Recap: MBS Sunday Brunch for Sept 10

For today's brunch, we examined different types of signals that partners can use to secretly indicate their intent or desire. The responses as usual were absolutely fantastic.

Jean Marie: My mother used to warn my sisters and me, "You're on thin ice, young lady," whenever we were close to earning a trip over her knee to feel her hand (or the wooden spoon for serious offenses). When we were first dating, I shared that little detail with Kyle during pillow talk after a particularly splendid spank/fuck session. Months later, when we were in Nordstrom's Department store shoe section and I was pleading too vociferously for a pair of Jimmy Choo's, Kyle took me by the elbow and marched me out of the store, whispering, "You're on thin ice, young lady." My head exploded in fireworks and my sex instantly became aroused. I got my first semi-public spanking that day in the back seat of his car in the mall parking lot. We made semi-public love for the first time immediately afterward. That was the first time I heard those magic words from him, but not the last. That's our potent phrase.

Susan: A meaningful double pat on the seat of my tight skirt, implies a spanking to come, but seems quite a normal gesture to others.

Paul: We had two signals, the first would tell Mel that she was close to being out of order. This was a raised right eyebrow, for bratting being cheeky, pushing her luck. The second would indicate a punishment was in order, "My girl, my love or Mel, you are riding for a fall." It wasn't used often, but when it was, Mel knew she'd crossed the line.

Tiggr: Dante doesn't need to say a word to let me know I've overdone myself and bounced a bit too high. He has a LOOK, an indescribable look that somehow I am quite sure you all can picture vividly.

He also refers to me as "little girl" or comments that I'm obviously "feeling feisty" or am "needing some attention." That's all the reassurance I need to know that my bottom will soon be hot and stripeddy!

Eva: It's much like with Tiggr. I just get the look. The problem is that his look of "you are gonna get your buns warmed" and his look of lust create the same physical response in me. I don't think my body will ever know the difference. LOL

Theresa: “Just wait ‘til I get you home!” Yikes!

Todd and Suzy: The phrase "we'll talk about it later," with a slight emphasis on the word ~talk~ is a pretty good indicator. A dead give-away is saying something about *counting* as in, "we'll see if you can count to ten still" or "you should count to ten before getting that angry." That’s a sure sign that a spanking (with a set number of spanks to be counted) is coming.

The already mentioned look is another one, as in the most basic signal, a pat on the bottom with that look.

Storm Rider: Oh yeah, we have those! She usually whispers the word "asshole" and I yell "Bend over!" LOL

Mary: That secret conversation between lovers is grand. Even better than a warning is that feeling I get when I am taken out to dinner on a freshly spanked bottom. I love the twinge of remembrance as I sit, and his noticing my body stiffening momentarily. Our eyes meet, we smile, me perhaps shyly, and in a moment our secret is shared and it is a bonding of lover's speak.

The "warning" can be that gentle, normal looking pat on the behind. This is usually used when a fun, frisky spanking is coming. OR, it can be the look where his jaw is set and lips are firm with no smile. There is a slight tilting forward of his head as his eyebrows seem to raise slightly. The phrase is something along the lines of, "Are you sure about that?" This tells me that I had better think about my next action if I do not want to be over his knee. He also uses "young lady," but I can’t specifically recall how publicly. When his tone of voice is firm and directive, I respond with "Yes, Sir," almost by instinct. Even if others may hear and suspect something is up.

Padme: Usually, Master Anakin gives me the "Darth look" that tells me I have stepped a bit too far. It’s a warning that a spanking could happen if I keep going.

Tigger Too: Hmm... The lifted brow is always a good signal. So is when my hubby says, "Are you trying to get yourself into trouble?" Both make me absolutely melt!

Bonnie: Randy and I have developed quite a few signals over the years. In the early years, we set out a paddle or hairbrush. As our daughter grew older, that approach became impractical. We decided that wearing thong-style underwear was a good method for me to signal my interest. Randy is considerably less subtle, even in public. He thinks nothing of patting, grabbing, rubbing, or swatting my bottom. He derives a twisted amusement from watching me blush or others quizzically glare.

In terms of verbal cues, there are many permutations. Anytime that Randy mentions words like warm, pink, sting, heat, or glow in normal conversation, he’s talking to me about spanking. Other times, he makes some obscure reference about me needing to stand later. Regardless of the technique, I receive his message loud and clear.

Elis: I told Nick this morning that I really liked the brunch topic, but that I had nothing to add to it. He just laughed and said "It must be hell to be deprived!" Obviously, we will have to work on this. LOL

Rose: In our short time together, I've discovered TND has that look that tells me I've crossed a line. Usually, He'll ask me "what did you just say?" That’s my clue that I've got a paddling coming.

As for me, if I want a spanking, I simply resort to being my sassy self. That usually elicits the desired response from TND, a good spanking. ;-)

Caryagal: For us, it is usually a look, or "wait until the kids go to sleep then we'll talk." I know then that I'm in trouble. Another signal for us is to turn on the lava light. That’s a sure sign of what is wanted or needed.

Diane: HonBun gets to the point, without any fear. He gets face to face and tells me I need a spanking and, depending on the offense, how much it will entail.

Veronica: If I've been particularly bratty or moody, the first thing I get is the look, as so many others have written. If I keep arguing or whining or pouting, the next words out of his mouth are "keep it up." As soon as I hear those three little words, I know that I'm in for one helluva bottom warming very soon. Yeah, I hear those words pretty often. "Keep it up, just keep it up, and see what happens." LOL :-)

Lisa: As far as knowing when he is going to spank me, it is the smirk on his face and the twinkle in the eye. This only makes me become more sassy. But I haven't really figured out a way to cue him into the fact that I am interested in getting paddled. I also love the lamp idea.

Sparkle: Interesting, those top to bottom signals. Chris and I have one that comes from me, asking for a spanking, that we picked up on a newsgroup a number of years ago.

If I wear orange socks, it's a clear indication that I want to be spanked. Chris has taken this further and (if he is in the mood to spank me) stretches it out to include anything orange on me, the princess, or in our general vicinity.

Thanks, everyone, for sharing your great ideas! See you next week...

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