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Here's a new bit of participatory fun. Our friend, Carly, recently published a photograph and invited readers to write a story based upon this image.

I hope you'll check it out and join in if you like.

Swiss Ball Chair Makes Sitting a Little Easier

For many of us, there are times when sitting just isn't all that comfortable. Hey, it happens. As we often hear, spankings are supposed to hurt. And hurt they do, sometimes for hours after the swatting has ceased.

Today, there is a new option for easing the pain of a spanked bottom. A firm know as JumpUSA has released a chair with a seat that is an inflated rubber ball. Just as air sole shoes can ease walking, this chair allows a punished posterior to ride on a cushion of air.

I could use one of those!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Sep 28

Wow, thanks, everybody, for the great birthday celebration suggestions. During brunch, I don’t generally interject my opinion with each comment. I prefer to allow the conversation to progress on its own course. Today, however, I feel the need to provide feedback, so I have added some supplemental thoughts.

So far, I have received a very pretty necklace and earring set, new drop-seat PJs(!), and several impromptu spankings. Randy tells me there is more to come.

I am very grateful for your well wishes and creative ideas.

Anon VII: Hey, surely this question isn't really necessary, except in terms of details, now is it? (Evil Smile) Have a good one!

It is definitely all about getting the details right.

Sara: HAPPY BIRTHDAY BONNIE! :)

Thank you, Sara. It’s been quite happy so far.

Carly: Oh, what would be a delicious birthday treat? Let's see, it definitely requires a complete, beautiful, private space (sound-proof, of course), a bottle of champagne for the celebration, a new sexy outfit, and lots of long, intense, personal attention to your backside from Randy!

OK, that sounds fantastic. Hon, are you reading this?

Anna: After being crowned "Queen for the Day", I think you should be treated to a fabulous breakfast in bed, an extended trip to the day spa of your choice, a five star dinner, where you will be informed that your birthday gift is your dream vacation, a perfect birthday spanking and sex that makes fireworks on the 4th of July seem tame. And Randy should blog it all for us.

I love it! I knew it would be a good idea to ask our readers.

OliviaManners: Happy Birthday Bonnie! I was thinking...

However many years are marked by your birthday today should determine how may wishes you get to make. Each wish is something that will involve Randy (and perhaps a hand or a hairbrush) So, for example, if you are 41, you write down 41 wishes (whatever they may be!) on separate pieces of paper, folded up, and placed in a jar. Over the next 41 days, Randy would pick one out of the jar and make your wish come true! Each day you wouldn't know which one he had picked, so each day would have a lovely air of surprise to it!

It would be a lovely extended celebration and lots of what you wish for. ;-) I hope you have a very special day today.

That’s a great suggestion, Olivia. But Randy might not go for it. He thinks I have expensive tastes.

Daisy: Happy Birthday, Bonnie!

Queen for the day?
Absolutely NO WAY!
Bonnie is Queen
Of the spanko scene
Randy's her king,
Giving great spankings!
And for her special day,
He must go all the way.
The spanking of the year
Really wail her rear...
The spank that beats all other
For our beloved spanko mother!
She’s our queen forevermore
Respected, loved, adored!
There must be a super celebration
For the Queen of the spanko nation!

Well, I never claimed to be a poet... So spank me! ;) ha ha

Go, Randy! Give her the birthday spanking to surpass all others, then a night to remember... ;)

Hugs, Bonnie, have a wonderful day! Love and feather pillows to you, my dear friend!

This suggestion is probably pretty close to what Randy had in mind. Thanks for the rhyme!

DG UK: Happy Birthday, and what a fun idea. Your way of celebrating shows your and Randy's openness and generosity, and all I can offer as a suggestion, is that however you celebrate, you are left feeling as your blog has often left me feeling... Smiling, known, and laughing.

Whatever Randy decides to give you for your birthday, I hope you have a fantastic time!

DG, that’s very sweet. Thank you!

Jessica: Happy birthday! You have posted a few fun creative birthday spankings. I don't think I can top what you've already done. Perhaps a stroll down memory lane? A few smacks with different implements in ranges of years of your life. My husband did that for his birthday (I got the spanks, of course). Easy spanks for the first ten years. A different style when we met. A harsh spanking during the times we had stress etc. Fun!

Thanks, Jess. We’ve done that one before, but it might be fun to repeat now that there are more years to recount.

Prefectdt: Happy birthday Bonnie and may you have many more. I have three suggestions.

1. The obvious one (well that’s going to happen whatever else you choose to do, isn't it?).


2. You can switch for the day and Randy can find out what he's been missing out on.


3. You could relax for the day while Randy takes the burden of answering all the annoying emails that you don't want to be bothered with. He can take breaks to bring you coffee/food/champagne etc.

Whatever you do, enjoy your birthday.

Thanks for your suggestions. The first is a indeed a given, though the circumstance, setting, and technique are yet to be determined. I can say with certainty that Randy has no interest in learning about what he’s missed. I think the third idea is downright hilarious. I don’t think I could convince him to answer my e-mail, but I’d love to see some of his responses.

Michael: Probably one of the nicest birthday presents you could receive from your top would be for him to become the bottom for the day. That way, you can bring to the surface all those things that you would like him to do when he is topping you, but which you, as the bottom, have been unable to request. You can get him to do those little service jobs that you would so enjoy being told to do. You can lecture and admonish him in the way you would like to be spoken to and you can give him that style of punishment or harshness of strokes which you crave, but have been unable to ask for without embarrassment. As the bottom, he has to take it all in good humour and with fortitude and respect.

Once the day is over, you don't discuss it in any detail, but in, say, couple of day’s time, you resume your position as the bottom and he gives you the topping session you have always wanted, but didn't dare ask for. Whatever you do, have a good one.

Michael, that would certainly be different! However, as I say, our respective roles really define our relationship in many ways and they fit us well. There isn’t much for which I would hesitate to ask if I truly wanted it.

Jim (switch): Linda Goodman wrote, “A Libra's best quality is the art of conversation. They are fantastic conversationalists. Although, when discussing any subject, you may find the conversation leading back toward their favorite topic of interest...”

Fits like a glove!

On your birthday you deserve the best things in life, for people like us: sparkling champagne and stinging love.

She really nailed my personality, didn’t she? Thanks for your suggestions and your well wishes!

Girl: Hmm, what to get for Bonnie's birthday? Well, I think Randy should be nice and exclude the Mother of All Paddles from your b-day shenanigans. I would call on my own spank-tastic previous birthdays for celebration ideas, but I've only had one and your arrangement somewhat differs from mine.

But, as to your butt... Well, this is terrible, I'm sure Randy will do something spectacular. Perhaps he could pick a shade of icing on your cake to match the colour he aims for on your bottom with? I do so enjoy things that match.

I do like the idea of Randy having to record the event though, and give your weary blogging fingers a rest.

Thanks for your suggestions. I’m all for skipping the MOAP, but if history provides a guide, that probably won’t happen. As it turns out, Randy is good at coordinating colors as long as they are reds and pinks. That idea could work. I’m not sure whether I could get Randy to write up the event, but he just might. I know it would be fun for our readers.

Hermione: Since spankings and chocolate are your favourite things, I suggest, in no particular order: a chocolate birthday cake, a massage with chocolate-scented oil, some fun with chocolate body paint (I hope Randy loves chocolate as much as you do) and a spanking with a giant Hershey bar.

Have fun celebrating!

How well you know me! Those are my favorites!

Terpsichore: Happy Birthday and however the two of you decide to celebrate, whether a night on the town, candle lit dinner, day at the spa... followed by lovemaking and the spanking of your dreams. Have a wonderful time! :-)

Those are some lovely thoughts, Terpsichore. Thank you!

Roissy Fille: Happy Birthday Bonnie! I wish you a wonderful year ahead.
Love and many delicious spankings

That’s very sweet. Thanks!

Mike: Happy Birthday, Bonnie! I think Randy probably knows better than any of us what a perfect birthday would be for you.

I just hope it's something you can't help to think about everyday until your next one.

He does know how to make a birthday special, but in the name of trying new things, he wanted to place this one in the hands of the MBS readership. Both of us are delighted by the initial results.

Paul: Happy birthday, Bonnie. I have no doubt that Randy knows exactly what to offer you on your birthday. Our birthdays took Mel to just a little past her expected limits and left her crying with happiness and many orgasms. Have a good one dear friend and many more.

