Bonnie's Mailbag

A new correspondent who prefers to be anonymous recently sent me a long message that posed two questions:

          What is it about spanking that I find so fascinating?

          What motivates me to share so much of my life?

Spanking is my favorite kink and the center of my sexuality. It's an activity that I joyously share with my husband. I love that he understands and meets my needs.

Here are ten reasons why spankings are important to us:

1. Sexual Fulfillment - For us, spanking is lovemaking


2. Intimacy - Amazing physical and spiritual closeness


3. Stress Relief - Relaxes every nerve and muscle


4. Foreplay - Definitely sparks my interest


5. Bonding - Renews the link between us


6. Communication - Fosters emotional openness


7. Submission - Allows me to surrender control


8. Discipline - Connects me with the bad girl punishment headspace


9. Focus - Erases distractions


10. Ritual - Treasured embellishments

A good spanking is so much more than just him whacking my butt.

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The second question explores my reasons for sharing part of my life on this blog. I write about certain aspects of our relationship and deliberately omit others. The purpose of MBS is to educate, entertain, stimulate, and motivate our readers. The scope of this blog is adult consensual spankings. The purpose and scope guide what I share.

My greatest satisfaction has been hearing from readers who mustered the courage to talk with their significant others about their spanking interest. When they tell me that reading my stories and tutorials inspired them accept this part of themselves, I have to smile. My primary motivation lies in helping people to visualize their dreams and make them real.

Bonnie's Mailbag: Pandemic Edition

Can you believe it's been more than two years since I shared the contents of the MBS mailbag? Needless to say, it's overflowing! I have condensed a number of the questions, comments, and responses to advance the cause of clarity and brevity.

Question: Do you accept guest posts?

Response: I only rarely feature articles or stories written by guests. The reason is that I seek to present a specific tone and style to MBS readers. Other voices are welcome, but I want such posts to fit within the established framework of this blog.

Years ago, I told a reader that I would allow them to contribute a guest post. After the story was submitted, I realized that the subject matter was outside the scope of My Bottom Smarts. The author was understandably disappointed when I didn't post it. I vowed to avoid that situation in the future.

Question: I am curious why a vast majority of [video] productions are punishment in nature. I am more interested in romantic, erotic types of play.

Response: I believe that producers base their offerings upon the buying habits of their audience. You might enjoy some of Shadow Lane's videos.

Comment: I'm sorry but Im obsessed with ur butt

Response: I'm sorry it's so distracting. Maybe you could take up philately or ornithology to get your mind on something else.

Question: Are you interested in creating your own spanking fetish dating site?

Response: No, thank you. That doesn't sound like a good business venture for me.

Comment: Good evening Bethany:

I hope you and your husband have had a good weekend. I follow you and love your profile.

Response: If you don't know my name, I have to wonder how much time you spent reading my profile.

Question: Do you ever brat so your man will spank you real hard and long??

Response: That wouldn't be my usual approach, but yes, I have. With my husband, it doesn't take much provocation. Besides, it's more fun when it's his idea.

Question: Do you still have the ability to communicate with [well known former blogger]?

Response: I'm sorry. I do not. Unfortunately, many bloggers disappear without a trace.

Request: Hi Stephanie I would like to spank your bare bottom. I've been into spanking my whole life. I would also like to get a real spanking because I have been a very naughty little boy.i want a real spanking no safe words. Have been to see several pro dommes and was very dissatisfied.I would love to make videos too.if you can help me with this I would really appreciate it.

Response: Who's Stephanie, why do you want to spank her, and why are you telling me about it?

Request: Will you update the link for my [spanking] blog?

Response: Yes, absolutely. Thank you for letting me know!

Question: How do people get questions answered off of ur blog do they email them to you and then you post them for results?

Response: Yes, sometimes, but more often I just respond to your email.

Question: How did you learn to stop worrying and love the paddle?

Response: This phrase appears at the top of the right column of my blog beneath my name. It serves as a secondary tagline. These words are a variation of the subtitle to Stanley Kubrick's classic 1964 Cold War film Doctor Strangelove (or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb). Just as the concept of nuclear war was (correctly) considered to be inconceivable, so too is the notion that a sane person might love being spanked with a paddle, at least for most people. It's my obscurely humorous way of telling readers that my desires occasionally wander outside the usual norms.

Question: Have you ever been spanked while wearing a butt-plug tail? If not, would you do it if Randy asked you?

Response: No and yes.

Request: Hello I am looking for a sub that wants to be trained and learn under my guidance??? Please apply if interested?

Response: Why all the question marks? Are you maybe not so sure that's what you really want?

Question: Will you review my book?

Response: I must respectfully decline. I don't always have time to read entire books within a reasonable review period. Also, this arrangement potentially places me in a difficult position. If I didn't like a book, I wouldn't want to trash it (not my style), but I couldn't in good conscience plug it either just because the author sent me a free copy. MBS readers are entitled to my honest reactions. I have reviewed books for a few long time friends, but in those cases, I was fairly certain that I would find plenty to enjoy in their writing.

Question: I have a severe spanking fetish but my wife finds it strange. I want to discuss it with her but am really nervous. How do I broach this with her? Is there away to approach a woman about this without freaking her out?

Response: I wrote a tutorial on this subject that may contain some useful thoughts. You didn't mention whether you want to ask your wife to be the spanker or the spankee. Some vanilla partners are willing to assume the role of spanker, but rarely will they consent to be spanked. The latter request, if pushed, could damage your relationship.

Question: Tell me what it feels like to be caned

Response: It makes my bottom hurt.

Question: I am interested in is seeing [videos of] older women being spanked by much younger men. If you have an idea how to find this I would be so thankful.

Response: I agree that the content you seek is fairly scarce. This is primarily because most female spankees working in commercial video either retire relatively young or become exclusively tops. I strongly recommend Erica Scott's work. She is a brilliant, beautiful, experienced spanking model. Erica's spankers are exclusively male and often younger. Clare Fonda is a switch who appears mostly with women. However, I recall seeing at least one scene with a younger male spanker. Beyond that, you might try searching sites like Spankingtube. They have some amateur videos that might fit the bill. For photographs, you may like a blog named Spanking the Mature Woman.

There are lots of us older women who get our share of spankings, but unfortunately this population is underrepresented in commercial videos.

Question: Have you ever been hit so hard with a paddle on your ass that it took your breath away?

Response: Yes, that's definitely happened. Heavy wooden sorority style paddles strike with an intensity that is unlike any other spanking implement. At this point, I shouldn't be surprised, but I am.

