Sunday, March 09, 2008

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Mar 9


Our two-part question for this week was how frequently readers crave a spanking and how often spankings actually occur. I thought the results were quite interesting. Although there was a considerable variation in the responses, I believe I am safe in observing that there's a whole lot of spanking going on out there. Even so, many of us would prefer more.

Jessica: We have only been doing this for a short time. I have been craving spankings pretty much daily. With life intervening, we were getting to indulge about three to four times a week. We have both been very sick the last two weeks, so no spanking. :-(

I think we may be well enough this weekend to have a little fun. *wink*

Lori: I am a well spanked woman. We spank several times a week. I usually crave daily spankings unless I had a hard discipline spanking, then I crave it after I can comfortably sit again. I love the attention from my husband and I love what comes afterward. When we play, I feel like we are two kids, giggling and having fun. Discipline drives home the fact that my husband loves and cares for me.

PK: How often do I crave spanking? Very often, maybe not daily, but I would be happy with several times a week. Some weeks we are able to fulfill that, but sadly not often enough. We rarely go more that two weeks without at least a little spanking. Nick is wonderful when we have lots of time and privacy, but I wish that there were more short, spontaneous spankings when we can sneak them in.

Marcus: I too crave a daily spankings. Circumstances don't always permit this. Sometimes, college work gets in the way. Other times, privacy is an issue. However, we manage to get to them in time, and they are well worth the wait. Not to mention, I can feel them for quite sometime afterward.

Dr. Ken: Speaking as a spanker, I'd love to be able to play every day. Or twice a day, even. Unfortunately, I currently don't have anyone here in Minnesota to spank--which perhaps explains why spanking is in my thoughts on a daily basis.

My only outlet is the sort of spanking party hosted by groups such as Chicago Crimson Moon. That translates to two or maybe three weekends per year. There's ample opportunity for as long as the party lasts, and there are two ladies in particular with whom I have a great time. I just wish I could talk them into moving to Minnesota!

The party weekends are certainly spanking intensive, but it clearly isn't enough...

Dragon & Tiger: I would guess I crave a good erotic spanking once every couple of weeks if I haven't had one in a while and more frequently if I have. I have never craved a punishment spanking... yet. I won't say it will never happen, but it hasn't so far.

Paul: Since I've been alone, I haven't spanked anybody.

Where I live, it's very conservative. As a result, if there is any kink going on, it's very quiet.

Mel liked to go to sleep on a good girl, so she was spanked daily, and sometimes more often. So believe me, I miss it, lots.

Lost In Our Eyes: The two of us probably crave much more than we get. Personally, it's a daily (and sometimes all-day) craving but only getting indulged once every few weeks.

As for Her, I'm not sure about the cravings, but yesterday was her first spanking in a LONG while.

Bet: My craving for spankings varies a lot. Sometimes, I could go for one a day or more. Other times, I'm content with once a month. But as it is now, I definitely do not get spanked as much as I'd like to be. But on the bright side, I now get spanked more than I used to be. So who knows? In time (probably a long time), I may get my wish. Besides, with two kids under age five, you have to be careful when you play.

Hermione: I want a spanking every time I start reading spanking blogs!

As to really craving one, I get a serious spanking once a week. That's enough to keep me pleasantly uncomfortable and basking in the afterglow for a couple of days. Three or four days later, the craving starts and I'm ready for another one. I almost always get one as part of our love-making, though it’s not necessarily very intense. That's usually enough to keep me going for a while.

The day before the scheduled weekly one is when I crave it the most; I don't know how I can last another day. But on the day, I start to feel apprehensive, knowing what's in store for me. And it's always worth waiting for.

Terpsichore: It’s so fun to hear everyone's answers. This is a question that I knew would generate a variety of responses. We are all different and have different needs. I was curious because there are times when I feel as though I crave being spanked all the time. I am still so very new to this and have only really experienced a few playful spanks during lovemaking and an occasional love tap, I sometimes feel awkward about my needs and desires. It is nice to be reassured about what I already knew. Everyone is different and it is OK :-)

Lele: Right now, I think I'd like a spanking every day, like a bedtime spanking or something. In reality, I only get spanked two to three times a month, but those few times leave me sore for days!

Jean Marie: As I e-mail this reply the comments can be summarized to say, "I crave a daily spanking, but I get it less often." I honestly have to go further than that. I crave it frequently enough so that I'm reminded I'm a spanko and am in a relationship with another spanko every time I sit. I love putting warmed cheeks on a toilet seat. I never sit at my desk when teaching school, but I do have a tall stool in front of the class. I melt when I put a sore, stiff bottom on that hard, flat seat. I get wet when I sit down to lunch in the lounge with peers if my butt screams at me as I put it into a chair. Mostly, I love the lovemaking that follows hard upon any spanking at home; the feeling of oneness with my lover and wholeness with myself.

My answer is that I get it daily, sometimes twice a day. Sometimes that spanking is very hard and punishing, and I'd still like it more frequently.

