Bonnie's Mailbag: Allison

I'd like to share (with permission) an e-mail sent to me recently by a reader named Allison. She wrote to me, but I think her words can benefit many others. As background, Allison is a 42-year old wife and mother of two teens. Like many of us, she has been fascinated with the subject of spanking for most of her life. When last I heard from Allison, she was trying to muster the courage to ask her husband of twenty years to spank her. I suggested that she read and possibly share two of my tutorials.

Dear Bonnie,

You may not remember me, but I wrote you a few weeks ago with questions about spanking in your relationship. You sent me such a nice answer I thought I should give you an update.

I finally got the spanking I'd been waiting for and it was better than I could have imagined! The fact that my husband enjoys doing it makes it all so very much more special.

Let me backtrack. As we discussed, I told him that I wanted to try something new to spice up our love life. He was all ears! I really think he was thinking it was going to be something exotic or weird because when I said it was spanking, he immediately agreed. I told him that getting spanked was a big turn-on for me and that was all he needed to hear.

We had to wait for a time when the kids were out, but that happened the next evening. After dinner, we were watching TV when he asked me if I was ready for my spanking. I told him sure and we went to our bedroom. He sat on the bed and I laid over his lap. He asked me again if I was ready and I said I was.

He started spanking, very lightly at first. With my slacks and underwear, I could barely feel it. I told him it would be OK to spank harder and he did. When he finished I had a big smile on my face and so did my husband. We made love like newlyweds.

Since that first time, we have spanked every chance we've had to be alone. Talk about your second honeymoon, our sex life is better than it has ever been. He's started spanking me on my bare bottom and one time, we were both naked! I ordered a leather paddle over the internet and it arrived last week. Now that took our fun to a whole new level! I keep looking at my red bottom in the mirror to remind myself that my dream is now real.

I wanted to write you as I sit here on my very sore bottom and tell you how grateful I am to you and all of the other women who blog about spanking. You all helped me to feel OK with my desires and know I'm not sick or odd. My only regret is I wish I'd asked him twenty years ago.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you!

Allison

That's such a great message. My hope is that Allison's story will resonate for others who are considering raising this topic with their partners.