Question: Why do I feel so guilty for receiving a spanking?

Response: I'm not inside your head so I cannot know definitively. I can only speculate. Perhaps it's because you find that you enjoy something that you were once conditioned to believe was negative. As adults, however, we can recognize that spankings don't have to be for punishment and the people who receive them are not necessarily bad (unless we like it that way!). If spankings calm your mind and rejuvenate your spirit, then this is a blessing to be cherished.

Comment: Randy is a very lucky guy to have found a good spanko partner like you.

Response: I hear this comment a lot and I imagine Randy would agree. But I always think, "What about me?" I talk regularly with women who wish they could find a good partner who would spank them. This street runs both ways. I also feel very, very fortunate.

Comment: My god I need to touch that butt

Response: You and your diety are just going to have to find some other butt to touch.

Comment: You might think about a book -- you certainly have the material.

Response: I want to make my thoughts and experiences available to as wide an audience as possible. I seek to reach people out there - young and old, men and women, rich and poor, straight and LGBT+, all around the world - who have an interest in spanking. The message I share is that consensual adult spanking is a perfectly acceptable interest and activity. Whether it's erotic, disciplinary, or play, spankings can be beneficial for both parties in many different ways. I hope one day to live in a world where spankos are accepted without shame or ridicule. I am proud of who we are, and I would like others to feel that way too.

So, yes, I could write a book, but I would rather directly share my contribution with the world.

Question: Do you mind if I "borrow" a feature from your blog to use in my own?

Response: No, I don't mind as long as you don't copy my content without attribution. There isn't much in the blogging world that is genuinely new. Most of the regular features that I present have been adapted from somewhere else. I strive to make my spin on it a bit more interesting and relevant to MBS readers. It would be hypocritical to try to deny others the same opportunity.

Question: Do you ever wear panties with flower prints on them?

Response: Yes, I own some that fit that description.

Question: I am just entering into a relationship and would like your advice please. Any chance you can talk?

Response: It's a pleasure to meet you. Sure, we can talk. What's on your mind?

Comment: I read your comment to Hermione's recent question about a spanking desire or need that was far exceeded. And you wrote:

"Do I try to get him to stop? Do I try to escape? Do I just hang on and try to ride it out? While my husband is in control, I ultimately get to decide."

And I loved that last sentence! Because I don't believe in "Doms" or "submissives." How can you call yourself a "Dom" if the spankee, "...ultimately gets to decide"? The existence of "safewords" demonstrates that it is the spankee who has the real power. Do too much/too hard, she calls "STOP!" - and you stop! And that's the way it should be. So who's the real Dom...?

Response: Many people who observe our communities of kink from the outside fail to recognize this aspect of our relationships. In the case of Randy and me, it's something that we have fine tuned over the decades. Without this largely unspoken compact, it just wouldn't work.

Question: Is it true that women with big butts love spankings?

Response: No, this is a logical error known as an inductive fallacy. Bonnie is a woman. Bonnie has a big butt. Bonnie loves spankings. Therefore, women with big butts love spankings. NOT. We cannot reliably infer the preferences of hundreds of millions of people based upon a sample size of one. Each person makes up their own mind about the desirability of spankings and there is no reason to suspect that bottom size has any influence over this decision.

There's actually more, but this is plenty for now. Have a great week and please stay safe!

Stuff People Write

Thirteen years after embarking on this blogging adventure, you might think I have seen it all. But I guess I haven't. People still send me strange messages that I struggle to parse into anything meaningful. Who are these people? What do they want from me? And why me? I don't know. So here, make of it what you will, is the latest edition of Bonnie's Mailbag.

Comment: I wish bare your big resilient buttocks and cane them...

Bonnie: I appreciate your willingness to cane my big resilient buttocks, but I have someone here who does a wonderful job.

Comment: I love that you crave butt-sex!!

Bonnie: So you make up random sex fantasies about me and then tell me about them. Yeah, that's OK, right?

Comment: Day after day, all I think about is submitting to a busty Dominatrix who uses her beautiful feet to tease and torment my cock & balls, her sharp fingernails to run along my body and overstimulate my nipples, to completely control me while I'm in inescapable, hard core bondage for her amusement.

Bonnie: I'm neither busty nor a dominatrix, my feet are not beautiful, my fingernails are not sharp, and I'm not that amused. I think you have the wrong number.

Question: I was wondering if you know of any good sites for spanking personal ads ?

Bonnie: I'm sorry but I don't. Your best strategy for meeting people may depend upon where you live. Readers?

Comment: UR bottom is very spankable

Bonnie: Thank you. My husband wholeheartedly agrees.

Question: Hi where are you from

Bonnie: I am from the internet. I live inside your screen.

Question: Bonnie my name is xxxxx and I was wondering if you could give me any advice on how to accept a spanking from my guardian. Please get back to me when you can

Bonnie: All of the alarm bells sound on this one.

Question: here's my question- when you are down over his knee and hes beating your naked butt with the paddle, what do you think about?

Bonnie: Mostly, I think about the spanking I'm getting. Early on, I might count the swats or try to assess severity. As the proceedings continue and the pain mounts, I'm more likely to consider immediate concerns like when it will end. Sometimes I get turned on. OK, I almost always get turned on, but I'm not always immediately aware in that instant. Once in a while, if the spanking is just right, I feel satisfied, content, and grateful. But more often, my reaction in that moment is "Ow! That hurts!"

Question: I just saw your blogger page. I am curious, are you a spankee or a spanker?

Bonnie: You don't have to read much of my blog to answer this question.

Question: Hi Bonnie. Like you into spanking my whole life. Are we close by. im in xxxxx. Hope to know each other better

Bonnie: We're about 2000 miles apart, but it's good to meet you.

Question: I'm an adult woman who has dreamed about being spanked since early childhood. My dream has never been realized because I've never had the courage to tell partners about what I need. Reading your blog has helped me to accept this within myself and realize how wonderful this lifestyle could be. Now I want spankings more than ever. I have a newish boyfriend who might be the one. How would you suggest I ask him to spank me?

Bonnie: That's an uncomfortable moment, but it might open the path to the fulfillment you desire. Here is a tutorial I wrote on the subject. This tutorial discusses talking with your partner about spanking. I hope these articles are helpful. If you have more questions, you have my address.

So that's it for this time. Happy winter!

Bonnie’s Mailbag: Midsummer Edition

It seems when I write more, you write more as well. The mailbag is again full and it’s time to share. I summarized or paraphrased some questions for the sake of clarity and brevity. I also divided one email that contained multiple questions.

Greeting: just wanted to say hello

Bonnie: Hi!

