Ask Bonnie: Your Questions Answered

I want to offer big thanks to everyone who answered my call for content suggestions. Let's take a look at some of the questions that came in as comments or messages.

Question: Did Randy ever send you off in the morning with a sore red bottom underneath your jeans? Or did he ever wait for you at home with a paddle and then set fire to the seat of your pants?

Bonnie: Yes, both of those events occurred, though more often the latter than the former.

Question: Imagine someone you knew invited several guests, including you, to their house to witness them spanking their spouse for some perceived misdeed. How would that make you feel? Would you go? Would Randy go, too?

Bonnie: I'd start by wondering how they figured out we were spankos. Then I'd wonder why they would invite us if they didn't know that. I would be concerned for the spankee. Is this all consensual? Would our presence serve to humiliate the spankee? I would be intrigued to watch someone else get spanked, but my level of interest would depend upon the answers to the previous questions. Unless these were friends known to him, it's unlikely that Randy would want to meet new people this way.

Question: What would it be like to be invited to a game night, where the punishment for losing would be a spanking?

Bonnie: Attending an event like this would be outside our experience. I'm intrigued, but the likelihood of convincing Randy to go is low. I would not go without him.

Spanking games create a dilemma for me. Of course, the whole point is to create a scenario where I get spanked. Without that aspect, it's not a spanking game. That's fine. It's a worthwhile reason to play. But I want to win! It's a competition and I won't pretend to be incompetent just to get my spanking. And what do I get if I do win? No spanking? I don't think I like that game.

Question: Have all those spankings changed your behavior?

Bonnie: Possibly, but only for a short duration.

Question: Is the whole theory of using punishment to get people to behave better faulty?

Bonnie: I wouldn't infer a general conclusion based upon my response alone. Every couple is different and some of us are more different than others.

Question: Has Randy ever used a plug on you that's been kept in the fridge?

Bonnie: No, and let's not suggest that again.

Question: Why do people publish spanking blogs? Is it money?

Bonnie: I think the answers are the same for any social content producer:

• You have something to say / content to share


• You seek to meet like-minded friends and create / build community


• You appreciate receiving feedback and affirmation from readers


• You seek a means of creative expression

I don't monitize my blog, but some do. I can't speak for the current generation of TikTok-ers, but I have to think that if publishing is just about earning money, it will soon become a drudge. To succeed in the long term, a content creator has to love what they do and the people for whom they do it.

The other problem, for me at least, is that taking money from advertisers brings your objectivity into question. I want readers to know that my opinions are my own.

Question: Have you ever read a spanking fiction story that you think would make a good movie starring you and Randy.

Bonnie: I look forward to the day when we see a mainstream film that portrays sane, normal characters who happen to be spanking enthusiasts. Until now, such characters always have been presented as weird or damaged. The story could be spanking fiction, but it could be any story that happens to feature spanking(s).

As for starring Randy and me, that's pretty unlikely. I do some acting, but lately, I've been playing mostly granny roles. You might be able to talk Randy into helping out with the control board, but he is not going to appear on stage or in front of a camera.

Question: What's it like to get spanked while you are wearing a girdle?

Bonnie: Now this question is a real golden oldie. My first answer is "Why don't you buy one and find out for yourself?"

To answer the question, I own a couple of traditonal girdles, but they are not part of my wardrobe rotation. They come out exclusively for retro spanking scenarios. I can tell you that a girdle provides more effective protection than any pair of panties, any pants, skirt, or dress.

My theory is that by tightly contricting the spankee's bottom, the girdle prevents an implement from compressing the surface as would otherwise be the case. I think this limits both the resulting pain and damage. I describe it like wearing armor.

Question: Burning Man and the Las Vegas spanking party were recently held. As a spanko, which one would someone rather attend if they could without any adverse ramifications?

Bonnie: I've never attended either event so I have no meaningful basis for comparison. In general, I would rather stay in a nice hotel than camp in the desert. I like the idea of a party by spankos and for spankos, but the artworks created at Burning Man are amazing. Does no "adverse ramifications" mean no tarantulas, rattlesnakes, or scorpions? I guess I don't know the answer.

Question: Who do your readers think you look like?

Bonnie: Readers are entitled to think whatever they choose. One reader thought I looked like a very curvy weathercaster. The author of this question thinks I might look like producer Chelsea Pfeiffer. No one would mistake me for either of those beautiful women. To be honest, my appearance is fairly unremarkable. I'm a pear-shaped grandmother, but I won't mind if you want to picture me as JLo.

Question: What do you like about spanking?

Bonnie: There are many answers to that question, but here's a good start. For me, it's just about everything!

Question: Can you address the DIFFERENCES and SIMILARITIES between and among M/F spanking and F/M spanking, possibly expanding the discussion to F/F and M/M spanking?

Bonnie: Thank you, Alan. That's a great question and one for which I too would like to hear the answer. I write about M/F spanking because that's what I know and understand. There are lots of other permutations about which I am not qualified to advance an opinion. If you are a reader who is a switch, I invite you to compare your experiences with different roles and partners.

Question: Does it bother you that people search for big bottom Bonnie and land on your blog?

Bonnie: No, it makes me sad to picture some lonely guy late at night typing those words into Google. I just hope when he gets here he sees something he likes.

That's it for now. I have planned a few more posts inspired by your other suggestions. Thanks again!