Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Aug 14

Our topic for the week was the classic most memorable spanking question. Here are your favorites.

Luna: My first adult spanking has to be the most memorable and probably not because it was my first, but because it gave me a taste of what I had been missing in my sexual life. For the first time, I felt that what I was craving was accepted, relished and pleasurable. I knew that by the time it was over and the bruises had settled in, I was going to be hooked.

Seven years later, I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life. I don't try to recreate moments that left such a strong memory, but it is fun to reflect on them to get the heart racing.

Joeyred: I was part of a group spanking. Five lovely ladies and this very lucky guy were spanked with our elbows on a pool table. The spanking was very hard, a punishment for some naughty deeds. What made it most memorable for me was the group hug when the punishment was over. It was a moment in time that I will never forget with five people who will always be special to me.

MarQe: I spanked my wife in a hotel in Stratford Upon Avon after a night at the Royal Shakespeare Theatre. It was my 40th Birthday treat! I also have a feeling I will long remember spanking the delightful Scarlot just a few weeks ago. She is relatively new to the scene and a delightful squirmer when the hard ones were given!

Hermione: My most memorable spanking was the one that ended a long period when there was no spanking in our lives. Ron took it upon himself to tell me what he had planned for the weekend, and even phoned me at work to describe his process of selecting just the right implement.

That spanking reconnected us on a much deeper level and put me in touch with my submissive self. It also heralded a new beginning in our spanking relationship. We have since gone from strength to strength. Best of all, it led me to start searching for spanking topics online, and ultimately to the blogging world I am now so much a part of.

Michelle Carlyle: My favorite memory was my 44th birthday at the Embassy Suites. I had five hundred Long Island Iced Teas and gave my husband a script of things I wanted him to do to me. Most. Fun. Ever. Amazing spankings, paddlings, whipping with a riding crop, and made love to in every position imaginable. Wow. It was the first time I was ever left with marks. This alarmed him, but they reminded me of the outstanding evening. Whoo-hoooo! Say... I think my birthday is coming up shortly. And I have an idea...

A'marie: My most memorable was the first, definitely. I was in college and I had admitted to my partner the desire for spanking, but we'd never tried it. I was being, uh, slightly bratty, and before I knew it, I found myself bent over a bed as he was pulling his belt off.

It changed my relationship because until then, it had been just an intriguing interest. There was still the possibility that I'd try it and hate it, right? So this spanking marked the realization that no, this mildly kinky little desire wasn't going anywhere, and damn it was something I needed more often.

I'vd never tried to recreate it, but that is undoubtedly due to my personal feelings about the ex-partner. ;)

Kitty: My most favorite spanking to date was when Daddy spanked me and gave me an orgasm from spanking alone. There was no stimulation other than his hand spanking me. It was so off-the-charts incredible that I can't imagine going back to my pre-spanked self. For those interested in the whole story, it's called Daddy Did It Last Night. ;)

Lea: My first adult spanking will always be memorable for being my first. I wouldn't say it was the best I've ever received because we've evolved since then. But it stands out with a few other moments. A few months ago, I had my first scene where I was spanked along with another bottom. That was fun and a very different dynamic for me, so it stands out in my mind as well.

I don't think those times can really be recreated. Especially the first time, those are very unique feelings experienced when things are brand new. The spontaneity of some events adds to it being memorable and something that can't be copied.

Anon: Oh my, yes! It was one night back in the early 80's when I asked my wife to spank me. We had almost no furniture at the time, but after she spanked my bare bottom in the living room, she called me into the bedroom. She'd lit a candle and put on an ankle-length formal skirt but was wearing no top. I went over her knees on the foam mattress we were using for a bed and she spanked my bare bottom. I will always remember her beautiful, bare breasts hovering over my reddening butt. I wrote in my journal about how wonderfully it stung. If I had any night I could re-live with my wonderful wife, that would be it!

Gracie: Hi! Thanks so much for listing my site on your blogroll!

I remember my spankings, but I feel like we're still making progress, so they're actually getting better. My Sir is starting to spank me most every day when it wasn't previously part of our activities. I've also given him some pointers about what to do, based on what I've read, and we're working from there. I think my favorite lately has to be one with the belt. It hurt, it felt wonderful, and it briefly raised the skin. Just glorious.

Hi Gracie, and welcome!

