Recap: MBS Spanko Brunch for July 22

Our subject this week was the proposition that “Spanking is a healing, nurturing thing to share.” I love the quote (Thank you, Greenwoman) and I’m obviously in good company.

Dave: Without a doubt, it's a wonderful, intimate, intoxicatingly hot and sexy thing to share. Even just talking about spanking with someone is an incredibly liberating feeling.

However, it can be a real downer when you do not have someone with whom to share your spankosexual feelings!

Paul: Absolutely, if it wasn't a caring thing to share, it would be abuse. No one who loves their partner abuses them.

Spanking is the most erotic and healing foreplay I can think of. Even when Mel had earned a punishment, it healed a possible rift between us. We never went to bed as enemies always as lovers. There may be a better way to cement a relationship, but if there is, I don't know it.

Todd and Suzy: Spanking certainly can be a healing, nurturing thing to share. It can be many different things. It can be silly and playful, sexy and erotic, or caring and motivating. It could even be mean and scary. There are many, many possibilities. Spanking is what the people doing it make it.

Abby: This subject is so close to my heart that I am having a hard time putting my answer into words. I keep starting and restarting. There are some days that I really truly need a spanking from the man I love. Not just light play, not the kind that leaves me giddy and giggling, but the kind that puts me to tears and takes me to that place of giving up and letting go. Afterwards, as I stand up, he opens his arms and I let myself be embraced, and all I can say is, "Thank you." That anyone is willing take all the responsibility quite literally into his own hands and turn it into a way of releasing the pain from my own heart, amazes me. It is healing. It is nurturing. It is love.

Jean Marie: I like what Todd & Suzy said. Spanking CAN be healing and nurturing, or sexy, or punishing... There is TRUST regardless of what form the discipline takes, irrespective of the implement.

I'd draw the analogy to a doctor/patient relationship where spanking is the form of healing and nurturing. My lover diagnoses my problem, prescribes the medicine and the dose, and caringly administers it. I look up to a doctor, just as I do to my top, as a knowledgeable authority.

At the other end of the spectrum from our defined relationship, when I was an actress in L.A. years ago, I met and got to know a woman who worked as a professional submissive in a B&D, D/s establishment. Her stories were amazing. I cannot fathom the trust that she had to muster in order to turn herself over to a client with whom she had talked for only a few brief minutes. Hearing her talk put things into perspective for me at a time when I was trying to sort out who I was and what my submissive nature meant to me.

MTHC: I think it's like what Todd and Suzy say. For us, it's silly and playful, or sexy and erotic. There are so many possibilities!

Crystal: I have to echo all of the above. It's a great way to mend relationships, enforce discipline, and bring passion to your life. But it truly sucks when your partner refuses to indulge or he/she's not around. It's Soooo frustrating!

I love spankings. There is no better way to bind two people together because the spankee must trust that the spanker won't hurt him/her.

Bonnie: Greenwoman possesses a practical wisdom that I greatly admire. This quote, which she used to describe how her lover feels toward her, might seem contradictory to most of the world. But amid the beauty of her luscious prose, it could not sound more right.

While I agree that the act of spanking is not intrinsically positive, for those of us with a passion for that special glow, a good spanking can be an amazing elixir. Is it healing and nurturing for me? Yes, absolutely, and so much more. A spanking calms my nerves, helps me relax, restores emotional balance, re-connects me with Randy, gives me energy, rebuilds my motivation, energizes my libido, opens lines of communications, makes me feel sexy, and improves my mood. These benefits can last for hours or even days afterward.

As I often say, a sore bottom is a small price to pay.

Ofia: A thousand times, yes. It's amazing. I must say that Abby and Bonnie together have said all the important things, and well. I have to agree with Abby, that this is hard to put into words, and do any justice at explaining how it makes me feel.

I think that a spanking is an illustration of love. After he spanks me I feel loved. I feel his love encompassing me, protecting me, holding me, making me happier. A sore bottom is a reminder of these feelings.

Thank you again, one and all, for making this an enjoyable discussion. I look forward to (ever so gingerly) sitting down with you again next week. Until then, may all your spankings be "healing and nurturing!"