Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Nov 28

Our question this week dealt with innocent-looking but effective spanking implements.

Michael: Our number one pervertable is the hairbrush. I don't even think you can classify it as a pervertable anymore as even vanilla people know it has that use. It's almost like a dual purpose item now. You can pack it in your suitcase and a customs or security officer wouldn't give it a second look. You can have it out in plain sight on a table or even handle it in front of people, though even a non-spanko may tell you that it is rude to brush your hair in the middle of a conversation and suggest you should be paddled with that brush. Just a happy, squirmy thought for you, Sue. :)

Luna: Just about anything can become a spanking implement.

Consider belts, shoes, hair brushes, books (get out that Gideon Bible!), the bungee straps some people use on their luggage, rope used for the same purpose can be folded up into an impromptu flogger... And don't forget your hands.

PK: I believe the two most easily explained vanilla items would be the hair brush and the belt. Both are extremely effective spanking implements! Others that come to mind would be slippers or sandals. You can find some extremely good for spanking even if they might not be your style for wearing.

Ida Virgin: Besides the ever beloved hairbrush, I'm not sure. I've been spanked with a book before, but I suspect that after a few swats it would become a bit unwieldy to use.

On Her Knee: Nothing is as discreet yet extremely effective as a nice hefty well made wooden hairbrush, or even better a nice heavy clothes brush. The problem is finding a good one these days. They don’t have to be real big. The small wooden ones sold for a few dollars at Wal-Mart actually pack a lot of sting in every swing. These may lack the oomph for “sink the pain into the muscle” action, but they are still a fine bargain.

Anon #1: A pair of women's open-toed sandals, with a thin leather sole, make a nice spanking toy. The ones with a very low heel are easier to hold when you're spanking with them. The leather sole stings like a belt, but it is a bit wider and makes that nice "cracking" sound.

Jac: If you need something silent in the hotel room, you can use a cable. It can be a cable which connects your mobile telephone with a computer or mobile charger.

Anon #2: If your hotel has a swimming pool, a pair of pool sandals or flip-flops could find another use!

Prefectdt: I had a long list in my head before I read the previous comments. Beyond what has already been mentioned, I can add shoe horns. They come in all sizes and are made from lots of different materials like wood, bamboo, plastic and (gulp!) metal. As a result, there are plenty of sensations and severity levels to choose from.

Hermione: For minimum size and maximum effectiveness, how about a pair or two of leather bootlaces? They're lightweight and easy to conceal inside a pair of shoes.

Pink: I don't know too many people who travel with a wooden spoon, but that is one everyday item that shouldn't raise too many alarms.

Another would be a bath brush. However, I don't recommend that to ANYONE.

R Humphries: Actually, Miss Pink, a wooden spoon is a perfectly innocuous travel companion. On one occasion, I insisted on taking my favorite Peruvian spoon and a flat-headed spatula on a trip. The ever ingenious MBJ tossed a chef's hat, which I acquired at some point in life’s rich tapestry, into my suitcase. We also have a fabulous ping-pong bat leather paddle. I just went to the local sports store and bought a cover and a box of three balls. You just need to be creative, Sue.

Make Mine Red: My first thought was the hairbrush, of course. We have a flexible ruler that I bought at Walmart that really stings. I suppose it wouldn't look at all suspicious to pack a ruler if you also packed some pencils and a sketchpad. :)

Gracie Malling: I think I'm just echoing what others have said above, but I would suggest: a (preferably wooden) hairbrush (or several :-) ), a bathbrush, a ruler (we have a long plastic one which is totally evil - but at least it looks less obviously kinky than an old fashioned wooden one), slippers/flip-flops, and definitely a belt. Also, Mr M has a small suitcase-sized cane that we tend to take on holiday, but I'm not entirely sure how you could de-kinkify that. ;-)

S: Hairbrushes are great, but D has a large wooden clothes brush, which really hurts. Plastic rulers are swishy and very stingy. A big soft-soled bedroom slipper makes a thunderous whack on my bare bum, but does not sting much. A rubber soled tennis shoe, in contrast, really stings, and stops me playing tennis due to the tomato red state of my rear beneath my very short tennis skirt!

