Our topic this week was residual discomfort and sitting after a spanking. Here are your insights.
Janet: This is a complicated question. Well, it's not really complicated, but there are just so many variables. In our relationship, maintenance spankings don't usually lead to days of reminders that I have been spanked. Yes, afterward and for a few hours after, I am sore, but not with that intense burn and pain for days. It's just a reminder that I am loved and cared for.
With punishment spankings, there is always a burn and sitting is painful for quite some time afterward. Depending on what the punishment is for, it can last from a few hours to a day or two.
I actually enjoy it when I am sore for a few days. It reminds me to behave and gives me time to reflect on what I have done wrong. It also reminds me that my HOH loves me enough to help me become a better person.
Hermione: First, let me say that I love feeling the reminder of a spanking, especially the next day on occasions when I have to sit for extended periods.
I usually don't feel much discomfort soon after a spanking, and am fine sitting on something soft. The soreness usually materializes after an hour or two, and then I am uncomfortable for the rest of the evening.
While our spankings have generally become more intense, I have also built up a tolerance, so next day soreness isn't as common as it once was. But when it's there, it's a sweet reminder of a time of closeness between us.
Ken: Having the reminder of the spanking or caning when sitting down the next day is one of the greatest pleasures for me about being spanked as it brings back all of the wonderful memories. It's been the same when it's my hands that have been punished and you get a sharp reminder when you pick up a mug of hot coffee or relief when you pick up an ice cold drink.
Because I am not punished that often, I still have the soreness for quite a few days if it has been an intense punishment and it is almost sad when the discomfort finally goes.
Prefectdt: I like the feeling of a latent reminder of a spanking, but how long that lasts does tend to depend on the toy used. Hand, flogger, belt, strap, these do not tend to last too long. A hard caning can last a few days. Heavier hairbrushes, wood paddles and especially slippers with modern soles tend to cause some DMT (deep muscle trauma) that can last a week or more.
The problem I tend to find with sitting is not the sitting itself but getting up after sitting on a hard surface. As the buttocks "pop" back into their natural state, it is sometimes like getting all the strokes all over again in one go.
I very often find myself on a train after a spanking and if the carriage has soft padded seats there can sometimes be a considerable heat build up between the buttocks and the seat, this can get to the point of being very disconcerting sometimes.
Jean Marie: If I'm not sore for a good while afterward, he's not doing it right! And as others have said, I LOVE that reminder of what we've shared.
Sunflower: I love feeling the reminders! It's that hot, tingly burn that's my favorite part of a spanking. I haven't yet experienced a severe enough spanking to feel anything the day after, but for a few hours after in the same day, I do feel it. And I love it!
Our Bottoms Burn: Following a spanking, do you or your partner experience discomfort when sitting? Nope.
...Severe? That's a subjective word.
How long do posterior soreness and related sensations typically last? It varies from a few minutes to a few hours. I am guessing here, but soreness may be like bruising. Some bruise very easily, and others not at all.
Burl Apsack: I try to see my Disciplinarian once a month, so the spanking, paddling, flogging, whipping, and/or caning tends to be intense. I will be tender and sore for a few days afterward and, honestly, I would be disappointed if I were not.
Elysia: I wish I had more occasions to be sore, but the ones when I was were memory boosters. They are re-ignited in the shower, from rubbing pantie elastic and love pats from my hubby. When I feel it, I often feel compelled to admire my bottom in the mirror. I hope I have some tomorrow, after all isn't this Saturday night? I wish you some too Bonnie.
No worries, Elysia. It's all good here!
Scunge: Right now, it is tax season, so Sir is kind of tired. We still have spanks everyday, but not at the level that I want or need. AFTER tax season, well...
I really like being sore the day after. It helps keep me centered.
R Humphries: The aftermath has always held a special fascination for me. I am blessed that Jojo is not the least bit bashful about keeping me updated regarding the varying residual effects of a play session. She does have a rather admirable ability to recover, but sometimes I can’t help noticing a certain unmistakable stiffness to her gait or that she sits down a little more gingerly than normal. For those interested in spanking trivia, the Greek noun ‘pygalgia’ (loosely translated as a pain in the buttocks) can come in handy if you happen to wish to enquire after the state of your dear one’s rear end and find yourself in the company of the unenlightened.
Thomas: Obviously, I'm not on the receiving end of the spankings, but there can be residual effects, depending on the intensity of the spanking in question. For play, it's only rarely going to leave any lasting impression. For punishment and discipline, though, and the occasional therapeutic spanking, discomfort can last for hours or days after the actual spanking.
There was one situation where Cookie was spanked for an offense, but didn't feel that she was punished COMPLETELY for what she did and that I went easy on her. She was left moody and bitchy. As a result, her attitude deteriorated. Finally, I ended up spanking her again for the initial offense, as well as for the mounting behavior problems from her feelings of being out of control.
She was spanked with the hairbrush, but it was, by far, the worse punishment that she ever received from me. You often hear a Top talk about "blistering" a bottom and think to yourself, "Yeah, right." In this case, though, her bottom was literally blistered from the repeated hard impact of the brush, and her skin was peeling away like a sunburn. Her bottom was sensitive for a week or more, and it took at least a month for her bottom to fully heal from the ordeal. Thankfully, she hasn't felt that neglected lately, so we haven't had to repeat that procedure. This is a good thing, since we hardly get any spanking time to ourselves now, whether for play or punishment.
Paolo: The next day 'warm' feeling felt by a spanking friend of mine excited her so much that she did something rather naughty in the rest rooms at her place of employment. I felt pride!
Please note that Paolo now has a new address.
Bonnie: For reasons I don't completely comprehend, I experience a lot of variability in the duration of my posterior soreness. Sometimes, the pain ends shortly after the spanking itself. Other times, that little ouch sticks around much longer. Part of it is the type of implements that Randy uses and how vigorously he applies them. Even so, I am regularly surprised by soreness, or lack thereof.
Randy is quite fond of spanking me right before we go out for the evening. I know he enjoys watching me squirm in a restaurant, at the theater, or at a sporting event. He gazes over at me with one raised eyebrow as if to ask what could be wrong. I shoot him a faux dirty look and then he laughs at my predicament. It's a game he never tires of playing.
In truth, I absolutely love the afterglow. Every time I sit and feel a reminder, my mind flashes back to vivid recollections of moments spend across his lap. “I got spanked tonight!” I think. With that, a bolt of sexual energy runs through my body. A spanking is always a turn-on for me, but its manifest memory is even more so. I love it!
Thanks to everyone who joined us for brunch this week.
