Monday, May 28, 2007

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for May 27

Happy Memorial Day to all those who celebrate it, and general happiness to everyone else. Our brunch this week dealt with spanking and romance. Here are your thoughtful responses.

Tiggr d'Amore: Oh, YES, spanking can be ever so romantic... The very act of giving and receiving a spanking incites passion, ignites that rush of endorphins, adrenaline... All the love hormones. Nothing is better for sparking the flames of romance.

How? Well, touch is paramount... Slow, soft, sensual touch, not just whacking away. Lots of rubbing and touching and kissing and caressing all over, followed by slow undressing and an even slower warm up. Lots of touching across the lap or lying on your partner. And liberal application of the hand, at least to start...

Emerald Eyes: I agree completely with Tiggr. Spankings can most definitely be romantic, provided there is lots of caressing along with it (in my opinion)...

It's that deep understanding of what you both want, and need. It’s where words aren't needed, just intense feelings (both physical and non physical)...

I know sometimes when I am feeling a little neglected, or unappreciated. CM just has to take me over his lap, begin the gentle touches along with the semi-painful spanks, and I'm 'his'...

Todd and Suzy: Spanking can be playful or erotic, serious or fun. It is certainly an intimate act too. One aspect is removing/pulling down their bottoms, and the other is touching the bared bottom in an act designed to fulfill needs and desires. And, if the people spanking are in love, and have a romance in place, spanking can indeed be very romantic.

To add to the romantic feel of a spanking, for us, we focus upon its erotic nature. A more vanilla person would imagine a candlelit room, floral scents, music, loving words, naked bodies, massage oil, touching and kisses. That's a romantic scene. We feel the same way. It’s just, as spankos, you know, we throw a leather paddle and some OTK time into the mix. ;)

Paul: Are we so different from those we call vanilla?

Picture the scene, I have finished up downstairs, locked up, checked the windows, settled the dogs. Mel went up about thirty minutes prior. I enter our bedroom, the bedside lights are dimmed. There are candles on the dresser and on mantle our favourite incense is burning. Mel is in the bathroom combing her hair. I remove my slacks, and then throw my shirt and shorts in the hamper.

I walk into the bathroom, and the sight of my girl naked, as always, turns me on. From behind I smile at her in the mirror, kiss her neck and stroke her butt. She giggles, as always, and blushes, as if we haven't done this a thousand times.

I hop into the shower for a quick wash as my beloved is waiting.

Mel is sitting on the side of the bed waiting for me. She looks so serious. I open my arms, and she flies across the room and into my arms. We kiss and caress as I deposit her on the bed. I climb onto the head end and Mel crawls into my arms. She whispers in my ear, “I've been a naughty girl.” So I inquire, “What did you do this time?” She always had to earn her good girl spankings. After much cuddling, stroking and more intimate touching, she is over my lap. This happened very often in our life together, yet the first spank always seemed to come as a surprise. After ten to fifteen minutes of spanking intermixed with stroking and the sort of touching that position encourages, Mel came. This led to me giving her several orgasms. Do I need to go on?

For me spanking is the most erotic form of foreplay possible.

Erin: I consider spankings to be very romantic, especially when there is a great deal of rubbing. We have also used candles to set the mood. Although, the most romantic spankings for me are the ones that I don't know are coming.

Paige Tyler: Spanking is all about romance for us! In addition to the sexy lingerie I like to sometimes wear, there's also the prelude to the spankings my hubby gives me. This includes kissing, caressing, and sensual massage. Then, of course, there's all the touching and caressing that he does during the actual spanking. All of that combines to make a very romantic, not to mention very fun, afternoon or evening!

Scout: I definitely find spanking romantic. One reason is that I know it was hard for my husband to sign on, but he did and continues to do so because he loves me, which deepens the love I feel for him.

And the spanking itself is exciting. There's no other type of foreplay where we talk, giggle, tease, "act," and engage each other as much as we do in spanking. It always leads to high energy, passionate lovemaking - the fulfillment of romance!

Spanking also makes us more generally aware of the little charge between us. I notice his confidence and "dominance" traits all the time, and it's kind of fun to think to myself, "He spanked me!" when I'm watching him do something as ordinary as taking out the trash. It makes life seem romantic.

Jean Marie: Spankings can be oh so romantic. I find the ULTIMATE seduction to be told that I'm going to be spanked, to have my clothing removed piece by piece, to be put in my place face down over the knee, and then to have my dreams become reality, my wish fulfilled, my bottom warmed and reddened, my will conquered, my ego sublimated, my fear faced, and my limits pushed a little...

Spankings are the best foreplay. I love to have my desires aroused, my needs magnified, my wrongs righted, and my errors punished. I can then respond with thighs parted and arms open.

Sex is the hottest after a spanking, when the flames of ardor are fanned to the point of combustion.

Mary: I love the romance of a spanking. Spanking is incredibly intimate. Even when it is for punishment, there is such an intimacy with submission, and an intimacy with knowing someone wishes you to be your best self. The trust between partners is romantic. The fire that builds is incredibly romantic. The tender wince when sitting down to dinner on a toasted bottom is this sweet secret between partners that bonds like no other. To me spankings are as romantic as can be.

PK: I agree with much of what Scout said. Since spanking did not come natural to Nick I think it is very romantic every time he spanks me. I know he is doing this for me, because he loves me. What could be more romantic?

Carye: I think spanking is very romantic. It gives us such a closeness that I feel. I know PS spanks out of his love for me. He is more a vanilla with sprinkles, than a spanko. So every time I get spanked by him, I cherish it because I know that to do this, he is showing his ultimate love for me and my needs. It is absolutely the most romantic thing!

Pagan: My hubby is a vanilla, so he spanks me because he knows I want/need him to.

I'm not sure I'd exactly call it romantic (particularly when he has me solidly pinned and is going to town on my butt), but it's definitely an act of love. :)

Bonnie: Spanking, for us, is romantic. What’s more, our concept of romance inevitably includes a good spanking. After spanking and lovemaking, I always feel more tightly bonded with Randy than at any other time. The intense, intimate experiences open me up to deeper emotional acceptance. He is my man and all I could want.

In terms of setting the scene, most of the common vanilla approaches (candles, scents, music, tasty treats, lingerie, etc.) work equally well for us spankos. We might throw into the mix a conspicuous implement or provocative pose, but as Paul notes, the process is not too different.

Thanks go, as always, to our wise and generous participants. I hope to see you all right back here for another spanko brunch next week!

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Southern Angel said...

Hmm, I thought I had posted on this thread but JD just told me I hadn't/ I think Blogger has something against me.

Anyway, I voted for yes, it can be romantic.

Paige Tyler said...

Great reading, Bonnie!!!

Paige (Tigger)

MaggieDear said...

I have to go back and reread all the comments after Paul's. I got stuck there! *g*

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