Scunge: Bamboo anything really packs a sting. You can get a bamboo backscratcher. We bought ours at Bed,Bath and Beyond, but I'm sure they are available elsewhere. ;)

Ronnie: Hairbrushes and belts are always good, very packable, and no one is the wiser. There are also wooden or plastic rulers and hotel slippers.

My husband once used a short, thin green cane like the sort you buy in garden centres. He borrowed it from a plant pot in the hotel hall when we were visiting Dublin.

Houston Switch: You could also use a phone cable (the kind you would plug into a phone and the other end into the wall jack) or a short network cable. Both of these can be easily carried with a laptop and no one will think twice, except the bottom. :)

Val: My new laptop has an AC adapter that is 7" long and 2.5" wide, 1/2" thick, and weighs (and hurts) as much as a heavy wooden hairbrush of the kind that they just don't make anymore nowadays. (sigh) The power cable is a sort I hadn't seen before. It's very flexible and round, not the stiff, coiled, lightweight stuff. Yum.

Second, think of the two tubes or rails inside your carry-on case . In mine, one of them holds a 1/4" delrin cane. The other holds a full length 22" rattan stick, which is adequate. I have seen the case image in the machine at the airport. At least to my eye, no one can tell.

Daisy: Other than the suggestions mentioned above, you can borrow the springy wire thing that holds up the net curtains in the room you stay in. It's like a vicious loopy johnny and it does not need to be used very hard to hurt like the very devil. It's therefore very quiet (the recipient won't be quiet, though!).

Bonnie: My husband, Randy, has long had a favorite spanking implement. It's an inexpensive curved handled wooden body brush like this one. It looks innocent, but I can attest that this brush is very, very effective.

Sue asked me to thank everyone for your excellent suggestions. I hope you'll stop back next weekend for more good conversation.

MBS Spanko Brunch #254

Hello, dear brunchers, and welcome back.  For those who celebrated Thanksgiving (or spanksgiving) this week, I hope the experience was rewarding and enjoyable.  Our question of the week comes from a new friend named Sue.  She asks:

Do you have any suggestions for everyday, innocuous looking items that are really effective as spanking implements?  Because my husband and I travel constantly with our work, it is not practical to keep paddles, floggers or the like.  We pack and unpack often and sometimes privacy is limited.

Can you help Sue?  If so, please enter your suggestions in the form of a comment below.  Once everyone has responded, I will post an edited summary.

Happy Spanksgiving!

Every day of the year, thousands of people arrive here from a hundred different countries.  I may not know you, but you know me.  Blogging has provided me a voice and all the feedback a writer could ever want.  More than that, this medium has granted me access to a community of wonderful people and introduced friends I will always cherish.

For all of this and so much more, I am immensely grateful.  Thank you.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Nov 21

Our topic this week was reactions to marks. Here's what you think...

Anon #1: I love the afterglow, but also the marks. They are like a badge of merit, I suppose

Michael: I'm glad you thought the question was worthy. I prefer to just redden Season's bottom, though I must confess that I try for fire engine red, or maybe candy apple red would be a more fitting description. I don't mind leaving a few marks when I use just my hand, which in our case are usually deep red spots just on the verge of bruising. But I don't like leaving black and blue or purple bruises, and especially, NEVER to break the skin like you see in many canings. I know many people enjoy this and take pride in leaving and receiving marks, and for them, this is what drives TTWD. However, given our unique individual preferences and willingness to accept all viewpoints in our community, I prefer not to leave bruises. Season is of the same mind, so we match up perfectly on this matter.

