Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Keyword Chaos: Revisionist Edition


Let’s try some Keyword Chaos. For those who haven’t seen this feature before, it’s an attempt to have a little fun with the weird and wonderful search terms that people use to find MBS. Never ones to leave well enough alone, Randy and I add our comments to each. I hope you enjoy the results as much as we enjoy assembling them.

  • adult hair brush paddles - At Tanner Groves, we harvest only fully mature paddles

  • adult spanking comebacks - Yeah, and your strap is one too!

  • are you spanked? - Uh huh

  • bonnie sexy - Thank you!

  • bubble butt skiny - Is that anything like Fatboy Slim?

  • do massages include spanking - Only if you’re very fortunate

  • duck tape blowjob download - PETA isn’t going to like this

  • embarrassing situations porn - Do you mean embarrassing situations depicted in porn or those caused by porn?

  • errotic spanking - In this case, eroticism might have been erroneous

  • four glasses wine mages me wet pantswhile sleeping - You need to stay away from search engines late at night

  • goatlist - It’s sort of like Craigslist for the barnyard set

  • googd reasons to spank your wife - Well, what did you find when you googd it?

  • how about using a flyswatter for spanking? - Our rule is one for pesky insects and a separate one for naughty bottoms

  • humping your womans leg during a spanking - Down boy!

  • I make my husband wear pantyhose as a punishment - On a hot day, I could totally see that

  • jigsaw puzzles>spanking - That might be the silliest implement ever

  • kinky spanking technique - Is there an unkinky technique?

  • ladies that like`s spanking - I like’s it

  • loving couples spank - Yes, we do

  • majority male spanking relationships - Just how many people are involved?

  • mammy spanked my bottom - I think you’ve watched Gone with the Wind too many times

  • my bottom is too - Yes, I suppose it is

  • nude woman wearing butt plug - If she’s wearing something, she can’t be nude, right?

  • picture of clowns spanking! - There’s no way I’m getting into that car

  • punished for wearing panties - I could be in big trouble!

  • pure spanking - Well, 99.44% that is

  • renaissance faire spanking - Beware of the sadistic friar behind ye olde turkey leg stand

  • rules to be an old fashioned wife - (1) Be born a long time ago

  • scottish spanking - You have to admit that those kilts make things mighty convenient

  • sex stories boat fucked her - I hope it was a really, really small boat

  • shoe salesman panties confession - Ah, a multi-fetish extravaganza

  • slovakia spanking films - I Left My Heart in Bratislava

  • sotires of spankings - Snow tires? So tired? Sot ire?

  • spank bare bottom memory - How could one forget?

  • spank my thong - I prefer my spanks on either side

  • spank that fat butt - Who you callin’ fat?

  • spank your amateur girl - As opposed to a professional girl?

  • spank? - Yes, please

  • spanked buttplug footed jimmies - OK, to each his own

  • spanked for not wearing sensible shoes - I have to think that’s its own punishment

  • spankie spank time - Does anybody know what time it is?

  • spanking a pisces woman - Get one fresh fifteen pound cod…

  • spanking addict - Hey, I’m trying to cut back!

  • spanking inocent looking girls - Looks can be deceiving

  • spanking my girlfriend diapered - It works much better if you take that bulky thing off

  • spanking shame - It’s a shame when it doesn’t happen

  • spanking that arouses - For me, that would be all of them

  • spanking with a belt side effects - Side effects may include redness, bruising, discomfort, difficulty sitting, and increased sexual appetite; If you experience a spanking that lasts longer than four hours, see your doctor immediately as it may be a symptom of a more serious condition

  • what else goes with birthday spankings - Scented massage oil, candles, vibrator, scarves…

  • who likes spanking - I do! I do!

  • why practice domestic discipline - Because practice makes perfect

Monday, June 29, 2009

In with the New: Backyard Fireworks Edition


It's summertime and the spanking is easy. Or at least writing about it must be. We have for your viewing pleasure another splendid crop of eighteen new spanking-oriented blogs. I invite all MBS readers to check these out. If you find something you like, I hope you will share your words of praise and support with the blogger.

A Good Girl, Bad
Ally Steps Forward
Away with the Fairies
Complicated Kitten
Florida Dom's Corner
Girls Pyjama Spankings
Honor and Obey
Lash Le Roux's Spanking Primer
Mistress Switch
My Journey into Being an HOH
My Journey into Loving Domestic Discipline
Not My Original Vows
Red Plum Press
Shelly's World
Spank this Girl Hard
Spanked and Put to Bed
Spankstories
The Torture Room

We happily welcome all of you to our community! I hope your blogging experience will be beneficial and fun.

Sunday, June 28, 2009

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for June 28


Our topic of the week was strategies for cleaning computer to eliminate telltale evidence of spanking interests. Here are your ideas.

RPT (Fred Bloggs): I have an Apple Mac, so I log friends into the Guest account which is quite safe. Keeping your own account password protected is a good idea. I have naughty stuff, pictures etcetera on an external drive that can be disconnected and removed. I also use an online bookmark service so I don't have bookmarks on the main browser.

Meow: All of these apply when I'm traveling with my laptop or when my kids might borrow it.
  1. Erase my browsing history after every use

  2. Abbreviate the titles of kinky blogs in my bookmarks

  3. Minimize my GMail and Google Reader so that kinky stuff doesn't show up.

  4. Bury kinky files deep in the library (Mac) where all the application preferences, etc. are stored.

Anon VII: I have downloaded and installed the Pareto Logic Privacy Protector. Googling Pareto should get you to the download site. Once you have it installed, use it at the end of EVERY session. It also helps protect against remote hackers taking over your computer, snooping into your banking records, getting into a recycling bin, or recording your keystrokes. There are several privacy protectors available, but I like this one because it can be set to do up to a sevenfold shredding, which I understand is the approved military / national security level.

The best thing to do with bookmarks for sites that could cause you trouble is not to use them, period. Offline bookmarks would be my second choice. But what I do instead is memorize the URLs and type them in each time. To tell the truth, I mostly come to this site and then follow the links given here. Remember, though, that the URL of any site to which you go will be on your hard drive unless you scour it with a reliable privacy protector.

You also can set your browser to erase records of sites visited whenever you power down your computer. That alone, however, would not be enough if someone really wanted to dig up your records. I'd definitely recommend backing it up with Pareto Logic or something similar.

Cookie: I don’t have any ideas since I never really thought about it and don’t really hide my interests from friends. I would be interested in learning though how I could just in case.

