Spanking 101: Anticipation

In the world of erotic spanking, getting there is definitely half the fun. While there are times when a short and sweet quickie spanking fits the bill, nothing beats the delicious decadence of extended preparation.

For the spanker, announcing a spanking in advance is both an expression of dominance and an invitation to play. It also provides him with the time to prepare more intricate scenarios.

For the recipient, learning of an upcoming spanking in advance triggers a wide array of thoughts and sensations. For me, that moment highlights the sweet dichotomy of recreational spanking. On one hand, my handsome husband is proposing to deliver an powerful bolt of sexual lightning. The very notion makes my skin tingle. My hand slides involuntarily back toward my bottom, not as protection, but to reconnect with the destination of his rough affection.

At the same time, another part of my psyche reacts as a young girl who must soon bend over, stare at the carpet, and endure a painful punishment. This thought releases a hundred butterflies in my stomach. Despite the fact that Randy has spanked me a thousand times before, I still feel nervous. These feelings turn me on as well, but at a totally different level.

I find that a period of waiting supercharges my emotions. It gives me a chance to speculate about what might happen. My fertile imagination runs wild pondering a hundred permutations of spanking and sex. All the while, the contradictions mount. I want the waiting to be over, yet I’m not quite ready to be spanked. I crave the sensation of a spanking, but I’m not yet prepared to embrace the pain. I am eager to submit, though perhaps not just this minute. By the time Randy calls my name, I am already in an intense state of nervous arousal.
There are a number of ways in which couples can heighten the sense of anticipation prior to a spanking. Here are ten practical suggestions:

1. Schedule your spanking at a time when you won’t be rushed or interrupted.


2. Building anticipation is most valuable for erotic spankings. With other types, particularly stress relief spankings, waiting can be counterproductive.


3. Fun surprises make for memorable spankings. There needn’t always be one big surprise. In fact, several small ones can be even more enjoyable. Examples include new toys, new positions, new locales, new techniques, or new scenarios.


4. Prepare the scene. I love a spanking with a theme. They can’t all be Broadway productions, but I absolutely adore it when Randy goes the extra mile to make the experience so much more than just a sore bottom.


5. Physical separation is beneficial during the time of anticipation. This time apart increases the spankee’s curiosity and eagerness, especially when she can hear her partner preparing.


6. Hints go hand in hand with surprises. Sometimes Randy will share the general theme, but none of the details. This tactic gets my mind working even harder.
7. Variety is the spice of life and spanking is spicy play indeed. The broader your spanking repertoire, the more difficult it will be for the recipient to anticipate the events to follow.


8. The duration needs to be right. The waiting interval will vary based upon the couple and the situation. It’s difficult to provide a hard and fast guideline, but less then ten minutes is probably too short and more than two hours will likely prove to be too long. Keep in mind that the desired result is a horny spankee who is primed for an exciting session.


9. Change your sequence. Consider fellatio before the spanking or spanking as a part of intercourse. These small alterations restore the novelty and feed future anticipation.


10. Always remember the love. It’s fun to tease, but cruelty is never positive. Seek experiences that both partners will appreciate.

Anticipation is worthless without the events being anticipated. But together, each can make the other a lot more fun.