Kaki: I don't like seeing bruises or purple marks. It has happened in the past, but we worked on avoiding them. I know my husband doesn't like them either. He has apologized a few times when it happened in the beginning. Sometimes there is a bit of pink or a little marking the next day or so, which is OK. I don't like seeing pictures or videos or reading anything that shows a lot of bruising or welts. That is not what we do.

Barely Pink: Although it is certainly a matter of preference, D and I aren't overly fond of excessive marking. I'm not sure how he does it -- he has quite the technique -- but he manages to usually avoid any bruising at all, despite my fair skin and tendency to mark (Not for lack of spanking hard, mind you).

He has intentionally left marks twice in our relationship to leave an impression that I would not soon forget. He was obviously successful as I clearly recall both the reasons and the ramifications of those occasions and am certain to avoid a repeat. But he would never break skin, which would signify an immediate stop to any play. That's just not our personal style.

Most often, I am a deep shade of pink. This color can last well into the next day with absolutely no bruising. I like it that way!

Season: I don't pay much attention to the visual results of spanking. I suspect that may be much more interesting to the spanker. For me, it is all about how it feels - physically and emotionally. As Michael said, we prefer a nice even red color without bruises or welts. However, there is a hand-shaped crop he favors that I suspect leaves little red hand marks. :-)

On Her Knee: As a spanker, I'm not fond of seeing bruises and marks. But I know that My Fine Lady loves the sensation that can still be felt later. So, it's not my goal to make marks and bruises, but more being able to make the sensation last.

As a spankee, I enjoy being bruised and marked, especially when I can still feel the reminders of the spanking days later. It reminds me of the love My Fine Lady has for me.

It's not her thing. She would much rather just receive spankings, but she spanks me because she knows it's what I want and need. For someone who says she doesn't like giving spankings, she certainly has become VERY good at it.

Kimmie: As a spankee, I absolutely have to have a bruised bottom to have fully enjoyed the spanking. I just love to see the marks. It actually makes me feel better about myself to have taken such a hard spanking and to be able to see the results! It's also nice having trouble sitting down as it brings back fond memories that make me smile like almost nothing else. :)

Anon #2: We don't like marking or bruising. A nice red bottom is very good, though!

Daisy: After I feel I have taken a really, really hard spanking, which leaves me still sore hours later, I am actually quite disappointed if the marks have disappeared! It makes me seem like a wuss for 'complaining' ;) that I am still sore when my bottom doesn't even stay pink.

I am fair skinned, but do not mark easily. A fiery red ass looks white as snow again an hour or two later. That is O frustrating, because it is still tender!

So, yes, light bruising is sometimes good, but like many readers, I am not into broken skin and really bad bruising.

Gracie Malling: In my early days, I used to get some spectacular marks including purple edges of strap marks, dirty yellowish bruising, ridged red cane stripes, and I adored them. I loved having this enduring (for a little while at least) reminder of all the fun I was having. I especially liked to look in the mirror and catch sight of myself unawares. It gave me a gorgeous lurching, shivery feeling in my belly.

These days, however, my bottom has got so used to being spanked that it seems to have developed amazing powers of regeneration. I might initially have some redness and maybe a few bruises - especially if I've been spanked with something made of wood - but all this fades within minutes, at most within hours. In the past, it was common for me to have marks that were still visible after nearly two weeks.

I agree with Daisy that sometimes you feel like you're making a fuss out of nothing if you get up and see that your bottom is just a bit red, especially if you've just spent the past half an hour shrieking and wriggling and begging for it to stop. It doesn't help when Mr M says 'Look, there's not a mark on you! Now what was all that fuss about?'

Oh well, marks or no marks, it's still loads of fun :-).

Hermione: I am quite happy to have bruises that persist for a few days after a spanking, but that doesn't happen often. My bottom has become quite resilient over time, and marks are rare. Redness usually fades within an hour.

Ron always watches carefully for any excessive damage. A blister or break in the skin means playtime is over.

