Sunday, May 31, 2009

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 31


Our topic for the week was favorite fantsy spanker apparel. Here are your reactions.

Hermione: Since I have often thought what a good spanking chef Gordon Ramsey might be capable of giving, I'll have to say that my fantasy spanker would be wearing chef's whites. He'd also have on one of those ridiculous tall hats, and I would tease him about it and hence bring on the spanking. As for the implement, I think a rubber spatula or wooden spoon would do the job well.

Anon VII: In fantasy, while I'm away, and in reality, when I get back home, she usually wears either her leopard-spotted or her tiger-striped lingerie under a sassy, short, black pleated skirt with a fuzzy red top and a pair of old-fashioned ('70s vintage) platform shoes to make up for the considerable difference in our heights when she snuggles up to me in a standing position and/or bends over. Occasionally, there's a change to a thong, and fairly often, she changes to hot pants with a cute little cotton top that she ties across her tummy. Also she usually tries out a new swimsuit not first with a dip in the ocean but with a spanking. Those garments, also, are frequently part of my daytime fantasies.

Meow: I love the stern Victorian husband with his jacket off, his sleeve rolled up and a hairbrush in his hand. Oooooo, can I put in a vote for Zorro, too? A mask, a cape and a whip! Meow

Jean Marie: I love role-play, but when all's said and done, I want my spanker buck naked so we can make passionate love right after I'm warmed.

Our Bottoms Burn: Becall has always wanted Sean Connery in a kilt.

Prefectdt: One thing I do not like is high heels, they just restrict a female spanker’s range of delivery possibilities too much.

Amongst the role play outfits that I like are any type of authoritarian uniform (military, train guard, police, etc), Gym mistress (with shorts or short sports skirt), female Garage Mechanic, and almost any form of historical outfit.

My absolute favorite is what I call "Old-Fashioned Librarian." A long sleeved, white or light coloured, tailored blouse done up right to the neck, finished of with a nice broach at the neck. A long dark skirt, at least long enough to reach below the knee. Dark stockings and sensible dark coloured shoes or those lace up Edwardian boots. Hair tied up or back in a neat and tidy fashion is a nice finishing touch.

Irelynn: For me, what someone's wearing doesn't contribute to a scene at all! In fact, it often really turns me off to see someone dressed elaborately. My favourite fantasy spanker (I love that) would probably just wear jeans and a t-shirt. Well, as long as the t-shirt hasn't got Mickey Mouse on it, that is!

Ken: My favourite fantasy spanker would be wearing a smart business suit to begin with but would take the jacket off before the start of the spanking to reveal a crisp white blouse with short sleeves.

However, there is also strong appeal to the informality of jeans and a t-shirt.

Penfold: For me, I think the spanker would be in either painting whites or a headmasters uniform. I love it when Bear dresses for the occasion. And I think it does add something special to our spanking experience when we both dress for the occasion.

Anon #1: Dress depends on the circumstance. If it is domestic discipline, then something stern and a bit aloof. If it is roleplay, then it depends upon which roles are involved. Our favorites include teacher, law enforcement, parent, or boss for the top and the opposite for the bottom. The same holds true for fantasy. We like pirates and wenches, knights and damsels, and so forth. For birthday spankings or spanking parties, it’s nothing complicated. If we are at a private party with trusted friends, we prefer quick access to the bare behind of the sub and something suggesting authority for the top. When the spanking is punitive, I select the pair of panties for the naughty woman in my life. They are color coded. White is for mild. Pink for a more serious infraction. Red for a major rule breach and crimson is for a very serious or too often repeated offense.

Greenwoman: For much of my life, I have thought that Sam Elliot was a very sexy man. I just adore his voice. He's got a twinkle of mischief in his eyes that I just really get off on, and a laconic expressiveness that's very appealing too.

So... I guess my fella would be wearing a shirt with the sleeves rolled up, some carharts, boots, and a hat. I think his hands would likely smell of tobacco and his clothes and skin like the heat of summer.

