Saturday, March 03, 2012

MBS Spanko Brunch #320

Hello again and welcome back! This week we have a question we've never discussed before.

Have you ever paid or been paid to spank or be spanked? If so, what did you think of the experience? Did you feel it was a fair exchange? Did the payment alter your perception of the spanking experience? If you haven't paid or been paid, is there any circumstance where you would consider such an arrangement?

I hope you will share your thoughts, even if this particular question doesn't seem that relevant to you. A good cross-section of opinions highlights the wonderful diversity within our community. Just enter your response as a comment and I will post an edited summary later on Sunday.

27 comments :

Elysia said...

I have never paid to be spanked. I suppose I was lucky to have found my husband (a great spanker) b4 I ever considered taking this route. I would have if I didn't know him, as my spanking needs were never something I could ignore. This need in many of us is so great that I don't think watching spankings or reading about them would ever satisfy a true spankos needs. I think it's great that other spankos have so many avenues to pursue their interest with like-minded souls. There are blogs, forums, chat rooms, services and munches etc. I think it's a great time to be a spanko. Precautions are the key to safety though, and I wish everyone a safe and satisfying experience.

Hermione said...

I would never consider paying someone to spank me. Spanking is part of the intimate relationship between my husband and me, not just an itch that needs to be scratched. I can understand that for many people, paying for a spanking is a necessity, and it's good that there is that option available. It just isn't for me.

Reece Seever said...

We have never considered it seriously. I played with the notion of suggesting it to Anne when she had an injury that prevented her from using spanking to discipline me at a time when I definitely deserved it. In the end, it just did not seem like something either of us would be into, and it seemed to be fraught with relationship risks.

abby said...

Well, up to know have not had to, so no. Also I feel that spanking creates a connection, and is intimate, so not sure I would. I know that some do, and I say....go for it. abby

CurtisG said...

Never have,never will.

Ana said...

I did consider it once or twice, but safety is such an issue that I don't think I would ever do it. That and the expense, of course. The problem with a long-distance relationship is that sometimes I need...um...attention sooner than is possible.

SublimeWifey said...

Interesting question. I have not paid to spank or be spanked, but I'm working on a piece of fiction right now in which one of my characters is going to be paid by the other to submit to a spanking and I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to write it. The spanker needs a spankee for a bit of performance art and I can't quite decide how the exchange will happen or how the relationship will develop from there. I have a start and I know where I want them to go, but not how they'll get there. Perhaps someone's response here will help me work out the details.

Kaelah said...

Since Ludwig and I sometimes take a look behind the scenes of spanking video productions, I have asked myself the question whether it would be okay for me to be paid for a spanking shoot. Due to various reasons I have decided that I want to keep all spanking-related activities strictly non-profit, though.

I don't have any problem at all with people getting paid for spanking shoots or private sessions, it is just that not being paid gives me the feeling of freedom that I need. I don't want to feel like a paid employee in such a personal context. Of course I don't mind for example to be taken for dinner after a shoot or to be given a room to stay overnight. But that just reduces Ludwig's and my costs and doesn't mean that we are making any profit.

I don't want to earn money with spanking. That way it remains something purely personal and intimate, a part of my sexuality with my partner and an outlet for creativity when it comes to blogging, taking pictures, publishing free private clips and looking behind the scenes of spanking shoots.

Spankedhortic II said...

I've never been paid for receiving but I have paid to be spanked, on many occasions. Personally I do not see any difference between doing this and paying for a non sexual massage. If I could afford it, I would happily pay to get spanked at least once a month but at up to 200 Euros an hour being the going rate, in my local, it is just too expensive to do on a regular basis. I do expect a pro spanker to be highly experienced and competent for that kind of cash and it is a benefit that you get spanked by women who are very good at what they do.

Prefectdt

Mick said...

No, but a couple of times, when we first started I negotiated a barter by offering to clean the kitchen as long as I got to spank Lynda after I was done.

Riley said...

Hmm, sometimes I'm spanked to pay for something I've done, does that count? jk ;)

No, I would ever pay for a spanking or be paid to endure one. For me spankings are less about the physical pain and more about the sense of connection and intimacy involved. It takes a lot for me to submit, it has to be to somebody who wants me for me and not for money.

Anonymous said...

I never have & never would pay or accept pay for something so serious & sacred, so intimate & important to me.
But a former boyfriend told me that his 3 experiences were going to a place called the Chateau. Each time he paid for an hour and spanked a different professional submissive. Each girl told him afterward that most men talked and flirted and spanked. My former lover just spanked, non-stop for the full hour. They referred to him, he proudly told me, as The Maniac. He told me that he'd never paid for sex with a woman in his life, but loved going there to spank to his heart's content with no strings attached.
Jean Marie

morningstar said...

i have never paid or been paid for spanking.