It’s been a great birthday so far and the celebration has not yet concluded.

Anon #1: May your birthday be sweet and spicy exactly as you like it.

I sure do like sweet and spicy! Thank you!

I-Gal: Happy Birthday, Bonnie. Have a great day!

Thanks!

Raheretic: We practice a slightly enhanced birthday commemoration tradition that harkens back to the origins of the use of C. P. as a birthday ritual. In early times, whippings were administered around special holidays, including birthdays, because they blessed the recipient with fertility, or health, or good fortune in the year ahead.

I believe that the intensity of the spanking one receives surrounding his/her birthday correlates directly with the amount of good fortune the birthday celebrant will experience in the year ahead. Now in that we all certainly wish you nothing but greatest good luck in the year ahead, we could wish you too nothing but the most severe whipping ever to create the happiest and best of fortune for you in the year ahead.

Have the happiest of happiests.

Fertility? Eek! I’d prefer to stick with just health and good fortune. Anyhow, on that scale, this is shaping up to be a pretty fine year ahead. Thanks!

Daisy: To those suggesting a switch, I definitely get the impression, folks, that this is not something either Bonnie or Randy enjoy. They have the best communication channels between them of anyone I know. Bonnie can always tell Randy what she wants, and on the other hand, Randy knows Bonnie so well, I bet he already knew what she wanted! They are soulmates. Randy is indulging our egos. I bet he already has his surprise planned. He wouldn't have left it this late to plan her special day!

Have fun, you two, and may many happy years lie ahead!

No worries, Daisy. I’m not offended by suggestions that we switch. It just isn’t our game.

Randy has shared some birthday presents and fun already, but I believe his main plan really was to hand the question over to our brunchers. I anticipate we will follow through on the selected suggestion(s) within the next week or so.

Morningstar: What more can I offer after all these wonderful suggestions? Except, may you have a spanking good day and 'wail' of a year ahead.

Aw, thanks!

D & S: We would not have the cheek to ask your age, but birthday spankings usually mean a number of spanks equal to the number of years. We are sure that would not alone do justice to that oh-so-spankable bottom of yours. Why not make a day of it? When you arose, you would go over Randy's knee for a birthday spanking (the full number!) with his hand. At lunch time, it would be a glass of champagne with another birthday spanking with a hairbrush this time. The, before you go out for your birthday dinner, you could touch your toes for the thin cane on your skirt. When you get home, it's over the sofa back, skirt up, knickers down, for your final birthday spanking with a paddle (not the MOAP). After all this, you will be perfectly placed for your final birthday gift from Randy.

Have a great and glowing day.

I’ve gotten it good today, but not quite that good, at least not so far! Thanks.

Our Bottoms Burn: I think you should get exactly what you want from Randy.

What I want? What do you think this is, my birthday? Hey, wait…

D: Happy Birthday, Bonnie!
Here’s an idea. Rent a suite at a swanky hotel and let the hotel guests wonder what's up with all that noise? ;)

Good wishes and many happy spanks!

Thanks, D. I think something similar happens almost every time we travel. We try to be discrete, but sometimes we get rather involved in what we’re doing.

Kimmy: Randy should get Bonnie a spanking bench as Bonnie has even said she wants one, but doesn't have one.

I *love* that idea! Strap me down, honey!

K: I don't have any new suggestions for how to celebrate, but have a wonderful birthday and enjoy your birthday spanking.

Thank you!

Marcus: Happy Birthday!

Thanks. It’s been mighty happy so far.

HMG: I suggest a trip down memory lane together. Remembering the best of the best times together would be fun for both of you. Maybe it could be along the lines of the old TV show, “This is your Life.”

I really like the idea of Randy blogging about this particular celebration of your life. Maybe even either a joint blog or both of you sharing each from your own perspective.

I think also that since you recently celebrated an anniversary for the blog that you should get two birthday presents 1) what he already has planned for you which I'm sure will be yummy, and 2) Him choosing three of the best suggestions and surprising you with them at his discretion. It would be nice to catch a glimpse of his mind concerning how he comes up with such wonderful plans for you.

I like the concept of “This is your (Spanko) Life.” I’ve never had much luck with getting Randy to blog though. He is much more interested in doing things than writing about doing them. But all he can say is, “No, thank you.”

We did enjoy a blogaversary spanking. True to his word, leather was the theme of the evening. He will choose one or more of these suggestions for an upcoming celebration.

Terpsichore: Wow! I want all of you to whisper ideas to my husband when my birthday comes around :-) Hope you are having a great day, Bonnie :-)

If he reads this blog, you can considered the whispering done.

Blogger Greenwoman: *grins* Happy Birthday Bonny. You've got some great suggestions here, don't you?

I imagine a very soft romantic dinner, a little dancing, and a very intense spanking ...and well, I'm sure you can figure out the rest. *grins*

Have a lovely day!

These are marvelous suggestions, yours included. Thanks!

Papa Woodie: Congrats and Happiest of Birthday Wishes!

Hopefully, he has already decided just what you need and desire.

We're just hoping you'll share some of the delicious delights with us all in an upcoming post!

Actually, Randy’s primary plan was to allow all of you to suggest a proper celebration. He likes to try a new approach every year. This year’s idea is a participatory plan.

I do plan to blog about whatever happens.

Radha: Happy Birthday, Queen B! I'm sure whatever you choose to do will be great!

Thank you!

Maryann: Happy birthday. How about another moving spanking like the limo story? Boat, plane, train...?

As far as I know, this isn’t going to be one of those planes, trains, and automobiles sort of birthdays. But with Randy, I can never be entirely certain.

Skellos: Happy Birthday, Bonnie! I hope you enjoy Bonnieday! Here are a few suggestions for you and Randy.

1. Have him take you to your favorite place, or better still have him make your favorite meal and dessert.


2. I'm sure it goes without saying that you two will be enjoying some quality intimate times, but I had to throw it on the list of things to do. LOL


3. Have him light a few candles and give you a bath while you enjoy a glass of wine.

Once again, Happy Birthday!

Thank you, Skellos. Those are all favorites and I appreciate you suggesting them.

Dragonmage: I have nothing to add to the list of ideas already here, but I certainly want to wish you a wonderfully happy birthday from myself and luvbunny.

Thanks to you both!

Well, I guess the next move is Randy’s. I posted the question. You answered it. Now, he gets to figure out which suggestion(s) he likes best. As I say, I will be blogging more about this subject as I learn more. Thanks, again, to one and all!

MBS Spanko Brunch #141

Yes, today is my birthday. It's a red letter bottom day!

In honor of the occasion, Randy has selected a special discussion question.

How should Randy and Bonnie celebrate her birthday?

If you would like to offer your suggestions, at least some of which I have been assured will be accepted, just leave a comment below. Once readers have had a chance, I will post an edited summary of everyone's ideas.

Bonnie's Mailbag

It’s been ages since we opened the mailbag. It’s so full that I can barely lift it! Let’s dig right in.

Question: So is ur butt soft or hard?

Response: I’d put it midway between a granite block and a feather pillow.

Question: How do I join your group? I have been reading your entries for quite some time and I can't help but say I admire your work and wish I could say so on the blog itself. Plus, I'd like to be able to join the discussions. They are quite interesting. Can you tell me how to join? I would appreciate it.

Response: There really isn't any formal group to join. This is my blog and I enjoy posting my thoughts and experiences. I am fortunate to have loyal readers, many of whom add comments. Some have accounts with Blogger, while others prefer to remain anonymous.

In any case, your perspectives are always welcome at MBS.

Comment: I would love to spank u i HAVE 25 YEARS IN PNISHING BRATS

Response: Um, hello. I’m not a brat and I don’t need to be pnished, especially by someone I’ve not even met.

Question: u said a while back that u had spanking posts like actual spankings i think u said either halloween or christmas and some other ones but u said that u was tierd or didnt feel up to it or u was busy with other stuff i was wondering if u was going to post them if u still remembered them.

Response: If I don't record an account within a few days, I forget the precious details. If I haven't written about those experiences before now, it just isn't going to happen. Fortunately, I have no shortage of new material. I lack only the time and energy necessary to transform it into stories. Such is life...

