I Think I'm Done

I cannot sing a happy song while the world burns, innocent people die, and my country plunges into totalitarian dictatorship.

Hope, freedom, compassion, prosperity, equality, joy, empowerment, justice, choice, and community are all dying before our eyes. Only darkness and despair remain.

Incredibly Personal Q&A Part VI

Hey everybody. Happy Autumn. We’re still alive and still spanking.

Longtime readers, if you’re still around, will remember Tom, the serial poser of inappropriate queries. Tom says he’s read every word I ever wrote here so he’s a very loyal fan. Tom takes special glee in asking me intimate and potentially embarrassing questions. Every so often, at random intervals, I get another inquisitive email message. Most of his questions I will answer, but some I reject, often because I don’t want to out myself or Randy. When I get enough answers, I gather them up and publish them here. So, let’s jump in.

Q101: Would you rather be spanked in the ankle grab position or the diaper position?

A101: Both of these spankings hurt intensely and for the same reason. A taut bottom is less able to absorb the impacts. If I must choose, I’ll reluctantly take the ankle grab.

Q102: Do you ever worry about your bra being visible in public?

A102: I make an effort to conceal it. Underwear goes under. However, if a strap slips out, it doesn’t ruin my day.

Q103: It sounds like Randy is using wooden paddles on you more often. Is this the case?

A103: Yes, I would say so. He moved to the heavier implements when he was sick, and he liked the results, so he never fully transitioned back.

Q104: Have you ever used a menstrual cup?

A104: No.

Q105: You describe having wide hips. To what extent is this a problem?

A105: I guess that depends upon your definition of a problem. I’ve been pear shaped since I was a young teenager, and I’ve made peace with my body. I’m a fairly average sized woman who happens to have an extra-large bottom. I'm a broad. There was a time when I spent time worrying about that aspect of my appearance. But my husband loves how I look and that’s good enough for me.

In a business setting, I dress conservatively to encourage male colleagues to look at my face and hear my words. We used to have casual Fridays in the office. When I wore jeans, I had to deal with a lot more random pop-in visitors including managers who I never saw any other time.

Out in the world, there can be issues. There is a beautifully restored theatre where we used to attend live performances. My breadth doesn’t fit between the rigid armrests. I’ve had this happen in older airplane seats too. But I can live with a few compromises.

Q106: Do you consider yourself a tradwife?

A106: No, definitely not. I’ve held a job for almost my entire adult life. I was a mom, but that was never all I was. Randy asks me to do things, but I can resist or even refuse if I feel strongly. Even my hardest spankings can he halted with one word. My consent is fully intact.

Q107: Do you still wear pantyhose?

A107: Yes, though much less frequently than in the past, especially during hot weather. I often wear a skirt or dress, and pantyhose just seems right for some occasions.

Q107: How does it change the spanking experience for you when you know it’s being video recorded?

A107: I used to worry about how I looked or what I said, but it has happened so many times that I barely think about it now. He spends hours setting up, recording, editing, and curating all those videos. I have the easy part.

Q108: If you could get only one type of spanking for the rest of your life, what would it be?

A108: It would be one where I lay over Randy’s lap with my skirt raised and he spanks me with a small leather paddle. The beauty of that paddle is that it stings but doesn’t do too much serious damage. This allows for long hard spankings.

Q109: Do you really like playing the bad girl?

A109: I love playing the naughty girl in desperate need of attitude adjustment. There are so many more delicious emotions at play when corporal punishment feels real. That scenario gives Randy license to do things that I don’t expect.

Q110: Do you still wear thong panties everyday including right now?

A110: Yes.

Q111: Where do you stand in the upcoming US election?

A111: I reject fear, prejudice, violence, greed, autocracy, and hate.

Q112: Can a severe spanking change your mind about something?

A112: That’s not usually the purpose of our spankings, but I do tend to think a lot as I drift back to Earth afterward.

Q113: You said you sleep in a nightgown. Can you describe it?

A113: I own more than one. Summer nightgowns are short and sleeveless. The rest of the year I wear longer ones. I like comfortable cotton, but satiny fabrics also have their place. I prefer pastel colors and prints with lace, bows, or ribbons. A ruffled hem is extra fun.

Q114: What are your favorite pizza toppings?

A114 If I get to pick, it’s veggie.

Q115: What for you is the most embarrassing part of being spanked?

A115: It’s the possibility that someone we know (or everyone we know!) could learn about what we’ve been doing all these years and judge us for it.

Q116: Were you ever tied spread eagle and spanked?

A116: Yes, several times, though not lately. I think I wrote an account of one such spanking.

Q117: How did you get the name Bonnie?

A117: I think I’ve answered this one before. Bonnie is my real first name. It appears on my birth certificate. My mother got the idea from a character in a movie. When I first jumped on the internet in the nineties, I didn’t know enough to select a pseudonym, so Bonnie I am.

Q118: Are there activities you avoid immediately after you are spanked?

A118: I seek to avoid the gym, gynecologist visits, swimming, wearing shorts, and situations that require long stretches of time sitting on a hard surface. Randy likes to arrange that last one.

Q119: Do you ever wish Randy would spank you much harder or more often?

A119: I have no complaints.

Q120: Have you been spanked today?

A120: No, but it’s still morning.

There you have it. Tom is (still) a nosy fellow, but he is polite, and his curiosity seems genuine. Education has always been a fundamental mission of this blog, and I hope my candor helps someone to understand.

