Randy and Bonnie at the Movies

I convinced my dear husband to have a conversation for the blog on the topic of spanking videos. This post is an edited transcript of that discussion.

We have watched spanking videos for decades – from the grainy VHS SLP rip-off tapes sold at high prices by roadside porn shops to today’s streaming 4K splendor. These videos, almost entirely M/F, provided inspiration, entertainment, and occasional laughs. Along the way, we’ve each developed some preferences and today, we would like to share them with you.

Bonnie: What makes a spanking video enjoyable to watch?

Randy:

1. First and foremost, I want to witness a real spanking. By that, I mean I want to see the woman get whacked hard and repeatedly on her bottom. I want her to react proportionately to the spanking being delivered. No academy award performances in response to a light hand spanking. Also, I don’t want her to lie motionless as though the spanker is flogging a side of beef.


2. I like to see the spankee’s bottom at some point during the proceedings. Is her skin turning red? Are there any visible marks? Does she have cute dimples like Bonnie’s? Does her bottom undulate with each new strike?


3. How does the spankee react to the pain? Does she squirm or kick? Does she try to cover? Does she submit at some stage? Or is she kind of into it?


4. I like the vocalizations that document exactly how much pain the spankee is feeling. Does she ask the spanker to please stop or does she just yell, “Ow!”


5. Here’s a weird thing I love to see in a video - When a woman drops her pants or raises her skirt to expose her bottom in preparation for a spanking and it’s already red and sore looking. I realize this happens because studios routinely shoot multiple scenes with a model in one day. But in my twisted brain, she’s a bad girl who is getting it again.


6. I like when the woman is beautiful, but that isn’t essential. It can be more interesting to watch an average woman get a spanking. When I see this, I think that unlike those lovely models, maybe this person is not being paid. If she is accepting a hard spanking because she loves it, that makes her hotter that any shapely twenty year old.

OK, what about you?

Bonnie:

1. I know you particularly appreciate the physical whacking part, but my focus is usually inside the heads of the participants. I know those stories aren’t real, and sometimes they are downright preposterous, but they set the stage for me. Why is this woman being spanked so hard? How would I feel if it were me? I want to be able to place myself in the role of the one being punished and imagine what that would be like.


2. I like stories where loving couples share spankings. When they embrace and kiss afterward, that’s very appealing. When Shadow Lane began, their mission was to make people feel good about being into spanking. That message really resonated with me.


3. Spanking is my kink, but I have an extra special fondness for corporal punishment scenes. I crave these sorts of scenes, both in videos and in our personal lives. The more classic ritual, the better.


4. I want to see faces. How is the spankee reacting to what is happening to her? Is it agony, panic, fatigue, or resignation? Or maybe, best of all, she’s into it! Her expression tells me more about the effect of the spanking than anything occurring out back. And what of the spanker? Is he serious, determined, or pleased with his efforts?


5. I want to believe these people care about each other. I recognize they are probably hired hands doing a job, but I think part of that job is to convince me otherwise. Show me why I should believe.


6. Finally, I have had the pleasure to know several brilliant spanking models through the blog. It’s a joy to watch their work.

What do you dislike?

Randy:

1. Anything hokey. Contrived scripts. Outrageous overacting. High school cheerleaders with huge tats. Spankees who appear to be bored porn stars after a quick buck. Spankers who are merciless bastards. Sets that look like someone’s garage.


2. I don’t like to watch spankers who do it wrong and spankees who don’t seem to know the difference. They hit too high or out on the hips or ignore the lower slopes entirely. Or they strike in one spot again and again and don’t even it out.


3. Teaseware. Don’t show me thirty seconds of a spanking in hopes of luring me to a pay site. If I choose to subscribe, it will be based upon your body of work, not one truncated snippet.


4. Questionable consent. Some videos originate in developing countries. That’s fine. They have beautiful women too. But in some cases, I have to wonder about the working conditions for the models. Are they able to fully consent? Are they fairly compensated for their work?

And you?

Bonnie:

1. I dislike seeing spankings that are excessive. Those brutal Eastern European videos from the nineties kept me from even considering a cane for years. At the other end of the spectrum, a spanking video needs to include at least one good spanking.


2. As you mentioned, I want to see authentic reactions. Not screaming murder over a few light slaps nor being the proverbial slab of meat.


3. I agree about the need to see some indication of consent, especially if there are sexual elements. Without it, I don’t want to watch and I don't want to pay for it.


4. Degradation is a huge turn-off for me. It’s one thing to scold in the context of a discipline scenario. It’s quite another to tell a woman that all females are inferior and deserve to be abused. That’s a message that no one needs to hear.

These are our spanking video preferences. What are yours?