Question: My girlfrined and I started our first spanking last wknd. We each layed on the bed while the other gave the swats with our hands. When do you think it would be proper to do away with the hands and bring in a paddle? My girl acted like she loved giving the swats, but when it come to her time she only wanted to stay with the medium swats while I took the hard swats which was full swing with the hand. Any advice would sure be appriciated.

Response: I think it would be beneficial for you and your girlfriend to discuss your experience, how you felt about it, and how best to proceed. Assuming you are both consenting adults and a few basic safety rules are observed, there really isn't any definitive right or wrong approach, except in the context of one couple's relationship.

I recognize that it can be difficult to talk about these topics, but it truly is best. It's great to experiment and have fun with it. Do the things that you both enjoy. Through open communication, you may discover that you share more new desires.

In any case, I doubt you'll ever do away with hands. That skin-to-skin contact is just too delicious to skip. You may add implements in the future, but for most of us, hands maintain a special status.

Question: I live in the ______ area and am interested in being spanked. I never have been before. I am in a long term relationship, but would like to be spanked outside of it. Obviously, my need for discretion cuts off a few avenues that newbies would normally go down. I don't feel the need, nor would I, look to professionals for this...but I have to imagine there is someone (female) out there who would be willing to indulge me? I am 35 and relatively fit/attractive. What would you suggest?

Response: I’m not aware of anyone in _______ who fits your description, but I believe there are spanking-oriented groups in your general area. You can find them with a Web search or listed in your local alternative newspaper. These folks may be able to help you make a connection. There’s also Craig’s List or similar personal ads. These are no panacea, but I know they work for some people.

With that said, I would devote a lot of thought and reflection before deciding to endanger your LTR as you describe. While I recognize that sexual intimacy and spanking aren’t necessarily always connected, for many of us, one naturally follows the other. If you love your partner, I must urge caution.

Question: I have a question about a particular acronym that I've heard used here and other places and would rather not look like a moron for asking. What does DH mean in terms of a spanking or DD or D/s relationship?

Response: The acronym DH is used almost exclusively in the context of domestic discipline. It stands for dominant husband (although I have seen disciplinary husband and dear husband as well). It means a husband who accepts the leadership role and disciplines his wife, typically through spanking. HOH (head of household) is another frequently used DD term that has a similar meaning.

Question: Is there any way to search your blog?

Response: Yes. There is a search box at the left side of the Blogger bar at the top of each page.

Question: In your recent post, you stated the eight elements that would make you not want to link a blog. Among those elements, you listed a word which I am unclear on the meaning. What is misogyny? I can better understand your reasoning if I am made clear on the definition of the word.

Response: A misogynist is a person who hates women. This is my shorthand for people who believe that we are intrinsically inferior and deserve to be beaten by men. Naturally, I totally reject this perspective and will not allow my blog to be used to advance it.

Question: My husband like to get spankings and I love giving them (although I'm not dom, I just love to give my husband what he wants). So, here's my question... how many men vs. women like to recieve spankings? I ask this because I would LOVE to take him to a party to recieve a spanking from another woman, but from what I've found, it seems like it's all women recieving.

Response: You ask an interesting question and one to which I don't know the complete answer. There are certainly more female spankees who blog, but I'm not sure that's necessarily reflective of the overall population.

Here are the results from a poll I did of my readers a year ago.

I recognize that MBS readers are not exactly a cross-section of all spanking enthusiasts, but it’s the best measure I have. I was delighted by the variety of different perspectives and orientations.

There are several blogs written by male spankees. The most popular of these is Spanked Hubby. Mike is a nice guy and very helpful.

Here is the blog of an interesting woman who is a switch. Sandy can offer a different flavor of insight.

I believe what you seek is out there, but it may take some looking.

Comment: You keep go'in girl

Response: I’m a-goin’ all right

Comment: Some of the links in your blogroll are not showing "Updated" even when they are.

Response: I use a service called Blogrolling to manage my external links. Most of the time, it works pretty well, but they have experienced some messy lapses over the past couple of years. The problem you observed is a disappointment, but not a surprise. Someday, when I’m feeling truly inspired, I may move all of those links. But that’s not a chore I relish.

Question: Will you exchange links with my commercial site?

Response: I’ve documented my linking policy a number of times (most recently here). Basically, I don’t generally link commercial sites unless they are truly spanking-oriented and offer considerable free content.

Question: If this is Bonnie answer, if not forget it. Do you like to spank men? I wonder what it is like. I have never been spanked or dominated by a women.

Response: Yes, I’m still Bonnie. No, I don’t spank anyone.

Question: have you ever been spanked on the bare bum while having your period? di your mum ever do that to you?
would you sell me your used tampons and sani pads for me to enjoy while reading ur site pls?

Response: I’ve had guys offer to buy my underwear before, but this request is a first. I believe postal regulations prohibit the transport of hazardous materials.

Question: Have you spanked Randy or anybody else?

Response: Nope.

Question: The last spanking I experienced was a little over two weeks ago and it has me concerned. It was by far the best spanking I have ever had. The spanker knew exactly what I needed and took me to a place I have never been before. The spanking started out normally enough, if spanking can be said to be normal. Then it escalated and became the most severe of my spanking life. Afterward, and for the next several days, whenever I moved I was reminded of the spanking. It was perfect. That perfection is the cause of my concern. Although I have thought of getting another spanking, I really have no desire to be spanked. I am apprehensive that no spanking will ever be as wonderful as my last was. Is it possible to be so perfectly spanked that you never need or want another?

Response: I seriously doubt that will be a permanent problem. If you’re anything like me, the itch will return in time.

Question: Is it really possible to be your age and have such a spankable backside like that?

Response: Absolutely!

Comment: You have a very gorgeous ass. I bet your gorgeous ass is spanked & fucked a lot. I know if I were there with you, I'd spank & fuck your ass all the time.

Response: Excuse me, but what ever happened to hello?

Comment: howe are you?
i think you need a spank?
i can do it.,

Response: At least this guy asked me how(e) I was before offering to wail on me.

Comment: What i would do to that backside........

Response: In your dreams, my friend, only in your dreams.

Question: Do you like showing panty lines?

Response: It’s not something I spend a lot of time worrying about. My fashion sense leans toward the practical. If it’s comfortable, functional, and looks good, that’s what I want to wear.

Question: As you get older, do you find your appetite for spanking diminishing?

Response: No, not at all.

Thanks, everyone for your messages.

Three Years ...and Still Counting

It was three years ago today that I took my first tentative step into the world of blogging. I remember it well. It was an overcast Saturday. I was slightly tender from a trip over Randy's lap the night before and I was feeling inspired.

I had followed spanking blogs for months and found several I really liked. It occurred to me that I too had something to say about the subject. I thought that my perspective, as a long-time fan of recreational spanking, wasn't very well represented at that time. I also knew that I had a store of spanking stories that I wanted to share with like-minded readers.

Randy and I had a long talk about blogging before I ever began. We discussed issues such as privacy, safety, decorum, and my general approach. He agreed to help me set up a blog, but after that, it would be mine to manage.

I took the big jump and then... Nothing. For the first several weeks, I barely had a single comment. I posted some of the very best material from my archive, but almost no one saw it and even fewer commented. I nearly gave up and moved to a new creative project. Randy encouraged me to persevere. He said he knew that lots of people would like my stories, once they were discovered.

He was right, of course. Angelbrat found this blog and graciously shared the word. Soon, most of the major spanko blogs had my link and curious readers began to make their way to MBS.

This blog would not exist without the generous support of many friends over the past three years. I make a point of aiding new bloggers because I want to see their blogs grow and thrive as this one has. I believe in paying forward and embracing the natural progression of life. It's reassuring to know that when I hang up my keyboard, friends will be here to carry on.

In the world of blogging, as with most creative endeavors, there are few truly original ideas. Most of what we do is in some fashion derivative from what came before. I've been able to add a few nuances and I am gratified that some of them have been adapted elsewhere. By sharing freely, our entire community grows stronger. Three years in, this vision remains unchanged.

Managing a busy blog can be strange, interesting, and fun. I'll be highlighting the strange part in an upcoming mailbag segment (insert eye-roll here). The interesting includes the privilege of meeting and talking with so many great people. The fun lies in the paradox that while I may think I am completely in control, I seldom know what is going to happen next.