Ask Bonnie

Hello again, dear friends. I bring you just one reader question this time, but it's a fun one.

Question: How does it feel to be a wife who gets her bare bottom spanked hard with a wood paddle?

Silly Bonnie: It's exactly like a trip to the circus, but without the ringmaster, clowns, lions, jugglers, acrobats, elephants, barkers, freaks, calliope, trapeze performers, cotton candy, games of skill, flaming hoops, and the high wire act.

Blunt Bonnie: How do you think it feels? It hurts like hell!

Scientific Bonnie: Disciplinary paddlings cause a conspicuous reddening of the lower buttocks that can persist for several hours. This visible effect is generally accompanied by painful reactions in the afflicted areas. An intense but superficial sting arises at the time of spanking and fades within a few hours. A deeper throbbing pain persists longer and may cause profound discomfort while seated. After repeated forceful strikes in the same spots, temporary numbness may occur. The skin becomes warm to the touch as blood flows to the punished region. The skin's surface may also lose elasticity and acquire a rough texture.

Turn Around Bonnie: I suggest there is only one way to truly find the answer you seek. I recommend you experience a long hard paddling for yourself, right on your bare butt. If you cannot find someone to swing the paddle, do it yourself. As I am often reminded, a spanking is the only way you will learn. Look for a hardwood paddle with rounded edges, at least half an inch thick, and of sufficient length to reach the bottom of each cheek. Start with about twenty swats and go from there. You too can become a member of our exclusive club.

Psychologist Bonnie: Accepting vigorous paddlings brings me fulfillment in ways I struggle to fully explain. I embrace my role of the bad girl deserving of severe corporal punishment. I crave the full ritual including all of the pain and embarrassment. It brings me happines to watch the video later and relive everything he says and does to me. It thrills me to have vivid memories flood back into my mind when I sit down. Spanking is our kink.

Just Plain Bonnie: Spankings are one aspect of our excellent lives together.

Song Parody: When I'm Really Sore

This spanko song parody is respectfully dedicated to all fans of the Beatles and their song When I'm Sixty Four.

When I'm Really Sore

When I get punished rubbing my rear
Many hours from now
Will you still be giving me the swinging pine?
Birthday greetings line upon line

If I've been out ‘til quarter to three
Would you spank some more?
Will you still treat me, will you still beat me?
When I’m really sore

I could be handy, digging out toys
When you think they’re lost
You can craft a paddle in your old wood shop
Sunday mornings, flicking the crop
Swats in the garden, pay for my deeds
Who could ask for more?

Will you still treat me, will you still beat me?
When I’m really sore

Send me an email, drop me a text
What you gonna to do
Indicate precisely how you mean to flay
Yours sincerely, almost okay

Give me your answer, fill in a form
Sting for evermore
Will you still treat me, will you still beat me?
When I’m really sore

Bonnie: The Interview

Randy interviewed me on video yesterday. We had just completed my second hard spanking of the day and the third in less than 24 hours. He didn’t go easy on me. I don’t know how many swats I received with that unforgiving teardrop-shaped wooden paddle. Maybe a hundred. I know my bottom was sore when he began, and it didn’t get any better along the way.

Here’s our transcribed interview, edited only for conciseness. I really did say all that dumb stuff. I was lying across his lap and he still had the paddle in his hand. My bottom, visible in the video, was conspicuously marked.

R: How do you feel now?

B: Uh, I dunno. Spanked?

R: Do you enjoy being punished like this over my lap?

B: Yeah, um, I do.

R: What is it that you like?

B: Being here close with you. Feeling your hands holding me.

R: What about your butt?

B: It really hurts a lot.

R: (rubbing) It’s very red and feels warm. There’s a cute mark over here on your right cheek. (touches the welt)

B: That happens when you use the paddle.

R: What do you think about getting spanked twice in one day?

B: It’s OK. If you decide I deserve it.

R: Bon, if you ever got everything you deserve, we’d wear out my arm.

B: (imagining) Yeah, maybe so.

R: Is there a spanking that you wish you could get?

B: Right now, I have no idea.

R: Would you like me to strap you to the bench and cane your butt right now?

B: Not sure. Maybe later.

R: Would you like me to give you some more swats with this paddle? (whack whack)

B: Ow! I told you I don’t know. You’re confusing me.

R: Do you feel sufficiently punished now?

B: Yes, sir.

R: Is it embarrassing to get your bare bottom spanked with a paddle in front of the camera and then have to explain how it feels?

B: Yes.

R: What’s it like to be an accomplished adult woman, a grandmother, a teacher, who requires frequent corporal punishment?

B: It’s just what we do.

R: Do you like the embarrassment aspect?

B: Yes, I think I do.

R: Would it be more embarrassing if your blog readers knew about all this?

B: Maybe.

R: Then I want you to tell them everything, OK?

B: Yes, sir.

So, there you have all my paddle-addled observations after a day of spankings. It only hurts when I sit, stand, walk, bend, move, roll over, stretch, or climb stairs. But I'm smiling today.

In Praise of the Pear

This ad came out when I was eleven years old. Body shaming anyone?

Today, in the age of TikTok, SnapChat, and Instagram, the message is ubiquitous. If you know a young woman, let her know that we value her for a hundred reasons unrelated to her physical appearance. Show her you care. Listen to her. But you can also tell her that she's beautiful.