Angie: I never use bookmarks, ever. I have my few play places, and once there, I link from there. I also have a separate play account, and everything I do is by password. I never do any search by typing in to the main search thingy at the top, where you get that drag down of everything you go to.

That’s about it, really. And remembering to log out, of course.

Todd and Suzy: We have two PCs and two laptops (home business). We keep one of each completely vanilla-safe. That makes it easy for us. Back when we only had one computer though, we 'buried' links. If you wanted to get to the pervy links, for example, you had to open a folder called "politics" then "1980 election" then "Walter Mondale"... and bingo, it's spanky time! LOL... From there, our links pointed to lots of different spanko sites.

We employ the same idea with picture files. There’s basically zero protection against anyone snooping, but it worked when family wanted to check their e-mail on our computer. We also always have used 'spanko' e-mail addresses. Family has a vanilla e-mail and that's all they know. That's obviously all we check when they're around. Plus, we have a vanilla blog... which explains our "blogging" hobby (when it comes up).

There is no 100% safe way to hide your spanko side though. We don't push it on anyone and we do some common sense things to avoid making others uncomfortable. But ultimately, we don't live our lives based on what others might think (most especially those that would snoop through our computer).

Brambleberry Blush: I rename anything that says spanking into "speaking." This is a great topic. I will use many of the things I learned here today. Thanks everyone!

Ms. Betty: I just keep a guest account on my machine and have them use that.

Greenwoman: I have more than one browser. My two favorites are Google Chrome and Mozilla Firefox. I save the Internet Explorer for others as I hate the way the safety features work with Wordpress. But really, no one uses my PC unless they know me pretty well and if I can't trust them to stay out of private business on my PC, then I just don't let them use my PC.

ComeHere: I only use Google Chrome as my web browser. It has a tool called "New Incognito Window" that opens an incognito window! (Duh..., right?) The incognito window stores no cookies or other data after the window is closed. (There are limits to the protection - read the disclaimer - i.e., don't try this at work!)

I don't bookmark "interesting" sites. I use a free program called "Password Safe" and have a special group under a ho-hum boring name for all the titillating sites. Someone would have to hack into my Password Safe account to see these websites (BTW, I use PW Safe to store the URLs for sites that do not even require passwords. It works great for that. I also use it to store passwords for all of my e-mail accounts, blogs, financial sites, etc. It is a great program!).

Anon #1: Delete browsing history after each session. Do not favorite any porn sites. Instead, save their URL's in a document somewhere on your hard drive. Preferably, use a name like "Statistical Analysis of Norwegian Economy doc 4."

Speaking of hiding stuff on my hard drive, I do the same for spanking stories that I write and/or copy from web sites. I hide them in My Documents, under names like "Folder Options Doc."

Keagen: I have a Mac, and, for the most part, I don't let people use it. :-D I do, however, have two browsers. One is MINE, with all of my settings, sites, and bookmarks. The other is completely vanilla and links to nothing. I keep all of my work related stuff on an external hard drive (pictures, movies, and potential blog posts). :-)

Curtis: I have two ways to protect. No one can get into my computer unless they know the password and no one knows that. In addition, I have two e-mail accounts. One is kinky and the other is vanilla. Both need a password.

I do, however, have a lot stored on my disk and external hard drive. I suppose when I kick the bucket, one will be able to find what's stored despite the fact that it's all stored under the password protected account. I'm sure an intrepid hacker could find my non-vanilla account as well. But I am too old to worry about all that.

PK: We are all pretty respectful of each other’s privacy around here. My children usually leave their journals in plain view. It would never occur to me to read it. It’s theirs, period. I expect the same consideration from them and to my knowledge I have always gotten it. Mollie know I write ‘stories’ and since I have not shared any of them with her, I assume she knows they are of an adult nature.

Now we take the usual precautions on the computer. I have everything that I want to keep private on password protection, but I am a realist and I know my children are more computer savvy than I am. So I have told them if they go poking in my private work then they deserve every trauma they get from it. LOL! My son it too wrapped up in his own life to care what I read or write and my daughter is probably scared of what she might find so she stays far away.

Anon #2: I have a different slant than what's been shared. We have no kids and no one shares my computer or my boyfriend's laptop. You'd think then that there would be no problem. But he is a jealous and controlling top. I delete the history every time after browsing, but he has some way of searching the hard drive. He's much more techno-savvy than I am. I'm not very, obviously. Most of what's been shared here has gone right over my head. But if he doesn't like where I've gone on the Internet, or the content of e-mails, I'm spanked very hard for it.

Dave: Wow, LOTS of fantastic ideas and suggestions here...

Thank you all very much, and thank you kindly to Bonnie for featuring my query!

Daisy: I was so excited to see this question, but unfortunately, I have no idea what anyone was talking about! The only thing I understood was the guest account solution, which I already have. My computer is password protected. No one can get into my account without the password, and every e-mail account AND my blogger have different passwords. Sheesh, sometimes I can't remember which is which. Ha ha!

But, I AM a little anxious, because when I was on my blog the other week, my son walked in and may well have seen the name of my blog. Surprised, he said, "I didn't know you had a blog?" just as I quickly minimised it! I blushed and said, “It’s just for Davey and me..." kind of feebly. I'm now worried that he may look it up and I have no idea whether I can stop him.

Prefectdt: Like many others here, I have two accounts. Also I use two different web browsers, Flock on my account and Internet Explorer on the guest account. I have disabled the "list sharing" functions on both, to help hide the browsing history.

No matter what techy measures you take, there is always human error to be taken into account. An acquaintance of mine once left her computer to tend to some pans on the cooker, for less than one minute. When she returned to her computer, she had a conversation with her seven year old daughter that started with, "Mommy, why has the lady got a stripy bottom?" (except in Flemish). Their solution was to get a new computer for family use and keep the old one for mom and dad alone, in the bedroom and away from prying little eyes.

Ronnie: We have our own laptops. I password protected mine, rarely have any bookmarks and delete history. I also have three different e-mail addresses and have a guest account, but I still worry in case something goes wrong.

Hermione: I don't keep any files on my computer. All my posts and any pictures and links that accompany them are stored on a memory stick so I can transfer them to Blogger as time permits. This is mainly for my convenience. I can work on posts on any computer and it keeps all my work in one place. But it's also safe since I can encrypt the info on the stick so no one else can read it.

