During a spanking, while you are in position, do you stare at a particular object or pattern? If so, does focusing help you handle the pain or do you do it simply because your eyes are open and you have to look at something.
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Absolutely. I stare at the lovely bottom of the lady I am spanking. How about the pain? Well, yes, after a while my hand does start to sting a bit, but that's the price you pay. I just concentrate on the flexing, wobbling, sexy gyrations of my lady's fundament and after a brief time the pain is completely forgotten.
I usually close my eyes. It helps me focus on what he's saying. I have a tendency to let my mind wander and I really want to know what he feels and be present! :)
Depending on the implement being used, I may pick a spot on the floor or wall and I find that it does help with managing the pain. But usually, I close my eyes. I like how taking away the sight, leaves me to focus on the sounds of the spanking and his voice.
I keep my eyes closed so I have no distractions and can focus on the physical sensations.
Thanks for the new question. I don't have my eyes open, I try hard to focus, adjust, absorb, enjoy, experience the physical impact and emotional response.
Hugs,
Fiona
My hands. That way I am less tempted to put them in the way.
Normally I close my eyes so I have no distractions.
Love,
Ronnie
xx
If I am being caned I try and focus on a mark on the floor and concentrate on looking at that whilst absorbing the pain. If I am being spanked or paddled I keep my eyes closed and fantasise about the scene in my head.
I'm sure I close my eyes. It would be good to say that I do so to focus on his words but I think I screw my eyes up tight shut and sometimes hold my breath and try to stay still.
I'm with Janey, I tend to squeeze my eyes sut and hold my breath to better handle the pain and to try and stay still.
Kim
I close my eyes and take deep breaths. Until about the fourth stroke when I start struggling to take the pain.
I hold onto a little beanie baby sized Lambchop stuffed animal,you know the one from the old TV show with Sherri Lewis? I am known for not reaching back,but Lambchop really helps me stay focused and in the right frame of mind whether it be fun or discipline.
If it's any more than a warm-up, my eyes are closed. Helps me avoid being distracted by things in the room. I know, you'd think a paddle on my backside would command my full attention even with my eyes open, right? No...my mind wanders and the next swat catches me off-guard.
I can start thinking that the drapes need a good cleaning or the bedspread is lumpy if my eyes wander.
I'd probably do better focusing on an item with my eyes open, if only I could just reopen them after the first hard strikes start. That takes time, and there often isn't enough time between strokes. Plus, I know that I've taken a spanking before with my eyes closed, so I do it again.
I must have my eyes shut, because I don't remember anything visual. I concentrate on breathing slow and keeping as relaxed as possible.
I keep my eyes open and look at the floor because if I don't a curt "eyes front" and a harder stroke will swiftly follow. It's a shame really because I like to look at my Mistress and the intent look on her face as she punishes me. Sometimes I sneak a look back at her lovely legs but this will result in a flurry of strokes. That's why I like being punished in front of a mirror sometimes as then I can take in the whole scene including the frankly rather silly faces I sometimes pull.
It depends on implement, position etc Most of the time, like a lot of the others I have my eyes closed. Otherwise, I tend to change focus constantly from one object to another rather than focussing on one thing in particular the whole time.
Hugs,
Roz
You don't say who is 'in position'. My position is always with S over my knee, and my eyes glued to her superb bottom, as it bounces and reddens under my spanking palm. D.
When OTK I do appreciate a well chosen carpet or flooring :)
When bent over a desk or table I try to focus on something directly ahead of me. This arches my back and presses my stomach hard against the surface, that I am bent over. The result of this is to make my breathing shallower and quickens that trip to the land of fairies.
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I'm an eyes closed kinda gal. I think if they're open, I'm staring without really seeing...
I also keep my eyes closed. Except last week, he made me kneel in front of him while he spanked me with the tail end of his belt, and he made me look in his eyes. That was SUPER hard.
I keep my eyes closed and hang on tight while he works me over with the strap.
I *do* focus on something in front of me...
Usually my issue during a spanking is not "getting through the pain" so much as getting "distracted" by my own thoughts. So I use the point of focus to guide myself to a more meditative state of "in the moment" mindset.
I focus on something specific, then use that focus to draw on my senses. I become aware of my breathing, I take in the physical sensation of each slap and I make my way around to each of the senses. The spanking doesn't do what it's supposed to if I'm mentally going over a task list for the day.
Mostly this applies to my "warm up" and I try to carry over this mental openness as we move onto the REAL spanking. But I do believe I usually close my eyes during that part.
~Autumn
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