Do you ever use spanking as a trade-off or bargaining chip in situations such as these:
- To resolve irritations that aren't worth fighting or emotionally hurting the other
- In exchange for something you want
- As a tool to reconcile a happenstance that occurred in your relationship?
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No I have never done any of these but I would be willing to see if Numbers 1 and 3 would work, if the situation ever arose.
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Never felt the need to do any... But I wouldn't rule it out in the future :)
That is part of dd but only part of it. Spanking is used to resolve conflict and end disagreements. And there is nothing like a makeup spanking after a tense moment. It brings us closer.
In exchange for something I want? Only if it breaks a rule and after the fact not before.
We don't do any of these, because spanking is just for pleasure, but I would be willing to try #2, for something that Ron wants. It wouldn't work the other way round, because spanking is always what I want.
I have never done any of these. Most of my spankings are just for fun.
As part of our Dd relationship we do from time to time use spanking as a way to reconcile and resolve a circumstance that has occured. It helps us clear the air, resolve any remaining feelings around the issue and reconnect with each other. It also helps to reinforce our roles within our relationship after such an event.
I have never been spanked in exchange for something I want.
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Roz
1 & 3 also seem to me to be more DD than what we do. #2, yes, switched up a bit. Like Hermione, I'd offer spanking for something my husband wants. I get spanked, he gets some oral.
None of the above.
I really love the boots and every year when winter is coming, i exchange spanking for the precious object!!! I think in my case the second option can be applied perfectly... LOL
I wouldn't say we've actively done any of the 3 things. Although Daddy has turned it around and used it as a bargaining chip for me, so #2 I suppose is the best answer. It normally comes in the form of trading a spanking for an orgasm. I'll get to have one if I take a spanking after but if I choose not to (like that would ever happen) then no spanking but no 'O'. It doesn't happen that often but it's fun when he makes me bargain with him :)
<3 Lily
2 Once. There was a really wonderful dress, I really wanted; it was expensive, very ! D said," OK. it'll cost you a dozen with my big paddle on the bare". I did not stop to think, I just wanted that dress, and a moment later I was bent over my dressing stool, skirt up, nicks down, and remembering just how much that big paddle hurt. I stuck it out, just !, but could not sit until the next day, when I went to get the wonderful dress. When I now wear it, my bottom tingles with the thought of what it went through S.
My wife and I have dabbled with this, but not in any great detail. It is something for us to really explore in the near future.
Kurt: As I mentioned to Bonnie, we have done all of these, with 1 & 2 not infrequently, and a notable occurrence with the third one. We are always 'tweaking' our relationship, as it's extremely important to us, so we invented what we call 'Better Living Through Compensation'. This is a trade off that can be for anything that is an irritation or is just an 'I Want' that isn't worth arguing over..lol Things that usually just fly under the radar. The compensation can be whatever the other one wants, though in my case it's usually spanking her! It could be washing her car, taking her out to dinner, whatever.
Kurt: I should have mentioned that we also spank and paddle for fun and excitement! It's sort of fun to do the 'compensation' thing too.. Maybe someday I'll share the third scenerio..lol
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