Question: Do you understand how fortunate you are? An average spanking for you would be the highlight of my life! My husband is simply not interested...

Bonnie: We are greatly appreciative of all our good fortune. As we age, we watch people around us growing infirm and leaving this life. More than ever we seek to get the most out of every day, every night, and every spanking.

Question: How long does it take for marks to disappear from your bottom?

Bonnie: It depends. In general, when you are spanked regularly, you will tend to mark less. Many times, I have no lasting marks at all, just an overall redness that fades after a few minutes. An hour later, you might see slightly darkened skin around the punished area. Sometimes, I have good residual soreness but no visible sign there was ever a spanking. I find that a little disappointing.

I have had marks that lasted a couple of days after a hard bare-bottomed paddling. This is fun in its way, but definitely a special occasion sort of spanking.

Statement: I'd love to spank you.

Bonnie: I play only with my husband. But there are women who might be interested if you start the conversation with a different greeting.

Statement: I truly like how you speak so casually about getting spanked. It’s like it’s a normal part of your life like going to the store or doing laundry.

Bonnie: I love that spanking sessions are a normal part of our lives, though I like them a lot better than grocery shopping or laundry. Those spankings help us in so many ways. When we have to miss a week, I find myself longing for that closeness.

Question: have kik or snapchat?

Bonnie: Nope

Question: Beautiful ass, May I please spank you sometime?

Bonnie: Thank you, but only my husband gets to perform that task.

Question: How can I convince my husband to spank me?

Bonnie: I wrote a tutorial several years ago that addresses this topic. Here’s a second one that takes more of a couple-oriented approach.

Offer: I see that you like to be spanked. I love to give spankings. Perhaps we can get together and help each other out.

Bonnie: I appreciate your generous offer of assistance, but I have abundant spanking help right next to me.

Question: Anal?

Bonnie: Not for you.

Question: I think I saw you ass at [shopping plaza] in [city].

Bonnie: My ass is firmly attached to the rest of me and I haven’t been there.

Question: Do you really get spanked on your butt and you take it willingly?

Bonnie: Yes, and definitely yes.

Observation: That's a very nice ass. You must work out a lot.

Bonnie: Thank you. Yes, I do work out.

That’s it for this time!

Bonnie's Mailbag: Halfwit Edition

In my semi-retired blogger status, I receive email only occasionally. Most of the time, the messages are from friendly readers, both new and old, who found something they liked on the blog. I am always pleased to talk with these readers and answer their spanking questions if I can.

Once in a while, I get one of those kooky messages that our brilliant colleague, Erica, always handled so humorously. This one is so far out there, I just have to share it. I don't even have a clever response. Rather, I simply stand in awe of its bizarre inappropriateness.

I love woman getting colonscopy is the sexyest thing in the world. Do you enjoy this?

There it is, in all its perverted weirdness. Words fail.

Answering Glory

I received an e-mail recently from a woman who calls herself Glory. She finds it strange that I allow Randy to spank me:

I don't remember how I stumbled across your blog, but I was so surprised by your writings that I feel compelled to ask. is this all true? Do you really let your husband spank you hard with paddles and brushes? Does he also slap or punch you? I have known women who were in abusive relationships with men and they could not see how bad it was until they became free. Do you ever think that this might be your situation?

...and so on for a couple more paragraphs.

I appreciate that Glory was polite and respectful in her inquiry. She clearly doesn't understand the relationship that Randy and I share. I think that she wants to help me.

If Glory misunderstands my articles, I have to imagine that she is not alone. I want to take this opportunity to address her concerns and set the record straight.

1. Randy and I are partners, lovers, and best friends. That has been true for nearly forty years and will remain so for life.


2. Randy enjoys spanking me. I enjoy being spanked by him. Spankings are an integral part of our lives together. We own spanking toys, spanking clothing and spanking furniture. It's part of our shared identity.


3. Spankings are unquestionably a big part of our sex life, but they are more than that. Regular spankings connect us as nothing else has.


4. I am a mature adult woman who is entirely capable of making my own decisions. I've held responsible jobs for more than thirty years. I'm no doormat.


5. Everything Randy and I do together and everything he does to me is 100% consensual. I am a willing and often eager participant in every spanking.


6. I like to be spanked. It hurts, of course, but it introduces a tremendous closeness and reinforces the strong bond between us.


7. I want him to spank me. When we have to skip a week because of real world concerns, I feel disappointed.


8. I prefer that my spankings be relatively severe. That's why we have a paddle collection. Those intense burning sensations and the emotions they evoke are transformative in ways that are hard to explain to someone who has yet to experience it.


9. Randy has never intentionally struck me anywhere other than on my bottom, and maybe the very tops of my thighs occasionally.


10. An abuser aims to diminish his victim. In contrast, Randy lifts me up and helps me to live my fantasies.

So, yes Glory, I really, really do get my bottom spanked hard with serious implements and it's been going on since the 1970s. I love him and he loves me. We express our love in many ways, and one of them happens to involve me lying across his lap and accepting a spanking. Please don't feel sorry for me. We have a good life together. If I could do it all over, there are many things I would change, but I never regret being married to Randy or the many spankings we've shared.

Bonnie's Mailbag

So you know it's been almost exactly a year since we last dug through the old mailbag? I probably deserve a paddling for letting it go so long, but we'll leave that solemn ceremony for another day. Let's see what we have...

Comment: Love your sexy juicy ass

Response: My first thought was, "I'm not juicy," but then I looked up the word.

Adjective

juicy (comparative juicier, superlative juiciest)

1. having lots of juice
          a juicy peach

2. (of a story, etc.) exciting, interesting, or enticing
          I do not keep up with all the latest juicy rumors.

3. (of a blow, strike, etc.) strong, painful

I hadn't heard the third definition, but it accurately describes last night's percussive entertainment. So I guess I might have a juicy ass.

Question: really love your sexy sadddlebag hips- ever get spanked there?

Response: Not intentionally, but we've had leather straps wrap on occasion. Strikes out there are not fun. Also, we want to avoid hitting my hip bones. I plan to use them for many more years.

Question: May I copy the links from your blogroll into mine?

Response: The twin blogrolls are the biggest draws for My Bottom Smarts. Our team spends several hours each week maintaining them - finding new spanking blogs, adding them, making updates, and trimming closed or private blogs. What you see is the product of years of careful attention. Blogrolls have long been a differentiating factor for MBS and they brought in a lot of regular readers. People came for the blogrolls and then stayed for the content.

