Friday, November 18, 2022

So, I Guess This is It

Hi friends. Thank you to everyone who contacted me to inquire about our wellbeing. That means a lot to me.

To answer the questions, we’re OK. Life has thrown some challenges in front of Randy and me, but we are coping. Our experiences have driven me to re-evaluate a great many assumptions.

For most of the past 17 years, this blog has been my home in cyberspace, my refuge from the insanity of daily life, and the place where I could share all my kinky thoughts with like-minded friends. It served me well.

But things have changed – My priorities, our lives, readership, politics, technology, and the world. After lots of thought, spirited conversations, and a few tears, we’ve decided it’s time to walk away.

I promise I won’t delete the blog or remove any posts, but I can make no promises about our sometimes surprisingly puritanical host. MBS will live on as a kind of spanko mausoleum, a monument to days of spankings past.

For readers who enjoyed the two blogrolls, I regret to say that they had to go. I can no longer maintain them properly and such neglect would lead to malicious hijacked links that could get the entire blog deleted. If anyone wants the HTML, email me and I will send it to you.

I remain forever grateful to everyone who contributed to My Bottom Smarts. This was a blog about consensual adult spankings, but we know there was always much more. The memories of our time together will sustain me and always make me smile.



Erica Scott said...

Dear Bonnie -- I was afraid of this. Just had a feeling.

Things certainly have changed, in so many ways. And I find myself in the same boat as you.

You got me started in this blogging thing, and you championed me, as you did so many of us. You've been entertaining, informative, and inclusive. I will be forever grateful.

You have my email. My cyber-door is open to you anytime.

Be well, spanko sister. We love you. ♥

beltromance said...

I am glad that you are alright. But... You returned with such sad news. I don't even know what to say...
Thank you and I wish all the best to you and Randy.

Jean Marie said...

I am so sorry to read this, but understand completely.
You will not know how instrumental you have been in so many lives, mine include. You have been a matriarch, mentor, sage, spanko role model.
You will be missed terribly! I wish you & yours all the best!
Jean Marie


This is sad news and I know how hard it is to say goodbye to bloglife, thinking that you can never go back. There is a lot of good work in this blog and good memories. I used to think of you as the Spanking Blog Midwife, helping new blogs come into the world. Gonna miss you. Hope you can make it around the comments sometimes, perhaps The Sunday Brunch, at Hermione's, now and then. But only if it fits into your new lifestyle. Best "O" Luck to you and Randy, here's hoping life works out for you two.


Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear your sad news Bonnie. I have treasured being a small part of your blog. Take care and Go Well. Sophie x

Midwest Reader said...

Thank you so much for your work over the years - your blog has been a wonderful community in which to gather and also a great resource. I for one will miss you but I know you are doing what is best for you.
Best wishes!

Anonymous said...

Bonnie, thankyou for sharing your life with your fellow spankos.

Biguglysod said...

You must do best for you and Randy, you will be missed, I have been silently following you for over twelve years, all the best for your continued journey Gill

Hermione said...

Bonnie, I was hoping I wouldn't hear this news, but like Erica, I had a feeling. I will miss you terribly, but you have to do what's best for you. So much has changed since blogging first began, and it just isn't the same anymore. I will always cherish our friendship, and hope you can stop by for brunch from time to time and have a cup of tea and conversation. It was a privilege to work with you all these years.

Warm wishes and big cyberhugs,

Anonymous said...

What a shame. You have been a foundational rock of this community and done great good for a great many people.

I hope you'll be able to leave the blog roll up long enough for folks to try capture some links. For many of us, this is the "front page" to the spanking internet. But you do what is best for you and for your family.


Anonymous said...

Delurking to say thank you. I am also married for many years living a totally conventional life. Your adventures with Randy have provided inspiration for me in sustaining the romance and passion with my wife. Deeply grateful (and so is she!). Wishing you good things always.

Bonnie said...

Erica - This was a hard decision and one that was a long time coming. It was a case where something had to give.

I feel privileged to know a genuine spanko superstar and call you my friend. I follow along as you chronicle your many adventures. I read with amazement, delight, and happiness for your successes. You teach us about aspects of the scene that I will never see. For all this, I am grateful.