Sally: I would love more, and that seems to be pretty common. I am lucky to get one or two a week. I think I would like a daily GG, but I might not want it if I had it. I love one that lasts for days and I'm pretty happy until the effect wears off. When we are both healthy, one or two a week is average, and sometimes more :) Since we have both been ill, spankings are pretty scarce and I find myself craving them several times a day.

Greenwoman: I think I need a spanking each day, at least the 'good girl' or sleepy sensual kind. How often I crave it is a different matter. I crave it when I am hormonal, and I crave the stress busting kind. I need the kind that hurts, that must be endured, and that causes emotional release. Those kind I crave a few times a month.

My husband has been spanking me every day lately. I am feeling really nourished by that. But not so long ago, perhaps a month ago, I'd be lucky to get any spanking at all in a month. Then I craved them every day.

Padme Amidala: I crave spankings when I am stressed out and in need of release. I also crave them when I am horny and need some attention. Some weeks, I crave it every day and other times not as much.

This last week, I had surgery so there hasn't been any spankings or even cravings for one. I just haven't been feeling too good and recovering from it.

Sometimes, I am spanked a few times a week. Other times, it’s only a few times a month. It depends upon how much time we can get or what is going on.

Padme, I hope your recovery is swift and complete!

Abby Williams: As many people have commented, I crave spanking daily. Most of my morning emails and texts with Mr. Williams are on the subject, and we tend to make plans for playing at the end of the day. All too often, though, by the end of the day our mindspaces are just not right for that kind of play. So while we would spank daily given the freedom to do so, we're at a couple of times a week for now. With the exception of last Sunday's paddling, severity usually doesn't make me need time off. That time, however, my bottom was so sore I felt as if I'd been stair-climbing skyscrapers all day!

As an extra thought, something my husband and I discuss is that for us, spanking (or paddling, or caning, or what-have-you) is sex for us. The actual sex is a bonus. Craving it daily makes sense for us because it is often how we feel desire not just for spanking, but for one another.

DG: As many of you say, I crave spankings at least daily. My ideal would be a morning and a bedtime spanking. I find that if I am not spanked for about four days, my mood and behaviour really show that I need a good smacked bottom. I suspect I need discipline weekly and daily "attention".

Elle: I crave spanking nearly as often as I crave sex (which is constantly). I would love to be spanked much more often than I am, but maybe it wouldn't be so special if it happened all the time. The last time I was spanked was a week ago last Thursday. I've been told I'm due a hard one in the next few days though... Craving it more than ever.

Prefectdt: Simple questions, simple answers:

How often are spankings craved? Every day.

How often am I actually spanked? In a good period, once a month. When things aren't going so well, anywhere up to three or four months between spankings.

You would probably find similar answers from most single male spankees of my age or older, I think.

Bonnie: Some readers believe that because I publish a spanking blog, our lives must be one continuous spankfest. The truth is not quite so glamorous. Our interest (and our activity) tends to wax and wane. I can’t say that I *crave* a spanking every day in terms of a deep and intense longing. But I generally think about it several times per day.

I am at that age where hormones are an unpredictable part of life. In addition, both Randy and I have responsibilities that can sap our energy and suppress our spontaneity. Even so, we probably average two or three times per week. We might play three nights in a row and then not at all for ten days. It largely depends upon a lot of relatively mundane factors.

One thing that really helps us to keep the flames burning is designating one night a week for spankings. Ours is Friday. All day long, I walk around with the knowledge that I will soon be the beneficiary of a good, hard spanking. By the time Randy arrives home, I am mentally and physically ready for whatever sort of play he devises.

Robin: Crave? A lot, but maybe not everyday (although I pretty much think about spankings everyday).

How often am I spanked? Nowhere near enough. DH has to want to, there has to be time, energy and privacy. It’s not easy to get everything at the same time.

Mary: We live apart so I crave it far more than I get it. I am lucky if I am spanked once a month. Once in a while, it goes a full two months without spanking. Sometimes, that serves to make me want it more. Other times, the frustration moves beyond wanting to not caring and being upset. Some days, I could want a spanking every day. Since we are not often together, every day is what happens most times when we are together. I think a couple times a week would be perfect. But that is pure speculation.

I'd like to offer a special thank you to Terpsichore for contributing this excellent brunch question, and thanks, as always, to our wonderful participants. You make Sunday a day to fondly anticipate. I hope to see you all again next week.

4 comments :

Terpsichore said...

Thanks for including my question, Bonnie :-)

Anonymous said...

gee, where does Paul live???? I'd love him to spank ME!!!!!

Bonnie said...

Terpsichore - It was my pleasure. Thank you for submitting such a great topic.

Anon - Paul lives in Southern England. If you would like to send him a message, e-mail me and I will pass it on.

Amy said...

Since i finally was able to talk to my hubby about it-it has been great, but i don't get near as many spankings as i would like...sigh...

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