Our Bottoms Burn: Some people mark easily, while others resist the most extreme efforts. It has little to do with the spanker. Most bottoms relish marks. I don't like to give marks, but they happen and for those who want them, I make the effort.

I don't mark myself.

Scunge: I LOVE the marks, but Sir does not. So I rarely get marked now. As soon as I start to show a hint of bruising, he stops. Here is something that I find just a tad weird. He says he doesn't like to see me in pain because he loves me. Apparently, before he loved me, it was different. I'm still wrapping my head around THAT!

Ronnie: I don't mind if I have a few light marks or bruises afterward. I quite like to see them. We're not into broken skin or very bad bruising. P's very careful about that.

Jean Marie: This question reminded me how much I like marks on my bottom, and how long it'd been since my last hard thrashing.

"Keiter, come here, please," I called.

"Hrmph!

"It's important," I persisted. When he joined me, I pointed out our weekly query and then bent over and let my jammie bottoms fall. "Cane me so that we have the stripes to savor all day, please...?" I implored.

I now have ten very vivid welts burning back there, and, of course, that lit a fire that only sex could extinguish. Do other couples find that these weekly questions change the course of your weekend?

Spanked by Wife: I think of marks as a badge of honor. Sometimes, it seems she marks me more easily than others. But unless there is evidence the next day, she probably didn't spank hard enough.

R Humphries: As a good deal of our play involves the cane, I am always keen to view the results. I make sure that all the stripes have landed in the ‘sweet spot’ and there have been no wraparounds, or high or low riders that can cause unnecessary discomfort. Of course the cane leaves marks, but in all the years I have indulged my caning passion, I have never ‘cut’ anybody with a cane and would think that I had failed in making the proper application if I did.

Interestingly, MBJ is extremely proud of her pain threshold and her stoicism under fire. When we are playing with other toys such as straps, slippers, hairbrushes and kitchen utensils that allow for more extended sessions, MBJ always seems particularly enamored of her very red bum. I never intentionally cause bruising, although some darker discoloration can be a natural bi-product of an extended spanking with a wood-backed hairbrush or other toys of the more unyielding variety.

Katia: I don't mind a bruised backside. The bruises are a good reminder. However, my backside has become quite accustomed to some hard spankings, and I tend to heal very quickly or barely bruise at all.

Prefectdt: I love having a marked and bruised backside. It is just a pity that the marks fade so fast nowadays. The one exception is good strong cane marks. They can last for ten days. :)

Kady: JJ says: I do NOT like to see bruises from spanking Kady.

Kady says: Hey, what's a good spanking without battle scars?

If I am going out of town, I especially like to have bruises to keep me connected, so to speak. It's like I still feel his presence when I see the bruises. They keep me feeling his love.

Make Mine Red: We both prefer just a nice rosy red. I like to feel heat and I enjoy raised welts. At first, I bruised easily and it upset hubby. He wanted to back off of spanking for a while. I convinced him otherwise. I think my behind has toughened up because he spanks me a lot harder now, but there are never any lasting marks!

Anon #3: I love examining my behind in the mirror shortly after a spanking and seeing the welts and marks. We usually use a belt and just looking at the welts makes me want to bend over again. : )

Char: I like a nice red bottom. And I like feeling it the next day. It reminds me how much I am loved. And that makes it all worthwhile.

Diesel Diva: I mark easily and LOVE to see the results. My hubby hates to see marks, but he enjoys the benefits that those marks provide. LOL

Loki: Both my wife and I are dark skinned, so seeing marks on us is sometimes difficult. But, yes, I do love seeing her bottom turn a dark shade of red during a real intense play session from me.

When I bottom, I love that sore feeling that lasts for a few days, as well as the stripes from a good caning. My philosophy is that if you are getting spanked, you should at least know it afterward. That only happened once to me. I spent my 21st birthday at Paddles. Now that is a fond memory!

Bonnie: I like getting mild to moderate marks. I don't want any deep bruises or skin breaks, but short of that, it's all good. With that said, I rarely mark. Even the redness fades rapidly, sometimes within minutes.

