It's time again for our spanko brunch. This week's topic was suggested by an MBS reader. It concerns the use of spanking as a motivator for weight loss. Todd and Suzy have a regular feature focusing on spanking and diets. Some of their participants seem to enjoy considerable success. But this week, we're interested in what you think.
Have you or your partner used spanking to reinforce a diet and/or weight loss program? If so, how effective was it? Why do you think it was successful or unsuccessful? If you haven't tried this technique, would you consider doing so?
If you would like to answer our question, I invite you to leave a comment below. Once everyone has had their turn, I will post an edited summary of our conversation.
21 comments :
I have used spanking to help motivate diet efforts with Suzy and a few close spankee friends... and have found quite a bit of success. I've also seen friends have success in our Diet Group (both on the blog and the Yahoo Group). I know two people that lost 100 pounds and several more that lost 50... and kept it off.
Starting with an established "vanilla" diet plan and then using spanking to motivate sticking to that plan is a good start. Staying consistent is a big key, so picking something that will work long term is important. Want to take some time and figure out exactly how spankings will work (there are several options). I steer well clear of spankings/scoldings that might touch on body issues. Breaking a rule is what earns a spanking... *not* being overweight.
It's certainly not for everyone though. Weight comes with lots of emotional baggage which can impact the spanker or spankee. I've seen enough success though that I do think it's worth trying for those that are motivated by discipline spankings elsewhere in their life (or strongly suspect they would be). Can also do things to help a spanker (that doesn't get spanked) too.
It's an interesting topic and glad to see it being explored here.
:)
~Todd
Hi Bonnie,
We haven't tried it, but I think being spanked would be a great reward for having stuck to a sensible eating plan all week. Maybe extra swats for each time I chose carrots instead of chips?
This could be fun!
Hugs,
Hermione
So far we've used spanking to punish the breaking of diet and exercise rules but not for lack of progress at weigh-in time. We need to be more consistent - me with reporting and Lash with punishment. As with anything, consistency is the key! Meow
Only indirectly,when I'm sorely tempted by some rich dessert but then try to picture how that tiramisu might show up on my body the next time one of those wonderfully forgiving flowy, swirly skirts is flung over my head.
~ MissyH
Not much into punishment and discipline spankings, but would use sensual spankings as a reward for good behavior -- diet or otherwise.
Nope. I've never tried it, though I"m with Hermione, it could be a fun way to reward for alot of things that require discipline, not just healthy eating.
Well I definatly don't need to loose weight so on that side its a no.
However, my weight is an issue and therefore my Dom is helping me to put on weight.
It is now one of my rules that I have to eat at least three meals a day with a view to reach the target goal of 10st by christmas.
I have asked my Dom to help me with this and actually as I write this he is downstairs waiting to punish me for not eating breakfast 5 times this week and lunch only 3 times. yikes.
It is scarey but it helps to know that I have consequences should I not eat.
I wont be punished for loosing weight but we will look at my daily diet and see if there is anything we can do to fix it.
Phew....oops thats Sir calling.
Hugs Jay
I came out to Nick by asking him to help me with my diet through spanking. It has evolved over the years. I never thought of him spanking as a punishment for gaining. Some times as discipline for not sticking to a healthy diet and blowing off the gym.
But more and more I realize that when he loses interesting in my diet I do to. His being involved and knowing I might be spanked if I didn't work hard fed my imagination and kept me wanting to work to get to a healthier weight. When he doesn't ask about whether I've gained or lost each week and when I gain for several weeks and he seems to ignore then the diet becomes just drudgery.
So whether we use it as discipline when I fall off the diet wagon, or motivation to work harder, or reward for a job well done doesn’t really matter. Just having him involved – asking, caring, spanking - has kept me either losing or maintaining for three years
Spanking is used in our relationship to remind me that making unhealthy choices is not acceptable. It's never been linked directly to the scale, but definitely to food choices, failure to exercise, missing taking vitamins, etc. I have lost quite a bit of weight in the past 4 years since we started DD in our marriage, and I am sure the focus and discipline is a big part of that.
As a reward, yes. The chant was, "Trade sex for food." (Which absolutely meant a spanking that was very much meant to be a prelude to...) This was a powerful motivator. Combined with sensable eating and long walks, it worked.
I was a part of Todd and Suzy's diet group a few years ago and didn't find that it worked very well for me. I'm too much of a spanko and enjoy it too much for it to be discipline for me. I would often lose a pound or two and then would gain it back.
Master Anakin also told me he didn't like me being so focused on the scale each week also. My weight would go up because of my period and then I'd be upset thinking I had gained weight and I hadn't. I've done a better job with keeping my weight consistent through walking and I don't look at the scale all the time now. I know my body well enough to know when I need to walk a bit extra or work more on my diet.
He found it too much work also to be monitoring my diet all the time.
I do get disciplined with hard spankings but not for diet issues anymore.
Great question, bonnie.
Hugs,
padme
Hiya.
I have an issue whereby I need to lose about 5 stone ( thats about 65pounds I think?) Weight is an emotional issue for me, but I was told by my doctor that I need to lose weight. When I told my Dom, he said he already knew this was something I would have to work on, as I am young (27) and its a health issue for me. To be honest it also makes me insecure.
