Have you or your partner been given a choice between receiving a spanking or something else and chose the spanking? If so, how does the act of consciously choosing to be spanked alter the spankee's mindset?
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If I was given the choice of a spanking or something else, I'm pretty sure I would always choose the spanking. I'd never turn down an offer like that. Unless, of course, it was dinnertime and I was really hungry and the choice was pizza or a spanking. Then I would have to choose the pizza first, and have the spanking for dessert.
Many times my S/O and I have played "flip the quarter" it is a great game to help strip each other... Female flips a quarter, if it comes up heads, male gets to take off a piece of her clothes. She gets to flip the quarter again… if it comes up tails; she gets to take off the next piece of guys clothes. This continues to first person has a bare bottom. Once your bottom is bare you can choice what you would like done for the next five minutes… (spanking, back rub, other fun stuff) The person with the freshly bared bottom gets to flip again… if it comes up with their side of the coin, they get to choice what they want for the following ten minutes… or if it came up the other person’s side, more clothing comes off and this continues until the second person has their bottom bared and they get what they want…
S/O if you are like me, sometimes when the flips don’t go my way, I have to wait for my spankings, while giving back rubs, feet massages and the like to my S/O who is not into spankings, but she will spank me. Sometimes my bottom gets several spankings in a row, starting at five minutes and moving to ten and so on… the implements usually change so by the fourth or fifth session, my bottom can be very properly spanked.
After we are both tired of flipping quarters, we usually move onto other pleasurable activities.
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I would love it if Hubby would spontaneously spank me. But he's reticent to engage in that kind of play. So I have to ask. But it still makes me nervous right before. And hot! And wet! Heart starts beating hard, knees get weak, then Whoo-hoo!
There are very few things I would choose over a spanking. If Aeon gave me the choice my only questions would be bare or not and otk or over the bed. I love a spanking! I would even choose a spanking over chocolate!
Well, we may be a a bit odd since we practice a mutual DD.
What comes to mind with this question... There was a time when I declared that she was going to have multiple spankings probably over multiple days for something that had happened, and they were to be severe.
It was very severe actually, and when the first spanking was finished I gave her the option of having the second spanking tomorrow or right away. I was totaly surprised when she chose right away... She wanted it to be all over with. By the time it was all over, my arm was probably as sore as her ass... (well not really) but the result for both of us was... significant and VERY memorable that we'll never forget. :)
I have never been given a choice! Don't have the opportunity really, but, I would be curious to know what other choices would be available!
I would choose most things rather than a spanking, hoping he would insist on the spanking anyway....but, I find it ruins things for me if I actually have to ask, since the whole turn-on thing for me is that I have control TAKEN from me...which is why, when I want/need one, I just misbehave...
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Yes, and I always, always, always choose the spanking :) Big surprise, right? Those ones are easy for me, I really don't find that it affects my head space.
However, occasionally, we'll have tried something which just didn't work out... my head wasn't in the right place or I wasn't otherwise able to go as far as we had wanted for whatever reason. Often after those times, I'd ask for a spanking as a way to make it up to him (not that he'd ever indicate a need for such things). THOSE spankings always put me in a very unique emotional place, expressed in a more stoic silence and a need for a harder level of play. Those tend to be the only times I'll ask for certain implements (such as a bathbrush), which normally I will do anything to avoid.
I am pretty sure I have never given Season a choice. But I have given her the choice to stop misbehaving or be spanked. She inevitably ends up with a red, ouchy bottom.
The only choice I've ever given is a spanking, so, when I've had a spanking partner, there's never been anything else to choose.
There's a reason it's called a "spanking" partner.... :-)
I've never actually been given a choice, either, except before we get to the need for a spanking. "Do this, or...", and a spanking is implied. Sometimes I don't do whatever it is I'm supposed to do so I end up upended.
However, I should say here that I typically do whatever it is I should be doing. I'm in the fortunate situation that I can get good girl spankings as often I'd like. I much prefer those to the discipline spankings that result from poor choices.
But, alas, I am imperfect.
i haven't been faced with such a choice, yet. but i am sure i would choose the spanking. i find that my mindset affects how the spanking affects me. there have been times that i wasn't in the right "place", and the outcomes left both of us unsatisfied.
Anne
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