Beyond that, you’ve consistently supported me and this blog. Without readers and commenters, a blog might as well be a teenager’s written diary stashed under the mattress. Thank you, dear friend, for all you do!

BR - Thank you! Best to you as well.

Jean Marie - Wow. Thanks! I feel fortunate to have been there at just the right time to help promote this community and its members. Now I am able to pass this role to all of you.

Prefectdt - Thank you. I will definitely miss everyone. I expect that I will still comment from time to time. Even if I am no longer a blogger, I will still be a spanko.

Sophie - I appreciate all your contributions to our community and this blog. This was a difficult decision, because friends mean so much to me.

MR - Thank you, and best wishes to you as well.

Anon #1 - You’re very welcome.

Gill - Thank you for your readership!

Hermione - This was a difficult decision for us and one that I have been mulling for quite a while.

No one has been more consistently supportive over all the years than you. I am grateful for your friendship, counsel, insight, and technical advice. I plan to stop by the brunch sometimes because I love it. If ever I can assist, you know where to find me.

Anon #2 - Thank you. Helping people has always been central to this blog’s mission. My plan is to leave the blog up as a resource. I’ll keep the blogrolls for a while.

Anon #3 - Hello! A delurker just in time for LoL Day. Thank you. I am delighted to be able to help.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for being a beacon of calm, honesty and good sense. Now, second star on the right and straight on until morning.

Dan - A Disciplined Hubby said...

Bonnie, I'm sorry to see you go and hopeful that everything is OK with you or will, in the very near future, be OK with you. I'm glad you're leaving your blog up. Perhaps sometime in the future things will settle down and you'll want to return to it. Good luck with whatever it is you are dealing with, and thanks for all the time you've put into this little community.

Anonymous said...

So sorry to see you leave this marvelous endeavor. Here's wishing you and yours the very best. Graham

Roz said...

Hi Bonnie,

This is very sad news, but I do understand. Thank you so much for everything you have done for blogland over the years. MBS has been the cornerstone of blogland, a place for us all to come together, not to mention getting many of us started, including myself in blogland.

You will be vety much missed. Wishing you and Randy the very best.


Enzo said...

I'm a bit short on words at reading the sad news. You have been a beacon for this corner of the blogosphere. Thank you for all you've done. I personally appreciate that you were genuinely welcoming to me in this community, and ultimately inspirational and instrumental in my starting my own blog.

I understand and can relate to life's unexpected challenges as that is part of the reason I have been silent for most of this past couple years. I wish you and Randy the best always.

Bonnie said...

Anon #4 - That's very sweet. Thanks!

Dan - Thank you for all your support. I don't expect to return, but who knows what life holds?

Graham - Thank you. You too!

Roz - I greatly appreciate your continuing support for this blog. Your comments helped to sustain my resolve to continue blogging.

Enzo - You're very welcome. It's been a great run.

Jimc said...

Thank you so much for all you have done with your blog over the years.I have enjoyed your spanking adventures and your blogroll through that I did find some blogs I would not have found otherwise. Your fun quizzes and wordplay were outstanding.I loved your otk spanking descriptions and what you have shared with us over the years your humour,writing style and help will be greatly missed.thanks again for all your time and dedication to the spankos world.I was a lurker for a long time and I think I did open up on one of those.enjoy your pursuit of other adventures.have a great life.

Ronnie Soul said...

Bonnie, this is sad news. It must have been a hard decision for you.

Thank you for all you have done for this community and especially for finding my little blog all those years ago. I will always be grateful to you for that as I wouldn't have made so many wonderful friends I have.

Love and best wishes to you and Randy.


Anonymous said...

I have been following you for at least 15 of those years. Thank you so much.
You have been a great gateway for access to other blogs, and so far there is nothing comparable out here.

Bonnie said...

Jim - You're most welcome. Thank you for your words of praise and your years of support.

Ronnie - It's been my privilege to share this journey with you. I wish you the very best of everything!

Anon - 15 years? Wow. Thank you. Now I pass the baton to other community members. I am confident they will carry our tradition forward and inject some exciting new ideas.

Sore is more said...