I also give all pictures and files short vanilla names that are meaningful to me but wouldn't arouse suspicion if the names appear in a "recent files" list in Notepad or Paint. For sites where I logon, I never select the option to "remember me." I type in my ID and password each time. That way, no one else can accidentally gain access. I also don't have kinky bookmarks. I get to other sites from links on my blog, via Blogger.

Ron and I share a computer at home, and I have no secrets to hide, but if I knew someone else would be using the computer, I would use the browser option to clear all private data – history, cache, and the rest.

If you find yourself in need of a spanko fix while traveling or visiting, the best option is to have your own laptop and a high-speed wireless internet stick that plugs in to a USB port. That way, you won't leave traces of your activity on someone else's machine. Make sure the laptop is password-protected.

Recidavist: Firefox can automatically clear your browsing history after each session, much better than Internet Explorer.

A simple clean-up like Window Washer or CCcleaner will tidy temporary files, etc. and should be used regularly. Both available at Download.com. Store pictures on Flickr or Picassa web albums instead of on your computer. Store useful inks on your blog or in a e-mail, not in browser bookmarks.

Have a spanko e-mail account that doesn't require personal details to be stored in the account and doesn't use an e-mail client on your PC. Gmail is one example.

If you download stuff, make sure to check your download manager and know where on your computer it is putting the files. Having a dedicated download folder helps so you can ensure that nothing has been downloaded you weren't expecting.

Make sure all "remember me" settings are turned off and watch out for applications that try regardless to remember the name of the last person who logged in. Picassa's upload to web albums have a habit of doing that and need to be cleared each time.

Never check you blog or spanko e-mail a at work. Even if it’s encrypted, the contents can be identified and traced back to you if anyone checks.

If you draft posts in Word before uploading them to your blog, use the facility in Word to password them, even if you put them on a memory stick.

Dr. Ken: The situation has never come up, but if it did, I have a simple solution. I have another computer that is "perv free." I'd let them use that one.

The fact that they're both about ten years old is probably enough to keep anyone from asking to use them, though... :-)

Bonnie: I really need to take some of this excellent advice. My computer is littered with four years of spanko blog remnants and who knows what all else. When I leave this world, I’ve told Randy to burn my PC in a campfire and then bury what’s left in the desert!

Seriously, when our daughter left home, we converted her bedroom into a guest room. Her old computer is still in there and has internet connectivity. Any guest who really wants to check their e-mail is welcome to use that one.

Missy H: I liked what PK said about “My daughter stays away because she's afraid of what she might find.” That's always been my attitude too. It's like that whole "peeking in the medicine chest" mystique. I have no interest in my friends' rashes and blotches.

Several of the Brits used the term “memory stick.” Is that the same as a flash drive? I'm not very techno-savvy, but I have tried a couple of these suggestions, such as the no 'remember my password', and the two e-mail accounts. It’s like an accounting double-booking. I wish I could help that lady hide her blog from her son.

Do you know that dodgy website use plummets every Thanksgiving because everyone has family wandering all over their house?

I believe that a memory stick and a flash drive are two terms for the same device. I don’t know whether MBS qualifies as dodgy, but traffic here does dip during those traditional family holidays.

So there you have it. Thanks, everyone, for a very informative brunch.

MBS Spanko Brunch #180


Welcome back, dear brunchers! We've been around the spanking world in 180 weeks, and we're not nearly done yet.

This question was contributed by our good friend, Dave from The Cherry Red Report.

Have you any advice for spankos on how to keep computers, well, "vanilla-safe," so to speak? What techniques do you use to "de-perv" a computer? In other words, if a friend or family member comes over and wants to use your computer, how do you "cloak" the naughty bookmarks, and make sure no kinky files are stumbled across?

Now there's some practical advice we can all use, right? I invite you to share your PC scrubbing secrets with us. You can do so by simply leaving a comment below. Once everyone has spoken, I will post an edited summary of our conversation.

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Heart Warming

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Poll: Switching Roles?

Do you and your spanking partner ever switch roles?

Sure, we switch regularly
Sometimes as a change of pace
Rarely
We tried but it didn't work
No way! Never!
No, but I'd like to try
Partner? What partner?

Sunday, June 21, 2009

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for June 21


Our topic was three things about spanking or your spanking interest that you would want your partner to know. Here are your ideas.

Hermione:
  1. Those special words and phrases are so important, and using them before and especially during a spanking makes the experience more exciting.

  2. Spanking is a great stress reliever, mood alterer, and smile generator, and should be applied as often as needed.

  3. Reading blogs together ensures that we are both on the same page, and provides a constant source of new and creative ideas.

Angie: I puzzled over this at first, because after all these years, I really think he knows everything about me concerning spanking.

But it's been a long time, too long, since I've been over a woman's lap. So, here is what I'd like her to know.
  1. How I react to what you say, or do, or have me do, depends upon whether this is punishment. Because what is still fun or exciting for non-punishment play, can really get my attention when used for punishment. This can be corner time, pulling my panties down, treating me like a little girl, or making me do the walk of shame to bring back whatever you intend to spank me with.

  2. While play is embarrassing, it’s embarrassing in a good way. An example is when you say things like “fat little fanny,” “plump little rump,” or “chubby cheeks,” etc. The same things, however, said when I'm being punished, will make me feel very young, and submissive, embarrassed and compliant.

  3. I understand that you will correct me, as much as you think I have earned by my misbehavior. However, no matter how bad I was, after it’s done, I need to be comforted and for you to let me know I'm your good girl again. I don't expect sex. If you wish that, that is fine, but at least a hug, a cuddle and a kiss is needed, or I would be emotionally devastated, and wonder what I did wrong.

Anon #1: After reading the question, I feel very, very lucky. We only ventured past play spankings six months ago when I asked my wife to help me with weight loss. It worked so well that we now enjoy a complete DD lifestyle. I can not think of a single thing that I wished she knew about spanking or our interest in it that she doesn’t already know! I read here and many other blogs. She never does, yet she seems to know all of the tricks of the trade!

TTGU: I wish my husband cared that spanking me helped. Since he stopped he stays mad at me for a long time and ignores me. He thinks the silent treatment is better than spanking me because I started to bruise, but only after I started working two jobs and have a low iron high junk food diet. I feel unloved when he goes an entire day without talking or touching me.

He still spanks me during fun which is great. He is supposed to help me break a habit and ignoring me isn’t working, so hopefully he will catch on.

Anna: The three things I would hope for in a future partner would be:
  1. He will understand when I need to be spanked without me having to ask for or suggest it.