With that said, I don't mind if you find blogs you enjoy and link them. I find links on other people's blogrolls so the reverse is to be expected. Should you discover a blog that's new, relevant and good, I'd love to hear about it. But I prefer that people not copy the entire blogroll and then present it without attribution.

Question: I've never been spanked and it may be that spanking just isn't for me. I've tried it on myself, which I realize isn't really the same. The first whack or two or three hurts in a really arousing, sexual way, but then it just starts really hurting. So my question is whether over time, the arousing/sexual pain begins to last longer, e.g., does it take longer for the enjoyable pain to turn into plain old pain? Or is it that the enjoyable pain ends just as quickly, but the spankee gets better at dealing with the plain old pain?

Response: As my husband reminds me, a spanking is supposed to hurt. And it does hurt, a lot, every time. Each of us responds to pain differently. Some people, me included, process the pain of a swat on the bottom as being pleasurable and arousing. Maybe I've come to associate that spanking sensation with sexy fun. Or maybe I'm just wired to enjoy being spanked. Either way, the connection is definitely there. Other people, however, feel nothing but pain.

In terms of the progression of a spanking, there is a point beyond which it's no longer pure enjoyment. There is a moment when I think it's all more intense than I want or need. As the spanking then continues, I am confronted with the unavoidable realization that he is in control and I am not. I have to make a conscious choice to stay and accept whatever he chooses to give me. For me, deliberate submission to a hard spanking is at least as sexy as the spanking itself. The feeling of release that ensues makes all of the pain worthwhile and even welcome. I gain a happy glow that stays with me longer than the sting on my bottom. But your mileage may vary.

Comment: I wish to chat about spamming my wife.

Response: Are we talking about the former Nigerian oil minister, cheap Rolex knock-offs, or wang enlargement pills? I'm sure she'll be surprised and thrilled by your romantic gesture.

Comment: I do admit I really like your butt in the picture.

Response: I do admit I know when you post a picture of your bottom on the Web, you're going to get these comments.

Question: anal ssex?

Response: Go back in your cave.

Question: I live in the Tampa, FL area...will you be in this area in the near future.

Response: (1) No, (2) I don't do hook-ups, and (3) why would you think it's OK to send this one line proposition to a woman you don't know?

Question: hello could you help I am just starting hard core training would love to learn to endure hardcore pain how do I prepare my self please reply

Response: If we are talking about spanking, receiving regular spankings will toughen your bottom and allow it to endure longer, harder sessions, but it doesn't really change the pain. I am not familiar with "hard core training" so I'm not sure I can give you much more than that.

Comment: Bonnie, you have a fine bottom given to you with a second purpose to be spanked, I know as we are similar. Spanking in the right relationship can be a positive healthy activity

Response: Thank you. Randy also claims that my bottom was designed to be spanked.

Question: Maam I am writing to you as a fellow spankee,. Like your profile and site and your Pic. As a single man in need to have a regular Domme Spanker, I am devastated over the loss of my Spanker a pro Dom, who split with me and just wanted to ask if you might know a woman who could possibly meet with me...

Response: I don't know how to find a domme, but you might want to start by posting a message in the appropriate forum on FL.

Question: You don't write much anymore about your husband really toasting your butt? Are you still being sponked?

Response: What a wonderful word! Sponk = Spank + Bonk. Yes, we still sponk just about every week. I look forward to those occasions all week long.

Comment: nice ass Want to know you better

Response: I guarantee that you never to get to know any woman better if your first two words are "nice ass."

Comment: Great Bottom Yes Bonnie mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Response: OK, that's slightly better, but not much.

Comment: I have more pictures on my profile if you're my friend. How are you?

Response: Considering that your profile picture is a schlong, how I am is not inclined to see any more of that. We already have one of those at our house and it's still quite serviceable.

Question: Do you walk out in public in a short skirt or dress right after youve been spanked?

Response: I have and I would do so again if Randy asked.

Question: My husband has been spanking me for about two years. We both enjoy it a lot. My question is that my bottom doesn't stay red very long anymore even though he is still spanking me just as hard and it still hurts. Why is this?

Response: I am glad you and your husband have enriched your relationship in this way. Everyone's physiology is different. Some people mark a lot and others almost never mark even after a severe spanking. With that said, as we experience regular spankings, our bottoms tend to toughen up and mark less. I've definitely observed this. I like to have some visible marks that I can rub and admire in the mirror. To me, those fond remembrances are part of the whole spanking experience. I guess we have to enjoy that warm blush while it lasts.


That's it for this time. Have a great weekend, everybody.

Bonnie's Mailbag

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Bonnie's Mailbag

Wow, this thing is heavy. Let's look inside...

Question: I am Mr.William and would like to order (Burl Round Table)and what would be the price for each unit so that i can Quote you with the quantity i want to order..

Response: Mr.William, I think you have the wrong number.

Question: Are there any reliable statistics on how many spanking enthusiasts there are - in the USA and in the UK?

Response: In researching your question, I entered into Google the following query: How popular is adult spanking?

The number one link was my blog!  If I knew the answer, I wouldn't be using Google!  :)

It's a great question that deserves a great response.  So I dug a bit further and found this article.  It says:

18 percent of men and 7 percent of women fantasize about spanking someone.

11 percent of men and 13 percent of women fantasize about being spanked.

I have no idea how accurate or authoritative this data is, but it seems plausible.

Comment: On "Covert Affairs" (Tuesday at 10PM on USA) there are two lead females who work in the CIA. Joan Campbell, is an "older" looking woman who looks as I envision you. The actress is Kari Matchett, and if/when the "Bottom Smarts" film is done, she would be excellent for the starring role as Bonnie. She is an attractive blonde whose ample derriere would be perfect for OTK, paddle, hairbrush and other forms of spanking.

Response: Thank you for your suggestion. If they make MBS the Movie, I'm hoping for JLo!

Question: Would it be possible to place the legend with the links in "In with the New" posts?

Response: Not only is it possible, it's a great idea. Done.

Question: Does alcohol heighten the pain tolerance? does it improve the overall spanking experience?

Response: I recommend against spanking when either party is intoxicated. I would compare it to driving a car without brakes. It's a dangerous scenario. Please save it for another day.

Comment: Just found your blog and I wanted to say how fun it is.

Response: Thank you!

Question: Do you wear an underwire bra?

Response: Yes, most of the time.

Question: Are you offended by F/F spanking stories?

Response: Not at all.

Question: Can I make money with blogs?

Response: Yes, it's possible to make money through blogging.  I choose not to allow advertising on my blog because I want full control over what MBS readers see.  I also think a lot of ads look tacky. Many feature explicit photos I would never post.