I think it's worth mentioning again that I could not manage this blog without assistance. Hermione has been particularly helpful in terms of managing my blogroll and providing much-needed common sense. In addition, I've had hundreds of contributors, guests authors, and e-mail correspondents, thousands of commenters, and hundreds of thousands of readers. I am humbly grateful to all of you.

Then there's Randy. This is a man who claims he isn't involved with the blog, but dispenses his two cents worth in dollar increments. His instincts, while quite different from mine, are usually on target. He tells me that a third anniversary calls for leather (he's right, I looked it up!), so I guess I have some idea what sort of celebration to expect tonight.

I have no plans to make major changes around here, but I do tweak things periodically. As always, I welcome your suggestions. Some of my favorite posts originated with a reader's great idea. I'm glad that you allow MBS to be a part of your life and delighted you are a part of ours.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Sep 21

Our topic was canes and caning. Here are your thoughts.

D: I have never been caned. It looks very painful and from what I can see it leaves quite the impression for some time. I am curious and would like to try it at least once.

Brambleberry Blush: Canes?! The marks alone are enough to convince me that I couldn't take it, but I felt that way about big paddles a year ago too. So who knows? Maybe I will someday.

Jai: No! I hate the cane! I got out of a bad relationship with an ex-boyfriend who abused the cane and, through that, abused me. Now that I've connected with an official Dom, he knows that I have a fear of the cane. So far, he hasn't said he would use it on me.

Maybe in the future, I can allow myself to be caned again, but for the time being, I can't handle the cane or the emotions it would bring up.

Anon #1: I've been caned. I could take a few strokes, but not all that many (maybe 20). I preferred it to the large wooden paddle he had and it was a welcome break from his rubber paddle. I always find that a change can really make a difference, even if it is to another ouchy item.

Todd: I went many, many years without ever using a cane. It's something I wasn't exposed to growing up. I didn't even know what it was until I found spanking on the internet. Even then, my spanking partners had no interest in canes. That was probably for the same reason – they weren't exposed to canes growing up in the US. Paddles, belts and hairbrushes are far, far more common.

A couple of years ago, at our first spanking party, Suzy and I got to watch a caning scene live. It was pretty interesting, and something that Suzy wanted to experience. I have to admit though that it still wasn't my thing. The idea of 'crossing lines' or causing a cut kind of freaked me out.

So... Suzy had some sessions at parties with experienced tops. I picked up some tips and got more comfortable with it. A few months ago, we ordered some canes from Cane-iac. We bought several different types including classic rattan school-type canes to some pretty harsh synthetic ones.

We have played several times with them, and I have enjoyed myself (as has Suzy). I do keep it light though. No more than pushing to the edge of moderate. I just don't want to cause an injury.

The fact remains that canes still aren't a part of my 'spanking DNA.' I just don't have that connection with them. They're good for having some fun, and I will continue to use them from time to time. But they'll never be “my thing.”

Em: We play with canes fairly regularly, though not as often as some of our other toys.

Jack's technique with the cane has always been more a series of light to moderate strokes very quickly. I am intrigued by the more traditional "six of the best" type caning and I would love to have a go at one sometime.

I will say that our cane is pretty ordinary. We don't have any super fancy ones. We did have a few acrylic canes once, but the thin one broke on me the first time we used it. Despite the sales lady assuring me that they don't break, I know one other couple who broke one, so they haven't made an appearance in our toy box since. Hmm... Maybe that sales lady needs a caning? *grin*

Heather: I've never been caned. I'm too scared of it. Even if my husband knew about caning, he understands that marks bring back horrible memories of an ex-boyfriend bruising me during a spanking. What happened when he bruised me was that the abuse and marks in any form became etched in my brain as something I never wanted again. While I have not given up my desire to be spanked, I certainly never want to be marked.

RPT: We have a collection of canes, conventional rattan and one nasty Lexan.

We play with them often. They are painful, but we like the marks they leave and the after-effects last for a while, which we also like.

Sometimes I just want a hard spanking and a cane does that beautifully.

Dragonmage: I got a small (cheap) rattan cane from a local shop when Luvbunny and I started exploring spanking. She hated it at first, but as I practised (on a pillow and on her ass), I got better at controlling the cane. She loves it now, so much so that I recently acquired a thicker (and nicer) rattan cane to add to the thin rattan and acrylic canes we already had.

Mrs. Smith: We have never used an actual cane, but we have used a blind twist. I HATE that thing and it is reserved for really bad occasions.

Another experience I had with a cane-like object was with a riding crop. One day, Scott and I were wrestling for it and the little leather tip ripped off. It was left as just a long skinny rod with a handle.

He used it on me a lot before he left for basic. It worked for play, for punishment, and for everything. I absolutely LOVED it. I never thought I would say that about any cane type object, but it just hurt oh so good!

I love it.

Impishh1: No cane for me! I'm the spanko, so there's no chance of my husband wanting to try one on his own. Just to make sure he keeps it straight, I tell him, "no sticks, no sticks!" That way, there's no confusion and no canes, switches, or rods of any kind! Since we do fun spanking, the whole point is to spare the rod and spoil the... well, me.

Prefectdt: I love being caned and cannot get enough of it. The great thing about canes (rattan type) is that every cane has a slightly different effect and combined with every spanker having a different style, means that every caning is (although similar) a unique experience.

The fun does not stop with the caning. Walking around after a hard caning creates a wonderful sensation in the buttocks.

For anyone new to caning, I would recommend that you try it a few times before deciding if it is for you or not. The cane is an implement that can take some getting used to.

Dr. Ken: I've never used a cane, and I don't think I ever will. In spite of its reputation as an English disciplinary tool, it just never seemed like a "spanking" implement to me.

OliviaManners: The cane is an implement that commands a lot of respect from me.

More than most other implements, I feel that it captivates us both into a certain timelessness. That is because the pace of the cane is different. It can be used with quick, sharp, stinging strokes, but more often, it is the slow, deliberate placing of each stripe, the pause between each one, the sense of a longer gaze at my bottom as he admires his work and decides where to place the next.

It is often used in my discipline sessions as the penultimate, the most formal, and the most eye-widening upon the mention of it or the sound of it swishing behind me. Oddly, it doesn't hurt me the most (that will be the plimsoll :( ), and yet, I still feel most disciplined by it.

Outside of discipline, it is also the implement that takes me most readily to the core of my submission, with an almost sacrificial quality to it. I feel bared, enduring, open, incredibly strong, and offering of myself.

The positions required for the cane are often amongst the most embarrassing and the feeling of a finger tip trailing over a fresh welt is delicious. Then, of course, there are the lasting stripes to remind you and connect you. So, if I hadn't already made it clear, I love the cane!

P.S. A friend of mine who had tried the cane once and really disliked it a few years back, recently was encouraged to try it again by someone new. He felt the reason she may have disliked the feelings was because it was being done too *lightly*. Sure enough, when he gave her a few more purposeful ones, it prompted a different sensation, with a deeper bite, that somehow just felt bearable. Now she wants to experience it more!

Helpmegrow aka HMG: My only cane experience is through reading stories and website accounts of real punishments. I have to admit that to me they are very scary things indeed. Even so I would someday like to experience it and eventually "six of the best." At this point, however, I have no idea how I would respond. Perhaps it would work as a strongly needed discipline. A girl can dream.

D & S: Yes, but we treat the cane with great respect. A heavy cane, used hard on a bare bottom will cause serious damage, and even bleeding. We use a light swishy cane about 30" long and not too hard. D tries to keep his elbow into his side, as they do in some Arabic states, which limits the force. We also very rarely cane on the bare. S wears thin jeans, stretched drum tight, and says she thinks it stings more like this, as the bottom beneath them is held so tightly, but does give some protection against long term bruising, and the cane makes a lovely 'thwack' on the tight denim. She loves to feel the stripes still tingling her bottom the next day, or making her fidget on her chair.

PK: None of my fantasies ever included the cane when I was growing up. I like something wide and flat. Since I am the spanko, I doubt Nick would decide to try it with out my suggestion. He has used the shaft of the crop and I didn't like it too much. He switched me once and while it hurt like the dickens. I would be willing to try it again in moderation. There were a few marks, but I liked them. If Nick did decide he wanted to try a cane, I would be willing to at least give it a try.

