Shall we sit down (however gingerly) and enjoy good conversation and good company? I was hoping you'd say that. Our topic for this week was inspired by my husband Randy.
How do you judge the effectiveness of a spanking?
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Becall says when the spankee is satisfied. I countered with what about the spankor? I guess when it's a mutual satisfaction, it's most effective.
The effectiveness of what type of spanking?
If it's for fun, then when both are happily satisfied, great!
If it's disciplinary, once the spankee has shown true remorse...and this usually means taking her past her limit (consensual, of course). Once she feels relieved and forgiven by herself and the Spanker, then I think it has been effective.
*Kimmie*
Since there are two types of spankings that can be given. One which is the loving kind, the other the punishment kind. The reactions may be different, For the loving kind, I am sure there are lots of '"Ahs", for the punishment kinds maybe plenty of "Oohs" that hurt.
The more effective the spanking is = The deeper it gets me into subspace.
It's a simple formula but it works for me.
Prefectdt
A spanking has been effective if my bottom is red, hot and throbbing, and I feel both exhausted and exhilarated.
Everyone has made from valid points but I suppose one aspect that should not be forgotten is the intensity of the aftercare.
It doesn't matter if I am spanked or spanker, when a spanking was effective the intensity of the aftercare makes us forget about everything and time stands still.
Spanking, in our case, always leads to intense love-making. Still, the deeper the red of the cheeks and the hotter the flesh, the more successful.
If disciplinary, the more effective the spanking, the longer before you need to put back over your lap. If erotic, the more effective the spanking, the sooner she throws herself over again.
Wow! There are so many types of spankings and they can all be so different, it's difficult to come up with an answer that suits them all.
I think I'd have to say that a spanking has been effective when both parties have reached their desired mental/emotional place.
I've often found that my experience of a spanking is much more tied to my emotional state than the physical one. So while some spankings may aim to arouse while others exist to share a bit of fun, and still others have a goal of discipline or punishment - all are successful when I've reached wherever I needed to be emotionally.
Very hard prolonged spankings can sometimes be erotic, and there are times a gentle spanking can be a worse punishment than a much harsher one. It all depends on so much more than the physical application of force, response (tears, promises, etc), and results (tenderness, marks, etc).
I thought about this. I read it early this morning and just couldn't think of an appropriate response. I still don't have a good one.
However I figured, if it's for pure enjoyment purposes, as soon as I've thought "Damn, that's gonna smart tomorrow" with a smile on my face, we're good to go. ;)
It's been effective when we're both really turned on! I also like it when the heat & the redness last through the lovemaking. These are the ones that are most satisfying & that leave me looking forward to the next time :)
~Make Mine Red~
When I'm left with that good liquid feeling. Not qite the same as a multiple orgasm, but just as satisfying in its own way.
The best spankings are the ones that will take a couple to a few days to fully recover frm. If two or three days after the spanking, I feel tingling when i rub or squeeze by bottom, I know I have had a great spanking...
Also the "want" for another spanking does not come back for awhile...
Hi Guys … As a partner in a role-playing spanking relationship (as opposed to a D/D relationship) I guess I judge the ‘effectiveness’ of our sessions by (i) the intimacy both during and in the immediate aftermath of the play, (ii) by our desire to discuss, recall, laugh and joke about the play during the subsequent days, and of course (iii) from the spankers point of view MBJ’s enthusiasm for us to stage our next event … Cheers … RH
It all depends. I very recently received a stress relief spanking and one crack of the paddle had me releasing all of my anxiety, tears, stress, and pain of the week. Just one stroke. It was unbelievable and oh, so effective.
Other times, for discipline, I judge the effectiveness by my willingness to make that same mistake again. If I'm willing to risk another spanking for the same behavior, I guess it wasn't too effective of a spanking!
And for pleasure...well, it's a very effective spanking if he has my gyrating over his knee.
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