Off Topics: What I Don't Write About

Thank you to everyone who stopped by during our Lover Our Lurkers celebration. It was great to hear from all of you!

During our LoL Day exchange, a fourteen-year reader (!) named TriXie suggested that I've left out some "really good subjects." That's interesting, I thought. In my mind, I had already discussed every spanko topic I could imagine ten years ago. When I took a break from blogging, it wasn't because I stopped loving getting spankings or even blogging. I just ran out of fresh content and I grew tired of recycling the same concepts and themes.

Over the years, I've written about spankings, lots of spankings, of all different varieties, both ours and other people's. Truth and fiction. We had song parodies and games and puzzles and tutorials and quizzes. We had audience participation. We have original research, a one act play, and a spanko choose your adventure story. We had lots of memes, spanking humor, and way too many kink links. And sex, yeah, that too.

I seek to write about topics I know because (1) it's easier, and (2) I cannot in good conscience present myself as an expert unless I'm sure I understand. To this end, I've compiled the following list of spanking and related topics that I seldom if ever discuss here.

1. Real punishments (not our dynamic)


2. Spanking parties (no experience)


3. Spanking modeling (never tried)


4. Single tail whips (too extreme for us)


5. Poly or open relationships (just not us)


6. Blood, knives, piercing, fire, electricity, torture (let's stick to spanking)


7. Scat (eww)


8. Male submission (again, not our thing)


9. Spanking any child or non-consenting adult (as hard as a limit can be)


10. Foot fetish (no disrespect, but I don't get it)


11. Humiliation or objectification (I'm submissive, but not a doormat)


12. Misogyny or sexism (women are smaller, but we are not less)


13. Spanking in other cultures (others can explain this better)


14. Spanking and mental illness (important, but not an area of expertise)


15. Spanko dating advice (way out of practice and the world has changed)


16. Problems of the world (what do I know? I'm just a happily spanked wife)

I make no judgement about people who are familiar with these topics (OK, except for #9 and #12). In these 16 areas, I am not sufficiently knowledgeable to guide others, and so I will not attempt to do so.

Beyond the list, if you, TriXie or any reader, see an area that you would like me to discuss or discuss more, please let me know. I love new ideas and finding original ways to express "hard wooden paddle smacks against quivering flesh." Please do suggest! Something experimental maybe?

For those readers who are hoping to locate sites that feature the topics in the list above, the good news is that the internet is filled with kinky people who want to share. May you find everything you seek.