The biggest issue for me is that I don't want readers to think my opinions or my endorsement can be bought.  As a trained journalist, I feel the need to be (and perceived as being) independent and credible.  I work all week for my employer to make a living.  I write what they want.  In contrast, my blog is a labor of love.  It cannot be about money.

I wouldn't criticize a blogger for a few (comparatively) tasteful ads, but I avoid any blog that is merely a digital billboard.

I honestly don't know how much money can be made.  I've heard spanko bloggers claim they made $100/month, which isn't trivial, but I doubt anyone is going to retire in luxury.

Question: Do most female spankees prefer rear entry sex?

Response: I can't speak for most female spankees, but my answer is yes.

Question: Can I ask how you and your hubby got into spanking? Did it start while you were dating? Did you bring it up? Did he? Have you always enjoyed being spanked?

Response: I've been interested in spanking for as long as I can remember.  I was one of those kids who looked up spanking words in the dictionary and thought up spanking scenarios for my dolls.  As I grew older, spanking became a core part of my sexuality.  I experimented with early boyfriends (always at my suggestion), but found little satisfaction until I met Randy in college.

You can read about that discovery here.

Question: So spanking for you is foreplay? How often are you spanked? Have you ever given him a taste of the brush?

Response: Yes, spanking is foreplay, but it's a lot more than that.  It fixes my head on several different levels.  I've written a lot about this on the blog.  There is no better stress relief.

The frequency of spankings at our house varies depending upon what else is happening in our lives.  It's once a week for sure, twice a week on average, three or four times in a week if I'm fortunate.

As for the brush, I know it very, very well.  My husband's favorite implement is a curved handled body brush.  But he does all of the spanking.  Neither of us have any interest in switching.

Question: Three or four times a week? Wow, is your bottom ever not sore or red? I'm guessing some of the spankings are playful and short?

Response: Even if I get spanked four times a week, there is usually plenty of time when my bottom is not red and sore.  As one is spanked more frequently, his or her bottom tends to become tougher and more resistant to damage.  As a result, there are times when even a half hour later, there is no evidence a spanking happened.  This depends a lot upon the implements used, severity, and the state of my body.

Some spankings are short and playful, it's true.  Others are more serious.  It depends upon why we are spanking and what we hope to achieve.

Question: Hope you dont mind me asking?? Do you get spanked always for fun/sex play etc or is it a lifestyle choise like CDD LDD is your husband your H O H ?

Response: I don't mind your question at all.  I created a blog so I could exchange thoughts with friends new and old.

It's difficult to summarize the lifestyle that my husband Randy and I share in a single label.  I wouldn't characterize us as a DD (or CDD or LDD) couple.  I am submissive and he has my consent to spank whenever he believes it is necessary or beneficial.  But he doesn't punish based upon my behavior (or lack thereof).  If he chose to do so, I would accept it.  But that's not our dynamic.

We do enjoy a lot of playful/sexy spankings.  These enrich our relationship and strengthen the bond between us.  They hurt, of course, but not excessively so.

Comment: I just wanted to let you know that you've helped me accept what has been rolling around in my head and heart for a very long time.  I'm still working up the courage to bring it up with my wife of 20 years, but I think I get a little closer to that everyday. Hopefully I'll get there before we're too old to do anything about it.

Response: Best wishes with your quest to release your inner self!  May you both find great joy.

Question: Hi just somehow found your bottom on my phone pc, I would love to be able to put my palm on your bum xx. Do you have more photos, thanks xx.

Response: You found my bottom on your phone? Next time, I'll be more careful where I sit.

Question: Where do you purchase those cute little panties you wear?

Response: Actually, Randy buys a lot of them for me. He likes to dress me in lingerie and have me model it for his pleasure. Many of my underthings come from Nordstrom or Macy's.

Question: can i touch u?

Response: Not even if you learn to spell.

That's about it until next time!

Bonnie's Mailbag

The mailbag is filled to the brim. I guess we should dump it out and see what we find.

Comment: I am kind of surprised that there is an actual active blog of this type out here. What I mean is a spanking blog that has an update in the last year or two. Most seem to have dropped off the map. I hope you continue to update your blog and I will do my best not to be a lurker.

Response: The MBS blogroll now contains over 400 spanking-related blogs and they are all fairly current. We regularly trim the dead and dormant links. I'm not sure where you've been looking, but we have plenty of superb spanko bloggers right here.

Question: I can't seem to get into any Blogger blog that has the adult warning page. What am I doing wrong?

Response: This is a issue that arises periodically. The problem can usually be fixed by enabling cookies within the browser

Question: How acceptable is it to be open with good friends about our lifestyle? You know how you talk to girlfriends about personal stuff? Vanilla sex is OK to talk about with certain friends why not spanking too? I sometimes fantasize about opening up to my friend about my spanko(ness) and her saying WOW, We do that too! and us having a good laugh and girly conversation about spanking over a bottle of wine.

Response: That scenario could certainly happen, but the opposite reaction (fear, concern, rejection) is also possible. I would carefully weight any decision to share your secret with a presumably vanilla friend.

One approach you could use is the trial balloon. For example, you could tell her, “A woman I know at work told me that her boyfriend spanks her hard before they make love. She absolutely adores it. I find that intriguing. What do you think?” Her response will likely tell you all you need to know.

Question: I worry because I am so working on the submissive part of being a bottom. I have such a hard time being submissive during a spanking, physically and verbally. As much as I want it, I still complain and fight.

Response: Submission has to begin within your own mind. No one can make you submit. Even if he were to physically force his will upon you, your mind could still resist. Genuine submission must be your choice. So rather than ask your husband to wrestle you into position, you might ask yourself to demonstrate your submission to him by staying in place voluntarily (even when it really hurts).

Another option is restraint. Some people immediately think about heavy bondage and get freaked out, but it could be as simple as a scarf tied around your wrists. The point is not so much to hold you down as to remind you to submit. This would take the pressure off of your husband to both keep you in place and deliver a good spanking. And if his job is easier and more enjoyable, he will want to undertake it more regularly.

Comment: You have a large group of folks who appreciate your blog. I am amazed at the frequency and quality of your posts and even more amazed that you take the time for a personal reply to folks like me. Also, the quality of your writing is impressive, but that shouldn't be a surprise since I believe you say that you write for a living, as the saying goes.

Response: Thank you!

Comment: A very nice butt indeed. Lovely to look at. :)

Response: I can't really complain about this sort of comment because I do display my bottom on the blog. But it would be nice to have some idea who is talking to me.