Randy likes seeing and feeling those marks as well. He sometimes chooses an implement with this in mind. For us, the visual evidence is just another pleasing aspect of our spanking experiences.

Thanks to everyone who joined in our community brunch!

MBS Spanko Brunch #253

Thanks to everyone who participated in our aftermath poll. Incidentally, I answered yes to all of the questions. Our poll inspired Michael to suggest this excellent follow-up brunch topic.

As a spanker, do you enjoy leaving marks or bruises on your partner's bottom? As a spankee, do you like being marked or bruised, or is having a rosy red bum enough?

To participate in our brunch discussion, all you need to do is enter your answer in the form of a comment below. Once everyone has had their turn, I will post an edited summary.

Poll: Aftermath

Every spankee wants to twist around to gaze in the mirror after a spanking is finished. We wonder whether our bottom looks as bad as it feels. We wonder if there are marks and, if so, how they might compare with spankings past. Whatever the reason, we simply have to look.

This poll explores your experience with these sorts of telltale signs.

Have you (or your partner) ever...

1. ...Had a donut-shaped mark made by a paddle? Yes No 2. ...Had an itchy bottom the day after a spanking? Yes No 3. ...Had dimples appear after a spanking? Yes No 4. ...Found it too painful to wear underwear after a spanking? Yes No 5. ...Had to sleep on your stomach after a spanking? Yes No 6. ...Had the center of your cheeks turn whitish? Yes No 7. ...Had a numb bottom? Yes No 8. ...Had your skin become firm and hard? Yes No Current Results

In with the New: Global Warming Edition

Here are sixteen more excellent spanking-oriented blogs to explore and enjoy. If you like what the blogger has to say, I encourage you to comment.

A Libertine's Spanking

A Spanking Marriage

Amanda's Real Life Spankings

Coach Mike Tanner

Discovering Sweet Georgia

Eternally Devoted Love

Everything Panties and Wedgies

Husband in Check

Slipper Lover

Mission: Submission

Monkey's Space

My Sub Journey

Respect for Mistress

Sex with Ida Virgin

That Perfect Place

This Kinky Life

To these new members of our community, I wish you good fortune and good friendship. If you would like some blogging tips and suggestions, try these. In any case, we're glad you're here!

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Nov 14

Our topic of the week was perfect moments. Here are your thoughts.

Michael: That drawing by the amazing Kami Tora does capture the perfect moment, and Season and I have had similar moments. They are perfect because I am holding my well-spanked girl on my lap forgiving her, kissing her, caressing her. We are serene and all our troubles have flowed away leaving two happy and content people with an ever growing love.

ServingB: The perfect moment for me came the first time I cried openly during a spanking, and B accepted and encouraged my tears. I've not been the same man since, nor the same partner and lover. Her acceptance of my sharing such raw emotions deepened my love for her immensely.

Angie: Oh yes, I've had that perfect moment. I keep going back, in my mind, to the punishment spanking turned play with M a few weeks ago. There was so much that needed to be 'addressed' that he decided to give me one long strapping and paddling that would serve as both punishment and maintenance. It was hard, and I struggled to take it, but I did. By the end, I had that "just give up and cry" kind of feeling. I was still sobbing into the pillow when I heard him put the paddle down and felt him reach between my legs. Tears were streaming down my face when he completely manipulated my "lady parts." *blush* I've never had THAT experience before. It was hot, and it was kind of hard for my mind to process, so I just let go.

Then I ASKED for the big, bad wooden paddle. I NEVER do that. Ever. Like take NEVER and multiply that by infinity and that's how often I ask for that implement. He was paddling me with it and simultaneously rubbing me *there* (for a sex/spanking blogger, I sure can't say THAT word, huh?). I wanted him to keep going, but he finally said, "Baby, if I don't stop, you're going to bleed." I was FLOORED. I was in such a beautiful, blissed-out state that I had no idea I had even *marked* much less had bruises/welts.