Mikki: No. I'm sorry to say that I don't have an awesome first spanking story. My first one was when, over several days, I had asked my husband several times for my first spanking. I think he was irritated and frustrated. He really didn't know what to do or what I really expected. I was lying on my belly, trying to talk to him, when he rolled over and asked whether I really wanted it. I said, “Yes... I think.” He pushed back the covers and administered six very hard, very fast and not so fun or kinky or anything but true spanking swats.

All he said afterward was "Is that what you wanted?" I replied, “Yeah, I guess." We both rolled over and went to sleep. I kinda think of it as a bit of a punishment for nagging him into spanking. But don't worry. We have since come a lot closer to perfecting TTWD.

I don't nag him to spank anymore. Lesson learned!

Make Mine Red: I love everyone's stories! Thanks for using my idea, Bonnie. :)

I would have to say that the first time he actually spanked me is most memorable. It was simply with his hand, but it was incredible because of all the emotions involved (I was nervous. Would I really like it as much as I thought? Then the realization that YES I did really like it!). Until then, I had a hard time convincing him to actually do it.

That wasn't the best one. He's since fully embraced it and gotten much better at it. We also have some really fun implements now. The first was most memorable because he FINALLY did it. I can't imagine going back to pre-spanking days. I actually crave it. No, I don't want to recreate that one because several since have been so much better and I would rather recreate those. :)

Thank you, MMR, for an excellent idea!

Daisy: My most memorable was after he gave me what had been promised for over a year, the mother of all spankings. Remember, we are on different continents, so over the year apart, there had been many occasions where I cheeked him, argued with him, etc., over the phone. He always said that when we were together, he would make me sorry! As the time drew near for my visit, he began telling me what a severe spanking I had earned, and I suppose I built it up in my head. When it eventually happened, it was nowhere near as bad as I expected. I felt half relieved, half peeved that this was so. I had waited a YEAR, for THIS?

After the sting wore off (a couple hours at most), I began hinting for more, but he was relaxing and watching TV. Finally, sulking at the lack of interest, I huffed and declared I was going to BED! I flounced out the room, slamming the door. (Sure to work, right? WRONG)

Still no response. I lay in bed, so cross, I mean, I had flown halfway across the world to be with him for two weeks, and he was watching TV? I sulked myself to sleep (It was only about 8pm!).

I was woken by his voice, calling my name as he flipped me on to my front. He began spanking my bare bottom, with his hand, really hard. Every smack stung like blazes and he kept going and going and going. At the same time, he lectured and told me off, declaring that he would spank me when HE decided, not when I did. The severity would be up to HIM, not me, and that he was not my puppet. I cried. I begged. I pleaded. I writhed. I apologised. But nothing stopped him. I hit subspace. I eventually gave up struggling against the pain, and accepted it. Suddenly, it was different. It was awesome. This was not the spanking I had wanted, but it was exactly the one I needed. It bred a whole new respect for him.

I was totally exhausted, physically, mentally, and emotionally, by the time he stopped. He held me close, and I sobbed into him, relaxing at last. We fell asleep together, him holding me, me clinging to him the way a drowning man clings to a lifebelt. When we awoke, we made slow, beautiful love and then inspected the first ever bruises he had given me from a spanking... and it was just his HAND!

Prefectdt: My most memorable spanking was not a relationship spanking and was made memorable by a submissive girl, not the Top concerned (the top was very good though, I'm not trying to run her down by saying that).

This was back when I was 20. My friend held my hands whilst I was bent over a table taking a long caning of many strokes (I forget the actual number). She coached me through some breathing techniques and mental exercises as I was getting caned. It was the first time that I reached subspace. I realized that this is what I had really been craving, not the sexual titillation or just satisfying the inner need to get my backside tanned.

At the time, back in the mid-80's, there seemed to be plenty of books around about good and safe play and philosophies about playing, but nothing on how best to take a spanking or other type of play. I learned so much from that lass and will always be grateful to her. I wonder where she is now?

Bonnie: This is a difficult question. As I think back over more than thirty years, there were many spanking highlights. Perhaps, I will go with the crowd and choose the first time Randy spanked me. The fun tone and running banter established a pattern we've repeated and expanded upon many times since.

Thank you all for joining us for brunch!

A Spanko Memory: The Archies

I've been interested in spankings since childhood.  True to the era, many of my formative influences came from television.  I recall a late sixties animated version of the Archie comic strip.  Each week, the teenage stars of the show would perform a new song as the Archies.

