How often do you or your partner cry before, during or after being spanked? Does it occur every time, often, occasionally, seldom, or never?
Would you attribute the crying response to the pain, a sudden emotional release, the intensity of the moment, the disappointment of having to be punished, or something else? Does crying sometimes depend upon the nature of the spanking itself?
Does crying enhance the spanking experience or make it more meaningful?
I will be interested to hear what you think!
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I love this topic -- I just wish my answer changed over time. One of the reasons I was compelled to try spankings of the DD variety was the morbid fascination I felt when reading accounts of F/m spankings that led to the man sobbing after a hard paddling or caning. The thought of being reduced to that, and of submitting that thoroughly, terrifies but also fascinates and compels me. But, alas, it has not happened so far, and I wonder if it ever will.
I have never cried before, during or after a spanking, nor has my husband, to the best of my knowledge. The only tears that ever come to my eyes are the result of laughing too hard.
Only twice in the last 9 months.. And not from pain.
Not very often do I cry. I don't think it's the pain, I can take a very hard spanking without crying. I think it's something more to do with how upset or perhaps disappointed I think he is with me at the time.
I don't cry very often. When I do its either because of upset from disappointing my Hubby or stress relief.
I COULD cry now if I think about it too much because I have a terribly sore bottom from 2 pretty bad but well-deserved spankings :(
What Hermione said.
I rarely cry, very rarely. When I do shed tears it is usually after a punishment spanking, when we are talking about the why did it happen, and what has to change.
hugs abby
I'm like Hermione too, although I'm intrigued by the thought of crying in a stress relief spanking.
No tears . . just pleas, negotiations, yelps, howls, and promises. But no crying. Boring, I guess, for some but not for us.
I have never cried from a spanking. We spank for fun :)
I never used to cry and don't very often, but the incidence of crying seems to have increased recently for some reason.
For me it's the combination of the pain, the intensity of the moment and the emotion. Particularly if it is a discipline spanking. It's good to get the release of emotion from crying.
Hugs,
Roz
I have never cried during a spanking. The isolation of corner time, after a spanking, can turn the taps on though.
Prefectdt
No. Tears can be brought on by the indignity of being OTK with a bare bottom, but that's just where I like to be if, and it always is, D's knee. Some may cry from their smarting bottom, but for me it is a pleasure. S.
I very rarely cry. It's difficult to produce a tear far less anything else. Those times I have cried, it's been mainly from allowing myself to let go. So I guess it's a stress reliever for me. Although, it's something I would like to be able to do more often because of its calming effect but also because its part of my spanko fantasies :)
Dee x
Have never cried before during or after a spanking - although often fantasize about being brought to tears by a spanking. More likely to cry when we have soft, gentle loving sex and I become overwhelmed by the emotional feelings of being loved by this wonderful man.
I have cried during a spanking. It's usually a pain processing response and is a release valve for intense sessions. It's not often, but it feels good to just let your body respond however it needs to.
But there are other times where I've requested a spanking in order to relieve stress and deal with the mess of life. During these spanking sessions the goal is to cry, sob, scream and let it all out. It doesn't mean I'm having a bad time- in fact it means it's working.
I feel purified almost when those sessions are done, just refreshed and worry free again.
Crying, for me, muddles my ability to focus on my other responses and to really enjoy the spanking. I don't stop it happening because my body must need it and I don't stop natural responses to pain and play when they happen. But I prefer not to cry.
I have never cried before, during or after a spanking.
Love,
Ronnie
xx
I rarely get spanked to the point of tears, probably because my husband doesn't spank me quite as long or hard as he could.
I have never shed tears as an adult being spanked... came close a few times... looking for that perfect spanking when it happens.
We don't spank for the tears. That's not what spanking is for us.
Never to tears, though I want to experience that.
I have cried from the pain, but only a bit and only just recently. I want to have a storm of emotional release, but can't quite get there. I've cried afterwards though while he hugged me. I think we laugh during spankings more often.
My wife has cried from a spanking before, however it's extremely rare. She has a very high pain tolerance and therefore doesn't usually cry from the pain of the spanking, regardless of how intense it is.
If she does cry, which again is rare, it's from the guilt that she feels in that moment. She feels bad if she perceives me as being disappointed in her, or if she feels her actions have negatively impacted our family.
My wife would probably be better suited to answer your final question, but from my perspective as the HoH in our marriage, I believe that crying enhances the spanking. It's more therapeutic for my wife to release those emotions, and her crying really intensifies the emotional bonding experience between the two of us.
Great question(s), Bonnie. All of the responses are very interesting.
Hope all is well with you. Warmest regards.
-- Clint
Of the times that I have giving my wife spankings, there are those occasions when she has broken out into tears. After speaking to her about it, I found out that it was not on account of the pain from the spankings. Some of her crying had occurred during some moderate level spankings. But her tears fall when she feels relaxed enough for them to come. She had told me that while she dislikes crying, she feels that it makes her look weak, she also knows that there are times that she has to in order to relieve all the stress that she keeps bottled up inside.
For myself, I have never cried during a spanking. As both male and a top, I have found out that some in the Spanking Community tends to frown upon this, with many female bottoms and subs being the most vocal. It is a shame. I find myself feeling very envious of those who can cry while in the midst of a spanking. It does sound like quite and experience.
I have learned, from early on, to hold back tears. My father would get angry and critical when we cried. I only saw him cry 3 times (when his sister died, when his father died, and once when he went out with relatives and came home drunk. I have been a nurse for many years, and I have had to hold back tears. My tears usually come when I am alone or when I feel very safe. I tend to cry more with expressions of compassion, than with threats or actual punishment. Sometimes I will cry watching a movie when I wouldn't cry in real life. The only time I continued to cry and couldn't stop,(and I was in front of many friends and family) is when the doctor told me my husband would most likely die before the night was up. I feel like I would have cried forever, if things didn't get better. My husband doesn't cry when he spanks me, but he does use a lot of reasons not to spank me. Well, I guess I made a short story long. sorry. -Belle L.
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