  2. He will understand it's about being emotionally invested in the relationship and not just about pain.

  3. He will talk, talk, talk with me about it, even when I don't want to talk.

Prefectdt: Being my normal, annoying (bratty) self, I would like to split this into two lots of answers, for potential future partners.

To an experienced Top:
  1. Spank me hard

  2. Spank me often

  3. Use your imagination, I love to try new scenes/toys/things.

To a less experienced Top:
  1. This is not abuse, just because I want you to spank me

  2. It doesn't always have to be about sex. If you want, it can be just spanking and nothing else

  3. No matter how long you end up doing this thing that we do, there is always something new to learn. So stay open minded

Daisy: He knows me too well already. However, little reminders are always good...
  1. It is not so much the spanking itself I enjoy as the feeling of being helpless and held to account for my actions

  2. I like to be NOT in control, therefore ASKING for a spanking ruins the mood completely. So, instead of asking, I simply DO something worthy of being spanked. Being "let off" or warned will not result in improved behaviour, but worse, in order to prompt the spanking I need! And since you wish me to behave, acting on the first prompt from me will mean less irritation to you in the long run!

  3. If I brat again soon after a spanking, it means you ended it too soon!

Penfold: For Bear, I think that there’s nothing so far that he doesn’t already know about me and our spankings, If there is, it’s because I’m unaware of it too and we haven’t realized it together. So, as issues or situations come up about our spankings, both DD and play, then we will learn together.

Jean Marie:
  1. Spanking isn't a minor hobby or passing fancy for me. It's an integral part of who I am.

  2. Playful spankings are THE BEST foreplay for me. Yes, licking me down there feels great, fingering is fun, but nine times out of ten, I prefer that you turn me over your knee to turn me on.

  3. I need to be disciplined at times, and that entails hard punishment that may bruise or mark my bottom. It is well padded and already cracked back there. You can't do it too hard. I need it. I might whine about how I hate the hairbrush, but I really crave it at least once a week. I'll fuss that a caning is too severe, but unless you administer it as needed, I'll lose respect for you.

Meow: I'm totally with Daisy on this one:
  1. The feeling of helplessness is very important!

  2. YOU are in control, so let me feel it.

  3. If at first you don't succeed, spank harder and longer.

Ronnie: Because we've been together for a lot of years, there’s really nothing that P doesn't know regarding spanking as it applies to me. He might not know everything about spanking per se, and neither do I, but hopefully there's room for both of us to be inspired and inventive to keep things lively.

One thing, I would like, and I don't think P knows how much, would be more punishment spankings. I've mentioned it a few times but always subtly because if I say it too starkly it would burst the bubble. When they do happen, which isn't often, they have to be natural to work for me.

Bonnie: This was a hard question for me too because Randy and I basically learned what we know together. Here are my thoughts:
  1. There’s a time and place for the hard and fast “shock and awe” assault, but it isn’t at the beginning of a spanking. I think of a long spanking session like a marathon. If you wear me out at the beginning, I won’t have anything left for the last mile.

  2. My body always responds to spankings with signals of sexual arousal. If you wish to interpret that as affirmation of your excellent technique, be my guest. But even a mediocre spanking turns me on. It’s just the way I’m wired.

  3. I like it when you rub, swat, or squeeze my bottom the day after a hard spanking to gauge its residual sensitivity. It’s fun to be a little bit sore afterward and even more fun to be reminded of that fact.

Thank you to everyone who joined us for brunch this week! I hope you’ll stop again next time.

MBS Spanko Brunch #179



Another weekend is upon us, so it's time to talk about spanking. Our topic of the week was suggested by a blogger friend.

Please name three things you wish your partner (or future partner) knew about spanking in general or about your spanking interest.

To join in the fun, all you have to do is write your response in the form of a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will post an edited summary of our discussion.

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Don't Mind Us...

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Spanking Blogs by the Numbers

Every so often I want to present something absolutely unlike anything else ever published on this blog. After a thousand posts, this is not trivial. However, with some inspiration from Randy, I believe we have succeeded.

I love hearing from readers, especially when they say that the blog has been helpful for them. Two different readers recently told me that they think that MBS is the biggest spanking blog around. While I appreciate their generous praise, I had good reason to believe this is not the case. But I couldn't quantify that feeling. Until now, that is.

I asked Randy if there was a way I could compare my blog's traffic with others in our community. Resourceful geek that he is, he showed me how. Here's what I found.

BlogVisitors*% Male**
1.Spanking Blog41,12075%
2.Michael Masterson's Spanking Blog19,24564%
3.My Bottom Smarts12,28257%
4.All Things Spanking10,71672%
5.Spank My Bottom8,90060%
6.Vintage Spanking Photos8,73283%
7.Chross8,63881%
8.Aunty Agony8,26866%
9.The Cherry Red Report7,93780%
10.Adele Haze's Spanking Model Speaks7,24971%

              *Source: compete.com               **Source: quantcast.com

As Randy explains it, these numbers represent a only rough approximation. Nevertheless, we can infer quite a bit about about visitors to spanking blogs and their preferences.

The visitor counts reflect the average number of unique users per month over the past three months. MBS finished a respectable third behind Dan and Michael. I don't mind being beaten by them (Heaven knows, they're good at it!). All of the others on this list are blogs I greatly respect. This is a group with whom I am honored be associated.

I think the statistic I like best is the 57%/43% male-to-female ratio. No other blog I examined was as close to achieving gender parity. I strive to make MBS a place where women feel comfortable and I believe those efforts have been validated. Our discussions are better when the participants are diverse in terms of age, gender, role, and orientation. But that can only happen when readers feel their presence is welcome and valued.

Thank you to everyone who supports My Bottom Smarts and all of our other wonderful spanking blogs. Without you, we would be just talking to ourselves.

Monday, June 15, 2009

In with the New: Back Again So Soon Edition


Yes, we have another excellent collection of fourteen spanking-oriented blogs to explore and enjoy! I invite all MBS readers to check these out. If you find something you like, please be sure to share your compliments and words of support with the blogger.

Amateur OTK Spanking Blog
Bend Over Jessica
BerryBlack Spanks
Erotic Spanking by Starla Kaye
F/M Spanking World
Life as Fizz
Masterful Strokes - Love, Discipline & Growth
Midnight Delicacies
My Journey into Spanking
OTK Girl
Story of D
Submissive Husband
Supplicium Post Mortem
The Spanking Report

Welcome to all of you! I hope your blogging experience will be beneficial and fun.

Sunday, June 14, 2009

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for June 14


Our topic of the week was the ritual of fetching spanking implements. Here are your thoughts.