There were no overt spanking references in the Archie Show.  Had there been any, I'm certain they would have been etched forever into my memory.  However, every musical number included Betty, the blonde, banging a tambourine against what could have been her hip, but I always believed was more likely her bottom.  I had dabbled in self-spanking by this time and Betty's technique looked pretty similar.

A tambourine, I reckoned, consisted of a skin wrapped around one side of a wooden ring.  If the edge of that rigid ring made solid and repeated contact with someone's derriere, it might feel a lot like a spanking.  I just couldn't understand why Betty never switched sides.

I also remember trying to recreate the leg lift dance that Betty and Veronica did.  But I was never quite as graceful as those animated dancers.

The other part of the show that baffled me was why Reggie and Veronica could be so mean and yet they were happily welcomed in the band every time.

Anyhow, it's a little weird and perhaps not very spanko, but those are my memories of the Archies.

To see the Archies in action, click on the picture.

Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Aug 23

This week's topic generated a tremendous response. Thanks to everyone who shared their experiences. The question dealt with when and how we discovered that we were definitely not alone in our spanking interest. Here are your thoughts.

Anon VII: We discovered it through the Internet, and in particular, through sites such as this one. In the early days of the Net, there were stories and pictures, but very little to assure those like us that we weren't oddballs. In fact, most of the early sites seemed to reinforce the view that we were. So we pretty much left them alone. We've been together for over thirty years, but its only been within the last seven or eight that we've gotten the message that we are far from alone and that our inclination is so commonplace that it's really not even a kink.

Ms. Betty: It was when my ex-husband and I discovered boxes and boxes of femdom magazines left behind in a storage unit we were cleaning out.

I was shocked and thrilled all at once. I'd had no idea. Most of them were more dungeony than I was into at the time, with lots of forced femme and some real extreme stuff, but plenty of fun and interesting ideas to explore. To this day, I still remember some of the stories.

Mr. Shiny: It was a multistage event for me. I was well read enough to know of BDSM and just figured I was "that" – until I attended a full fledged BDSM convention and realized that it was NOT my crowd. Eventually, I noticed a newsgroup devoted just to spanking, checked it out , and found my peeps. :)

Carly: It's pretty funny now, but I used the internet for years, and absolutely knew if I typed "spanking" into the box, I would find amazing things. But I couldn't make myself do it. I guess I wasn't ready to confront it in myself.

By the way, like almost everyone here, it was you, Bonnie, who made it seem okay for me. When I read your blog, I realized that it could be a fun, loving, sexy thing between two people in love. Thanks a million times over.

You're very welcome, Carly. My reward has been the pleasure of meeting fascinating friends like you.

RPT (Fred Bloggs): Some time in the early 1970s, I went in to a shop in Walkers Court, Soho, London, UK. The shop sold and indeed still sells to this day, fetish items. I bought some magazines. I responded to some of the small ads in the back of the magazines and discovered the scene that is BDSM.

(That's the short version, in reality it took a long time to get into the scene in any meaningful way)

It's easier nowadays. Just Google "BDSM" or "Spanking." You youngsters don't know you're born... /grumpy old man!

Hermione: As a child, I saw pulp fiction novels in the drugstore, similar in theme to Ms. Betty's magazines, with cover illustrations of semi-clad women cowering and bleeding as men wielded whips. While in my teens, I discovered spanking stories in magazines like Penthouse Variations, before it was censored for Canadian readers. There was also the occasional spanking in National Lampoon. Then I came across paperback novels set in the Victorian era, full of spanking and sex, as well as scholarly books on S&M, B&D and spanking in my university's bookstore.

Maryann: When I found your blog a year and a half ago.

Jay: Last January. I realised that I could get internet on my phone and typed “spank” into Google. One of the first pages that came up was Lowewood Academy (so sad its ended). I went on there and started reading. Eventually, I formed a friendship with Paul and he helped me take my first steps. I got my first adult spanking in February of this year and have not looked back since.

Spanky: That's easy! It was when I found your blog. Simply put, sending the link to Kallisto transformed our lives.

Ken: My first realisation that my interest in adult spanking was shared by other people happened was when I read an article on it in Forum magazine at university.

I had already experienced it with a girlfriend in my final year at school, so I should have known that I was not alone then. But I thought it was just the two of us that were strange.

