols of surrender proudly. I braided her a small leather bracelet and a subtle necklace that remind her of the love and freedom and security she finds in our relationship, as she places herself 'in my hands'. It’s an honor and a precious gift that I hold most dear...

Our Bottoms Burn: Being empty nesters, we often leave toys out. Open our walk-in closet and you will find the more serious paddles that do not fit in our toy drawer. Look in a spare bedroom and you will see a kneeling bench. I note our floggers were left out in our bedroom, so I know our daughter saw them when she spent the night here while we were gone. Oh well, she has known about us since she was young.

To the specific question, yes, we have small paddle in the kitchen we bought in Minnesota that has a moose painted on it. My does it sting.

Our motor home has a small boat paddle decorated with trout hanging from one cabinet. It also gets good use.

Michael: We have no spanking implements on the walls, but plenty readily available along with some pervertables on hand.

Prefectdt: It’s not a spanking implement per se, but there is a large soup ladle that was once used as a prop when re-creating a scene from "Oliver Twist" hanging on the wall (except in that version the Beadle was female). Some vanilla friends have wondered why it is hanging in the living room rather than the kitchen.

Me (with bowl in hand): "Please, Miss, can I have some more?"
The Beadle: "More boy! You want more?"
Hehehehe.

Thanks to everyone who shared their thoughts on the topic of hanging toys on the wall. If you noticed that I didn't answer the question, fear not. My response is coming in an upcoming post.

MBS Spanko Brunch #120

For the 120th consecutive week, we're holding a spanko brunch. That would seem like a pretty good achievement, even if didn't have a fun question this week (and we do!).

Pull up a chair, or stand if you prefer, grab some fresh warm apple crisp, and let's talk about our favorite contact sport.

Do you have any spanking implements adorning your walls at home? If so, are they pervertable household items or implements designed expressly for bottom warming? If not, would you ever consider hanging up an attractive spanking toy?

If you would like to add your voice to our conversation, I invite you to leave a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will post an edited summary of the proceedings.

Keyword Chaos Recirculated

Yes, it's time again to have a little fun with search engine keywords. What you see below is a series of terms that somehow brought people here. As an aid to better understanding of this phenomenon, I've added my interpretation to each.

• embarrassing short trouser and spanking stories - I simply couldn't find a tailor anywhere


• spank me panties - Then you can pull them down and spank me bottom too


• spanking thong - It works best when you aim for the fleshy parts on either side


• light spanking - Beware the dreaded laser cane!


• spanking hard - Condition of an enthusiastic male spanker upon completion


• virtual spanking games - I much prefer real spanking without the games


• spanking in the garden - Look, the roses are out early this year


• vanilla ponygirl - That must be sort of like plain plaid


• 1900 porno - Bend over, look through the slot, and turn this crank


• 5 uses for a wooden doorstop - I wonder what the other three are


• adult girl bottoms - We call those adult girls women


• analsex mit Bonnie - Nein! Sie können nicht


• ass we wish - I'll bet you do wish


• best bubble butts spanked - I know a lot of MBS readers would pay to see a best bubble butt contest, especially if there were a spanking competition


• break spanking addiction - What will it be? Twelve steps or six of the best?


• bubble but spank - Hey, Lawrence Welk wasn't using it


• buttman spanking - Holy hairbrushes, Buttman!


• cute sorority paddle ideas - Smacking someone's bottom can be pretty cute


• does getting spanked with a holed paddle hurt - Yeah, Einstein, it sure does


• extended wear butt plug - The latest model is made of Kevlar and polycarbonate


• spanking swat team - Special weapons and tactics indeed


• fantasy island where women are spanked - "It's de pain, boss, de pain!"


• fat ass spankings - Well, that sounds appealing, doesn't it?


• female masochist mental profile what they want spanking - Mental profile? We're all different. Don't bother looking for a single common factor


• friends laying in our jockey underwear - If you're going to wear our underwear, you can at least help pick up around here


• fun ways to tease a bottome - We can start by misspelling the word


• I love spankings - Really? Me too!


• in my niece's panty drawer - Let's allow the kid to enjoy her childhood, OK?


• long handled wooden bath brush spank - Then you really don't want to sit for a while


• my bottoms smart - They must be collecting the whole set!


• my wife has an attudie can I spank her - That depends on her attudie about spankies


• ouch my bottom smarts - That's a catchy name


• painful spankings - Always the best kind


• panty school sir please paddle - Gym class is the highlight of the day at panty school


• Pennsylvania real spanking bed and breakfast rental - They actually have a special paddle that's shaped like a keystone!


• raunchy ladies pics - There's an oxymoron


• red delicious spanking - It was so weird - He wanted to throw apples at my butt


• romantic anal discipline temperature spanking fiction stories - Romantic anal discipline? That would have to be fiction


• should I punish with granny panties? - No, that's the most useless implement ever. Find a hairbrush


• slippery bottom - Watch me slide down the hill without a sled


• smelly pantyhose gusset stories - I'm amazed by what appeals to some people


• solution to end spanking - Have you tried your safeword?


• spanked on first date - Doesn't anyone just have dinner anymore?


• spanking my bitch - Unhand that poor dog!


• spanking novelties - Randy once bought me a key chain in the shape of a sorority paddle


• spanking on your knee her wife - Hmmm, pronoun trouble...


• victorion spanking - It's the new conservative superhero


• virtual spankee - Wesley, what was all that screaming coming from the holodeck?


• what should dante advise kk to do about tagging its product? - Tie a small strip of red fabric to your center belt loop in back


• what's up girlfriend? - You go girl!


• when was your last spanking - Earlier tonight!


• why do bare bottom spankings hurt? - Why do people ask these silly questions?


• wife spanking parties - It's more fun than a quilting bee


• women being spanked with dildos inserted in anus - The plural form is cause for concern


• worst spanking implements - I remember a thin souvenir paddle that was made from pine and only lasted one swat