I have always thought he had a dirty daddy kind of energy that got to me. But it’s really his voice that melts my butter and I think if he'd just talk to me a bit... and then a little spanking. Wow. I'm really sure he'd have me cross-eyed with desire in a very short time. *smiles*

As for clothes making the man? No... Clothed or nekkid, he's just yummy.

D & S: Our fantasy is naval. We've never actually done it. It’s too difficult and expensive to get the kit. We envision D wearing a naval officer’s smart uniform with brass buttons etc., and I would wear the women's equivalent, with same jacket, but tight skirt and black stockings. Over his knee I go for a sound spanking with a long handled clothes brush (important for keeping uniforms up to scratch) on the taut seat of my skirt. That blazing bottom should be enough for anyone, but I have to stand to attention, whilst I am lectured on my so-called misdeeds. Then it is “off skirt and panties” and over the sofa back for me. My jacket tail and shirt tail are turned up, and my tender bare bottom gets a good seeing-to with a paddle (not from a boat!). Finally, I would get a dozen smart flicks with a thin cane. During this, my uniform hat has somehow remained on my head; D takes it of and plants it firmly on top of my scalding bottom. He then sits back and admires the view, but not for long, as my hat is taken off again for him to finish the evening as we had hoped. It’s all a fantasy, but perhaps, one day… Who knows?!

Red: For me it has always been the tailored business suit, heels, somewhat sexy blouse, and the directive glance to where I'm supposed to be.

Luna: I'd love to have my partner wear a tight pair of jeans, no shirt, and maybe some leather or rope gauntlets. Mmmmm.

Bonnie: This question is hard to answer because I have so many favorite fantasy spankers. I could cop out and say that Randy is my favorite fantasy and real life spanker and I like him nude, but that doesn’t seem fair.

If I must choose just one, let’s go with a tall, lean, dark-haired gentleman wearing a black tux and a white shirt, as a man might for a wedding or a formal party. I would wear an elegant full length, summer gown. I picture us in a dimly lit alcove of a mansion or palace where we discretely take care of business.

Thanks to everyone who took the time to visit during the very busy season. I hope your week will be pleasant and rewarding.

Saturday, May 30, 2009

MBS Spanko Brunch #176


Welcome back, one and all, to our weekly spanko brunch. This is a time for graduations, weddings, and reunions. As we transition seasons of the year as well as seasons of life, this is a perfect occasion to reflect. But let's have some fun instead!

Our question this week was suggested by a regular MBS reader.

What would your favorite fantasy spanker wear for an important bottom warming session? Would he or she be formally attired or look as though they just rode in off of the range? Would they don the garb of a classic authority figure or would they perhaps be undressed for another favorite indoor sport? In this context, do clothes make the man (or woman)?

Fantasies are fun and I hope you will share a little bit of yours. To do so, please leave a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance, I will post an edited summary of our discussion.

Thursday, May 28, 2009

In with the New: Cusp of Summer Edition


As we enter the warmth of summer, our thoughts cannot escape the allure of a different sort of heat. Here, for your reading enjoyment, are a dozen young spanking-oriented blogs. I hope you will visit and explore these blogs. If you like what you find, a comment to that effect will be beneficial for the blog, the blogger, and our whole community. I encourage MBS readers to welcome these newcomers and demonstrate our hospitality.

A Painful Awakening
Be All My Sins Remembered
Body and Flesh
Breaking the Rules
Cali Spankings
Cultivated Discipline
Discipline Notes
Meow Learns About Life
Struggles and Teachings
Sub Ken's Blog
The Good Wife
The Woody Back to School Unit

Welcome to all of you! I hope your blogging experience will be beneficial and fun.

Sunday, May 24, 2009

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 24


Our topic of the week was good spanking blogs and Web sites for couples interested in erotic and sensual spanking. Here are your suggestions.

Tiggs: Gee, the only hard part about this assignment is limiting it to five, so I'll just list the first five that came to mind:

          Ronnie at Heart and Soul

          Daisy and Dave

          Bear and Penfold

          Todd and Suzy at American Spanking Society

Jean Marie: I read these:

          Kelly is simply the best!

          Amber has the most adorable bum.