Jim: For me, the cane is champagne!

Suzanne: For me, the cane is the ultimate punishment. Just my husband mentioning it is enough to straighten me out REAL quick. In our house, it’s only used for really bad punishments. Although I hate it, I have to admit that it does put me back in that submissive state that my husband demands of me.

Paul: Mel hated the cane for punishment, but loved it for scenes. It was the marks she loved. Many times I would catch her in the bedroom admiring her marks or unconsciously running her fingers over the marks with a smile. I had to ration her canings or else her bottom would never heal.

Soma: I don't think I will ever try the cane. It scares the hell out of me. I'm not sure why. If it were ever used, I'm sure it would only be for very, very serious punishments. But the person who spanks me now has never used the cane, and like me, he doesn't have an interest in using it either. Maybe it's not as bad as I think it is, but just the reactions of spankee's in the few video clips I've seen are enough to scare me away from it.

PM Duo: We've never used a cane. I have to admit that I'm curious and would probably be willing to give it a try. However, it scares me a little! I kind of doubt that I could ever get him to use one. He worries about marks and pain despite my repeated assurances that I love both!

Hermione: We have never used a cane. I am curious and would like to try it, although I might be sorry I did. I have read many enthusiastic reports about them, most notably how Abby Learned to Love the Cane. I think that if I got the cane after being very well warmed up, I might enjoy it.

When I asked Ron what his thoughts were regarding caning, he said it had never occurred to him, and that it would probably deliver more pain than I would really want. He couldn't imagine beating me with a rigid walking stick. He did say it was up to me and if it was something I really wanted to try he would go along with it.

But do I or don't I?

Anon #2: My wife and I actually have three different canes, a light one, and two heavier ones. We are very careful in how we use them. Used properly, they need not be dangerous or even uncomfortable! The effect can be just delightfully stingy if you use them lightly – especially a number of light, quick strokes with the light cane.

We have shared our techniques with some couples with whom we play with and no one has found them objectionable when used correctly.

When my wife is in the mood for stronger or heavier play, canes are very effective. They also have such a strong history that their use adds greatly to the psychological aspects of spanking play!

Raheretic: I've used canes a good bit and have a collection of canes and rods of a variety of materials, thicknesses, and lengths. My favorites are Deluxe Canes of select rattan, with the excellent treatment Adam & Gillian’s uses to prepare them. I have had a lot of success with delryn canes too.

My swan had never been caned when we first met. One of our most momentous early sessions was her first caning. I'd played with her head for weeks in advance of the caning (we were in a long distance relationship then). When the time came, I was (uncharacteristically) merciful. She was actually disappointed. The experience had not lived up to the "build up" I'd given it. It had been anti-climactic for her. It was very early on in our relationship. I didn't want to risk so severely traumatizing her that she felt it was unsafe to continue with me. The next time we were together I flayed her bottom for her so that she never complained about the laxness of a caning again.

Swan has come to love the cane, and if we go too long between canings, she will begin to long to have her bottom striped again. I usually work some amount of caning in most of our spankings, and sometimes caning is the essence of the event.

Recently we lost our favorite cane to breakage. swan led the way in our search of the Internet for a suitable replacement. Finally securing a worthy cane from Adam & Gillian’s, she was thrilled until I switched in the air. Then she assumed that tremendously paradoxical visage that somehow combines blushing lust, excitement, consternation, and terror. I had her undress immediately so we could resolve her dilemma. :)

Our Bottoms Burn: I am frankly surprised that so many readers of MBS have a fear of the cane. Sure it can be a terror, but it does not have to be. I think a single tail whip is something to be feared more than a cane. While I don’t think most readers of MBS are into real pain, I know a cane can be used with awe-inspiring effect for both parties. Try a short whippy cane. Swoosh!

Eliane: I really don't like the cane much. It's a very intense kind of a pain, but I like the marks afterwards ;-) Then again, I could probably say that about most stuff I'm spanked with!

Greenwoman: I've tentatively tried a few times with my husband. He's been very gentle with these early experiments. The jury is still out for me. I think I'd like to try it someone with someone who's really got a love for canes. I have taken note that people who really love to spank with an implement tend to use it quite masterfully. My husband isn't partial to it, so I doubt he'll get to that place with it that I'd like to experience before I fully make up my mind about it. Mostly, I think that it might deliver more pain than I can handle.

Cookie: I don't particularly like the cane at all. I do enjoy watching canes being used in the videos or others, but I hate having one used on me for more then just a few playful swats. Although the cane actually doesn't have the same effect as a brush, I feel that is worse because the effects last longer and it can be given longer and harder. I am not sure though, but if I had the choice, I’d rather take a cane stroke then one from a brush.

Daisy: My ex came home very drunk one night and in a bad mood. Let’s just say canes are a terrifying memory for me.

But, with my new sweetheart, I would trust him to use one without causing damage, and almost look forward to the ghost being laid to rest...

Radha: We have a couple of canes, but I've only been swatted with them on a couple of occasions. I do like the after-effects! And he likes the stripes. But, I have to admit that they don't come out as much as I'd like. They do seem scary and I think that's what I like about it.

P.S. It's so lovely to read such varied responses!

Elle: I used to fantasise about canes a lot. Growing up in the UK, it was always something of a topic for discussion and I remember some of my earliest spanking fantasies and experiments were with caning as a focus rather than "spanking."

However, I seem to have grown out of it. Previous partners used canes and I enjoyed it, but my boyfriend now would never dream of using something as painful as the cane on me. I really do prefer his hand or belt and his playful style. I wouldn't really want him to cane me as it would change the dynamic of our relationship. I like the way we are. I don't need the cane.

Carye: Yes we have tried it, but only over clothes. PS is too worried about breaking the skin with such a thin implement. It was too stingy for what I like best, but I did like that the warmth lasted for a long time!

Bonnie: As Todd says, the cane wasn’t part our spanking lore during our formative years here in the US. When I was first exposed to the concept of caning, it was through various spanking publications and later on the Internet. The depiction in those venues was frequently savage and punitive. I vividly recall photographs of unfortunate young women whose grotesque welts bordered on disfigurement.

I carried this vision with me for a number of years. I wouldn’t have considered accepting even a single stroke, let alone an entire session. Then I started talking with caning enthusiasts. As I probably should have realized, there is a whole spectrum of severity levels, just as with any serious implement. The cane can be brutal to be sure, but so can a paddle. But in the right hands, a cane can also be quite sensual.

Our cane was selected with precisely this in mind. It’s short and light. I imagine it might break if Randy were to crank back and swing it like a tennis racket. His technique consists of a large number of repetitive short, quick, snapping strikes. It’s more than a tap, but less than a blow. The effect for me intensifies as he continues. Within a few minutes, I achieve a delicious stinging glow. There are no visible stripes, just some redness and warmth to the touch. It’s painful, but certainly not excruciatingly so.

We don’t use the cane often. It’s more of a change of pace implement for us, but it’s definitely part of our repertoire.

Thank you all for an excellent discussion. I hope you'll join us again when we reconvene next Sunday.

MBS Spanko Brunch #140

I'm pleased that you came to visit our weekly spanko brunch. This is a virtual gathering where participants take turns sharing their insights regarding a topic related to adult spanking. I invite you to add your voice to the discussion. Everyone here is pleasant and civil. I promise.

This week's questions deal with one of those great love/hate paradoxes.

Have you and your partner(s) used a cane as a spanking implement? If so, did you like it and/or find it beneficial? How does your partner feel about it? Is the cane reserved for any particular scenario or type of spanking? If you have not tried a cane, have you any interest in experiencing it in the future?

Once everyone has had a chance to respond, I will post an edited summary of our conversation.

Keyword Chaos Reactivated

We haven't played around with search words for a couple of months, but that's easy enough to remedy.

However, before we examine the screwball keywords, I thought you might like to see the ten most popular.

1. my bottom smarts
2. bottom smarts
3. spanking
4. mybottomsmarts
5. wife spanking
6. bottomsmarts
7. spanking bench
8. spanking positions
9. spanking implements
10. spank my bottom

These are all pretty much as expected with one exception. I don't often talk about a spanking bench. That's primarily because we don't have one. But a gal can wish...

Now, let's get on with the silliness.