We will, after my holiday to Germany (not the best way to start a diet) be concentrating on this issue of mine. I need to lose weight and if I don't my arse will pay. I think, this will work because today I had my first discipline spanking and caning...and boy did it drive home a point. I'm going to need them. And it worked. Its a different headspace. I think there has been some insecurity in me that he wants me to lose weight because he does not like my looks, but I don't think that is the main issue. My health is, and yes, lets be honest my looks will improve! I'm interested how this pans out. I get rewards if I do well, and get punished if I don't lose. I think I would only have an issue with getting punished for not losing weight if that week I have done everything he and I know how to lose it...maybe it means we need to step up something. But my Dom is incredible, and not unreasonable.
In Germany I have committed to lots of exercise...I may ask that I have that as a temporary rule, whilst food - I will have to TRY to be sensible - I will do an hours exercise at least every day! Wait till he reads this! grins. oh BTW....no matter what happens in Germany, I am to lose 2 stone by Christmas. Fully Doable!
I'm not supposed to eat very much sugar (it makes me ill) so we have a rule that I can only have sweets if I ask first. When I've been trying to get into a gym routine he'll enforce that schedule too.
But I'd be very uncomfortable with P monitoring my weight loss progress at the scale with punishments. I suspect it would be a squick for him too.
Still, Todd and Suzy, whatever works!
Yes I have used self administration, which I do not enjoy and do not talk about much but it does have a certain level of success. I'm in agreement with those here saying that a reward or good boy/girl spanking would be a good thing to try but the opportunity has never been available.
Prefectdt
Yes, It started the whole DD in our house with my wife and I. We always had used spanking in the bedroom before that but never anything else. She had been dieting for six months with some sucess but had been stalled for a while. I decided I needed to loose weight to get off so many meds. When after two weeks of trying going no place I searched the net and discovered DD for weight loss at a couple of sites. When I sheepishly asked my wife if she could spank to help me with reminders, eating, and excorsize. She took to it like a duck to water! That was six months ago. I have lost 52 pounds, learned to cook healthy (never cooked a day in my life and now do almost every day). My wife has lost 35 pounds since I started with her. She gives me reminders every week, we have weekly weigh in, track our weekly goals and progress on a grease board. Our reward to each other in October is a 8 day cruise. I have not yet been spanked for not reaching a goal although I have not made it many times. I have been told to get out of bed and bend over for not working out or NOT eating enough or forgetting to encourage her to work out. I have received many reward (good boy) spankings and realated very hot sexual excounters. Since we have added DD to our whole life style and things could not be better. I am seven pounds from my final goal. Its a commitment to each other.
Bonnie, I would like to pose a question. Should an 18 year-old teen-age son, be allowed to spank his mother, grandmother, aunt, sister, niece, or any other female household member, such as a maid, cook, nanny, if that member has been very naughty.and deserves to have their bare bottom warmed up.
There are some ginger cookies which I have simply no control over consuming -- they are just too good! So after I'd tried for some months to maintain a healthy relationship with these cookies, I had to ask my Master if we could have a rule that I must ask permission before I can eat one of those wicked ginger cookies.
I've never needed to be punished for breaking the rule (as it's my ass on the line in more than one sense -- i.e. that my ass is a reasonable size and doesn't need to get much bigger!) and it has helped me get in control with regards to those cookies -- I think I wouldn't even need the rule now, but it's fun to have to ask!
The thing I need to get punished for is skipping yoga. If I do yoga two or three times a week, my body and emotional-well-being really show the results ... but it's just so easy to get caught up with something, put it off and off all day long, and end up saying, "Oh, I'll do it tomorrow" -- and of course, it's always today, isn't it?! So he and I have been talking about setting up punishments for that -- it can only end in happiness either way: either I am lookin' good and feelin' fine ... or he gets to punish me for a real infraction, which he really, um, gets off on! (And so do I ... just not while it's happening!)
What a coincidence that you should post that question! Meg and I began that aspect of our now very long, exclusive relationship back in our college days when she was fretting about being a choc-a-holic who was also into fitness. I teasingly (well, mostly teasingly but admittedly with a tiny bit of hope) told her that I could keep her in line with my fraternity paddle. To my surprise, she immediately took me up on the offer, then admitted cheating on her diet a couple of evenings later and insisted that I had to do what we'd agreed upon. She was perfectly dressed for the occasion, in a cute short skirt, a blouse with puffy sleeves, heels, and (best of all) panties with the college logo across the seat. She was more than a little surprised at how much the swats stung, but she still pounced on me and took me down afterward, even though I made at least two of her! Soon enough, we were getting out the board of education for no reason except pure fun.
Anon VII
This has never been an issue for me (I have plenty of other issues, though...), but I've had quite a few friends who have tried dd to help with their weight loss.
What most seem to have found echoes what the others here already wrote. In most cases, they didn't worry so much about X lbs lost per week, but if basic diet rules and exercise rules that had been agreed up, had been followed. If not, well, there were unpleasant consequences.
And for those who like spankings as rewards, what they found was not to wait till the end of the week, or whatever, but to reward Frequently, when ever a goal was reached, or she had been good that day, whatever.
Angie
We have used spanking when I have cheated on my diet or skipped my exercise. I have never been spanked because of not losing weight. One thing I do is journal what I eat and Luke looks over it. It also makes you think what you stick in your mouth when the calorie content in staring back at you. There are a few free ones- fitday.com and I use Lose it, which is a free application on my phone.
Katia
This sounds fun I reall think we are going to have to put this into effect this week. This is a Very good idea indeed.
Thanks for suggesting it.
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