Sunday, August 08, 2010

MBS Spanko Brunch #238

Sunday has been designated as Consensual Spanking Day. I won't ask how you plan to celebrate because in my mind, there's only one good way (rubs still tingly bottom). Instead, I think this weekend is a fine occasion to reflect upon what it means to be a spanking enthusiast.

How have you changed for the better as a direct consequence of having spanking in your life?

To join our conversation, just enter a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will post an edited transcript of the festivities.


Michael said...

Hope you are having a nice weekend.
I am certainly a better person after a spanking. We started our D/s relationship more formally about 10 years ago. We had been spanking since we first met but not in any particular fashion or with a purpose in mind.
Now that our relationship is more mature then we can approach discipline in a way that makes sense for both of us.
I love the feeling of having been well "seen to" and getting our differences sorted out in a brisk and efficient manner.
So yes, I feel happier and my behaviour improves once my bottom has been well and truly spanked.


sixofthebest said...

Hi Bonnie, Happy Consensual Spanking Day August 8th. Yes, I am a happy and a most contented man, because I am have the ability to spank some consensual naughty ladies. Plus the fact that blogs like yours make life worth living. Six of the best to you Bonnie, and many more years, and blogs to come. said...

A thousand times, YES. I've had spanking in my life since college, but it has only been a little over a year that I've actively sought out other spanking enthusiasts.

I find that not only am I much more balanced and centered, I'm also more open-minded and tolerant -- not just in kinky affairs. But in other ways, too. I've learned that everyone is fighting their own battles and to exercise more kindness than necessary in communicating with people. This comes from communicating on such an intimate level with so many people from differing backgrounds.

Perhaps it's not the spanking itself, but the spanking community that has lent this perspective. Either way, I'm happy for it.

And as a sidenote...shouldn't every day be Consensual Spanking Day?

Janet said...

Spanking has improved so many aspects of our lives together. There are no more late nights with our backs turned away from one another because now things are taken care of right away and there's no more dwelling on problems.

Then there's the communication aspect. We talk constantly now and not just about superficial things, but we really talk.

And, like so many more have found the intimacy level of our marriage has become incredible.

What isn't there to love about TTWD.

Hermione said...

Hi Bonnie,

What I have learned from being part of the spanking community is tolerance for other people's kinks. We are all into spanking, but I have found that there are a great many variations on the theme. While my preferences are pretty specific, I can understand that there are different strokes for different folks, and can look beyond those differences to see the common bond. We are all basically nice people who like to engage in some form or other of spanking.

The other way I have changed, as a result of reading and writing about spanking, is that I have rediscovered the creative muse within me that was buried under the daily grind for many years. Writing and creating posts is fun, and I have the spanking blogosphere to thank for helping me discover that pleasure.


Anonymous said...

Well, after many years of marriage our love life is HOT again!

Make Mine Red

Em said...


I love this topic! But I had such a hard time answering this question that it became an entire post over on my blog.

I can't wait to read what everyone else has to say!

Daisychain said...

When I get in a temper, I am one formidable rollercoaster.... but giving Davey the right to spank me is like giving him the emergency brake!
It has the power to halt hurtful accusations and recriminations from past events, which would cause rifts and resentments in a relationship. It gives closure on an argument...Davey is wonderful, he can accept he may be in the wrong, and will apologise; he tries to show me a different, calmer way to resolve issues...but not when I am blazing along like a runaway train... so, he takes the wind out of my sails, calms me whether I like it or not, lol, and makes me use more adult means to convey my feelings!
Spanking encourages and fosters good communication skills, and to allow someone to spank you is a sign of trust and, to us, is an important aspect of intimacy. We also found it enhanced our sex life, as wow, spanking brought an explosion of hunger for each other in other ways too. I see him as more sexy because I have given him the right to exert his dominance, and I feel more sexy after a spanking...unless it is a punishment one, which causes other more powerful feelings of being secure, loved and protected, and free of guilt, utterly content because I know I am forgiven and there is no resentfulness being harboured. There is peace, and harmony again. Bliss.
SO, how have I changed for the better?
Just know, I have!!! (ask Davey!!!)

A.S.S. said...

Spanking has made helped us both become better with communication, it's helped create a large circle of new friends and it has helped have a better sex life. So overall we'd say spanking helped improve relationships.

~Todd & Suzy

Scunge said...

Spanking has helped me become a better me in ALL aspects of my life!

elisabeth said...

My relationship has become easier: things are more straightforward, our communication is more open, and we are all-around happier. The credit goes to the deeper connection we have forged as a result of TTWD.

Anonymous said...

I responded with a comment to yesterday's survey, but it was on the survey site, not this one, so no one saw it. I'll reiterate.

I've lurked a lot, but now am coming out and replying. I ended a long and unsatisfying marriage at the start of the summer. One major aspect of the union that was unsatisfying was the lack of love, love-making, and spanking. But spanking in my life is my sexual nexus. So it not only makes life better, it makes my world go around.

Love4her said...

My spanko-ness has not really made my life better. It suppose it has lead me to bug my wife more to give me something she can not understand. I try to keep quiet but I prod and suggest spanking me.

I have never really gotten a real, firm, serious spanking. Just very rare, playful swats with a wood spoon that sting and make her feel silly to be giving. It turns me on but if she were to really blister my bottom.... I long for it and crave it. I am not sure if it would be for better or worse.

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