• forced spankings - Either you swat my bottom harder or I'm going to get really mad


• girls who choose spankings - Sisterhood of the Plummeting Pants


• medieval spanking - Oucheth!


• he mounted me - I didn't mind until he started calling me "Trigger"


• bad end nooner spanking caning - There are some things for which you simply can't prepare


• best female spankee - I'd like to thank the academy...


• big butt bonnie - I'd really like to be known for something besides that


• britsh spanking - It works best when you take the britches down first


• most painful spanking implement - It's always the one in his hand right now!


• everyday items dildo - Don't leave home without it


• fictional panty drawer - Mine is absolutely real


• footies erotic fantasies - OK, whatever


• getting spank and do oral - Could be hazardous to your, um, health


• girlfriend spanking mister poll - Don't you mean Mister Pole?


• girls see my panty waistband when I bend over - This sounds an initiation down at the plumbers' union


• girls spanking naughty - Naughty was mighty sore when it was all over


• grandma give granddaughter erotic sexy massages - You people are seriously weird


• have you been spanked with a hairbrush? - Yes, and it makes it painful to sit


• here is the sotry about spanking - Don't you just love a good sotry?


• how do I ask my husband to spank me? - "Honey, would you smack my bottom while we're making love?"


• how to give a propper spanking - Step one: turn on spell check


• I love my round rump plump bubble butt junk in trunk - You go girl! Be proud of who you are!


• I wish to wear a buttplug for extended amounts of time - So why haven't you done it?


• men spank while masturbating - They must be ambidextrous contortionists


• my sorority requires thong underwear - Everyone, line up so the sergeant-at-arms can conduct our daily panty inspections


• nanughty girls being punished - Look, it's Max Headroom!


• naughty cheerleader having sex with principle - Would that be the Peter Principle?


• professional canes and tawses - Don't mess with any amateur implement


• reasons for spanking adult - #1 She likes it


• secretarty spanking games - I believe I've met a few secretarties


• spank my bottom no kissing - Not even a little peck on the cheek?


• spanked handjob - Was there by chance a monkey involved?


• spanking addicts - My name is Bonnie and I'm a spanko


• spanking belt penetrated - I'm not picturing this, and that's probably for the best


• spanking genie - For my second wish, I'd like a pool guy who looks like Dallas


• spanking granny's backside - It's been known to happen


• spanking in Indiana - Perhaps the sequel to Sleepless in Seattle?


• spanking my bird - That's better, I suppose, than choking your chicken


• spanking on her girdle with bare bottom exposed - Which is it?


• spanking stories Randy - Those are my favorite kind!


• spanking your wives - Now, one at a time, ladies


• spanko mattress - I don't even know what this is, but I want one


• tape butt plug in place - Tape? Ew!


• what does female bottom do - Let's just say it's not purely decorative


• why is spanking such fun - Because it brings people closer together


• women getting good spankings - Those are the best kind


• women giving enemas wearing girdles - If Fellini didn't film that scene, he should have

Poll: Your Role

This poll was suggested by a loyal reader.

Which of the following best describes your role? I deliver spankings I receive spankings I both deliver and receive spankings I aspire to deliver spankings I aspire to receive spankings I aspire to both deliver and receive spankings What's all this I hear about spankings? Current Results

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Sep 14

Our topic this week was whether a spankee's thighs were a fair target. Here are your thoughts.

Carye: Yes, they're OK by me, but please go easy! I do like it as a change up :-) But, I need to wear pants then! LOL! Yes, PS agrees:-)

Ninian: Acceptable? Yes. Front, back, outer, and (for a bit more ouchie), inner.

Of course, that's from someone who's most often a spanker rather than a spankee. ;)

Maryann: I love for my thighs to be spanked! It definitely hurts worse, but Max is good about delivering only a few lighter swats to my thighs. Normally, he uses it as an attention-getter. If I escape his grasp, for instance, he'll spank my thighs a few times while demanding that I get back into place. I do love the way they feel, but I also obey in a big hurry! A little of that goes a long way!

Dr. Ken: They're an acceptable target as a change of pace. You know, spank the bottom, then apply a few smacks to the thighs, then go back to the bottom, and repeat as necessary.

The thighs do tend to be a more sensitive area, though, so as has already been mentioned, you should probably lighten up on the amount of force used when spanking that area.

Prefectdt: Oh yes, yes, yes. I love getting some action on the thighs. Strap, cane, or flogger in that order are my favorite for that region.

Dragonmage: I would say the back of the thighs is certainly an acceptable target for spanking, as a change at least. I tend to not target Luvbunny's thighs as much during the summer due to swimming suits and visible marks and all that. But swimming season is over for the year...

Luvbunny seems to be of two minds on this. She loves it and she hates it. ^_^

Indy: I don't mind the sensation, and I like the change of pace too. But I don't like any marks on my thighs, as I swim for exercise, albeit somewhat irregularly. If I had a regular partner who knew me well, I wouldn't mind. But I mark pretty easily, so I find it easier just to place the thighs off limits. Especially for wooden spoons!

PM Duo: Absolutely! I love the feeling, although it definitely hurts more. I also like that it leaves some nice bruises! Except for the bruising part, he agrees. He hates bruising me.

Heather: I've never been spanked on the thighs before. So honestly, I couldn't tell you how acceptable it would be. From the sounds of what everyone says, it hurts like nothing I've ever seen. So to go based upon what I've heard, I would have to say no. Everyone who has ever spanked me has done so exclusively on the bottom.

Daisy: Oh, yuk! It HURTS! So, no, I don't think it’s acceptable, and for that reason, he thinks it IS! He uses it to differentiate between a fun spanking and a punishment one.
He deliberately uses implements, positions, and places he knows I don't like to discipline me (how mean!). But when its a fun or erotic spanking, wow, he knows how to push the right buttons there too. So I can't complain! ;)

Haron: I can just about take an occasional smack on the upper thighs, but I'll never volunteer it as an option.

Being caned on the thighs is much easier for me. It's not an everyday thing, either, but on a couple of occasions during spanking events my bottom had had enough when my mind hadn't. Taking some cane strokes on the thighs was a good solution right then.

Thankfully, I usually get spanked by people who agree with my limits as to where smacks should land. :)

Eliane: So far, I haven't minded being spanked on my upper thighs too much. Sometimes, it's nice to give your bottom a rest for a few swats! However, I like to swim, so I do worry about bruises there. I've got a low cut swimming costume, but it's not THAT low cut!

DG UK: Goodness me, yes, Mark does. In particular for disciplinary spankings, and other types too, to "make sure I get used to" or "don't forget" the sensation. It’s such a sweetly sharp sting!

Yes, it does also increase embarrassment, both at the time and afterwards, if running in shorts, or going to the gym. I can almost feel it now!

Anon #1: NO, neither of us.

Hermione: Venturing down to the backs of the upper thighs adds variety as well as extra sting. In some positions, the dividing line between buttocks and thighs isn't as evident, and giving the thighs a few swats is often inevitable. Similarly, spanking the upper part of the bottom is usually ouchier. While the sweet spot should be every spanker's main target, when Ron explores a wider area, it adds variety and excitement, and he definitely gets my attention.

Mike: It is only used by us for the occasional attention getter. That’s very rare and only one or two spanks.

I'd much rather give the cheeks a spank or get one there.

Anon #2: Oh, yes. It hurts more, but get it right and it's like a trigger. I just give in and let go. It’s lovely! Anything afterward feels different on my bottom too.

Paul: Serious spanking is always on the butt. I had a couple of lightweight straps that could be used anywhere on the body. We loved to play with these. Nowhere was out of bounds, including breasts, thighs, inner thighs, the front of the thighs, and anywhere that would benefit from a gentle sting. A little variety spiced up our play, and that's always good.

Mrs. Smith: With Scott, during discipline, if I would move or squirm or block too much, he would threaten my thighs. If I continued, I'd get a few on my thighs. Depending on what I was being disciplined for, my thighs could also just be a target as part of the punishment.

I think it is appropriate, as long as the spanker understands that your upper thighs are a lot more sensitive than your bottom! It doesn't take much to really get your attention!

Greenwoman: I think I join the general consensus that the thighs should be treated gentler than the butt. For one thing, there are major arteries right near the surface of the skin on the thighs and it pretty much wraps about half the thigh. You don't want to bruise a major artery with vigorous spanking.

