Sunday, October 21, 2007

MBS Spanko Brunch #92

Welcome to this week's spanko brunch. We have lots of tasty goodies, so grab a plate and help yourself. Our question deals with preserving spanking memories.

Do you keep a record of spankings such as a journal, punishment book, photographs, audio recordings, or videos? If so, would you share these with others or are they too personal? Do you later review these records to recount memorable sessions? If you don't keep a record today, under what circumstances would you consider starting?

I invite you to share your thoughts and experiences with your fellow spanking enthusiasts. You can leave a message below, write me an e-mail, or post a message on your own blog. Whichever medium you choose, I look forward to reading your responses.


Sara said...

I did keep a record, as integrating spanking in our marriage as part of Dd, came with many life and relationship changes. I wanted to be able to see it clearly now, and later when I look back, too. A lot of it is too private, but that is also why I started my blog, for the things I can share.

As for photos and/or horrifying! I am afraid I would be scarred for life!

Caryagal said...

Hmm don't keep one, but it could be fun. I think I would like remembering every detail and using it to fuel additional fantasies! :-) Ah, but I'd be afraid of the kidlets finding it! So, I guess for now, I won't :-)


Emmy_Doll said...

I thought this one would be an interesting one for me to partcipate in.

Me Mentors and I have recently decided that a punishment log would be good for the both of us.

It is just a simple spiral bound notebook with three sections; one for the rules we have set between us,two for the log of rules broken with punishment recorded, and three for any 'writing assignmet' he might decide to give me.

There are many positives to this log. Mostly to prove to both of us that my mentorship/training is taking a turn for the better and that I am improving my behavior.

Would I show it to anyone? Probably not, its between Don, Ana, and myself and for our eyes only.

So far, after three months, I only have four infractions, and only one of them is major.

Dove said...

I have a now private journal for spanking for when I want to remember a particular time or session. I would love photos but can't get ML enthused about that one, though they would never be posted on my blog that's for sure.


D and S said...

We do take the odd photograph of my spanked bottom. In a rash moment we decided to make a blog, 'My Spanked Cheeks', but after a while we got cold feet, (which makes a change from a warm bottom), some friends were outed by a newspaper about their nudist activities and we were scared that our spanko lifestyle would be outed, so we paniced a bit and deleted the blog.

We may return to the blogsphere but for the time being I keep a private blog.

littleone said...

sliding in quietly on this early Sunday morning........ grabbing a big cup of coffee as i work my way over to a quiet corner.....

yes we do keep records of our spanking sessions - not always - but most of the time... they are in the form of photos sometimes - a private journal to Sir every time.. and a goodly number of times i post about it on The Journey... and yes sometimes i do even post pictures .. but only of my ass.. as i too fear a little bit.. about being outted...

this record is kept because i enjoy going back over the words and photos .. usually on an anniversary...and i have even (ok ok this might be a bit odd for some) made Sir a scrapbook of spanking shots and more private moments for our anniversary this year (number 6)...

moves back to my corner to listen to others... and sips my coffee..

LynLass said...

Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

Usually I write if it's something new, what was good, what didn't work. Or if it's a bad experience, I process what went wrong in writing. I'm also working on a recall of childhood spankings and fantasies. All are kept in security locked files on the computer. I'd share those on an individual basis but not on my blog. They are making a background for some posts that I'm working on.

I've done a series of pictures one time that showed the process of brusing fading following a spanking that I've shared those with one person. They may show up on another website without any identifying information.

I suspect my reluctance to share any further than this is the feeling that this is a special part of my life, shared only as I trust someone.

Excellent topic.

hermione said...

I'm afraid I have to say none of the above. We do not do punishment spanking so there is no need for a record. And while we have been engaged in the lifestyle for many years, my husband and I are just starting to become more open about it with each other, as a result of all I am learning on this and other blogs. That openness means talking to each other about it more and in a natural, relaxed way; we are not ready for photos or videos.

The idea of a journal appeals to me. I would consider keeping one in order to record thoughts and ideas for an attempt at writing fiction. Privacy is always the issue, and I would not feel comfortable sharing it, but I am definitely interested in starting one. If I did manage to write stories, I would definitely share them in some manner, possibly in a blog.

As always, Bonnie, you've presented a thought-provoking topic.


Jim said...

We did have pics, stored at Yahoo, that we would, occasionally, gaze fondly at. However, they were all deleted, 3 weeks ago--when Yahoo closed their picture files. The problem we have now is that both ur daughters have moved back home (temporarily)--so opportunities, for play, have become very precious, and having pictures floating around on the computer would raise anxiety.

If I may go slightly off-topic, can I ask our fellow brunchees if they have ever been particularly inspired--in their personal playing-- by a photograph of a spanking?

Lost In Our Eyes said...

We don't have an official record keeping system, and we honestly haven't been playing long enough just yet to have the urge to reminisce!

We do tend to take pictures, both for our blog and to let the spanked party see what the spanker is seeing.

On a related theme, I've started to keep a log of my offenses for Her review. That might translate into spankings later, but it's the only standardized records we have!

Paige Tyler said...

My hubby's taken my picture after a spanking, and though they're for our own personal use, it's a huge turn on!


david said...

I have never kept a journal but I do have pictures of Mthc after our spanking play.

I would never share these with anyone but my Mthc

Bonnie a nice topic you chose for today.

