Saturday, October 01, 2016

Pear Shaped Vindication

When you see this pretty woman, you might think that she looks strong and healthy. But did you think she's probably smart as well?

Perhaps you should. Research has revealed that pear shaped women with wide hips and big bottoms tend to be more intelligent. Better still, our children tend to be more intelligent as well. The reason is that those curves are rich in omega-3 fatty acids that promote brain growth.

I've listened to comments about my shape since I was eleven. Some were hurtful, some benign, but all true. I have a big butt. I'm a PAWG, a booty girl, a broad, junk in the trunk, saddlebags, love handles and all the rest.
People, and girls in particular, should not be judged based upon their bodies. It's sexist, unfair, insensitive and wrong. We are so much more than our dress size. I know this today, of course, but in my teenage years, there wasn't anyone to explain it.

It took years for me to first accept and later appreciate my body. Randy has been great. He has always praised my figure and reminds me that he loves me as I am. The popularity of celebrities like Jennifer Lopez helped to build my confidence as well. This is my body. I own it. It's mine. I no longer envy others or feel the need to transform myself. I'm OK.

So now we learn that there is a correlation between low waist/hip ratio and higher intelligence. Wow. Hips are cool. I wish I had possessed this fact when our daughter was a self-conscious teen. You can bet that if our ten-year-old granddaughter inherits this family trait, we will have a conversation about it. She will know that she is a beautiful young woman just as she is.

16 comments :

Cat said...

I've always been unhappy with my body but don't have the positive affirmation of big butt/higher intelligence. I'm trying to help my granddaughters be happy with and accepting of themselves...my son and DIL are doing a great job of helping them with that. Thanks for sharing, Bonnie.

Hugs and blessings...Cat

Roz said...

Hi Bonnie, interesting, and I couldn't agree more,people shouldn't be judged by their bodies. I have never been happy with my body shape either.

Hugs
Roz

juliesp said...

I don't know if there's any woman happy with her shape. I get compliments but am still so self critical in the mirror. Society has done a number on us! But Domming a man does help. Makes me feel a bit of the Godess...

Leigh Smith said...

Thanks Bonnie for this. I too have a big butt, lots of curves (lol) and have always been self-conscious about. Ray and I play a game even to today, when we're out, we'll point out other larger butt ladies and one of us will say, smaller or larger, comparing it to mine. Thank Goodness, Ray is a butt man and he loves mine.
PS I've always been considered smart too, so now I know they go hand in hand. I'll pass this on to our daughter who is also smart.

Terpsichore said...

How sad it is that as women we do not see ourselves as the beautiful people we are and instead see our faults. I have always had body issues as well. I hope someday that will change. Thank-you for sharing this :-) Hugs

Anonymous said...

DEAR BONNIE...MY WIFE DEE IS SHAPED LIKE THIS AND SO ARE BOTH OF MY STEPDAUGHTERS ONE A DOCTOR AND THE OTHER A CPA AND YES BOTH GIRLS GREW INTO BEAUTIFUL WOMEN THAT I'M VERY PROUD OF PS MY WIFE HAS ALWAYS HAD THE MOST SPANKABLE BEHIND I STILL LOVE IT AND HER VERY MUCH-MIKEmh27271

Hermione said...

Bonnie, I think most women are dissatisfied with their bodies, no matter what size of shape. It's just the way society has made us think.

It;s good to know that pear-shape is a healthy way to be. You are very lucky!

Hugs,
Hermione

Lilli Clairmont said...

As some have already said, I'm not sure that any woman is particularly satisfied with her shape, no matter what it is. That's such a shame, as our shape isn't what truly matters. I know that Nash has certainly helped me see myself differently. He appreciates my curves. ;)

Bonnie said...

Thanks, Everyone. Many of us struggle with these issues at different times and in different ways.

I don't think she was singing about body image, but Cheryl Crow once said something that seems to apply here:

It's not having what you want
It's wanting what you've got

After decades of aspiring to be someone that I'm not, I've made peace with the curvy woman in the mirror. It's a good thing I'm still married to Sir Mix-a-Lot!

Anonymous said...

NOT TO MENTION IT;S CERTAINLY FUN HAVING MY WIFE DEE OVER MY KNEE AND SPANKING HER "BUBBLE BUTT" I STILL LOVE IT AFTER 24 YEARS OF WEDDED BLISS I JUST SPANKED HER THIS MORNING TO CELEBRATE THE JEWISH NEW YEAR mh27271

Bonnie said...

L'Shana Tovah, Mike and Dee!

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

NOT TO MENTION IT;S CERTAINLY FUN HAVING MY WIFE DEE OVER MY KNEE AND SPANKING HER "BUBBLE BUTT" I STILL LOVE IT AFTER 24 YEARS OF WEDDED BLISS I JUST SPANKED HER THIS MORNING TO CELEBRATE THE JEWISH NEW YEAR mh27271

missy said...

Thanks for this Bonnie. Like most of the others commenting here, I too have suffered with body image issues. I actually teach a unit to teens about body image so will make sure that I include the 'smart' link from now on.

Enzo said...

Hi Bonnie,
Great to see you posting again.

I love pear shaped, big bottom women (in case that was a hard thing to guess). To be fair I love all shapes and sizes. I have always made it a point to compliment and help the women I have been with to appreciate their bodies just as they are and to view them the way I do. Unfortunately that has always been a struggle for most of them, because ultimately it seems that acceptance needs to come from within. Thanks for the research information; I'll be sure to spread the word.

Best,
Enzo

Shawn said...

Personally, both as a father of beautiful twin daughters and a love for curves ladies myself I hate the commercialized "skinny" look. For one, it isn't natural. Anyone who is savvy on sexual attraction will understand that males are biologically attracted to females who appear healthy. Curves are a natural component of the female body that promotes the attraction of males to healthy females for reproducing. Okay, that's the dry science behind evolution. The ugly side of the promotion of skinny women is the eating disorders caused by such ridiculous attention on fat as being bad. As I said before, I am the proud father of identical twin daughters who not only in my opinion but the opinion of many others are very beautiful women. However, when one of my daughters was teased as a young child by a friend as being "fat" (she wasn't by any stretch of the imagination) she developed a self image problem that really flared when she was about seventeen. She developed anorexia nervosa and had we not gotten her into treatment when we did she would have died. She was starving herself (no more than 200 calories per day), was running twelve miles daily, taking laxatives, and purging when she did eat. When we got her into rehab she was 5'7" tall and weighed 92 lbs. She still believed she was fat at that point. She spent two months at Remuda Ranch in Arizona trying to overcome her illness and after many years of struggling finally did. I thank God every time I recall those days for saving her life. To date the advertising industry still try to promote sickly, skinny women who are more often than not photoshopped to make them look even thinner. Though it never gets on the corporate media, tens of thousands of our daughters are dying from eating disorders because of this farce of an image the advertising industry promotes as "acceptable" women. Look, I love women and this type of exploitation is simply unacceptable. What do I suggest? Tell your partner how attractive she is and how she excites you as a guy. Love her and appreciate her. Most important of all, if you have a daughter who exhibits signs of an eating disorder please help her and get her the help she needs to accept herself as the beautiful person she is.

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