          Brambleberry Blush offers a refreshing perspective.

          Dante delivers sexy stuff!

          Chloe is a girl next door who is so cute.

PK: I think five of the best in this category would be:

          A Day in the Life

          Heart and Soul

          Hermione’s Heart

          Brambleberry Blush

          Todd and Suzy

Daisy: OK, websites for couples to read or websites where both parties participate in the blog? Hmmm... Lets do couples for couples!

          Ronnie and P

          Tiggs and Dante

          Todd and Suzy

          Bear n Penfold

          Meow and Lash

Prefectdt: My top spot has to go to All Things Spanking not so much for the blog, but for the resource lists that Mitch has on his blog for face-to-face groups, advice sites, resource sites, etc.

The next three I include because they explore the trials, tribulations, and joys of having a spanking relationship, whilst not ignoring how this has to fit into real life and all the other things that are going on around them.

          Ronnie

          Tiggs

          Dante

And last, but not least, I recommend Chross' blog, mostly for the Spankings of the Week posts that give a fun guide to photos, videos, and articles from other blogs, but also for his resource lists.

Ronnie: Can I first please say thank you to all who have mentioned my blog?

There are so many excellent bloggers out there, but the ones involving couples I regularly read are:

          Hermione’s Heart

          Brambleberry Blush

          Todd and Suzy

          Daisy and Dave

          Dante and Tiggs

          PK is another favourite of mine.

Also, I agree with Prefectdt that Chross’ Spanking of the Week posts are fun. Thanks to Hermione for introducing it to me.

Hermione: There are lots of wonderful blogs out there, so it's difficult to limit myself to five. Given that the couple is interested in erotic spanking - not DD - and assuming that this is an M/f couple, my suggestions (since I am too modest to suggest my own blog, which also fits the requirements) are these:

          The Spanking Writers - A husband and wife post alternately. The topic is sometimes real, sometimes imaginary, but always about spanking.

          Devlin O'Neill's Weblog - A good mixture of pictures, stories and playful banter, provided by a group of male and female contributors.

          A Taste of the Birch - A good place to go for fiction, it offers a combination of individual short stories plus a longer ongoing serial.

          Heart and Soul - A woman talks about real-life erotic spanking as part of her everyday life, and is very entertaining.

          Brambleberry Blush - Truly lovely and sensitive pictures.

Bear and Penfold: I would also like to say on behalf of Bear and myself, thank you for picking us too.

Our five favorites that we bounce from are:

          Bonnie

          Daisy and Davey

          Tiggs and Dante

          Jay

          Hermione

Starq: I think that going back to the beginning on some blogs will give you the very best stories and post. If you go back to the beginning, that’s when they posted the most and all the posts are very interesting.

Bonnie, your blog is one of the best for this.

Another one I really like is Tiggs at A Spanking Good Time. Her early stuff is really hot!

I think another really good one is PK over at New Beginnings. Hers is good now, but it’s another good one to go back and read since she tells all about how they got started spanking in the first place.

Just for a fun read, I like Cassie’s Space. It’s fiction, but it is the most fun read you will find. This is the only one I have read all the way from the beginning and I laugh out loud every time I go there.

My last pick is Ronnie at Heart and Soul. She and her husband seem to really like each other and they have a really good time.

Frank Spanko: For a real life couple, I would offer the following suggestions:

          The Spanking Writers

          Life In Motion

          Freshly Spanked

          Cu-Cu - This is not actually a spanking blog, but the photographic subjects perfectly fit the theme.

          Finally, I'd recommend My Bottom Smarts, of course.

Kate: Most of the blogs I follow are already listed, so here are a couple of sites I really like:

          Spanking Classics

          FetLife

          Bottom Lines

I have been to a spanking get-together with some of the Classics bunch and had a blast! I have only recently joined Bottom Lines, but so far a really fun site. FetLife is great. There are many like-minded people there and you can choose which fetish you want to follow and which friends you want! My name is Scunge.

Todd and Suzy: It really depends upon what you like and what you're looking for.