Jean Marie: It's an oft-observed ritual in our household. More times than I'd like to recall, just after my bum has been prepared with a hand-spanking warm-up, I'll hear, "Please go bring me your hairbrush, young lady." It puts me all the deeper in that sub-space to have to fetch the implement I detest so that it can thrash my derriere. But I've learned from experience not to complain. The only thing I hate hearing more is, "Bring me the cane while you're up, that'll be act III."

Sara: I rarely touch implements at all, thus the few times I have been asked to fetch one stand out. I think it definitely heightens anticipation... and not always in a good way!

Penfold: Bear has often asked me to go and collect the hairbrush from the drawer or the cane from the wardrobe, especially for domestic discipline. It gives me the jelly wobbles. But for a good long, sexy spanking when I get to pick out my "toy of choice," I love the anticipation. I know it does add something to the fun that is about to happen.

Anon #1: To me, there is nothing sexier than giving a beautiful young woman a long and thorough hand spanking and then seeing the look on her face when I ask her to go get the wooden spoon. The little moaning sounds she makes and the sight of her naked, already reddened ass jiggling as she reluctantly leaves the room to get the spoon are just incredible.

Sadly, I've never been put in that position myself. I keep ending up with submissives. Someday, I'll hopefully find myself in the company of a dominant bedmate who will turn the tables.

Ms. Betty: This little ritual happens to be a favorite of mine. I think it adds a certain formality to the proceedings. I don't always ask him to fetch the implement, but when I do, it makes a big impact.

I sent Terry out to cut a switch the other day. I think he went to pieces instantly.

I use a couple of other variations on the same theme, such as placing several implements on the table and making the boy choose one and bring it to me. They hate that.

My very favorite, though, is using the boy's own belt, including making him take it off and place it in my outstretched waiting hand. That deliberate act of surrender tends to make them much more submissive.

There is definitely more anticipation waiting for an implement to be fetched. I find it exciting. The boys tend to dread it a bit.

Dr. Ken: The majority of the time, I spank by hand, hence there's no need for the spankee to go get it – well, unless she wants to hold hands as we walk to the chair or sofa or bed where the spanking will take place.

There have been a couple of instances where it's happened, though. I was giving a lovely lady a very thorough spanking, but she felt like she needed something more. So I told her to get off of my lap and go into the other room and open the middle drawer of the dresser. I had three implements in there, and I told her to pick one out and bring it back with her.

She surprised me by picking a very stout hairbrush! I think I may have even looked at her and said, "Really?" It's what she thought she needed, though, so she got the brush applied vigorously to her bottom – and she was right, it did the trick!

Months later, the same lady and I were together again, and the same situation arose. I sent her into the other room to pick out an implement. This time, rather than pick one, she actually brought them all back – not because she wanted them all used, just that she couldn't decide! While she was mulling it over, I remembered that weeks earlier I had promised her a good spanking with the hairbrush, so I picked it up and said, "I think I promised you this." She agreed, and once again brush met bottom for a good long time.

It definitely changes the dynamic by adding another layer to the scene. I don't know that I would want to do it every time. It might lose it's effectiveness that way. But used sparingly, it definitely adds a certain something...

Anon #2: I always like to ask her how many whacks she thinks she should get. She chooses the number and the paddle or belt. I will write down on a paper how many I think she should get. If she is too low, she gets my number plus the difference. When she is fetching the belt, she has just given me the number and hasn’t found out the results. If she gives me a higher number, that is what she gets. It is all about the risks, the thoughts, and all that is in her head when she is getting the paddle. We both love the game. We rarely spank serious numbers or too hard because it’s for sexy fun.

Daisy: Davey often expects me to go fetch the implements. It adds a quiver of apprehension to the proceedings. Once, I tried to tell him I couldn't find what he wanted, because I hated it so much. He turned the tables on me by using an even WORSE tool!

And then I got extra because he KNEW I was trying to cheat. And after THAT he ordered me to fetch the original tool whereupon he spanked me with THAT as well for my disobedience and for being disrespectful enough to think he wouldn't know what I was up to. Damn, that man reads me like a child’s comic book. I don't try to outwit him like that any more!

Hermione: Our implements are usually close at hand before we start. Ron will have chosen what he wants to use, or he may ask me what I would prefer from what's available.

His motto is "tried and true" while mine is "try something new." When I have a new implement that I think it's time to try, I get it out ahead of time and put it on Ron's bedside table. It does make me think carefully as I bring whatever I have chosen out of its hiding place, and I imagine how it will make its impact. Then I usually leave quickly, before I can change my mind, and spend the remaining time until the spanking in a mixture of excitement, anticipation and dread.

Abby: Every now and again, Mr. W has asked me to fetch an implement, but for the most part, he takes them to hand himself. My reaction when asked, though, is usually one of defiance, even if it's not expressed externally. I don't want to have to bring the implement to him. I want to have it brought to me.

I think what I don't like about it is that it adds a level of consent by obeying and bringing the correct implement. (Obviously, consent is a must, but for play purposes, one doesn't always want to say, "Go ahead, spank me!") For me, it feels like saying, "Yes, that was an excellent choice, here you go," even if I am dreading the object at hand. I prefer to at least pretend that I'm not anxiously awaiting each toy's touch, and I like the feeling of being completely surrendered to whatever he picks up.

Mike (aka Ireland): As the spankee I find it humbling to have to fetch an implement and hand it over. It certainly adds to the experience.

As the spanker, I hope it adds the same excitement for my spankee. Sometimes, I make it interesting though. Like moving an implement. Then I have the spankee find it, with the spanking proportional to the length of time it took to find it.

Meow: My two most hated orders from Lash were, "Bring the strap" and "Bring the spoon."

Jay: Nope. I’ve never had to fetch an implement for a spanking. I have been told to return a few though... from where I hid them.

I think it would be nice to try that though, and I am totally safe saying that here because Worzel doesn’t read this blog. Ha ha ha ha ha ha hah!

S: My bare bottom is upwards over the chair back, and a stingy hair brush is whacking away at it. My poor old bottom is getting very hot and sore. At last it stops. Wow, I think that was a spanking and a half, but that's that. I’m about to get up when I hear, "Now Susan, go and get the paddle." Oh no, but there’s no use arguing with David. I straighten up, waddle over to the drawer, knickers round my knees, skirt around my waist, and collect that big paddle. I hand it humbly to David before bending over again tightening the skin of my already sore bottom for his further attention. I can take quite a bit spankwise, but this pause in the middle, and having to assist with the next bit, really increases its effect!