The way we lay together afterward - with both of us totally spent and my bottom FINALLY hurting again (LOL) - I felt completely at peace with the world, and totally connected to this man who protects, cares for and punishes me. I have never felt more lucky.

Season: Michael captured our perfect moment in his comment. It was pure bliss! There is one other moment that I think comes close to this for me. It is when he is still holding me over his lap, but the spanking has stopped and he is just resting his hand on my bottom. Something about that feeling gets me every time.

Hermione: There is often a perfect moment for me while a spanking is underway. I am enveloped in physical sensations that occupy my attention and make me forget the cares of life. My mind is filled with the joyful realization that my partner and I are both actively engaged in doing what we love: spanking and being spanked. There is a beautiful oneness about it that persists after the activity ends.

Marie Haynes: I've rather given up on submissiveness, but still enjoy a good spanking. Once during a pleasure spanking, I lost myself. I truly lost myself and all of the stress and worry and trauma of daily life. I zoned and floated and felt free. All that existed was my ass beneath his hand and all I wanted was more.

Em: I've experienced two spanking moments that I would call perfect. I've described them both on my blog, here and here.

These events were very different, but I think the key for me is a proper mental build-up followed by a spanking which is quite firm. It should also be slow enough and careful enough not to push me too far too fast. I imagine it sort of like a line graph charting strength vs. speed. If it's too light and slow, you fall under the line of the graph. If it's too hard and too fast, you're thrown over it. With just the right combination, you float along it.

Ms. Betty: We've definitely had a spanking-related perfect moment. pc really ought to be telling this, but as he doesn't do the 'web thing,' I'll try to relate it.

Early in our relationship he went on an afternoon golf outing. He doesn't play very often and by his own admission, he's not much of a golfer. In his terms, he has a hook that could catch sharks. :) He hit the ball and then watched in horror as it turned in the air, heading straight for a nearby house (Please tell me why people think it's a good idea to live actually ON golf courses).

As it flew, his thought was not how embarrassing this shot was, not how much his associates would tease him, and not even the cost of the window he was sure he was about to break. What he thought was "if I break that window, I am going to be in for a very serious spanking." It was the first time he realized this was all "real." His actions out there in the world were going to have consequences. He would answer for things.

It still took us awhile from there, but that was the moment when he started thinking ahead and possible consequences began to influence his behavior.

Mistress160: It's funny. I often achieve that moment when my hand gives out and I can neither spank with it, nor get my fingers to curl around anything to continue.... *grin*

Bonnie: As others have mentioned, I know well the peaceful, contented place that lies on the far side of a long, hard spanking. In these golden moments, I feel immensely grateful for and bonded to the man who so lovingly brought me there. The pain becomes barely perceptible and mostly irrelevant. He and I are the only two people in the world. In that instant, I would happily surrender my body and my being for him to use as he pleases. It is bliss.

When I feel a twinge of discomfort as I sit the following morning, pleasant recollections flood back into my consciousness. The grin on my face as my hand involuntarily grazes across the seat of my slacks is genuine.

Thanks to everyone who joined us for brunch this week!

MBS Spanko Brunch #252

Welcome back, everyone! The artwork above was created by the wonderful Kami Tora and appeared at the Cherry Red Report. For me, it depicts a perfect moment. All of the world's troubles are, for that instant, simply gone. I've been that girl and I love all of the emotions and sensations captured here.

Have you experienced a perfect moment through spanking? If so, what made it special? If not, how do you envision your perfect moment?

I hope you will share your thoughts and experiences by entering them as a comment below. One everyone has had their chance to speak, I will post an edited summary.

MBS Spanko Brunch #251

As you read this, Randy and I are far away frolicking in a (hopefully) warm place. However, it's undeniably time for brunch. Thanks to the generosity and hospitality of our good friend, Hermione, this week's community conversation can be found here.

I'll see you soon!