Happy weekend and welcome back. This month, we've tried to find some different discussion topics and we're going to continue that effort with this week's brunch. I hope you like it.
I've noticed that my husband delivers several different styles of spankings depending upon his mood, my reactions, and what he thinks I need. I've created a few simple graphs to describe how it feels from my perspective on the wide side of the paddle.
This one I call "Shock and Awe." Needless to say, it's a real attention grabber.
I'd much prefer a "Nice Warmup" as you see below.
I refer to this one as the "Roller Coaster." Just when I think he might be winding down, he starts in again with impressive fury. But I don't complain too much about the roller coaster because, as we will see, it could be worse.
I named this one "Are We Done?" because he stops abruptly seemingly right in the middle of the spanking. I am left breathless, hurting, and a little disoriented.
I call this one "What was I Thinking?" It starts heavy and hard and stays that way. It's generally more than I think I want, but can be very effective for relieving stress.
When he really wants to mess with my head, he drags out "Now Go Stand in the Corner." I really dislike getting this spanking.
I've come to learn that my perception of a spanking's intensity depends upon how it's given as much as how my bottom hurts.
Do you give or receive any of these spankings? Are there other patterns that better describe your experiences? Is there one you haven't tried, but might interest you?
As always, anyone with a relevant opinion is welcome to participate in our community brunch conversation. Just enter your response in the form of a comment below. At the end of the weekend, I will post an edited summary.
15 comments :
Hi,
Terrific charts. Almost all of the spankings I deliver are of the "Nice Warmup" variety. Most bottoms prefer it vs. all other types.
As a bottom, I have experience all of the above spanking types. One that I really like is corner time, warm up, change of position, hard spanking with leather belt, corner time, aftercare.
Excellent topic and illustrations.
Hug,
joey
Great charts!
Most of Anne's are of the "What was I Thinking" variety. If I could change one thing about her DD spanking approach, it would be a bit more warm up.
I usually get the "What was I Thinking" kind, despite my frequent requests for a warmup. The response is "I don't do warmups." As the spanking progresses, it feels more like a "Shock and Awe" in that the pain lessens as my bottom reddens, even though the swats are harder than at the beginning.
Loved your charts. I possibly get a mix of the Nice Warmup, What was I thinking?, and Roller Coaster.
(as 'incentive' spankings, maintenance, and general play/just to show me who's boss spanking sessions respectively)
so nerdy- love the charts!
I like the nice warm up and roller coaster for erotic spankings, but shock and awe for maintenance and correction.
This is such a great idea!
Fun charts, good topics, and yes nice warm up the best:)
I like a "Nice Warmup" and occasionally a "Roller Coaster." I'd add a graph for the "Half Assed Effort" where the line stays generally low all the way across. This would be in the cases that he may be distracted by the T.V. or something.
I love your charts! Could you make a graph for this scenario?
With a kid in the house we rarely get spanking time so frequently I get sneak attack swats around the house, and then nothing for hours or days. Sometimes it's a few playful swats while I'm doing dishes (mmm), sometimes it's 3 or 4 hard enough to bring tears swats while I'm getting laundry out of the dryer, sometimes it's skirt up or pants down sneaky sexy swats. But always without notice and without any follow up as he goes about his day and I wonder if we'll get another chance to continue today or even this week or month. It's been so long since I've had a full spanking that I'm wondering if we're even doing this anymore or if sneak attack swats are it for me.
Awesome charts! And by looking at them, I feel as the type of spankings that I tend to give are the "roller coaster" type, primarily. I will have to give the others a try and see how well I like them.
I just wanted to ask if you knew what happened to Mr Loving Domestic Discipline's blog and books? I couldn't find a place to email you. I know LDD's blog has been gone for years. I didn't see his books on lulu any more. Does he have a pay site now? Sorry about posting this in comments.
Hi Anon,
Mr Loving DD packed up about five years ago. I'm not certain what happened to him. His Lulu store is definitely closed, but his CafePress store appears to be alive. The last e-mail address I had for him was hoh123@gmail.com. I have no idea whether it's active. I couldn't find his books for sale on Amazon.
An archive containing a lot of his blog content is available here. That's about all I know...
BTW, you can e-mail me by clicking on the big question mark near the bottom of this page.
Bonnie
Hahahahahaha! OMG! That is awesome. I love, love, love this so much I'm nearly in tears!
ah, turned spanking into a science :)
I personally like the "Roller Coaster"...
-Nympha
I get so turned on giving my girlfriend all kinds of spankings, from erotic to just because spanking and even real ones that make her loss her composure, cry and sob. I see it as a gift of submission she gives me. She always has a safe word unless it's a real one she like to get sometimes.
Fortunately, I have a girlfriend who likes it also. She actually turned me on to it and brought out the spanko in me. Is it wrong to admit that I enjoy it? I get so turned on as I watch take her pants down knowing that she has given me full permission to spank her or sometime give her a real one. I have conflicting emotions inside. I don't like woman who are abused but I like spanking my girlfriend now.
Its like is a psychological afrodeysic to me. I love the control aspect, its like asking me to discipline her is the ultimate sign of respect and I feel honored she choose me to have that authority.
The actual spanking is exciting to me also. I mean when I turn her over my knee and it completely consensual I feel so stimulated by the whole experience. Seeing her beautiful bare bottom in front of me knowing she is expecting me to spank her and sometimes until she is crying hysterically is huge rush.
For real ones she always like to to be spanked until she cries really hard. But she has a extremely high pain tolerance so I have to wail on her ass really and fast for a long time to push her over the edge to loose her composer. Sometime with no warm up, she likes the "shock and awe" effects from the start for rhe real spankings. For real one she relinquishes her safe word. She says a real spanking isn't worth taking unless it's unbearable and doesn't make her cry, so she expects me to make her cry hard. She likes the cathartic release about once a month.
Is it wrong to feel good about having that authority and power she gave me. I also really get turned on when I start to spank her usually start out with my hand to start with. I am so stimulated when I see her clench up tight and I see all the muscular definition of her butt cheecks.
It is electifying for me to hear her react and I feel compelled to smack harder and faster. To see her feet fluttering and her ass cheecks are turning red to bright red, its like I go into a trance in my mind. The longer the spanking goes on the more I get turned on and I am not sure if I should feel guilty of that or not?
I have never seen her do the post spanking hop I heard some described but I might bring that up to my Jill. I usually use my belt over my knee for discipline and I feel the powerful sense of authority as I began removing it and I feel extremely respected by Jill as she begins dropping her pants when I order her too.
Is something wrong with me, that after experienced spanking someone that I discovered that I really like it myself? Am I the only guy who feels these things. Or is my girlfriend just weird that she loves the pain of a good sound butt blistering once a month.
Stories you might want to read that I enjoyed too that my girlfriend shared with me.
Story 1: Spanking Friend and Nieghbor www.otd-memories.com/spanking_memories/my-friend-and-neighbor
Story 2: Spanking Engagment www.saxon-web.co.uk/fiction/htm/novels/engagement/index.shtml#.V1dILC_D-bN
Story 3: Spanking Contest www.spanko.net/spanking_forums/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=3262
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