Question: How much physical damage is too much for you?

Response: This answer may seem strange, but I am willing to accept more than my husband is generally willing to give me. Spankings may seem very severe (not to mention painful!) while they are happening, but the actual damage usually isn't that bad. I rarely bruise back there, but when I do, it's kind of a badge of honor.

We both have an aversion to blood, so neither of us wants to go there. An open break forces us to curtail our play or at least spank around it. :(

Question: Why do you put up with such crude and dumb questions?

Response: I can't make people stop sending me dopey messages. I could delete the messages (where's the fun in that?). I could ignore them (and sometimes, I do). I could answer them in kind (not my style). I could give them a polite response (they don't deserve it). Or I could feature them in Ask Bonnie and mailbag posts.

I usually choose this last option in hopes that readers will be amazed and amused by the stupidity that collects in my mailbox. I also wish that one reader will gain some small understanding of how it feels to be the recipient of these messages and stop harassing women for their own amusement. OK, maybe that part is not realistic, but I'm an optimist!

Response: Are you a hunter?

Question: Yes, every week at the grocery store.

Request: We are in the process of starting a spanking group in the _____ area. We are looking to meet like-minded individuals or couples interested in attending. Would you help us promote our event?

Response: I often feel torn when I get this sort of request. It's certainly on topic for MBS, but the percentage of readers to whom it would appeal is very low. Happily, Todd and Suzy have started a blog dedicated to these sorts of announcements.

Statement: Hi Bottom, I enjoy your sight.

Response: That's Ms. Smarts to you...

Question: wouldyouputmeoveryourknee

Response: noidontdothat

Question: is this the Bonnie I know?

Response: That depends. Which Bonnie do you know?

Response: Have you ever been figged?

Question: No, I haven't.

Question: When you misbehave does your husband spank you by putting you over/across his knee? Which term do you prefer over the knee or across the knee?

Response: I'm happy to answer your questions, but I would appreciate a brief introduction before you launch right in. It allows me to understand to whom I am speaking and formulate my response accordingly.

Yes, I am sometimes spanked while lying across Randy's lap. I think any term that accurately conveys the desired meaning is fine.

Question: Do you ever link F/F spanking blogs?

Response: Yes, absolutely.

Question: My girlfriend likes to be spanked and flogged but has a very low threshold for pain. I feel that she is not even warmed up when she will say "Ow. That hurts." or "Not so hard." At that point her bottom is barely red but I keep the spanks to her tolerance. She says she wants it to be fun but not hurt. That seems to defeat the purpose of a spanking. I would really like to give her a "real" spanking but of course want it to be consensual. Any advice on how to get her to agree to take it to the next level?

Response: That's a very difficult challenge. The odds of converting a completely vanilla spankee are very small. I hate to be so blunt, but if she just doesn't enjoy it, there is little you can do to convince her otherwise.

Your options are (a) suppress your spanking interest, (b) play within her boundaries, (c) find a different, kinkier girlfriend, or (d) keep your girlfriend but find another outlet for your spanking interest. None of these choices are likely to be completely satisfying. Only you can know which is preferable.

I wish I had a magic spanko potion, but I don't. Best wishes to you both!

Question: why.do.i.like.it.when.a.lady.puts.me.over.her.knee.and.smacks.my.bottom

Response: I think you know the answer as well as I do.

Question: What makes a good spanking blog in your opinion that attracts customers?

Response: I like to say that the three most important ingredients for a quality blog are content, content, and content. The best content is original, unique, memorable, error-free and targeted at the desired audience.

Question: How often should I post and how long should it really be?

Response: The ideal posting interval varies by blog and by blogger. You don't want to post just to get something out there. On the other hand, readers abandon blogs that seem stale. I've learned that if you post more than once per day, many readers will just read the top post and miss some of your best material. In time, most successful bloggers find a rhythm that works for them.

As for length, my upper limit is 1000-1500 words. Unless your prose is spellbinding, readers begin to peel off at this point. I break this guideline occasionally, but not without an understanding of the risks.

Question: May I suggest a brunch question?

Response: Yes, please do!

Statement: How are you? Have a great morning

Response: If you insist, then I must be having a great morning. That's how I am.

Question: do you play in fours? Good looking Dom and very pretty female bi sub are looking for a play couple - she loves a very hard spanking.

Response: Please read my profile. Your answer can be found there.

Question: you have quite a nice bottom dear!

Response: Thank you, honey-bunch

So we made it all the way through without a single panty question. I hope you enjoyed our first panty-free mailbag post.

Bonnie's Mailbag

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The Mail of the Species

All ladies and gentlemen can feel free to skip this post. I am speaking today to the rogues in our midst. Yes, I do mean you, oh immature thrower of textual molotov cocktails. If you don't know what that means, I hope you will pay special attention.

This post started out as a mailbag segment, but as I reviewed my messages, it quickly degenerated into a rant. I could skewer these half-wits one by one, but Erica does it so much more effectively. What I decided to do instead was provide an example of why I dislike even looking at my mail. These are complete, unedited messages sent to me.

nice ass!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! love to play with it I'm Sorry I don't know you are. But I had to tell you that in your profile pic, that is one of the most beautiful butts I have ever seen. DAMN YOU ARE ONE SEXY ASS CURVACEOUS LIL QT....MY MY MY Hey sexy bottom, So that bottom hurts when you sit, eh???. well that bottom couldn't handle my spankins Do you play dirty Bonnie? You got a nice perfetc ass and legs for my thick Belt Lets chat thought i would say hi to you also see if you did anything fun on your end last weekend or not also did you sleep well last night may I spread ur butt checks ? nice backside for spanking hey if you want one call on me that is one lovely butt !! I am very pleased to inform you that your bottom must be the most spankable on net. Your jeans cant hide your belly cheeks. By the way, I am 44 years old male from Europe who love all sides of spankings. You find me both on the giver and receiver end. I like role - playing, domestic discipline and spanking for fun etc.... Do not hesitate to send me some words and pics and tell me more about your spanking experiences and preferences. Your ass...PERFECT... The panty lines...MORE PERFECT!!!!! I need a spanking

Guys, we need to work on this communication thing. I get that you're trying to be friendly and perhaps start a conversation. But this approach will simply never work. Women don't go for it. Not even on your luckiest day.

So if blurting out an ill-conceived one-liner about a woman's physical attributes doesn't get it, what does? Almost anything else would be an improvement. But to be specific, here are some simple guidelines.

