Hello again, happy weekend, and welcome to another brunch discussion! I'm still tidying up after our big LOL Day shindig (a big thank you to everyone who helped!), but we can certainly find time for brunch.
Our the idea for our question this week was contributed by Barry.
Do you or your partner have interests, practices, or fetishes that complement your interest in spanking? If so, how do they enhance or intensify the experience for each partner? If not, are there any you would consider trying?
I think most readers know the routine by now. But for anyone new (and we love new brunchers!), you can be a part of our conversation by simply entering your response as a comment below. Once everyone has recorded their responses, I will post an edited summary.
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Oh yes most definitely. There are two that I can think of that we do to spice up a spanking.
1. Rope bondage. KM and I love a bit of rope in about every part of our sex and SM play so even if it's just some simple handcuffs that he can control it makes the spanking that much more fun. And it generally leads to other kinkiness.
2. Lingerie. I love wearing lingerie and KM loves to see me in it. When I know a fun spanking is coming then I'm likely to put on a cute pair of panties and a matching bra or some stockings (or all of it together). It gets his juices going. I like the bit of humiliation and exhibition factor of modeling for him and then his penchant for pulling the panties between my cheeks.
Bacall always likes bondage with her paddling. It boosts her fantasy of being forced to take the paddling.
Andrew also likes to have me tied up sometimes. Handcuffs, Japanese love rope or plain old rope work for him and I.
We also enjoy roleplay and costume, like naughty schoolgirl and secretary...and the more realistic bad wife.
Another we've begun to explore is group play related to spanking. Sometimes I'll get spanked by multiple people or enjoy getting spanked one-on-one by someone that isn't Andrew (usually Kevin).
We enjoy some bondage and leather on occasion. I receive most of my spankings with both of us naked, but on occasion B will dress up in leather gloves, boots, and corset and tie me down to hold me in place. That's a lovely dessert on top of being ruled by the woman I love.
I love lingerie & have lots of it, particularly pieces that showcase my behind :) I also like my naughty schoolgirl outfit complete with ruffled panties. I KNOW what's coming when I put that on LOL. If I need to be more direct, I have a tank top that says "Spank Me" on it. We have some silk bondage ties that I like, but he isn't much into it. Still working on that.
Make Mine Red
What arouses D & I most is spanking. But we are also a D/s couple, so we often add other elements like bondage and submission into our activities.
It isn't unusual for D to pull out the restraints to hold me in place, or make me kneel in front of him as greeting. (In fact that has been a rule set in place since our second meeting.)
Having never really been in a D/s relationship before, I can say that, while it isn't for everyone, it is an extremely satisfying outlet for my spanking desires!
We also do the lighter things: roleplay, funishment spankings (the majority of what we do), and lots and lots of lingerie (for me, not him!). Rawr!
Yes to lingerie, yep to being restrained,and we don't expect a lot of consensus on this one, but every so often, we really enjoy anal sex after spanking.
Keiter & Jean Marie
You can count pc and I among those who enjoy bondage as well. I think it's a classic combination.
Perhaps less commonly, he also enjoys the rules and structure that come with being a school boy again. It isn't quite a roleplay-- he is himself, not a character-- but he quite enjoys things like being kept after, writing lines, serving detention, etc.
I shouldn't actually say enjoys, these things are done for punishment, but after the fact he does tend to find them arousing.
Ms. Betty
My amateur history investigations have led to the discovery of several scenarios that have led to some interesting ideas for play scenes.
Prefectdt
I have one unique fetish that rears it's ugly head every once in a while and there have been times when my fine lady has accommodated it.
It really adds to the experience of having control taken away and makes me feel extrodinarlly close to her, since it's not something she particularly enjoys but she does do it to accommodate my desires.
For me being given a spanking jumps to a new level when she includes the added and not especially wanted surprise of an enema.
Actually, for me it multiplies the experience of having to submit to a spanking that I often crave but don't enjoy at all while it's happening... The same thoughts/emotions surround the enema.
Bondage and lingerie both seem to be popular, and D and I are firmly into both. Lingerie - we don't really like the super exotic; everyday undies like most girls wear are really more exciting, and D just loves to turn up my skirt to reveal bottom hugging but not too brief panties, with suspenders and stockings; he even quite likes tights, as he says they hug my cheeks into two firm globes. His ideal target is my bent over bare bottom, framed by suspenders, lifted skirt and lowered knickers. Nude spanking is not for us.
Bondage. Again not the complex bondages sometimes seen, but enough to hold me securely and reasonably comfortably in just the pose he requires; D has very definate ideas as to how my bottom should be presented for it's spanking, very tight and spread, the bonds holding me just as he wants, and also stopping me reaching back when my rear end gets too hot ! Soft cords, handcuffs both do the job, but we have some webbing straps, secured by velcro; easy to remove after the spanking is over, but nearly impossible for me to escape from them on my own. D has made a trestle with a padded top, for me to bend over, wrists and ankles tied to each leg; my big thrill is lying there as he turns up my skirt, wondering if her is going to take my knickers down and paddle my tightly spread bare bottom, or leave them in place to spank their thin taut seat, which gives little protection. And dare I say it, after my spanking, I am perfectly placed for what comes next. A good seeing-to , whilst still firmly bound after a good spanking is just bliss !! D & S.
Spanking is the only kinky activity we both find enjoyable, and it provides enough variety that we don't include other enhancements. So I'm afraid we are in the minority here. Does that make us vanilla spankos?
Hermione, I love your term "vanilla spankos" lol,
To the question I like my wife in lingerie from simple to corsets whether she is acting as a top or bottom. When bottoming my wife likes to sometime have her hands bound. The bondage thing is more for my wife than my self. In the past at play parties I have liked the excitement of being spanked in front of others. We have added a bit of anal play at times. I should say that do to our young family our chances to play are limited and as such mostly are as Hermione put it "vanilla" which is good too.
I have several play outfits I have put together from bits & pieces found here & there. they work really good as an "appetizer". Lingerie also puts in an appearance, but I need to build that collection. We are still feeling our way around spanking. So bondage hasn't been considered, yet! Maybe later.
Wolfsmate
One vanilla interest that enhances our spanking fun is drumming. It may sound funny, but the sense of rhythm really seems to add something.
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