| It seems as though there are few if any women in my area with the vaguest interest in spanking or being spanked. I’m a switch so at this point, I’ll take (or give) whatever I can get. I’ve met women and gone on dates, and we seem to get along, but as soon as I bring up this subject, they lose interest in me. From reading your blog, I think there must be women somewhere who have this interest, but I haven’t met them. What would you suggest? |
I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling to find a suitable partner. I'm not an expert on this topic, but you asked me so I will tell you what I think. I don’t believe there is a conspiracy to hide all of the spanko women, but there may be a few factors at work.
The first is safety. Many women are reluctant to share personal details (and what we're discussing is very personal) with people until they have established a sense of understanding and trust. We know there are creeps and abusers who would exploit that trust if given the opportunity. A potential partner will share their true desires only after you've gained her confidence.
The second issue is access. If you are searching in the general population, there may appear to be few spanko women. The answer is to improve your odds by going places, real or virtual, where spankos congregate. Examples include groups, munches, parties, chats, and discussion forums. If you are talking with women who have this interest, the there is a greater likelihood of finding someone who is compatible and interested.
Then there's the pandemic. People don't congregate as they once did. As a result, there are fewer opportunities for in-person meetings and dates. I know people are being creative and you may have to do so as well.
I encourage you to meet and talk with spanko women here on the Internet. You can assure yourself that, yes, we do exist. You can get to know people, and they can know you. Even if someone you meet is not your ideal partner, they could still be a valuable friend.
When you establish familiarity, that's the first step toward trust. You will have a chance to share who you are, what you know, and what you like. But first, listen to your new friends and be ready to learn from them. Before long, you may be able to make that connection that could grow into something more. Be friendly. Be honest. Be generous. Be respectful. Don't rush. Be someone with whom people will want to spend time.
And good luck!
