Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Spanking 101: Fun!

As I tour many colorful neighborhoods of cyberspace, I occasionally encounter a blogger who views the topic of spanking with a sober, emotionless fatalism. They relate tales of habitually ungrateful spankees who must be dealt with promptly, sternly, repeatedly, and in the harshest possible manner. All sorts of unpleasant punishments are meted out in measured ritual until the unwavering scales of blind justice are once again properly balanced.

If there are real people who live this way, I wish them a lifetime of fulfillment. Most of us, however, wouldn’t be satisfied with this type of one dimensional arrangement. I know plenty of couples who employ some form of discipline spanking. But in virtually every case, that is just one component of a richer, more complex relationship.

Whether your relationship is vanilla or double chocolate hot fudge tin roof swirl, I suggest that the element of fun is essential to long term success. Laughing, joking, teasing, and playing all enhance feelings of bonding and closeness. This intimacy, in turn, fosters effective communication.

For the spanko couple, I would argue that having fun is even more important. Fortunately, it’s quite easy. The essence of humor is the juxtaposition of familiar circumstances with unlikely outcomes, or the reverse. What could be more improbable that a capable adult woman lying across her lover’s lap and being spanked like a misbehaving child? Ignoring for the moment the tremendous potential for arousal, this scenario is positively ludicrous. Isn’t it?

It’s OK. We can admit that it is a bit silly. In fact, I choose to embrace the zaniness. Spankings can be fun and they can be funny. In fact, spankings can occasionally be downright hilarious, even for the person on the receiving end. Take, for example, a substandard paddle that is simply not up to the task for which it has been selected. I can hardly contain my glee at the recognition that my well-worn posterior is superior to the implement chosen for its chastisement. Do I giggle? Oh, yeah. Do I dance? Oh course! Do I strut? You bet! Do I get spanked again with a sturdier paddle? Naturally. It’s all good fun.

A wise woman once told me that if you’re not having fun during lovemaking, you’re probably not doing it correctly. I think the same advice applies equally to adult spanking. There’s no reason why getting a sore bottom can’t be enjoyable. Like any sex act, it’s a reaffirming celebration of love, life, and coupling. A spanking can be serious if you choose to approach it that way, but that is but one of the options available.

As you plan your next recreational spanking, remember to pack the fun. You won’t be disappointed!

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padme said...

:) I love your blog post, bonnie. :)
Thanks for your comment on my blog today. Really made me smile. I had to say something in my latest blog post about it. Even Master was smiling over that..padme-paddle me. Too cute!

Pandora Sox said...

Bonnie, I agree so much with this post.
Nearly 2 years ago, seconds before I was about to receive my first spanking ever, I was given 2 golden thoughts about spanking:
A spanking should hurt (for it to be a spanking)and a spanking should be fun.
That is why I always say,
Happy Spanks!

pamela said...

Another good post, Bonnie!

Why is it that things that are otherwise mildly funny are hysterical when you're over the knee of your beloved? My hubby whacked his thumb with the wodden dowel he was using on me. Although I didn't want to laugh, his attempt at stiffling an "ow!" while I was supposed to be the one in pain was hysterical. I sometimes get the giggles when he's not spanking hard enough. I guess I get bored and my mind wanders in the most devious ways.

Keep up the great blogging!


Don said...

I was getting my daily dose of Bonnie this morning and the phrase “habitually ungrateful spankees” jumped out at me. I don’t know any of those types anymore, but I did once. They are not much fun to be around. They are very unhappy people. A spanking, 10,000 spanking will not help them. In fact, even the spanking will never be what they want.

If fun is not part of it count me out.

kitten said...

So very well said Bonnie!! "R" and I have FUN during spankings - it is the communication, trust, openness and love that makes us feel this way (and we have been married 30 years - only got into spanking over the last 3 years - damn-all the wasted years!! LOL) But seriously, a great topic! **Oh, I have had my share of "punishment" spankings too - but overall, its what makes us a loving couple! Enjoy your day :)

Paul said...

Bonnie, possibly one of your best spanking 101's yet.
The abiding memories of my marriage with Mel was laughter, I used to call her my giggle pot, about the only time that she wasn't laughing was during a punishment spanking and they were rare.
Trying to target a bottom that's laughing takes skill, my beloved loved a good cry she claimed it did her the world of good, as the tears were streaming she was also laughing.
Life with the one you love should, mostly, be fun.
I look back on the fun we had and her loss doesn't hurt quite so much.
TTTWD should also be fun.
Thanks Bonnie, so much.

Anonymous said...

I loved reading this, Bonnie!!! And I sooooooo agree...spanking is sooooooo much fun!!!


MRBILL said...

This is the perfect follow-up to yesterday. The one thing that stood out to me with your blog was the fun factor. I had started to write about people who approach their relationship and their blogging with such a stern attitude, but decided not to go there. Today's blog is exactly what I was thinking yesterday as I thought about what makes your blog so good. Thanks again for the amazing work you do here.

Bonnie said...

Padme - Thanks. I was writing you a comment (about your description of a hot paddling) and that abbreviation just occurred to me. I'd say it fits. :)

Pandora - That was sage advice indeed. Happy spanks to you too.

Pamela - Thanks. I get the giggles too sometimes. At that point, I don't even know what's so funny. But it simply doesn't matter!

Don - I need the fun as well. Life is too short to be serious all the time.

Kitten - You are so right! Thanks.

Paul - Thank you! Those are sweet memories.

Tigger - Thanks. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

Mr Bill - You are most welcome.

This is a post I've been thinking about for a long time. I wanted to get the tone just right. I didn't want to appear to be ridiculing people cannot accept the concept of a fun spanking. After all, they have a right to practice whatever lifestyle they choose free of judgements from me. On the other hand, I wanted to tell my readers how enjoyable it can be to add a little fun into your spanko relationship.

CeeCi said...

I know I've said it many times, both here and in 'The Garden', it's all about the fun for me! If I couldn't laugh I wouldn't be able to play. MoJo feels the same way.

In the words of Miss Hepburn: "If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun!"

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