Curtis: It was a different era way before the Internet. I guess the first time I knew I wasn't alone was in the eighth grade when a music teacher tended to bring the classroom discussion about twice a week to spanking and allowed that it was "fun." There were also some of the threats that some teachers, aunts, etc. made that seemed to have a sexual overtone.

My knowledge of an adult spanking community, I think, came from a magazine called Mr. which had letters about spanking in every issue. Occasionally, there were articles about spanking and, in each issue, there was an interview with the model of the month which always included her childhood spanking experiences. I don't know how I found that magazine. Later there was Penthouse Variations, and more rarely, something in Playboy about spanking. Then there was Wicked Wanda, an adult cartoon in Penthouse that on three occasions featured spanking. There were adult book stores and they had little pamphlets-sized story books with a picture of some one being spanked on the cover. There was a store in New York, that still exists but has moved several times, called Kinematics where you could watch spanking films.

But I owe my biggest debt to Eve Howard, who wrote under her own name for Stand Corrected (which started as a spanking mag) and as Lizzie Bennett for Lyndon Publications and did a turn as a spankee in Nu-West videos. What she wrote made me comfortable in my own skin with my sexual proclivities. Then, if you wanted to hide your identity, you got yourself a P.O. Box under an assumed name, sent orders for mags via money order, and made connections via ads in the magazines. It was a different world, more furtive, less expansive, but I never felt alone – just often horny when I didn't have a partner.

Our Bottoms Burn: I discovered that I was one of many when, in the very early days of the Internet, I searched for spanking and got back over a hundred hits (the www was brand new). I found a newsgroup Alt.sex.spanking (ASS), which later became Soc.sexuality.spanking (SSS). Through that forum, I learned that my interest was not rare at all. We also met others who shared our interests and quite a few whose interests were “more robust.”

If only MBS had been around then. In my never humble opinion, Bonnie has done more to make spanking accepted by spanking enthusiasts than any other medium.

Wow, thanks, Bogey, but I think we each play a small role in establishing spanking as an acceptable, safe, and fun alternative.

Paolo: I am old enough to have been turned on by all things spanking WAY before the internet arrived! It is all and well that the 20- to 30-somethings have had the internet to propel them into the wonderful world of spanking and all of that. But tonight, I would love to raise (another) glass to those of the “Before the Internet” (BI) age who went forth with their beliefs, and spanked for all their lives were worth!

Diesel Diva: It was three wonderful years ago when I joined the 21st century and finally got the internet (I know, the kids hated me for not having it). Then I got beyond brave (for me) and Googled the word “spanking.” I discovered this wonderful blog and now know two things. (1) I'm so not alone, and (2) I'm not the flaming weirdo I always thought I was while trying to suppress my spanking desires.

Missy H: Curtis, I envy you your music teacher. Jokes about adult recreational spanking in the 8th grade! LOL

But I remember my own personal epiphany very well. I've been enthralled by spanking my entire life, but I thought my interest was weird and unique to me. Then one night, when I was 12, I was watching the comedy Monty Python and the Holy Grail. There's a scene where Sir Galahad wanders into a castle filled with dozens of pretty, flirtatious young women. They tease him about his hopeless quest and suggest he stay with them. When he becomes agitated and exasperated, they coyly suggest he spank them for their impertinent irreverence. At the “magic word,” they all crowd enthusiastically around him, chanting,"A spanking!" while clapping eagerly and jumping up and down. *smiles* A tad overdone, perhaps, but most welcome by one newly enlightened and oh so relieved young viewer.

I still vividly remember how at first I felt awestruck, and then serene at the realization that my dreadful, unmentionable secret was actually just a playfully joked about commonplace. It was nice to learn that I wasn't Jack the Ripper!

Plus, I'm an anglophile, so the acceptance and validation by a British film was especially gratifying. I did not know the term 'le vice anglais' yet, but I would soon. As my taste in books and movies grew more sophisticated, there were many more such references. But I'll always have a soft spot for Michael Palin and Company.

A'marie: I'd fantasized a lot about it, and my partner at the time knew of it (and thus thought I was a bit wacky). It wasn't until I found myself in an IRC chatroom during my freshman year of college that I knew I wasn't the only one thinking of such things. :)

I still have an excellent friend from that particular era.

There was relief, but I think it also scared me a bit that it could be real and not a fantasy.

Prefectdt: Back in the 1980s, when I became tall enough to reach the adult novels in the book shops (it's how they are stacked in the UK, so that the little kiddies cannot reach them), I found books of collections of spanking and BDSM stories amongst the vanilla titillation novels. This lead me to adult shops where I found the specialist magazines. Then I knew I was not alone in my desires and fantasies.