Dear Bonnie,

what a sad day to de-lurk... what they all said and much more. My journey is quite different. I wish I would discover your blog 15 years ago and not this summer.

Full disclosure, I'm vanilla, although as I learned now, so many little quirks count as kinks. For that matter, what really constitutes a spanking? A smack or two do not count, right? What about three or five? Where to draw the line, or better not to? So, I was writing a novel, quite steamy but vanilla, and one summer day, I wrote a scene that involved a spanking that went horribly wrong (they didn't know about Bonnie's writings), wrote it without any research, purely on emotions. And then, to justify what happened and why, plunged into research. BTW, I was right, I described bratting and topping from the bottom without knowing what it is.

MBS was the second spanko blog I found, right after an extreme CDD one. Thankfully, MBS is linked on virtually every blog throughout the blogosphere, and boy, did I stay in this impossible vast, skillfully crafted, generously shared Body of Knowledge. The tutorials alone, I read at least twice each and most, many times over: the elusive why (my favourite), how to talk to your partner, first spanking, fantasy vs reality, bratting, anticipation, letting go (a gem), implements, rituals, more rituals. When in doubt, read Bonnie's tutorial.

I'm still vanilla, leaving vicariously through my characters, following their ebbs and flows, letting them make mistakes, but knowing one thing for sure, I want them to become more like Bonnie and Randy, be themselves, find the way that works for them, because every couple is different, and forget the labels.

There is no sadder day for a lurker and purveyor of fine blogs to find a blog (or forum) written by a brilliant author, smart, intelligent, bold, and sincere, only to discover that the blog is discontinued (not to say dead). A word of advice for those who like me just read, do comment, drop a few words, ask for an advice before it's too late.

Bonnie, I have a parting gift for you, a song/poem called A Bottom Song. Since I didn't know how to send it to you, I registered a blog today and posted it there, for Bonnie who redefined the word Bottom.


Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing your blog with us. I've been a lurker for several years. I've enjoyed reading your blog and learned from it, and also discovered some great blogs like Ronnie's and Erica's from yours. Thank you and I hope everything goes well for you and Randy.

Anonymous said...

Bonnie - I'm pretty certain I've followed you since inception. Can't believe it's been 17 years. You've been one the most stalwart & reliable sources of info on the Spanking Community. I've enjoyed your writing, sense of humor & willingness to share your experiences playing with Randy in TTWD. Best wishes to both of you. Bob Koch

Bonnie said...

Becca - It's a pleasure to meet you.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I have great admiration for authors. I'm a journalist by training and a technical writer by profession. I've always found fiction far more difficult and time consuming than what I do.

I'm glad my tutorials were beneficial. If ever you need clarification or more information on this topic, I invite you to contact me via the Ask Bonnie question mark image at the bottom of the right column below.

I think a smack or two can be a spanking if the participants believe it to be so.

I like your advice and I second your recommendation. Bloggers are grateful for every click and comment. Without an engaged audience, it's easy to feel like we're just throwing words out into the ether.

I absolutely love your poem! My first thought was that I need to link it. But maybe not I guess. Thank you again!

Anon #5 - Thank you for your readership and well wishes.

Bob - The whole time? I'm very impressed. In fact, it makes me feel a little tired to think about reading all that. Thank you for sticking around through thick and thin and for your kind words.

Anonymous said...

Have always enjoyed your blog, it will be missed. ed and diana

Sore is more said...

Oh yes please please, link me up, link me down, put me over your blog roll. I promise, I will be a GG and post some fiction pronto.

Bonnie, your kind words meant a world to me. Honestly, I'm speechless and cannot find the proper words to express my gratitude.

Bonnie said...

Ed and Diana - Thank you!

Becca - OK, once more for old time's sake. You're linked, at least for the next few weeks.

Congratulations on your new blog and best wishes!

Sore is more said...

Thank you, Bonnie!!! All the best wishes to you and Randy.

I forgot to mention, Randy's recent spanking tips were brilliant, up there with the best of tutorials. The expert at work indeed!

Bonnie said...

Becca - Randy surprised me with that one. We recorded the conversation almost by accident, but left it running as he just kept going. I cleaned it up a little and reorganized some of the points, but those were his words. I can confirm that he knows how to spank!

maraleia said...