Justine at Dirty Spanking Blog posts lots of erotic photos. They arev ery sexual. She is a lovely young lady, and not at all shy.

Devlin O'Neill has lots of hot spanking-related spanking pictures too. He just did a video for Shadow Lane. Wow.

We think our AboutSpanking blog has a nice mix of pictures and short (very short) stories. PK's 'Fantasy Friday' is a great place to find stories from different writers. The Spanking Den is another place to find stories (thousands of them).

I guess that's five right there. But there are so many more though. Dante... Kelly, Amber, Zed and Ginger... Bonnie right here... It really depends upon what you're looking for.

Dr. Ken: Many of the ones I was going to suggest have already been mentioned, so I won't repeat them. But one I would add to the list is Radha Sutra. It’s thoughtful and well-written.

Cowgirl: Lots of good ones have been mentioned and here's one more...

          SarAdora's Spanking Erotica

Bonnie: I think all of the suggestions are excellent. To illustrate the richness of our community, my list contains five more quality blogs (or pairs of blogs) that are relevant to the question and have not been mentioned.

          Rad at Radspace and Sandy at This Cat’s Crazy

          Abby at The Little Red Schoolhouse

          Spankboss at The Spanking Blog and Bethie at Spanking Bethie

          Elaine at New to Spanking

          Dave and Cindy at His to Spank, His to Love

Finally, I think it’s worthwhile to note that many domestic discipline bloggers discuss erotic and sensual spankings as well.

Well, there you have it. I hope I got all of these links right!

MBS Spanko Brunch #175


I hope all of you are enjoying beautiful weather and good times with family and friends. In any case, I really appreciate you dropping by during this busy season to join us for brunch.

Our topic this week comes from a reader letter.

Could you recommend, say, a top five web sites or blogs for couples primarily interested in erotic / sensual spanking? Any great sites with articles, essays, blogs, pictures and/or spanking stories would be much appreciated.

This reader is already familiar with MBS and would like to get some additional perspectives. What do you think?

If you would like to share your favorites, or perhaps a great new discovery, I invite you to leave a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to add their thoughts, I will post an edited summary of our discussion.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 17


Our topic this week was hormones and spanking. Here are your thoughts.

Meow: I think hormones affect how erotic I find spanking. Spanking is always intimate, sometimes highly emotional, and occasionally sexual. I used to see it only as a sexual turn-on, but I'm now beginning to differentiate among various aspects. I attribute the ups and downs of spanking’s erotic appeal to my hormones.

Zille Defeu: We always seem to find the time and energy to play the weekend I get my period! It’s annoying, but I've learned to just deal with it. I used to not want to play during my period (not for any reason dealing with blood, just because of general crankiness/emotionality), but now I figure if he doesn't mind, there is no way I can really complain!

Other than that, my only thought is that I otherwise always have randy hormones running through me, and I always want to play!

Morningstar: I am lucky enough to be past the whole hormone thingy... BUT, when I first met Sir, I did have massive overdoses of hormone crap. What usually happened was that Sir would pick up the sweetest, softest flogger in the world, hit me once, and I would be yelping and dancing the subbie jig.

We came to the conclusion that when the hormones were running on high, I was much more sensitive, and I cried more too.

Actually, the first time that I cried, Sir stopped thinking something was terribly wrong. I can still see myself hanging from the chains with tears streaming down my face, shaking my head frantically, and saying, "No, no, don't stop." It was such an amazing stress reliever!

Anon: Sometimes, my life partner will get very tense around the middle of her cycle. We find that a soft, sensuous spanking helps her to relax.

Sarah: For me, hormones definitely play a part in how needy I become. For some reason, towards the END of my period, I'm so eager that my partner almost needs to hold me down or I'll "meet" the spanks too vigorously. I could literally stay in bed getting spanked for 24 hours! If only I could...

Jam: I find that as I come closer to my period, spankings are hard to take. They hurt more. Emotions are right on the surface and everything is like an overload to my senses. But I still want to be spanked, need to be spanked, and have to be spanked...

