tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post3701910375744012152..comments2024-03-23T11:22:28.132-07:00Comments on My Bottom Smarts: Pear Shaped VindicationBonniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-75488126441041003432018-01-04T08:02:01.246-08:002018-01-04T08:02:01.246-08:00After my first marriage ended (after 12 years, jus...After my first marriage ended (after 12 years, just not right for each other), I tried a dating service. On of its suggestions was to describe the general body type I was interested in (athletic, pear-shaped, etc). Here is what I said - 'it's not the most important thing, but all things being equal in other areas, I prefer a woman who's hips are wider than her shoulders and shoulders wider than her waist." The responses I received were amazing -- I think women assume that men like waifs but I know there are plenty of us for whom the magic 'three inches of hips for every two inches of waist' is magical if not hypnotic lol -- Bill Greenbgreen0218@gmail.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-45230220028227929862016-11-07T22:15:58.369-08:002016-11-07T22:15:58.369-08:00Personally, both as a father of beautiful twin dau...Personally, both as a father of beautiful twin daughters and a love for curves ladies myself I hate the commercialized "skinny" look. For one, it isn't natural. Anyone who is savvy on sexual attraction will understand that males are biologically attracted to females who appear healthy. Curves are a natural component of the female body that promotes the attraction of males to healthy females for reproducing. Okay, that's the dry science behind evolution. The ugly side of the promotion of skinny women is the eating disorders caused by such ridiculous attention on fat as being bad. As I said before, I am the proud father of identical twin daughters who not only in my opinion but the opinion of many others are very beautiful women. However, when one of my daughters was teased as a young child by a friend as being "fat" (she wasn't by any stretch of the imagination) she developed a self image problem that really flared when she was about seventeen. She developed anorexia nervosa and had we not gotten her into treatment when we did she would have died. She was starving herself (no more than 200 calories per day), was running twelve miles daily, taking laxatives, and purging when she did eat. When we got her into rehab she was 5'7" tall and weighed 92 lbs. She still believed she was fat at that point. She spent two months at Remuda Ranch in Arizona trying to overcome her illness and after many years of struggling finally did. I thank God every time I recall those days for saving her life. To date the advertising industry still try to promote sickly, skinny women who are more often than not photoshopped to make them look even thinner. Though it never gets on the corporate media, tens of thousands of our daughters are dying from eating disorders because of this farce of an image the advertising industry promotes as "acceptable" women. Look, I love women and this type of exploitation is simply unacceptable. What do I suggest? Tell your partner how attractive she is and how she excites you as a guy. Love her and appreciate her. Most important of all, if you have a daughter who exhibits signs of an eating disorder please help her and get her the help she needs to accept herself as the beautiful person she is.Shawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03497831296758217703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-88130577800078763282016-10-11T16:49:29.221-07:002016-10-11T16:49:29.221-07:00Hi Bonnie,
Great to see you posting again.
I love...Hi Bonnie,<br />Great to see you posting again.<br /><br />I love pear shaped, big bottom women (in case that was a hard thing to guess). To be fair I love all shapes and sizes. I have always made it a point to compliment and help the women I have been with to appreciate their bodies just as they are and to view them the way I do. Unfortunately that has always been a struggle for most of them, because ultimately it seems that acceptance needs to come from within. Thanks for the research information; I'll be sure to spread the word.<br /><br />Best,<br />EnzoEnzohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11556688278392257042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-64691843357485091402016-10-08T08:34:21.623-07:002016-10-08T08:34:21.623-07:00Thanks for this Bonnie. Like most of the others c...Thanks for this Bonnie. Like most of the others commenting here, I too have suffered with body image issues. I actually teach a unit to teens about body image so will make sure that I include the 'smart' link from now on. missyhttp://www.submissy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-15042049365338495492016-10-04T14:20:27.897-07:002016-10-04T14:20:27.897-07:00NOT TO MENTION IT;S CERTAINLY FUN HAVING MY WIFE D...NOT TO MENTION IT;S CERTAINLY FUN HAVING MY WIFE DEE OVER MY KNEE AND SPANKING HER "BUBBLE BUTT" I STILL LOVE IT AFTER 24 YEARS OF WEDDED BLISS I JUST SPANKED HER THIS MORNING TO CELEBRATE THE JEWISH NEW YEAR mh27271 Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-71840053419003483112016-10-04T11:53:32.540-07:002016-10-04T11:53:32.540-07:00DEAR BONNIE THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE NEW YEARS GR...DEAR BONNIE THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THE NEW YEARS GREETING YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW HONORED I AM TO BE TALKING TO YO I'VE BEEN A FAN OF YOURS FOR OVER A DECADE I FOLLOWED YOU FROM CHROSS'S SPANKINGS OF THE WEEK ...I'NM SO HAPPY YOU CAME BACK AND THEN I STARTED MY OWN LITTLE BLOG AND IT TURNED UP ON YOUR LIST I WAS TRULY HONORED THANKS FOR EVERYTHING BONNIE ALL THE YEARS OF SPANKING INFO AND LINKS AND FRIENDS YOU ARE THE BEST MIKE mh27271 BAD GIRLS AND BAD BOYS SPANKEDAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-47433864614373101322016-10-03T20:15:21.383-07:002016-10-03T20:15:21.383-07:00L'Shana Tovah, Mike and Dee!L'Shana Tovah, Mike and Dee!Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-62300705684638171932016-10-03T19:14:27.118-07:002016-10-03T19:14:27.118-07:00NOT TO MENTION IT;S CERTAINLY FUN HAVING MY WIFE D...NOT TO MENTION IT;S CERTAINLY FUN HAVING MY WIFE DEE OVER MY KNEE AND SPANKING HER "BUBBLE BUTT" I STILL LOVE IT AFTER 24 YEARS OF WEDDED BLISS I JUST SPANKED HER THIS MORNING TO CELEBRATE THE JEWISH NEW YEAR mh27271 Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-40227807860269031432016-10-03T17:19:25.502-07:002016-10-03T17:19:25.502-07:00Thanks, Everyone. Many of us struggle with these ...Thanks, Everyone. Many of us struggle with these issues at different times and in different ways.<br /><br />I don't think she was singing about body image, but Cheryl Crow once said something that seems to apply here:<br /><br /> It's not having what you want<br /> It's wanting what you've got<br /><br />After decades of aspiring to be someone that I'm not, I've made peace with the curvy woman in the mirror. It's a good thing I'm still married to Sir Mix-a-Lot!Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-34613691171492908472016-10-03T07:39:51.168-07:002016-10-03T07:39:51.168-07:00As some have already said, I'm not sure that a...As some have already said, I'm not sure that any woman is particularly satisfied with her shape, no matter what it is. That's such a shame, as our shape isn't what truly matters. I know that Nash has certainly helped me see myself differently. He appreciates my curves. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-4941459206330570662016-10-03T04:35:15.976-07:002016-10-03T04:35:15.976-07:00Bonnie, I think most women are dissatisfied with t...Bonnie, I think most women are dissatisfied with their bodies, no matter what size of shape. It's just the way society has made us think. <br /><br />It;s good to know that pear-shape is a healthy way to be. You are very lucky!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />HermioneHermionehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15395671806340391253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-58300057626056150682016-10-02T18:21:28.512-07:002016-10-02T18:21:28.512-07:00DEAR BONNIE...MY WIFE DEE IS SHAPED LIKE THIS AND ...DEAR BONNIE...MY WIFE DEE IS SHAPED LIKE THIS AND SO ARE BOTH OF MY STEPDAUGHTERS ONE A DOCTOR AND THE OTHER A CPA AND YES BOTH GIRLS GREW INTO BEAUTIFUL WOMEN THAT I'M VERY PROUD OF PS MY WIFE HAS ALWAYS HAD THE MOST SPANKABLE BEHIND I STILL LOVE IT AND HER VERY MUCH-MIKEmh27271Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-37353947091001253032016-10-02T11:53:10.842-07:002016-10-02T11:53:10.842-07:00How sad it is that as women we do not see ourselve...How sad it is that as women we do not see ourselves as the beautiful people we are and instead see our faults. I have always had body issues as well. I hope someday that will change. Thank-you for sharing this :-) HugsTerpsichorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13704408254742966076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-68016527796959374262016-10-02T06:53:07.401-07:002016-10-02T06:53:07.401-07:00Thanks Bonnie for this. I too have a big butt, lo...Thanks Bonnie for this. I too have a big butt, lots of curves (lol) and have always been self-conscious about. Ray and I play a game even to today, when we're out, we'll point out other larger butt ladies and one of us will say, smaller or larger, comparing it to mine. Thank Goodness, Ray is a butt man and he loves mine.<br />PS I've always been considered smart too, so now I know they go hand in hand. I'll pass this on to our daughter who is also smart. Aimless Ramblinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00720714875762344391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-34085339222446462122016-10-02T06:03:16.291-07:002016-10-02T06:03:16.291-07:00I don't know if there's any woman happy wi...I don't know if there's any woman happy with her shape. I get compliments but am still so self critical in the mirror. Society has done a number on us! But Domming a man does help. Makes me feel a bit of the Godess...juliesphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02856609580815309314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-58028456823173719882016-10-01T20:13:44.439-07:002016-10-01T20:13:44.439-07:00Hi Bonnie, interesting, and I couldn't agree m...Hi Bonnie, interesting, and I couldn't agree more,people shouldn't be judged by their bodies. I have never been happy with my body shape either.<br /><br />Hugs <br />Roz Rozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17086386.post-46678153955600641112016-10-01T18:50:42.949-07:002016-10-01T18:50:42.949-07:00I've always been unhappy with my body but don&...I've always been unhappy with my body but don't have the positive affirmation of big butt/higher intelligence. I'm trying to help my granddaughters be happy with and accepting of themselves...my son and DIL are doing a great job of helping them with that. Thanks for sharing, Bonnie.<br /><br />Hugs and blessings...Cat Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14266606975978680188noreply@blogger.com