Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Bonnie's Mailbag

Wow, this thing is heavy. Let's look inside...

Question: I am Mr.William and would like to order (Burl Round Table)and what would be the price for each unit so that i can Quote you with the quantity i want to order..

Response: Mr.William, I think you have the wrong number.

Question: Are there any reliable statistics on how many spanking enthusiasts there are - in the USA and in the UK?

Response: In researching your question, I entered into Google the following query: How popular is adult spanking?

The number one link was my blog!  If I knew the answer, I wouldn't be using Google!  :)

It's a great question that deserves a great response.  So I dug a bit further and found this article.  It says:

18 percent of men and 7 percent of women fantasize about spanking someone.

11 percent of men and 13 percent of women fantasize about being spanked.

I have no idea how accurate or authoritative this data is, but it seems plausible.

Comment: On "Covert Affairs" (Tuesday at 10PM on USA) there are two lead females who work in the CIA. Joan Campbell, is an "older" looking woman who looks as I envision you. The actress is Kari Matchett, and if/when the "Bottom Smarts" film is done, she would be excellent for the starring role as Bonnie. She is an attractive blonde whose ample derriere would be perfect for OTK, paddle, hairbrush and other forms of spanking.

Response: Thank you for your suggestion. If they make MBS the Movie, I'm hoping for JLo!

Question: Would it be possible to place the legend with the links in "In with the New" posts?

Response: Not only is it possible, it's a great idea. Done.

Question: Does alcohol heighten the pain tolerance? does it improve the overall spanking experience?

Response: I recommend against spanking when either party is intoxicated. I would compare it to driving a car without brakes. It's a dangerous scenario. Please save it for another day.

Comment: Just found your blog and I wanted to say how fun it is.

Response: Thank you!

Question: Do you wear an underwire bra?

Response: Yes, most of the time.

Question: Are you offended by F/F spanking stories?

Response: Not at all.

Question: Can I make money with blogs?

Response: Yes, it's possible to make money through blogging.  I choose not to allow advertising on my blog because I want full control over what MBS readers see.  I also think a lot of ads look tacky. Many feature explicit photos I would never post.

The biggest issue for me is that I don't want readers to think my opinions or my endorsement can be bought.  As a trained journalist, I feel the need to be (and perceived as being) independent and credible.  I work all week for my employer to make a living.  I write what they want.  In contrast, my blog is a labor of love.  It cannot be about money.

I wouldn't criticize a blogger for a few (comparatively) tasteful ads, but I avoid any blog that is merely a digital billboard.

I honestly don't know how much money can be made.  I've heard spanko bloggers claim they made $100/month, which isn't trivial, but I doubt anyone is going to retire in luxury.

Question: Do most female spankees prefer rear entry sex?

Response: I can't speak for most female spankees, but my answer is yes.

Question: Can I ask how you and your hubby got into spanking? Did it start while you were dating? Did you bring it up? Did he? Have you always enjoyed being spanked?

Response: I've been interested in spanking for as long as I can remember.  I was one of those kids who looked up spanking words in the dictionary and thought up spanking scenarios for my dolls.  As I grew older, spanking became a core part of my sexuality.  I experimented with early boyfriends (always at my suggestion), but found little satisfaction until I met Randy in college.

You can read about that discovery here.

Question: So spanking for you is foreplay? How often are you spanked? Have you ever given him a taste of the brush?

Response: Yes, spanking is foreplay, but it's a lot more than that.  It fixes my head on several different levels.  I've written a lot about this on the blog.  There is no better stress relief.

The frequency of spankings at our house varies depending upon what else is happening in our lives.  It's once a week for sure, twice a week on average, three or four times in a week if I'm fortunate.

As for the brush, I know it very, very well.  My husband's favorite implement is a curved handled body brush.  But he does all of the spanking.  Neither of us have any interest in switching.

Question: Three or four times a week? Wow, is your bottom ever not sore or red? I'm guessing some of the spankings are playful and short?

Response: Even if I get spanked four times a week, there is usually plenty of time when my bottom is not red and sore.  As one is spanked more frequently, his or her bottom tends to become tougher and more resistant to damage.  As a result, there are times when even a half hour later, there is no evidence a spanking happened.  This depends a lot upon the implements used, severity, and the state of my body.

Some spankings are short and playful, it's true.  Others are more serious.  It depends upon why we are spanking and what we hope to achieve.

Question: Hope you dont mind me asking?? Do you get spanked always for fun/sex play etc or is it a lifestyle choise like CDD LDD is your husband your H O H ?

Response: I don't mind your question at all.  I created a blog so I could exchange thoughts with friends new and old.

It's difficult to summarize the lifestyle that my husband Randy and I share in a single label.  I wouldn't characterize us as a DD (or CDD or LDD) couple.  I am submissive and he has my consent to spank whenever he believes it is necessary or beneficial.  But he doesn't punish based upon my behavior (or lack thereof).  If he chose to do so, I would accept it.  But that's not our dynamic.

We do enjoy a lot of playful/sexy spankings.  These enrich our relationship and strengthen the bond between us.  They hurt, of course, but not excessively so.

Comment: I just wanted to let you know that you've helped me accept what has been rolling around in my head and heart for a very long time.  I'm still working up the courage to bring it up with my wife of 20 years, but I think I get a little closer to that everyday. Hopefully I'll get there before we're too old to do anything about it.

Response: Best wishes with your quest to release your inner self!  May you both find great joy.

Question: Hi just somehow found your bottom on my phone pc, I would love to be able to put my palm on your bum xx. Do you have more photos, thanks xx.

Response: You found my bottom on your phone? Next time, I'll be more careful where I sit.

Question: Where do you purchase those cute little panties you wear?

Response: Actually, Randy buys a lot of them for me. He likes to dress me in lingerie and have me model it for his pleasure. Many of my underthings come from Nordstrom or Macy's.

Question: can i touch u?

Response: Not even if you learn to spell.

That's about it until next time!


OldFashionedGirl said...

Hi Bonnie
Thanks for the survey link, interesting stuff. 18% and 7%, what is that about one in five men and just one in 13 women? That's a lot of spanko people in any room at any one time.
I've got a business meeting today which will be boring and I can now play the spot the spanko game - which one is the one in five...

Hermione said...

Hi Bonnie,

What a wonderful variety of mail you get! I hope the person working up the courage to tell his wife finds the strength to do so soon. If he reads this, he'll know I'm rooting for him too.

So your bottom is on someone's phone? Let's hope your number didn't end up there as well.


Anonymous said...

Thank you Bonnie for your very insightful answers.

mohd hafifi said...

come here from Malaysia =)

SP said...

Wow, those stats are a lot higher than I thought! I always figured 1%-5% of the population might be spankos. lol. Hard to know how accurate though.
Thanks for this posting. Some questions/comments are so funny!

Anastassia said...

How in the world do you get so many readers to actually ask you questions and what not? I've been trying to make my blog easily accessible, even made a page JUST for questions and comments, made it look different and a little brighter than just black and red, and still nothing. Seriously, how do you do it?!

Also, I love reading your stuff. ^.^

Lea said...

Thanks for sharing Bonnie, and as always, thanks for the wonderful resource you provide to the spanking community.

Cara Bristol said...

Your first spanking from Randy made me smile. It was so cute! There was such an innocence about it.

Indy said...

I'm way behind on blog reading, so this comment may come too late. But I still wanted to say how much I enjoyed this post. It's such a perfect illustration of why you and your blog play such a special and important role in our community.


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