Tom agreed to play along. I selected some of his past questions, grouped them by topic, and asked him why he was interested in this information.
Sex
Sex before marriage (Yes)
Sex during menstruation? (Yes, but)
Times per week for sex? (2ish)
Favorite vibrator? (Bullet)
Plug? (Yes)
Attracted to women? (Not like that)
Tom: I’ve not met you but you seem like a very sexy woman. Better yet, you are will to share intimate parts of your life. I am a student of woman and I am eager to learn from you.
Bonnie: So it’s basically curiosity? That’s not the answer I expected.
Spanking
Favorite implement? (leather paddle)
Film or photograph spanking or sex? (Yes)
Post spanking pictures? (No)
Become a spanking model? (No)
Corner time embarrassing? (Sometimes)
Diaper position? (Yes, but)
Tom: I absolutely love when you talk about all the spankings you get. I love all of the little details that could be known only by someone who’s been there. Spankings are my favorite interest and I’ve followed your blog for most of my adult life.
Bonnie: OK, I understand having a spanking obsession. I’m not complaining, but I wonder why the concentrated interest in this little granny?
Tom: As someone who has expeienced thousands of spankings over forty years, you know more about the subject than anyone else I will ever meet.
Other Kink
Being tied up? (Yes)
Do men stare? (Sometimes)
Tats or piercings? (Just lobes)
Do you wax or shave your pubic region? (Crop)
Tom: Like you, I think bondage and spankings go together. The other questions were just me wanting to better understand what your life is like.
Bonnie: My life is unusual to be sure, but I don’t feel like it’s fascinating. Could it be because I’m on the inside looking out? Or are you easily entertained?
Tom: When you write, I am easily entertained.
Clothing
Panty size? (7-8)
Yoga pants or leggings? (Both)
Nylon or cotton panties? (Cotton)
Garter belt and stockings? (Yes)
Heels? (Yes)
Wear a dress? (Yes)
Wear pink? (Yes)
Workout wear? (Varies)
Thong everyday? (Yes)
Underwire bra? (Yes)
Like wedgies? (No)
Tom: I fully admit I have a major fetish about womens clothing. I really love that your husband dresses you up and then makes you take a spanking. Just the thought is a huge turn on.
Bonnie: That’s pretty much what I guessed. These items that are highly stimulating for you are just clothing for the rest of us. You are welcome to imagine that my husband dresses me and forces me to take a spanking. The reality is that I am a fully consenting participant in everything we do.
Weird Question
Did you breastfeed your child? (Yes)
Tom: I just wanted to know.
Bonnie: I smile about a lot of these questions, but this one bothers me. I’m willing to answer it to demonstrate solidarity with other mothers. But I worry about sexualizing what should be a loving, innocent bonding experience. Let’s leave those moms and babies alone.
Tom: Sorry, I didn't mean it like that.
There it is. I’m not sure what I expected to learn from Tom’s answers. At the end of the day, I think we can conclude that Tom is just a really inquisitive fan.
10 comments :
Goodness Bonnie, I'm not sure I would have answered some of these questions. Good on you for turning the tables and asking the questions. Interesting reading this exchange.
Hugs
Roz
These are the kinds of questions I'd expect to be directed to an intimate partner. But your answers are certainly informative, and to the degree you don't mind giving them, it might be informative to other inquiring minds. I give you a lot of credit for putting yourself out there for everyone.
Thank you for posting this! I LOVE the bizarre, and this pins the needle on the 'creepy-meter'. It was like watching one of the interviews on "Mindhunter" on Netflix. And good for you being so cool and casual about it all. Brava!!!
Oh, forgot to add: the way you took the opportunity to turn answering his questions into him answering yours was also very......"Quid pro quo, Clarisse." LOL ;-)
Roz - I'm always looking for a new perspective or a different way to tell a story. I figured why not query the man with a thousand questions?
RP - I don't mind publishing my answers because I welcome the opportunity to share a bit of my world with readers. M hope is that some of them will say, "She's just like me" and feel more comfortable with their own desires and preferences.
KD - People don't believe me when I say that Tom is a very nice, polite, fellow. We've been exchanging emails for years. I agree his questions are strange, but he truly wants to know. As a teacher, my instinct is to educate. That's the best explanation I have for our unusual friendship. If I can help people, I will.
You are just like me. Well, within certain parameters. But close enough that your answers strike a chord. Thank you for sharing, in the best possible way.
Overly inquisitive, I've always thought. As long as he does not cross the line and want to get to know you better IRL, you are probably safe.
Hugs,
Hermione
RP - That's the formula. When I share, some readers can better relate to me. When readers can relate to me, then I have more opportunities to share. The connections we build as a community provide strength, affirmation, and support to friends in every phase of their journey.
Hermione - Yes, definitely, but when I can channel his curiosity for the common good, a little disclosure is a sacrifice I am willing to make. There have been a number of questions over the years that I am not willing to answer. We won't cross the line.
I think some people have strange questions and I commend your willingness to answer. The way I look at it is some who are reading your answers will feel better about what they wish to explore. Sometimes we look for others explorations and practices to feel comfortable in our own skins.
Minielle - Yes, that's exactly what I think!
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