Hermione: With the onset of menopause, the decrease in some hormones caused others to become predominant, and I experienced a large increase in libido. Since spanking turns me on, my interest in that activity also increased. What provides relief? Why, spanking, of course, and Ron is only too happy to indulge me in my treatment. It's a lot cheaper, safer, and more fun than hormone replacement therapy.

Penfold: We had a similar post last month.

First of all, I quite often end up earning myself domestic discipline just before or during my period. That’s never a good thing. So when it comes to the DD itself, I find that it hurts much, much more than when I’m not hormonal. Bear has often said he thought that I sound like I’m being murdered when he is spanking me.

When we spank for pleasure and I’m due, I still can’t take much of a hard spanking, and we end up cuddling and moving on a lot quicker than when I’m not on my period or due...

Mary: Oh yes, for me, there is a link between hormones and spanking. Right before that time of the month, I feel so on edge. I am fairly lucky as far as PMS goes, but there is this irritability or sensitivity that arrives. A good spanking really helps. I would urge caution though, because the pain sensitivity rises too.

What I like about a spanking at this time is that if I feel overly on edge, then being spanked gives me an excuse to yell, kick, pound my fists into the bed and act out. Luckily for me, my partner allows the acting out as long as I stay put. That physical expenditure relaxes me in the end. Eventually, I just give in to the spanking and feel calm. If I am overly sensitive, tears might come and then the crying and comforting sooth my wounded soul.

Greenwoman: For sure, being a woman is full of angst that a spanking cures. All of that angst gets worse without my spanking... which, just like Hermione, is my cure.

Which technique is effective? Don't take no s#$% from me, just gimmee a spanking and a cuddle afterward. Don't get mad at me about my moods, just take me to the bedroom and take care of me.

I'll be your sweetness again as soon as my butt burns. I swear it!

Bonnie: I too am in that transitional phase of life where every room seems inexplicably warm. Hormones, or perhaps lack thereof, do cause anxiety and tenseness. Fortunately, I haven’t lost my appetite for spankings or sex. A good bottom roasting, followed by some intimate attention, goes a long way toward resetting my emotional compass.

Thank you all for sharing your insights. I hope you will join us again next week.

MBS Spanko Brunch #174


Hello again, my friends. After a long winter, nothing is more welcome than bright sunshine and beautiful flowers. Since we have plenty of the former today, I'm planning to get out and plant the latter!

Our question of the week was submitted by an MBS reader. I thought at first that we might have discussed a similar subject before, but a quick check revealed that we have not.

Do hormone changes influence you or your partner in terms of spanking needs, desires, or sensitivity? If so, how? Do spankings provide any relief from hormonal symptoms? If so, are there any techniques you find particularly effective?

If you would like to share your experience and insight, I invite you to leave a comment below. Once everyone has spoken, I will post an edited summary of our discussion.

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 10


I hope everyone enjoyed a peaceful and joyous Mother’s Day. Our topic was favorite spanking films. Here are your thoughts.

Hermione: A movie called "If..." starring Malcolm MacDowell came out in the early 70s. It takes place in a boys' private school, and there is a very realistic caning scene that's worth watching. The three boys being caned by the prefects are all older teens - not children - and they are taken into the gymnasium one by one and given six strokes each. All except Malcolm, who gets about twice that number. The three victims get their revenge in the end (of the movie, that is).

Daisy: I have never seen any actual movies... not even "Secretary!"

I have seen some spanking clips, but they usually seem very, ummm... contrived. These clips have NEVER tempted me to buy the full length version! So I can't help, sorry!

PK: It may be an oldie-goldie, but I have always loved "McLintock." It has humor, anticipation, and John Wayne as the spanker. What's not to like?

Zille Defeu: I love "McLintock!" There is no real reason for that spanking. They just wanted to work it in somehow!

My Master suggests that "Young Winston" has "a certain amount of brutal caning."

YouTube has an excellent collection of clips of spankings scenes from movies from the 20's, 30's, through the 90's...

But there is nothing like "Secretary," when it comes to spanking. I hope it inspires more movies!