It was not until the advent of the internet that I realized just how many of us that there are. Even the conservative estimates of how many pain playing kinksters there are in the world still amaze me.

Daisy: Oh, well, that's easy, Bonnie. It was right here, on your wonderful blog. I will be grateful to you for the rest of my days for the reassurance that it is normal and acceptable and I am not alone. It gave me the courage to confide in my Davey, who looked up spanking and found himself in some serious BDSM sites, and was horrified to think I liked THAT! When we chatted about it, and I realised what he thought, I gave him your site to read. He then checked out your blog for reassurance that his wife to be was not masochistic, mad or alone, and that consensual spanking was not abuse! The rest is history...

Thank you, Daisy. Stories like yours remind my why I am still blogging after nearly four years.

Six of the Best: I grew up in England and I fell in love with one of my teachers. I wanted to spank her. I wanted to bend her over her desk, raise her dress waist high, and take down her knickers, and cane her bare bottom. While I imagined her wearing garter-belt and stockings, I wanted to give her 'six of the best' strokes of the cane.

Ally: About four months ago when I googled “spanking” and found this site. It opened up a whole new world to me!

Keagen: I've had a life-long interest in spanking, but discovered that I wasn't alone during my senior year of high school. I'd discovered spanking stories first semester and devoured them RAPIDLY. I read any site I could find. I was one happy kid. THEN, I decided to write my senior paper on corporal punishment, in order to give me a "cover" for being on all the spanking sites. That's how I discovered the forums, and this lovely world blossomed before me. :-)

Ernest: First EVER? In the mid '60s, I was not quite 14, even vanilla sex was something that wasn't quite nice to know about. You had to pretend to your parents and other adults that you'd never read any James Bond. I got hold of a book, a fairly run-of-the-mill thriller by James Leasor called "Where the spies are."

In one scene, there was a description of a consensual caning, the M being the villain, the anonymous (at that stage) f being a double-agent. And I found it quite flabbergasting!

Here are a few extracts (quoted from a 45-year memory):

"He wondered as he so often had, who enjoyed these sessions more, the giver or the taker of pain.”

"Mouth to mouth, tongues touching, he reached for the cane.”

" 'So you've been naughty again', he said. 'So you need the punishment that fits the crime!'”

"The cane rose and fell, and rose again..."

This is pretty hot, even now!

I've read an awful lot since, and I know a lot more about it since (and even done it myself), but that was the first time I had any inkling that my strange fascination with otherwise-to-be-avoided corporal punishment might link up to sex.

R Humphries: When I first started purchasing spanking magazines back in the early 1970's, it was a very "under-the-counter" activity and everybody was very secretive. Then before the internet, came the undernet and I discovered several "groups" mostly from the Bay Area of San Francisco and communicated with them. But they were more into hard-core BDSM than my particular interest in “Le Vice Anglais.” Then, of course, came the internet and the glorious heyday of the MIRC chat-rooms where I made many friends. And now we have the blogs!

What I love about the blogosphere is that it shares the wonderful diversity of our individual tastes in the delights of spanking. So, bottoms up everybody, and keep on blogging.

Lu: I always knew that kinks existed. But I guess it is different when you are thinking about yourself. The internet was not around when I fully realized my desires in the spanking area. So I just kept it to myself.

Now that the internet is everywhere, I always knew I could search and find things, yet I never did until a few months ago. This is the site that made me feel OK about it and made me able to share it with my partner. It also helped me to understand that there is more to it than even I ever realized. Once I felt comfortable about it, I started exploring the rest of the community. So, in short, I made this discovery only a few months ago.

Anon #1: I started with a dominatrix in my 20's and then found the Naughty Victorian. From that point on, I was interested in domestic discipline.

Anon #2: I've had an interest in spanking ever since I saw a Playboy article in the late '70s. But I never really pursued it or had a partner who was interested beyond the first try. I found your blog a few years ago and realized that it didn't have to have any domestic discipline overtones. That aspect had never appealed to me. It took more than a year for my husband to try after I first suggested it. And the first several sessions were very awkward. Things are getting better. When he left this morning, he told me to add to my to do list for the day, "think about the spanking you're going to get tonight." How am I supposed to think about anything else?