1. Women are people. Don't treat us like a collection of body parts displayed solely for your titillation.
2. A good way to begin a conversation is, “Hello, my name is _______ and I'm also interested in _______.”
3. Yes, women are sexual beings too, but we are much more. If you want to connect with a female at any level, try first becoming her friend.
4. Context is everything. If you know someone well and they feel comfortable around you, you can be blunt when the situation calls for it. Otherwise, it's better to err on the side of caution.
5. Don't assume familiarity when none exists. Just because you've read my blog doesn't mean you know me (or that I know you).
6. Most submissives I know direct those feelings toward one person. Even if you think you're über-Dom, you're just another guy to me.
7. Don't assume that any compliment will be appreciated. Again, consider the context. If you have no relationship with the woman you are complimenting, even well-intended remarks come off as superficial at best.
8. If you choose to introduce yourself, you might first see what you can learn about the person (but please skip the whole creepy stalking routine). For example, anyone who spends ten minutes on my blog will know (a) I am straight, happily married, and completely monogamous, (b) I play only with my husband, (c) I'm kinky, but mostly in terms of being spanked, (d) I never switch, and (e) I like meeting spanko friends. Armed with this information, it's pretty easy to strike up a conversation with me.
9. Anyone who cannot figure out how to use spell check is perceived as being an idiot. IM-speak is simply annoying. You won't impress me with that.
10. Don't think that a woman is stuck-up because she doesn't answer every drooling cretin who sends her mail. Just look at these messages. There's a real person at this end. Many times, it's easier to hit delete than to try to drag these characters one by one out of the stone age.
11. Respect and courtesy aren't mandatory, but they are always appreciated. Asking for a favor will get better results than making a demand.
12. Very few women want to hear about your personal measurements, especially in an unsolicited e-mail message. Ditto descriptions of your favorite sex acts.
13. Be real. If you represent yourself to be someone you're not, you are less likely to find what you seek.
14. Keep it light, at least at first. You can send me your life story if you must, and I might even read it, but I would rather hear about a new spanko friend you met or an implement you tried last week.

This stuff is not that difficult. However, if you find that you are unable or unwilling to accept these guidelines, there is another option that is equally satisfactory: Stop sending me stupid e-mails!

We now return to our regular programming.

Bonnie's Mailbag

The mailbag provides a glimpse into the not-so-glamorous life of a busy blogger. I receive a lot more mail than this, but I've pulled out these messages because they are either representative or simply too strange not to share.

Question: My husband and I have been married for 18 years and he has always spanked me when I need it. I am writing to ask if you can tell me how I could connect with other couples in ________ who are of like mind.

Response: I did some research for this reader and wrote a fairly lengthy response where I listed half a dozen groups in their region. I also talked about forums, personal ads, and the like. My message bounced back as undeliverable. Ugh!

Request: ______ wants to keep up with you on Twitter

Response: If I had the time, energy, and inclination to tweet, I suspect the result would be a mighty boring stream. Most of my life is just not that interesting or unusual. Does anyone really care to know that I am making a grocery list?

Request: Will you link my new D/s blog?

Response: I will if there is substantial spanking content. I had 330 links at last count. I have to draw the line somewhere. Right now, I feel the need as a practical matter to focus upon blogs that deal with consensual adult spanking. There are lots of splendid blogs that fall outside this boundary. I don't mean to snub them in any way, but I simply cannot manage a blogroll with a thousand links.

Comment: Thank you for mentioning my blog. My hits went through the roof!

Response: That's wonderful. I'm pleased to be able to help.

Question: Would you be interested in writing any how-to's for my newsletter?

Response: I feel honored that you would think of me as a source of authoritative information. But if when I get the chance to write, my first obligation is to the readers of this blog.

Comment: I felt the need and apologize if a bit bold, but you have a fantastic ass :)

Response: OK, write this down: If you feel the need to begin with an apology, what follows might be better not said.

Request: I just finally started a spanko blog of my own and was wondering if you might consider including it as a part of your next installment of your "In With the New" series.

Response: Absolutely, as long it has original spanking-oriented content, is not graphic, offensive, or purely commercial, and does not depict children or other non-consenting participants.

Question: Are you seeing a regular spanker?

Response: Yes, my husband spanks me. However, I have no idea about his regularity.

Question: Will you remove my link from your blogroll?

Response: Yes.

Question: What is MBS? I live in your area and haven't heard of the brunch

Response: MBS is an acronym for the name of this blog. The brunch is virtual. In other words, it happens here in cyberspace.

Comment: a fanny like that would qualify you as the poster girl for the spanking of adult women. from your comments I am sure that those jeans and whatever else covers that ample well rounded bottom of yours spend considerable time mid thigh. if I were your husband a paddle and hairbrush would be used regularily aftera good hand warmup. that is an ideal bottom your husband is a luck man. As a lifetime Top would love to have the pleasure. that fanny is one of the reasons a hairbrush has an alternative use.

Response: Thanks, I think. Sometimes I wonder whether these fellows have ever considered that women might be more than slabs of meat to be used for their pleasure. Other times, I stop wondering because I know the answer.

Request: IM me on my yahoo IM _______. Where are you from?

Response: Can you give me a single reason why I would want to talk with you? Do we have any common interests or common friends? Do you read my blog? Do I visit your blog? Have we talked before? Would you like my help? Can you help me? Have you anything interesting to share?

Comment: how are you doing wow you look nice you don,t have the butt or body of a 52 year old take care have a nice day

Response: This is 52. Realign your expectations.

Comment: Sweet looking Ass baby Girl!! Daddy would love to pack it!!!

Response: I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that no woman on the planet will fall for that line. Some of you guys could improve your chances by assembling random dictionary words (and if you use a dictionary, you will be more likely to spell them correctly).

Question: Will you be my friend on [obscure social networking service]?

Response: I'm sorry, but I haven't time to join every forum and social network. I struggle to follow the blogs I link. Some weeks, I lack even the time required to update this blog. I have to prioritize and make smart choices with my time.

Question: When are you going to post another spanking story?

Response: I have no immediate plans, but I do feel a need to get back to writing. It's ironic that I started this blog to share my writing, but today, I seldom write because blogging consumes all of my free time.

Comment: Bonnie your jean-clad ass is so spank- tac- u- lur in this pic...DAMN WERE'S MY STRAP?

Response: I think this guy's message was meant as a compliment. But, come on, it's always bad form to discuss whipping someone with whom you've never spoken.

Comment: Love your blog. :) Thanks for writing it...

Response: Thank you, and I'm glad you enjoy it!

Comment: I can see the outline of your pantys I thinks that's real sxy!

Response: Guilty as charged. I wear underwear.

Question: What happened to the SpankingArt Wiki?