Spanker R: I always like the scene in "Tank" where Jenilee Harrison gets spanked with a belt. The southern sheriff wearing the big white hat make a good authority figure. Nothing is really shown on camera, but in 1984, my imagination was pretty good.

Meow: Here’s an old, old movie: "Reap the Wild Wind." Ray Milland spanks a feisty Paulette Goddard (I think). Plus, it has a giant octopus. I love movies with a giant octopus in them!

Jean Marie: I think the movie is named, "Live, Nude Girls," and in it, Dana Delaney is bent over a table, her skirt is raised, and her (or a body double's) pantied bottom is hand spanked by a Godfather-like character in front of a lot of Mafia-types. Gary Marshall plays the don. She enjoys it.

In "Exit to Eden," S & M is foolishly depicted. Dana Delaney plays the head dominatrix wearing leather harnesses.

It all made me wonder if spanking was a criteria for Dana to choose her film roles. It all made me want to meet her.

I've never seen spanking wonderfully portrayed on a major film. I soooo want to.

Graham: There's a brief paddling scene in "Dead Poet's Society," and there's also lots of paddling in "Dazed and Confused," but it's as hazing rather than discipline. Those are both M/M. For M/F, there's a really cute scene in the Czech film "Cutting It Short" where a beautiful woman is spanked by her husband in front of a group of onlookers.

Prefectdt: I recall a film called “Walk All Over Me.” I can't remember whether there was any actual spanking in it and it was not that brilliant a film. It was OK in a "It's a rainy Sunday afternoon and there is nothing better to do" kind of way, but it was by no means a movie milestone. I recommend this one because it is about people who happen to be kinksters having an adventure (being caught up in the hunt for a criminal’s money) rather than concentrating on the kink alone. It was kind of refreshing to see a mainstream film that showed kinksters as people who have other concerns (real people at the end of the day) rather than just a bunch of weirdos, dribbling from the corners of their mouths, who cannot concentrate on anything else. If only a capable studio team, with a nice big budget, would make another film following this pattern.

Dr. Ken: Most mainstream spanking scenes are so short that it's hard for me to recommend any of them! "McLintock," of course, comes to mind with the two spanking scenes. I also like the spanking scene in the old movie, "Look For The Silever Lining."

Perhaps the best bet would be to buy the "Cinema Swats" series of DVDs. The clips are of mainstream movie spankings – without having to sit through the movies to see them. On the internet, I'm very partial to the videos that the "Punished Brats" site posts.

Kate: I think the title of the movie might be “Heaven Help Us” or something to that effect. Donald Sutherland is a priest brother and Matt Dillon, Mary Stuart Masterson, and few others of that time period are in it. It’s boys Catholic school stuff. ‘Nuff said.

Fanny: There is a video called "The List" that is available to download for free at a blog called Marks and Stripes. Even though it is an amateur video, Hubs and I think that it is very good.

Anon: The music video "Hear My Name" depicts two singers who take men and women over their knees and spank them across the seat of their skirts, dresses, pants, panties and underpants. You can view it on YouTube.

Todd and Suzy: “McLintock” is a classic. You can't go wrong with that one. “Tank” is a favorite too. The show Californication also has a great spanking scene in it. If you want to see *spanking* though, I’m not sure watching an entire movie is worth the effort, no matter how good the spanking.

There are several excellent spanking video companies. Punished Brats is a good site with somewhat lighter and more playful spankings. Firm Hand is a nice middle ground... and then as the name suggests, you can find harder spankings at Dallas Spanks Hard (though certainly not mean or brutal).

You can also check out Cinema Swats (cinemaswats.com) which offers DVDs with several dozen spankings scenes from mainstream movies and TV.

Jim: Here are some favourites of mine:

“Frank & I” – A severe caning is administered to the seat of a beautiful woman, dressed as a boy.

“Fetishes” – This documentary is set in a NYC BDSM establishment. There is a wonderful scene where the lovely Maria Beatty is soundly caned across her scantily clad bottom.

The above-mentioned Ms Beatty's film, “The Elegant Spanking,” is worth checking out too.