*hugs and grins*

Paul said...

Bonnie, Mel and I thought about keeping a record of her punishments and we did for a while, but as the punishment aspect began to fade so did the record.
As for a photographic record, had digital photography been around certainly, but not having either the knowledge or desire to develop our own film, it wasn't possible.
Warm hugs,

mthc said...

We have pics but they are private. since i have a homedaycare center we have to be very careful.

Mary said...

When we first started spanking we would e-mail. I loved to explore the feelings that I experienced and shared every aspect of them with my partner. I originally printed some of the the letters and then felt embarassed if they were to be found so felt content to lock them on the computer. Later the computer truly crashed and I lost them all. He thought he had them stored in is email account but discovered that many were automatically deleted due to the time frame. I still feel sad when I think of those letters being lost. I really had wished to save them to review and revisit the feelings of those first spanking experiences. There have been a couple of pictures. It idicates an enormous amount of trust to have those pictures taken. He has sent them to me on occasion to remind me to "be good"
Take care all

Pandora Sox said...

We sometimes take pictures,

I sometimes would write special letters to my Man to recollect our special moments of love and spanking,

sometimes it is only kept as a shared memory

and sometimes I make a post about it on my blog.

Smiles and love

~ pandora s ~

Scout said...

Jim's taken pictures and though he's shown them to me, he retains possession and they're downloaded to his personal computer. I've sent recounts of diet spankings to Todd and Suzy, and a couple of others to you, but haven't kept a written record for the most part. I'd be awfully afraid of my kids discovering them on my computer, which is the one they use when they have schoolwork or want to play games. It's intriguing, though.

dixiedarling said...

I don't necessarily keep an official log of the spankings that I receive.

In the beginning of my relationship with my Dom, it was discussed as far as a log to be kept esp since we are long distance, but it never materialized. He does however say that he keeps a generic list in my folder on his computer.

There are some pictures of my spankings...some I have shown and others are for mine and my Dom's eyes only. Some can even be seen at random times on my blog.

Most of the pictures that i have cataloging my spankings are of fun spankings..with a handful of maintenance ones thrown in the mix. I have not taken any pictures after my punishment sessions...I have given thought to the benefits of that though.

I have a small number of short vids of some fun sessions taken with my digital camera....i have shown them to friends but never in a more public setting and not sure i ever will...not because they are private but just because they are mainly so old and dated.

Guess that is the majority of my two cents..~smiles~

Bonnie said...

I am a journalist by training and nature. I tend to write things down. A number of years ago, I began creating accounts of particularly noteworthy spankings. Those stories eventually became the foundation of this blog.

There are a lot more spankings than stories, both because of time constraints and because many spankings are simply routine, necessary, and utilitarian. But I still try to capture the best.

Randy has taken photographs for years. They’re fun to review, but I can’t imagine sharing them with anyone, let alone posting them on the blog. I’ve often heard that the camera adds ten pounds. Well, if said camera is pointed at my butt, it adds more like thirty!

Years ago, Randy borrowed a friend’s VHS recorder. As I recall, he wanted to record our daughter’s softball game. He thought it might be fun to memorialize a good, hard spanking as well. When I saw the results, I was horrified. The issue was not the spanking itself, but the unflattering fashion in which I was exposed. It might as well have been a porno flick. Randy said he destroyed the tape, but I wouldn’t be surprised if he still has that video hidden somewhere.

To address Jim’s question, we have definitely been influenced by both photos and stories. We’re always looking for a new spanking approach or scenario. The internet is an endless source for ideas!

Robin said...

Hi Bonnie,
The closest thing to a journal or log would be my blog, and obviously that gets shared :P
DH has taken pictures but since he feared that someone else might see them, I think he deleted them. I don't mind the pics, and kinda wish he'd take some more that I could keep on my computer (totally password protected so NO ONE, not even DH can see anything without my ok). Not so comfortable with audio or video. Don't think I would ever share photos, etc; words only :)

CindysDave said...

Hey Bonnie, off topic here, but blogroller seems to refuse my 'pings' of a new post on our site. Any ideas?

I'm going to their site and using the manual ping page link, but it doesn't seem to be working.

Sorry we've been so scarce lately. Hopefully winter will cure all that.


Bonnie said...


Hi. It's great to hear from you!

I just tried pinging Blogrolling on behalf of your blog and it worked. All I can figure is that they had a temporary problem earlier.

thelittlemiss said...

i know that i am a bit late for this brunch, but i would like to add anyway...

Sir and i do keep a photo log of my spankings. it was completely my decision to do so. He had told me that he wanted me to make some sort of log, with the pictures that He takes. Hence my blog.

After i get a spanking of any kind (light, hard etc..) whether it be for 10 minutes, or an hour, or more, i like to see what 'damage' was done. i am not pious in any form of the word. But when i see my reddened bottom, and know how i am feeling, i have a sense of accomplishment.

i guess that is why i keep my blog the way that i do. Even though yes it is there for others to view and comment, i enjoy seeing my journey in pictures, and writing, almost as much as i do posting them.

i don't think for me, that the photos are too personal, but i do think that i couldn't handle a video clip... i am pretty stoic about my spankings, and video would be more humiliation than i would be accustomed to. And i am almost certain that i would get some sort of proformance anxiety...

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