But, gee, it sure is stingy fun there with a light hand. Yummy!

Anon #3: I guess I'm going against the grain here. For us, the upper thighs are simply "off target." Perhaps that's because for me, spanking is totally erotic. . I'm not into the "discipline" thing at all. I intend no offense toward those who go for this particular kink. But for me, the bottom is the erogenous zone, pure and simple.

Sandy: The upper thighs, back, inner, or outer, are not off-limits in my play. But, as some others have said already, the top needs to be aware that he is causing significantly more pain when he strikes that area. I played with someone recently who didn't seem to have any clue about that.

But then there are those EVIL tops we love, who know exactly what they are doing and who do it anyway (because they want to, and because they think you've earned it).

P.S. Wrapping with an implement to the outer thigh is excruciating.

Todd and Suzy: I think the upper thighs are an acceptable target. In fact, they're the best target when a spankee is blocking with her hand. She can block her bottom pretty well. But her upper thighs? Not so much. And given that the thighs are obviously more sensitive (why is that?), a few swats there usually get hands back where they belong.

I also think some lighter spanks on the thighs can be a good change of pace.

However, thighs do mark pretty easily, and those marks show when shorts are worn. Given that I live in Florida (and Arizona before that), it's something I have to be aware of.

I have spanked some women who have a hard limit when it comes to being spanked on the thighs, most especially in a playful situation.

Soma: Ouch, I’m so not a fan of being spanked on the upper thighs. They are definitely an attention getter and I am usually only really spanked there for punishment. I might get a swat or two when playing just vary things up. But when it's punishment, I get several throughout and several with implements. So I’m not a fan of the wooden brush there! Ha ha.

Elle: He thinks anywhere is fair play. I'm so lucky that way, because he loves and appreciates every single part of my body.

I don't mind the thigh area, though I don't find it as pleasurable to be honest. But a few slaps with his hand or belt to the tops of my thighs are fine. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't like anything heavier on that area, like any wooden implement. That sounds too painful. There's not as much meat on my thighs as there is on my ass!

Roissy: We’re just finding our way, but I've "enjoyed" a few on the upper thighs. Yes, they sting more and I know they are not given with the full force of the ones on my bottom. But they work for me as long as they are interspersed with bottom spanking. That goes for his hand, the leather flogger, the crop, and the leather paddle. Mind you we've not got a wooden paddle yet, so I might sing a different tune when we do ;-)

Robert: Most definitely. A few light smacks on the back of the thighs can help one re-focus, if on the receiving end. It can also get a point across if the spankee has wandering attention or is being especially obstinate. A ruler is good, a switch...YIKES! And as mentioned earlier, clothing is needed to cover the blush...

Fanny: This was a timely topic for us as Hubs and I attended a music festival this weekend. I was instructed to wear a skirt so that he could spank my inner thighs during the 3 hour drive there. Ditto for the drive home. Heavenly! I have several bruises on my legs, but a big smile on my face...

Our Bottoms Burn: We both enjoy thigh fries. She likes her licks on her inner thighs, which she says are connected to her most sensitive spot. I prefer my licks on the backs and front of my thighs. It is a very erotic experience for us.

Anon #4: This doesn't really work for my wife and me. When I spank her, I want it to be one of those pleasure/pain things, and the thighs are just pain...

From my personal viewpoint as a spanker it doesn't work well either. I love the sight of a female bottom jiggling and getting redder as I spank. I like the clenching and unclenching. I also love the contrast between the reddening bottom and the untouched thighs. All this is undermined if I spank the thighs as well

But that's just us...

Girl: LOL, as if I'd have a choice. Well, Sir is very conscious of other people's sensibilities, so it's not too often that he'll spank my upper thighs for fear of marks... But, if he wants a fast reaction there's no better place.

We had an accidental branding moment on the upper inner thighs once. Since then we've steered clear for fear of harming the tender flesh. Grilled cheese is a dangerous dish.

Stacy: I hadn't even thought of having my thighs spanked until I met my guy. He usually spanks me on the butt, but when he really gets going, or if I am bratting, he goes for the thighs, and it is wonderful.

He usually hits the upper thigh, and has given me some spanks on the bottom thigh and inner. All are very nice, and I adore them. The sting is so very nice.

Bonnie: I’ve told Randy many times that I have sufficient acreage in my big back forty for any sort of spanking he might want to try. He should never run out of places on my bottom and there should be no need to mark up my tender thighs.

He sees things a bit differently. He can and does use light implements to spank my upper thighs as a change of pace. So long as I’m into the spanking, I don’t really mind. He knows what he is doing, so I don’t have to worry about nasty bruises or welts. Even so, I think my bottom is a much more appropriate target.

Thanks, everyone, for joining in our weekly brunch!

MBS Spanko Brunch #139

Sunday is our designated discussion day here at MBS and we have a topic this week that may generate some lively exchange.

Do you think the upper thighs are an acceptable target for spanking? Does your partner agree?

To participate in our brunch, all you need to do is leave a comment below. Everyone who has ever given or gotten a sore posterior is welcome. So is anyone who ever wished they could. Once all brunchers have had a chance to speak, I will post an edited summary.

In with the New: Kickoff Edition

I am delighted to introduce a new crop of spanking-oriented blogs. I hope you will visit these bloggers, spend a little time, and get to know them. I'm sure they would really appreciate hearing from you.

Give them praise where it's deserved and a suggestion where it might assist. Most of all, I encourage you to offer them your support. It's difficult to start a blog and not know whether there's anyone out there.

Here are eight young blogs that I think you might enjoy.

Brambleberry Blush Collared in Pink Emma Enchanted Kimmie'z Universe Miss Wednesday's Lines The Naughty Side of K Time Out for Love The Bottom Line

To these bloggers, I bid you welcome to our community. I hope your experience will be as positive as mine has been.

If there are any more great spanking-oriented blogs out there, I'd love to learn about them!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Sep 7

Our topic this week was whether and how a spankee can ask for a longer or more severe spanking. Here are your thoughts.

Em: In our relationship, the answer is yes and for pretty much the first year of said relationship, I did just that.

For me, it was the first time I had received spankings as punishments. For Jack, it was a matter of learning my limits. We both found that it helped for me to let him know when a spanking fell short of what I needed.

We had a couple of different methods for communicating this, although they just seemed to be what came naturally to us. It was never specifically planned or discussed. Usually, it came up while we were cuddling after the spanking. I was generally not brave enough to say anything while in the process of being spanked!

Often, I'd just mention that I thought I deserved a bit more. But sometimes, he would ask if I felt better and understood that a less than enthusiastic response meant a little more was needed.

This seemed to work quite well for us. Jack was understandably hesitant to go all out until he had a better idea of what I could take. Having my first experiences with discipline spankings, I was still learning what made it a productive experience for me.

Of course, over time we've acclimated to each other and we're both pretty good at reading each other’s signals now. Every now and then, though, I'll still ask for an encore performance and he's always happy to give me one :)

Maryann: I have wiggled my bottom, bratted, and asked directly for more spankings. Sometimes, I have wanted more, but chose to accept the gift he gave me without further comment. Other times, he has given me more than I thought I could take. Each time is different. I like the out-of-control aspect of being spanked, so I only ask for more if it is appropriate to the playful nature of the game. I'd never want him to feel criticized for his gift of love!'

PM Duo: I think it really depends on the relationship. Although he generally makes the decision about what to spank with, how long, etc., if I feel before we start that I want something more intense, I'll tell him very clearly what I want. Communication is important to both of us, especially around spanking and not speaking out, which I think would be harmful for our relationship.

I think in a punishment spanking it would be different, but we've never done that so I can only speculate. It seems like in that case, all the control would go to the person doing the spanking. But again, I think it really would depend on the relationship and situation.

Daisy: I think we spankees have many ways in which we can "convey our preferences" without the need to directly ask. Asking this may work for some, it’s not the way our dynamic operates. I find it thrilling and immensely sexy for him to be in control, yet I want to retain that control. I’m sorry if that sounds confusing, but I AM a woman!

I will remain bratty and filled with attitude until I decide I have had enough. Yet, if he stops as soon as I become contrite, I have "won the battle" (for I can become remorseful at will! It’s one of my good tricks). No, he needs to continue just to prove HE is in charge, and he is amazingly good at reading me, considering we have only spent a month in each other’s company in nearly 3 years!