Response: I have no idea, but the community spanking Wiki does appear to be gone.

Question: Do U have use 4 but plugs ?

Response: Yes, dogs adore them as chew toys.

That's all, folks!

Bonnie's Mailbag - Part Three

OK, this is the last installment for now. I need to make a New Year's resolution to not let the mail get so backed up!

Question: I'm a 21 year old male. I have never been spanked but it has always been curious about it. Recently i have been looking online for a domestic disciplinarian to give me my first spanking but haven't had any success finding someone in my area. do you have any suggestions?

Response: I don't claim to be an expert on this topic, but I am aware of several techniques that seem to have worked for people in your situation.

1. Contact a local or regional spanking or other kink-oriented group. They probably have a Web site or discussion group you can find via Google. If they don't offer what you seek, they might be able to refer you elsewhere.


2. Try an advertisement in your local alternative newspaper.


3. Post a listing on Craigslist or a similar service.


4. See if there is a local or regional club that caters to a kinky crowd. That may provide an opportunity to meet new people.


5. Search blogs/MySpace/Facebook/FetLife and discussion groups for kinky folk in your area. Again, if they cannot help you, they might be able to direct you to someone who can.

As you meet people, please be sure to be respectful and polite. If you want them to do you a favor, a little gratitude goes a long way.

Question: Do you think all women have a desire to be spanked, either for fun, or discipline, & i know you can't speak for all ladies , but as a man i could give close insite to you if you were to ask me a question concerning men's thoughts, & thats all i'm asking for from you.

I actually have spanked her once for loosing a large amount of money, that she could have controlled if she had been more careful & there was not much resistance from her. Now if she makes any serious mistakes or if i smack her bottom she acts as if its not wanted, & works very hard to get out of it if i suggest it for wrong doing's. How would you interpet this from her?

Response: I don't believe all women (or all men for that matter) possess an innate desire to be spanked. I am quite certain that there are lots of women who, for various reasons, have no interest whatsoever.

I can't tell you what's in your woman's head. Rather than asking me, you should be asking her. There's just no substitute for basic communication.

Who knows? You might be surprised!

Comment: I wonder if you like spankings as much as I do...

Response: How much do I love spankings? Enough to write over 1,000 posts on the subject!

Comment: I Luv that Bootty

Response: Can you tell that we’re into the MySpace messages now?

Comment: HAY YOU!!

Response: Straw is cheaper. Grass is free. Buy a farm, you get all three.

Question: how much experience do you have being spanked by another woman?

The reason I ask is a lot of the women I've met over the years and throughout the country are now seeking out other ladies to spank them. And although, many of them have admitted to me that women are more merciless and less tolerant of a man, the want the matriarchal type of spanking.

Response: Zero. That is outside my experience.

Question, sort of: enjoyed ur site, so took the chance on a friend request, thanks for taking the chance back! Names, ____, Originally from _____, but have been here in ____ about 7 years. anyways, just stopping in to introduce myself and say hi, and wish u a good day/week/weekend. just an fyi, i have the irish blood in me, so cocktails on me at happy hour, any takers?? hint hint. lol

Response: Hello. I’d better skip the drink.

Question: Hav u ever participated in receptive anal intercourse?

Response: Uh huh.

Comment: You and my sub both have great bottoms

Response: Two more and we can start a singing group.

Question: hi i would like to be you freind i like sexy older women with a nice ass.

Response: Do those sexy older women have to share one nice ass? That must be terribly inconvenient.

Comment: saw your profile qould lik to your friend. love to give you a spanking and make your bun sore

Response: Qould lik? Really?

Question: can i see the face

Response: I have to keep some secrets, don’t I?

Questions and Comments: HEY BONNIE ARE YOU A SINGLE FEMALE DO YOU LIKE OLDER MEN YES OR KNOW MY NAME IS _______ YOU DO HAVE A NICE TIGHT ASS WITH YOUR LEVIS ON IF YOU EVER GET ONLINE CAN YOU SEND ME A NEW MESSAGE IF YOU CAN OR NOT AM I TOO OLD FOR YOU YES OR KNOW

Response: Shhhhhh. I’m right here. Please lower your voice.

I recall that Erica got a visit from mister “yes or know” as well. He wants me to send him a new message. It would be a lot more fun to forward a bunch of my old ones. You know, the ones from other people who don’t know about the caps lock key…

Question: I just love your blog. I just found it recently and I am amazed to find there are other women like me. I thought for the longest time that I was the only one who craved spankings.

Response: Thank you. There are actually quite a few of us.

Question(s): i have heard that lady's do not say what they really want, & of course she would be apprehensive to just say i need spanked, but i am also reluctant to ask "hey do you like for me to spank you when you have messed up" dose no, said not firmly mean yes?

Response: I believe there needs to be some honest communication before you get to the point of spanking. Without that open channel, there is too much opportunity for misunderstanding and hurt.

We women may not always say what we want, but "no" must mean no. Unless you have some agreement to the contrary, such as a safeword, you cannot run through that stoplight without violating her trust and potentially damaging your relationship.

Comment: that’s one fine fat butt!

Response : Gee, thanks.

Question: Do you know of a site that offers pictures, videos, or stories about mature ladies (60+) who are interested in spanking, either giving or taking.

Response: I am not aware of any such site, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

Solicitation: I am interested in either buying (one-time fee or monthly fee) or exchanging links with you (we have a large network of sites, so it would not be a direct link exchange). Please let me know if you are interested in this.

Response: No, thank you. Readers don’t come here to see irrelevant advertising.

Question: Hi Bonnie nice spankable ass can i spank it.

Response: Nope. I have a guy who takes care of that.

Question: How long should a spanking be? I'v never been really sure about it

Response: Here’s a related brunch and two tutorials that may help.

Question: should i spank my wife if she does something wrong and if so should i use a belt

Response: I wouldn’t recommend it unless you have thoroughly discussed the subject first. If you strike someone without their consent, it’s considered assault. That’s not a place you want to go. I encourage you to talk with her and, please, listen to what she says.

Good marriages are built on understanding, shared values, and trust. If you want to add something to your relationship, this is the foundation upon which you should build it.

Question: May I recommend my own blog for “In with the New?”

Response: Yes, absolutely.

Question: What’s it like to have such a beautiful butt?

Response: I don’t know. This is the only bottom I’ve had.

Question: When you’re lying over Randy’s lap and he’s spanking you hard with the paddle, does he ever pull your panties up between your butt cheeks so your bottom is bare and it hurts more?

Response: Yes, sometimes.

That's all, folks!