Dressing for the Occasion

Happy New Year, everyone!

A couple of weeks ago, Hermione asked the following question at brunch:

Do you have special attire the spankee is required to don before a spanking? If so, is it used regularly, seldom, or only on certain occasions?

I wrote a brief response befitting that venue, but my full answer is a bit more involved.

My husband Randy loves to dress me (and undress me) for spankings. He calls it “opening the gift.” The themes he selects are variously exciting, fun, silly, sexy, and outrageous. Sometimes, one or both of us lack the time or energy to pursue this activity. But when we can, we explore the boundaries of our respective roles as spanker and spankee.

Another essential aspect of our play is the capture of our festivities through video, audio, and photography. Randy creates and curates this content just for us. His equipment and techniques have become more sophisticated over the years. Watching my spankings later allows me to better appreciate the detail he invests in coordinating his patter, choice of implement, and the delivery of the blows with my spankee persona. I can immerse myself in my role and experience a spanking that feels real.

I will wear (or not wear) almost anything to fit the circumstance. I am pleased to indulge his fascination. As long as I get my spanking and all of the adult fun that follows, I'm all in.

I started a list of outfits I’ve worn recently when I answered Hermone’s question. With Randy’s help, I compiled this more comprehensive list.

Minimalist

Naked – What could be more natural? He loves my curvy body and I love the feel of his touch. When the transition from carress to spank arrives, it is deliciously welcome.

Bra and thong set – He probably doesn’t notice that the top and bottom match, but he definitely appreciates cute lingerie. There’s a good reason why I own 100 pairs of panties.

Bad Girl

Cheerleader uniform – Who doesn’t want to paddle the misbehaving cheerleader? Several years ago, I bought a real cheer uniform, complete with pleated skirt, sweater, and matching brief. This is great fun, but it requires a bit of preparation.

Naughty schoolgirl – I found a very short pleated wool tartan skirt and coordinated sweater. This skirt is so short that the crests of my hips and the lower half of my bottom are exposed. I pair it with a little white bikini panty to draw his eye. I get exactly what a naughty girl deserves.

Traditional

Skirted business suit with slip, stockings, garter belt, and heels – Plenty to unwrap here.

Similar outfit with pantyhose – I’m not sure why Randy is so fond of pantyhose. Maybe it’s because I used to wear them all the time and he has good memories.

Girdle – Our child of the sixties remembers a time when women wore big white heavy Playtex control briefs. Randy thinks they’re hot, so I get hot bottom while wearing a girdle.

White nylon briefs – Yeah, granny panties. I’m qualified to wear them and I do. Randy likes the look. Despite the full coverage design, they provide precisely zero protection against spanking implements.

Sexy Wife

Bikini swimsuit – For several practical reasons, I wear a one-piece suit in public. At home, however, I dance for my sweetie wearing a small bikini. Sometimes, he will have me get my suit wet in the shower before the main event.

Form-fitting blue jeans – This is my go-to look, and that’s a mixed blessing. It’s great that my husband thinks my favorite comfortable jeans look sexy. However, there are times when looking sexy is not my top priority. I have to wear something!

Leggings – This is 2020, so there must be leggings. Randy likes me to wear white, beige, light gray, or pale pastel colors that are sufficiently translucent to reveal my thong lines. Wearing these around Randy is like waving a red flag in front of a proverbial bull. The only question is how long he will spank before those leggings get peeled off.

White shorts – Shorts are good. Short shorts are better, especially when they expose the bottom of my bottom. You know, the part that gets punished.

Short nightie and thong set – I just love a warm, snugly bedtime spanking, maybe OTK with a yummy leather implement. If I can dress for this nocturnal discipline, that’s even better.

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A reader asked me recently whether I thought that wearing some of these outfits felt demeaning. My answer would be a resounding no. Spankings are how we fulfill our mutual desires. If I dress as someone other than who I am, that’s a part of our exploration together. Spankings are like pizza. Even when they’re bad, they’re still pretty good.