Cheryl: One of my favorite spanking scenes (sorry... I can't seem to pick an absolute favorite) is "Look For The Silver Lining,” in which the very handsome George McRae spanks the gorgeous June Haver (Mrs. Fred McMurray). The set up is good and the scene is cute and realistic.

I also like "Blue Hawaii", where Elvis spanks the bratty Jenny Maxwell. It’s a classic.

Bonnie: There are many fine suggestions here, but in terms of mainstream films, I still have yet to see the perfect spanking portrayal. “Secretary” is probably the closest, but I have issues with Lee’s depiction as a fragile, recently released mental patient. This characterization seems to suggest that a normal, healthy woman wouldn’t enjoy an erotic spanking. We know that is simply not the case.

If there are any budding screenwriters or film makers out there who are also spankos, I challenge you to show our kink as it really is. It’s not weird or exotic. It’s just a fun expression of love (or at least lust!) between two capable, complex, three-dimensional adults.

If we step over into specialty films, there are lots of good ones, including those mentioned here. Shadow Lane has been a pioneer in terms of creating spanking stories that are appropriate for couples to watch together. Punished Brats, Real Spankings, and Dallas Spanks Hard also seem to do a nice job, although their themes tend to be primarily disciplinary.

Thank for all of the excellent suggestions, and we hope to see you again next week!

MBS Spanko Brunch #173


Hey, everybody! It's time for brunch again. Our question this week was contributed by an MBS reader.

Can you recommend a few movies that have spankings in them? We like Secretary, but we have watched it too many times.

This is a fairly open-ended question in that he didn't specifically limit the discussion to mainstream films. Please let us know what you enjoy by entering a comment below. Once everyone has spoken, I will post an edited summary of our discussion.

Sunday, May 03, 2009

Recap: MBS Spanko Brunch for May 3


Our topic this week was techniques for keeping alive a couple’s spanking interest. Here are your thoughts.

Daisy: Simple really. We keep breathing...

Cookie: We do a lot of things to keep our interest alive. We attend spanking parties. We do videos for our blogs. We also practice domestic discipline and we always try to find time to play somehow. I like Daisy’s answer. We pretty much don't have to do more than be alive and be ourselves since it is so much a part of who we are.

Jean Marie: Our interest in spanking is hard-wired into each of us. There is a strong submissive interest in me and a wonderfully dominant interest in my lover. This is who we are. It is this reality that keeps our vibrant sex life so full and fun.

Todd and Suzy: We spend a good deal of our free time together doing different spanking-related things. These activities include talking with friends, going to parties, reading and writing stories, posting on our own blog, and reading and commenting on other blogs.

Probably the most important thing we do to keep our spanking interest alive though... is just *spending time together*. We're both interested in spanking (it's one of the things that brought us together). So just being together keeps that spark burning. It does help to do 'spanko-related' things though.

Anon #1: This is an odd question in my opinion. Spanking is a fun thing to do. I do it because it’s fun. If, for some reason, it ever loses its charm, I'll just develop some other inane fetish and move on.

It’s an interest. It works to sustain me. Not the other way around.

Hermione: We set aside some time to indulge in it regularly, and make this a high priority in our lives. We also try to make each encounter unique in some way. The combination of implements, position and timing is never exactly the same. At other times, we often laugh and joke about spanking, and that keeps the spark alive.

Looking at everyday life from the perspective of possible spanko subjects to blog about keeps spanking on my mind a good deal of the time. Reading blogs ensures that I won't soon run out of new ideas to share with Ron and possibly try together.

Bogey and Becall: I was going to post a wise-ass, but true, comment, but Daisy beat me to it. So I will just say that every day above ground, spanking is on my mind.

Meow: Practice, practice, practice!

Anon #2: We never get bored or go with the same routine. We both like the spankings too much. My Master knows how much it gets me hot. Whether it is for punishment, as foreplay, or just playing around, it all works for us. He loves it just as much as I do.

This morning as we both just rolled over, I asked for a good spanking. He was very surprised, but eager. What a great way to start your day! He will probably read this later and add his own opinion.