Michelle: Once in a while, we go a step further, and my husband will have me lay out all of our implements so that just what he wants is right at hand.

Laying them out or fetching them heightens the excitement. I like the anticipation of knowing that I'll soon be bent over feeling the sting or thud or thwack of whatever I've brought/put out.

Zille: When we were first dating, my Master was bringing his very well-filled toy bag over to my place for our, um, assignations, and one time, he told me to choose three items that he would use on me. What a quandary! I didn't want to choose the ones that were obviously the "wimpiest," because that would be possibly grounds for using the worst one on me! But I didn't want to accidentally choose the worst of the lot... But I wasn't sure which the "middle ground" ones were! So I tentatively made my choices, while he looked on with an evil grin, enjoying my dilemma all too much! When I'd picked the three, he said, "Are you sure...?" and I gulped, "Um, are these *bad* choices?" "Well, I certainly wouldn't have picked them!" he replied with a wicked laugh, and set about to using them on me!

I think the worst though is that when we are going to do figging, he'll order me to go peel and prepare and prepare the ginger that will shortly be shoved up my bottom, burning and tormenting me! Let me tell you, that does put a person in a strange head-space!

The same goes with birch rods, but we've only done those once. Still, being ordered to go make the birch rods that he will then beat me with... Well, it's really just a strange sort of foreplay, isn't it?

Bonnie: Randy is fond of this ritual because it adds an emotional edge to the proceedings. He knows that for me, having to retrieve an implement crosses the line between compliance and complicity. As Abby suggests, the spanking is no longer something he does to me, but rather an act in which I am an active and approving participant.

The spanko mind being what it is, this request for explicit endorsement is a tremendous turn-on for me. I can’t just lie there passively and take my swats. I must invite them. The tension created by that moment of indecision and its inevitable resolution lie at the very core of my submission. Each time I choose to place my body in Randy’s loving hands, I reaffirm our bond. Each time he rewards my commitment, our relationship grows stronger.

Thanks to everyone who joined us this week!

MBS Spanko Brunch #178


Ah, summer. Whether you're drinking it in or wiping it off, I hope your summer activities are enjoyable and rewarding. Our topic this week is a classic that somehow we've never discussed. Thanks go to D for reminding me of this fact.

Asking a spankee to retrieve an implement is a well-known and often celebrated ritual. There is something unnerving about having to locate, pick up, examine, carry, and deliver the very object that will soon be applied harshly to one's bottom. Have you or your partner engaged in this ritual? If so, does it change the dynamic between spanker and spankee? How do you feel about fetching spanking toys as preparation?

If you have some thoughts about our subject, I invite you to join the conversation. All you need to do is enter a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will post an edited summary of the proceedings.

Friday, June 12, 2009

Poem: Thinking about a Spanking


Randy promised me a good spanking tonight. As you can probably discern, I'm really looking forward to it!

Thinking about a Spanking

Pondering, wandering, in a trance
Sitting, waiting, lost my pants
Soon we'll start our spanking dance
Nothing can be left to chance

Humming, tapping, sing along
Old familiar bedroom song
I want you to come on strong
That is why I wore this thong

Spanking makes my heart beat fast
Unleashing needs deep and vast
Fate is sealed and die is cast
Time is almost here at last

Hear the sound of our front door
Now my spirits start to soar
Want it all and even more
Let’s go down in spanking lore

Now you are right next to me
And your lust is plain to see
For my lock, you have the key
But first I go over knee

Rubbing round and round, such fun
Soon I’ll be a conquest won
Slap a little, swat a ton
Hold me tight until you’re done

Whacking, stinging, burning heat
Give it rhythm, keep the beat
Striking hard upon my seat
Ow! That hurts, for love of Pete

Feel the wallop, love it so
Now my rear begins to glow
Hard is good, I’m sure you know
Make your mark and let it show

Bottom soft and paddle firm
On your lap, I serve my term
Make me cringe and watch me squirm
With your spanks, our love confirm

All spanked out, there’s no more fight
Proved your point, I know you’re right
Sate my carnal appetite
Take me, hold me, all the night

Monday, June 08, 2009

Ask Bonnie


Believe it or not, this is the first Ask Bonnie post of 2009. Hopefully, we can make up for the long absence with some good (and occasionally bad) questions and answers.

Question: Do you like spanking photographs? If so, what sort? Do you and Randy ever take photos?

Response: I’m more of a word person, but I enjoy some spanking photographs. It’s probably easier to explain what I don’t like than describe what I do. I would rather not see (1) shots that might better belong in a gynecological (or urological for that matter) textbook, (2) brutal beatings of the Eastern European fashion, (3) any content that suggests a child spankee or anyone who has not or cannot grant their full consent, or (4) pictures that are shot or cropped to display only a disembodied torso. Spankees are real people and I prefer to see us depicted as such.

Lest you think I am an old prude, there are many spanking-oriented photographs that I do appreciate. I like a picture that tells a story. I want to see faces because they express the emotions that the participants are feeling. I especially like it when I know, or at least know of, the participants. That way, I have some back story as why this couple is sharing a spanking.

Yes, Randy and I have taken some photographs over the years with mixed success. No, I have no plans to post them on the blog.

Question: my name is _____ in the US, I read your profile thought I would drop you an E Mail. I see we are instrested in the same thing, Spanking. I would like to know moore on your feelings on it. Pleaase let me here from you an lets go from here.

Response: Hi, _____. What do they call you outside the US? For “moore on my feelings,” you might start by reading some of the posts on my blog.

Question: I'm planning a real discipline type session that will result in getting my ass whipped with a car antenea. Any experience with that?

Response: Never an “antenea.” It sounds painful. Please be sure to have appropriate first aid on hand in case your skin is broken.

Question: I have a question about spanking implements and when your body changes, as in exercising. I started exercising regularly and working out with weights a few months ago. Before I started this, I could handle any spanking implement my husband used, wooden paddles, plastic paddles, etc. But now, I am finding that I can't handle those kinds of implements anymore because my bottom is more toned than it used to be. It's frustrating. I want a spanking to last, but not to the point where I am in tears either. Can you suggest any implements that we can try that aren't as "heavy" of an impact?

Response: Sure. Light implements strike with more of a flick than a thud. They tend to work mostly at the skin level, as opposed to against your newly toned muscle. Examples include a crop, a light wooden spoon, or a small cane. A light, flexible leather paddle should also work well. You can even use a wooden paddle, so long as it's thin, light, and applied in a tapping fashion.