I don't like to ask directly for more. It ruins the whole idea in my head! I have to "NOT WANT" it in order to enjoy it.

Heather: I have a hard time just flat out asking. Even though it IS okay for me to ask, I almost never do. Besides, we have a young child. It isn't easy to work around her, even if I felt like I could ask.

By the way, Bonnie, thanks for posting on my blog. And thanks to anyone else who may have posted since I last looked.

Dr. Ken: As far as I'm concerned, it's perfectly okay to ask before, during, or after for how much spanking she wants. You should be free to ask for what you want in a relationship--even though it may be difficult at times. But I would certainly encourage it. I know very few tops who are going to turn down a request for "more spanking, please" (unless, of course, there's a very good reason for doing so).

With one lady I knew, it was simple. When I thought "that's probably enough," I would say to her, "Now are you going to behave?" and if she wanted more, she'd reply, "Maybe..."

Paul: With my partner, I had to be careful with requests for more. As a masochist, she often wanted more than I was willing to give. I was able to judge what she needed and gave it short of injury. She was well aware of my concerns. As long as she was regularly spanked, she was mainly happy.

Major Mischief: For my partner and me, spankings are carried out for two reasons. They are either a roleplay "just because" or as foreplay before sex.

The former has a given scenario and it would be difficult, even spoil the fun, if I were to say "more, harder" when I'm meant to reluctantly "take what I deserve." You hardly hear someone caught red-handed beg for more punishment, do you? However, if the play merely tickles my senses, I may afterwards give him a mischievous pleading look and ask "again?" This usually means that he either continues to play in the same type of role and convey another made up sin for which I deserve a spanking, or falls out of character and actually asks me what I want.

This is almost like setting a child free in a toy store because it means he's alright with giving me whatever – Yay!

Foreplay means that we are more flexible. Since the aim is to turn us both on, we can each make little suggestions. Luckily, we've come to a point when he can tell from my sounds and body language whether I want more. For instance, if I move my hips, almost as if having intercourse, he knows to intensify the spanking. I like to come to the point when I don't want more. I’d rather not beg him to stop, so my body language becomes rather a strained cramp, arching my back to get away.

Hermione: I believe it is completely appropriate for the spankee to make requests if specific needs are not being met. Making those requests is another matter, because it often isn't easy. I prefer to let Ron take charge of the spanking and I rarely interrupt to ask for something during one. I may talk about it afterward, telling him what I liked, and maybe suggesting a change for the next time.

Communication is something that is continuously evolving between us. I am finding it easier to ask for what I want, and Ron is becoming increasingly sensitive to my needs. He will adjust his activity based on my reaction, so I don't have to ask.

If I feel stressed and know I need more attention than usual I will let Ron know before we begin, and might suggest an implement that we don't usually use because of its severity. Then he takes control and gives me exactly what is necessary to leave me feeling peaceful, relaxed, and sore.

Radagast: I don't put a restriction on what a person I'm playing with can ask for or convey before or after a session (even during if they need to). For the most part, I'm playing because I enjoy it and I'm presuming that the bottom is enjoying it as well. The experience should be what both people want rather than something that's dictated by the Top (unless that is what the other person desires). I have neither protocols nor rules regarding how anyone can talk to me outside of what is happening in a scene that has been decided ahead of time. There are times when a person I'm spanking gives me non-verbal or verbal cues during a spanking – bratting is often an example – and that's fine as well (assuming I pick up on it).

Brambleberry Blush: It's important to me to maintain the illusion of being dominated during a spanking, so I would never verbally ask for more. I am not above making sounds, sweet moans, and arching my back, to say, "keep going!" When I'm done, I mentally check out and become very still. My husband knows me and is perspective enough to read the signs.

If I haven't been spanked in awhile and am feeling the need, it's relatively easy to get him to notice a cute little skirt or a smart mouth. He knows what's called for.

Mary: It’s exciting how experience allows couples to grow to understand each other's signals. I've been known not to get off his lap when being sent to the corner. I don't know if it is the wanting of more, or just liking how it feels to be close and safe. Either way, not following directions usually results in a blistering onslaught of more spanks. Since he doesn't like to have his role challenged much, I am usually quite ready to go to the corner the next time I am directed. Also, I can ask for more. There is the difference between enthusiastic promises to better versus the "I'll try to do better" that he seems to clue in on as an indication of whether the job is done.

Prefectdt: It is not only acceptable, but vital that a bottom communicates this kind of desire to a top. During the first few plays with a new top, I find verbal communication is necessary to find the desirable level of play.

Over time, this usually develops into reading body language and mutual knowledge of each other.

I believe that it is unreasonable for a bottom to expect a top to come equipped with a crystal ball or an ability to mind read. It is the responsibility of a bottom to communicate with a top.

Jack: In our relationship, my wife likes to be spanked. Then, when her bottom is bright red, I massage and lick her. There is not really any sign she wants it, it just happens. Of course, I never hurt her. It’s a love thing with us.

Todd: It's not only accepted, but it's preferred that a spankee speak up if she wants a longer or more intense spanking. I welcome it without question, unless it’s a discipline spanking (not that I think such a request would be made anyway, LOL).

Few spankees ever speak up in such a direct way though. I think it would impact their headspace to come right out and say "spank me harder, please." So, I like to ask questions, especially when getting to know a spankee. I also think non-verbal cues work well too. Picking an implement and body language are two good ones that have already been mentioned. Bratting is another, as is just talking. If I hear a spankee talking about the weather and such, I figure it's a safe bet that she's looking for something harder.

Thomas: It's always permissible to ask for or hint at a longer or harder spanking. How you go about it depends upon your relationship, and the context of the spanking in question.

If it's a playful spanking, like the kind that you might get or give at a party for bratting, then the simplest way to get it longer or harder is to simply keep bratting while you're over their knee. There is nothing like pretending to sleep or otherwise be unaffected by the current intensity to get the spanker to up the ante. If you want to feel a certain implement, then reach over and toss it out of his reach. Yes, it postpones the moment, but as soon as it's back in his hands, and be prepared to have to fetch it yourself, you can bet that it's going to be used on you. And there's nothing better than a last second bratting attempt to make the spanker decide that he's not really done and continuing instead of stopping before you're ready for him to do so.

For more formal spanking play sessions, simply asking for the level of play that you want ahead of time, such as during negotiations when playing at a party, works wonders. Be vocal during your spanking. If you want to feel a certain implement, ask if he'll show you how it feels. If it's not hard enough, ask him to show you what it can really do. If you want a longer session, set aside a certain amount of time for the session, letting him know that you expect the full allotted time to be used.

The most important thing is to never try to be subtle. We can sometimes be dense if you don't smack us over the head with what you want. So keep hints simple, or we may miss the message.

Elle: I think in a loving relationship, the partner should be able to read the other partner's needs. At least, they should be able to do so. Sometimes, however, there will be misunderstandings. In theory, there is no problem with asking for what you need, but with something so complex as the desire to be dominated and spanked, it is contradictory in certain kinds of play to ask explicitly.

Personally, if I want a spanking, I'll bend over in front of him or somehow place my bottom temptingly in his line of sight. Or sometimes, I'll pop him one, a light slap on his ass usually gets a "Wrong way round" response and I end up turned over his lap.
If it looks like he's going to let me off too lightly and I want more than I'm going to get, I purr and moan and generally make it clear that I am loving every stroke.

Greenwoman: I have partners who take the time to get to know my body and responses and they are also always checking in with me to see if I want more. I'm actually asked about it always, so I don't need to worry about not getting enough. I've only been told I can't have more once. I was bodily lifted and taken to the shower, where I came down and promptly agreed with his assessment. *smiles*

Bonnie: Randy has absolutely no problem with me asking for more, regardless of the timing, situation, or method. The only trouble such a request causes is when I attempt to sit after the spanking. He takes such occasions as full license to deliver extra hard swats using his favorite implements.

He knows that I know what happens when I ask for more. I know he knows I know. So when I make such a request, it comes with a complete understanding of the consequences. Sometimes, though, we both know that a very sore, very red bottom is just what I need.

Thank you all for participating in our spanko brunch. I hope you’ll join us again next week.