K: I don't know that we do anything to keep the spanking spark alive. We flirt and enjoy random suggestive swats. We enjoy spanking with sex. Less often, I am treated to a long, leisurely, fully erotic spanking. But we don't actively work to maintain the interest in spanking. It's more like the spanking is used as one of many ways to maintain our blissful enjoyment of each other and keep our marriage healthy, vibrant, and full of sparks.

Oh, and when I get the urge for a spanking, I just ask for one.

Anon #3: Frequent spanking is the key for us. When I'm aroused, I want to get spanked. When I get spanked, I get aroused. Feeling tender from being spanked arouses me. When I'm aroused, I want to get spanked. When I get spanked, I get aroused. Feeling tender from being spanked arouses me. When I'm aroused, I want to get spanked. When I get spanked, I get aroused. Feeling tender from being spanked arouses me... Ad infinitum. :)

I've been interested in it since I was a child, but I was not spanked then. We never attended spanking parties or clubs. It's just a part of our romance. I feel safe and loved with a red bottom. It's erotic and fun for us and not a punishment.

Spanking has been a part of our lives since we dated and still is after being married 35 years. We both love our parts. There are always playful spanks throughout the day. We started today with spanking and making love, as we do many mornings. I can feel it sitting here now and like the feeling.

We still make love almost every day and he spanks me a little or a lot daily and I love it. We are happy and sexy after 35 years together, in part, because of the spanking. There have been times over the years when it wasn't a daily occurrence for various reasons, but spanking and sex keep us very relaxed.

That definitely sounds like a winning formula!

Anon VII: As in the case of the last person to post, we've been together for many years, and our interest has never flagged. She still knows how to cut those big, green eyes at me like a cat on the prowl. We also exchange little pats, usually multiple times each day. Another of her favorites is to give me a pinch you-know-where or a thump on the nose, or make an off-color remark and then, with the foxiest naughty-girl look I've ever seen, bend over for a pop with my hand. That almost invariably leads to the long paddle and fantastic love-making before the night's over.

Anon #4: My partner already responded. She got spanked this morning when she woke up (at her request). I just got spanked (NOT at my request), but it was a lot of fun. Now we are just finishing some sweets before cuddling in bed and drifting off to sleep. She hopes to fall asleep before my snoring kicks in... Grin

Anon #5: I am hoping to use this blog to help our interest stay alive. I always have interest and my husband is trying to accommodate. He mostly just likes how turned-on it makes me and so therefore will go for a spanking. I would like more spankings that do not immediately lead to sex and more with a plot. I am trying to get him to spend a little time with the spankings described here. If he will, I think it will really help.

I think spanking, like lovemaking, works best when it’s something you enjoy together for your mutual benefit. The better you are able to meet his needs, the more likely he will be to expand his spanking repertoire.

Bonnie: I asked Randy this question, just to get his take. He chuckled and said, “Uh, spanking?” I guess that covers it, at least from the male viewpoint.

I think our interest in spanking is pretty much a permanent feature of our identities. The issue is not so much one of keeping the flame alive as it is finding the time and energy to truly enjoy the fire. For this reason, we schedule time for play and grab those serendipitous moments as we can.

I know that I am calmer, more focused, and better able to cope with life’s challenges after a good bottom-warming (and lovemaking) session with Randy. We also feel closer as a couple. This alone provides plenty of motivation.

Blogging, when I get time, and reading other spanko blogs definitely helps to keep the ideas percolating. We also leave little hints, like a thong over the knob of a dresser or a hairbrush on the night stand, that serve as reminders (or provocations, depending upon your perspective). Either way, our spanking flame remains very much ablaze.

Thank you all for joining in our spanko brunch. I hope you’ll be with us again next week. Until then, may all your spankings be good ones!

Saturday, May 02, 2009

MBS Spanko Brunch #172


Welcome back, my friends. Please find a seat anywhere you like and feel free to join in the conversation. This week, we have one simple question whose answer should be valuable for all of us.

What do you and your partner do to keep alive your interest in spanking?

We would love to hear what you have to say. Just enter a comment below and once everyone has had a chance, I will post an edited summary for all to read.