With this strategy, you should be able to get all the sting you desire without deep bruising. It should also allow you to enjoy a longer duration spanking.

Question: so you are a smart ass?

Response: Most definitely! If you have any doubts, you can visit my blog.

Question: Is there a secret to finding someone like Randy? Are there unknown singles lists for us? I'm in the ____ area and I have no idea how to find someone.

Response: Randy and I managed to find each other while we were in college. I chalk that up to good fortune more than any deliberate plan.

You may want to investigate whether there are any spanking-oriented groups in your community. The FetLife site is another option. Some people report success with personal ads in local alternative newspapers. Others contend they never met so many spanking enthusiasts as they did after starting a spanking-oriented blog. Whatever method you choose, I encourage you to exercise appropriate caution. I wish you the very best in your quest.

Question: I've come across a Blogger problem that I thought you may know something about. Yours is the only blog (by Blogger) that I can view. Suddenly I am getting a content warning message, and even when I click on it to continue, it just brings me back to the warning page. I'm trying to figure out why it happens on other blogs and not yours. I know you’re not tech support, but do you have any suggestions?

Response: Yes. You need to enable cookies in your browser.

Question: My girlfriend and I are new at this and want some advice. As expected we are a little nervous. We do tease each other with an OTK swat or two. We really want to explore this. What would you suggest? What positions would go with what instrument?

Response: I've written some tutorials that may be helpful for you. You can find them in a drop down window in the right column of my blog.

This one, in particular, addresses some of your questions.

If you are still wondering, please write back. In any case, I wish you both lots of spanko fun!

Question: Did you get a nice spanking today/tonight. sure your husband knows just how to punish you when you have been a bad little girl!

Response: Not today, but it’s coming soon. I don’t have to be bad to get spanked. In fact, it’s a lot more fun when I’m good!

Question: I recently discovered the joy of spanking with my husband. I am very intimidated by the use of all the toys you talk about as his hand alone brings quite a sting, BUT, I know that eventually I would like to explore those options. Is there a particular item you thing is best to start with? I was thinking paddles. Would you mind telling me about the progression you and your husband took over the years? Any help you can give is much appreciated!

Response: There is no one right answer. Every couple is a little bit different. Some jump right into serious implements, but most move up gradually as they gain confidence and experience. Some couples never move past the implement that nature provided. If a hand gets you to where you want to be, there is no reason, other than curiosity perhaps, why you have to look any farther.

When Randy and I started spanking, there were a lot fewer choices for buying implements. There was no internet and sex shops tended not to carry spanking toys. We used what was around – a hairbrush, a belt, a wooden cutting board, and so forth. Some worked a lot better than others. The only real spanking implement we had for the longest time was my sorority paddle.

If you would like to try a leather paddle, I would suggest Adam and Gillian. They are a reputable firm and have a nice selection of leather toys.

I suggest that you and your husband allow your own experience to be your guide. As you experiment and learn, some implements/positions/techniques will work better for you than others. If you find something that you dislike, then cross it off of your list and explore elsewhere. There are many adventures to be lived. I hope that yours will be enjoyable and fun.

Statement: i wanna make love to you!!

Response: Guys, listen to me. This is the worst pickup line ever. You can do better.

Question: Hello! I'm contacting you today because I'm working with authors ____ on a book about feelings on the web. We found an image on your blog that we found beautiful, and we wanted to get your permission to use it in the book.

Response: Let me get this straight. You want to put a picture of my bottom in your book? Are there no stock backside shots available? It’s a weird world out there, folks.

Question: I just started spanking my girlfriend. Can you tell me any games that we can play to spice up the spanking even more? Can you also tell me some more light [bondage and discipline] things that we can do together?

Response: Here are six brunch discussions that might give you some ideas.           1           2           3           4           5           6

I also wrote a few tutorials you might like.           1           2           3

I hope that helps. If you need more, please write back. In any case, best wishes to both of you!

Question: you a spanking fan?

Response: I’ve written well over a thousand posts in a blog dedicated to spanking. I guess you could say I am a fan.

Question: Which implements don't leave marks? I bruise if you look at me weird, so our play tends to leave my tush a bit more colorful than just rosy (Nothing bad, but definitely bruises.)

Response: If you bruise that easily, it will be difficult for you to enjoy any spanking without leaving some evidence behind (as it were). However, there are some things you can try to improve your chances.
  1. Get spanked regularly. No kidding. Spankees who are spanked relatively frequently tend to bruise less.

  2. Avoid heavy, rigid implements or those with abrupt edges. Most wooden paddles and brushes certainly fall into this category. But also watch out for canes, rulers, and narrow belts.

  3. Look for light, flexible implements that strike at the skin level (rather than the muscles beneath). You might try something like a small leather paddle with rounded edges.

  4. Suggest that your spanker apply a larger number of lighter strokes. This approach will still provide the satisfaction of a good spanking without inflicting as much damage.

  5. Some spanking enthusiasts like Arnica creme to reduce bruising. I'm not certain how effective it really is, but it's fun to have your lover apply it! Ice can also be beneficial if applied immediately after your spankings.

I hope this helps!

Question: Do you still have those posts with blogging tips.

Response: Yes. Some parts seem a bit dated at this point, but if this advice helps you, you’re welcome to it.          1           2           3           4

Question: Hello, how are you doing?

Response: Hi. I’m fine.

Question: Hey, how are you? let's talk sometime.

Response: I’m still fine. Aren’t we talking now?

Question: what casn a switch do to a bottom?

Response: It can make a bottom (even a hypothetical disembodied body part sort of bottom) mighty sore.

Question: Can you give me a good hard spaning today,ihave been very naughty all week long,please make long and painful cause ive forgotonen what good hard spankings feel like

Response: Apparently, you’ve forgotten several other things as well.

Question: should a strap be used on a naughty girl under 10

Response: If you have to ask that question, you should not be permitted anywhere near a child. Leave that dear little angel alone. She has a right to grow up in a healthy environment surrounded by love and support.

Question: Can I boink you?

Response: Nope.

Question: I saw a butt just like yours in santa monica last weekend. Was that u?

Response: My butt has not been to Santa Monica in years. Come to think of it, neither have any of my other parts.

Well, I think that’s about enough.

Sunday, June 07, 2009

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for June 7


Our topic of the week was interruptions. Here are your insights.