Urs0us: It was when I first saw a spanking video cover in a sex store. I was not looking for that then, but I was certainly thrilled.

Handsdown: Like Spanky, for me, it was when I found this blog. I decided to search "spanking" – a word I never spoke for fear that my secret desire to be spanked would be exposed. I thought I was a freak, and alone. I didn't even share my desire to be spanked with my husband for fear he would also think me a freak. I self spanked for years because the desire would not be repressed. Many may know how unsatisfying self spanking is.

Finally that search and this site gave me the fortitude to tell my husband whom, it turns out, loves to spank me. 28 years wasted on dreams and fear. Thanks for showing me the light, or should I say feeling the red. :)

Handsdown, I makes me smile to be able to share something I love with friends old and new.

Anon #3: I had so completely suppressed my interest in spanking for so long that I even forgot looking it up on the Internet was an option until I was doing some research for a report I was to give on corporal punishment. That's exactly what I typed into the search engine. I found way more than I bargained for. I then typed in “spanking.” MBS was the first blog I read. It was also the first blog my husband read. In short, Thank you!

Hi Anon, and welcome. I'm pleased that this blog was beneficial for you and your husband. You are among friends here.

Indy: I have two stories about this. In the first one, I was too young to understand what it meant, but it made am impression nonetheless. When I was twelve years old, one of the choices for a book report for my English class was "I Will Fear No Evil" by Robert Heinlein. I had read many of his books for adolescents and liked the independence they showed, so I chose this one. A couple hundred pages in, the main character gets spanked to orgasm for pressing her man for sex when they had some kind of a appointment to keep instead. I seriously doubt that I knew what an orgasm was, but it made a lasting impression that the spanker alternated cheeks as he spanked. So I must have understood something about the scene.

As an adult, it was actually discussions about child-rearing with friends who have kids that opened my eyes. I was quite amazed at the number of x-rated sites that popped up on my computer screen – and at work! – in response to my rather innocently typing "spanking" into Google. I later got my own internet provider and tried the search again with a completely different objective in mind.

Indy, I read that book in eighth or ninth grade, along with Heinlein's Time Enough for Love. Both include descriptions of sexual spankings! These stories were mind-blowing for a secret spanko girl who was not very worldly at that stage.

Abby Williams: When I went to college, I was enrolled in an honors society that gave laptops to the eight or so members of the freshman group. This enabled us to have DSL access from our dorms. Yes! My roommate became fascinated by erotic manga. I, of course, sought out spanking sites.

This was the fall of 1996. Little was available to an eighteen year old with no funds for porn, let alone the awareness of what could be purchased. One of the first sites I found was Laura's Spanking Corner, a spanking story repository of excellent quality. I only realized a year or so ago that Abel of The Spanking Writers was one of the regular contributors to the site that aroused me eleven years ago when I was, as they say, "barely legal." I emailed him the minute I realized, "Oh my God, you were one of the writers who made me realize I wasn't completely out of my mind." That was the site that helped me understand that I was part of the grander scheme. Thank you, Laura, and thank you to everyone who has enriched the lives of spankos since then (i.e. Thank you Bonnie!).

Thank you, as well, Abby, for your many excellent contributions.

Bonnie: I recall many of the pre-Internet experiences that have been described. Randy and I combed Penthouse Variations and Forum magazines every month searching for spanking stories. We ordered some of the first Shadow Lane videos (in glorious VHS) by sending money orders through the mail. Their films were greatly superior to any of the earlier tacky porno-style spanking videos. We bought expensive spanking magazines at sleazy adult bookstores, only to find the photographs were obvious fakes. But none of these activities left us feeling as though we were anything other than denizens of the outer fringes of sexual weirdness.

For me, accessing the Internet was the singular event that opened my eyes. Specifically, at Randy's suggestion, I wandered into the ASS/SSS Usenet groups and just lurked. There I discovered thousands of posts written by real people who loved adult spanking. Some even embraced the very same practices we did. It was an vibrant (if occasionally bickering) community where members shared their discoveries and learned from one another. Lo and behold, we were not alone and we would never feel alone again.

With the blog, I seek to extend those feelings of community and inclusiveness to a broader audience. I want spankos to feel comfortable with themselves and with our common interest. We're not scary or strange. We are your brothers, sisters, friends, and neighbors. We live, we love, we spank, we share, and we enjoy. Nothing that feels this right could be wrong.

Thank you again for all your great comments! See you next week.