Bonnie I will miss your awesome posts but I totally understand why you need to walk away. So many of us are making different choices when it comes to interacting online right now. Happy spanking as always!!!

Anonymous said...

I was a latecomer to this blog and only lurked here for the last year or two. But during that time, and from delving into the archives, it's been a delight to see spanking presented in such style. The playfulness and joy of the spanking experience really shines through. Sincerest thanks for your many years of blogging and best wishes for the future.

Bonnie said...

Maraleia - Thank you for understanding. Best to you too.

Anon #6 - You're most welcome. It's been fun. I plan to leave the archive up for anyone who wants to browse.

willie said...

I heard through the grapevine, you were leaving. I myself have left but I did want to come back and say thank you. Blogland has changed over the years but those first few years (2012 for me) will hold a special place in my heart. You set the standard back then and we were all better for it. So thank you.


Bonnie said...

Thank you, Willie, for being part of a dynamic community!

Cresta said...

I just found you!!! Aw.
Well, I have a blog too:
That's a lot of links to copy! Could you maybe put all the links in one last post for everyone? I know that's asking a lot.
Anyway, thank you for serving this community for so long. Wish I didn't find you just in time for you to go though!

Bonnie said...

Cresta - Hi! I really like your lovely new blog. I know the experiences you share will be helpful for others in a similar situation.

About those links... Today is the day I plan to remove them. Like a spanking that's way overdue, it simply needs to happen. I've been thinking for a long time about how the links might live on in some way. Their value diminishes with each day they are untended. And I'm done with tending. If people want to email me, I can send you the HTML code. Or you can rely upon the humongous Spanking Art Wiki list. It's a much less governed environment, but the spanking blogs are all there.

As for being gone, I have no plans to blog here again, but over 2000 posts spanning over 17 years remain and I will be around from time to time. My email (click the question mark) still works too.

Best wishes with your new blog! I still love new bloggers. :)



Bonnie said...

Mike - Thank you for your support, well wishes, and contributions to our community. I hope your treatment brings good results and life brings you peace and fulfillment.

Anonymous said...

Dear Bonnie: Good decision! After Covid restrictions, we need to live life to the fullest. I dabble a little on tumblr, but it is not and never will be the same as my spankedhubby blog. Enjoy life. Cheers Mike (now known as Red)

Bonnie said...

Thank you, Mike. My decision was driven more by necessity than choice. I miss blogging and all the friends here, but I am more available for priorities closer to home. One day soon I hope we can pursue life to the fullest.

Anonymous said...

Bonnie- thanks for all you’ve done for us all. My bottom well, usually, agrees! SaraE

Bonnie said...

Sara - You're very welcome. It's been fun.

Terpsichore said...

Sending love and hugs to you and Randy. While we never met, I consider you a dear friend who gave me the courage to be myself when I hadn't yet gained the confidence and I will forever be grateful to have found your blog so many years ago. I don't believe anything is an accident...I am glad our paths crossed... Thank-you for being you. :-) Best wishes always! Hugs

Bonnie said...

Thank you, dear Terps. I'm glad too! May your future bring happiness, peace, and satisfaction.



Bonnie said...

Thanks, Mike. I miss all of you as well. We're getting better, but progress is slow.

Chross said...

Hi Bonnie,

sad to see another blog go, but I can understand it.
I have also realized that blogging was something I couldn't sustain.

But I didn't want to ginve up on sharing stuff either.

So I have set up a message bord where I will share my mainstream movie / TV scenes and such.
It's at the old ULR
It's already filling nicely and I am updating stuff as well - better quality versions and such.
The new stuff in the New stuff, submissions and requests section.

Please feel free to join and contribute!

Registration is eays - to keep the spambots away I will have to approve any new member though. You'll recevie no notice (email), just check back the next day and the account should be ready to go!


Bonnie said...

Chross - That's great news! I'll check it out. Best wishes with your new forum.

Jo said...

Hope you are doing well, just noticed site is still up for comments. Jo (spanking links)

Anonymous said...

Show me your naked, spanked bottom, please.

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