Sara: Spankus Interuptus is a most unfortunate event, and we try to avoid it with good planning. That means creating privacy and an awareness of sound control. If and when it happens, and it has, we usually try to resume if at all possible. But getting back in the mood can be difficult. This might even mean that we have to start back at the very beginning! :)

Greenwoman: Generally, my husband and I didn't start play unless we knew we wouldn't be interrupted. But if we were, we didn't try to pick up where we left off. We just cuddled a lot later when we got time again.

As for other partners? We always had adult only time, so there were no interruptions at all ever. Either the date was on or it wasn't.

I think it’s important to make couples time that's never interrupted.

Zille Defeu: Sara – I love the term "Spankus Interuptus!"

My Master/husband and I live in an apartment, with no one to interrupt us, so we're quite lucky in that regard.

Normally, there might be an interruption in a scene when there is a technical difficult ("Help, there's lube spilled on the floor and my feet are sliding out from me!" being one example, during a caning that was actually coitus interruptus itself!) and in that case, we just fix the problem and move on like nothing happened.

If one or both of us seriously looses "the groove," we just have snuggle time and then work our way back into it, or start something new.

It used to be a bigger issue for me, with past partners. I'm glad I'm past that stage, and can just "deal and move on" now. It makes things soooooo much easier!

Hermione: We always sequester our animals in another part of the house, out of sight and earshot, to eliminate the most likely source of interruption. We aren't usually interrupted by the telephone or an unexpected visitor, but it does happen from time to time. I have written about two such occasions on my blog. In one, we carried on in spite of the disturbance. In the other, we abandoned the session.

Daisy: So far, Davey and I have never been interrupted. Since I have been going out to see him and we stay at an hotel/motel for the duration, there is no one to interrupt there!

Last time though, we stayed mostly with family, after getting married, and that just meant there was hardly any spanking, unless they had gone shopping or some such and the spankings were then short and hurried, to ENSURE no interruptions. It would have been TOO embarrassing for words!

Fortunately, our room was directly above the noisy automatic opening garage door, so we had pre-warning of their return!

Jean Marie: I'm very fortunate to be living with a man who has a well appointed room in his house designated for D/s play. I wouldn't call it a dungeon. It’s more of a playpen. But when we go in there, there is already a mindset that we're closing out the rest of the world. We're not married and there are no children to worry about. It's a special place to express our special appetite for kink. But just as we don't only eat in the dining room, we don't only spank in the playroom.

Here are three things I've learned from past relationships to avoid interruptions:
  1. Turn off all electronics. Our D/s expression and resultant love-making are more important than some phone call or text.

  2. Kennel the dog. The very first time I was bound over the spanking bench, my dog wandered in and stuck his cold nose right up my butt. I was blindfolded and thought it was an ice cube. My loud yelp and giggles spoiled the mood.

  3. Pee first. I have an over-active bladder, and the excitement of the scenario often makes me want to pee. It's torture enough to be caned, I don't need the added pressure of trying not to let go.

Anon #1: In my case, it is a bit tougher. We get interrupted lots of times. When we play in the house, we must deal with kids and other people. Recently, a craftsman came to work on the windows from the outside. He dropped everything and fled when he heard me scream. The other evening, we tried the boat and fishermen came to do their nightly fishing next to it.

When we get interrupted after I have started to get very aroused, and before we were finished, it unfortunately seriously troubles me. I cry a lot, I feel kind of depressed, and I stay kind of submissive... oh oh oh.

Abby: Mr. W and I are lucky enough to not experience interruptions mid-session, but our biggest issue tends to be major interruptions between the time it becomes apparent there is going to be a spanking and the occurrence of the spanking itself. Actually getting to the spanking we've planned has become quite the complication.

Usually, the subject comes up via text message during the day, or a phone call, or occasionally on the ride home from somewhere. We'll be all excited and geared up, and then something dramatic happens at work, or we get a call that one of our family members is in the hospital (that's been happening way too much lately, though everyone is OK), or something else that just kills the mood. We even took a mini-vacation recently with the specific intent of a long punishment during our one night away, and something got in the way. Fortunately, we had plenty of time in the morning before we left the hotel.

My only advice for myself and for anyone else experiencing interruptions is make a date, as soon as possible, to try again.

Here’s some important advice for tops: You are in charge of making it happen. Reschedule, and COMMIT. Even if the spanking relationship is more for sex/play than for discipline, bottoms still need their tops to take control when things like this happen. Having to remind someone that they promised to spank you is awkward for everybody.

Anon #2: Kids and pets are our biggest interrupters to avoid. We usually save it all for later at night when the kids are asleep. There have been times when I'm laying on the bed during sex or spanking and I'll look over and see my cat staring at me with this smug look on her face. It totally makes me laugh, but I usually get back in the mood quickly. Needless to say, I try to make sure the cat is out of the room now.

Bonnie: Even though there is no one else living in the house, Randy and I still schedule many of our sessions. We try to find a time when we can shut out all of life’s distractions. We generally don’t stop for telephones or people banging on the door (though the latter might convince us to hold it down for a few minutes). This arrangement generally works well.

However, earlier in our marriage, when our daughter was at home and frequently accompanied by friends, we had to be more resourceful. We planned to meet at home during school hours. We encouraged our little angel to hold sleepovers for her pals in hopes that their parents would eventually reciprocate (this worked). In the summers, she attended various overnight camps. We made full use of our opportunities.

Even so, we sometimes found it necessary to play at night while our daughter was presumably asleep. She was, and is, a sound sleeper, but I still worried about her hearing something she shouldn’t. We had no incidents, but it added a level of stress that I don’t miss. Fortunately, as she grew older, she was involved in after-school activities. These became our spanko haven.

When we are interrupted, I usually want to finish what we’ve started, but it can be difficult to get back into that same mind space. Sometimes it’s possible to continue and other times, it simply has to wait until later.

Thanks to everyone who shared their thoughts. I hope you’ll join us again next weekend when we take up another relevant spanko topic.

MBS Spanko Brunch #177


Welcome back to our weekly get together here at My Bottom Smarts. Our topic this time was suggested by one of my regular correspondents. I'm hoping that posing her question here will encourage her to add a comment.

As much as we might try to avoid them, interruptions are inevitable. How do you and your partner handle disruptions to your spanking preparations, sessions, or aftermath? Is it possible to resume from the place where you stopped? Do you have a strategy to minimize, escape, or ignore interruptions?

If you would like to contribute to our discussion (and I hope you will!), please leave a comment below. Once everyone has had a turn, I will post an edited summary of the proceedings.