For me personally - i need some sort of connection to fully enjoy the spanking..something i don't think i would find in a pay per spank agreement.

Would I ever pay ?? no i don't think so.. i am such an "uppity" sub (cheeky grin) that i am sure, if necessary, i could find someone more than willing to spank me :)

overherlap said...

I have never paid for a spanking, but if I was not In a spanking relationship I would definitely consider it. I love to have my lady spank me, and I have considered going to a pro and have her go along with me so she can get some pointers on spanking me and other men. Because I would love to watch her spank another guy, so if she can learn from another spanking lady that would be a good thing.
Dave

Anonymous said...

No, never have & wouldn't consider it. Our spankings are strictly foreplay & a huge turn on so that just wouldn't be the same. Like others have said, it's just too intimate.

Make Mine Red

MarQe's Study said...

I make no secret about paying to spank & on occasion to be spanked. I have no alternative & scratching 'that itch' is impossible otherwise due to difficult circumstances at home. I have had many wonderful experiences and made some lovely friends also.

MarQe x

Michael said...

Great question, Bonnie. I have never paid or been paid to spank somebody, and my wife Season has never paid or been paid to be spanked. Hermione summed it up best for me, spanking is an intimate relationship between me and Season, but I am very glad the pay scenario is available for those who wish to partake.

wordsmith said...

Definitely not! I would not consider it for a moment. Not even if you sent AJR around wearing her cutest shorts...(perhaps you need to try that one, just so we can all be sure?)

Spanky said...

You can add me to the list of others who have not paid to spank or be spanked. While I can imagine a few people I would pay to spank (if you read my blog you can guess who they are), it will never happen. I certainly wouldn't pay to be spanked, as I'm not wild about getting spanked for free.

ronnie said...

No, never paid or even considered it. Nothing wrong in paying for a spanking it just isn't for me. Spanking is something I could only do with P.

Love,
Ronnie
xx

Poppy said...

If I paid someone to spank me the dynamic would be all wrong and the feeling that I was not only in control but also not the kind of girl that a man wanted to spank for his own pleasure would rip me up.
I struggle with authority anyway and if I was in charge for a spanking it would ruin it for me and feel like an attack- shudder.
I am not saying this is how it would be for anyone else. I think we each have our own dynamic and I respect that this issue will be different for others.

Anonymous said...

I personaly have never had to take the route you mention,but have attended to females bottoms over my numerous years .Some by willing consent others by pure chance and instinct,for deep down in certain females there seems to be a desire for this to occur,and they will openly provoke matters to bring this about.There is something deep and satisfying when delivering a sound bare bottomed OTK hand spanking to a deserving female and it certainly in many cases establishes a strong connection between both parties..

Correction Man.

Jai said...

Unless one would consider paying to go to a spanking party paying to be spanked, then no, I have never "paid to play". I am a young, female bottom in the scene, so I have never really been at a loss for partners or people willing to scene with me, and I am lucky enough to be involved in a long distance D/s relationship and a much more local Mentorship program, so no, I have never had to pay to get my needs or wants met.

I have no problem with people who do go that route though.

cleo said...

I work as a pro spankee and i started doing it as i was so sick of men saying they wanted a submissive but actually only wanting a bottom to spank. I was looking for a LTR, they were looking for a bottom. So i decided to give them what they wanted, if they paid for it.

I keep my personal spanking very seperate from my business side. One is fun and light hearted (business) wheras my personal spankings are much more about submission

Adriane Greeneyez said...

I have never paid to be spanked, and would not consider doing so at this time. These days, I know how to get it for free ^_^ Also, I want my spankings to come from someone I have a personal relationship with, not a spanker for hire business arrangement. I want the spanker to care about me in a personal way.

However, before I started playing, back when I was still trying to figure out "Ok, I know what I want. How the heck do I get me some of THAT?" I would have been willing to pay just to try it, to scratch an itch that was driving me crazy for such a long time. I can certainly see the appeal of paying for a session, going for a long time without being spanked sucks, and if it's just a one time thing to get it out of your system, a professional would be a safe choice I suppose.

Anonymous said...

while i have never paid to b spanked i recently had a unique experience at an adult toy store. intrested in some paddles i told the saleslady i'd definitely buy if i could feel how the different styles felt. no one else was there and she reddened my rear bare bottom in front of the display case, i bought 4. so indirectly i guess i paid.

Anonymous said...

my wife use to spank me and she always held back and never gave what i needed!I thought about paying but i have this thing about trusting someone to spank me. I would like to be spanked hard if I could find the right person to trust.

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